I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 13 July 2016: OP - For starters, I give you credit for finally asking. The more you do it, the easier it will get. Now for the other side of the coin. Given your tone coupled with everything you have said, I don't believe for a moment you went in there "... (read in full...)
I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 12 July 2016: Once again, the way you went about almost assured she "had a boyfriend." This is EXACTLY what I warned you about below, and lo and behold played out precisely as I expected.
If you went in there confident and presupposed the date, 99.9% chance y... (read in full...)
Why am I attracting these type of girlfriends? What are the warning signs? How to avoid them? How to communicate?
Q. What is it with me and helicopter girlfriends? Why do I seem to attract them most? Why can't I let them go gently without it always ending with me making a new enemy and coming off as a douche at the end? Whenever I meet/date a girl who giv...
A. 8 July 2016: Chi -
I appreciate the response and if I could follow/clarify a bit.
First, IMO a very common mistake that is made regarding male/female relationships is to make the very erroneous assumption that men and women are exactly alike in their s... (read in full...)
Why am I attracting these type of girlfriends? What are the warning signs? How to avoid them? How to communicate?
Q. What is it with me and helicopter girlfriends? Why do I seem to attract them most? Why can't I let them go gently without it always ending with me making a new enemy and coming off as a douche at the end? Whenever I meet/date a girl who giv...
A. 7 July 2016: As with many of my responses, this is not going to be popular here, but it will be honest. My guess is your screening process is faulty. I am 48 now, and whenever I give advice about these matters to younger guys, its as follows. 1 - ... (read in full...)
What satisfaction do some men get from sleeping with so many different women?
Q. What satisfaction do some guys get from sleeping with so many different women? Seriously, what satisfaction does one get from this? It really perturbs me that there are men like this out there. Men who think it's nothing to sleep with their friend's ...
A. 6 July 2016: Biological drives developed from thousands of years of evolution.
A mans most successful reproductive strategy is to impregnate many different females. That simple.... (read in full...)
How do I get him to stop jumping for anything his wife wants and see that his wife is trying to control him?
Q. I am married and have been dating a married man for 3 yrs.Neither of us are having sex with our spouses. He says he doesn't love her but if she wants to do something and we have plans he just doesn't call me to let me know. He waits until after ...
A. 4 July 2016: Both of you need to get divorced before starting other relationships. This type of behavior is just begging for the mess you are in.... (read in full...)
I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 28 June 2016: Edit - I think I need to put an addendum on my last post. When I say cocky, confident, and arrogant, this is absolutely something you cannot fake. Women will smell this out in a second and you will be nowhere. Its arrogance, but its CALM arr... (read in full...)
I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 28 June 2016: With all due respect to the ladies here, Im not going on what woman SAY, Im going on what they DO. Ive lost count on how many women have told me they want a "nice, confident guy," and then go home with the biggest a-hole in the bar. To be hon... (read in full...)
I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 27 June 2016: OP -
To answer your question - back in my younger reserved/shy/whishy-washy days, women I asked out ALWAYS had boyfriends. Then, in my later assertive/confident/cocky days, women I asked out NEVER had boyfriends.
Funny how that happens ...... (read in full...)
I'm not crazy .... am I?
Q. Hey everyone, I will keep this short and sweet (I am looking for a volume of answers to gauge what is deemed as acceptable by all) About six weeks ago I started chatting to a girl on Tinder, lovely bloody thing she is... We live 350kms apart, sh...
A. 27 June 2016: If you invest another minute of your time into this woman you are a fool.... (read in full...)
I feel like "Mr No Spine"
Q. His ladies and gents, long time no post here. The past 4 years have been great, I have met a great woman, and 1 year ago, we got married. We are living with her parents, it can get a little claustrophobic at times. Just for a small amount o...
A. 27 June 2016: You are her beta provider. She's excited by the alpha-bad boy, and if she hasnt slept with him yet (unlikely), she is going to.... (read in full...)
My gf won't be sexually intimate
Q. Hi. I've been with my gf for two and a half years. I love her to bits and I really feel she's the love of my life but she refuses to be physically intimate. We only kiss. I have a high sex drive and had a very active sex life in the past. I'm ...
A. 27 June 2016: If she slept around a bunch before you, Id say there was a pretty big problem. She didnt. Id say you found a gem who was willing to wait for the right guy. Appreciate what you have.... (read in full...)
I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 27 June 2016: My primary advice at this point is to stop letting her set the agenda/schedule for the date. I cannot overemphasize how much women like men who are assertive and can take charge. She already agreed to go out with you. Go in there with a pla... (read in full...)
Can they really expect more hours without overtime pay?
Q. Hello, I moved to the US few months ago and I'm working in financie field and have an exempt full time position. I was hired for 40 hours work per week but my supervisor stating that we all must put some extra hours every week. I do come early ...
A. 26 June 2016: Female anon -
First off, its work "ethic," not work "ethics." Totally different concept.
And you can call capitalism "slavery" all you want, but in the end, the true free market system wins. Rail against it all you want, the free market wins... (read in full...)
I am really frustrated with my husband inability to handle marriage issues
Q. I am really frustrated with my husband inability to handle marriage issues. I am not the kind of woman that turns down sex from my man but yet I feel like ever since we married my husband puts in no effort causing me to think he will be tempted to ...
A. 26 June 2016: OP - well, the "few great ones" might likely pose the same issue. It could be you are comparing his lackluster performance to these earlier gents.
Put another way, if your husband was satisfying you with a level of skill equal or greater ... (read in full...)
Why do some young women go out to night clubs dressed they way they do?
Q. Why do the women at the night clubs dress like s^^ts?? So I'm talking here about women who wear clothes with plunging cleavages, booster bras, short skirts and the like. We went to a club last weekend and there were many women barely dressed. ...
A. 25 June 2016: Honeypie -
"Maybe they are SO full or confidence that they KNOW they can rock a tiny outfit?"
Because of sacrifices I have made in my younger life, I am now pretty wealthy. With that, I dont need to walk around with copies of my stock portfol... (read in full...)
Why do some young women go out to night clubs dressed they way they do?
Q. Why do the women at the night clubs dress like s^^ts?? So I'm talking here about women who wear clothes with plunging cleavages, booster bras, short skirts and the like. We went to a club last weekend and there were many women barely dressed. ...
A. 25 June 2016: "Do some really need that much attention?"
In a word, yes. For reasons beyond the scope of a message board post, many woman derive their self worth/esteem from how much attention they can get from men.... (read in full...)
Can they really expect more hours without overtime pay?
Q. Hello, I moved to the US few months ago and I'm working in financie field and have an exempt full time position. I was hired for 40 hours work per week but my supervisor stating that we all must put some extra hours every week. I do come early ...
A. 25 June 2016: Female anon - we all make choices in life. If a 9-5 40 hour a week job is what you want, generally financial services are not for you.
And since you brought up the "American slavery," it is this lack of work ethic that is exactly why the entire E... (read in full...)
Will a man in a sexless, long term marriage eventually have sex with another woman?
Q. I have a question and I am curious about what the opinions are out there. If a man is in a long term relationship or marriage and his wife was no longer willing to have sex (ie. she never did like it to begin with, she no longer likes it) with h...
A. 25 June 2016: I personally wouldnt stay married in a sexless relationship. A wife generally provides three things to me in a relationship - 1. Fertility. 2. Sex 3. Femininity. For just those three thing, I give/sacrifice the following. - Acc... (read in full...)
What's your opinion of age gaps? Does he really like me? Or does he have a different motive?
Q. Okay so first.. What's your opinion on age gaps?? What's to big of an age gap? There is a guy at my work ( I work in a factory) who works second shift while I work first. He is 12 years older than I am. When I very first started working there he...
A. 24 June 2016: For whatever reason you want to ascribe to it, the formula one half the mans age plus seven is the youngest woman a man can date, and vice versa. Seems to work for any age once dating starts.... (read in full...)
Can they really expect more hours without overtime pay?
Q. Hello, I moved to the US few months ago and I'm working in financie field and have an exempt full time position. I was hired for 40 hours work per week but my supervisor stating that we all must put some extra hours every week. I do come early ...
A. 24 June 2016: Im going to break it down for you. I used to work as an exempt employee in a financial field. My hours? 100 hours a week as an analyst. 85 hours a week as an associate. 60 hours a week as a VP. 50 hours a week as a SVP. Thats over a ten year ... (read in full...)
Are there problems for wife swapping or threesomes?
Q. Friends, Me and my wife are very god friends and talk about any of our feelings each other. Some two years back I have spoke to her about couple swap or threesome she was also interested in and had similar fantasies. Now that we know there are r...
A. 24 June 2016: Threesomes are a great idea in a committed relationship, if you no longer want to have a committed relationship.
... (read in full...)
What if he doesn't know to communicate? How can I bring back our sex life in our marriage
Q. Married my LDR husband after 9mths and a baby 5mths later. I will have to say things happened so fast that I failed to realize we will have to put in work to spice up our sex life. Our current situation is not allowing us to step it up. He just mov...
A. 24 June 2016: Your husband is attracted to younger women. Inconvenient, but normal. You were more turned on by your bad boy ex's than your husband. Also inconvenient, but normal.
Unfortunately, unless both of you working on this with great effort, I dont see... (read in full...)
I am really frustrated with my husband inability to handle marriage issues
Q. I am really frustrated with my husband inability to handle marriage issues. I am not the kind of woman that turns down sex from my man but yet I feel like ever since we married my husband puts in no effort causing me to think he will be tempted to ...
A. 24 June 2016: Hate to bring this up, but Im not sure the problem is with him. Specifically, you mention a lack of lubrication on your part which shows a lack of desire. As always, Im going to be blunt - did you have a lot of sexual partners before your ... (read in full...)
Could it be that my husband of 15 years is not into me any more but is reluctant to admit this?
Q. Could it be that my husband of 15 years is not into me anymore but is reluctant to admit it even to himself? I don't want to make HIS problem into something about me, but it's been going on for a while and after looking for causes and trying a...
A. 24 June 2016: Dunno. Im 48. Met my wife when I was 39 and she was 31. Married at 44. With all of that, I have as much sex now with her as I did the year we first met.
Granted, we both stay in shape and make a point of continue to date each other. But I di... (read in full...)
Beginning to hate this marriage. Is he just trying to control me via money I earn? What should I do?
Q. Really could do with some help. I've just passed a course so I can teach English to foreign students. My husband is from Poland and wants me to go and live there with him. Five years ago I gave him a few thousand pounds which I never saw again and ...
A. 24 June 2016: Just a note of clarification - when you are married - its not "your" money or "his" money. ALL money is jointly held.... (read in full...)
Do I keep lying to her or tell her the truth? Nothing fits any more.
Q. I been with my gf for 4 years and she has put on weight since. I'm not bothered because she is really attractive with extra weight on. However if I mention it she says she doesn't like it. So I don't mention anything anyway however now all her ...
A. 24 June 2016: If a man loses his money/job/social status, it is not uncommon for a woman to leave him.
If a woman loses her looks/figure/sex appeal, it is not uncommon for a man to leave her.
I have no problem with either as maximizing your options is just ... (read in full...)
I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 22 June 2016: Leaving a business card is a bad idea - it shows you don't have the balls to ask her face to face. Women like confidence above all things. You actually blew your chance when she said, "See you later." If that were me in your shoes, I would t... (read in full...)
How do I stop ending up with girls who ONLY want attention?
Q. How do I stop ending up with girls who ONLY want attention? The earlier posts are EXACTLY what I keep running into! They get all flirty, talk to me for hours, text me cute things all day and when we finally have sex or try to, they say I'm ONLY in ...
A. 20 June 2016: Ill be as direct and blunt as possible.
Women use you as an emotional tampon because you present yourself as a beta and allow it. Present your self as a cocky alpha with a lot of other options, and they will only want to sleep with you.... (read in full...)
I want to marry my g/f but she won't do oral sex and its important to me
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 5 years and she wont blow me. I go down on her and tell her alot how much id like one. She says she might one day but thinks itsgross and awkward. I want to marry her one day but this is important to me. What ...
A. 20 June 2016: Who you marry is by a country mile the most important decision you will ever make regarding your own happiness. With that, you are allowed any set of requirements and as deep a vetting procedure as you and only you deem necessary.
If BJs are a de... (read in full...)
Why is porn condemned by women?
Q. I am curious about this. It seems that to some women the worst sin a man can commit is looking at porn and I don't get it. They are just images on a screen of women he most likely will never meet or ever have a chance with. The chances of him a...
A. 17 June 2016: Women typically have problems with men watching porn because of their own insecurities. Eg, their man watching a women who they perceive to be much better looking than them perform sexual acts in a manner that they wouldnt presents a real threat to ... (read in full...)
Is she out of my league? Should I ask her out?
Q. I'm a single male and work, there's a female at work whose caught my eye and she is attractive. She always looks at me, smiles and gives me hugs and chats to me. I'd like to ask her out but the problem is, I'm not sure if im her type or not or w...
A. 16 June 2016: If you think she is "out of your league," dont even bother thinking of her again as your chances with her are less than zero.
No woman wants a man who thinks he is less than her.... (read in full...)
Newly married but feel so guilty about my cheating. What should I do?
Q. I got married to my boyfriend recently whom I was with in a long distance relationship for 3 yrs. We still live apart as I have not moved to his city yet as he could be taking a transfer to mine. I have dark secret which haunts me even now. Las...
A. 16 June 2016: Ill sum it up for you. You married a beta, but received attention from an alpha and hence had sex with him. As an alpha, he just wanted you for sex and you obliged. Story is as old as humanity itself. Ill be more blunt. I dont believe for ... (read in full...)
Please help! I need suggestions and how-to's for second date!
Q. Hi guys! I have had amazing help here before and looking to get great advice again! I went out on a first "mini" date with a girl last week. It went really well..we have a great connection. We ended seeing each other 2 nights in a row (night a...
A. 14 June 2016: OMG the mistakes you have made already. If there was a formula for a woman to view you as a beta and have no respect for you, you are following it to a T. Lets see - 1. You called and went out with a women the night after your first date. Sh... (read in full...)
Not long before we started to date he had sex with a girl who is one of my friends. Now I know I feel uncomfortable about it. How should I respond?
Q. Would you date a guy who had slept with your friend not long before you decided to date? Note that it was not a one night stand, but happened a few times... I have known this guy for a while and only recently have we hung out a lot and gotten t...
A. 13 June 2016: I wouldnt go near a women who one of my friends already has been with. Zero chance.... (read in full...)
How can we come to some agreement? We have different views about my past sexual history.
Q. Hey everyone, I'm hoping you can help! I'm in a relationship with this new lovely guy, but there is one main problem; we have very different ideas about sex and relationships etc. Basically he's very traditional and believes that sex is only wh...
A. 13 June 2016: Not to be a party pooper, but again, given the deep evolutionary roots this condition has, it is VERY rarely gotten over quickly, if ever.
Im not trying to rain on your parade, just giving you honest feedback.... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my brother's ex wife. Family are try to discourage me over this. What should I do?
Q. I am a 42 year old man who was married to my for 10 years to my best friend. Seven years ago she died. We have 2 kids together and I've been single ever since. Recently I moved so the kids could be closer to family and I met a beautiful young ...
A. 13 June 2016: The Dude Code - you never ever date one of your brothers or friends girlfriends, no matter if they are currently with them or broke up with them 50 years ago.
Just dont do it, and any man who doesnt follow the Dude Code I will have nothing ... (read in full...)
Should I be concerned that my girlfriend had her phone with her in the bathroom?
Q. My girlfriend had her phone with her in the bathroom today. We were having sex and afterwards, she had to use the bathroom. I waited for her outside the bathroom because I had to go. And I saw she came out with her phone. I did not say anything and ...
A. 11 June 2016: If its isolated to the bathroom, no big deal. If she freaks if you happen to grab her phone by accident or is overly protective of it, you have a problem.... (read in full...)
Our sexual energies might not be aligned! What do I do?
Q. I have this incredible bond and friendship with the guy I'm dating. He's exactly my type. He's so endearing and cute. I want to take care of him and give him anything he asks for. I've never felt such a strong feeling of giving. He's so ...
A. 7 June 2016: I tend to agree with Chigirl - he could be too feminine for you. Or more concisely, he's a beta and you really sexually want an alpha.... (read in full...)
How can we come to some agreement? We have different views about my past sexual history.
Q. Hey everyone, I'm hoping you can help! I'm in a relationship with this new lovely guy, but there is one main problem; we have very different ideas about sex and relationships etc. Basically he's very traditional and believes that sex is only wh...
A. 1 June 2016: male anon - again, you have to look at the core driver of RJ, which is evolutionary. Typically, a woman who will only have sex in a committed relationship is less of a cuckhold risk than a woman who is inclined to have a lot of casual sex. This is ... (read in full...)
Why do girls ghost a guy who only treats them like a queen?
Q. Hi all, we'll my question is who an why they ghost us, to me girls if a guy, treats you bad then ghost him, if he hits you ghost him, if he is a drunk, drug addict,ghost him, if he doesn't have time for you, but he does for his friends, ghost ...
A. 1 June 2016: No matter what they say, no matter how loudly they scream it from the mountain tops, no matter how much they've convinced themselves otherwise women DO NOT want a "nice guy." Its back to the alpha-beta thing again. Girls liking "bad boys" is a ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated and I have all the proof but he keeps denying it
Q. This is probably a no brainer but I'm asking anyway, found out my boyfriend has been texting and chatting with his ex, I confronted him and he promised to stop because he didn't want to lose me the problem is he hasn't I checked his phone and have ...
A. 1 June 2016: "I checked his phone."
The minute either of you do this, the relationship is effectively over. If there is no trust, there is no relationship. ... (read in full...)
How can we come to some agreement? We have different views about my past sexual history.
Q. Hey everyone, I'm hoping you can help! I'm in a relationship with this new lovely guy, but there is one main problem; we have very different ideas about sex and relationships etc. Basically he's very traditional and believes that sex is only wh...
A. 31 May 2016: It sounds like RJ, and unfortunately all of my empirical evidence suggests this is not something "to just move on" from. It has its origins in deep evolutionary forces, so its simply not something that is simply turned off or on. Its not jealousy, ... (read in full...)
How can we come to some agreement? We have different views about my past sexual history.
Q. Hey everyone, I'm hoping you can help! I'm in a relationship with this new lovely guy, but there is one main problem; we have very different ideas about sex and relationships etc. Basically he's very traditional and believes that sex is only wh...
A. 31 May 2016: You two have different ideas of sex. He thinks it requires serious commitment. You do not. This is not a small bridge to cross. I would not suggest continuing as I do not see a good end game.... (read in full...)
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