Did I permanently mess up my chances with this girl?
Q. Okay, so I've been eyeing this girl both in person and on social media for about 8 months now. She doesn't even know I exist because the few times that I've seen her in person I was really far away for her to notice and it was at a county fair with ...
A. 13 July 2016: Sounds like she was attracted to you but didnt enjoy the conversation. Start becoming who you are, the charistmatic guy you were before. Let your past go, work out, go out with friends, open up about how you feel with feelings, basically work on y... (read in full...)
How do I bear this deep hurt?
Q. Thanks in advance to anyone who reads this to help. How do you move forwards after your husband has betrayed your trust? He has, in my eyes, emotionally cheated on me with another woman who he messaged more than he's bothered messaging me in ...
A. 11 July 2016: Anger is a real feeling and must be felt but its wrong lash out at him. I think the only way you can heal is by staying with your feelings...the anger but also sadness. I think your anger is scaring him. He should know youre angry but right now your ... (read in full...)
I'm duty bound to my long term partner afflicted with illness. How should I handle the attraction between me and my younger boss?
Q. I'm 42,young looking and successful professional. I've been with my partner for ten years. We've been through a lot. Nine years ago, he got sick. Weve been dealing with his illness and when things were starting to look normal, it strikes again, d...
A. 4 July 2016: I've never seen such a thorough answer from an aunt (the long reply from anonymous aunt). An absolutely superb advice section for all women who have professional careers. I will just add this : men like your boss will like many women. The high ... (read in full...)
How do I ask him to give things a proper go?
Q. Hello . This is a little complicated , i went on a date with a guy about 8 month ago we agreed to be a couple but due to work and family and anything else we didnt get to see each other so decided to be friends , fast forward 8 month im in such a ...
A. 30 June 2016: It sounds you both are interested in each other but tiptoeing around due to insecurities and the uncertainty of each other. Its even cute... Sweetheart...guys are clueless about a woman's desire. He probably thinks the same thing you are think... (read in full...)
Why is she avoiding sex and won't discuss it?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend around about 18 months now. At the start of the relationship we had sex often, however around the 6 month mark that slowed down and would only do it once a month and then at the nine month mark it stopped completely, ...
A. 30 June 2016: I completely agree with Angie's Thoughts, DO NOT move in with her. There is a break up looming, please avoid making it messier and less awkward by moving in, breaking up and still having to live together due to newly signed lease. Sex is an impo... (read in full...)
Boyfriend admitted his feelings changed... How do I move on?
Q. I was with my (now ex) boyfriend for six months. The first four months were amazing, we were both very committed to one another and had great chemistry. During the past two months however he became very distant. Communication on his part went from ...
A. 30 June 2016: I'm so sorry this happened. Youre post was very thoughtful and sweet and sincere. Sweetheart...it takes time. You sound like you have a great life--keep and I mean it, KEEP enjoying it. Because he may come back around later but you need to live... (read in full...)
We had our first kiss and it wasn't magic as expected! Now what?
Q. We had our first kiss and it wasnt magic as expected. I am dating a guy who has been hitting on me for three years now. I am 20 he is 23 i thought i had feelings for him but yesterday when we had our first kiss i didnt enjoy. It was strange, tasted ...
A. 30 June 2016: A kiss is all you need to know if there is an attraction. I say just end it and move on as quickly as possible. So many people settle into relationships that are compatible and comfortable BUT the kissing or physical part may be missing----often... (read in full...)
Is it too late to reach out? Do his actions speak for themselves?
Q. I've been dating someone for three months. The first two months were amazing. We saw one another 1-2 times a week and spoke daily. Our connection was wonderful. But during the last month communication on his side dropped immensely. He basically ...
A. 27 June 2016: Im reading all the replies here and Im like...HELLOOOOOOOOOOOOOO, did they forget to mention that YOU should also show interest???!!!!! Sweetheart, its been a week since his last reply to you. He has the last word and you didnt reply to that la... (read in full...)
I fell in love with my much older professor. Help!
Q. Okay I just graduated from a medical school. So I should feel blessed as being able to become a doctor after 5 years of hardships. But it do not turn that way, as I could not forget one of my professor at all. Well he is too old, now he is 70+ . and ...
A. 21 June 2016: No, youre not in love with him. Glances dont equate to true love. Look you might think you have feelings but when you do get a BF that youre in love with, this minor part of your life will seem comical to you. YOull even laugh and tell your future ... (read in full...)
My husband wont talk to his 26 year old that doesn't work, bathe or interact with people!
Q. Hello. In searching for an answer or at best some understanding to a terrible situation, I found this sight. To say that I'm thankful is an understatement. I have a 26-year-old stepson whose hygiene and overall laziness drives me crazy. He doesn't ...
A. 20 June 2016: This is terrible. Your husband is enabling your 26 year old adult son. And youre enabling your husband! Why havent you discussed with your husband the serious repercussions of what you both have allowed your son to become? I dont want to hear the... (read in full...)
How can I stop being used by men?
Q. Ever since I turned 21 - now I am turning 30 I have always gone above and beyond for men. I would characterize myself as a young successful woman - I hold a good corporate job and two degrees and really Kee up with my appearance. Inside though I am ...
A. 20 June 2016: I really really suggest you try and read some stuff from Rori Raye, shes a relationship expert who talks about being strong in the inside and allowing yourself to be vulnerable on the outside. It doesnt matter how many degrees you have, how attrac... (read in full...)
How can this continue with me losing my sanity? I have a wife and a girlfriend who are both amazing.
Q. I've been having an affair with a much younger, beautiful and sexy woman for over three years. I am in a fairly good marriage and we've been married for 22 years. My wife and I are on the same wave length. We've been through a lot together and are...
A. 15 June 2016: You're cheating, its wrong because your wife and kids believe you to be this honest, trustworthy, loving father. That said, many many many people unbeknownst to their family often lead double lives, they may have wives/husbands and a lover or many ... (read in full...)
I feel broken and replaceable in my marriage. I just want some affection!
Q. Hi, I am (28) married for about 10years now my husband is 32. I can't help but feel like there is something wrong with me. He is the only man I had ever been with. He taught me how to give blow jobs, and even got me got me to me to try anal. And I ...
A. 15 June 2016: Everything youve stated has shown that youre not emotionally grounded nor do you have any boundaries! You've allowed him to do everything he wanted to you and have done everything sexually to please him ---sweetheart, youre exactly what a guy would ... (read in full...)
When we aren't together I feel like I'm single
Q. My boyfriend, early 30s, is a successful entrepreneur. We have been together three months. Over the past month, his workload has increased quite a lot and I've only seen him twice. First time we had dinner at his place and he was exhausted but I ...
A. 15 June 2016: 3 months equal out to only about 10-12 weeks of dating. Its so fresh, why not keep dating other men? Keep him in your schedule but also open up your life to other men too. He just sounds far too busy to be with someone tbh, texting everyday is sweet ... (read in full...)
I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 14 June 2016: Just ask her out! lol
She is giving you the green light and probably wonders why this cute guy that comes in every once in a while hasnt made a move yet.
Go for it =)... (read in full...)
Breaking up and I've developed a crush on another guy already. Is my idea of moving on viable or a terrible idea?
Q. I need opinions... So my husband and I are ending things. For our own personal reasons. My husband was and is emotionally abusive and can't seem to change. We have a mutual friend that we both just starting hanging around. I, ( knowing th...
A. 14 June 2016: I agree with everything Aunt Honesty said.
You just got out of marriage that was abusive. And now youre already creating scenarios in your head of a romantic relationship with a new man. It's not healthy. Its not wise. Nor is it mature
Right n... (read in full...)
My Bf has developed an interest in larger size women. I don't know how to respond to him about this. What are my options?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 and a half years. We're very open with each other sexually and emotionally, however a couple of months ago I noticed he had striked an interest in larger women (ie following Instagram and Twitter accounts...
A. 14 June 2016: Going on dating sites is diff from just watching porn. Hes taken action to try to meet these women, I think you really should discuss this with him and tell him your boundaries. If he doesnt seem to care, you have to break it off.
Ive seen peo... (read in full...)
When should I email the manager and what should I say?
Q. So I recently got this job as a carer, caring for a client with spinal cord injury (shes in a wheelchair). It is different from anything else ive done before, now this client can be a bit rude with her loud voice telling how to fold her clothes...
A. 14 June 2016: Honestly sweetheart, you have to walk away. Sounds like you should tell her exactly how she has made you felt--in a mature respectful work manner way. And resign as quickly as you can.
NO one should be disrespected or called dirty by ANYONE. ... (read in full...)
Please help! I need suggestions and how-to's for second date!
Q. Hi guys! I have had amazing help here before and looking to get great advice again! I went out on a first "mini" date with a girl last week. It went really well..we have a great connection. We ended seeing each other 2 nights in a row (night a...
A. 14 June 2016: Just relax and have fun. Sounds like there is already a really good connection, just continue to build on that =). Keep talking, laughing together, and keep it light. Dont rush into sex just yet however but if it leads to sex, dont worry about that ... (read in full...)
He puts his family above all else. Am I wrong to be feeling concerned about our future together, considering his actions?
Q. I have been in a relationship with a man for awhile now. There was that immediate spark and we being with him felt great and easy. He treated me better than anyone I had previously been with and made me happy. Gradually we started realizin...
A. 13 June 2016: I'm also an atheist but I think religion actually doesnt plays very little into chemistry with a person(given that youre a mature adult and not a fanatic). Sounds like you've hit a block road with him. If he is cancelling plans to be with his fami... (read in full...)
I feel very confused by her. First she flirts with me. Then she didn't invite me to her birthday celebration. What's happening here?
Q. I am lusting after another female colleague. She is also bi-sexual. I've known her a year but only recently did we start getting to know each other better as she has moved into my office at work. We flirt a lot by teasing each other and play fig...
A. 13 June 2016: She seems to be have just been flirty but thats pretty much it. Girls, regardless of sexual orientation Ive noticed can be flip flopping and unsure about their feelings. Even as a straight female I can have mix feelings about men Ive dated, slept ... (read in full...)
Back dating and I need advice
Q. Hi there! I desperately need your help! I recently got divorced and I do not have much of dating/speed dating experience. I in now getting into this dating thing and have a first date today. I like this woman and she is few years older to me (I a...
A. 11 June 2016: Just be the best version of yourself, even if you lose conversation topics just try to smile and arch eyebrows and make her laugh. When Im on date with guys, the best ones are always the one where the guy isnt always being funny or extremely tal... (read in full...)
Is he genuinely busy or lost interest?
Q. Is he disinterested or just busy? I’m not trying to fool myself or ignore any signs. I lack experience and truly cannot tell so would appreciate your opinions. I’ve been dating a successful man (31 y/o) for two months who was very good to me up ...
A. 11 June 2016: LOl sweetie, he sounds VERY interested. He wants to know if you're interested, its okay initiate because he has already done so again and again----again. Men need to be chased just a bit, because how can we miss someone who offers us nothing back? I ... (read in full...)
Has anyone been in a lasting relationship where there was an age difference?
Q. When I was 28 I was in a 4.5 year relationship with a younger girl, she was only 18 when we started dating. We had a son together and when our son was 18 months old she said she made a mistake settling down with me and wanted to experience her yout...
A. 10 June 2016: No, actually some girls prefer dating older guys. Many older women do prefer younger men but many many women usually marry older guys. I have problem dating men my age (25) and realize just recently after dating men in their 20s that I feel a lot ... (read in full...)
Do women feel extra sexy during their periods?
Q. Is it true that when women are on their periods they are sexually high / their sex drive is high at this point? Like few days before the periods, on periods and just after the periods gets over. Does it happens that they dress in a way that they lo...
A. 10 June 2016: No, I have a high sex drive regardless of my period or not. Actually when I have a period, if it comes with cramps I feel less sexy and usually for those days I am extra concern about my hygiene. ... (read in full...)
My ex messaged that she wants to try again after years of little communication!
Q. So what do you do when an old time ex suddenly wants to get back? When we first met I was 20, she was 17 we texted and went on a couple dates then i asked her to be my gf over a text message (very amateur of me right). The timing was awful, she was ...
A. 9 June 2016: Shes very very indecisive and I think still very young. I would say just tell youve moved on. But if you want to open that door again, treed very carefully. She sounds extremely young and I'd say you can date her again but also try date a few other ... (read in full...)
I loved her but I couldn't take any more
Q. Hello, I am a 25 years old guy. I work as well as doing my master's degree in engineering. I have been with my girlfriend for 7 months. We have broke up yesterday. I feel so much hurt. Since I have known my girlfriend, She always felt unloved ...
A. 9 June 2016: Sorry for all this, sorry about what happened to her and so sorry about your hurt. It sounds like youre in so much pain just breaking it off, it feels like you wanted to give her everything but you cant anymore. Sweetheart, really I think you did ... (read in full...)
Why am I still with him? I've lost respect for him.
Q. I have a problem - I'm too forgetful. During the first two years when my BF and I dated, I didn't really care to know too much about him because it was at a honeymoon, sweet, lovey dovey stage. Now, after two years of being together, I've r...
A. 9 June 2016: I think only reason you havent left is because you do love him. And you say you dont, but actions speak louder than words. Maybe his childish ways and sweetness has a hold stronger on you than you realize. ... (read in full...)
One week into the relationship, now that he has me, the thrill is gone for him. It's not looking good, is it?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for about a week now. Before that, he chased me for a year and I never gave in because I thought he was a jerk and needed to try harder. One day we had a falling out where we didn't talk for a few days, and when he met ...
A. 9 June 2016: He dated you for one week after a year of chasing you! My goodness. Look, he chased you for an entire year! Yes hes into the chase but also maybe in that entire year hes been also getting tired, looking elsewhere, was open to other women while his ... (read in full...)
Are his actions Red Flags? He's a confident guy but insecure with me
Q. I've been dating a great guy (31 y/o) for two months. He treats me very well, initiates most dates and text greetings, and invites me to his friend/group gatherings. He's a successful entrepreneur, experienced, outgoing, and very socially capable ...
A. 4 June 2016: I know many men like that. Sounds like he's not necessarily insecure but more like unsure and shy because he really likes you. Also he sounds like a talker and a emotional man, possibly great communicator and loves sharing what he has and his life ... (read in full...)
Love my current LDR partner, but I am energised and in love with a colleague. What should I do?
Q. I met my GF in college 5 years ago and we have been together ever since then getting engaged 3 years into the relationship (wedding organised for summer next year). We have been involved in a long distance relationship over the last 3 years as...
A. 2 June 2016: Long-distance relationship is hard, not being attracted to someone is the hardest. You really have to end it with your current partner---not being able to make love to her because youre not attracted to her nor feel comfortable touching her is being ... (read in full...)
Is 4 months of dating too soon to ask her to marry me?
Q. I am in love with my girlfriend.. I can't imagine life without her. She is everything I could have ever asked for and more. We have only been dating 4 months but it seems like longer. We have known each other for 4 years. I know she is the girl for ...
A. 4 March 2016: Feels right = go for it. You've known her for 4 years before dating. You sound confident and it seems like she loves you back. Trust your gut ! Timeframe for everyone is different, good luck :)... (read in full...)
Was I rude earlier? I need help learning how to communicate with her.
Q. There's a girl at my job who I'm very attracted to but things aren't really able to move forward the way I'd like. I'm not able to talk to her because I'm simply too nervous, and I'm sure I probably come off as rude now because when she's spok...
A. 25 February 2016: Shes probably as nervous as you, I hope with that mindset you can relax because if shes stealing glances at you, shes thinking and wondering if youre interested and just shy or/ you dont like her. Just relax, take a deep breathe, and talk about t... (read in full...)
Is this a break-up? Boyfriend and I haven't talked in 3 days after argument. Please help
Q. On Monday me and my boyfriend got into a fight over something small and now he hasn't said one word to me in 3 whole days ! I'm worried. I don't want it to be over I just wanna work it out . yesterday he called and let it ring 3 times and hung up ...
A. 25 February 2016: Say sorry. Its obviously hurt and feeling cold/empty. He doesnt know that you care.
Lean in, apolgogize, say your truth and just turn away. And when hes healed he will open up again but dont assault him with continueing the argument or with ton... (read in full...)
What can I do? The magic, the spark, is gone from our relationship
Q. Im not sure if i love my girlfriend any more. Im 24 she is 21. We have been together for two years. During that time we have done so much, been on holidays around the world, travelled, all kinds of things. She has helped me in so many ways. I've ...
A. 25 February 2016: I wish she was asking this instead of you, asking why her introverted boyfriend has been more aloof and possibly wants to break up with her. My advice is for her to focus on herself, love herself, and break it off/give the relationship space. ... (read in full...)
How do I find enjoyment in life?
Q. How can I find enjoyment in life? People say find a hobby, but I don't seem to want to do anything. I feel that feeling passionate about anything at all could help me pass the time but I can't find anything remotely interesting. Every day I just ...
A. 25 February 2016: Trust me, everyone has felt the way you have....for a period or so. What you need is connection--time for you to seek that out. I know for a fact there is a girl out there looking for that too and you have to be open to it. Look up forums to con... (read in full...)
I find sexual chat with men stimulating but enjoy kissing women. Help!
Q. Dear Cupid, My question is related to sexuality, and I almost feel as though I have the answers myself but I just need someone to bounce them off. From an early age I have had a pretty high sex drive. My tastes in pornography have mostly been ...
A. 1 February 2016: First off, I just wanted to thank you for being so candid and open. Sexuality in all its form, comes down to "attraction". There are people who are attracted to men, women, both, down to feet, to long hair, to full lips, to even more explicit and ... (read in full...)
What did my partner mean, by saying he misses me making an effort?
Q. So I've been with my partner for 6 years, the first half of which he was in the military and we had a LDR. After he finished his service and moved back to our home city, we both decided to find better paying jobs and get a house together. We've no...
A. 1 February 2016: Theres no nothing to lose by being sexier for your man. Sex gets better, his self esteem gets better, and he treats you better. And then YES, he will start doing what you ask of him because youve just become that much more sexier to him.
Give ... (read in full...)
I broke his heart because he said No to exclusivity. What causes fear of commitment?
Q. I met a wonderful man online (26) and we dated for two months. We were basically BF and GF without the title, and it was the perfect relationship. We never established or assumed exclusivity but considering all factors it’s highly unlikely he was ...
A. 1 February 2016: To answer your updated questions OP, NEVER ask men if they would consider exclusivity. I don’t know how to say this, but Im not sure if you’ve had much dating experience from your questions. I hope you’ve met a quite a few men online to get a jest ... (read in full...)
My husband won't stop badgering me about having a threesome
Q. My husband of 18 years has been pressuring me to have a threesome with another man. I am not comfortable with this but he keeps insisting that he wants to share me with either a friend of his or one of my choice. I am 60 and not real comfortable ...
A. 28 January 2016: Please leave him. Not only if he is disrespecting you, he is sexually harassing and wants to exploit you. Seek help, tell your family and friends. DO NOT give in.... (read in full...)
I broke his heart because he said No to exclusivity. What causes fear of commitment?
Q. I met a wonderful man online (26) and we dated for two months. We were basically BF and GF without the title, and it was the perfect relationship. We never established or assumed exclusivity but considering all factors it’s highly unlikely he was ...
A. 28 January 2016: He loved you dearly, to hold you and cry openly when he is the logical, thinking type of person. I'm not sure if you know what you just did to him, Im not sure if you can still explore that relationship anymore as it seems hes had to dealt with ... (read in full...)
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