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| Latest articles: Age Gap - Why is it an issue
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15 July 2009: Hey Guys, Just want to share a little story with you on age gaps. Why have so many people got nay issue about age gaps, I understand if one person is underage, but if they are two consenting adults whats the problem. I have been in a re...
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I love my teacher and is that okay?
Q. I like my teacher, is this totally wrong? I don't expect for him to ask me on a date. I know its illegal. and its not like i want to go out with him or kiss him or anything! i sometimes blush when i talk to him and idk why! and i sometimes get kind...
A. 11 November 2009: go to the articles section on this site and read the teacher-student relationship article. i think this will give you a better insight on things. xx... (read in full...)
Why didn't I bleed?
Q. Hi i'm 19 this year. I'd sex with my boyfriend quite a few times but i'd never bleed before. I did'nt had sex before until i was with him. Can you tell me why i did'nt bleed?...
A. 11 November 2009: not every girl bleeds noticebly so dont worry yourself. xx... (read in full...)
How does mine compare to yours? Or others you might have seen?
Q. hi. i need to ask the guys on dear cupis a question. i honestly want to know how big my penis is compared to yours/ those you might have seen. currently when erect my penis is 16.5 cm or 6ish inches and when flacis its 11cm or 4 inches. so based on ...
A. 11 November 2009: you have the average size penis for a man so dont worry yourself... (read in full...)
Please give me some lunch gift ideas!
Q. Hi, I need some quick suggestions. Me and my husband has been invited by one of my colleagues and wife for lunch tomorrow at his residence. I have no idea what I should bring with me as a gift. Specially since it is a lunch and because i don't know ...
A. 10 November 2009: i think a bottle of wine is fine for lunch. nobody says you have to drink it all. many people have a glas of wine with lunch. xx... (read in full...)
Older women? Should I date one?
Q. I'm 30, I had a woman give me her friend's phone number (the friend had liked me for some time). This was in the supermarket where I worked at the time. This woman was 35. I was also asked out by a 39 year old woman. What should I do? Is it ok to go ...
A. 10 November 2009: go for it theres nothing wrong at all with dating older women. xx... (read in full...)
He's the most amazing man I've ever met... but is the age difference just too much?
Q. I've been great friends with the most amazing guy for 9 months now, and just this past month, we acknowledged the mutual attraction and got past the age difference: he's 22 and I'm 53. I've been involved with a lot of younger men (my ex-husband was ...
A. 10 November 2009: truthfully i think if both of you are happy and your familys are happy then go for it age is just a number. dont live your life thinking what if just go for it and if it doesnt work out at least you know you both tried. xx... (read in full...)
We're both 13 and want to be friends with benefits, but I don't know if I'm ready!
Q. My neighbor and I have been friends since we were 2 and now I have feelings for him cause we have been through like everthing together and we probly tell each other more then like a married couple! We are both 13... The other day he suggested...
A. 10 November 2009: friends with benefits is for people a lot older than yourself and even those strugle with it. it messes with your emotions and friendship. if he is as gud a friend that you say he wil be supporting and understanding of your choice if not is he ... (read in full...)
We're both 13 and want to be friends with benefits, but I don't know if I'm ready!
Q. My neighbor and I have been friends since we were 2 and now I have feelings for him cause we have been through like everthing together and we probly tell each other more then like a married couple! We are both 13... The other day he suggested...
A. 10 November 2009: friends with benefits is for people a lot older than yourself and even those strugle with it. it messes with your emotions and friendship. if he is as gud a friend that you say he wil be supporting and understanding of your choice if not is he ... (read in full...)
Are women intimidated by an attractive male?
Q. Hi, I'm kind of curious, I work in with a few woman and I not really after pulling them or sleeping with them at all, I've got someone else in my eye! However what I'm curious about it are women intimidted by an attractive male either at work or in ...
A. 9 November 2009: i think that you find most good looking guys love themselves or just want sex thats why i usually avoid them lol not saying its always like that but its usually the case xx... (read in full...)
I don't want to watch him die
Q. My bf is 25 and im turning 23. He's got high blood pressure but taking medication right now. Should we even think about getting married or should we end our relationship? I don't want to see him die. I don't want to be left alone to deal w...
A. 1 October 2009: im sorry to hear about your mum. high blood presure is pretty common and if your man has the medication for it he should be fine. i think you are worrying a little too much, carry on life as normal and plan your wedding if that is what you both ... (read in full...)
What is your opinion of tatoos and should I get one?
Q. Ok I need some opinions. Well, my family was talking the other day, my dad had two sisters, and a brother. Well one of his sisters passed away and so his other sister and brother talked about them all getting a tattoo that their sister had. Well it ...
A. 22 September 2009: i think you should seriously think abowt what tat you get. its there forever it should mean a lot to you and be somewhere you can show it off or hide it away easily. what would happen if the band split wil you really remember the band 20yrs down the ... (read in full...)
What are your opinions on sex before marriage?
Q. Hey all. I don't believe in sex before marriage, or so I think. I'm 17 and never really been in a relationship with anyone so it isn't something that's really bothering me. I've been brought up as a Christian and I agree with no sex before marriage...
A. 21 September 2009: i think sex before marriage is fine and perfectly natural however i like to believe that sex should be about 2 people in love sharing a special closeness. i know i couldnt have unles it was with someone i loved but everyone is different and i ... (read in full...)
Is my penis the right size to have sex?
Q. hey people im really worried about something ive been going out with this girl for like 3 months now and she wants to have sex im 16 and im really unsure if my penis is the right size it is like 4.4inches and im really worried because in my last ...
A. 21 September 2009: hey, size is unimportant and as for the previous girl she was very childish and immature. you can have great sex regardless of size just ensure there is plenty foreplay. however if you are nervous about having sex maybe you should wait a lil longer ... (read in full...)
I have an uncontrollable urge to marry. Am I rushing things?
Q. I know this might sound stupid. I've been with my boyfriend 5 months. And I just really want to get married. I've had one long term relationship and several short ones, and I've never, ever felt like this about anyone before. My boyfriend h...
A. 21 September 2009: if you both feel the same then why not. make sure that this is what you both want first marriage is a serious commitment. i would give it a few more month, if you both stil feel the same then go whats the harm. xx... (read in full...)
I think we'd be good together, but the age difference is getting in the way
Q. so here it is theres a guy i met on holiday last year an i swear the first time i met him my stomach was in knots but i didnt think he would look at me twice because he is 5 years older than me. but last year he did kiss me then whe i went back this ...
A. 9 September 2009: thats great news so happy for you sweety. gud luck with the future xx... (read in full...)
I'm 20 and parents won't let me date!
Q. I am 20 years old and I am still with my high school sweet-heart. Our relationship began 4 years ago and we feel to be really in love til' this day. I really love him and wouldn't doubt spending the rest of my life with him, we have been going to ...
A. 6 September 2009: dont mean to be rude but you are 20. you are an adult and your parents cant tell you what to do any more. of course they dont want you to date you are their lil girl and always will be. you need to come clean about your relationship im sure that ... (read in full...)
How can I stop obsessing over my girlfriend?
Q. I know the title is a little bit misleading, but I find myself obsessing a little bit too much over my girlfriend. I am a 21 year old male and she is a little bit younger than I am. I care a lot for my girlfriend. We've been dating for about 6 ...
A. 6 September 2009: i understand how your feeling. you clearly like this lady a lot and i think that is really sweet. i think you are rite to give her space. you are clearly geting a lil upset by this so maybe have a lil chat with her. you can discus your feelings ... (read in full...)
The relationship is dead in my eyes, but I don't have the heart to hurt him
Q. what do you do when you want to get owt of a long term relationship. i love this guy with all my heart, we are engaged and share a flat. i just realised we are so different and wan+ different things. the relationship is dead in my eyes but i really ...
A. 2 September 2009: we do love each other but i think that is all that is left. i try to meet in the middle but he refuses to do anything other than he wants to. i have spoke to him leting him know i believe the relationship is dead but his response is always its not ... (read in full...)
Sorry that I couldn't give you your life to live
Q. I promised myself that if I got one wish that I'd spend it on you. I know I couldve done it, I would of struggled but I would of gotten through. It's my fault, I know: that I'll never watch you grow. It's my fault you aren't here but I promise I'll ...
A. 2 September 2009: that was so touching it made me cry. but as you know your child will always be in your heart and soul xx... (read in full...)
Does your body change after first time sex?
Q. Okay I know im 17 and all but I hear so many things and I can't tell if its bullsh and it or not dose your body change after having sex? If so how Do your breast get bigger Hips expand(I think it dose duh!) What happens? Thanks for the h...
A. 2 September 2009: hey, your breasts and hips dont get bigger because of having sex. they get bigger as you start to get older and turn into a woman it has nothing to do with sex. xx... (read in full...)
I'm afraid to tell him of the abuse in my past in case I'll be seen as "too much work"
Q. I have just started seeing a guy that I like so much, but i'm held back by two things. I was sexually abused for years as a kid which made me really shy and scared about sex. My last boyfriend -the first I had truly slept with - complain...
A. 18 August 2009: I think that you should tell him. It should make him understand a lot more and go at a pace your comfortable with. If he does shout at you or think your "too much hard work" which is silly, then he is not worth being with anyway. Take care xx... (read in full...)
Do a few beers each night amount to addiction?
Q. Torn between loving my boyfriend of 5 years and worried about his drinking habits becoming more of a problem -he seems to need at least two / three bottles of beer a day after work and if its a night out he has to get full drunk. I just have a few ...
A. 30 July 2009: If he has an addiction he would have to have the beer not want it. More tyhan likely he would shake in a morning if he didnt get any alcohol in his system. I think he just enjoys chillin when he comes in from work. xx... (read in full...)
My BF thinks I'm losing interest cause he never receives my texts
Q. My man for seven years is all of a sudden tripping because he thinks I've been losing focus on our relationship which I'm not he's just mad because every time I send a txt he never receives it but I have proof but he thinks I'm lying what should I ...
A. 29 July 2009: to be honest huni it sounds to me as if he is looking for an excuse to end things. what you need to do is sit down with him and have a mature conversation about what you both want. good luck x... (read in full...)
My First Time
Q. So your first times suppose to be special, right?. You dream about finding that one lad who will sweep you off your feet and make all your dreams come true? WRONG. I was 15, gulliable and young.So innocent.The only time i'd ever mentioned sex wa...
A. 29 July 2009: At least you realise what you did was wrong, some girl did you did and still brag about it and go and do it again. xx... (read in full...)
How do I make him stop playing with my heart?
Q. my bf and i broke up a few months ago becouse he wasnt giving his all and i was..plus i found text messages to other chicks in his phone....he denyed having sex with them but couldnt deny the fact he was doin wrong...so i broke up with him but ...
A. 29 July 2009: Leave him dear, he is using you for a booty call and you deserve to be treat better than that. xx... (read in full...)
We need a flat from the housing association, are there age restrictions?
Q. Hello there, Me and my partner are expecting a baby in April and basically we can not stay at my parents place or her's. Simple question because I'm not too sure. What age have you got to be to have a single flat for the housing associatio...
A. 29 July 2009: 17 but you can get them younge rif you have no where to go even more so if you have no where to stay. xx... (read in full...)
Can you make a mistake when it comes to thinking whether they are "the one?"
Q. Have you ever been in a relationship, thought there was no way this person is the one, broke up and later realized they were the one and wanted to go back?...
A. 29 July 2009: Course plenty of people do that there is a saying, you don't realise what you have got til its gone, its really quiet true. xx... (read in full...)
Struggling to have sex for the first time!
Q. So, I'm 24, still a virgin and have found the love of my life. We're getting engaged soon and I really would like to have sex. I have not had intercourse before because I'm afraid of the pain. We have tried before but it feels too weird and i feel ...
A. 29 July 2009: It does hurt when it first goes in and there is not much you can do to stop the pain but it doesnt hurt for that long or that much and once you have done it the once you shoudl have much problem after. Just grini and bear it for your first time. xx... (read in full...)
Problems with sex in our relationship....we're only in our 20's!
Q. Hi I've been with my boyfriend for about 3 years but we aren't having sex anymore. We have probably had sex 5 times this year. We're both in our 20's so libido isn't the problem! He complains I am not horny enough- this may be because of the pill? ...
A. 29 July 2009: You need to stop being shy and tell this guy what you want him to do otherwise he wont know. xx... (read in full...)
I initiated things but now I want to back out! How do I tell her?
Q. Hi, there's this girl that I've known for about a year now. I've had feelings for her but she didn't know so we were just friends. Recently, I asked her out on a date and she said 'yes' and I thought everything was gonna be perfect. But I realised ...
A. 29 July 2009: Just tell her that you feel the relationship was better as a friendship im sure she will understand. xx... (read in full...)
Its my 21st and I should be able to celebrate the way I want, but my friends have other ideas!
Q. Ive been best friends with these 3 girls for over 10 years. This is year is my 21st and we agreed that we would go away to Brighton one weekend to celebrate it. As I have many different groups of friends, I have also organised a weekend away with ...
A. 29 July 2009: Just tell them how you feel it's your bday they should be happy whatever you decide to do. If they dont understand that they cant be very good friends. xx... (read in full...)
I'm so confused by this girl, I need advice!
Q. Girls... OK, Let me give you a brief understanding of my background in dating. Im 14, 15 in a few days and I have never been on a date, Never asked a girl out and now im interested in them, they are very confusing. So, I have no experience yet...
A. 29 July 2009: Ask her to go to the cinema with you maybe or get one of your friends to ask one of her friends. xx... (read in full...)
I still have feelings for my ex but I don't want to ruin things with his fiancee!
Q. im really confused at the moment. i have just got in contact with my ex and we have started talking. he has told me that he is engaged and is going to be a dad soon but that he still loves me. i still have the same feelings for him but i don't want ...
A. 29 July 2009: If you really don't want to ruin thing sthe forget about him and move on stay friends if possible but dont take things any further. xx... (read in full...)
My BF thinks I'm losing interest cause he never receives my texts
Q. My man for seven years is all of a sudden tripping because he thinks I've been losing focus on our relationship which I'm not he's just mad because every time I send a txt he never receives it but I have proof but he thinks I'm lying what should I ...
A. 29 July 2009: When you sent him a text, just make sure you keep in it the sent box. When you see him you can then show him. Tell him that he has nothing to worry about and that you still love him. xx... (read in full...)
How can I help my friend with dating?
Q. I have this friend and she seems to have no luck. When she meets a guy she gives it out so easily and then the relationship goes no where. I keep telling her to wait. She just met a guy and ahe really liked him she said she was going to take my ...
A. 28 July 2009: Shes coming to mine tonight and where going to have a little drink. I think that her problem is as soon as a guy says something nice she automatically jumps into bed with them thinking this oneis different she never seems to learn and gets so hurt. ... (read in full...)
I think my husband is having online affairs!
Q. think he is at it again my husband was caught internet cheating 2 months or so ago and hes suppossedly was behaving but in the last 2 weeks or more hes deleting his internet stuff off the phone again (our only access to internet at home) im sure ...
A. 28 July 2009: I would talk to him about it and confront him about your suspisions. If you love each other than you should be able to work through it, but don't stay together for the sake of teh children as this is the wrong reason and will only make you sour with ... (read in full...)
Will he ever see me as the one?
Q. I dated my ex-bf for a year. We're in our 30s. I pressured him to take the relationship to the next level which is when the problems started. Things started getting tense between us and we started having a lot of tiffs (not fights, just ...
A. 28 July 2009: I think that if you were going to be the one, then he would already no this. you can't chose who is the one it's just a natural thing which happens and unfortunatly in this case it hasn't happened. Move on and find a guy who will love you truly. You ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my friend the truth without hurting her feelings?
Q. So my best friend *Nikki is obsessed with being gothic and *Mike. That's all she ever talks about. When we are on the phone or hanging out, every time she will say, "Life is just a waiting room for death." or something about death. Everytim...
A. 28 July 2009: Just tell her that you think she is taking things over the top a bit and that she shoud be herself rather than what somebody else wants to her to be. She shouldn't get offended at this. xx... (read in full...)
Is he lying about watching porn?
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for a while now, and think that i have caught him for the second time watching porn. The first time, i caught him in the action, however, the second time, i looked at his computer history and found some recent ...
A. 28 July 2009: I think that he proberly did lie to get you off his back. This is proberly something this guy really enjoys doing so would find it really hard to stop, like a said earlier you need to tell him the thing you just told us. xx... (read in full...)
Which should I believe, his action or words?
Q. My ex insisted to see me recently and won't stop bugging me until I said yes, I will talk to him. On the phone he sounded like he was going to cry. When I saw him, he said he prayed so hard I would agree to see him which i did. He looked shy and w...
A. 28 July 2009: Yes you were right in refusing to spend the night with him. He may have wanted to see you to see if he could work out how mcuh he really did like you or he could have been trying the whole booty call thing. I think that if he likes you as much as he ... (read in full...)
Is he lying about watching porn?
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for a while now, and think that i have caught him for the second time watching porn. The first time, i caught him in the action, however, the second time, i looked at his computer history and found some recent ...
A. 28 July 2009: Well that's between you too, you came here for advice huni and thats what we gave if it really bothers you that much then confront him tell him that if he ever feels the need to watch it then just to come and see you for sex! xx... (read in full...)
Is he lying about watching porn?
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for a while now, and think that i have caught him for the second time watching porn. The first time, i caught him in the action, however, the second time, i looked at his computer history and found some recent ...
A. 28 July 2009: I think that you shouldn't let it other you. Most guys watch porn it's natural. xx... (read in full...)
I think we'd be good together, but the age difference is getting in the way
Q. so here it is theres a guy i met on holiday last year an i swear the first time i met him my stomach was in knots but i didnt think he would look at me twice because he is 5 years older than me. but last year he did kiss me then whe i went back this ...
A. 14 July 2009: Are you the legal age. If you are then go for it age doesn't matter at all it is only a number. As long as you are nto breaking any laws then you have nothing to worry about. I completly understand why you were scared I went through exactly the same ... (read in full...)
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