Husband is complacent, and I am fliriting with a co worker.
Q. I have been married for 3 years now and I love my husband very much. There is a problem and I do not know how to overcome it. I have been gaining feelings for a coworker and I know that my coworker feels the same, we are always flirting and I cannot ...
A. 30 March 2016: I completely agree with honeypie. You are blaming your husband for a failing that is COMPLETELY your own. If you have having trouble in your marriage, you make a commitment to work on it - hence the word "commitment" again. You dont take the easy ... (read in full...)
If I stop smoking weed will I stop having gay thoughts?
Q. Okay. So I'm a 20 year old male. I have always been straight. I masturbated a lot in the last 2 years, excessively to straight/lesbiano porn. I smoked lots of weed in my day and realized I can't really get hard while high or drunk. About 8 months ...
A. 29 March 2016: I am a raging heterosexual, and I find weed only makes that more so.
If you are having gay thoughts under weed, my guess is you may be gay.... (read in full...)
Will my wife ever have a threesome?
Q. My wife and I are married for 5years. I am a sex crazy person and my wife was traditional Indian. I always wanted to watch my wife in bed with other guys. I told her my fantasy during sex and she got turned on extremely. She has never watched porn ...
A. 29 March 2016: If you want to end a marriage in divorce, a threesome is an awesome idea.... (read in full...)
How much does dating actually cost?
Q. So, I was telling my roommate about my plans to build a new computer and media center for the living room, and he told me I should get a girlfriend (instead of appreciating my contributions to the house). While he might or might not be right, I ...
A. 29 March 2016: As a man, dating absolutely costs you. Marriage typically costs you more. From a purely evolutionary perspective, a man looks at a woman for her reproductive potential, a woman looks at a man for his resources. If you view almost all ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend seemed too interested in my friend during our threesome
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 3 years and have had a great sex life with lots of experimentation as we both have high sex drives. He has always wanted to have a threesome so I, having had two previous good experiences with thr...
A. 29 March 2016: I mean - a threesome in an otherwise long term relationship. What could possibly go wrong?... (read in full...)
My husband left me after 20 years of marriage saying he needs to be by himself
Q. Am I a fool He has left me after 20 years of marriage He know he has been treating the family badly He said he still love will look after us I will never be alone But need to be by him self Every one is in shock He away told every on...
A. 22 March 2016: Generally people do not do something of this magnitude without a well thought out exit strategy.
My guess is he is looking elsewhere.... (read in full...)
My wife says she has feelings for her boss!
Q. 2 days back me and my wife were having casual discussion and my wife informed that she is having feelings for her boss. I was stunned to hear this. She further said that she is feeling for him for past 3-4 months. She said she wanted to control her ...
A. 22 March 2016: He makes more money than you probably. Its just like a man leaving is wife for a younger woman. Not ethical, but evolutionary consistent.... (read in full...)
Should I help my son financially?
Q. My son is 28, and has basically never worked. I'm soooo disappointed in him, I can't begin to say. He hasn't spoken to me in over a year.He doesn't respond to phone calls, emails, texts, or anything. He thinks I belittle him because when I was i...
A. 22 March 2016: Do not give him a single dime. For one, things that are given are really never appreciated. More importantly, you will be creating a dependent cripple out of him. The only way to learn responsibility is to be responsible for something, even if ... (read in full...)
Can a man be too romantic? That's why my girlfriend broke up with me
Q. Hi,am thirty five,an my girlfriend just broke up with me,after six months,I treated her really good, she said the reason for breaking up with me is, am to romantic,am not a challenge, should I just move on,or try to win her back....
A. 22 March 2016: Yes, you can be. Your girlfriend basically told you she wants an alpha, not a beta. Be appreciative that she was so honest - she gave you very valuable information. ... (read in full...)
I need help controlling my urges
Q. Hello aunts, I have an embarrassing yet difficult question to ask. I have been with my wife for about five years and everything is great, yet I have a vice that is difficult to control. I hate to say it, but I like to watch my wife with other ...
A. 21 March 2016: I have heard of this before, but never understood it. Cuckhold fantasies are just baffling to me. I wish you could expand on this further just for clarification.... (read in full...)
Blocked by my ex and his new girlfriend. How do I make things better?
Q. How do I make this situation better? My ex and his new girlfriend fell out with me big time. I tried to talk them round - but they didn't want to know. So I got annoyed and sent them 1 or 2 nasty anonymous text messages - but they guessed it was ...
A. 21 March 2016: Move on. You are acting childish, and frankly are making a fool of yourself.... (read in full...)
Am I too boring to ever get a girlfriend?
Q. Lately I've been thinking about future relationships and stuff, and it's just hit me that even if I did get a girlfriend, I would have no idea what to do with her. I do not like the bar or club scene at all. I cannot and do not like to dance...
A. 21 March 2016: That you even ask the question tells me you are not aggressive or confident enough to generally attract women. Take charge, be confident, and approach with the expectation that she will be interested. Sulk in the corner about being too boring and ... (read in full...)
Would it be a bad idea to text him? There was no formal goodbye to our relationship
Q. I dated someone for a month, which ended two months ago. There was no formal goodbye. The communication just faded on his end. I never reached out again but I find myself thinking about him all the time. I was very attracted to him physical...
A. 18 March 2016: If you contact him, you will get confirmation of what you already know - he is not interested.... (read in full...)
Why did my married man detach so quickly?
Q. Hi I am new and don't even know if I'm in the right forum. I was having an online affair with a MM for a cpl months. He said he was unhappily married and only there for the kids and I could relate because although I am not married I've been with my ...
A. 18 March 2016: I think the question you need to be asking is why are you pursuing a married man while you have a boyfriend, rather than musing over the shortcomings of said married man.... (read in full...)
Is 4 months of dating too soon to ask her to marry me?
Q. I am in love with my girlfriend.. I can't imagine life without her. She is everything I could have ever asked for and more. We have only been dating 4 months but it seems like longer. We have known each other for 4 years. I know she is the girl for ...
A. 4 March 2016: There is no risk in waiting longer.
There is huge risk in not doing so.
Proceed accordingly.... (read in full...)
Should I be sending risque pics to my boyfriend? Will it get on the internet?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months and we have a very close relationship. He is an incredibly sweet person and I honestly trust him with anything. The other day we were talking and it just so happened that he sent me a topless ...
A. 26 February 2016: Never ever send compromising information about yourself to another person without it being absolutely necessary to do so. Ever. Like from today until you are 90.... (read in full...)
The student I fancy has a crush on me. Could I date him after he finishes or is it just too creepy?
Q. Hello. I am a 34 yrs old college teacher. There is this 20yr old student I fancy. Nothing ever ever happened. I could of course tell he fancied me a lot and the other day he finally came on to me and told me he has a huge crush on me. He will finish ...
A. 26 February 2016: The long term prospects for this relationship are at best a few good rolls in the hay. The long term impact this could have on your career at much more severe, and permanent.... (read in full...)
How do I find enjoyment in life?
Q. How can I find enjoyment in life? People say find a hobby, but I don't seem to want to do anything. I feel that feeling passionate about anything at all could help me pass the time but I can't find anything remotely interesting. Every day I just ...
A. 26 February 2016: If there is one thing Im certain of in life, its that your happiness is 100% up to you. Its a conscious decision, and often a more difficult one than being miserable or feeling sorry for yourself.
If you want to be happy, the first thing for you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend would rather go into the bathroom and wank off than to touch me
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 yrs and he won't touch me sexually he'd much rather go into the bathroom and lock the door and watch other females and he chats with them and tells them that he wants to go down on them and then make love ...
A. 25 February 2016: Tough love. He simply isnt that attracted to you. Perhaps move on.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is unhappy that I'm watching porn so she retaliated by posting photos of herself on the internet!
Q. Ok I'll get straight to the point. Like most women my girlfriend hates porn. I told her when we got together that I didn't like it either, but recently she caught me watching it. We've now been together for 3 years. Needless to say she got really ...
A. 25 February 2016: A womans problem with porn watching generally comes back to her own insecurities about herself, ie, comparing herself to the woman you are watching.
That said, watching it excessively shows a problem with yourself and an addictive weakness... (read in full...)
Do women mind being approached in the gym?
Q. Women, do you mind if men approach you in the gym? There's two women in my gym, around my age, who I've noticed looking my way every time we're in the gym working out. Usually I have my headphones on and mind my own business, but it's kind of...
A. 25 February 2016: Its not where you approach, its how. Despite what is said here about "not being a piece of meat" and so forth, in reality, the more confident and aggressive you are about it, the more sexually attracted the woman will be to you.... (read in full...)
How do I contact this married man to tell him I'm pregnant? I want him to help support me!
Q. Dear Cupid I'm the op of this post "He lied to me..he was cheating on his wife with me. Do I tell her?", which I posted a month back. I found out that I'm pregnant few days back and I'm positive he is the father since I didn't have sex with an...
A. 25 February 2016: Just to be clear - you want him to help support YOU....or help support THE CHILD?
You did say YOU ...... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be turned on that your wife slept with other guys before you met her?
Q. When I met my new wife I had just gotten divorced. I had only been with my ex-wife so didn't have much experience. My new wife had been married twice and had two children. I'm not overly endowed so I was very nervous about having sex with her for ...
A. 16 February 2016: Ive heard of this phenomenon quite a few times before. Still dont understand it though. My only guess is there is a genetic predisposition for certain males to assume the role of a cuckhold, just as there is the opposite predisposition as ... (read in full...)
Is masturbation interfering with our sex life?
Q. I've been pretty addicted to masturbation/porn since I was 16-17. I'm now 28 and married. I still masturbate about 1-2 times a day, I fear it's affecting my sex life. In the past 6months I've begun to notice that I have trouble keep an erection...
A. 16 February 2016: Dude - you have an addiction and you need to address it, like now.
I dont have any problem with porn per se. I do have a problem when you cannot go without it for any appreciable length of time.... (read in full...)
I'm living with a girl who still has boyfriend. She says she'll end it with him when things are right
Q. So I've been seeing this girl now, but she has a boyfriend. ive been basically living at her place for a couple weeks now and she tells me she loves me and wants to be with me. Shes very close with his family and they have been together for a long ...
A. 15 February 2016: You are being used like toilet paper. By having you move in, she can now use you for your resources (money, time, support, etc) but still sleep with her BOYFRIEND.
If you accept this situation for another second, you are a chump.... (read in full...)
Could he be cheating while away? He said 'Good Night'.
Q. My husband is away on an overnight business trip. Let's say he cheated on me that night. Would he text me "Good night" or would he avoid texting me altogether? Which would be more likely? Texting Good night is not something he does every night whe...
A. 15 February 2016: Let me get this straight - you are trying to determine infidelity by the phrase "Good Night?"
Just not sure what to add here.... (read in full...)
How does he get away with cheating and then get the perfect girl and relationship and I'm left looking like the big bad wolf.
Q. I'm probably going to get a lot of hate over this but this is why I'm writing, for help and advice. Around 19 months ago I had an affair with a guy 11 years younger than myself who was in a relationship with an extremely beautiful girl a...
A. 14 February 2016: He got away with all of the because he has a very high sexual market value and most of the females he's with (you included) are willing to share him rather than be singularly with someone with a substantially lower value.... (read in full...)
Does being friends with benefits ever work out?
Q. I am a 42 year old single man. One of my best friends is a 33 year old single woman. We have never been romantic in any way but recently my friend told me in a joking way that she would give me oral sex if I took care of some things around her hous...
A. 14 February 2016: If you're a man, it typically works out until it doesnt work out for the woman any more.... (read in full...)
Is it cheating or just a friend thing????
Q. Hi i have a serious question. First, I have a friend that I text behind my boyfriend's back. My friend is someone i met at work like some of my other friends. But some how he is a close friend cuz of the things we like. He knows i have a boyfriend n ...
A. 7 February 2016: Heres the acid test -
If your boyfriend was doing the same exact thing - would you be fine with it?
Almost all moral dilemmas can be solved in this manner.... (read in full...)
I've relocated and quit my job and now I'm afraid he'll run off with someone who can give him children
Q. Hi folks, I don't know if anyone has been in a relationship with some one younger, I have been for coming up 3 years. life is good, but one thing I'm young 44 just he's coming up 32. I have grown up kids he has none. when I met him he didn't ...
A. 7 February 2016: Men with significantly older women just dont work out that often in long term relationships.
Kids are one big reason. The realities of the dating marketplace is another big one.... (read in full...)
Is it worth it to force my wife to talk about a 2 year affair she had years ago? We never talked about it and she doesn't want to now
Q. Ladies....Do you think its worth trying to insist that my wife and i talk about a two year affair that she had MANY years ago, that at the time, we never really did talk about,other than me telling her to end it or else it was going to be the end ...
A. 7 February 2016: #1 - Her telling you its your fault is complete bullshit. If you tolerate one second of that you are a fool. Further, it shows she doesnt want to take responsibility for her own actions and is therefore likely to use some other excuse to do it ... (read in full...)
Am I being overly sensitive about how my parents handled the loan?
Q. Hi, I am a 49yo professional woman with a stable spouse and a successful career. I have owned my own business now for 10 years. My husband and I have been married for 24 years and we have zero debt. Eight years ago, we had borrowed $100,000 from my ...
A. 2 February 2016: They are completely in their right to do so.
If you didnt want to be treated in a business way by your parents, you shouldnt have borrowed money from them.
Borrowing 100k is big girl time. Be prepared to be treated like one.... (read in full...)
Having an affair with my friend's husband
Q. I m 22 years old n i love a guy he is 23 and married to my friend.we have known each other since 1 year ago before evwrything was ok but since 4-5months we are regularly talking with each other and meeting secretly.we both have feelings for each ...
A. 28 January 2016: He doesnt love you, he's using you for easy sex while he invests his resources into his wife.... (read in full...)
Should I even bother with a man who still has his ex's photo on the wall 10 years after she has passed away?
Q. I went met this guy online. We talked for 9 months before making plans to meet in person. He was a very nice guy, but has an annoying side to him. He liked to win when we had our little spats. Anyway, we went on a couple of dates finally, and they...
A. 26 January 2016: He sounds very loyal and dedicated.
You should probably move on.... (read in full...)
Is it normal to have mixed emotions when you already love someone?
Q. Hey, so I like this guy, a lot. Think i'm in love with him; have been for about a year and a half now. Things are okay with him, but he's just a friend. But I think I may also have feelings for someone else too ... In some ways I stand more of a ...
A. 23 January 2016: What love is not - Thinking about someone all the time. Picturing your life with them. Getting butterflies in your stomach when they're around. What love is - Carrying your spouse to the toilet and wiping their behinds three times a day... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever had an experience that felt like they met their soulmate?
Q. I know that it is scientifically impossible to state that there is a such thing as destiny, but it would be the same bias to say that merely freewill exists as well. I'm wondering if anyone here has ever falling in love with a person beyond the ...
A. 23 January 2016: Yes, I have felt I met my soulmate.
On at least four different occasions ...... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is hurt from losing investments. How can I help?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating two months. I've always known he trades stocks and that's fine with me. However recently the market has been very bad and he's suffered quite a few losses. He handles his emotions well but I know he's hurt from ...
A. 23 January 2016: If he gets that down from a bad market, he's in the wrong business. Not a guess.
(My source - I worked on Wall St for 15 years...)... (read in full...)
I am not sure I want to get married anymore but I am afraid to say so...
Q. Hi everyone. I am due to get married in August and I am no longer sure if its the right thing to do. Here is why: my fiance and I met when we were 20, and for the first year he behaved very disrespectfully, going out drinking and flirting with other ...
A. 23 January 2016: Marriage and/or having children are the two most important decisions of your life, and who you select has a larger impact on your net life happiness than anything else.
Moral - NEVER do either unless you are 100% sure of your decision.... (read in full...)
The idea of my boyfriend watching porn makes me never want him to be home alone
Q. Hello looking for some advice. Me and my boyfriend have been together 4 years and i love him! The one problem is in the first year of our relationship i found out he watched porn .. at the time i wasent that bothered and gotover it but fot some ...
A. 23 January 2016: ALL men look at porn at some time or another. While I think there are some who abuse it, as anything with short term rewards can be, it is rather pervasive.
Short of abuse, I do think women who have severe problems with this suffer from self est... (read in full...)
My husband left me for another woman. When does the shock go away?
Q. My husband of 7 years has left me for another woman and I'm very upset and not sure how I can handle this. My husband had been acting strange the last month or so and I've been worried, but when I ask him what's wrong he would always say he's ...
A. 23 January 2016: When this is finally over, the only thing you will truly regret is the time you spent wallowing over it.
Any time you waste on him from this point forward is completely up to you, and hence your fault if you do.
Time is our most perishable ... (read in full...)
I broke up with boyfriend because he still doesn't want to marry for several years
Q. Tonight,I broke up with my bf of 1 year. It's been a lovely year,ups and downs of course. We love and care about each other,But tonight I expressed to him that I wish to get married soon as my parents are traditional; we are 8 years apart,he is 20 ...
A. 23 January 2016: You are in WAY different points of your lives. He wants to party it up right now. You want to settle down. I dont see either of those things changing for a while. IMO, this is one of a few reasons that older woman/younger man isnt seen nearly ... (read in full...)
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