I know it is unfair for me but my heart has been ruling my head. What should I do?
Q. Hi everyone, I need your help. I believe you see clearer than me. It is a really long story. I have been here before. I once said I was and still am in love with this guy who twice my age and who is a divorced man with kids and an acoholic as well. ...
A. 13 May 2008: You don't care if you are seen as crazy and insane, you care so little for yourself that you even are wondering what it is about you that made his feelings for you fade, or if it was because he met someone better.
The truth of the matter is and y... (read in full...)
I know it is unfair for me but my heart has been ruling my head. What should I do?
Q. Hi everyone, I need your help. I believe you see clearer than me. It is a really long story. I have been here before. I once said I was and still am in love with this guy who twice my age and who is a divorced man with kids and an acoholic as well. ...
A. 13 May 2008: Your story makes me very sad. You are and were a young, naive girl with no experience and you were tricked by a sick man. He is way too old to be having sexual relations with you, in my country he would have been arrested for statuatory rape with ... (read in full...)
I feel sick at the way he behaves
Q. Is it ever ok to be in a relationship with a man who uses and sells drugs? Or torments your daughter with names? Or is signed on at many dating sites with pics you took of him on vaca even though he doesnt log in often? Why do I need valid...
A. 12 May 2008: No it is not right or OK to be in a relationship with a man who uses and sells drugs.
First it is illegal, and why would you want to subject yourself let alone your daughter to incarceration, as you could be arrested along with him if caught w... (read in full...)
Unbearable truth....do I move on or wait for a cheater to reform?
Q. I am 38 and my ex gf is 23 going on 24. We had been together for over a year and a half. Chance meeting at a bar and I wasn't looking for someone this young. Firstly, she's geniunely naive, stupid and weak. I slept with her the first night. I had ...
A. 12 May 2008: Wow, love is about the other person, it is about putting their needs first, understanding them and accepting their life struggles as well as championing their accomplishments.
This girl is young, you are well beyond her in years and experien... (read in full...)
Where is the Moral Outrage?
Q. This question is directed to the Bible thumpers out there and you know who you are. About the so totally holy and super sacred institution of marriage. When two dudes get married the marriage is between one man and one woman brigades crap their ...
A. 12 May 2008: What in the sam hell are you'ns talking about heyre!... (read in full...)
Is my grirlfriend planning to cheat on me in this vacation since she does not want me to accompany her?
Q. I need desperate help. My girlfriend and I have been together for almost a year and a half. Things have been a little down lately due to my side of the family issues accepting her. She plans on going on a business trip abroad, conveniently over memo...
A. 11 May 2008: It seems to me the main issue that you two need to resolve is the difference in your religions and your reluctance to bring your girlfriend into your family life. If you are serious about this girl then she needs to feel a part of your religous ... (read in full...)
My lover says he wants his wife to know about us but is too afraid to tell her, should I tell her?
Q. My lover has said he would like for his wife to find out about our affair. He is too afraid to tell her, he's afraid of losing his kids. Should I tell her? ...
A. 8 May 2008: Your lover is telling you, no lieing to you that he is too afraid to tell her because he is afraid of losing the kids.....he is half heartedly trusting that you love him enough NOT to tell his wife so his fate won't be losing the kids...because if ... (read in full...)
We are having an affair, could he be really looking for love while being married...?
Q. I am a married woman, having a affair with a married man. We just kind of fell into it and were clear that we both wanted more than what a affair offers but willing to see where this goes. Neither of us I suppose are ready to call it quits in our ...
A. 7 May 2008: Please, help me out here....could there really be a man looking for love while being married that isn't ready to leave his spouse yet?
You see the red flags waving???? How about you are both married!!!! That is a neon red flag waving in the w... (read in full...)
He told me he didn't want anything serious but his actions are contradicting himself. Is he playing me?
Q. Hello I am 26 years olds, and i have been dating this guy for like almost 3 months, I like him a lot, and I have strong feelings for him, we live one hour and a half away, he is very sweet with me, he caring, we normally see each other on Sunday,...
A. 7 May 2008: So how with his actions is he contradicting that he doesn't want anything serious. You see each other once a week, that is casual regardless of the distance between where you two live....if he was serious, time would magically appear and he would ... (read in full...)
I'm starting to feel like he's just abandoning me! Could he just be busy?
Q. im at a loose end here! a guy i have known for 8 years asked me out on a date, aparantly he has been wanting to ask me out for over a year. i went out with him and we got together. we were so in love! we have both had really bad relationships in the ...
A. 7 May 2008: Well, for one I really hate text messages, I think they are a really lame way to communicate with someone, it is sort of cowardly, as if you feel lack of confidence in the relationship to just actually pick up the phone and talk.
It is an unre... (read in full...)
I need to talk about being together. How should I approach it?
Q. well, ive been seeing this dude for sometime now about two months or so and we also have sex together like two to four times a week. and i feel close to him, he takes me out to eat and we have fun together. well over time i have gained feelings for ...
A. 7 May 2008: You don't do anything except in a quiet moment tell him how much you like him and enjoy being with him....let him start the "where is this relationship going" talk. If he doesn't start it soon, you may want to examine what you think his reasons are ... (read in full...)
He says that relationships are bad and that they never work out.
Q. Hey! Well i was just wondering if anyone could give me some much needed help. About two years ago, i went out with a guy for a few months, but it didn't really work out, but we stayed good friends and two years later he's now my best friend. ...
A. 7 May 2008: This is a complicated thing....it is really hard sometimes to know if you are in a relationship or not these days, what with how people like to label things, f buddy, friends with benefits, girlfriend, lover, friend....it is confusing to say the ... (read in full...)
I want to gain confidence and lose my virginity?
Q. I haven't been in any relationships, had sex, kissed or even held hands with a girl before. I always get anxious when I talk a girl talks to me let alone when I have to approach a girl. I lack a lot of confidence and am very shy because of this. I ...
A. 6 May 2008: Yeah not showering for a month, that will increase your confidence....
Stop judging yourself on never having kissed a girl and going straight to I want to lose my virginity.
It isn't a race and when the time is right it will happen for you.
... (read in full...)
Why am I angry alot and how can I control it??
Q. Hi, I am angry alot of the time when i think of my past and how people treated me. For some reason people turned against me, particularly women, any job i have ever had. I had two particular jobs where i worked solely with women, well one of the ...
A. 6 May 2008: Ok, first off, I am sorry you are feeling this way, but since you are it is understandable that you are angry.
In a way, your anger is motivating...use that anger to go on a self improvement program, that is right a self improvement prog... (read in full...)
Why do I keep allowing myself to get drawn in by him? What can I do to end all of this?
Q. Hello, I need your help with something that's been bothering me. I've been friends with this guy for about 8 years. We've always been rather close and have fooled around a bit in the past. He has a girlfriend who he's been with for 2 years but rece...
A. 6 May 2008: This guy doesn't have feelings for you, and he is lying to you when he says he thinks his girlfriend is fat and ugly, come on he has been with her for the last 2 years.
He is a cheater and he is simply playing with your feelings and gets a kick o... (read in full...)
I have a little trouble with my skin, any ideas on how to prevent the peeling?
Q. Hi i'm 13 year old femalee (: and having a little trouble with my skin. EVERYBODY admires it and thinks its lovely especialy for my age i drink a fair bit of water cleanse and always moisturise before i apply foundation but when i put foundation o...
A. 5 May 2008: You may want to consult a doctor, if you have peeling near your eyebrows, it could actually be a fungal type infection, so go see about it.
I think 13 is too young to be wearing foundation....your skin doesn't need it and it may clog your por... (read in full...)
Is her love just a lie?
Q. I have been in a relationship for 4 years I have never loved anyone more. When we first saw each other it was an instant attraction, something you would read about in a fantasy. She was already in a relationship with someone and had a child wi...
A. 5 May 2008: Oh, my goodness, she must be really something to look at, because you can't see your reflection in her eyes they are so full of sh---t! She is not a pretty person, she is ugly on the inside and she is a weak sister....no impulse control, no common ... (read in full...)
He says since all he could offer me was grief he could only really offer me nothing-what does he mean?
Q. I was with my boyfriend for twelve years and he ended a year ago. He was adament that we remain friends and I guess I went along with it as I thought something was better than nothing. We have not had a physical relationship in that time. He sent me ...
A. 5 May 2008: Twelve years is a very long time to be with someone, and I in fact have had an 11 year dating relationship in my past so I know a little about this. My ex and I were always best friends, and when he moved away for his job and he asked me to move ... (read in full...)
How do I know if ill ever get over him ?
Q. i dated this guy on and off for about a year and we were, still are, truly in love he cheated three times. i hooked up with someone when we were broken up. we faught alot. but near the end, around september (we dated december 2006 - december 2007) ...
A. 5 May 2008: You between T and RD is TURD
You between D and RT is DURT
You between R and DT is R U D T
Honey, you figure it out, you have so much drama going on here with all three of these boys it is a wonder you can find your socks and shoes, or shoes ... (read in full...)
Only married a year, and communication has broken down, should I get a divorce?
Q. I am a female in her early thirties, and I want to tell my husband that I want a divorce because at this point in our marriage I am very unhappy. He is a sweet person, but he is not willing to compromise about anything. We are communicating less and ...
A. 5 May 2008: The first year is the hardest....try some marriage counseling, go alone first and then invite your husband....you may need to learn how to communicate better, you both could have problems in this area.... (read in full...)
What is the strangest place to have sex?
Q. Sorry for all the questions on here but I enjoy hearing everyone's comments on things, it makes you look at everything so much differently. The world is so diverse it is amazing. But as for my question. Where is the wierdest place any of you...
A. 5 May 2008: On a 747 Jet parked on the runway at DFW airport (my boyfriend was a mechanical engineer for the airlines), on the sandy shores of a beautiful stream on my grandmother's Kansas farm.....hmmmm... (read in full...)
Do you believe that it is possible for us to continue to work at the same place despite the mutual attraction?
Q. I've made a decision to NOT get involved with a man who I am attracted to at work, and he's attracted to me as well. Do you believe that it is possible for us to continue to work at the same place and just remain co-workers? Do you think these ...
A. 5 May 2008: Of course, our concscious decisions made by the gray matter between our ears is what seperates us from the animals....we can control our actions, our feelings, our wants and desires, it's called having integrity and self control.... (read in full...)
Is my grirlfriend planning to cheat on me in this vacation since she does not want me to accompany her?
Q. I need desperate help. My girlfriend and I have been together for almost a year and a half. Things have been a little down lately due to my side of the family issues accepting her. She plans on going on a business trip abroad, conveniently over memo...
A. 4 May 2008: I don't know what you mean by recent family issues accepting her....recently has your family not made your girlfrieind accepted by them?
It seems to me something has caused your relationship to deteriorate to the point of your jealousy and her ... (read in full...)
Am I in love or is it an obsession I have?
Q. Dear Cupid, am i in love or obsessed? I've liked this guy (for the purpose of this, lets call him mr x)for nearly a year now, that was when i first met him. It became clear to me how much i liked mr x straight away, but then mr x just wasn't inte...
A. 4 May 2008: Wow this sounds like an algebra problem where you divided mr x by mr y and got mr x splitting with ms z....
I think you maybe need to get back to math problems and let things sort themselves out with the boys....
You're not in love, this fanta... (read in full...)
Is it possible to reverse his image of the "needy" girl, as I think I may have scared him off!
Q. I met this guy about 4 months ago. He lives 2000 miles away, but was in town for the weekend and we met, but did not hook up. We exchanged numbers and began to get to know each other. I flew to see him twice already, and the last time(about 2 week...
A. 4 May 2008: My question to you is why does this guy feel right if he lives 2000 miles away and you are flying to see him? He should be flying to see you.
Personally, I don't think the majority of men are going to let themselves get serious over a woman wh... (read in full...)
I need to contact him before we leave for different Uni's. Please can you help?
Q. Well i may sound like a loser to you guys but i have to make a confession....i liked a guy for almost 8 months secretly without anyone knowing. I used to catch him looking at me many times, but it lead nowhere..and now i have 15 days left, and both ...
A. 4 May 2008: No, you aren't a loser, but this is a fantasy you have only lived in your head....you say you like him but have never talked to him, or know anything about him.....this is a schoolgirl crush.
You missed your chance to get to know him, and now you ... (read in full...)
I was cheating, but can't I still get her to be friends with me?
Q. This might be long so let me apologize for that in the beginning. Well, I broke up with my girlfriend seven months ago. At first we were still trying to be friends. But then she hacked my mail account and read all my mails to these other girls. I...
A. 4 May 2008: I don't think she has anything to be sorry for, even reading your emails...she acted on a hunch that she could not trust you, you treated her like a mushroom and kept her in the dark for your comfort, not hers, it was you who couldn't bear to see ... (read in full...)
How to stop feeling jealous and insecure, when you know your bf isn't that into you?
Q. My bf split up with me a few days ago following me being irrationally jealous about someone. I find I get jealous feelings and while I know he wouldn't cheat on me, I always worried that he preferred other girls to me. Whenever we had a disagre...
A. 4 May 2008: Whenever we had a disagreement he'd say he wanted to be single and had only not split up with me because the relationship meant so much to me (great!). So this made me feel like I was the only one enjoying the time we spent and worrying that he ... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend cheating or is she just selfish?
Q. So I've been dating a girl for more than a year, and we plan to live together soon. We live on different sides of the country and met when she was in town on a business trip, but manage to meet up quite frequently, often for several days at a time. ...
A. 2 May 2008: This seems rather contradictory, first she is the sweetest girl that you like to hang around with, and most of the other times she is inconsiderate and rude, and asks you pointedly hurtful questions about your race and religion.
She has never in... (read in full...)
Why won't my boyfriend introduce me to people?
Q. My b/f frequently fails to introduce me to women we bump into, that he knows personally. This makes me feel like he's embarrassed to be with me or he's trying to play down the fact that we're involved. He says it's because some people aren't ...
A. 2 May 2008: Maybe he has some sort of hangup about women thinking you are too beautiful and that he would be showing off if he said this is my girlfriend, X, before he starts blabbing on about his life....my question is, what is wrong with these women who see ... (read in full...)
I had oral sex with this guy I work with. I found out he has a fiance!!
Q. I have been working with this guy for a few months. When we first met we flirted quite often then it turned physical. We never slept together but had oral sex. I knew before that that he had a girlfriend. I should have never done anything with him ...
A. 2 May 2008: What to do? Accept the consequences of feeling awkward that you gave a guy you work with a bj that you barely know, as you did not know him well enough to know his girlfriend was his fiance....what are you doing messing around with someone's ... (read in full...)
I had sex with him but I don't think he knows I like him, what do I do?
Q. A lot of guys that I am attracted to aren't really outgoing when it comes to talking to me- like for example, the boy that I'm crushing on (I know he likes me, and having sex with him proved it) won't come up to me and talk to me! I kind of have to ...
A. 2 May 2008: I hate to tell you this, but he doesn't sound interested in anything long term with you, you aren't girlfriend material, and I know you may not want to hear this, but having sex with him too soon to prove that he likes you, may be the reason why.
... (read in full...)
Trust me I love pain and pleasure, but with him it hurts so much, I cry!!
Q. My boyfriend and I are having sex, and I've had sex plenty of times with my ex's with no problems, but with him it hurts, like so badly I've cried. Trust me I love pain and pleasure, the two were made for each other, but I can't take that, it's so p...
A. 1 May 2008: It is possible that he is just too big for you and you will not be sexually compatible, it does happen, women are different sizes too, and there is a chance that you two just don't fit.....but of course try other options first....maybe even consult ... (read in full...)
I have mixed feelings about this, will my feelings change if he chooses me?
Q. Hi I am a young 22 yr old single mom. I am very scared because I met a married man who is ten yrs older than I am. I'm not scared because I met him but because when we talked for the first time it was for hours. We have so much in common and he is ...
A. 30 April 2008: "Ok, I didn't mean to make it sound like I like him because he is handsome, he is VERY HANDSOME." BUT.....LOL!
Look, I know you don't want to hear this, but you are all caught up in the intensity of your feelings, dancing in candlelight, singing,... (read in full...)
I have mixed feelings about this, will my feelings change if he chooses me?
Q. Hi I am a young 22 yr old single mom. I am very scared because I met a married man who is ten yrs older than I am. I'm not scared because I met him but because when we talked for the first time it was for hours. We have so much in common and he is ...
A. 30 April 2008: You met a man 10 years older than yourself and you talked for hours and there was a connection between you both. And now you are wondering if he should choose you and if so how you will feel about it.
Here is the thing. There is a danger i... (read in full...)
Would great sex make guys want a relationship?
Q. Ok guys if you have had mind blowing sex with a girl on a one night stand are you more likely to want to have a relationship with her? ...
A. 29 April 2008: This is stupid. There are no rules in dating or how a relationship starts between a man and a woman. So you had mind blowing sex with him on the first get together, so what...the attraction was there and you acted on it.
Now if you are interest... (read in full...)
This is the first time I've dated a younger man, is the age gap an issue?
Q. I'm a 35 year old woman who's dating a 27 year old guy.We him met through a friend. At first I was kind of skeptical in talking ting to him. He is so mature and we have so many things in common. I am starting to have really strong feelings for him ...
A. 29 April 2008: I am in an age gap relationship of more years than you are and I am very happy, my guy is younger than me too. The only problems I have is other women, they are completely jealous and pretend that there is something wrong with me behind my back, ... (read in full...)
Is he cheating? Do I confront him? Please help!!
Q. Ok, I will start from beginning. I have been with my partner coming up to one year. He has never given me reason not to trust him. About 6 months ago, he went away and gave me his email password so I could check it for him. I have never snooped. N...
A. 28 April 2008: It seems that he is curious about this site, he hasn't taken the steps to be contacted or has contacted any one else, but he is just lurking and viewing profiles.
I would assume that he hasn't the balls to actually use this site to meet women, h... (read in full...)
When is it okay to tell her I love her? I don't want to freak her out.
Q. hey my gf and I (I'm 18 she's 15)just started going back out about 10 days ago. Before then in January we went out for a month then broke up because we wanted to get to know each other better. and from then till now we have developed into best ...
A. 28 April 2008: I would sit with your feelings for awhile. You have just been through an emotional thing accepting Christ into your life and you are filled with love from that experience.
Your girlfriend may feel a bit pressured if after only a month or two you ... (read in full...)
How could she be happy and having fun after completely breaking my heart?!
Q. Ok so I have a problem. I know its just stupid but I was dating this girl for about 6 months and she broke up with me over the phone right before I had to be at work and she never gave me a reason or anything like that. I never had any closure to ...
A. 28 April 2008: Hi honey, I can understand your hurt. This girl took a cowards way out, breaking up with you over the phone and not giving you a reason.....this is really reflective of her character and not of yours.
She probably doesn't know why she broke up... (read in full...)
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