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He's asked me out on a date but he's so effeminate!!!

Q.   Hey, I have been talking to this dude for about a week. Get on great with him! Hes lovely, hes really funny and quite ambitious. The thing is, hes quite feminine, haha. I think hes gay like! And he did ask he out on two days ago for a date. Now ...

A.   7 March 2011: To person12345, I do like, I just think that he is gay. To mishmash, Hes 24, so hes 5 years older than me. I kinda know hes not gay, like his cousin is gay, half our friends are gay or bisexual. There would be no problem to come out at all!... (read in full...)

Is he not interested in my replies?

Q.   I hate what he is doin'.when he txts me, i reply, but when i reply he takes long time to txt again, is he not interested with ma replies.this guy told me that he loves me.but i said no to him.now i'm catching feelings for him.is he really ...

A.   7 March 2011: Well, I talk to a guy, we both like eachother, and he mightn't txt back til about an hour later. It doesn't mean anything, as I know hes busy. I hate it when people get all upset because you haven't reply instantly. Like give him some time. He ... (read in full...)

Why am I attracting these losers at the pub?

Q.   I go out to a local pub in town most friday nights to see a friend play in his band. I enjoy going, but for some reason, I seem to be atracting scum, players and old dudes. Am I giving these people that impression? I am not a slutty person at all! I ...

A.   13 October 2009: Ok firstly, I dont judge people. Iam always nice to new people. And when i say old, I mean old, like in the fortys. I wouldnt class people like you mentioned as dull etc., i love art, and iam far from boring haha. I was simple saying that there are ... (read in full...)

He will not stop going on about having sex with me!

Q.   Well theres this dude and hes really nice and confident. He got my number and started to txt me. It was all grand until he was started trying to persuede me to have sex with him! like i dunno if he was serious but he like wouldnt let it go. I am not ...

A.   19 September 2009: Well anonymousmale1, you make a hell lot of sense! I will definitly do what your suggesting. He totally ignored me when i saw him 2 days ago but is txting me now! Like what the hell? thanks again. oh ye and thanks emilyanswers x... (read in full...)

Please tell me to go see a doctor immediately..

Q.   Hey, another probable. This is kinda embaressing. Emmmm, today i have noticed after going to the loo, that the water was all bright red!!! This has never happened before. Lately its been difficult going to the loo. Well not diffficult, more...

A.   27 August 2009: Tisha-1, Iam getting the feeling that your trying to tell me something by the link you left!? How could they be related? I do appericate everyones help.... (read in full...)

Please tell me to go see a doctor immediately..

Q.   Hey, another probable. This is kinda embaressing. Emmmm, today i have noticed after going to the loo, that the water was all bright red!!! This has never happened before. Lately its been difficult going to the loo. Well not diffficult, more...

A.   27 August 2009: Is it really necessary? It was only one time! Will I wait and see how it goes or will I just go?... (read in full...)

How do you get rid of an oily back?

Q.   Hey again lads! Just wondering if any1 knows about oily backs. I am going to two debs in about 2 weeks. It kinda runs in my family, we all have kinda oilyish backs! Its very annoying and basicly i am just asking if any1 knows how to get rid of it...

A.   27 August 2009: Hey, thanks. Will try that!... (read in full...)

If I'm so "hot", why don't I have many boyfriends, or even offers!!

Q.   Hey lads, new question. Iam a bit confused at the mo. I am 17 right. I have only had two boyfriends, they lasted a good while, 7 months and 1 year! I always thought I wasnt really pretty, but recently, talking to my sister, she has said that ...

A.   23 August 2009: Hey lads, we all make alot of sense! Thank you Werenotincontrol5, haha i love that song and thanks, dont worry, i do respect myself. Thanks lads... (read in full...)

Is he like only using me?

Q.   Well again, There is this dude I fancy. He is in a local band in my area, and i found out he likes me! But alot of people say hes a player, and I totally agree with them, he does get around haha. But its little things he does that makes me think t...

A.   17 August 2009: Ok, you do have a good point! And i havent lowered my standards! I wouldnt for anyone. And what do you mean "Girls need to do more to make a guy deserve them" I dont know what to do. ... (read in full...)

Is what I'm doing harmful longterm?

Q.   Recently, I have been taking painkillers, like a mixture of paracetamol and nurofen. I'd take as many as 5-9. I get really unwell, and might even throw up. But now I am taking them because they make me sleep. Is what I'm doing bad? How does it ...

A.   15 August 2009: Ok, well thanks lad! Appericate it... (read in full...)

Could I be bisexual?

Q.   (i am a 16 year old girl)ok, so for the past year now i have been questioning my sexuality. i have gone out with one guy before and that was cause i have never gone out with anyone before. that was in 8th grade and then i had to break up with him. ...

A.   11 August 2009: wel, in my opinion, you are curious. your young,and at the age of wanting to expertince many things, now i have no problem with bisexuals,i have many bi friends. i think your just trying to find something you like. dont set your sexual orie... (read in full...)

Is it wrong for girls to watch porn?

Q.   Another problem for ye. People think its weird if you/a girl watches porn. I personaly think its natural and everyone should be doing it!! Is there something wrong with me? Or is it them? Am I normal? Is it wrong to look at those kind of things? ...

A.   4 August 2009: lol omg. animal farm!! what the hell you watching that for lol. its brill though... (read in full...)

Is it wrong for girls to watch porn?

Q.   Another problem for ye. People think its weird if you/a girl watches porn. I personaly think its natural and everyone should be doing it!! Is there something wrong with me? Or is it them? Am I normal? Is it wrong to look at those kind of things? ...

A.   4 August 2009: Animal Farm!!?!! i will thanks. Its not people doing animals now is it? and again thank you every1 for your helpful advice ... (read in full...)

Is it wrong for girls to watch porn?

Q.   Another problem for ye. People think its weird if you/a girl watches porn. I personaly think its natural and everyone should be doing it!! Is there something wrong with me? Or is it them? Am I normal? Is it wrong to look at those kind of things? ...

A.   3 August 2009: Ok omg at crackheadsgonewild, a porn collection!! Thats a bit much. Especially if your friends too have a collection. WTF... (read in full...)

Is it wrong for girls to watch porn?

Q.   Another problem for ye. People think its weird if you/a girl watches porn. I personaly think its natural and everyone should be doing it!! Is there something wrong with me? Or is it them? Am I normal? Is it wrong to look at those kind of things? ...

A.   3 August 2009: Ye i agree with you. You need porn to 'get off'. And ye all make good points! I actually recently found out two of my girl cousins watch porn and they were like me! Afraid to tell people incase they think little of them... (read in full...)

Will I ever get over the fear of being intamate? I can't kiss

Q.   Ok, i dont know whats wrong with me! I hate getting close to dudes, like being in a relationship. I cant stand the thought of having to be intimate with another person. Like ye sex looks good, but i can never imagine myself doing that kind of stuff ...

A.   2 August 2009: Thanks lads. But how are you even able to find that perfect some1? All of the nice dudes are with people already. There is this dude from a local band who is the lead singer, that i have recently taken interest in, but i heard alot od dudes in bands ... (read in full...)

Is it wrong for girls to watch porn?

Q.   Another problem for ye. People think its weird if you/a girl watches porn. I personaly think its natural and everyone should be doing it!! Is there something wrong with me? Or is it them? Am I normal? Is it wrong to look at those kind of things? ...

A.   2 August 2009: Ok, ye do make alot of sense. But if its normal to watch porn, why does every1 say its dirty and derogetory to women? I it there choice, Why so girls treat it like a taboo subject?... (read in full...)

Is it wrong for girls to watch porn?

Q.   Another problem for ye. People think its weird if you/a girl watches porn. I personaly think its natural and everyone should be doing it!! Is there something wrong with me? Or is it them? Am I normal? Is it wrong to look at those kind of things? ...

A.   26 July 2009: thanks lads. glad to see someone agrees with me for once lol... (read in full...)

I'm tired of my fear of dating! Help!

Q.   Ok, I have a little problem. I'm afraid to go out with guys. I dont really know why. Well I do think that guys use us!! For sex and that we mean nothing at all. Just a time filler. I guess I want to know, is it true? Because I'm tired of being ...

A.   26 July 2009: well burns231, a do agree with you on the whole fact that girls do use boys aswell! everyone makes sense i suppose. i'll see what i can do lol. thanks ... (read in full...)

I'm addicted to porn and I'm female!

Q.   ok I am really starting to worry. I am a girl(16) and i have a boyfriend etc. I am like addicted to porn! seeing what people have wrote on this site, there so not as addicted as iam. i watch it like every single day!! i use to masterbate all the ...

A.   2 October 2008: brazzers!!! kool, will try. thanks xxx... (read in full...)

Do men prefer bigger breasts?

Q.   ok, silly question but do guys prefair big boobs?! my bf is happy with mine but i just wana know what the general outlook on boobs are?...

A.   2 October 2008: lol apple!!!!... (read in full...)

I'm addicted to porn and I'm female!

Q.   ok I am really starting to worry. I am a girl(16) and i have a boyfriend etc. I am like addicted to porn! seeing what people have wrote on this site, there so not as addicted as iam. i watch it like every single day!! i use to masterbate all the ...

A.   8 April 2008: okey dokey. thanx all :)... (read in full...)

What do lads think about girls/girlfriend watching porn, a lot???

Q.   What do lads think about girls/girlfriend watching porn, a lot!? I just want to know if ye have a problem with girls watching porn. Is it a turn off? I would really appreciate your comments!!!...

A.   8 April 2008: alrighty, ye all make sense. thanx very much :)... (read in full...)

I'm nervous to be seen naked by my boyfriend.

Q.   I really want to have sex with my boyfriend but I am kinda nervous being naked around him! I've tried to like get over it but it just wont go away! I really like my boyfriend and he would never force me to do anything I didnt like! I am dying to ...

A.   8 April 2008: i guest yer right!! thanx so much :)... (read in full...)

Can you be a virgin and have anal sex and get pregnant?

Q.   ok here goes I'm a virgin and had anal sex for the first time, now I'm having pregnancy syptoms like stomach pain, back ache, dizzness and nauseousness and I wonder am I pregnant? help me...

A.   4 April 2008: LJ, does that mean if you have anal sex, its still SEX and ur not a virgin!?! i dont think so!! I'am young and not that smart but technically, your hymen has to be broken in order for you not to be a virgin anymore. Iam saying Iam 100% right!! but ... (read in full...)

Can you be a virgin and have anal sex and get pregnant?

Q.   ok here goes I'm a virgin and had anal sex for the first time, now I'm having pregnancy syptoms like stomach pain, back ache, dizzness and nauseousness and I wonder am I pregnant? help me...

A.   31 March 2008: there is a difference between your anus and vagina!! having anal sex will not make u pregnant!! have you ever had sex education!?! have you read somewhere that u can get pregnant up the bum!? well u cant anyway. i know ur probly worried but unless ... (read in full...)

What do lads think about girls/girlfriend watching porn, a lot???

Q.   What do lads think about girls/girlfriend watching porn, a lot!? I just want to know if ye have a problem with girls watching porn. Is it a turn off? I would really appreciate your comments!!!...

A.   31 March 2008: Awesome kool! thanx all... (read in full...)

I'm addicted to porn and I'm female!

Q.   ok I am really starting to worry. I am a girl(16) and i have a boyfriend etc. I am like addicted to porn! seeing what people have wrote on this site, there so not as addicted as iam. i watch it like every single day!! i use to masterbate all the ...

A.   31 March 2008: I want to have sex with my bf so bad but iam always second guessing myself!! How the hell am I to get over it, and just have sex?... (read in full...)

I'm addicted to porn and I'm female!

Q.   ok I am really starting to worry. I am a girl(16) and i have a boyfriend etc. I am like addicted to porn! seeing what people have wrote on this site, there so not as addicted as iam. i watch it like every single day!! i use to masterbate all the ...

A.   29 March 2008: You see I am still a virgin! I want to have sex with my boyfriend but at the same time I am scared!! I want to get over it. I am dying to have sex!!!! We do mess around every time we see each other, but it's not enough.... (read in full...)

Do I have a drink problem?

Q.   ok, right a few nights ago i was drinking(alcohol) while watching T.V and I got a bit pissed and I started crying a hell lot! Is that normal? (it's not the first time it happened either!) Also, my friends think I have an addiction to alcohol, ...

A.   27 March 2008: to be honest i think my mum is an alcoholic but also there are sum days like twice a month without any drink and shes fine!! i dont really know what i think of that! and yes me drinking the way i do is probly influenced by my mum! iam shy in the s... (read in full...)

Do I have a drink problem?

Q.   ok, right a few nights ago i was drinking(alcohol) while watching T.V and I got a bit pissed and I started crying a hell lot! Is that normal? (it's not the first time it happened either!) Also, my friends think I have an addiction to alcohol, ...

A.   27 March 2008: ok u see, iam a really independent person, i dont care drinking on my own! iam happy to sit down, watch a film or sumthin and a have a drink. i suppose iam kinda used to it. my mum drinks everyday, she'd have a drink while watchen TV. i guess i ... (read in full...)

Do I have a drink problem?

Q.   ok, right a few nights ago i was drinking(alcohol) while watching T.V and I got a bit pissed and I started crying a hell lot! Is that normal? (it's not the first time it happened either!) Also, my friends think I have an addiction to alcohol, ...

A.   25 March 2008: what kind of "certain signs"?... (read in full...)

Do men prefer bigger breasts?

Q.   ok, silly question but do guys prefair big boobs?! my bf is happy with mine but i just wana know what the general outlook on boobs are?...

A.   25 March 2008: kool well iam a petit(iam 5'2 + slim) size 8 with C cup! but iam really pale!! ah well, ur born the way u are! and iam happy the way iam!... (read in full...)

Do men prefer bigger breasts?

Q.   ok, silly question but do guys prefair big boobs?! my bf is happy with mine but i just wana know what the general outlook on boobs are?...

A.   22 March 2008: ok, i think i get! Men like boobs and thats that! i know this gonna sound really silly! but do ye like tan girls to pale!? ... (read in full...)

Do I have a drink problem?

Q.   ok, right a few nights ago i was drinking(alcohol) while watching T.V and I got a bit pissed and I started crying a hell lot! Is that normal? (it's not the first time it happened either!) Also, my friends think I have an addiction to alcohol, ...

A.   22 March 2008: no i havent! but i'd be scared going. what if my mum found out!! i'd be dead... (read in full...)

Do I have a drink problem?

Q.   ok, right a few nights ago i was drinking(alcohol) while watching T.V and I got a bit pissed and I started crying a hell lot! Is that normal? (it's not the first time it happened either!) Also, my friends think I have an addiction to alcohol, ...

A.   21 March 2008: ye thats true! but i wana give up! but i cant... (read in full...)

Do I have a drink problem?

Q.   ok, right a few nights ago i was drinking(alcohol) while watching T.V and I got a bit pissed and I started crying a hell lot! Is that normal? (it's not the first time it happened either!) Also, my friends think I have an addiction to alcohol, ...

A.   20 March 2008: thanx for the advice but iam still going to mix drinks anyway!... (read in full...)

How do you know if your a lesbian/bisexual?

Q.   ok, I have another lil' prob. How do you know if your a lesbian/bisexual? (I have a boyfriend and like him a lot) Like when I watch porn, I watch lesbian porn only! There have been a few occasions where I have looked at a girl and said "I'd like t...

A.   20 March 2008: thats so kool!! i know what you mean by wanting to know how to well in my case give a lickout to a grl! anyway, i'll try that. awsome thanx... (read in full...)

I am a teenager having really bad luck with getting a girlfriend.

Q.   I am a teenager having really bad luck with getting a girlfriend. All the girls I have asked out have all said the same thing "your good as a friend... but nothing more" I'm wondering what i can do to get girls to even like me in that kind of ...

A.   20 March 2008: listen. whats the rush. like you have your whole life ahead of you and iam sure you. iam 16 now and for the first time i've had guys noticing me. i have a wonderful boyfriend and iam really happy. i was like you too but its worth the wait and the ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend wrote me a threatening email! How do I respond?

Q.   Boyfriend and I are arguing.He did somethign that hurt me and all day I waited for flowers and an apology or both. When I finally received an e-mail from him it was nasty and threatening. I don't know how to respond to that. I feel I should sh...

A.   20 March 2008: ye explain more! what kind of things did he say exactly?... (read in full...)

What do lads think about girls/girlfriend watching porn, a lot???

Q.   What do lads think about girls/girlfriend watching porn, a lot!? I just want to know if ye have a problem with girls watching porn. Is it a turn off? I would really appreciate your comments!!!...

A.   20 March 2008: i hope he doesnt think of me as a porn actress now! i could understand why!! i do tend to talk about sex alot!! honestly i should be a boy! i think about sex everyday. and i watch porn everyday!! i do like the whole amateur porn thing, i mostly ... (read in full...)

What do lads think about girls/girlfriend watching porn, a lot???

Q.   What do lads think about girls/girlfriend watching porn, a lot!? I just want to know if ye have a problem with girls watching porn. Is it a turn off? I would really appreciate your comments!!!...

A.   20 March 2008: ye i totally know what you mean. i was actually thinking if taught of me as a porn actress! but he didnt know much about me before we got together, it was only after we got together he i told him, i love porn and all that. i think iam a bit to open ... (read in full...)

Do I have a drink problem?

Q.   ok, right a few nights ago i was drinking(alcohol) while watching T.V and I got a bit pissed and I started crying a hell lot! Is that normal? (it's not the first time it happened either!) Also, my friends think I have an addiction to alcohol, ...

A.   19 March 2008: thanks for the advice, but i cant drink non-alco drinks with alco in it! i love my whisky and coke, oh yeah and my smirnoff mixed with bacardi (and sumtimes I'd add in whisky as well) and coke! yum yum ... (read in full...)

I'm addicted to porn and I'm female!

Q.   ok I am really starting to worry. I am a girl(16) and i have a boyfriend etc. I am like addicted to porn! seeing what people have wrote on this site, there so not as addicted as iam. i watch it like every single day!! i use to masterbate all the ...

A.   19 March 2008: No I don't suffer from acne!! How can you even get acne from watching porn???... (read in full...)

What do lads think about girls/girlfriend watching porn, a lot???

Q.   What do lads think about girls/girlfriend watching porn, a lot!? I just want to know if ye have a problem with girls watching porn. Is it a turn off? I would really appreciate your comments!!!...

A.   19 March 2008: But why do would some males want to watch there girlfriend masterbating or watching porn!! I don't get understand it!!?!! ... (read in full...)

What do lads think about girls/girlfriend watching porn, a lot???

Q.   What do lads think about girls/girlfriend watching porn, a lot!? I just want to know if ye have a problem with girls watching porn. Is it a turn off? I would really appreciate your comments!!!...

A.   19 March 2008: opps, iam terrible at explaining. I meant to say that my boyfriend asked could he watch me masterbate!! opps anyway ye, not sure tho!... (read in full...)

What do lads think about girls/girlfriend watching porn, a lot???

Q.   What do lads think about girls/girlfriend watching porn, a lot!? I just want to know if ye have a problem with girls watching porn. Is it a turn off? I would really appreciate your comments!!!...

A.   19 March 2008: totally amatuer is my fav! and to what stroller said, He even said it to me can he watch me watch porn and masterbate!!! not quite sure about the masterbating thing tho! Thanx all for da advice. ... (read in full...)

I'm addicted to porn and I'm female!

Q.   ok I am really starting to worry. I am a girl(16) and i have a boyfriend etc. I am like addicted to porn! seeing what people have wrote on this site, there so not as addicted as iam. i watch it like every single day!! i use to masterbate all the ...

A.   16 March 2008: thanx for the advice! oh ye the dude who asked for how long, just about 1 hour to 2 hours, once a day! is that to much?... (read in full...)

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