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How can I make my husband feel better about our sex life?

Q.   I am a woman of 50 years, I married 10 years ago. I was single for 40 years and naturally I had several sexual partners (26 men more precisely). The problem is that I have never had orgasms with my current husband. He is very dedicated in bed, not ...

A.   11 August 2017: Nancy, Please go to couples therapy. Your husband needs some one else to tell him that it's all right to have a normal size penis and that you love him and you want to have sex with him only. His insecurities are getting in the way of your rel... (read in full...)

Should I leave my job to go work with my Ex boss, who I'm sleeping with?

Q.   I need some work related advice!! Back in March, I was working for a car dealership that I loved! But my GM, We'll call him X, ended up quitting and went to work at another dealership.. It's important to mention that the night he quit, we had se...

A.   9 August 2017: "I'm still torn, I'm thinking I should just wait it out at work and see what happens with this guy." Good decision, just take care from that guy that it's a risk on your current work. ... (read in full...)

We bought a house together but feel my fiance is taking advantage of me financially

Q.   My finance and I bought a house together at the beginning of the year. I paid for the entire down payment out of my savings account, with the understanding that he will pay me back for his half. In addition, I also put 25K into our joint account to ...

A.   7 August 2017: The real issue here is that your husband can't keep his promises, which is a bad thing. You need to : a) Cool down b) Gather courage c) Do a rehearsal of how and what you want to tell him d) Avoid getting angry or start crying. e) Execut... (read in full...)

Should I leave my job to go work with my Ex boss, who I'm sleeping with?

Q.   I need some work related advice!! Back in March, I was working for a car dealership that I loved! But my GM, We'll call him X, ended up quitting and went to work at another dealership.. It's important to mention that the night he quit, we had se...

A.   7 August 2017: The only person that haves enough information for taking the best decision is you. If you trust mr X and mr Y, and you think things are going to be well working with them, then go ahead and move. If you think that things with mr X are going t... (read in full...)

Do his words reflect his true feelings?

Q.   Back in junior high, this guy pursued me but I was never interested. We lost contact and he added me on Facebook 5 years later. I was single at the time, but removed him because I was not interested in maintaining contact. Fast forward 6 ye...

A.   4 August 2017: IMHO, we can't know by what he asked. Do guys say these sorts of things if they are not interested in a woman romantically? Yes, when they are fooling around, or when they are manipulative dudes, attention seekers, etc. Regular guys don't do tha... (read in full...)

Colleague keeps rejecting friendly advances

Q.   Do I keep trying to talk to this moody younger work colleague? She's 25 and until 7 weeks ago would always say hi and make occasional small talk (she does chat a lot to her buddies,I'm not a buddy) She injured her back, was off work a few...

A.   4 August 2017: I think you should ignore her and continue with your life. She may have her reasons for not treating you well. People have their reasons, and you won't ever know why they treat you bad. I've worked for 8 years with a coworker that hated me fr... (read in full...)

Can we survive the distance?

Q.   Recently started seeing this guy. We get on great and things are heading is a good direction. After my track history of men, I'm glad I've found someone who I think is genuine and decent. However. He has just told me that he failed his second y...

A.   4 August 2017: Long distance relationships are generally very, very hard. I've been 10 years with my GF (we haven't married due to financial issues though). We have been like the equivalent of 3 years in LTR. Mostly because she is from another city, and she has ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend says he will never marry me because of a bad divorce

Q.   Hi i have a bf for almost 2 1/2 years. He is divorce cos his ex wife cheated on him. Im widpw but never have Problem with my marriage. The thing is, i love my bf now and i know he love me too. But because of his bad experience with his ex wife he ...

A.   3 August 2017: Hello, If you want marriage and he doesn't, then I think you should move on. But before you do that, you need to confront him and tell him that you love him, but that you want marriage. Tell him that you won't cheat him or let him down. It's tim... (read in full...)

How do I get over being rejected by guys?

Q.   How do I get over the idea of being rejected by guys? Hi I'm 18 and about to go off to university. I've always been scared of getting rejected by guys so I have never put myself out there. As a result... I've never actually experienced reje...

A.   3 August 2017: The only way for you to overcome rejection, is by being rejected, many times. The more you avoid being rejected, the harder it will be for you to overcome your fear. Having a real relationship is about taking (healthy) risks. By healthy risks, I me... (read in full...)

I'm at risk of losing my job because of social media and a friend who wanted more than I did?

Q.   My friends brother apparently liked me and I didn't k ow that. We talked a lot, he made me laugh hard and he started tutoring me in tarot. He also invited me to his candle studio as a possible apprentice and we hung out a few times. We hung out one ...

A.   3 August 2017: First, CLOSE YOUR FB and any social media accounts. Social media is evil, and it exposes you to other people being able to ruin your life. Second, your friend and brother's friend are jerks, and you need to stay away from them. They are no longe... (read in full...)

Wife pushed for my promotion and now we're both miserable

Q.   I work in a science/technology/research field and I like my job. I have been at the same organization for over 20 years with increasing leadership roles. My last was leading a team of engineers performing tasks I enjoyed. Salary was very good, ho...

A.   3 August 2017: I think you need to go to therapy, and possibly your wife too. If she is constantly pressuring you to climb higher and make you miserable, things aren't going well. It's ok to have a life coach, but not someone beating the drum all of the time. I... (read in full...)

Why has this man reappeared saying he's sorry things didn't work out

Q.   I met a guy online a few months back. We got on well, there was chemistry and he only lived a 5 minute drive from me. Right from the start even though his profile said he was looking for a relationship I knew he was only after the physical side. ...

A.   3 August 2017: IMHO, the guy is just after sex, and if you have no problem with that, keep dating him. His vague answers is a red flag that he is not interested in a relationship. Also, the fact that he already knew you wanted a relationship means that he prays... (read in full...)

12 years of hits and misses and I have no idea where I stand with this guy

Q.   This is such a ridiculous, trivial situation, but nonetheless it's giving me a headache and I don't know what to do. So, for backstory: I met a guy when I was 17 and fell completely in love with him, we dated for a few months but ultimately, he w...

A.   3 August 2017: For your story, it seems like the following is happening: - He is just using you for sex. - He is not interested in you as a life partner. - He is a bad life partner. If he treated you badly at 17, he will treat you badly now that you are grownups... (read in full...)

I asked him:what about us after dating 4 months, he did not answer me at all.what should I do?

Q.   What did i do wrong to deserve this? I have been dating with this guy i met online for 4 months. Everything was going great except he had a lot of family issues or work issues. Every time he was arguing his mom or sister, he was always talking ...

A.   3 August 2017: I honestly don't think you have done something wrong. If you have just been yourself, then the only issue is with your partner. He was probably not that interested in you. And if her ex is following you on FB, it's probably because she is stal... (read in full...)

My boyfriend doesn't want to talk about sex or have sex. Why?

Q.   My bf is 26, I'm 32. He is very sexual, likes porn, been caught cheating several times. We've broken up and just recently got back together. I've noticed that he seems very uncomfortable watching porn with me, talking about sex, and does not like to ...

A.   3 August 2017: Well, now with the extra information you provided, it seems that your BF has premature ejaculation problem, which it's causing him a lot of anxiety. The only person that can help him overcome that problem is a health professional. I used to last ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is sending naked pictures of women to his friends

Q.   Boyfriend has naked photos of women on his phone and sends to friends? We've dated over 2 years and I found out he has been sending them to his friends in a chat. They know he is in a serious relationship. I am shocked my own boyfriend sent th...

A.   2 August 2017: There are many guys like that nowadays. It's hard not finding a friend or coworker that sends you unrequested naked girl pics. That doesn't means that he doesn't loves you though, he is just more openly pervy than most dudes. We men are very per... (read in full...)

Do men ever regret dumping a good woman?

Q.   Want to ask the other women on this site,I treated my ex great I thought, I did every thing to try to make him happy,its been over a year now, do you think he ever thinks of me. Do men ever regret dumping a good woman, oh he ghost me, never got a ...

A.   2 August 2017: It depends. If your ex thought you were a good woman, I think he probably regrets it. If your ex doesn't consider you as a good woman, he won't probably regret it. Regardless of what he thinks, regardless of what he does, I think you should... (read in full...)

He helps me financially but I'm the one who always initiates our conversations. Is he at all interested in me?

Q.   So I have this friend that iv had for a while now. We've actually just met once and hooked up and then he went off overseas for a job. Well, we stayed in contact and have talked on and off. I just had a son and have gone through a tough tim...

A.   2 August 2017: Please don't stop communication with him. You see, being in the air force is a tough job, and more if you have to travel a lot. If a guy does not initiate conversation under this conditions, it's likely that it's very busy, or does not want to ... (read in full...)

Is this guy online serious?

Q.   I've been talking to this guy for a good 6 months now. We met through Snapchat. He has been the one initiating conversation majority of the time and he has admitted to liking me and caring about me. He said he wants to get to know me a bit more on a ...

A.   2 August 2017: If he is doing two sports, two jobs, and a university, I don't think that guy is THAT shy. I'm telling you as a former hard-core shy guy. Since I got a job, and I recently started doing more sports, I feel more confident about myself and I'm more ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend doesn't want to talk about sex or have sex. Why?

Q.   My bf is 26, I'm 32. He is very sexual, likes porn, been caught cheating several times. We've broken up and just recently got back together. I've noticed that he seems very uncomfortable watching porn with me, talking about sex, and does not like to ...

A.   2 August 2017: If he has cheated you before many times, he will do it many times more in the future. He is not being honest with you about his reasons of not wanting to have sex with you, so you should confront him and find out what's up with him. You are his ... (read in full...)

So confused and worried for the future

Q.   I am so confused about what I should do. My last long term relationship of who I believed I would spend my future and have a family with, we ended as he had gender issues, and wanted to live a life as portraying as female on a regular basis. ...

A.   2 August 2017: "I just do not know what has happened over the years as it seems so difficult to make a relationship work. " It's called Tinder. Now you don't need a relationship to have sex, so everybody is just having sex and seldom meaningful relationships. ... (read in full...)

I want to tell my boyfriend that I'm unhappy with him watching porn but I don't know what to say

Q.   I recently discovered my boyfriend of 4 years watches porn and it makes me feel really uncomfortable. I know and understand most guys watch it but I have no confidence and self esteem as it is, I always think I'm not good enough for him and have ...

A.   2 August 2017: If your BF is a normal guy, he has probably been watching porn since 12. Porn usage is normal on men, although many, many woman hate that bad habit. Some girls say it's emotional cheating, etc. Well, I honestly don't think so. Sometimes, having sex ... (read in full...)

How can I make my husband feel better about our sex life?

Q.   I am a woman of 50 years, I married 10 years ago. I was single for 40 years and naturally I had several sexual partners (26 men more precisely). The problem is that I have never had orgasms with my current husband. He is very dedicated in bed, not ...

A.   2 August 2017: I would tell him that you really don't mind not having an orgasm through intercourse. If he is withholding sex from you, you can either have a serious talk with him and ask him to stop doing that. Or you can take the initiative until he feels co... (read in full...)

Should I give up on men? Is there such a thing as a normal guy? I want a relationship with a man.

Q.   I have have asked for advice before here and wanted to come back a year later to ask maybe what I am doing wrong. I am a woman in my early 30s that has given up on love. I have only been with three men and two had a relationship with. Through t...

A.   2 August 2017: Your problem is the following: "i try my hardest to open my arms out to men and give them a chance and they use me." You don't need to try the hardest. Just be yourself, and learn to set healthy limits and boundaries. You also don't need to gi... (read in full...)

I am over chasing men. But without a man in my life, then how can I be happy?

Q.   It seems since I have been 17 years old I have been chasing men. 13 years later an two bad relatiosnhios and a broken home(my parents are miserable together) I have had enough. A little back story ( since my early twenties I have done everythi...

A.   2 August 2017: You need to learn to love yourself and love your solitude. When you are confident enough to be on your own, you are ready to have a partner. You don't need fake friends, nor to buy stuff you don't need, nor date guys they don't care about you. ... (read in full...)

Not sure if boyfriend is attracted to me sexually or that I am his physical type.

Q.   Been with boyfriend for over a year. We are both in our late 20's. We only have sex once or once every 2 weeks. There are a lot of times where i want it more than him. He gives me excuses he is tired, he is bloated from food etc. But then sa...

A.   2 August 2017: You have a problem of sexual incompatibility. Low Testosterone is a real issue, not sure how old is your partner. Now, I can only talk from my perspective. I'm overworked, over stressed, and I only sleep 5 hours a day from M to F. Many times I'... (read in full...)

Would he have given his number if he wasnt really interested

Q.   Im hopeless in the world of dating . Im on a dating site and the guy im chatting with is legit hes very open and hasnt held back with anything hes show me videos of where he works and facebook details , He asked if i was free we could meet for ...

A.   2 August 2017: If you missed your first appointment, you may have been perceived as flaky, and flaky people are not well regarded. Source: I'm a flaky guy from time to time :) And no, if a man gives you his number, it's because there is interest from hi... (read in full...)

I asked him:what about us after dating 4 months, he did not answer me at all.what should I do?

Q.   What did i do wrong to deserve this? I have been dating with this guy i met online for 4 months. Everything was going great except he had a lot of family issues or work issues. Every time he was arguing his mom or sister, he was always talking ...

A.   2 August 2017: As a rule of thumb, never date people from your workplace, because that kind of situations make things awkward. I think that this guy has still feelings for his ex, and the fact that he has not contacted you again after asking "What about us?"... (read in full...)

Do I ask him or a date or wait for him to ask me

Q.   im chatting with a man online. On his profile he said hes in no rush and wants to get to know a person well. we have exchanged details ( phone numbers , social media, not addresses) we have been chatting for 6 week but he hasnt asked me out . He is ...

A.   2 August 2017: If you have only been chatting with him all this time, I think it's time you should meet. You can subtly ask him out, something like "Hey, this day I'm going to go to X place Y day, do you want to ___whatever slang you use for joining___?" If he s... (read in full...)

I pushed him away because I wanted him closer to me.

Q.   So 3 weeks ago I kind of pushed my boyfriend away and told him I don't wanna be with him but what I was really trying to do is making him understand my mental illness, suffering from GAD and BPD, I tried to tell him maybe through my ery wrong way of ...

A.   1 August 2017: Hello OP, I would only recommend you that you go to a mental health professional to help you cope with GAD and BPD, since those two can cause troubles to you and those around you. Those two together can get you into very bad depressions. If you ... (read in full...)

I wonder should I tell him how I feel?

Q.   So there's this guy. He was the president of a club I'm in, but this past may he graduated and he's going off to college in 2 weeks. We became really close. He would give me rides places and we would go on runs together. We went out to a formal ...

A.   1 August 2017: You need to gather a lot of courage and tell him how you feel, regardless of how that ends. I tell you that, because you don't want to live with any regrets or "what if" thoughts. It's very healthy for you to tell him that, and will get you enou... (read in full...)

I have a fear that if we have sex it will be the end of our relationship

Q.   I have just started seeing this guy and things are going well. We have met a few times now and the dates have been going out for dinner, a walk along the beach and the last one was he made me dinner at his. Physically, things have happened but...

A.   1 August 2017: When the time comes, and you feel it's the right time, it will happen. Every couple has it's own pacing, some do it on the first date, others wait a long while like I did. If your partner is really into you, he will be patient enough, but no one w... (read in full...)

I am a married woman who has sex with strangers when I travel for work!

Q.   I am a married female looking for some help. This is going to sound crazy but I have always had a high sex drive. I met my husband and everything was great. We had two kids, and he is such a good man. Provides well, if I had to honestly rate hi...

A.   1 August 2017: How would you feel if your husband cheated you once every year? I'm not saying you should come clean, but just think about how would you feel if he ever did the same thing to you. If that ever happens, you don't have the right to make his lif... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is cheating, pressuring me to have sex. I'm afraid he'll leave me if I don't give in

Q.   I am 19 and even tho i know all my friends are having sex, i know it doesn't mean i have to but i'm getting a lot of pressure from my boyfriend to do it right now. The pressure seems to be more and more as the days go on. And I will be honest, i ...

A.   1 August 2017: "And after finding out that his other girlfriend is 3 to 4 months prego--i get that it could have been me. " -- No, it would have been two prego girls and one father, so one of you, or both, would have had a child without a father. Good luck!... (read in full...)

Is this woman after my husband?

Q.   Does it sound like this woman is after my spouse? My husband started a new job and seemed to become friendly and close to a woman I will call Kathy. They would discuss their personal issues ( our martial) ( her relationship issues). She would ca...

A.   1 August 2017: "She even set a date, time and place to where she had said she would clear my head up ( to meet) her messages were nasty and distasteful." ---- IT'S A TRAP! You don't have to go please. Smells BAD. The woman sounds like a psycho killer. "Al... (read in full...)

I can't learn to trust men

Q.   Why can I not trust men? How can I go about this? I have been going to therapy for a while and my psychiatrist point blank said and it seem like a light bulb hit- "you haven't trusted anyone since josh" - josh was my verbally abusive bf of five ...

A.   31 July 2017: Hello, The guys you've been with are complete JERKS. There are many jerks in the male community, so you really need to be very alert of the type of guy you find. There are good, healthy, and loyal men out there, so you just don't need to give up. ... (read in full...)

Our sex life has declined. How normal is this?

Q.   Hi everyone me and my fiance have been together nearly 4 year but lately our sex life has became non existant. im this normal? I'm lucky if it's once a week. we have just came back from a week's holiday and didn't have sex at all while we were ...

A.   31 July 2017: Sound weird. You should confront him about this. If you want sex, you should not ASK for it, just GET IT. Take the initiative, and see if he goes along with you. If he stops you and your advances, then something may be going on in there. ... (read in full...)

How do I break my news to the family?

Q.   My bf and I have known each other since high school, he have been dating for 10 months. We have talked about marriage a lot and have started looking at houses together. Three weeks ago I found out I was pregnant. I was using bc but recently switched ...

A.   31 July 2017: Parents can sometimes be toxic, and do tantrums when that kind of things happen. I suggest that you go ahead and marry wherever and whenever you want, with or without any parents. I'm actually planning on doing the same thing, not because my G... (read in full...)

Things seem to have went cold in our LDR. Do I end things and ask to be friends?

Q.   hello guys, I am 19 years old, my boyfriend is 21. we were in a long distance relationship for two months; we chat online. we met once for a very short time ( cause we both didn't have enough time to stay for long..) anyways, it was weird, w...

A.   31 July 2017: LDR relationships are hard as hell. I've been in a relationship, for 10 years, with long LDR patches, and it has been very hard as hell. It needs double or triple the work a normal relationship haves, and it's very depleting emotionally. I've ... (read in full...)

How can I make my life meaningful?

Q.   I preface this by saying I want to be clear that I don't mean to put anyone down. I don't want anyone to feel lousy. God, no. I want to do ANYTHING but that. I just need to get a load off... I have been extremely depressed lately . Is it pos...

A.   31 July 2017: Like other people mentioned, go to see a psychologist to help you cope with those feelings you are having. I'm 32, and I've been almost a loner since 24, except that my only companionship is my girlfriend. We both are loners that got together... (read in full...)

My wife doesn't maintain appropriate boundaries with male friends

Q.   My wife (and five year old daughter) is currently on holiday in Florida with family and friends. Some of these friends are young men. One in particular is going without his girlfriend. I have been ok with the holiday. This isn't the issue. Th...

A.   31 July 2017: She does not respects you and your marriage. What if one day you catch her having sex with other guy, and tells you the same thing: "Deal with it, or get a divorce" It's her blank check for doing things she isn't supposed to be doing. Fl... (read in full...)

Is this woman after my husband?

Q.   Does it sound like this woman is after my spouse? My husband started a new job and seemed to become friendly and close to a woman I will call Kathy. They would discuss their personal issues ( our martial) ( her relationship issues). She would ca...

A.   31 July 2017: That woman is into your husband, and also happens to be a crazy woman with a cop father. There are many red flags all over the place, and your husband is just not seeing them at all. I would recommend you all no contact, set up cameras, and ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is cheating, pressuring me to have sex. I'm afraid he'll leave me if I don't give in

Q.   I am 19 and even tho i know all my friends are having sex, i know it doesn't mean i have to but i'm getting a lot of pressure from my boyfriend to do it right now. The pressure seems to be more and more as the days go on. And I will be honest, i ...

A.   31 July 2017: I think you should let him go, not because he wants to have sex with you, but because he is cheating you. If he already cheated you 2 times, it's just the tip of the iceberg. If you ideology is very important to you, he should respect that. Don't... (read in full...)

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