Password to his personal account. Is it okay to share or not?
Q. My bf and I have been together for 2 years. In the beginning of our relationship he broke trust a few times, nothing major but enough for me to lose some. The Main reason was about his ex. He got upset that I had my ex phone number still stored in ...
A. 25 August 2017: WHY DON'T YOU BOTH MAKE A COMPROMISE? Ok, he can't give you the password, BUT, why doesn't he allows you to check online the status of that account, so that you can check if there is nothing fishy in there?
To me, it sounds like if he is hiding s... (read in full...)
Does my situation have a future or should I give up on him?
Q. Dear Aunts, I hope you all are doing well. It has been a while since I have asked for your wise advice, but here I am again... I broke up with my boyfriend for the second time. The first time we dated for about one year and he broke up w...
A. 25 August 2017: Hello OP, It depends on you. You know this guy more than we do, and it's a big red flag that he dumped your for his ex . To me, as an outsider, if he really wanted to be with you, he would have done so a long while ago, and ignore his ex, an... (read in full...)
Should I tell him of my feelings?
Q. I have had feelings for a guy for many years which we did lose touch for a while. Recently we have got back in touch and been on nights out and walks with our friends. I know he has dropped hints about us and the way he looks at me I can tell he has ...
A. 25 August 2017: YES! If the guy has not enough guts to say his feelings, then you need to tell him your feelings. You see, we are on a stage where we should stop beating around the bush and get to the point, because our prime time is running out, and we need... (read in full...)
I've just completed cancer treatment and now my toxic ex wants to come back
Q. Hi aunts, I've just completed a years worth of cancer treatment and luckily I might be OK, but my ex partner who was abusive to me during our three year relationship has got in touch saying he might want to get back together with me. He was with ...
A. 24 August 2017: F*CK NO! "I firmly believe that the stress he put me through significantly contributed to me being ill. " BEING AROUND A TOXIC AND ABUSIVE PERSON could have triggered that cancer you got. When you are weak, malnourished and depressed, your... (read in full...)
Should I remind my boyfriend about the money he owes me?
Q. My boyfriend is not working at the moment but is trying hard to get a job. Last week I lent him £20 and asked him when he would give it me back, he said the next time he saw me. I've seen him twice now and no mention of the money. Should I ask for ...
A. 24 August 2017: ASK FOR THE MONEY.
Although you will risk to have an unwanted argument.
A better option, is to NOT LEND HIM ANY MONEY, until he pays you back that amount first.
... (read in full...)
Worried life is passing me by
Q. So I've been doing a lot of reading lately, romance novels to be exact, and the cheesy one not the erotic kind. And after contemplating the choices I've made and the life I currently lived, and I feel empty. So I've recently finished college, and ...
A. 24 August 2017: GOLDEN RULE #1: NEVER DATE SOMEONE IN YOUR OFFICE, EVER!!
GOLDEN RULE #2: IT'S NEVER TOO LATE TO HAVE A GIRLFRIEND.
"Should I go and put myself out there if I feel this alone?"
YES AND NO. Yes, because you have the right to search for happin... (read in full...)
I started bleeding after sex
Q. Hi this is a question for the women. I've been in a relationship for 4 years and last night about 2/3 hours after sex I started bleeding. I had just finished my period 2 days before. anyone else experienced anything like this and is it anything t...
A. 24 August 2017: OP,
PLEASE SEE A GYNOB ASAP!!!!
That bleeding could be early signs of Cervical CANCER.
Get a transvaginal ultrasound study if possible.
My GF's mother started having unexplained bleeding, and now she is battling with stage 4 cancer. We lost ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to snitch to his girlfriend?
Q. On Friday night I met up with my ex BF from last year. He has a new GF but we met up and hooked up. I know it was wrong but he persued me. Now he has asked me to keep quiet about it and gone back to his life as though nothing has happened. He sped ...
A. 24 August 2017: DON'T DO IT PLEASE.
Just avoid falling into his hands again, PLEASE, regardless if he is after you or not.
You don't have the right to OUT OF THE BLUE ruin his current relationship.
If he is a serial cheater, her GF will eventually find out... (read in full...)
Am I being unreasonable in supporting my husband financially?
Q. Am I being unreasonable in that my husband is from a different country and I help him out financially. I plan to go back to his country shortly teaching English and we are due to meet in Turkey beforehand to have a holiday. He wants us to be i...
A. 24 August 2017: Just imagine what will your husband be doing if you were not in his life working for him.
Would he be like... working?
Would he be married to another woman... that works for him?
Those are important questions you should make to yourself.... (read in full...)
Am I being unreasonable in supporting my husband financially?
Q. Am I being unreasonable in that my husband is from a different country and I help him out financially. I plan to go back to his country shortly teaching English and we are due to meet in Turkey beforehand to have a holiday. He wants us to be i...
A. 23 August 2017: Hello OP.
How long have you been supporting your husband?
What's his trade?
Why isn't he working at all?
Why doesn't he have a penny to his name?
When you said TANTRUM, that is a BIG HUGE RED FLAG on a guy. You are adults now, over 30. Tan... (read in full...)
I don't want to marry a man that doesn't understand when he is being hurtful
Q. My relationship is a jumbled mess, and I don't know if I should stand by any longer or make a break for it. We both treated each other badly for a long time, but to be fair, neither of us had standards back when this all started. 10 years ago, ...
A. 23 August 2017: GO TO COUPLES THERAPY IF YOU WANT TO SAVE THE RELATIONSHIP.
But if you want to really leave him because you can't stand his hurtful words, go ahead.
I think it's very crappy for him to have you work 60 hours a week to support both of you beca... (read in full...)
I'm grateful for the advice, but I feel I will be single forever. How do I come to terms with this?
Q. First off, I'd like to say thank you to everyone who has advised me so far on this forum. I've gotten some great responses from some of you (WiseOwlE, BrownWolf, thanks for being so active in my posts and listening to me complain as much as I did). ...
A. 23 August 2017: Dude, you are waay to young to give up on love.
You are only 18-21. You should not take any relationship seriously at that age. Once you reach 24-25, you are going to be mentally more mature, and girls will also be more mature and sure of what they... (read in full...)
Why won't he Marry me?
Q. Hi, I have been with my partner 6 years next month. I never wanted to get married, was never something that was important to me. Until I was in love. We have been together 6 years and have agreed to start trying for a baby next year after my friends ...
A. 23 August 2017: Is your BF still a student? Does he still depends on his parents? Does he has a (good) job?
If he is still a student, depends on his parents, or doesn't haves a job, then that may be stopping him from marrying you, IMHO.
I have been with my GF, a... (read in full...)
A co-worker made an unkind remark that really hurt me. How do I cope?
Q. I'm feeling very hurt today. At my previous job (as well as life in general) you could say that I'M not the most organized person (not filthy, but more of an issue of putting things back where they belong, avoiding clutter and procrastination,etc. ...
A. 23 August 2017: Hello,
I'm shamelessly disorganized, but you know what? I don't care what other think.
I work in the IT industry, and my disorganization is only a symptom of my extreme creativity when it comes to code.
It has been lately discovered that disorga... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is asking for more than I can afford.
Q. Dear Aunts, I have been visiting my boyfriend for a week now so today im leaving ive decided to take him out for lunch. He just told me that it would be better if i buy him grocery. Im a student I don't have that kind of money. All i wanted was to ...
A. 22 August 2017: JUST SAY NO.
Your invitation was for a small lunch, not for groceries.
Learn to set healthy limits.
Tell him: Well, my invitation was for just eating at X place for Y food. My offer is not for groceries or anything else.
You have a limite... (read in full...)
I feel directionless, as if my life is the same thing, over and over.
Q. This is sort of relationship question. Relationship with oneself. I feel stupid for feeling so low and for needing advice on how to find happiness after 40. I just never thought I'd feel this bad. Age and looks were never the problem for me. I...
A. 22 August 2017: Hello OP,
I'm 32, and I have not hit the mid life crisis yet, but I think I can give you my advice and insights.
You say that in your family you die young.
What if your doctor told you out of the blue you had only one year to live?
Would yo... (read in full...)
Should I be concerned about my erratic behavior?
Q. Should I be concerned about my erratic behavior? A little brief background I am 32 and most of my life I have battled just depression and going to these deep waves of misery. I must admit through therapy and for the first time trying to LISTEN I am ...
A. 22 August 2017: Your "friend" it's bad company, and you should stay away from her.
If you have a weak personality, you will eventually start making the things that she does. It's like hanging out with criminals; you will eventually be involved in somethin... (read in full...)
How do stop my self from being so nervous before a date.
Q. How do stop my self from being so nervous before a date. Iv recently started seeing some one new and the first time we meet I'll admit I was pretty drunk. He has looked me up and we are goin on a date. I feel lik the first time I brought him home I ...
A. 22 August 2017: Please don't get drunk to find confidence.
If you need relaxation, try natural remedies, like Valerian root or St. John's Wort .
... (read in full...)
Is it common for a man to steal and wear his partner's panties?
Q. Ok I was with my long distance lover three Months ago.He told Me over the phone that he stole a pair of my Panties ...did I realize they were missing? No... he said When He put them On he got hard... said he liked that the Panties were ...
A. 22 August 2017: I can't talk for your partner regarding the gay issues,
but when you are in a LDR relationship like me, some times the only thing you have from your partner is her panties, which really turn me on.
I think the panties thing is normal since many m... (read in full...)
Family problems blighting my future with him
Q. Me and my fiancé have been together for over 2 years now. During his past relationship with his ex' this women had already had a child by someone else. This child was very little when they started dating. During the time they were together he got ...
A. 21 August 2017: "It truly bothers me, but I want to know am I just being petty or would this bother you too if your fiance's mother was doing this ?"
I don't think you are understanding how things work on this.
Your mother-in-law doesn't just want to hang out ... (read in full...)
Suggestions please on how to help his aim
Q. I got a question and it's not drama and I think it needs to be answered guys my husband iS a hunting man so I ask guys how can you hit a deer at 300yards and miss toilet seat at 3 feet...
A. 21 August 2017: Simple.
The dear is a prize , and he wants to get it at all cost.
On the other hand, the toilet is not a prize, it's just a road black obstructing him from his prize.
The only way for him to learn to aim to the toilet is if you make him clea... (read in full...)
He says the sex is better with me but he still keeps his girlfriend. Do I wait around or end things?
Q. Back in January I met this guy on Tinder. We started off talking every single day just clicking really well and having great conversations. After we met one or two times we had a conversation and he said that he wasn't looking for a relationship and ...
A. 21 August 2017: -Do you think there is a possiblity that a spark could arise in their relationship or does it seem as though it's doomed
I think this seems doomed for you. You fell in love with this guy, and this guy does not loves you back. He is using you fo... (read in full...)
I've been snooping and finding messages my boyfriend has sent to people on Craigslist
Q. Hi everyone My boyfriend and I have been living together for 2 years dating for 3. This summer we moved to a new town for his work. He really hated the job but had to do it to move up. One week, our sex life was amazing, he was tired but came h...
A. 21 August 2017: BIG RED FLAGS HERE.
You should move on, before it's too late. He may not be straight. If you don't have a problem with he masturbating or even dating trans persons on your back while you work, stay on the relationship. But it all seems like he ... (read in full...)
She didn't like my solo comment to a girl online and now she won't speak to me
Q. Been seeing this girl a month , I like her she is the good girl sweet type.. It took her forever to have sex with me.. she hasent had sex in 4 years had an abusive ex .. long story short I was on Facebook chatting up another girl I wasn't hiding it ...
A. 21 August 2017: Dude,
Any normal woman will hate seeing you just "chat" with many woman. You are giving her the wrong message that you are looking for something more elsewhere.
When you are in a serious committed relationship, that chatting is always seen as a bad... (read in full...)
My very best friend is cheating on her partner! Do I tell him?
Q. Please help. She is my very bestfriend for 17 Years. WE See really good with each other. I care for her. I know her very much and everything what she do is open to me. Thats how she trust me. My Problem is, i visited Her 2 months ago. Thats ...
A. 21 August 2017: NO.
Let them find out with time. You don't need to be part of that problem.... (read in full...)
This relationship is draining me
Q. I've been dating "N" (29)for the past two years. Of course, everything was great at first. We moved in together and though he has many great qualities, I feel myself falling quickly out of love. I am stressed, depressed and there's a lot going on...
A. 18 August 2017: OP, Does this man even WORK? Does he helps you out with the monthly expenses? Can he afford giving you a ride to work or even help you out in something? If the guy is not working, is flaky with all his promises, it's not taking his share of resp... (read in full...)
He spent 5 years in prison for crippling a child in a drunken car accident
Q. Would you date someone with a criminal record ? I met this guy at a party of a mutual friend. We spent the whole night talking and exchanged numbers. After spending hours a day texting / talking we went on an amazing first date. At the end of ...
A. 18 August 2017: BIG RED FLAGS AHEAD. #1 - Drinking while driving, bad habit #2 - Alcoholism. Yes, that is a habit very hard to remove. #3 - Crippling a kid for driving while drunk. #4 - Five years in prison. However, you need to be aware of the following... (read in full...)
My friend's son seems to have a crush on me
Q. Hi there, so I have a problem that I myself don't have a solution to. I recently went to live with my friend who's older then me. She's nearly 50 and I'm 21. She was really close friends with my mum when I was little and we recently reconnected when ...
A. 18 August 2017: My only advice for you is to not let anyone touch you unless you allow it.
Also, just be aware that if you accept to have a (sexual) relationship with one of those kids, perhaps her mom may get upset and kick you out, so to avoid any problems, just... (read in full...)
A guy I have a crush on wants to do things I've never done
Q. Hi, Im 15 years old, and there is this guy who I like and he likes me back. He says that he wants to finger me and do stuff with me, and I want to as well but I am shit scared. There are so many things that Im worried about, and questions I want a...
A. 18 August 2017: Hello,
I think that you should hold a little longer until you fell more mature and confident with your body.
If you haven't kissed or hugged with him, him wanting to finger you right away it's like a BIG RED FLAG. A normal relationship would st... (read in full...)
My husband is unaffectionate
Q. My husband literally acts like I'm invisible he never hugs/kisses me or shows me any love at all. I've asked him over and over what's wrong or whether he still loves me he just says that he does love me yet never changes. I even asked him if h...
A. 18 August 2017: Hello OP, Has he always been that way? Or is that recent and/or suspicious? How have your sexual life been on the past few years? If you saw a sudden change in his behavior, then either he is cheating you, or having personal problems, or he... (read in full...)
Did he cross the line? I'm not sure.
Q. I have been seeing this guy for a little over a month now, things are good. He has his kids every weekend so that kinda sucks but all and all he is nice.. I haven't met his kids yet but it's a bit soon for that. Anyway I told him that I haven't had ...
A. 18 August 2017: I'm no expert in this, but what he is doing is a very shady practice, IMHO.
What if he has an STD? Will he do the right thing and pay for your treatment? If he gets you pregnant, will he be a good father or pay his share of the responsi... (read in full...)
Should I invite my estranged dad?
Q. Hey Guys! I'm engaged and am due to have a small intimate wedding in January. My issue is that I don’t want to invite my dad. My dad and I don't have a relationship whats-so-ever. My mom passed away when I was 1 1/2 and didn't step up to take care ...
A. 18 August 2017: Short answer:
It's your party, and you invite who you want to. Period.
Long answer:
NO! If your father is not interested in you and has been always flaky in those small but important parts of your life, then that means he will flake out of you... (read in full...)
Is it right to ask for help?
Q. Should a person who is sick or not feeling well ask for help? Like: A lift home from a doctor's appointment or from hospital? Or for a friend to drop and check they are OK? This is if they have no family nearby or live alone. If you were havin...
A. 18 August 2017: Hello OP: "My longest friend of 25 years has not offered even to drive me or offered any help at all" -- You don't have a friend. What you thing you have, it's not friendship, she might just be an acquaintance. Is it OK to ask for help. YES, AS... (read in full...)
How best to take time from busy office for interviews?
Q. My company consists of 7 people including my manager. We are a small company but work exclusively for a major client. One of my colleagues recently left the company and the work has been redistributed to us. It's short term manageable but not ...
A. 18 August 2017: USE YOUR VACATION DAYS, IT'S YOUR RIGHT!
Now, if you want to happily interview, just lie a little, say a relative is sick, or say your are feeling seek, your cat/mother/dog is sick, or whatever, and get out and interview. If things go bad, the... (read in full...)
Is it petty that I am annoyed that the man I am dating is cheap?
Q. I am dating a guy who is about a decade older than me. On our first date we went to a restaurant (one he'd chosen and he asked me out). When the bill came he wanted to split it. He has a very well paying job. I am setting up my own business and earn ...
A. 18 August 2017: I think the whole thing about feminism was that girls will pay her half of the restaurant bill. I'm joking, but if you are a feminist, you need to bear with it. This depends on your cultural background. In places like Germany , it's very normal f... (read in full...)
Help me end my loneliness
Q. Has anyone else ever felt completely alone? I feel like my friends are drifting away from me. I also feel like I will never find someone who will actually treat me the way I deserve. I guess my question is have you ever felt alone? And what did you ...
A. 16 August 2017: Yes, I've been through that.
You are very young, and you have a long way to go.
It's normal at your age to have friends who drift apart, specially when they all go to different colleges.
Just wait and you'll find someone. In the mean time, le... (read in full...)
Should I invest in this relationship when I'm not completely trusted?
Q. Hi, I'm in a relationship for ~ 2 and a half years. She means a lot to me, and I to her (or so she leads me to believe). We get on very well, I enjoy and feel very much at ease with her and all that good stuff. However, I do not feel very tr...
A. 14 August 2017: Short answers: You can't build trust in 2 years. Long answer: Yes, you can build trust in 2 years, but it depends on each person. However, I don't think 2 years is enough for some one to fully trust you. I have been with my GF for 10 years, and ... (read in full...)
What will my boyfriend think of me that I don't have many friends?
Q. I am in a relationship and we have been together about three months. I feel a little bit insecure about the fact that i don't really have close female friends in the area (i work on my own, self employed) and where i live, i simply go to work, come ...
A. 14 August 2017: "Am i being silly in thinking my boyfriend will think i don't have many friends/social life and it is a reflection of who i am?" Short answer: YES. Long Answer: You see, for woman to have friendships with other woman, it's truly an art.... (read in full...)
Having sex all the time is really putting me off having sex
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together about seven months now. Things are kosher for the most part with a few small arguments here and there. One of the few things about the relationship that bother me is his sex drive. When we started dating I ...
A. 14 August 2017: I think you guys need to go to couples therapy, although it's too soon in the relationship. You need to learn how to set healthy boundaries. If you are tired from work, and you can't "put out" one night, you need to set your boundaries and stop him... (read in full...)
I bought a house with my boyfriend, am falling out of love and have fallen for a man on the other side of the world
Q. Hi aunts and uncles, First off please no judgement I didn't expect any of this to happen Need some help here. So I'm 38 no married no kids but have just in the last three months purchased a house in my hometown with my partner of four...
A. 14 August 2017: You mentioned he is on a band, touring through the states, RED FLAG HERE. Those guys are used to groupies, and the least thing they want are serious and committed relationships. Now, if you follow through all this, you will end up hurt, because it... (read in full...)
I cant break up with her because she threatens self harm.
Q. Hi, So I've been dating my girlfriend for about 3 years total now with some time in between here and there. I've been on the fence about breaking up with her for the entirety of this summer but I haven't been able to act on it because she is s...
A. 14 August 2017: You guys need to go to therapy. Her attempts to suicide are just ways to keep you in the relationship, it's a form of manipulation and for getting others to do whatever she wants to do. That is not a very healthy adult relationship IMH... (read in full...)
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