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| Latest articles: Get Over Him NOW! Or NEVER!
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20 July 2009: Get Over Him NOW! Or NEVER! Initial title of this article: Get Over Him NOW! Or NEVER! I’m no expert, I’m 16 years old going on 17 right now. So I haven’t much life experience but I can relate to some teens who are in the situation I was in. The re...
Getting Over Unrequited Love!
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25 April 2009: “GET OVER HIM/HER!” It’s not as simple as some people put it! People tell you to move on “There’s plenty more fish in the sea” but your heart screams that one dreaded name…your true love who never felt the same way and nothing in the world except ...
He Was The Bliss Of My Life But Our Love Was Forbidden!
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12 April 2009: Hiya, this my story about teenage love, I fell head over heels for someone that I could never have but I convinced myself that we were going to make it together in some crazy fantasizing way. You could say that it was unrequited love. Or even taboo. ...
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I want a baby at 13
Q. the thing is i am 13 (14 on october the 26th) and i want a baby so much i cannot explain my feelings i know i am ready i have tryed to put it off by babysitting but that makes my feelings stronger i have looked it up on the internet and told my mum ...
A. 14 August 2009: I was in the exact same position as you when I was 15 years old. I really wanted a baby because I felt that I was not loved uncondiionally. I even went mad and started listing all the things I's need to buy in order to look after a baby; like ... (read in full...)
Get Over Him NOW! Or NEVER!
Q. Get Over Him NOW! Or NEVER! Initial title of this article: Get Over Him NOW! Or NEVER! I’m no expert, I’m 16 years old going on 17 right now. So I haven’t much life experience but I can relate to some teens who are in the situation I was in. The re...
A. 25 July 2009: Don't let your dreams take over, after all they're ONLY DREAMS. Focus on getting over him, relationships with teachers are just not worth it.
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Get Over Him NOW! Or NEVER!
Q. Get Over Him NOW! Or NEVER! Initial title of this article: Get Over Him NOW! Or NEVER! I’m no expert, I’m 16 years old going on 17 right now. So I haven’t much life experience but I can relate to some teens who are in the situation I was in. The re...
A. 22 July 2009: The best thing to do is to set getting over him as one of your main goals in your life atm!
I hope you get through it easy! Love is beautiful but only when it works both ways!
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I cry because I miss my teacher so much! How can I take my mind of it?
Q. Hey. I've recently posted about a crush on a teacher. Well. He has gone to India a while ago and I really miss him. I won't see him for another eight weeks because of summer holidays and the remanded of when he is in India. So I'll only see hi...
A. 4 July 2009: My heart goes out to you hunni! People don't understand, and I bet that you will get answers/responses telling you that you are jus exaggerating and that you're a stupid little girl for ever falling for a teacher, but we can't help who we fall in ... (read in full...)
Why do I want to throw up when I remember my ex?
Q. I have this problem..all my friends say i lost a lot of weight. I just got out of a relationship and I know that this is the reason. Its not that I don't have an appetite to eat. I do have!! The problem is when I start to eat, I remember my ex and I ...
A. 2 July 2009: Fatherly Advice is spot on.
This could be something pychological. I suggest that you see your general practitioner (GP doctor) first.
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Guys make me feel worthless, cheap and degraded. Why do I feel this way?
Q. Normal girls would just say that they like getting attention from the opposite sex but I don't know why I feel cheap and degraded when I'm looked at in such a way by boys. And when I'm whistled at I don't feel appreciated I feel like a slut or a who...
A. 2 July 2009: Once again, thank you everyone for your advice. I suppose there is going to be one nice guy out there for me.
It still happens (all the pervs making stupid noises and shouting out of their cars and beeping the car horn) even today when I was off ... (read in full...)
Free shot: What's wrong with me? Am I a dirty secret?
Q. We met, talked, fell in love - (happens when you're not looking for love). I was 39 (divorced, kids not with me) she was 23. I lived on the other side of the country. Long distance was a pain, but we made it work and saw each other as often as ...
A. 1 July 2009: Just follow your heart. I’m not just saying that, it works.
I think you'll find that I understand because I have been in a situation a bit like your girlfriend but it wasn't the same. I was actually prepared to tell EVERYONE because I would have... (read in full...)
Guys make me feel worthless, cheap and degraded. Why do I feel this way?
Q. Normal girls would just say that they like getting attention from the opposite sex but I don't know why I feel cheap and degraded when I'm looked at in such a way by boys. And when I'm whistled at I don't feel appreciated I feel like a slut or a who...
A. 1 July 2009: Even if I didn't follow a certain religion I wouldn't dress in the intention of attacting attention and look like a hooker. It's just not me.
Sometimes guys are so nice to me and then they turn out to be just like the rest, they start by being so c... (read in full...)
Free shot: What's wrong with me? Am I a dirty secret?
Q. We met, talked, fell in love - (happens when you're not looking for love). I was 39 (divorced, kids not with me) she was 23. I lived on the other side of the country. Long distance was a pain, but we made it work and saw each other as often as ...
A. 1 July 2009: I can see where she is comming from. Maybe it's not because you're not a "show pony" it could be that she isn't ready to tell her parents of what she 'thinks' they will disapprove of (which is you). Can you blame her for doing that? Over-protective ... (read in full...)
Guys make me feel worthless, cheap and degraded. Why do I feel this way?
Q. Normal girls would just say that they like getting attention from the opposite sex but I don't know why I feel cheap and degraded when I'm looked at in such a way by boys. And when I'm whistled at I don't feel appreciated I feel like a slut or a who...
A. 30 June 2009: Maybe it's partly to do wih my upbringing.
I'm not sexist. I don't think it's "bad" for getting attention I just have enough of it sometimes. I've been harrassed just because I rejected a link. I find links disgusting!... (read in full...)
Can this relationship work even though he slept with his sister?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together since the seventh grade. We will be entering tenth grade in the fall. When I first saw him, I was head over heels. I did everything to get his attention, and then one day, he sat beside me in class and passed...
A. 29 June 2009: Anyone who sleeps with their own brother or sister is a criminal offence not to mention morally wrong. If I was the mother of that brother and sister I would give up bringing them up, I'd probably go mental if I found out as it disgusting, he n... (read in full...)
Not very talkative with others. Do I come across as boring?
Q. I have had confidence all my life. I've never really been able to build a relationship with anyone. From my point of veiw, I've always felt that people have just put me down, including teachers. I went to a religious primary school, and a lot of the ...
A. 25 June 2009: I can completely understand you, I was bullied when I was at secondary school (high school) and it really knocked my confidence. I'm 16 now and I feel like I've grown out of my insecurities (due to bullying) and left the phase of what bullying did ... (read in full...)
Was it rape or sex?
Q. okay so i was a virgin...i started talking to this guy he was gorgeous..whe had known eachther for a while and decided to go out and we ended up in his room. at first just teasin the making out but then he started pulling my jeans and i dit want to ...
A. 13 June 2009: I'm sorry for what happened to you but you have to file a police report, you cannot let him get away with this.
Good Luck
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And update us on what has happened lately!
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Was it rape or sex?
Q. okay so i was a virgin...i started talking to this guy he was gorgeous..whe had known eachther for a while and decided to go out and we ended up in his room. at first just teasin the making out but then he started pulling my jeans and i dit want to ...
A. 12 June 2009: Unfortunately this is one of the things that can't really be answered properly hun. People say that you should get so wasted and go off with someone who you barely know and can't trust like in your case. You will not not what happened that ni... (read in full...)
What do I do if they go out?
Q. the one i love, the one i would die for is now in love with my best friend, and my best friend is in love with him. iam so upset she says to me on msn that iam selfish and a sl_t. shes the one selfish i am so in love with him and after every thing ...
A. 11 June 2009: I don't think this girl is your friend and friends will never ever go for a guy over her best mate. But if she is truly in love then there is nothing you can do to prevent them from seeing each other.
I'm sorry to hear about how heart-br... (read in full...)
How to give my boyfriend a good hand job??
Q. hey im 14 and my boyfriend asked me for a handjob. i said i would think about it and i hav i want to give him one but i dont know how and i dont want to ask him how i should do it im just 2 shy to ask. so how do i give him a really really good ...
A. 7 June 2009: In response to the "A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2009):" This is what she wrote: "Ignore these weird people. 14 is never too young to experience pleasure and retro if it isnt "NORMAL" then im 14 why do i have oral sex and orgasms ... (read in full...)
Its always teachers!
Q. I'm on my final year at high school, I fell head over heels for my drama teacher when I was 14 and now I'm 16 and I have loved him ever since. I even told him how I felt but that didn't help because I thought he loved me back when he told me "I love ...
A. 6 June 2009: No, I go to a mixed school (boys and girls)... (read in full...)
How to give my boyfriend a good hand job??
Q. hey im 14 and my boyfriend asked me for a handjob. i said i would think about it and i hav i want to give him one but i dont know how and i dont want to ask him how i should do it im just 2 shy to ask. so how do i give him a really really good ...
A. 6 June 2009: YOU'RE ONLY FOURTEEN?
When I was fourteen I wouln't have even thought about doing something like that! You're too young to be performing anything sexual. I think that you're just being naive; any normal fourten year old would not so much as consi... (read in full...)
Its always teachers!
Q. I'm on my final year at high school, I fell head over heels for my drama teacher when I was 14 and now I'm 16 and I have loved him ever since. I even told him how I felt but that didn't help because I thought he loved me back when he told me "I love ...
A. 31 May 2009: I know I'll probably get over my teachers but I just want to know what's wrong with me. Why do i never fall for guys my own age? And even if they're older guys they're always teachers! Why?... (read in full...)
Why do I fall for teachers?
Q. In jr. high I fell for my math teacher, to the point where it could be considered an obsession. I'm a very shy person, and I didn't have very many friends. I constantly looked for ways to get his attention. He was a very caring person, and I liked ...
A. 30 May 2009: I think it is because you're searching for a father figure, that's exactly what I did too. I spent my entire life wondering if the man that walked past me in the street was my father but i know that now I have to live with it. I hope this helps. ... (read in full...)
Why do I fall for teachers?
Q. In jr. high I fell for my math teacher, to the point where it could be considered an obsession. I'm a very shy person, and I didn't have very many friends. I constantly looked for ways to get his attention. He was a very caring person, and I liked ...
A. 30 May 2009: I think that it's because you like men who have power and teachers demonstrate power very often. Teachers are in a powerful position ALL THE TIME. They're adults, they care about your future and the grades you get that will impact your future. That... (read in full...)
I'm not even 16 but he won't stop talking about "doing it"!
Q. I've just finished year 11 at school. It was a great day everyone had fun and most the girls and some of the boys cried. Then there was the leavers party that night. It all went well till two of my mates left at 8 and I was left to hang out with...
A. 24 May 2009: I'm 16 years old and I know exactly how you feel because I went through the same thing!
Don't have sex with him because that is all he want, he's wanting to use you for sex and that's not right, if you have any respect for yourself don't let him ... (read in full...)
How can I get the confidence to approach girls without feeling rejection
Q. i am 22 and very insecure. i have never had a proper g/f and find it hard to approach girls for fear of rejection. i portray myself as a carefree individual but that could not be further from the truth. i take negative comments very personally. i ...
A. 17 May 2009: It's normal to fear rejection but the good thing about telling the person how you feel is that even if they reject you at least you will know that she's not worth dwelling over and tha is how your confidence is built up. The people in you past are ... (read in full...)
Why do people stare at me wherever I go?
Q. When I go out with family or by myself, people look and stare at me like i'm an museum exhibit. This really irritates, upsets, and angers me. They stare at me for more than 3 seconds. When i'm at a restaurant with my family people just stare at me ...
A. 17 May 2009: I get stared at when I'm wearing an expensive dress. I get stared at when I'm having an argument in the bus. I get stared at when I'm wearing a short skirt. I get stared at when I'm going to my own birthday party.
And sometimes I simply get star... (read in full...)
Are bigger boobs better?
Q. I'm a size 34A but sometimes 36AA fits me well too - well only when I 'stuff' my bra to make my boobs look bigger. I just feel so crap about my boobs, well some of the time anyway and I get so conscious of my boobs when there's this beautiful girl ...
A. 17 May 2009: Thanks for the advice TalkingHelps, nicole19 and the anonymous writer; I think I should just make the most of what I've got.
The anonymous post most certainly made me feel good about my bust...THANK YOU!... (read in full...)
How tall is too tall?
Q. So, uh, ladies... what height do you prefer on guys? What's gotta be the bare minimum height you like on a guy? And if there's such a thing as too tall, beyond what height would that be?...
A. 14 May 2009: 5'6" is alright; I used to have a boyfriend who was 5'6" You're not as short as you think!... (read in full...)
I'm Torn Between 'Gorgeous Guy' and The 'Shy Guy?
Q. I'm so confused, I feel like I am so in love with the both of them! And I think and dream about both of them; and I feel like I want them both! What can I do about it! Ok, there are two guy in my year group who I have feelings for, the more time I s...
A. 13 May 2009: Ok, the 'shy guy' knows I really like him but he doesn't feel that way about me so I guess I'm just friend with him. BUT I feel like he's avoiding me because he probably thinks I'd make a move on him - when I know that I will not.
And the o... (read in full...)
How tall is too tall?
Q. So, uh, ladies... what height do you prefer on guys? What's gotta be the bare minimum height you like on a guy? And if there's such a thing as too tall, beyond what height would that be?...
A. 11 May 2009: I like a guy who's the same height as me or just a maximum 3 inches taller than me. Women's preference to height in men varys A LOT! And I mean A LOT. Every woman is different.
Could I ask why you ask why you asked the question? Did someone ... (read in full...)
Is there something wrong with me?
Q. I'm tired of the dating and dating and always getting the same results. I've dated quite a few girls but ive never truely had a official girlfriend. I'm quite shy so most of the girls I've dated usually make the 1st move, it starts off great they ...
A. 8 May 2009: I think that you should give it a rest with girls and dating...dates can be daunting which 'will' most certainly cause you to get nerous and sometimes dates don't work for certain people, liek me and I'm guessing 'you' too. Not for me because I like ... (read in full...)
I'm confused! He keeps asking me to have sex with him
Q. i dont regret this, but i think i do :S i no this boy 'c' and he was really sweet to me. so after about 6 months of talking to him on msn, i decided to meet him. he only lived araound the corner from me so it wasent that bad. but the first time i m...
A. 8 May 2009: Hiya babe, I think that all he is after is 'one thing' and that is sex, he doesn't like you or love you by th sounds of it. He just wants sex and he wouldn't carre how he gets it! All he is after is sex, so drop him like a hot cake and move on... (read in full...)
Should I just kiss him?
Q. ok i kiss my boyfriend and im not sure how i should kiss him again! cause i just went to the carnival and well i was with my b0oyfriend and then he kissed meh and well im not sure if i just go up to him and kiss him or if i kiss him when i leave can ...
A. 8 May 2009: It doesn't matter; act on what you feel and all shall be perfect!
If he finds that you're making more of an attempt to kiss him then he'd be flattered and know hoe much he means to you!
Good Luck!
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I want himto hate me
Q. OK. So there's this guy at my school who just confessed how he feels about me and he expects me to like him back but I can't like him back when it's someone else I long for just because he's got this major crush on me and he said he's had a thing ...
A. 6 May 2009: He certainly doesn't know how to win a girl and I walked up to him at lunchtime when he was trying to get away cuz he was embarrassed and I told him straight "what you said was way out of line and I never ever want to be spoken to like that" and he ... (read in full...)
I'm a teenager with mood swings, what's wrong with me
Q. Okay...its not really a sex thing or anything like that...Ive just started getting really bad mood swings and its really getting to me, im one of those people who never cry unless something bad has happened, but today ive cried at least 5 times over ...
A. 5 May 2009: I can totally relate to you. I am 16 years old and I cry most of the times over little things - like when my mum keeps walking into my room without knocking and tells me that I'm going shopping with her and instead of easily telling her that I don't ... (read in full...)
I want himto hate me
Q. OK. So there's this guy at my school who just confessed how he feels about me and he expects me to like him back but I can't like him back when it's someone else I long for just because he's got this major crush on me and he said he's had a thing ...
A. 5 May 2009: Thank you for the advise LazyGuy, satindesire and jessica04.
I have saved and printed off all the messages he wrote to me. I've already told my friends and they think it's a joke and giggle about it, how can I convince to them the seriousnes of the ... (read in full...)
Everyone else is in love with my boyfreind,why cant I be?
Q. Hi i need help ,I'm in a relationship that I see going nowhere, He loves me to bits my family adore him,I think they like him even more than they like me,he is perfect. I cant talk to him ,I don't find his jokes funny ,we cant laugh together ,I ...
A. 3 May 2009: It's the feeling of friendship. Relationships with certain people and our perception towards them sometimes confuse us especially when it is influenced by others, I think that your so-called 'love' feelings for him are influenced by your family w... (read in full...)
I am not physically attracted to my wife any longer. What to do about it?
Q. I know this is horrible of me but I am not physically attracted to my wife anymore. since we started dating and now since we are married she has put on a lot of weight while I have now for the past four months have started a workout and diet plan ...
A. 1 May 2009: Just because you are not physically attracted anymore to her doesn't mean you do not love her any longer. Just like Britney Spears and her partner when they were together - he hated the fact that Britney put on weight but still loved her. I'll gi... (read in full...)
Getting Over Unrequited Love!
Q. “GET OVER HIM/HER!” It’s not as simple as some people put it! People tell you to move on “There’s plenty more fish in the sea” but your heart screams that one dreaded name…your true love who never felt the same way and nothing in the world except ...
A. 29 April 2009: Thank you for your feedback!
It's well appreciated!
X... (read in full...)
He Was The Bliss Of My Life But Our Love Was Forbidden!
Q. Hiya, this my story about teenage love, I fell head over heels for someone that I could never have but I convinced myself that we were going to make it together in some crazy fantasizing way. You could say that it was unrequited love. Or even taboo. ...
A. 26 April 2009: Reply to bethevans
I think that your situaltion is kinda different even though there are similarities, I mean; the guy I so loved was my teacher!
I dunno, maybe it doesn't work, maybe you're right.
I was just looking for ways to get over him... (read in full...)
What's wrong with me?! Is this NORMAL for a teenager?
Q. I'm a teenager that just can't date like others do. People my age date because they have a small crush on each other, because that's what you're supposed to do at my age, right? But for some reason I can only go with a girl for love, not just for...
A. 25 April 2009: I can totally relate to you! I'm 16
As teenagers we sometimes 'think' we're in love when we're not, we fall head over heeels for someone that we see at fist sight and then we ask them out on dates.
It's absolutely normal. It's just that, you're... (read in full...)
Help me out of a very weird situation!
Q. ok here is the deal i meet this guy when i was 10 through my dads friend i have now known him nine years im 19 and he is now 46 he is right now in prison for a drug deal that went wrong i see him every week he is getting out in 3 months we just ...
A. 25 April 2009: Follow your heart!... (read in full...)
He Was The Bliss Of My Life But Our Love Was Forbidden!
Q. Hiya, this my story about teenage love, I fell head over heels for someone that I could never have but I convinced myself that we were going to make it together in some crazy fantasizing way. You could say that it was unrequited love. Or even taboo. ...
A. 12 April 2009: Yeah I think we do and the only way I could be happy is to either stop seeing him ever again (but I'm scared it'll ruin me in the long run) or for me to get a new boyfriend (I still feel less attracted to other boys apart from that teacher)! I do... (read in full...)
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