I broke his heart because he said No to exclusivity. What causes fear of commitment?
Q. I met a wonderful man online (26) and we dated for two months. We were basically BF and GF without the title, and it was the perfect relationship. We never established or assumed exclusivity but considering all factors it’s highly unlikely he was ...
A. 1 February 2016: To answer your updated questions OP, NEVER ask men if they would consider exclusivity. I don’t know how to say this, but Im not sure if you’ve had much dating experience from your questions. I hope you’ve met a quite a few men online to get a jest ... (read in full...)
I broke his heart because he said No to exclusivity. What causes fear of commitment?
Q. I met a wonderful man online (26) and we dated for two months. We were basically BF and GF without the title, and it was the perfect relationship. We never established or assumed exclusivity but considering all factors it’s highly unlikely he was ...
A. 28 January 2016: He loved you dearly, to hold you and cry openly when he is the logical, thinking type of person. I'm not sure if you know what you just did to him, Im not sure if you can still explore that relationship anymore as it seems hes had to dealt with ... (read in full...)
I like him but am not attracted to him. Will attraction grow?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles, I'm after a bit of relationship advice. I met and have started dating a man through an online dating forum. We get on like a house on fire - same sense of humour, same take on life. We're both quite quirky so it's extremel...
A. 28 January 2016: Im sorry sweetie, but your questions is so caring and thoughtful but Ive been in that situation. I dated a guy who was pretty handsome but awkward in dating and I wasnt completely attracted to him like my ex, but I gave it go anyways just bec... (read in full...)
What is the likelihood of this working, considering that I wonder if we are intellectually incompatible?
Q. This may end up being a bit lengthy so I apologise in advance if there turns out to be a lot of reading to be done. My current significant other and I have been together for 1 year and roughly 3 months, however we have known each other for about ...
A. 28 December 2015: Look deeeeep inside you and ask youself, IF THIS MAN WILL NEVER CHANGE AND IS CONTENT WITH WHAT HE HAS AND WHO HE IS, CAN I LOVE HIM KNOWING THAT AND CONTINUE TO LOVE HIM AS HE IS ?
If your answer is No, then sweetheart, walk away.
If your... (read in full...)
Is she messing with my feelings?
Q. Hi, I have been in a long term relationship for years. A few months ago, a girl started working the same place as me. She's also in a relationship. We get on like best friends, we've told each other almost everything, some things we were too uns...
A. 28 December 2015: Throughout all this you havent even mention your girlfriend? What are your feelings for her? If you are considering cheating, you should really let your gf go to pursue this girl who clearly isnt that into you.
Just to let you know, if a girl is ... (read in full...)
I am feeling unease with my relationship and am worried she may drop me?
Q. Hello everyone My question concerns my uneasy feelings about my partner. I have been with this lady for 3 years, and it has been the best relationship I have ever had in my life. She has gone out of my her way in every sense to make me feel l...
A. 28 December 2015: Never act on that devilish thought, its going to drown you in sorrow. I dont know you but from what youve just said, she has shown you nothing but love. Calling you all the time and talking to you for an hour...youre a lucky man. Kiss the air, call ... (read in full...)
How can I deal with my co-worker crush?
Q. I'm 18 years old, female and have a crush on my supervisor who is 32, also a female and married. I have had several boyfriends over the years and slept with 5 men in total - never had any feeling for any women until I started my new j...
A. 28 December 2015: Youre super young----I didnt date til I was 21 and I still felt incredibly inexperience and unsure at that age (I still do at times!). Its normal to have crushes and gender doesnt matter. Ive felt myself having small crushes on Pizza boys, ... (read in full...)
My virginity feels like a curse
Q. 25 years old now, have a career, which I consider a stepping stone to bigger heights in my professional life, but as for my personal life, I full of worries, boredoms and unsatisfactory, simply because of one thing, my virginity.... For me it feels ...
A. 28 December 2015: Try online dating. Theres such a huge pool of single ladies out there you just have to message them and see where it goes. Don't take it personally if you dont get a 100% response rate from women, the right girl though---will be the one that ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried? This new relationship is drama-free, but I'm afraid I'll get bored!
Q. I am in a new relationship after having been single for nearly 5 years. My past relationships were very passionate but unstable and co-dependent. I was a needy teenager with a lot of problems, and I was treated badly by a guy I then refused to give ...
A. 6 November 2015: Everything sounds good, you dont have to worry about it at all. But if youre worried about being bored, maybe its time to look into yourself and wonder why you make this assumption? Try remember all the drama in your life and think real hard if you ... (read in full...)
Is she being unfair? Do I need to end the relationship?
Q. I'm having a bit of an issue with my girlfriend of a year and a half. We met and dated for a year long distance before she asked me to move in with her. Actually, she said we'd break up if I didn't, so I gave in and did it. I moved to a state where ...
A. 5 November 2015: Sorry, but you have to move her out of your home. Cohabitation before marriage is always a bad idea, unless you are already engaged and plan to wed/commit to each other for a long time.
She sounds immature and you sound self aware and mature e... (read in full...)
I just want him to show he still cares, is there still hope?
Q. I really dont know where exactly to start. My husband and I have been married for almost four years but have been together for 11 years. We have two children together a five year old and a 11 month old. Im a stay at home mom and my husband works a ...
A. 5 November 2015: Sweetheart, men only know how to be men. Plus he is also working a lot and YOU both need learn to appreciate each other. I also feel like you're not quite meeting your own needs as a woman. Have you thought about getting a second job where you can ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is leaving many of my needs unfilled. How do I tell her this without it leading to fighting?
Q. I am a touchy person. It's how I express myself best. I play guitar in my spare time, I am in school to be a physical therapist. My mouth doesn't open without my hands moving. Quite frankly 100% of the time I'm expressing myself through my ...
A. 5 November 2015: Hi Nick,
You sound like a few guys that I know of, in fact I have a few guyfriends a lot like you. My guess immediately when you said youre a touchy guy is that youre probably the emotional one in the relationship, the one with better interper... (read in full...)
Exhausted from the rollercoaster of emotions. How can I get the strength to leave my boyfriend?
Q. I need to break up with my boyfriend but I can't bring myself to do it. We've been together for years but I'm miserable. He often neglects me and I'm constantly feeling nervous, angry, paranoid and so many other negative emotions. We broke up once ...
A. 4 March 2015: I'm sorry but neglect is a form of abuse. You have to leave him right now. I feel like this question is not coming from a place of trying to leave him but a place of lack of love you have for yourself as a woman. And you are smart and int... (read in full...)
She seemed flirty and interested. Was she never really interested in me?
Q. I was 'seeing' this girl, I met her at a bar one night with some friends. I was very flirty towards her and showed that I was interested in her. I got her number etc and asked to see her most weekends but it came across like she would never ma...
A. 4 March 2015: She isnt interested in anything at all with you, to be honest. All the signs she is giving you is that she met you and kissed you but you are that one girl who keeps giving her attention even though she is dating and has a boyfriend (It ma... (read in full...)
Surely if she was as interested as I was, she'd be doing more to keep in contact?
Q. I have no trouble speaking to women, in fact I'm quite a flirt. Intimate encounters aren't hard for me to achieve either, I know how to show a girl a good time. But when it comes to relationships I'm entirely unlucky, having never had more than fle...
A. 4 March 2015: I agree with Honeypie.
She probably knew right away you werent her type. Sometimes, not always, but shy girls tend to like guys who slightly like them (shy as well).
She may sense your player side and is wary. OR she may like you and is playi... (read in full...)
I sympathize but he thinks I don't understand him!
Q. Hell everyone, my boyfriend and i love each other. However,there is an issue that we have been facing since we started dating almost a year ago,and i think its getting worse.I need some help with that. I come from a wealthy family ( please ...
A. 25 October 2012: Stacey's right. You dont have a clue what he is going through. You can guess and I bet you do feel for him, but you dont know what is like to be poor and after to work hard to get through life. Dont beat yourself up about. When he tells you... (read in full...)
How do I talk to her and not run away? I've already hurt her
Q. This if very hard. Admitting I have relationship issues. I just recently ended a relationship that has left me feeling empty and hurt. All because of a few things that may or may not be an issue. I've had security issues in the past and really ...
A. 22 October 2012: I agree with both of these ladies. Communication is the key. PLUS, you have to tell her why you did what you did. Tell her you were scare. Tell her that you love her. And tell youre sorry. Be honest about your feelings and your actions. Empathy is ... (read in full...)
How can I find a girl who will love me for who I am?
Q. Hello I am a very old reader and writer of this website and I love the people here doing this great work of helping each other and people like me. Here is my situation and I would be really grateful if someone can help me. I am originally a Pak...
A. 21 October 2012: Okay, first off, my question to you is : Have you even asked any girls out ? LOOK, you can expect to get the rewards by not putting in the effort. You say how amazing you are and Im sure you are just that, but look, you cant really complain ... (read in full...)
I am a loner and enjoy solo activities. BUT, based on your thoughts, ... Do people date loners? Or do they retreat from dating loners and why?
Q. Would you date a loner? I don't have that many friends, but it's not because of Social Anxiety Disorder or because I do strange things. I'm just highly independent, enjoy spending time self-reflecting and doing solo activities (reading,...
A. 21 October 2012: I am the same way too, but Im a loner due to being shy and feeling extremely inadequate around others.
And yes, people can date loners. I find that introverts tend to be attracted to people slightly more extroverted than them, at least, I do som... (read in full...)
Is she all that she seems?
Q. Hi cupid, I really need your help I met a young lady on Hi5, she is my heart but something is wrong with this picture, we text most of the time but we agree to meet. But when I ask her about me driving there she tells me she wants to come here first ...
A. 21 October 2012: Yeah, it is fishy that she would ask for money. I say you tell her you can come to her first. Say that you care about her but that you will be the one to go to where she is. If she refuses, she is hiding something from you. It may be her identity or ... (read in full...)
Zero success with dating and I need advice!
Q. I thought I’d reach out on the net and ask for some advice or insight on this. I’m soon to be 27 and I've never really had a romantic relationship with a woman. I just don’t understand the why of it. The more I consider the question the more I ...
A. 20 October 2012: You sound like a great guy and you seem to have everything going for you. I have a question though: Have you asked any women out?
You cannot simply just have a girlfriend, without putting in forth the effort. Men are suppose to the chasers ... (read in full...)
She takes offence easily. I'm not sure if we're right for each other. Should I stay or leave?
Q. So i've been with my girlfriend for just over 3 years now but im not sure if i should stay with her or move on. We're both in our early 20's. She's the first real gf i've had and the only girl i've slept with. She really is a great person and...
A. 20 October 2012: First off, let me state this: Dont take people for granted.
Sounds like you love her, but you dont seem sensitive enough to her. She sounds like a sensitive person and as you may guess: she may take offense to anything you say that might seem off... (read in full...)
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