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| | *incerely Yours's profile:I deleted my account once before. This is my second account. I regret deleting it, because I would like to see the things I wrote 6 years ago. I would like to see my progression or regression of wisdom. I've gone through phases of cynicism and optimism. Despite the enormity of my traumatic experiences, I almost think I'm too optimistic to give advice. I guess I have, if nothing else, a varied perspective to add to situations. Take it or leave it I guess.
Please feel free to PM for an elaboration of something I've written. However I am not comfortable being contacted for my sole advice. I am not all-knowing, nor an MD or psychologist and part of this site is getting different opinions. So please, for your own sake, if you have a question, post it publicly to get a better response.
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My man doesn't want to watch porn WITH me, only behind my back. Should I be worried?
Q. My man watches porn online while im sleeping or not home. I have asked him nicely to only watch it with me as a couple, but he still does it behind my back. Should i be concerned? Is he loosing interest in me?...
A. 29 June 2010: I think porn is a relatively private thing for men. When in a relationship, men put so many things out in the open, and lose so much of their privacey, that maybe it's best to just step back on a couple of tihngs, and give them that space that ... (read in full...)
What is a good quote for a tattoo - to show I have overcome depression?
Q. I suffered from severe depression in the past and want to get a tattoo to show that I have overcome it. I want to get a quote. does anyone have any suggestions...
A. 29 June 2010: "I'm a survivor, bitches!" ... (read in full...)
Poll: Best sex - was it with an ex or current partner?
Q. So ladies...taking a poll here cuz I'm curious. When it comes to the best sex you've had, was it with your current (final) partner or with a previous partner? By "best", I mean the most sexually satisfying or intense (most mind blowing, most ...
A. 29 June 2010: My current.
But here's why:
I am more in love with him and therefore more intersted in our relationship, including sex.
I sort of doubt that there are too many people out there who, after getting the confidence and the pratice, would just n... (read in full...)
My husband is acting strange and out of character could he be cheating?
Q. My husband is acting strange,and out of character, although in nice ways, making dinner, cleaning the house,and generally making unusual effort to spend time with me. He has even been suggesting we make love, (he usually says he's too tired!!) H...
A. 29 June 2010: Well.. honestly it does kinda sound like he's trying his guilt by being extra nice to you, and then asking you to make love to him because the side bit is just sex.
Worse yet, he could be getting more turned on because he has someone else to thin... (read in full...)
Why people cough at me???
Q. I can't get it why people treat me like this. When i'm walking at the street or talk to someone there are three types of reactions.. One reaction is that they cough at me, another reaction is that they rub their nose and their face and the final ...
A. 29 June 2010: It's probably both. Cigarette smoke is very strong and very aweful for a lot of people. It could also be, as has been said, your natural body odor.
THen when people get up to you closer and see your face, they might feel uncomfortable, not know... (read in full...)
I have caught my girl cheating three times!
Q. my girl has been cheating on me, i have caught her more than three time now, she saying that she will not do it again but she keep liyimg to me , im fed up ,what do i do? [Mod note: text was edited for clarity. I hope I got it right.]...
A. 28 June 2010: My husband is constanly burning himself when he's cooking. He is not careful about it whatsoever, because he says eventually, his hands will be numb and he won't feel it anymore.
I don't know why you have such self-destructive behavior. Are you ... (read in full...)
My wife has cheated and claims to be trying to change but I'm not sure how to handle this!
Q. my wife and i have been married for 6 years, about a year ago she found out i had been lying to her about a drug add. we moved into my dad's free home to get away from area. i lost my work do to economy (contractor). she went back to work at ...
A. 28 June 2010: The brightest point of this story is that she did come forth with the truth. So many people wait until they are found out, always just hoping that they never will be. So it's a very good sign, because it means she regrets what she did, and knows it ... (read in full...)
I feel like I am a loser, what am I going to do now I am going to Highschool?
Q. i am a 15 year old girl and you could say that i am not really that fun to be around, i like barely have friends no one ever wants to spend the night with me i am lucky if a guy even looks at me and also the worst thing is i am going into highschool ...
A. 28 June 2010: PS.. Watch out for those other people who appear to be lonely a lot. I'm sure they'd like to make a friend, too :)
~SY... (read in full...)
I feel like I am a loser, what am I going to do now I am going to Highschool?
Q. i am a 15 year old girl and you could say that i am not really that fun to be around, i like barely have friends no one ever wants to spend the night with me i am lucky if a guy even looks at me and also the worst thing is i am going into highschool ...
A. 28 June 2010: Aw, that's a sweet smiley you added at the end. You seem like a very nice girl. Sometimes nice people fall behind for a while, because they get taken advantage of, but eventually, they find the right balance of strength and submissiveness,
And you ... (read in full...)
Why am I getting upset with my boyfriend all the time?
Q. why do i keep getting really upset with anything my boyfriend does lately?...
A. 28 June 2010: I'm guessing you're feeling resentment toward him over an argument, an incident, a lie he told, an insecurity of yours, etc.
Just take a deeper look beyond the surface of small, petty arguments and figure out what is really bothering you.
~SY... (read in full...)
How do I know if I'm over him and did the right thing?
Q. two months ago i split up with my boyfriend of two years, i thought it was the right thing to do as we had started arguing about nothing and i was going to uni quite far away, we still talk often and agree to stay close friends. i was fine until r...
A. 28 June 2010: Arguing isn't always a decent reason to break up. Usually, it just means there's a bigger problem that needs to be discussed, in order to break up all the tiny, stupid fights.
The underlying problem might be something like poor communication, or o... (read in full...)
Anal sex?
Q. My girlfriend, of over a year, and I are curious about experimenting with anal sex. We are having a lot of trouble. I happen to be very well endowed, two+ inches wide. We are able to get an inch and a half diameter dildo in her, but I'm still ...
A. 28 June 2010: The anal canal curves after about four inches, so please don't go passed that.
She sounds like she just needs more time to stretch out her butt hole.
Blech.
You might want to start buying butt plugs.... (read in full...)
How long does it take for a man to get over their midlife crisis?
Q. can anyone tell me how long it takes for a man to get over a midlife crises and why do they walk out on theyre wives for a much younger uglier female than their actual wife...
A. 28 June 2010: Ouch. Sorry. I'm guessing this is more an angry rant than anything else. I'm sure you know that there is no clocked time period for a man to be over something like this.
Maybe you should listen to "before he cheats" by Carrie Underwood. Then you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend misunderstood me and now is upset with me, what should I do?
Q. My boyfriend is upset with me! he works away from home, I only talk to him on the phone he call and I ask what was wrong but he think I meaned something eles he had call early and he call right though something was wrong because he never call back ...
A. 28 June 2010: What did he think you meant when you asked him what was wrong?
Usually, arguments like this just pass over. Eventually I think he will understand and you will get the chance to explain to him that he misunderstood you. Don't worry. ... (read in full...)
How do I stop us from growing apart?
Q. me and my girlfriend are growing apart, how do i get her closer again?...
A. 28 June 2010: Tie her to your waist with a rope. :) ... (read in full...)
Am I the only guy who prefers petite women?
Q. I'm just wondering why it is that most men prefere big breasts as oppossed to small breasts, the women in porn and magazines reflects that men are more sexually aroused by big breasts and i'm just curious why that is? I'm more sexually attracted to ...
A. 27 June 2010: Oh, the number of questions by women on here who have wondered if there is any guy who likes smaller breasts.
It does seem like most men like big breasts, I guess there's just more to play with?
Whatever the fact, your gf is lucky to have fou... (read in full...)
I want a divorce, but I know he won't accept it!
Q. Hello I want to leave my husband, i dont love him anymore (we dont have children and we're under 30) but I'm very scared of his reaction and our families, I want to know if I choose to hide for sometime will i have problems with the law? it is ilega...
A. 27 June 2010: You can talk to me if you want. You can PM me and so I can help you by learning more about who and what is around you, so I can help you to make an escape plan.... (read in full...)
Is 12 years too much?
Q. Hey, I'm 22 and worrying about the age gap between my boyfriend and I. He's twelve years older than me and we've been friends since I was nineteen - I met him at 'work' if you can call it that (I play pro sport) - and we've been together for a year ...
A. 27 June 2010: Your age gap doesn't phase me a bit. I'm glad for you that you've found someone you like so much, so hopefuly your mum would be the same way. You will hurt her feelings more deeply the longer you go on not telling her, though. ... (read in full...)
Are all guys superficial?
Q. I'm 17 this year; I'm fat but not disgustingly obese, don't have a pretty face and very self-conscious deep down. The thing is, I'm very confident and most people look at me as the hyper and bubbly one who brightens up everyone's day but inside, I ...
A. 27 June 2010: You sound a little superficial, my dear. You've had guys have crushes on you, so how can you call them superficial?
The thing is, if you really are as unattractive as you say, then they guys you've attracted anyway, are decent. Only the MOST dece... (read in full...)
What happens in Las Vegas... Really... What's happening in Las Vegas?
Q. We have only been living together for 3 months, and I even moved across country to be with him, as we were long distance for a year and a half. So, one morning before he left (for a boy's weekend in Las Vegas), I walked the bedroom and heard him at ...
A. 25 June 2010: I didn't see the post regarding the strip club.
In that case, yes he is sleezy.
I hereby agree with all other posters. ... (read in full...)
What happens in Las Vegas... Really... What's happening in Las Vegas?
Q. We have only been living together for 3 months, and I even moved across country to be with him, as we were long distance for a year and a half. So, one morning before he left (for a boy's weekend in Las Vegas), I walked the bedroom and heard him at ...
A. 25 June 2010: One more thing: My husband was a virgin when I met him, and he just told me that he used to carry one for his friends, because they were always asking each other for one. He said it came in handy 4 or 5 times. ... (read in full...)
What happens in Las Vegas... Really... What's happening in Las Vegas?
Q. We have only been living together for 3 months, and I even moved across country to be with him, as we were long distance for a year and a half. So, one morning before he left (for a boy's weekend in Las Vegas), I walked the bedroom and heard him at ...
A. 25 June 2010: I asked my husband and he agrees with me. It's a possibility that he planned on cheating on you, but he brought the condoms back, without knowing that you saw him with them before he left.
My hub says that he can't even count the times he's hear... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants permission to have sex with another woman
Q. My fiance of 6 yrs now told me recently that he wants to have sex with another woman. he'd prefer it with me and 'her' but he'd take 'her' solo also. he explained that its not because i'm lousy in bed but because he's just bored. I know I'm not ...
A. 25 June 2010: At least he asked... right? :(
If you have any problem with it at all, you should say "no." If you let him and then regret, that's when the real problems will start: resentment, anger, jealousy, insecurity, etc.
Careful on this one.
Try askin... (read in full...)
Is the reason she wants space going to end us?
Q. So my girlfriend of four years told me she needed some space from me to fix some personal issues. She also told me that we need to work on our communication along with several other things. Nothing too major though. I noticed that she was acting ...
A. 25 June 2010: I'm a little fuzzy on your story, but it sounds like she's just excited to have new friends, since you say she's never really had close friends before.
It may be out of character for her to come home so late, but remmeber that she left before her ... (read in full...)
Could I have lost my virginity and gotten pregnant at the same time?
Q. okay so i am 17 and i lost my virginity thursday like 3 in the morning in the pool and it didnt hurt at all, but, it was only in me for like 3 minutes and when he pushed me away i looked down , and he had nutted. im sooo scared idk anything about ...
A. 25 June 2010: Whether or not it hurt doesn't give you an answer on whether or not he went all the way in. The part that mostly hurts is stretching that hole bigger than it was before. I guess he has a thin ding dong.
YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO USE PROTECTION
Yes, ... (read in full...)
He doesn't trust my male best friend
Q. I've been in this relationship for this guy for around 2 weeks now. he is the kind of guy that every girl wants to be with, the absolute macho man.teh bad boy, the kind of guy every girl wants. so he has a alot of girl "friends" which seems like a ...
A. 25 June 2010: If you lose him from going on a beach trip, he wasn't worth having in the first place. ... (read in full...)
We broke up but still wanted to be friends, but his sister is getting in the way!
Q. okay i broke up with my boyfriend a bout a week ago and we were fine and going to keep tlking to each other but his sister kept txting me saying he didnt want me so get over it and that he wanted nothing to do with me and to stop stalking him and ...
A. 25 June 2010: In a letter:
"I'm sorry that there has been this misunderstanding. I did not insult your mother, i insulted your sister by calling her a 'fat cow,' because I was reacting out of anger. I am sorry for insulting your sister and I hope that one day ... (read in full...)
Why is she angry that I told her she was easy, when she is?
Q. So my girlfriend and I have a close mutual friend. She says she only fools/sleeps around with men if she potentailly sees them in a relationship. And she's had a few flings. So the other day she was wondering why this guy, whom she was seeing...
A. 25 June 2010: Typically when we shave pointy objects out of wood, we'd rather not be stabbed in the face with them. But that's our problem.... (read in full...)
Why don't I feel the same chemistry with him anymore?
Q. So theres that whole thing about chemestry with someone and how you can feel if its there or not right away on a date or upon meeting soomeone. Can that chemestry that was so great and immensly there just go away all of a sudden? For example me and ...
A. 25 June 2010: Chemical reactions are temporary. If they lasted forever, the earth would smell a little funny. ... (read in full...)
What happens in Las Vegas... Really... What's happening in Las Vegas?
Q. We have only been living together for 3 months, and I even moved across country to be with him, as we were long distance for a year and a half. So, one morning before he left (for a boy's weekend in Las Vegas), I walked the bedroom and heard him at ...
A. 25 June 2010: Yeah and some things really do stay, like all the damn money you gambled away. Sianara suckas. ... (read in full...)
What happens in Las Vegas... Really... What's happening in Las Vegas?
Q. We have only been living together for 3 months, and I even moved across country to be with him, as we were long distance for a year and a half. So, one morning before he left (for a boy's weekend in Las Vegas), I walked the bedroom and heard him at ...
A. 25 June 2010: PS MOD, I am LOVING these titles recently.
Pm me. i want to know who is making all these up.... (read in full...)
What happens in Las Vegas... Really... What's happening in Las Vegas?
Q. We have only been living together for 3 months, and I even moved across country to be with him, as we were long distance for a year and a half. So, one morning before he left (for a boy's weekend in Las Vegas), I walked the bedroom and heard him at ...
A. 25 June 2010: If he had intended to use those condoms for himself, I think he would have. He probably had plenty of opportunities.
He brought them back though, meaning he didn't use them, and his friends didn't need them.
I would assume that his friends ... (read in full...)
Am I right to be suspicious of her behaviour?
Q. I have been going out with my girlfriend for over three years now but i have recently been having doubts. My girlfriend has always been quite friendly with other guys (being in a male dominated profession) and she is also quite flirty (friendl...
A. 25 June 2010: DERHERHARHAR, q
Love always,
SY ... (read in full...)
Am I right to be suspicious of her behaviour?
Q. I have been going out with my girlfriend for over three years now but i have recently been having doubts. My girlfriend has always been quite friendly with other guys (being in a male dominated profession) and she is also quite flirty (friendl...
A. 25 June 2010: "There might be something personal from my family" is straight up oscar mayer, dude. ... (read in full...)
How can I tell him that I supported him by working as a prostitute?
Q. Our parents were physically,emotionally and verbally abusive to me and my younger brother, so when I was 18 I moved out and took him with me. In order to support me and him I worked as a prostitute but I told him I worked the night shift in a food ...
A. 25 June 2010: I understand and apllaud your guilt and attemps at giving him a better life. I appreciate your selflessness. However, Telling him that you supported him by being a prostitute would only disappoint him, and relieve you of your guilt. You are a... (read in full...)
I had a dream my boyfriend cheated and my emotions are driving him away!
Q. I had a serious dream that my boyfriend was cheating on me with some chick. i've been suspisious but now its driving me crazy. what should i do he says i'm too emotional for him...
A. 25 June 2010: You probably had a dream about it, because you were suspicious; not because it's a premonition.
I have dreams almost every night like that, although I know my husband is not cheating on me.
Just remember, that it doesn't do any good to ask him ... (read in full...)
It's like she likes me, but is too shy to be herself near me. How can I approach her?
Q. I have a feeling this shy girl I like a lot in high school likes me back but I'm a bit confused. Here are some things she does ( Sorry about the length) : 1. I catch her looking at me but she will quickly look away if I look her way and she acts...
A. 25 June 2010: I think.. she is one of them trees who lost a couple leaves and will spend 80 years trying to pick them up even though she can't bend. Combine that with being one of those quarters that rolls around on the floor for like.. EVER and every SINGLE time ... (read in full...)
Why is he locking himself in the bathroom with his laptop?
Q. This guy and i have been together for over a year now. i thought everything was going fine. now he locks himself in the bathroom with his laptop. is he cheating or am i just paranoid?...
A. 25 June 2010: I would assume he is punishing his monkey with a spanking. ... (read in full...)
I'm 10 weeks pregnant but I don't feel anything towards this baby...why?
Q. Hi guys, Im wondering if anyone has gone through anything similar. I've been with my boyfriend for just under a year now, and everything is perfect with us. I know we're meant to be together. And although it wasn't planned, I found out I pregnant. ...
A. 25 June 2010: Ten weeks is a very short time to be pregnant. You still have about 30 weeks to go. Most people don't find out until 10 or so weeks into the pregnancey. You have no reason to feel a bond with it yet. You can't feel that it's there in any way, or see ... (read in full...)
Do I tell him that I'm not a virgin?
Q. I just want to ask dat im nt a virgin, should i tell my boy friend about my secret b'coz we r planning to get married.Sometimes, i feel dat i should tell him the truth b'coz i feel embarrace dat i m not loyal to him.. Plz suggest me. Thanx.....
A. 25 June 2010: I don't know about your culture?
What would happen if you told him? Normally I would say that of course you should be honest with him. However, I would not want you to be shunned or broken down because of this.
So what would happen? ... (read in full...)
How often do you see your boyfriend or girlfriend?
Q. I really hate spending a whole day without my boyfriend. I hate the thought of going for a day without him and when he's gone I miss him so bad. Whatsmore is that with my exes I often used to go days on end without them and relied on msn but my ...
A. 25 June 2010: You're just way into him :)
When I was your age (ok, so I am your age)... when I was first dating my husband, I could hardly go a nano-second without seeing him. (sucked when basic training came around). I saw him after school, after work, I ... (read in full...)
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