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But don’t get me wrong…I am a nice guy. If you are good people, I got nothing but love and respect for ya. But when I get brutal it’s with people that come on here wanting sympathy and advice when they are totally wrong. I’m not a doctor, and you aren’t paying for me to be on your side, so if I hit you hard, maybe it’s because you need to do some thinking. I’m a man and this is how my dad taught me to be a man.
So ladies, if you see me giving out advice to other guys who basically deserve a punch in the face, just cover your ears stand back and let me at ‘em!!
But anyway…
I came here looking for a little fun and advice on a personal matter, but it turns out I’m seeing a lot of people out there with some serious and even ridiculous problems, things I am eminently qualified to answer and respond to with the experience I have. I’ve done a lot of dating in my time, been in all sorts of relationships; married too. Right now I’m finally divorced, and I’m in my right mind and doing things the right way. I have a lot good going in my life and I thank God every day I’m still alive kicking and living the best life I possibly can.
My motto is you have to live the life you love, and love the life you live. I always check with myself making sure I live by that motto.
But hey, now that I’m fresh and back into the dating thing again, I might be a little rusty, so I’ll be back here with who know what kind of questions that come up. But I feel I’m better armed than I was years ago, and I’m not about to make the mistakes I made in the past…not that I made any huge mistakes, but I had me a few nonetheless. The way I see it, mistakes you make can turn into opportunities, so never live with regrets.
Yeah, I was married once, and pretty recently. I don’t consider my past marriage a mistake, and I’ll tell you why. I learned and grew from it. What I take from that relationship has improved me as a man and makes me better for future relationships. I am not mortal enemies with my ex, and any hurt we had between us is in the past.
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Be good, Nikki!
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IF I'm read... (read in full...)
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What you need is an education on how men think. I don’t think you really understand us so I will take few minutes to try to explain without sounding preachy.
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A. 17 November 2007: I sounds like you never touched your penis in your life... You mean you don't know what pre-cum is? Are you serious? How old are you?
If its not pre-cum then its not normal. Get yourself checked for STD's
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I've stayed faithful this time but I'm so tempted to go back to my old ways.What shall I do?
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A. 17 November 2007: I personally think cheating is ok if you do it with care….do it with someone you can trust in secrecy and make it a brief affair. If you decide to give in and have sex with this guy, just do it to see if the new guy is good for you, or just do it ... (read in full...)
Is she retarded or what?
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A. 17 November 2007: Its obvious the girl is just being silly and you should have taken advantage of the situation and laughed with her, joke back with her....and get her number. I think the real retarded party is you. What were YOU thinking. Next time stop trying to ... (read in full...)
Is she retarded or what?
Q. I walked down to prop open the outside door of my apartment complex for one of my friends. I just through on a pair of jeans, so I wasnt wearing a shirt or shoes. This girl came down the stairs behind me and said, "its five o' clock somewhere,...
A. 17 November 2007: Its obvious the girl is just being silly and you should have taken advantage of the situation and laughed with her, joke back with her....and get her number. I think the real retarded party is you. What were YOU thinking. Next time stop trying to ... (read in full...)
I'm torn between two men. And we're all best mates. Waht do I do?
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He won't give me oral, but I give it to him, am I being unreasonable in wanting it?
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I love my husbad, but he's choosing porn over me, how can I get him to want to be with me!?
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A. 16 November 2007: Not only is this guy using you, he was using you while commiting the crime of having relations with a minor. This guy ought to be arrested and locked up. And you who've been with this guy for seven years ought to do some growing up. Where the hell ... (read in full...)
What is a casual relationship? I disagree with my partner.
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A. 16 November 2007: Instead of trying to find out what WE think casual means you should ask him straight out what he means by casual. Casual is just a word and can mean a relationship of any number of variations. Ask him to define it, then determine for yourself if you ... (read in full...)
I'm divorcing my husband. Will I be able to love again?
Q. Im divorcing my husband. We've been married for 22 years and have a daughter. Our marriage has up and down and I've been trying very hard to save it. It's so painful to make the decision to end it. At 45 I suddenly realised life is too short I ...
A. 16 November 2007: Of course you can find love. I see people finding new love twice your age. The question I have is how long did you go between your divorce and this new guy? Did you give yourself enough time to breathe and collect yourself? This is going to be ... (read in full...)
I'm kind of scared, what will happen to me.
Q. Okay. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 8 months, and asometimes I just wish I could have sex with him. But me and another friend made a pact not to do anything of the sort until after highschool. But I really love this guy, and he's really ...
A. 15 November 2007: If you really, love him there are ways you can get around not have intercourse and still enjoying each other physically. You can do mutual masturbation, oral sex, be creative ...use toys. Sex isnt always about the penetration, you can have fun with ... (read in full...)
I discovered that my mother masturbates, what should I do?
Q. i discovered that my mother masturbates herself , what should i do?...
A. 15 November 2007: Find out about her technique, since you inhertited her same phyisiology it might be useful for you. Get over it and celebrate your mom For being in touch with her self. ... (read in full...)
How can I convince him.
Q. Ok so I want to have a female-female-male 3some with my girlfriend and another girl. but she says she wont have a ffm 3some with me unless i have a male-male-female threesome with her... i dont want to have a mmf 3some but i really want to have a ...
A. 15 November 2007: Before I give you my response lets straighten your question out a bit. Its not how do I convince HIM, its how do I convince HER.
On second thought it might be how be how I convince HIM…because that’s what you’re going to have to do when you ask ... (read in full...)
I love my husbad, but he's choosing porn over me, how can I get him to want to be with me!?
Q. I am a newly wed of only 9 months and my husband seems to want to look at porn instead of me..I am a 34 years old and he is 39..I want to be with him often but when I try to get him aroused he says he is tired but then after I go to sleep he gets up ...
A. 15 November 2007: First off, your guy is normal. Looking at porn is okay, and for most guys it’s like watching sports. Its fun, you enjoy it a while then put it aside. While it is fun and enjoyable, it can also be addicting, and your guy’s case, it seems to be in ... (read in full...)
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