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No replies yet... 25 October 2009: This has nothing to do with relationships, but everyone loves a little humor! I adore this video, and it cracks me up in spite of the fact that my French is really bad (I'm trying to improve it). I finally found a version with English sub...
Any Harry Potter fans out there?
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6 July 2009: As a longtime fan, I became curious: If I were a student at Hogwarts, to what house would the Sorting Hat send me? I found this personality test on the internet, and, just for fun, I decided to share it: http://www.per...
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What are my chances of having a long term girlfriend???
Q. I'm 22 and I've never had a long term girlfriend and although my confidence is a lot better than a year ago (let alone when I started uni 2 and half years ago), I worry that if I will struggle to find a girlfriend when I work full time. I do ...
A. 21 March 2010: What I meant to say is, that I have loads of relatives/friends that either study engineering or are engineers, many of whom are married.
Most people don't meet their partner through work. ... (read in full...)
What are my chances of having a long term girlfriend???
Q. I'm 22 and I've never had a long term girlfriend and although my confidence is a lot better than a year ago (let alone when I started uni 2 and half years ago), I worry that if I will struggle to find a girlfriend when I work full time. I do ...
A. 21 March 2010: Well, look at all the loads of engineers that are married!
I think your engineering degree makes you more desirable to a girl. It shows you have ambition and brains.
Hey, I thought of something. Have you thought about doing a semester... (read in full...)
What do you do if he likes you but has a girlfriend?
Q. you like this guy. he really likes you.. theres not a big age difference.. but he got a girlfrend and stil showin you signs that he likes you. what should i do ...
A. 20 March 2010: He sounds like a jerk!! If he doesn't love his girlfriend, he should break up with her. It sounds to me like he wants to have his cake and eat it too. He doesn't care about commitment. Screw him (well, not literally).
He's bad news and untr... (read in full...)
What do men think about "scruffy" women?
Q. What do men think about "scruffy" women? Hi - I am a bit of a hippy chic who goes to a lot of gigs/festivals with other hippyish friends. I have never been particularly smart (eg glossy hair/perfect nails) and even if I wanted to I'm never good wit...
A. 20 March 2010: What's wrong with looking hippyish? That doesn't necessarily mean scruffy. I always favored the hippy look, so did a lot of friends of mine. I think that you could easily attract a guy with similar interests. ... (read in full...)
My family hates my eccentric interests and my choice of career and seem to feel ashamed of me
Q. I've been having a lot of problems with relationships and the reason i love the girl that makes me keep trying is one that has a lot to do with how much she cares about me. Ive never felt loved at home, im a nerd and im a very eccentric person. I ...
A. 20 March 2010: I'm much heartened to hear there are other people like me who are into art and animation. I think it's sad that your family, for the most part, isn't being supportive. I'm sorry about your grandmother by the way.
I love my family, but they nev... (read in full...)
Is race REALLY still an issue for some people in regards to dating and relationships?
Q. I am writing about a controversial topic: race. My inquiry today is in regards to the fact that I find it disturbing that some people still think race is an issue in regards to dating and relationships in today's modern society. Let me expalin my ...
A. 20 March 2010: You say you're not confident... to be sincere, that might be a contributing factor.
I realize there are cultural differences and I hope I don't offend anyone, I don't know loads about them. But I guess that confidence is almost universa... (read in full...)
How important is having boobs to guys?
Q. ok I have got a major insecurity issue. I barely have breasts at all. And I don't think they are going to get much bigger. How important is having boobs to guys? I don't mean big boobs either. I barely have anything....
A. 19 March 2010: You'd be surprised: A lot of guys prefer small ones, and a lot of them don't care at all.
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Is race REALLY still an issue for some people in regards to dating and relationships?
Q. I am writing about a controversial topic: race. My inquiry today is in regards to the fact that I find it disturbing that some people still think race is an issue in regards to dating and relationships in today's modern society. Let me expalin my ...
A. 19 March 2010: It's true that Native Americans have suffered a lot in the past, and their treatment was completely unfair... it makes ME angry.
Slavery and racial discrimination make me angry, as well. I didn't choose to be white but I am sure that a lot of p... (read in full...)
27 and desperate for a baby....
Q. I am 27 years old ,never been married and I want to have a baby... I fear I may never meet anyone who will want to marry me and have children and I turn 28 this year so time is ticking.. its not like i've put it on hold, I've always wanted a ...
A. 19 March 2010: I'm a bit older than you and in a similar situation... I'm not desperate for a baby but I do worry about life passing me by.
There's still time, though. My mom was 34 when she had me (my dad was 29). Then they had my bro almost four years la... (read in full...)
I'm 18 and not allowed to marry until I'm 24, how can I convince my dad that I'm mature enough?
Q. Okay, so here goes... My boyfriend Nolan and I are madly in love, have been for a good 4 years now. We are both 17 at the moment, and both virgins, saving ourselves for each other. We've known for a while now that we want to spend the rest of our ...
A. 19 March 2010: I don't think it's a good idea to get married so young. You don't even know who you are!!
Your father won't allow you to marry unti you're 24... once you turn 18, you don't need his consent. Of course you might be wise to think this over and... (read in full...)
How can I be happy when I'm so neurotic?
Q. Iv only just realised that im Neurotic and life is really miserable. I just want to be happy for once in my life, without something really minor effecting me? How can I be really happy? and what can I do?thanks!...
A. 18 March 2010: I want to help you, but I think that counseling is the best thing for you. I think that you should talk to someone. Have you looked into counseling? ... (read in full...)
Would I be imposing if I went to the funeral?
Q. I've been with my BF for about 7 months. I've met his family and we're quite serious. I met his grandmother last week and I've just found out that she died yesterday. My BF told me about her funeral and then said 'you're welcome to come.' Was...
A. 18 March 2010: You should definitely go. He's your boyfriend; you're in an intimate relationship and suppporting one another is part of that.... (read in full...)
Can you die in real life if you fall in your dream?
Q. Right i know how stupid this sounds but i really must ask. Surely all of you have heard of the "if you have a dream that you fall(e.g off a cliff) and u hit the bottom you die in real life" which is why you always wake up. Well i also heard one g...
A. 18 March 2010: Dreaming that your teeth are falling out is a sign that you're feeling insecure or doubting yourself. It's not a prediction of the future; it just means that you're worried about being embarrassed in public or being insecure.
I had that dream ri... (read in full...)
Can you die in real life if you fall in your dream?
Q. Right i know how stupid this sounds but i really must ask. Surely all of you have heard of the "if you have a dream that you fall(e.g off a cliff) and u hit the bottom you die in real life" which is why you always wake up. Well i also heard one g...
A. 18 March 2010: Dreaming that your teeth are falling out is a sign that you're feeling insecure or doubting yourself. It's not a prediction of the future; it just means that you're worried about being embarrassed in public or being insecure.
I had that dream ri... (read in full...)
I love him even though he has a girlfriend.
Q. i have a friend, weve dated before but now he has a new girlfriend. i like him again a lot more than i ever did. now were best friends and really close intamitely, but he says he loves his girlfriend and won't break up with her. he does really like ...
A. 17 March 2010: Honestly? It sounds like he's a player and a jerk. It's not very nice of him to tell you he likes you and continue with his girlfriend. It doesn't sound like he's sincere, or a caring person. He's saying stuff about his girlfriend that I know he ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I'm ugly or not...you tell me
Q. I'm 13 and guys and everyone else calls me fat and ugly but most of the time the call me a cow and moo at me down the hallway I would punch them but don't need an 8 write up. These kind of ppl make me so angry they make me crazy and my mother has ...
A. 14 March 2010: Don't let people get you down.
Everyone goes through similar experiences as a teenager... being picked on, and feeling awkward.
I would have punched them, but this is definitely NOT the right thing to do.
What makes ME angry... they'd... (read in full...)
Should I let him take my virginity?
Q. Right I really need help! I just turned 18 and I really want to lose my virginity but I don't/ never have had a boyfriend... I'm not sure why and alot of people think I'm lying when I say I'm a virgin (mainy becuase of my huge 34J boobs) b...
A. 14 March 2010: I don't mean to be mean, but he sounds like he's using you.
You say you know that it seems rash, and I think it would be impulsive and very rash to act on this urge to lose your virginity. It's normal to have urge, but you have to be strong. ... (read in full...)
Do all guys masterbate?
Q. This is just out of interest, but is it possible for a guy to reach 25plus without whacking off? ...
A. 14 March 2010: It's virtually impossible. It would be unnatural, like a vegetarian vampire. ... (read in full...)
Someone is telling my "truth or dare" secret
Q. i`m so annoyed we played truth or dare in art ( me and some friends) and i told them something which is quite personal which i didn`t want to get round school. i told them that my ex boyfriend simon has seen me naked. which is true and now i found ...
A. 14 March 2010: I just heard on a girlie show the other day that a majority of girls cannot keep a secret.
I hope you don't believe everything you see on TV??!!? I'm a woman and I'm nothing like that. I'm not going to give examples of what I mean, for obvious ... (read in full...)
I have feelings for one of my professors. What should I do?
Q. I recently started school and I met this awesome professor. I have the biggest crush on him... It's just awesome to be around him, he's incredibly smart and witty but at the same time he's easy to talk to and incredibly funny... He's just awesome. I...
A. 14 March 2010: Hola,
I see you live in Colombia, home of the some of the world's most amazing ? ? ? ? music.
I'm not sure what the rules are, regarding relationships between professors and students. I wouldn't do anything to jeopardize his position.
My ... (read in full...)
Driving test worries...
Q. I have my 3rd driving test on wedsnesday and am feeling so stressed as usual. My other 2 tests I failed on 1 major but other than that had 4 minors...grr.... I'm just finding that my driving is getting worse, I had a driving lesson this morning ...
A. 13 March 2010: Confession... I threw up before my driving test.
I certainly didn't pass on the first try and neither do most people. I read in YM magazine that it takes some people ten tries to pass.
But you have to think of safety first; even when you're... (read in full...)
Driving test worries...
Q. I have my 3rd driving test on wedsnesday and am feeling so stressed as usual. My other 2 tests I failed on 1 major but other than that had 4 minors...grr.... I'm just finding that my driving is getting worse, I had a driving lesson this morning ...
A. 13 March 2010: A lot of people have similar problems, but practicing consistently and staying alert and just concentrating on driving really helps. The driving test is made to be stressful and they try to freak you out and make you think you're going to fail. ... (read in full...)
If I left my husband would it affect my Greencard?
Q. Hello,I have a problem with my husband.everytime we fight , he tell me to live his house.We are married for 2 years, and our marrige relationship is bad.I think he has someone else.What I should do , if I would live him ? It can affect my greencard ...
A. 13 March 2010: I think that you should talk to an immigration lawyer... don't get me wrong, we're glad to help you.
Legal problems, however, are like medical problems, you need to get advice from a lawyer. You can Google lawyers in your area or go to the rese... (read in full...)
I hate being gay..help!
Q. I'm gay and hate it.i just cant handle it. It makes me desperate.in my town everyone hates gays . It is complicated cause i also love girls and not satisfied of being gay. If someone know it my life will be miserable and i hate being gay cause my ...
A. 13 March 2010: What I meant to say in my last post is that I see you're between 13 and 15.
You're still a teenager and not finished developing and growing. A lot of times, our true sexual orientation isn't "set in stone" until we're older, say, 18 or 20.
... (read in full...)
I hate being gay..help!
Q. I'm gay and hate it.i just cant handle it. It makes me desperate.in my town everyone hates gays . It is complicated cause i also love girls and not satisfied of being gay. If someone know it my life will be miserable and i hate being gay cause my ...
A. 13 March 2010: How UNJUST!!!! I hate people who persecute gays or pick on them.
It's completely unfair that gays get treated so terribly. That doesn't mean that you deserve that terrible treatment.
I hope that you can get away from that town. You're re... (read in full...)
I want to stay a virgin until marriage but what's the use!
Q. I would really like to stay a virgin until I'm married but it doesn't seem like there are any virgin girls left so whats the point? The whole chastity thing really doesn't work unless both people are in on it. It's all just really irritating 22 ...
A. 13 March 2010: I feel your pain!!
I'm a bit older than you, but I'm experiencing the same frustrations. However, the key word is, "it doesn't SEEM like..." Things aren't always what they seem. It should be heartening that I'm a bit older than you and I'm savi... (read in full...)
How to behave with a sucessful and controling guy u just met?
Q. *OP's own title* Am dating a nice guy but he never tld me he's bussinessman he like to control woman.... He wants to have kids now.... I really like him...am only 20 n live with my dad .... I'd like to know how to keep him happy n wat 2 do to keep...
A. 12 March 2010: He's nice but controlling? I'm confused! He can't be both.
Controlling people are NOT nice. If he's trying to control you, you need to avoid him like the swine flu.... (read in full...)
How could I tighten my vagina?
Q. please how do i tighten my vagina for my husband to enjoy having sex with me....
A. 12 March 2010: Kegel exercises! Have you been to a gynecologist? They can help you learn about these.
I've never had any children of my own, and to put it delicately, I'm not married... but i've read about it. ... (read in full...)
He basically wants to be FWB but I care too much about him to even be just friends.
Q. I had to let a guy I was seeing go a couple of days ago because he was having sex with other women. I had an idea that he was seeing other girls as he told me a couple times that he wasn't ready to commit right now. I have been seeing in for over a ...
A. 12 March 2010: He sounds like a pig to use you like that, and he manipulated you. This guy is toxic to your life. I'm really sorry that you had to go through this, but there will be some good to come out of this... you've learned something, become wiser. I hope ... (read in full...)
I'm worried about her symptoms, guidance anyone?
Q. Okay i am really Worried about my girlfriend. This week is the week she usually has her period. She has had tender boobs (she does sometimes when she is on her period) She had some pretty bad stomach cramps witch caused her to throw up (she doe...
A. 12 March 2010: I'm sorry you're going through this.
She needs to go to a doctor, for her peace of mind and yours.
Of course no one can give you medical advice over the internet, but severe, debilitating menstrual cramps CAN be a sign of endometriosis, w... (read in full...)
He said mean uncalled for things that he can't take back. So why do I want to take him back?
Q. Alright I'm having the hardest time trying to figure out what's going on in my head here. I was with my ex boyfriend for a little over two years and I felt like he was the man I wanted to marry with no doubts. Our personalities, mannerisms and ...
A. 10 March 2010: He yelled and said crazy things to you. He sounds like a potential abuser to me. Stay the hell away from him. ... (read in full...)
My friend wants to send our teacher a love letter.
Q. One of my friends has got a huge crush on a teacher and she wants to send him a love letter. Well, I think it's a stupid idea and she'll just get herself in big trouble. What do you think about sending a teacher a love letter?...
A. 10 March 2010: I am a teacher and it would make me really uncomfortable. I'd be flattered but it would really make me feel strange.
It could be really embarrassing for your friend and for the teacher and she's setting herself up to be hurt. Even if he's not... (read in full...)
Is it normal to feel down at the end stages of pregnancy?
Q. is it normal to feel down at the end stages of pregnancy?? i dont want to see anyone really, one minute im fine the next im getting frustrated very quickly, i dont want any sexual attention from my partner and i cry at night because i have t...
A. 10 March 2010: I've never had kids of my own, but I've read about this phenomenon. Caring Guy is right, hormones can affect your mood profoundly. Furthermore, it's a big change in your life.
I don't have experience with postpartnum depression, because I've nev... (read in full...)
My married friends cheat and discuss it with me. It's immoral and I'm sick of hearing it.
Q. I have a situation here I don't know how to deal and I think I need advise on what to do. I am currently working now in a place where people basically come and go. Oddly enough, I am one of the few who is truly single. Most of my women friends ar...
A. 10 March 2010: I'm sorry about your bf. Sounds like it's his loss.
I don't know much about your culture and I fear making a faux pas in something I say but I mean this with all respect... not to offend you.
You can't control what they do, but you can tell... (read in full...)
How can I learn to ignore how other woman look and what my boyfriend thinks of them?
Q. I'm not a very attractive female. I'm 21 years old and I guess nature wasn't too kind with me when I was created, lol. It's not a weight issue. I have a healthy BMI. I won't get into details. But my face isn't attractive. And it's not like I can get ...
A. 7 March 2010: We all have our flaws. Sometimes our imperfections are what make us more perfect than we would be if we didn't have flaws.
Remember on King of the Hill (do you guys get that show in the UK?? It's about people living in the Southern USA). A... (read in full...)
How can I learn to ignore how other woman look and what my boyfriend thinks of them?
Q. I'm not a very attractive female. I'm 21 years old and I guess nature wasn't too kind with me when I was created, lol. It's not a weight issue. I have a healthy BMI. I won't get into details. But my face isn't attractive. And it's not like I can get ...
A. 6 March 2010: asked him if he checks out other women, he said he does. I asked him if he thinks other women are sexier, he said he does.
He's being a jerk to you!! Men are visual and no matter what you look like, they're going to check out other women, I... (read in full...)
Does Anyone really find love online or LDR?
Q. Does anyone really find love or a relationship online? Is it possible? I hear stories and know people. But are they the rule or the exception? Is it possible to find love long distance through online. I just like to hear if anyone who has found ...
A. 6 March 2010: Thank you Angzw!!!! I'm much heartened by this advice too. You've helped a lot of people. Good luck!!!!
On what site did you meet him, if I may ask? Where is he from? No pressure to answer if this question makes you uncomfortable, I understa... (read in full...)
If I really loved him would I be able to lose weight??
Q. Hi Guys! I am really upset and hoping for some help. I would love to get some answers from guys as well on this one. My LTR BF (8 years) has asked me to lose weight before (I am approx size 14/16 and was this size when we met and I am quite tall ...
A. 6 March 2010: Caringguy and Angzw are so right. If you DO lose weight, you should do it to please yourself. He's being a jerk to you. ... (read in full...)
If I really loved him would I be able to lose weight??
Q. Hi Guys! I am really upset and hoping for some help. I would love to get some answers from guys as well on this one. My LTR BF (8 years) has asked me to lose weight before (I am approx size 14/16 and was this size when we met and I am quite tall ...
A. 6 March 2010: Caringguy and Angzw are so right. If you DO lose weight, you should do it to please yourself. He's being a jerk to you. ... (read in full...)
Shaven or not?
Q. A simple question to ask, for both males and females if you please: Shaven pubic region or unshaven pubic region? I myself find shaven definitely more preferable, and don't say you like both, because you are bound to like one at least sligh...
A. 6 March 2010: I'm not married so it's not really an issue for me.
If I were married I would go with my husband's preference... assuming he was nice to me and treated me wondefully. I wouldn't do any special favors for a guy who treated me like shit.
I th... (read in full...)
My girlfriend sleeps with her lesbian friend but claims they are only good friends and she is not a lesbian!
Q. what if your girlfriend appears to be in love with her lesbo best friend (who has already told my gf she loves her), but says they are only very good friends and she is not a lesbian? they sleep together anytime they can and when she comes home she...
A. 2 March 2010: I feel badly because I don't want to hurt you but I feel that it's best to give a truthful opinion.
I'm not a trusting soul at all; I would be very suspicious. I know that in order for a relationship to work, you have to have trust... but I don't ... (read in full...)
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