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| | *incerely Yours's profile:I deleted my account once before. This is my second account. I regret deleting it, because I would like to see the things I wrote 6 years ago. I would like to see my progression or regression of wisdom. I've gone through phases of cynicism and optimism. Despite the enormity of my traumatic experiences, I almost think I'm too optimistic to give advice. I guess I have, if nothing else, a varied perspective to add to situations. Take it or leave it I guess.
Please feel free to PM for an elaboration of something I've written. However I am not comfortable being contacted for my sole advice. I am not all-knowing, nor an MD or psychologist and part of this site is getting different opinions. So please, for your own sake, if you have a question, post it publicly to get a better response.
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Do men become possesive after sex?
Q. Do men become possesive after sex? I've been with a guy for nearly a year now, and we recently started having sex around the beginning of the year. I've noticed now he occasionally refers to me as me 'my girl' . He wants to see me the whole weekend ...
A. 29 March 2010: Well.. you know what everyone said something slightly different based on their own experience. If nothing else, this should teach you, OP, not to ask a question like "do MEN get possessive" because that refers to all men and the resulting answer ... (read in full...)
Do men become possesive after sex?
Q. Do men become possesive after sex? I've been with a guy for nearly a year now, and we recently started having sex around the beginning of the year. I've noticed now he occasionally refers to me as me 'my girl' . He wants to see me the whole weekend ...
A. 28 March 2010: Hey, whoa. My husband is so sweet. He doesn't like guys looking at me and he and pretty much every other guy I've met call their girl friends "my girl." I don't think those are signs that you should leave him because he will beat you one day. That's ... (read in full...)
Do men become possesive after sex?
Q. Do men become possesive after sex? I've been with a guy for nearly a year now, and we recently started having sex around the beginning of the year. I've noticed now he occasionally refers to me as me 'my girl' . He wants to see me the whole weekend ...
A. 28 March 2010: Some men want their girl's on display and some men go with the "hands off, eyes off" way of thinking. Personally, I'm happier with my husband's approach of standing behind me so no one can look at my butt, kind of thing. It's so cute, and manly if ... (read in full...)
Help!!! I had a one night stand with my friend's friend and I feel really disgusting and dirty.
Q. Last night I got stupidly drunk which I don't normally do. I've never been that drunk in my life and I did something completely out of character. I had a one night stand with my friend's friend and I feel really disgusting and dirty. It was my first ...
A. 28 March 2010: Is that a stab at what I said, rhythm? I said it's a horrible way to lose your virginity, so I hope you didn't take it as my saying it was a "horrible mistake." Virginity is very precious to a lot of people and losing it is just as precious, so I ... (read in full...)
Do boys never make passes at girls wearing glasses?
Q. What do guys think of girls who wear glasses?I wear them and I seem to get a lot of attention but I was just wondering...
A. 28 March 2010: I think that a common thought among boys who see a girl wearing glasses would be, "I guess she can't see too well."
You would probably get just as much attention without the glasses as you do with the glasses.
Glasses are functional eyeware,... (read in full...)
Help!!! I had a one night stand with my friend's friend and I feel really disgusting and dirty.
Q. Last night I got stupidly drunk which I don't normally do. I've never been that drunk in my life and I did something completely out of character. I had a one night stand with my friend's friend and I feel really disgusting and dirty. It was my first ...
A. 28 March 2010: Aw... sweety, I'm so sorry. What a horrible way to lose your virginity and build relationships. But as lethalinjection said, you just have to learn from it. Don't EVER drink that much again. Also, I don't ever drink with anyone who is not a close ... (read in full...)
I've just discovered the boy I like is much younger and just a kid
Q. There's this guy I like so much but I don't even talk to him. I don't know him either. I recently found out he's possibly one or two years younger than me. Couldn't tell cos he was so tall and seemed matured. Now I feel so down, cos I don't know ...
A. 28 March 2010: One or two years is hardly an age difference. It's not a big deal. You probably have pressure from your friends about it but if the guy is someone who will make your days more enjoyable then who cares if your friends think he's too young? You should ... (read in full...)
How do I stop hating myself and become more confident?
Q. so hi... i really need help. i have horrible confidence problems. and i dont know how to become confident. like its becoming so bad that i think about killing myself. i feel worthless all of the time. and i am jealous of pretty much all of my feien...
A. 20 December 2009: Honey this is way beyond us. You obviously want help, which is a REALLY good step toward you getting help.
How old are you? Young enough for school? Go to the counselor and tell her you're having self esteem problems and don't know who to talk to. ... (read in full...)
I like him but he has a girl, but he still invites me to his gigs!
Q. I like this boy,he's a year older than me and i really like him,he's the only boy i have shown an interest in and [as silly as it sounds] he's the only boy i see myself with.Problem is, he has a girlfriend,and he sometimes seems happy with her,yet ...
A. 20 December 2009: You should always leave people in a relationship alone. They will figure it out. If he dumps her, go for it but if he doesn't, you just have to forget about it and try to move on because at that point, there's nothing you can do that wouldn't define ... (read in full...)
Do other people get punished during sex?
Q. When me and my boyfriend have sex, he likes to spank me hard with his belt and he has even stuck a few pins in my bum as we are doing it. Do other people get punished the same way?...
A. 20 December 2009: Not without consent. ... (read in full...)
Anti-Monogamy: why be faithful?
Q. What is so great about being true to your girl?I was in a situation where I had 2 girls within my grasp( both are awesome hot might add) and they live so seperately that they would never heve met.Perfect dual relationship conditions( i dnt call it ...
A. 20 December 2009: Why be FAITHFUL? Because being faithful is something that two people sit and agree on. If you want to be in a relationship in which you both diddle other daisey's, then go for it and be faithful to your agreement to sleep around. If you say you're ... (read in full...)
Why did she switch on me after marriage?
Q. Ok before we got marryed we disscussed oral sex, it's my mind blowing moment or highlights my first sexual exp was going down on a girl so it thrills me .2 weeks after we get marryed she switch on me. Been marryed 1 1/2 yr I can count on one hand ...
A. 20 December 2009: Oh don't be ridiculous. Don't have side fun, don't cheat on her over oral sex! Yes, it was wrong of her to play nice and open until she had you legally binded to her, but what's worse? Not letting your spouse give your oral, or cheating on your ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to marry a fat girl...
Q. i have been with the same guy for 4 years. he took everything from me. we are like night and day. he tells me he loves me but when we get into fights he calls me fat and tells me he will not have a fat wife. i am about 125 pounds and a little over 5 ...
A. 20 December 2009: If he says it only when he's mad, then I assume he's just one of those people who releases rage by hurting people on purpose. It's horrible and I'm really, really glad I'm not one of those people. If you want to know if he wants you to leave him ... (read in full...)
Should my fiance meet up with his ex every so often?
Q. Relationship question???? I have a finance and going to get marry next year. His ex-girlfriend calls here and there. I dont have a problem with that. I realize we all knew other people before me and him. My questions is: Do you think it is ok f...
A. 20 December 2009: Talking on the phone alone seems fine, but wherever he goes with her, he should have no problem with your going as well. If she's going to be in his life, then he needs to allow you to be in her life also. There is no reason that I can see, that ... (read in full...)
Should we lose our virginity to each other?
Q. ok i have a question... my friend introduced me to a girl I fell in love with almost immediately and she wants to to take it to the next leveland have sex.... We have known each other for three years now and I want to. but my parents don't un...
A. 20 December 2009: Falling in love immediately can't really happen because so much of love is learning everything about the person, both bad and good and accepting them all, realizing that the relationship isn't perfect and appreciating those imperfections, living ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend greets his friends first I think he should come to me first
Q. in the morning i come to the place were my boyfriend stands but i get there before him so i talk to any of my friends that are there too. when he comes he goes to his friends first sometimes and then goes to me and my friend who is with me goes go ...
A. 19 December 2009: Relationships don't mean you can't talk to anyone else first and you have to go straight to that person and no one else. He wants to visit with his friends as well. Would it make you happier if he came to you and then left to go to his friends? ... (read in full...)
Sex before marriage, is it so wrong?
Q. I'm a 20-year-old virgin and I'm starting to think that I might just possibly be ready for sex...I'm not sure, but I'm also very nervous. I'm not Christian, but I grew-up in a mainly Christian household and when it comes to premarital sex-"the fear ...
A. 19 December 2009: Right or wrong? The lines are right and wrong are drawn differently with each person. Just do what you want to do! If you feel it's wrong, don't do it. And if you think it's "wrong" because you're so afraid of god or anyone else, then you don't ... (read in full...)
What's the nicest way to reject an Aspergers guy?
Q. I have recently found out that a fella from my school is in love with me , and he thinks that i have feelings for him back, due to a misunderstanding ( me stairing into the distance; the distance being in the same direction as him). I haven't ...
A. 19 December 2009: Aspergers people have trouble communicating feelings and maintaining relationships. It doesn't make them throw people to the ground and it doesn't make him special Ed, so there's no reason you should reject him any differently than anyone else. He's ... (read in full...)
My kids got gyped at Christmas by my boyfriend's family!
Q. I have been with my bf for three years, we each have two teenagers from previous marriages. Every Holiday season, my kids and I are expected to join him and his extended family (his Mom, brother, sister in law and their kids) to celebrate Christmas. ...
A. 17 December 2009: Keep giving one of your cookies to the kid next to you and eventually, he'll give you one of his oatmeal cream pies. Kill 'em with lots and lots of cookies.
~SY... (read in full...)
Please help...hes married
Q. I need help... I really like this man that is married. And i can tell he likes me too. I have never told this man. Cause i know hes married. And im not the type of person to break up someones home... I think about him all the time. Please help. Do i ...
A. 17 December 2009: You know that pursueing or telling him would be wrong, that's why you're here. Are you waiting for us to tell you it's ok to have an affair as long as you really love him and vice versa? He's married, there's nothing you can do, so remove the ... (read in full...)
What turns women on?
Q. We all know what the female sexual assets are that make guys drool. They're pretty much all physical ones. However, guys' sexual assets can be intangible. Just wondering, what are the intangible male sexual assets that make girls go, 'I Want'? ...
A. 15 December 2009: Posture is a big one. Body language should represent a confident man: not crossing arms a lot, looking up as he walks, make eye contact, etc.
CLothing taste differs from woman to woman.
Speaking out helps, who doesn't hate to ask "what" after ev... (read in full...)
16 year old has diapers?
Q. I am a mom of 2 girls, 16 and 13. I was cleaning there rooms while they were at school and found a pack of open adult diapers in the 16 years olds room. I have no idea why they are in there and really am concerned about what to do. Should I talk to ...
A. 15 December 2009: I sincerely doubt that she will come to you, since she has obviously gone a long time without doing so. Make sure your standards for her don't appear to be too high, or stressful. I get a hint that you might have been searching her room for ... (read in full...)
How do I initiate giving my boyfriend a blowjob?
Q. Okay so here's the thing. I'm most likely going to give my boyfriend a blowjob sometime soon, and I was just wondering how I could get to that moment to where I am. You know what I mean like do I just say hey I'm going to give you a blowjob! Or like ...
A. 15 December 2009: If he's lying on his back, it may be easier for the first time, because you can do it underkneath the sheets and since i'm sure you'll be shy and nervous, they will help you feel better because he's not eye-balling you.
Start with your hand prob... (read in full...)
My cheatin' heart
Q. I cheated on my fiance. We have been together 6 years. I cheated and about a week later I couldn't handle it anymore, I had to tell her. I know I made a mistake and wanted to be honest. I love her to much to lie and get away with it. I knew it ...
A. 15 December 2009: The medicine she gave you was sort of a nasty bitter taste. The meds you gave her were more like, sewage. The longer you're in a relationship, the more trust and faithfulness you should be developing. That's how it worked for her, but for you, you ... (read in full...)
I have a really nice guy for a boyfriend but am attracted to a player
Q. I'm completely confused. For months now, I've been going back and forth between these two guys. I've been available for both of them, but now that it has come down to it, I'm lost. The first guy, I've been with for 11 months today. But I hav...
A. 15 December 2009: You feel like a jackass because you are being a jackass. DOn't say you can't be who he wants you to be. I'm guessing you were when you first met him and then you started playing around, and now you're not. You're choosing not to be who he wants you ... (read in full...)
Help for a tight foreskin???
Q. Hey... I'm 14 years old an I have a slightly embarassing problem. All my life I've had a tight foreskin, it's impossible to retract. I'm a little concerned because I don't want this to restrain or prevent my sex life in the future. I really don't ...
A. 15 December 2009: There's nothing you can do about it on your own. You're gonna have to tough up and go to the doctor. Would you rather be circumcised or never get an erection? Life is rarely about what we want to do and mostly about what we have to do. Start ... (read in full...)
I hate my life... I feel worthless, lonely and pathetic... please help!
Q. I hate my life. I feel worthless, lonely and pathetic. I don't know what to do anymore. I'm not very social, i don't have a social life. I feel all alone, with no one who really cares.I don't really have any true friends and i've never had a ...
A. 15 December 2009: Get on facebook, myspace or even this site. Network on the internet. It's not face-to-face human reaction but you'd be surprised how much better it can make you feel each day. You'd also be surprised how many teens feel exactly like you do now. Do ... (read in full...)
Guys is this sweet or weird?
Q. Guys is this sweet or weird? So I am a broke college student and I have no money to buy my boyfriend of almost two months a Christmas gift. (We were close friends two months prior) He insists on getting me something... but I keep telling him n...
A. 15 December 2009: Kiss idea is sweet and adorable and makes me smile. The song idea is also sweet, but too much. It creates more of an obligation for him to stay in the relationship no matter if something happens and he wants to walk away. (NOT saying that will ... (read in full...)
How do I become her close friend without messing up her relationship?
Q. Ok to start off there is this girl I really like. And she's sort of my friend. But she has a boyfriend already. I'm not going to interfere with that cause that make me an A hole. But I want to be a better friend nut not sire how. I talk to her ...
A. 15 December 2009: Don't hit on her or punch her boyfriend and you're covered. It's not your responsibilty to keep her relationship in tact; it's hers. There's no reason that a trusting couple in a good relaitonship can't talk to people of the opposite sex. Talking to ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend wants to immediately end sex after an orgasm?
Q. my gf wants to immediatley end sex after she orgasms. what should i do? ...
A. 24 October 2009: You hardly said anything. Do you finish too or just her? Because if it's just her than you should find out why she stops. You haven't considered how she feels. A lot of women can't continue or it gets highly unvomfortable or can sting. Do you want ... (read in full...)
Should I go ahead and do it already? I'm a virgin.
Q. I'm a 34 gay man and haven't had a sexual relationship yet. Being this age now, I feel frustrated for not happening. I have a kind of boy friend who doesn't want commitment but likes me and I like him, we've being seen each other but since I don't ...
A. 19 October 2009: So glad we could help. Goodluck!
~Sy. ... (read in full...)
Pregnant for the first time! Can anyone give me advice?
Q. Hi, I just found out I am 6 weeks pregnant with my first child.I am 21 years old. and boy, I am so nervous! My bf and I live together and are both very happy about this.Its unexpected but were ok with it. I was just wandering if anyone has any ...
A. 18 October 2009: Wow that's great! You are that much further along! The only other thing I thought of is that you'll definitely want a swing for your baby. Yes, q, of course I want to hear my hampster comment. ... (read in full...)
Pregnant for the first time! Can anyone give me advice?
Q. Hi, I just found out I am 6 weeks pregnant with my first child.I am 21 years old. and boy, I am so nervous! My bf and I live together and are both very happy about this.Its unexpected but were ok with it. I was just wandering if anyone has any ...
A. 15 October 2009: Wotsi carrot. ... (read in full...)
Pregnant for the first time! Can anyone give me advice?
Q. Hi, I just found out I am 6 weeks pregnant with my first child.I am 21 years old. and boy, I am so nervous! My bf and I live together and are both very happy about this.Its unexpected but were ok with it. I was just wandering if anyone has any ...
A. 11 October 2009: I really do appreciate that q. You know your hilarity is welcome anywhere. ... (read in full...)
Pregnant for the first time! Can anyone give me advice?
Q. Hi, I just found out I am 6 weeks pregnant with my first child.I am 21 years old. and boy, I am so nervous! My bf and I live together and are both very happy about this.Its unexpected but were ok with it. I was just wandering if anyone has any ...
A. 11 October 2009: Oh, q is just q. He's ranting on about my avatar. I think he's in love with it. He's a funny funny guy and he was just sharing that wonderful sense of humour with you.
I'll keep adding if I think of other things.
~Sy.... (read in full...)
Am I still a virgin?
Q. ok i had sex with my boyfriend and he didnt break my hymen but i did bleed after but i dont know if i am still a virgin. so am i a virgin??...
A. 10 October 2009: I strongly, strongly advise that you learn more about sex before you continue having it. The severe level immaturity of this question scares me.
You lose your virginity the second a penis enters your vagina. You bled and therefor you hymen has brok... (read in full...)
Do I have the right to tell him off?
Q. im in a ldr. i came down to see him this weekend. on my way here, driving, he asked if i was going to come see him. his mother said no because itll be 11 pm by the time i got to miami. however, he and his brother are allowed to go to their friends ...
A. 10 October 2009: I still think she just didn't like the idea of you and him alone late at night. I think you should be more angry with his mother than you should be with him. If you are happy with him and he is someone with whome you want be, I don't see how ... (read in full...)
Pregnant for the first time! Can anyone give me advice?
Q. Hi, I just found out I am 6 weeks pregnant with my first child.I am 21 years old. and boy, I am so nervous! My bf and I live together and are both very happy about this.Its unexpected but were ok with it. I was just wandering if anyone has any ...
A. 10 October 2009: Burp her/him every couple-few ounces. Leave him/her upright for about 15 minutes afterwards to reduce spit up. ... (read in full...)
How do I make him notice me and love me?
Q. hi i am a 13 year old girl and i have fallen in love with a boy in my class but he loves my best friend and i am getting jealous she is very sexy and i am ok but how can i make him notice me, talk to me, and love me. please help me out or else i ...
A. 10 October 2009: Is that a threat? If we don't help you you will shed poisonous tears on us? I wouldn't want that on my list of bad karma.
I would first like to advice you not to throw around the term "love" like a prickly cactus ball. It's a big thing, a comm... (read in full...)
What are the chances she is pregnant?
Q. Alright, so my girlfriend and I last had sex 6 days ago.(We're both 14, by the way, but please don't answer my question like you're talking to a little kid who has to be told about abstinence)After I ejaculated into my condom, I took off the condom ...
A. 10 October 2009: Well you seem well educated and as if you have a good head on your shoulders so no lectures on my end.
As far as urinating after ejaculation, that does not decrease the chances of pregnancy from precum. What it does do, it was washed out bact... (read in full...)
Do I have the right to tell him off?
Q. im in a ldr. i came down to see him this weekend. on my way here, driving, he asked if i was going to come see him. his mother said no because itll be 11 pm by the time i got to miami. however, he and his brother are allowed to go to their friends ...
A. 10 October 2009: Oh and by the way, Lashing out never delutes an issue. It creates a fire and makes people sensative and angry. It's best to use an "I statement." I know it sounds lame but for instance:
"Hi honey. I've been a little upset lately and I just want... (read in full...)
Do I have the right to tell him off?
Q. im in a ldr. i came down to see him this weekend. on my way here, driving, he asked if i was going to come see him. his mother said no because itll be 11 pm by the time i got to miami. however, he and his brother are allowed to go to their friends ...
A. 10 October 2009: I am honstly not seeing why you are mad at him. His mother told him he couldn't see you right? And you said he asked if he could see you at 4? Six hours after you arrived? Or did he call you at four and ask to see you later? I'm not sure I have this ... (read in full...)
Pregnant for the first time! Can anyone give me advice?
Q. Hi, I just found out I am 6 weeks pregnant with my first child.I am 21 years old. and boy, I am so nervous! My bf and I live together and are both very happy about this.Its unexpected but were ok with it. I was just wandering if anyone has any ...
A. 10 October 2009: If you're going to dip your infant into the water of a magical pond, be sure not to miss her heel. ... (read in full...)
Pregnant for the first time! Can anyone give me advice?
Q. Hi, I just found out I am 6 weeks pregnant with my first child.I am 21 years old. and boy, I am so nervous! My bf and I live together and are both very happy about this.Its unexpected but were ok with it. I was just wandering if anyone has any ...
A. 9 October 2009: Oh I thought of something else. It's slighty personal but whatever.
Nobody had informed me of how to go about using a breastpump. I thought it would be good to pump it out and feed her with a bottle because I hated the way it felt to brea... (read in full...)
Pregnant for the first time! Can anyone give me advice?
Q. Hi, I just found out I am 6 weeks pregnant with my first child.I am 21 years old. and boy, I am so nervous! My bf and I live together and are both very happy about this.Its unexpected but were ok with it. I was just wandering if anyone has any ...
A. 9 October 2009: Ok q, now we've discussed this! I believe the consensus came to a carrot. Are you try to piss off HTHx again? Because last time we ended up argueing over which country has the best cheezepuff snacks.. what were they called? oh! wotsots! Gross..... (read in full...)
Pregnant for the first time! Can anyone give me advice?
Q. Hi, I just found out I am 6 weeks pregnant with my first child.I am 21 years old. and boy, I am so nervous! My bf and I live together and are both very happy about this.Its unexpected but were ok with it. I was just wandering if anyone has any ...
A. 9 October 2009: Eyes gave you very valid advice. People use pregnancy as an excuse to stuff their faces with al kinds of fattening crap, but the truth is, you have to eat healtily and only until you are no longer hungry. Dont overstuff yourself and don't feast on ... (read in full...)
Should I go ahead and do it already? I'm a virgin.
Q. I'm a 34 gay man and haven't had a sexual relationship yet. Being this age now, I feel frustrated for not happening. I have a kind of boy friend who doesn't want commitment but likes me and I like him, we've being seen each other but since I don't ...
A. 9 October 2009: It is a wonderful thing to wait to find the right one. I wish I had done it, or at least waited till I was a bit older. But is it worth walking out on love, or pushing it away? Would you rather be alone for a while and not have sex, or have someone ... (read in full...)
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