How can we come to some agreement? We have different views about my past sexual history.
Q. Hey everyone, I'm hoping you can help! I'm in a relationship with this new lovely guy, but there is one main problem; we have very different ideas about sex and relationships etc. Basically he's very traditional and believes that sex is only wh...
A. 13 June 2016: Not to be a party pooper, but again, given the deep evolutionary roots this condition has, it is VERY rarely gotten over quickly, if ever.
Im not trying to rain on your parade, just giving you honest feedback.... (read in full...)
How can we come to some agreement? We have different views about my past sexual history.
Q. Hey everyone, I'm hoping you can help! I'm in a relationship with this new lovely guy, but there is one main problem; we have very different ideas about sex and relationships etc. Basically he's very traditional and believes that sex is only wh...
A. 1 June 2016: male anon - again, you have to look at the core driver of RJ, which is evolutionary. Typically, a woman who will only have sex in a committed relationship is less of a cuckhold risk than a woman who is inclined to have a lot of casual sex. This is ... (read in full...)
How can we come to some agreement? We have different views about my past sexual history.
Q. Hey everyone, I'm hoping you can help! I'm in a relationship with this new lovely guy, but there is one main problem; we have very different ideas about sex and relationships etc. Basically he's very traditional and believes that sex is only wh...
A. 31 May 2016: It sounds like RJ, and unfortunately all of my empirical evidence suggests this is not something "to just move on" from. It has its origins in deep evolutionary forces, so its simply not something that is simply turned off or on. Its not jealousy, ... (read in full...)
I'm angry that my boyfriend is phasing me out
Q. Feeling angry as i am being phased out, boyfriend holidays alone and doesnt even consider taking a cheaper holiday with me. I know nothing lasts forever but i feel my loyalty is less than regarded. He'll even side with assistants in shop against ...
A. 31 May 2016: As Honeypie said, break up. Your cheating strategy just screams childish.... (read in full...)
Is it Me or is it Society?
Q. I feel restricted by society. As a male I am told to be confident. But when I walk with my head held high, with chest out I am judged and labeled arrogant. Told that if I am submissive women will not like me. Then when I assert myself (in general)I ...
A. 31 May 2016: I have been labeled as confident, arrogant, and aggressive by many others before. That said, I have never been thrown into prison, I have successfully worked for many different bosses, and have successfully managed dozens of other people.
To be... (read in full...)
We are like two guys who are room-mates. Marriage together has become boring. Is this how it is? Are my expectations too high?
Q. About to hit my one year anniversary. However, I am very bored of my husband. I am unhappy, and resentful of the marriage. His standards are very low, so low that we are just married roommates. We both end up doing our own thing. We rarely talk, ...
A. 31 May 2016: Like anything else worth having, marriage is work. Put nothing into it, and expect the same results out of it.... (read in full...)
How can we come to some agreement? We have different views about my past sexual history.
Q. Hey everyone, I'm hoping you can help! I'm in a relationship with this new lovely guy, but there is one main problem; we have very different ideas about sex and relationships etc. Basically he's very traditional and believes that sex is only wh...
A. 31 May 2016: You two have different ideas of sex. He thinks it requires serious commitment. You do not. This is not a small bridge to cross. I would not suggest continuing as I do not see a good end game.... (read in full...)
What can I do? My ex ghosted me. Why?
Q. My ex-boyfriend whom I've been sleeping with, ghosted me for someone else a month ago. I found this out from mutual friends. I feel absolutely horrible. I feel strung along, used, worthless, hopeless, "not good enough".. Its pretty pathetic. why no...
A. 31 May 2016: Why? Because you were giving him sex without asking him for commitment. Once that got boring to him, he had no real reason to stay.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend got angry and kicked me in the butt, will the violence escalate?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 20+ years. When we fight, which is not very often, she sometimes gets a bit physical, but I haven't until now. The other day I got mad over something stupid-- she had unplugged the alarm clock to plug in her phon...
A. 30 May 2016: The moment someone places their hands on you in anger, from either sex, the relationship should be over.
End of story.... (read in full...)
What can or should I do? I can't stop thinking about another man
Q. So I'm in big trouble. I haven't been happy in my marriage for years now. I still love my husband and like him but not like I used to, he is an alright person but does some questionable things. He has been unfaithful with another woman. However he ...
A. 30 May 2016: What I get from reading this is that you are trying to use your husbands past indiscretion to justify your current feelings.
Two wrongs dont make a right.... (read in full...)
How can I ask my husband to consider an open marriage? Cheating has never been a part of our relationship
Q. I’d like to discuss with my husband a possibility of an open marriage but don’t know how to do it. First of all he may think I literarily lost my mind. You see, I was always a good girl/woman, did what was expected of me, while my husband was free...
A. 30 May 2016: Open marriages never work in the long term. If you think you are an exception, please see last sentence.
IMO open marriages are an attempt at eating your cake and having it too, which of course in impossible. My guess is what is really going on... (read in full...)
He ignores me and treats me like I don't exist ever since we had a one night stand. How can I better handle this rejection?
Q. Hi there, I'm married with 10 childrens and had an affair with a man that has 4 Children. We go to the same church and that's where everything happened. He smiled at me all the time and then it ended up into a one night stand we met up and ha...
A. 30 May 2016: Sorry to be Captain Obvious - but you've had 10 children from how many men, and you are obsessing over a one night stand?
Something here is not adding up to me ...... (read in full...)
Feeling obsessed and desperate. Who really is my baby's Daddy?
Q. Hello there, I am really hoping someone can help me here with some advise and no judgment. I am 31 years old and married for 5 years. My husband and I share a daughter that is 3 years old. Last year we are having a lot of trouble in our marriage ...
A. 30 May 2016: This is not even a question to ask. The paternity must be established completely independent of other factors, and the information must be conveyed honestly.
It is because of incidents like this that retroactive jealousy exists in so many men... (read in full...)
Sexual tension you could cut with a knife... But we're both married. What do I do?
Q. So I have an issue at work that I need some help dealing with. There is this guy a few years older (married with kids) who has always on and off lightly flirted with me. I ignore him because I'm married as well. Over the past couple of months...
A. 29 May 2016: My guess is your current husband is a beta and this gent is an alpha, and with that you crave him sexually. Proceed carefully, as your decision could have life long repercussions.... (read in full...)
My Bf wants to be single again to sort himself out. How can I cope with all the uncertainty of this change?
Q. My boyfriend of two years decided yesterday out of no where as things are going great that hes too stressed with everything going on in his life and wants to be single to sort himself out. It was totally out of the blue and I'm utterly heart br...
A. 29 May 2016: Ill give it to you straight. He is young and doesn't want to be tied down with a woman with two children from another man. He sees himself as having other options, and he's taking them.... (read in full...)
What comes after divorce? What will my life to be like afterwards?
Q. Debating divorce, what can I expect my life to be like afterwards?!?!?! I haven't been single since I was 16. I've only had one partner. I can cook, clean, pay bills, budget, keep books, fix minor mechanical issues in vehicles, I mow the lawn...
A. 22 May 2016: OP - you might want to investigate something called "seasonal depression."
You might be amazed to discover what regular doses of full spectrum light might do ...... (read in full...)
Is it possible to fall for a guy you've never spoken to?
Q. Is it possible to fall for a guy you've never spoken to? We have mutual friends so of course we've somewhat been introduced but we've never officially spoken. We're both embarrassingly shy so when our groups merge he stays in his bubble and I stay ...
A. 22 May 2016: In short, in reality, no.... (read in full...)
My wife speaks down to me and then belittles me when I tell her how I feel.
Q. My wife speaks down to me and then belittles me when I tell her how I feel. I don't know if I am being too sensitive or if I should stand-up for myself more. I don't want to get a divorce as I do love my wife, but there are times that I just ha...
A. 20 May 2016: No one can speak down to you without your permission.
Proceed accordingly.... (read in full...)
What comes after divorce? What will my life to be like afterwards?
Q. Debating divorce, what can I expect my life to be like afterwards?!?!?! I haven't been single since I was 16. I've only had one partner. I can cook, clean, pay bills, budget, keep books, fix minor mechanical issues in vehicles, I mow the lawn...
A. 20 May 2016: I think a much more cogent question would be why are you "contemplating" divorce?... (read in full...)
She wants us to start again. What would be the best thing to do?
Q. I have been seeing my girl for nearly a year. My pal is on a dating site POF. He told me my girlfriends photo profile came up in a search, so I checked it out for myself. He wasnt lying. It said she had logged in within the last 24 hours. I ...
A. 3 May 2016: She's already lying. Move on.... (read in full...)
What are the main reasons that would motivate a woman to want to break up with a guy?
Q. I would like the opinion of the lady's an men who write in all the time, my question is what's the main reasons for women to dump the guys? Is it they found some one new, he cheated , he treats her bad, got bored of him, he was to nice, came on ...
A. 3 May 2016: Women typically do not date/sleep with guys who have a sexual market value lower than their own. Since SMV is always changing, this occurring during a relationship will cause the woman to lose respect/interest/attraction to the man and result in a ... (read in full...)
Is he just leading me on? Is he really in love with me? Or is it just sex??
Q. Okay so I'm bi not out! Please read full story I started seeing this guy in September 2015 and it was great but after a couple of weeks he started to tell me he had feelings for me. I continued to hide back my feelings and made him continue...
A. 3 May 2016: The surest way to test for something is to withhold it from the experiment and see what changes. ... (read in full...)
If you've already had sex, then which do you think is better - Affection or Sex?
Q. I don't think I want to have sex. I thought I did and I was getting ready to lose my v card soon. But every time I think about sex...I'd say ninety percent of the reason I'd have it is because the guy wants it. I know it sounds stereotypical bu...
A. 3 May 2016: Men can almost perfectly separate sex and love, particularly when they've made no long term investment in the women. For whatever reason you want to use to explain this, woman simply have a much more difficult time doing this.... (read in full...)
Why do low-income families go on to have more children when it's hard to make ends meet?
Q. Just curious, as I see tons of family's that have sometimes 4 or more children, yet have an extremely small income. You'd think it'd be the opposite, because the low-income families have neither the time nor the money to properly care for these ...
A. 3 May 2016: For the first time in human history, we are de-evolving as a species. In the distant past, the least fit had the least children as they often died before reproduction or were not selected. Today, the least fit (as predicated by economic and social ... (read in full...)
Can he change? There's good and bad.
Q. Married five years. With the exception of my pregnancy, my husband has emotionally and physically abused me the entire time. He talks down to me and expects everything in the house to be done his way from meals to laundry. When I do something wrong ...
A. 3 May 2016: Hes an alpha, and thats why you have stayed with him for five years and had his children.
You're not going to change him, but you have to take the good with the bad if you're going to stay, and my inclination is overwhelmingly that you are.... (read in full...)
Is it possible to get Herpes by skin to skin contact?
Q. Is it possible to get Herpes by skin to skin contact. I only slept with one guy and he swears he tested negative. I have hugged other people but it was friendly hugs,nothing sexual. I am so confused because it was a full on outbreak for m...
A. 24 April 2016: If you were clean before him, he lied. That simple.... (read in full...)
How many women get pregnant because they hate their jobs?
Q. Im curious what people reckon is the proportion of women that have a baby because they don't want to work (or hate their job)?...
A. 24 April 2016: My mother raised FIVE boys and worked. We are all stable and successful.
Saying you want to get pregnant so you cannot work IMO is an excuse for laziness.... (read in full...)
Please please help me! Retroactive jealousy is driving me insane and it's getting out of control
Q. (Ps. English is not my mother tongue so I apologize for the grammar errors etc..) Hello; It's been more than a year since I started to date my girlfriend (fiancee). Unfortunately I'm in the claws of retroactive jealousy. I guess there is not a...
A. 24 April 2016: retroactive - Please read my post below. For starters, there is one thing I want to emphasize to you that you need to accept if you are going to get better. It is that there is absolutely nothing "wrong" with you. You have no illness, self-... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend wanted the truth about his ED. Is ED a good enough reason to end a relationship?
Q. I had closure with my 45 year ex boyfriend last night. The problems around our sex life weighed heavily on this new relationship. Is it a good enough reason to end a relationship because I cant have penetrative satisfying sex? I love making l...
A. 24 April 2016: 45 seems young for ED. Im turning 48 next week and I dont remotely have an issue with this. Perhaps he just wasnt that sexually attracted to you? In which case, yes, you guys probably should call it quits.... (read in full...)
Does she love me for my money? She never offers to pay!
Q. My girlfriend Lisa and I have been going together for almost ten months and our relationship seems to be sailing along quite smoothly. We're very compatible. We always have a lot of fun together and she never nags me. She's beautiful, classy and ...
A. 24 April 2016: She sees you as a beta provider. Proceed accordingly.... (read in full...)
Please please help me! Retroactive jealousy is driving me insane and it's getting out of control
Q. (Ps. English is not my mother tongue so I apologize for the grammar errors etc..) Hello; It's been more than a year since I started to date my girlfriend (fiancee). Unfortunately I'm in the claws of retroactive jealousy. I guess there is not a...
A. 24 April 2016: For starters - I have your same affliction so I can sympathize. I have the following for you. First, your condition is real and based very deeply in a male's evolution. It doesnt make you a misogynist or weak or less of a man. In a way, its ex... (read in full...)
Why do co-workers like to dig into other people's personal lives?
Q. I know these people mean well but I'm not interested in making friends at work. I'm just there to do my job and that's it. I'm not saying I act anti-social. I still talk to my co-workers about gerenal stuff, joke around, But, I don't like to talk ...
A. 21 April 2016: For the same reason a show like Jerry Springer has been on TV for two decades.... (read in full...)
Could a man lose interest in a sex buddy as fast as a few weeks?
Q. There's this guy who I have started having sex with. (I told him that I wasn't looking for a relationship. He's fine with that.) So we started to have sex and he was my first time. A couple times he has gone a two weeks without needing to see m...
A. 21 April 2016: If all you are offering in a "relationship" is novel sex, don't expect much in return.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants a break and keeps blowing me off
Q. we been together over a year everything was great no fights our kids got along. all up to this past valentine day she went silent not responding to text calls backed out of dates. come to find out she had a side effect from one of her meds which is ...
A. 18 April 2016: Go into total radio silence with her for the next three weeks, and I mean total. No calls, texts, letters, emails, or waves from the car as you drive by.
At the end of that three weeks, trust me you will know if you should be together or not.... (read in full...)
My children and I need a different life.
Q. My relationship is very complicated. I met my boyfriend while working as a part-time bartender. The first time I met him he told me that his wife had died six weeks prior. I was in shock by how easily he said it but yet I found that he was easy ...
A. 15 April 2016: Personally I would never get involved with a women with children from another man. The idea of raising another man's children is just repulsive to me on a very primal level.
I think he may have the same affliction.... (read in full...)
My parents are paying for my education and keeping me under tight control
Q. I be never dated before because I wasn't allowed to. I also went to an all girls school and now attend community college. My parents said since they're paying I have to commute from home and if I make good grades and get my associate, I can transfer ...
A. 14 April 2016: Pay your own way and do as you wish, or take their money and do as they wish.... (read in full...)
What would keep you from being in a relationship?
Q. What's up guys, I've been away from here for almost a year but I've had something on my mind for quite a while that I'd like to here people's opinions on why they don't want to get into relationships. I've heard this from a large number of my fri...
A. 8 April 2016: Two reasons that have consistently kept me out of a relationship:
1 - Girl has bad relationship with her father
2 - Girl has high number of sexual partners.
Typically, they went together, but not always. Following this rule has kept... (read in full...)
Why do some guys lie about losing their virginity?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together six months. Last week we talked about having sex for the first time. I asked would I be his first and he didn't answer, he just retorted by asking would he be mine. I said no, I was not a virgin. He then began ...
A. 4 April 2016: Guys lie about the number of women they've been with for the same exact reason women do, just conversely. They both lie to try to show as high a sexual market value as possible.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has turned into a jerk since taking sick leave
Q. Hey everyone! My boyfriend is currently in a difficult situation - he is 41, a barman, and has been off work on sick leave since last August. He had an operation on his back in January and his sick leave ends in the middle of April, so basically he ...
A. 31 March 2016: Is he really being a "jerk," or is he now being a "jerk" because you are now paying for him to live?... (read in full...)
Am I a woman who just can't help herself? I've fallen in love with a married man
Q. He is married, I have fallen so deeply in love with him I can't let go. My feeling is since we both can't and don't want to let go we should just ride the situation that we are in and see where it takes us. Every man who is single only wants to sl...
A. 31 March 2016: Ill make it simple. You are in a cheating relationship, and your most suggested solution is the easiest way out - to just "ride the situation."
Also, your assertion that "every single man only wants me or sex or money" tells much more about yo... (read in full...)
Are there men who want to build relationships and not just have casual sex?
Q. Dear Cupid It's a rhetorical question may be, but is there men who wants to build a relationship not just have casual sex. I have been dating for sometime and lost trust in male population as it is, everywhere I see people just want to have a c...
A. 30 March 2016: This is easy stuff, and escapes so many. We are products of our evolution, with that, the inconvenient truth for many is that men are the gatekeepers of relationships (because of their commensurate resource commitment) and women are the gatekeepers ... (read in full...)
He's at least 10 years older than me. Should I go with it?
Q. hi I started going to the gym and began to have a crush on a guy. I'm thinking he knows I like him because he introduced himself to me and said to ask him if I need help with the machines. The only thing is that he's probably at least 10 years older ...
A. 30 March 2016: The crazy rule of thumb that seems to always work is the minimum womans age is half the mans plus seven. When I first heard this, I thought it was nuts but every piece of empirical data I have shows me its correct. If he is 32, that means the ... (read in full...)
Husband is complacent, and I am fliriting with a co worker.
Q. I have been married for 3 years now and I love my husband very much. There is a problem and I do not know how to overcome it. I have been gaining feelings for a coworker and I know that my coworker feels the same, we are always flirting and I cannot ...
A. 30 March 2016: I completely agree with honeypie. You are blaming your husband for a failing that is COMPLETELY your own. If you have having trouble in your marriage, you make a commitment to work on it - hence the word "commitment" again. You dont take the easy ... (read in full...)
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