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I am 53yrs old and got married for the first time at the age of 42. I am now in a pending divorce.
I have been completely on my own since I was 18 yrs old. I came from a very strict family, which also means that I was sheltered from the world, and was very naive at that age.
When left home, I had tons of adverse & dangerous experiences, and had to learn everything the hard way ... alone.
When I read a question that reminds me of an event that was in my life, or the life of a friend, I reply honestly, empathy, and to THE POINT.
We ALL need advice from time to time, that is how I found this wonderful website, because I also needed help.
So here we are... friends who probably will never meet each other face to face, but who are of great value to each other. I appreciate all of you! Thank you for helping me with my questions, and I'll try my best to answer yours, while looking out for your interests, also. |
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Is she confused, scared or have commitment issues?
Q. I am writing this because I am currently at a point where I do not know what to do. My girlfriend and I broke up two weeks ago and I have given her the space she has needed however it is still hard to understand why she broke up. We have some ...
A. 14 February 2008: You always see eye to eye? WOW, that must scare her even more! To meet her soulmate, and being afraid of being hurt by you. Hang on my friend, it will be like "Taming a wild horse" LoL ... except THIS horse isn't 'wild', just scared.
Good Luck... (read in full...)
Is she confused, scared or have commitment issues?
Q. I am writing this because I am currently at a point where I do not know what to do. My girlfriend and I broke up two weeks ago and I have given her the space she has needed however it is still hard to understand why she broke up. We have some ...
A. 13 February 2008: I have had the same emotional problems as your girlfriend. So I feel as though I can shed some light on this issue.
It sounds to me as though she is afraid of getting hurt, so therefore she wants to throw the first punch. Make sense?
I will giv... (read in full...)
Is God the reason my answers aren't being posted?
Q. I don't understand. I've responded with reasonable answers to reasonable questions on this site and my answers are not being posted. Has anyone else had that problem? I've responded to some questions that are very meaningful to me becuase I've ...
A. 13 February 2008: I beleive in God too. But I don't stand on a "soap-box" preaching.
There are different ways to spread the word of God. One of them is to give advice to people that you think that God would approve of.
Another way is that you can sort of quote th... (read in full...)
Work mate said he wanted me, but he is married! HELP!
Q. Dear Aunts... Well i have a little problem.. I have been seeing some one from work! We havent actually done anything and i dont know what he wants.. It started like this.. A couple of weeks ago i was out in town with a friend and we seen some people ...
A. 13 February 2008: Honey... Leave a married man alone. It is not in your best interest, trust me.
There are many factors you should consider when dealing with a married man:
He could just want a fling on the side. You never know, you may NOT be the first or the l... (read in full...)
She did things with her ex, that I haven't experienced before. How can I handle this situation?
Q. hi, i need help. about one or two months into my relationship with my girlfriend, she hinted at an event in her past that sounded like she was sexually assaulted. seeing as i care a lot about her, i have always been very cautious when it came to ...
A. 13 February 2008: If she doesn't want to have anal sex anymore, apparently she never liked it in the first place. So, don't pressure her into doing it with you, or she may become resentful.
To me, that part of the anatomy is for only one purpose, ya know? I thin... (read in full...)
Site News: We hit another milestone :-)
Q. For the first time we broke the 400,000 visitors mark over the past month! We had 412,222 people visit the site from Jan 13th 08 - Feb 14th 08 according to google analytics! Thanks to all the mods, the aunts and everyone who shares their pro...
A. 13 February 2008: That is Great News Andrew! I love this website, I found it by accident because I had a problem that I needed solved, and the "Agony Aunts" really helped me.
It also gives me something to do in my spare time, to help keep it going. It has beco... (read in full...)
I don't wanna be in love!!! Pleasssse help!!
Q. There's this one guy that I like a lot but he's what people would consider a dork but he's really nice and hilarious. All my friends give me weird looks whenever they see him. You don't understand how many times I've tried to give up on him!!! I ...
A. 13 February 2008: P.S. I just wanted to add....Be STRONG enough to have your OWN MIND!... (read in full...)
I don't feel like doing things for my fiancee and she's pregnant, am I unhappy? What should I do?
Q. I don't feel like doing things for my fiancee and she's pregnant, am I unhappy? What should I do?...
A. 13 February 2008: I don't want to offend you, but you want honesty?
Well it sounds to me as though you are a little on the selfish side. You don't like doing things for her? Well maybe she doesn't like doing things for you either... but she does things for you out ... (read in full...)
I don't wanna be in love!!! Pleasssse help!!
Q. There's this one guy that I like a lot but he's what people would consider a dork but he's really nice and hilarious. All my friends give me weird looks whenever they see him. You don't understand how many times I've tried to give up on him!!! I ...
A. 13 February 2008: You can't expect other people to have the same likes and dislikes as you.
I had a friend that I used to hang out with, she would always make comments about guys like "Look at him, isn't he HOT!!!" I never thought any of the guys that she poin... (read in full...)
I feel like a "Homewrecker" should I tell his wife?
Q. Firstly I want everyone to know that this wasn't planned it just happened. I'm a uni student and to make some extra cash I began babysitting for a local couple. They're a great family but the father, who is 28, I was told was a bit of a player. ...
A. 11 February 2008: I would NOT tell his wife if I were you.
I have been in situations that other girl's husbands or boyfriends were attracted to me and actively after me. I never did anything, but I felt that the women should know, so I warned them about their man.... (read in full...)
Deluded dating vs real dating..friends with benefits...
Q. i met a guy over the internet for sex. it was first name basis, it was midnight, and it was fantastic. i only do one night stands once in a blue moon, and they are rarely so good. and afterwards, he really wanted me to stay the night. i know the ...
A. 11 February 2008: I was the last anonymous...I accidently clicked onto the anonymous box...LoL
Congradulations! I am very happy for you! Yay! I'm glad he finally WOKE UP for you!... (read in full...)
I'm playing a "dangerous game" with a married man. Do I stop this BEFORE anyone gets hurt?
Q. Im playing a dangerous game, thats how he put it. Flirting (its both sided) with a married man. we talk about sex all the time and get on well generally. last night he text me saying "do you think we're playing a dangerous game?" i replied with...
A. 11 February 2008: GOOD GIRL!!!... (read in full...)
I'm playing a "dangerous game" with a married man. Do I stop this BEFORE anyone gets hurt?
Q. Im playing a dangerous game, thats how he put it. Flirting (its both sided) with a married man. we talk about sex all the time and get on well generally. last night he text me saying "do you think we're playing a dangerous game?" i replied with...
A. 8 February 2008: An attractive young woman, flirting with a married man, is not harmless.
There are 2 types of cheating. Physical, and Emotional. And when a man starts having a lot of contact with a female outside of his Marriage... via texts, phone calls, emai... (read in full...)
I'm playing a "dangerous game" with a married man. Do I stop this BEFORE anyone gets hurt?
Q. Im playing a dangerous game, thats how he put it. Flirting (its both sided) with a married man. we talk about sex all the time and get on well generally. last night he text me saying "do you think we're playing a dangerous game?" i replied with...
A. 8 February 2008: I was going to put my answer in as anonymous, but I want you to see my face. LoL.
You need a spanking! But the best I can do is scold you. What kind of woman ARE you to do this to another woman? The answer is : Heartless and disrespectful.
Stop ... (read in full...)
I'm fed up with how my partner's treating me, and I'm scared for my daughter. Any advice?
Q. Hi everyone, I have been having sex with a man since i was 15 (same year i went to college). He is the only man i have been with though he has a lot of girlfirends and have sex with many people. Anyway, I am 23 years old now working as a nurse.I ...
A. 6 February 2008: Oh my God!
"He said that it was only until he got a job. He said that no man would want a ugly woman with a baby and that I am lucky I have him."?????
He has you brain washed! Honey, I won't write anymore after this. Please check out the link tha... (read in full...)
I'm fed up with how my partner's treating me, and I'm scared for my daughter. Any advice?
Q. Hi everyone, I have been having sex with a man since i was 15 (same year i went to college). He is the only man i have been with though he has a lot of girlfirends and have sex with many people. Anyway, I am 23 years old now working as a nurse.I ...
A. 6 February 2008: Here is an educational article for you to look at... It is about the psychological games and other info about pimps...
http://www.ontheissuesmagazine.com/pimping.htm
You may have to 'copy and paste'
Take care! :)... (read in full...)
I'm fed up with how my partner's treating me, and I'm scared for my daughter. Any advice?
Q. Hi everyone, I have been having sex with a man since i was 15 (same year i went to college). He is the only man i have been with though he has a lot of girlfirends and have sex with many people. Anyway, I am 23 years old now working as a nurse.I ...
A. 6 February 2008: Honey, You have a career as a Nurse, GREAT! That means that you don't have to depend on anyone for financial support. And, also, that you are not STUCK someplace that you don't want to be.
The man you are with, is doing absolutely NOTHING for you,... (read in full...)
Met him on the net and there is a 14 year age differance. Should I meet him in real life?
Q. Right i been talkin to this guy for a while now. We met over the internet n originally age wasnt mentioned i thought he was roughly in his 20's and he thought i was about 19. We both later found out eachothers real ages, he's 31 this year, im 17 ...
A. 5 February 2008: You never REALLY know who you are talking to on the internet.
Could be a rapist, serial killer, etc.
My neighbor (a woman) used to portray herself as a 30yr old, and in reality, she was 67. But she had several 'boyfriends' that she kept in conta... (read in full...)
This boy at school has taken flirting too far. What do I do?
Q. I'm a 13 year old girl. This boy in my class has been bugging/flirting with me ever since school started. I have barely even talked to him before and I think he took the meaning of flirting to the next level. One time I was talking to my friend by ...
A. 5 February 2008: Is this a Joke? How many different times are you going to keep posting different versions of this story? ... (read in full...)
I am a 13yr old girl, I want to run away from home
Q. I'm a 13 year old girl. I feel like running away because this has been going on so long. I feel like I have no friends anymore and everyone in my grade probably hates me. And I feel like my family doesen't love me. What do i do?...
A. 5 February 2008: When I was your age, I was picked on by other kids. I was called names, and I had to physically fight all the time, to defend myself. My homelife wasn't great either. My Stepfather had a used car business, and I had work there every weekend and ... (read in full...)
How do I handle an Old Man being after me?
Q. My Friend's Grandad Likes Me I Found Out Because He Text Me Telling Me . I Dont No What To Do ?? I've Avoided Him Ever Since He Stopped Me On The Road Too. Please Help Me ...
A. 5 February 2008: Let your Parents know what is going on. Don't keep things like this a secret. The sooner you tell your parents, the sooner it can be stopped!
... (read in full...)
I am fighting feelings for her, what can I do?
Q. OK, so 1 of my best friends have really liked me for a long time now. When I'm around her, I sometimes get feelings for her too. When she told me thet she had a crush on me, I thought nothing of it, until last week when she said it had progressed in ...
A. 5 February 2008: I gave you the wrong advise, I failed to notice your age and gender.
I cannot advise on those kind of feelings for someone of the same gender, since I have never been there.
Sorry.... (read in full...)
I am fighting feelings for her, what can I do?
Q. OK, so 1 of my best friends have really liked me for a long time now. When I'm around her, I sometimes get feelings for her too. When she told me thet she had a crush on me, I thought nothing of it, until last week when she said it had progressed in ...
A. 5 February 2008: My boyfriend is 12 yrs younger than me, and we have been together for 3 yrs now, and still going strong! At first I felt insecure because of the age difference, but through his continuing reassurances, I have finally gotten past it.
If the age diff... (read in full...)
How can I get past his affair?
Q. hello there my name is carla, 6 weeks ago i found out my husband has been having an affair for 8 months, he finished the affair because he felt so bad and dosnt know really how he got into it, i had an operation and had a great deal of pan and i ...
A. 5 February 2008: This happened to a friend of mine. Except it was a little different...
My friend was going through a 'problem' pregnancy and had to pretty much stay in bed throughout the whole time, which means she couldn't have sex either.
Meanwhile, her husband ... (read in full...)
She will not stop being friends with a male friend I dislike... is her love not as much as mine is for her?
Q. why is my gf acting this way. we've been dating for a year now...silly things wants her to stop the relationship. i love her to death and she's the only girl i want cannot imagine my life without her. it happened like 5 times she want to put an ...
A. 5 February 2008: I know exactly how you feel, and I've reacted the same as you in the same type of situations.
But, a lot of people don't feel the same as us. Other people think that there is nothing wrong with being good friends with someone of the opposite gend... (read in full...)
At times I do get insecure and find relationships difficult; he finds this explanation of my feelings a blackball against him, any advice?
Q. I have been having a few arguments with my boyfriend of 8 months just lately. I have had a lot of bad relationships in the past and been treated badly. I try not to take it out on my boyfriend but if I have issues I tell him but he thinks im just ...
A. 4 February 2008: I have had a Ton of bad relationships. In fact, I can honestly say, that every relationship has not been good. But, still, I look at every relationship as someone new, and I make a huge effort to give this new person a fair chance.
Think of it as a... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my step-daughter!!! What do I do?
Q. ive fallen in love with my stepdaughter and dont know what to do...
A. 4 February 2008: My Stepfather was AFTER me, and it grossed me out, because I thought of him as my Dad. In fact, I left home at the age of 18 because of him. He was always trying to corner me, and kiss me, and I hated it.
Your stepdaughter views you as her fath... (read in full...)
Her lack of education bothers me, should it?
Q. Hi ladies and gents in the hood outta ther, happy new year. As 2007 came to an end I felt alittle bored with our relationship and was nolonger sure how long i was to conttinue with my girlfriend. 2008 came with a whole new adventure and i feel u ...
A. 4 February 2008: I am not 'College Educated', yet I have always dated guys who were. Does it really matter to you? If so, then Love is not superficial. When you love someone, you accept who they are.
You sound as though she makes you happy. Well then... rela... (read in full...)
Do women only like muscular bodies? - I'm thin.
Q. hey there, i have a big problem which is affecting my overall life and here it is i would like to share with you hoping that i may get your kind advises; i am thin thin thin...and my being thin is affecting my confidence to approach women whom i ...
A. 4 February 2008: I've read Success Stories in Weight Lifting Magazines about guys who were thin, then built themselves up. I am not saying that it is necessary to look like the guys in those types of magazines. To tell you the truth, I think that they are extreme, ... (read in full...)
I don't have any friends. Help!
Q. I don't have any friends. I tend to tune out most people, and only make strong connections with a few people. It's hard for me to make chit-chat, I like to talk about real things, deep things, or clever things, but I'm also somewhat depress...
A. 4 February 2008: OOPS! I didn't notice that you are a guy... forget about the cookies.... LoL... But then again, my older brother who is a "BRUTE" ( 6'5 - 300lbs ) Cooks and bakes cookies :)... (read in full...)
I don't have any friends. Help!
Q. I don't have any friends. I tend to tune out most people, and only make strong connections with a few people. It's hard for me to make chit-chat, I like to talk about real things, deep things, or clever things, but I'm also somewhat depress...
A. 4 February 2008: You sound a lot like me. Yes, there are other people out there who are like you, you are not ODD! LoL.
There is nothing wrong with being choosy of who you pick as friends. As the cliche goes:"What a man is REALLY LIKE, you can see it in the frie... (read in full...)
Any thoughts about my flirting with this older, married man at work? Can't stop thinking about him.
Q. Hey okay this is a complicated one, there's this guy at work and we are really close friends outside of work. We have a really good relationship both in and out of work and we tell each other a hell of alot of stuff. Basically he phones me...
A. 3 February 2008: Honey...There are a lot of dogs out there, who whould love to mess around with a young attactive single female. Don't let a married man use you just for sex. Plus, since you work with him, and after he is through with you, and he goes on to the next ... (read in full...)
I am 13 and I am afraid of my 54 yr old Therepist
Q. I'm a 13 year old girl. I've been really sad for quite a long time so my Mom got me to talk to a counseller. I've been seeing him for a couple months now and yesterday when I saw him I felt really uncomfortable. So he's 54 and I'm only 13. I was ...
A. 1 February 2008: Anytime you feel uncomfortable about something like this, Don't keep it a secret. Tell your Mom, and request a Famale Therapist.
Go with your instincts. There are a lot of creepy people out there. He sounds like one of them.
A friend of mine had... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my sister
Q. Hi I have a problem. I'm 16, and I'm in love with my 14 year old sister. At first I thought it was just hormones, but it's been 4 years and I still feel the same way. Also I think she already knows, but I can't be sure. Help! ...
A. 1 February 2008: I love really my boyfriend, my friends, animals, my Brother, my sister, etc.
I agree with the other posts, that you are confused. There are different types of Love. Feeling that you are "in Love" with your sister HAS to be incorrect, due to the ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my sister
Q. Hi I have a problem. I'm 16, and I'm in love with my 14 year old sister. At first I thought it was just hormones, but it's been 4 years and I still feel the same way. Also I think she already knows, but I can't be sure. Help! ...
A. 1 February 2008: I love really my boyfriend, my friends, animals, my Brother, my sister, etc.
I agree with the other posts, that you are confused. There are different types of Love. Feeling that you are "in Love" with your sister HAS to be incorrect, due to the ... (read in full...)
He found messages from another guy on my phone, but I'm innocent, how can I get things back to normal?
Q. I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about two months (I’m 27, he’s 25). Everything has been going really, really well, until about 3 days ago. He went into my cell phone and found text messages from another guy. There were two series of ...
A. 1 February 2008: Here is the opinion from someone who is traditional... Offending you is not my intention...But...
I don't want to sound cynical, but if things are sooo innocent, how did this guy get your phone number in the first place? If you are really into... (read in full...)
He found messages from another guy on my phone, but I'm innocent, how can I get things back to normal?
Q. I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about two months (I’m 27, he’s 25). Everything has been going really, really well, until about 3 days ago. He went into my cell phone and found text messages from another guy. There were two series of ...
A. 1 February 2008: Here is the opinion from someone who is traditional... Offending you is not my intention...But...
I don't want to sound cynical, but if things are sooo innocent, how did this guy get your phone number in the first place? If you are really into... (read in full...)
Should I give blow jobs at parties because all my friends do it?
Q. i am 16 and go to quite a lot of parties with people my age (house parties) whenever i go all my friends go and give head (blow jobs) and seem to think nothing of it. and some of then often have the favour returned. i am th eonly one who doesn't ...
A. 30 January 2008: My Mother always taught me to have a mind of my own. Her favorate cliche'(saying) was,"If your friends jumped off a bridge, would you follow?"
Honey, Be your own person. Don't do something JUST BECAUSE other people do it.
You sound like the kind... (read in full...)
Should I give blow jobs at parties because all my friends do it?
Q. i am 16 and go to quite a lot of parties with people my age (house parties) whenever i go all my friends go and give head (blow jobs) and seem to think nothing of it. and some of then often have the favour returned. i am th eonly one who doesn't ...
A. 30 January 2008: My Mother always taught me to have a mind of my own. Her favorate cliche'(saying) was,"If your friends jumped off a bridge, would you follow?"
Honey, Be your own person. Don't do something JUST BECAUSE other people do it.
You sound like the kind... (read in full...)
What is a good diet to loose weight?
Q. Hey My Boyfriend And I Have An 'Intimate' Relationship... However I Feel Self Consious About My Tummy. I Am Not OverWeight Like Loads But I Am Not A Szie 6 Either :( I Have Been Thinking About Going On A Diet Of Rice Crackers (( You Know The...
A. 29 January 2008: I went on a diet and lost 40 pounds. It was a low sugar and low carbohydrate diet. Plus of course, excersize. The theory to stay away from foods that raise your blood sugar level too high.... Such as White Rice, anything made with rice, an... (read in full...)
How can I get over my body image issues ?
Q. I've always had body image issues, it's quite embarrassing. Ever since I was a kid I had bad self esteem, because my mom wouldn't let me wear my hair long (I had long hair up to when I was like 4 years old, but my mom got sick of me crying when s...
A. 29 January 2008: No matter how smart you are...There will always be someone smarter than you.
No matter how pretty you are...There will always be someone prettier than you.
No matter how talented you may be... there will always be someone with even MORE talent. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriends best friend makes me horny!
Q. hey people.... i really need help... basically,theres this boy iv liked for SOO long,and he knows it,,but now im going out with his best friend,he doesnt know about this,and at school he comes up to me ,,,and touches my but and stuff,,and it ma...
A. 29 January 2008: If you crave another guy other than your boyfriend, then evidently you should no longer be with your boyfriend. Get rid of your boyfriend first, before you do anything with someone else.
I am not being judgemental, but are you sure that you want... (read in full...)
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