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Like many others on here, I've had my share of relationship issues. I've been in an abusive relationship, where I was the abused. I've had times where I'd drink and party a bit much, times of depression and really feeling lost as to what I should be doing to improve my life and the lives of my children.

I have four children. I'm a single parent, of two children a boy (19) and a girl (10). My ex-wife has the two children we share living with her, 2 girls (16, and 14).

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Know who you're with

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6 July 2008: This is an article I received from local news. When reading this I think about how important it is to know who you know, and to notice changes in the behaviors of others. In cases like this, the agressor displays subtle signs prior to acting. He may ...

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I'm in love with my Godfather

Q.   I am a 22 year old female who is in love with my Godfather. Surprisingly enough, he has confessed to me that if he wasn't my Godfather, he would marry me. I really don't know what to do. I have dreams about him at night and I want to start a ...

A.   3 December 2010: I didn't know his wife was also around your age. I'm sorry you're going through this hard time. Have you considered spending your time volunteering around this season? You might even meet someone else who is doing the same that you might begin a ... (read in full...)

We've been trying to have a baby, then I find out he's fathered a child with another woman

Q.   As you see from my name. I am just that...so scared. I have been married now for nine years and with my husband for thirteen years. I found out maybe two weeks ago that he has been having an affair. Also with a person I know but through someone else ...

A.   30 October 2010: You're welcome. That is a good update that the child was not his. Now, once a week I want you two to begin going on a date. This will help you reconnect and rebuild intimacy in your marriage. I feel you're at the point where doing a few things ... (read in full...)

We've been trying to have a baby, then I find out he's fathered a child with another woman

Q.   As you see from my name. I am just that...so scared. I have been married now for nine years and with my husband for thirteen years. I found out maybe two weeks ago that he has been having an affair. Also with a person I know but through someone else ...

A.   30 October 2010: Are you evil? Anyone can be, if they choose to be. Let's talk about choice. An speaker I heard once stated, "Other than prayer, the greatest power we posses is the power to choose." You need to take this power back. You are the one in the drivers ... (read in full...)

I was in a physically abusive relationship and can't seem to get over feeling terrified about being anywhere alone!

Q.   i am almost 21 i was dating this abusive guy was in a relationship for about 9 months, he would always hit me, push me down stairs broke bones i could not talk to any one about this he threatend to kill me. i have not talked to him for almost 3 ...

A.   27 October 2010: I'm glad to hear that you are. Can't wait to hear your updates. Take care. ... (read in full...)

Should I stop talking to her or should I still try (because I know she loves me)?

Q.   Hey: My ex-girlfriend of two years broke up with me roughly two months ago because I was studying for my medical boards, working full time, and not giving her enough attention in the 5 months preceding. In addition, she got a new sales job (her f...

A.   26 October 2010: I believe you need to stop letting her leave, or you leave without having solid answers. If she's that hard to pin down, I would have asked her where you two stand during sex. I understand, sometimes we are reluctant to seek meaningful answers, ... (read in full...)

I was in a physically abusive relationship and can't seem to get over feeling terrified about being anywhere alone!

Q.   i am almost 21 i was dating this abusive guy was in a relationship for about 9 months, he would always hit me, push me down stairs broke bones i could not talk to any one about this he threatend to kill me. i have not talked to him for almost 3 ...

A.   25 October 2010: If he makes further contact with you, you may want to seek a no-contact order through a court. I know, there as good as the paper they are drafted on, but sometimes they actually get the message across. I want you to think about what you are trul... (read in full...)

Should I stop talking to her or should I still try (because I know she loves me)?

Q.   Hey: My ex-girlfriend of two years broke up with me roughly two months ago because I was studying for my medical boards, working full time, and not giving her enough attention in the 5 months preceding. In addition, she got a new sales job (her f...

A.   21 October 2010: Taking it slow just means not to rush things. So often people want NOW, without having patients to allow things to progress into what may eventually be. It's to allow nature take its course, without trying to force the course. ... (read in full...)

I was in a physically abusive relationship and can't seem to get over feeling terrified about being anywhere alone!

Q.   i am almost 21 i was dating this abusive guy was in a relationship for about 9 months, he would always hit me, push me down stairs broke bones i could not talk to any one about this he threatend to kill me. i have not talked to him for almost 3 ...

A.   21 October 2010: Answer this, when was the last time you saw him or hear from him? Does he live in your city? Do you live with your parents or in your own place? ... (read in full...)

She lied about meeting an ex and it still haunts me!

Q.   I really need some help sorting out my thoughts. I've browsed a couple of other questions none ever really gave a distinct absolute answer. Don't know if there is one. 12/2008 I met Susan. Shes 26 im 23. Instant attraction - nothing I had ev...

A.   21 October 2010: You forgave her, so keeping it at issue is inappropriate. She's your wife, and as you say, the best wife one could ask for. That should be your focus. When you said "I do", leave the BS on the outside. That's when you joined hands to spend your ... (read in full...)

I was in a physically abusive relationship and can't seem to get over feeling terrified about being anywhere alone!

Q.   i am almost 21 i was dating this abusive guy was in a relationship for about 9 months, he would always hit me, push me down stairs broke bones i could not talk to any one about this he threatend to kill me. i have not talked to him for almost 3 ...

A.   21 October 2010: Coming and opening up, admitting that these issues are taking place, is the first step toward healing. It's so easy to go with the flow day to day, and not as easy to realize we may have to change. You had a very traumatic experience. Don't le... (read in full...)

IS he really my soulmate?

Q.   my boyfriend and i have been together just under a year now. we have had a lot of ups and downs, and although all the great times we have shared outweigh the arguments, it's beginning to get too much. He is my 5th serious relationship and...

A.   21 October 2010: You know, if I go shopping for pants, and find a pair that fits, I don't go and buy a pair that does not. If you two love each other, then why is your past his focus. I understand this jealousy, but I don't understand why he would need to have equal ... (read in full...)

Should I wait for him even at the risk of ending up alone?

Q.   i have a very serious question that i need some closure on. please don't think i'm silly for asking it. first you need the back story. i grew up going to church every time the doors were open. it was nice especially for children because...

A.   20 October 2010: I feel your previous relationships ended because if your love is true for David, you are then aware of what is not. True love is different than what is experienced in most relationships, because it exists absent conscious thought, and emotional ego. ... (read in full...)

Should I stop talking to her or should I still try (because I know she loves me)?

Q.   Hey: My ex-girlfriend of two years broke up with me roughly two months ago because I was studying for my medical boards, working full time, and not giving her enough attention in the 5 months preceding. In addition, she got a new sales job (her f...

A.   20 October 2010: Did the two of you leave your intelligence at school? Life is tough. Relationships are not easy. You two are playing the gilt game, and that needs to stop. You can't be kissing and making out with her, then tell her not to contact you again. That's ... (read in full...)

Should I follow my dream?

Q.   I am 23 and currently studying for a degree in history which has been my dream since I was 14. The problem is I also have a dream about studying or volunteering abroad after but I have a boyfriend of six years and he wouldn't be able to come with ...

A.   20 October 2010: I believe you won't know how this may affect him, until you talk to him about it. I would say you need to follow your dream, and if he truly loves you, that's what he would want for you to do as well. You may remain together while you're following ... (read in full...)

Guilt is playing on my mind... help!

Q.   hi everyone. im needing some help. i have been in a relationship coming up two years now and i am totally head over heals in love with my girlfriend, and i know she loves me as much. we are both realy happy, but i have recently been thinking of a ...

A.   20 October 2010: I take it you have not told your girlfriend. That's what I would do. I would also like to emphasize the difference between you kissing another girl, and this girl sneaking a peck on you. You had not intent to do anything with her, even told her so ... (read in full...)

My ex wants me after I moved on!

Q.   3 years ago now i fell totally head over heels for a guy i met. We instantly clicked and had a lot of positive energy to the poitn where at times we we're inseperable. We had the same hobbies, interests and goals in life and i was smitten. After ...

A.   20 October 2010: I feel you will have to deeply search from within to find this answer. I feel you already now the answer, but you're seeking validation that what you may be feeling deep inside is true. But, if it is true to you, would anything anyone says here ... (read in full...)

How can I find somebody who truly loves me???

Q.   Hello.. I'm 20 years, I'm working like a model.. i have never had this kind of troubles, but i don't know what's wrong with me ?.. a couple of days ago a guy asked me out.. so I said yes! then he call me and said I'm sorry but i can't go there.. ...

A.   19 October 2010: Your welcome, and I hope everything works out for you. Take care. ... (read in full...)

I'm in love with my Godfather

Q.   I am a 22 year old female who is in love with my Godfather. Surprisingly enough, he has confessed to me that if he wasn't my Godfather, he would marry me. I really don't know what to do. I have dreams about him at night and I want to start a ...

A.   19 October 2010: I'm sorry you didn't get the job. Keep your head up. During my life, I've had times where I didn't get a position, then around the corner I end up getting one that ends up being better for me than the one I didn't get. You never know what's around ... (read in full...)

Who's my Daddy?

Q.   My son's ex lies to their 3 yr. old daughter that my son is not her father that her boyfriend is and her boyfriend reinforces this 100 percent. They will not allow Amy, the little girl, to call anyone daddy but bill the boyfriend. Me and my son ...

A.   15 October 2010: I agree, you need to involve the courts and get a DNA test completed. He can file and compel her to submitting to this test. The benefit will also be that he receives regular visitation with his child as well. I also agree that her behavior, in ... (read in full...)

Should I dump the girl I love to go for a hotter girl?

Q.   Hi I am currently in a relationship with someone I love. My friends say she is gross and ugly. A "hotter" girl likes me but I don't like her. Should I dump my current gf and go for the other one?...

A.   15 October 2010: Your friends are wrong, and you are wrong for asking this question. Never ever give up love for someone who physically looks better. If you were to, that'd be really messed up. ... (read in full...)

Is our relationship unhealthy?

Q.   I am a sixteen year old girl, engaged to (no, I'm not pregnant) my nineteen year old boyfriend and best friend of two years. One thing that was immediately obvious to everyone, including us was that we are both jealous, obsessive, and controlling ...

A.   15 October 2010: I'm not going to claim your relationship is unhealthy, at least not to a huge extent. I am worried about the physical violence you have both done when in an argument. That I think you two need to work on, and I don't feel it's where it can't be ... (read in full...)

I'm not ready to have sex with him, but I'm afraid he'll break up with me if I don't!

Q.   well i'm 15 and my boyfriend wants to have sex his 16 and i kinda want to wait a year or two i love him alot and i dont want him to brake up with me if i tell him no. how do i tell him i want to wait without him braking up with me?...

A.   15 October 2010: I agree, if he leaves you over telling him no, he wasn't worth it to you. Someone who is worth it is someone who wants you for you and will patiently wait for you to be ready. Don't rush in, and don't give in when you're not ready to. Take care. ... (read in full...)

I'm in love with my Godfather

Q.   I am a 22 year old female who is in love with my Godfather. Surprisingly enough, he has confessed to me that if he wasn't my Godfather, he would marry me. I really don't know what to do. I have dreams about him at night and I want to start a ...

A.   13 October 2010: Your welcome. Thank you for the new name, that's sweet. Keep us updated, and if you need anything else, just ask. Take care. ... (read in full...)

It seems like only I'm working on our relationship problems!

Q.   Split up with my husband 4 months ago, not because we don't love each other any more, in fact we're quite nuts about each other, but because there are many factors we just can't seem to overcome - culture differences, huge age difference which ...

A.   11 October 2010: Letting go is hard. I doesn't mean you don't love him. He needs help, and maybe one day he'll realize he can no longer travel down the path he's been going, and seek the help he needs. Unfortunately you can't force change, even if we could, it'd be ... (read in full...)

I'm in love with my Godfather

Q.   I am a 22 year old female who is in love with my Godfather. Surprisingly enough, he has confessed to me that if he wasn't my Godfather, he would marry me. I really don't know what to do. I have dreams about him at night and I want to start a ...

A.   11 October 2010: You may not think you do, but I assure you that God holds true to every reason you do. I believe you deserve every opportunity that best reflects who you are, and who (in every moment) you're developing to be. I hope you get that job. :)... (read in full...)

I just don't know when enough is enough. So can you tell me? When do you stop? When do you give up?

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for over 10 months now. The first four months were great, after that we had more and more arguements, and between 6-7 months were the worst, it seemed like we were constantly butting heads over everything, but I didn't ...

A.   9 October 2010: You need to respect your differences. You're not with each other because you're a mirror image of the other, you are because it's the differences in each other you're attracted to. You will not always have it your way, and neither will he. What I ... (read in full...)

How can I get over the hurt of my girlfriend cheating on me with two of her ex's?

Q.   hello me and my girlfriend have ben dating for a year now. i love her very much and i know that she loves me too and were in love, but my thing that she cheated on me with two of her exs and yes it hurt me really badly but i just dont know what to ...

A.   9 October 2010: You forgave her, so what else is there to do? We often wonder why someone would do that to someone they love, and really there is no answer other than it being disrespectful, them falling into desire, opportunity and in the moment. Who knows. I ... (read in full...)

Too tight for first time?

Q.   A few months ago my ex boyfriend fingered me, and it felt really good. But afterwards he told me that maybe I should lose my virginity to someone else as he thought I was "too tight." For various reasons we decided to break up and now I'm with...

A.   9 October 2010: Your ex said you'd be to tight. That's not true. I believe he was afraid to go all the way, and used that for an excuse. Reason being, requesting you loose your virginity with someone else. Now your with a new guy and you want sex? How long have you ... (read in full...)

I am stuck in a situation and do not know how to help myself.

Q.   I am a grown up person, divorced with a grown up child and I should know better, but I am stuck in a situation and do not know how to help myself. I know that I should leave him specially at my age I must know better. I think/know he is dating...

A.   9 October 2010: I've never personally met a mother who'd give such bad dating advice to their son. He doesn't respect you. To him, you're part of his game or obsession with women. You need to be firm and tell him that this relationship is not what you want. You ... (read in full...)

It seems like only I'm working on our relationship problems!

Q.   Split up with my husband 4 months ago, not because we don't love each other any more, in fact we're quite nuts about each other, but because there are many factors we just can't seem to overcome - culture differences, huge age difference which ...

A.   9 October 2010: There would be a lot that needs worked on. He does realize he has an eating disorder and that it strains your being together? You are doing what you need to. Keep doing it. All you can do is ask him to get help, but that is ultimately his decision. ... (read in full...)

My OCD boyfriend is very selfish

Q.   I have been with my bf for 6 months. He has OCD and everything has to be in specific order with him. He treats me right overall, but throughout the day he says some pretty hurtful things without realizing it. he has poor manners overall and I don't ...

A.   9 October 2010: He is trying to make you into his perfect OCD girl. You're that pillow that's out of place on his bed. I know that hurts, but I'm also sure you sense that's what's happening. He may be OCD, and I have known a few people who are, but how he treats ... (read in full...)

Marriage, Health Concerns, Responsibilities and Frustrations are crushing Me!

Q.   It is going to be long and complicated. I basically wanted to share. In my late twenties and married for three years I have been wanting to pursue my Ph.D. when fate took a devious turn. My parent got ill suddenly with cancer. My parents had to m...

A.   9 October 2010: First, your heart slipping for this other guy IS a problem. Reason being, it is not longer being focused on your husband or your marriage. If you are not wishing to remain married, it's only proper you tell your husband and either take steps to ... (read in full...)

B/f dumped me but I can't accept it and don't want to move on!

Q.   Hi i have been with my bf for over 10 months 2 weeks ago out of the blue he told me its not working out and he dumps me. I find out that he did not like certain things i did but never went as far as this before. I lied to him for a good reason and ...

A.   9 October 2010: Unfortunately, everyone is right. You need to move on, because you don't want to end up or seem as if you are a psychotic stalker. Have you heard the saying, "actions speak louder than words?" This is where you are now. You need to look at your ... (read in full...)

I am in a live in relationship but would like a relationship with another guy

Q.   I have been with my bf for about 2 yrs and weve been had a good relationship. There is another guy tho that I had a relationship with (kinda) and we have started to talk again and he's started to invite me to hang out again. My bf doesn't like that ...

A.   9 October 2010: Make your decision. Your boyfriend or this other guy. Who knows if he'll fall for you. You'd be taking a gamble, it may work for you, or it may work against you. I can understand your boyfriend and where he's coming from. You're in a live in ... (read in full...)

I am tired of being sad and anger

Q.   I am always feeling angry and sad with myself. I sometimes sit here and I cry because I feel angry with myself for not knowing what to do with my life or career. I am always on the internet doing career quizzes trying to find which career is right ...

A.   9 October 2010: What is it about change that you're afraid of? Do you feel as if you'll fail if you take a plunge and try something? I feel you're afraid of making a wrong choice, as if that choice will cause you to further be and angry and cause you to continue ... (read in full...)

How do I get back a person I lost?

Q.   hi, i have a question i lost a person that i totally love..but i really want to get the person back, im doing the no contact..its been 4months since we been apart,i try to talk to the person but nothing works.?? should i wait more?? i know the ...

A.   9 October 2010: Give them time. If it's going to happen, it will. Without further history, how you broke up, etc. I don't have much more for you. ... (read in full...)

I'm in love with my Godfather

Q.   I am a 22 year old female who is in love with my Godfather. Surprisingly enough, he has confessed to me that if he wasn't my Godfather, he would marry me. I really don't know what to do. I have dreams about him at night and I want to start a ...

A.   9 October 2010: You know, sometimes when hurt and broken, God renews and makes whole, but through new opportunities. I hope you get the job. :) Take care. ... (read in full...)

I cheated on my boyfriend and he won't get over it- what do I do?

Q.   I cheated on my man. I was wrong, I admit it, and I would turn back time and stay true to him if I could. But I can't, and I let him know that, but now he treats me like I do it everyday, conrtolling me and always accusing me of doing stuff with...

A.   6 October 2010: Those are valid reasons. You two should set certain boundaries before moving. It's easy to compromise the other when the opportunity presents itself. You need your time as well as he needs some freedom to party. Establish how much time will be spent ... (read in full...)

We've been trying to have a baby, then I find out he's fathered a child with another woman

Q.   As you see from my name. I am just that...so scared. I have been married now for nine years and with my husband for thirteen years. I found out maybe two weeks ago that he has been having an affair. Also with a person I know but through someone else ...

A.   4 October 2010: You want in some way a revengeful form of resolution. Something bad to happen to him to somehow justify the pain that he has caused you. I'm sure, deep down you know those thoughts are not okay. Even if he were to be hurt in someway, it would not ... (read in full...)

I want out, I don't love my husband

Q.   I've been married for 2 years and I got to the point where I don't know if i love my husband anymore...we were a couple for 2 years before we got married, long distance relationship, since then we've had lots of problems. He's jelous, immature, he's ...

A.   4 October 2010: It's okay to realize you do love him, but accept that you shouldn't be together. It doesn't mean you have to hate. Actually, hate is a destructive emotion. Hate, fear, worry, and guilt have been known to be emotions that are part cause for various ... (read in full...)

I just want my Mom back the way she used to be! Help me!

Q.   Hi! I've already sent in a plea for help a few months back. I got wonderful feedback, but I'm still having trouble. This has something to do with my mom. This is a really hard topic for me, and I apologize in advance if I write a lot. I just want to ...

A.   4 October 2010: It does hurt when someone talks to you that way, when you have such admiration toward them. Maybe not through what she has done with her life, but through who she is to you. I want you to remember and anytime someone talks to you that way, that how ... (read in full...)

I cheated on my boyfriend and he won't get over it- what do I do?

Q.   I cheated on my man. I was wrong, I admit it, and I would turn back time and stay true to him if I could. But I can't, and I let him know that, but now he treats me like I do it everyday, conrtolling me and always accusing me of doing stuff with...

A.   2 October 2010: You contradicted yourself. You said you want to be with him for the rest of your life, and that you want to get married to him, but you don't know if you're ready. Let me ask you something. It your desire to be with him for life is true, then would ... (read in full...)

I just want my Mom back the way she used to be! Help me!

Q.   Hi! I've already sent in a plea for help a few months back. I got wonderful feedback, but I'm still having trouble. This has something to do with my mom. This is a really hard topic for me, and I apologize in advance if I write a lot. I just want to ...

A.   30 September 2010: Happy Birthday! It was my brothers birthday as well. You have really been through a lot of dysfunction, but have been extremely strong going through what you have. Although your mom is a mom, and should have been there for you so much more than she ... (read in full...)

I want out, I don't love my husband

Q.   I've been married for 2 years and I got to the point where I don't know if i love my husband anymore...we were a couple for 2 years before we got married, long distance relationship, since then we've had lots of problems. He's jelous, immature, he's ...

A.   30 September 2010: So he's abusive, controlling, and now pressuring when it comes to the period for you to reflect, and you'd consider staying??? Why? Don't let this manipulation continue. You deserve better, and to be with someone who does not abuse you or control ... (read in full...)

Getting over my ex? Is it hopeless for me to think we can get back together?

Q.   For starters, i've posted here a little over a week ago about my long distance relationship that i had going for about a year. We were having issues at the time, lots of arguments, lots of stress, lots jealousy(from me) Well the relationship, as...

A.   20 September 2010: The only thing you can do is to give her space. I know what it's like to have such a great fear of the possibility you might loose someone you love, that you end up loosing them by allowing the "mental masturbation" to take over rational thinking. ... (read in full...)

I've never had sex with anyone but my ex

Q.   I'm a little embarrased by this but I don't know if I should be. Let's start off like this: I am a 25 year old, single mother of two beautiful kids. I was married for 6 years to my kids' dad. I have been single for almost two whole years and have ...

A.   19 September 2010: I agree with the other poster. You don't need to run out looking for experience. You don't know who you'll meet next. It may be someone who doesn't have experience as well, and you two can learn and experience together. So, I wouldn't just run out ... (read in full...)

I am surrounded by ex's and liars

Q.   Ok so this situation is a little complicated but I really need help. I am in love with my ex lets call him Austin. My best friend who is also an ex of mine and one of Austins friends told me he is trying to hook me and Austin back up lets call him ...

A.   19 September 2010: You make it sound as if loving someone is wrong. Is it? I think you're confused. You need to know the truth if he's in the hospital or not. If he did try to commit suicide, you need to know that if he does love you, the pain from why he would try to ... (read in full...)

His co-dependant relationship with his daughter has me concerned. Any advice?

Q.   I have been married for 18 years and have overlooked my husband's codependency all along, until now. The relationship with his daughter who is 31 is starting to make me feel even more uncomfortable. She has always been treated like the wife and I ...

A.   17 September 2010: Nime, I believe says it best. I hope everything works out for you.... (read in full...)

Is he coming around because he's lonely? Or guilty?

Q.   Im 27yrs, am in a 8yr relationship. My relationship is a happy one. No kids. Im not the cheating type. Never have been. Am not stupid, crazy, but not stupid. So, here we go... Ive known Brock since i was 12yrs. Brock is 3yrs older than me. He live...

A.   17 September 2010: Your welcome. I hope everything works out for you. Take care. ... (read in full...)

Is he coming around because he's lonely? Or guilty?

Q.   Im 27yrs, am in a 8yr relationship. My relationship is a happy one. No kids. Im not the cheating type. Never have been. Am not stupid, crazy, but not stupid. So, here we go... Ive known Brock since i was 12yrs. Brock is 3yrs older than me. He live...

A.   16 September 2010: So, until 2008 you haven't been the cheating type. You were with Trin, and although you were with Brock before, being with him while you are with the other is cheating. Why are you asking these questions? I don't know what's going through Brock's ... (read in full...)

We've been trying to have a baby, then I find out he's fathered a child with another woman

Q.   As you see from my name. I am just that...so scared. I have been married now for nine years and with my husband for thirteen years. I found out maybe two weeks ago that he has been having an affair. Also with a person I know but through someone else ...

A.   16 September 2010: Your right, he forgave you and it's your choice if you forgive him or not. It may not be his. If his sperm count is low with you, chances are they were with her as well. You said if it was his child, you'd be gone. If find out is something that's ... (read in full...)

We've been trying to have a baby, then I find out he's fathered a child with another woman

Q.   As you see from my name. I am just that...so scared. I have been married now for nine years and with my husband for thirteen years. I found out maybe two weeks ago that he has been having an affair. Also with a person I know but through someone else ...

A.   15 September 2010: Forgiveness is personal, either you do or you don't and it doesn't make you crazy if you do. Life takes turns, some are negative, but you have to face them when they come up. His having an affair was wrong and this is a difficult time for you. What ... (read in full...)

I'm in love with my Godfather

Q.   I am a 22 year old female who is in love with my Godfather. Surprisingly enough, he has confessed to me that if he wasn't my Godfather, he would marry me. I really don't know what to do. I have dreams about him at night and I want to start a ...

A.   14 September 2010: Glad to hear the update. That's exciting. I hope everything works out for you. Take care. ... (read in full...)

I'm in love with my Godfather

Q.   I am a 22 year old female who is in love with my Godfather. Surprisingly enough, he has confessed to me that if he wasn't my Godfather, he would marry me. I really don't know what to do. I have dreams about him at night and I want to start a ...

A.   23 August 2010: It's amazing when I hear how God directly works in lives. Congrats. You made the right choice and bettered yourself and your position by doing so. I'm glad to hear you're doing okay. Take care. ... (read in full...)

I'm in love with my Godfather

Q.   I am a 22 year old female who is in love with my Godfather. Surprisingly enough, he has confessed to me that if he wasn't my Godfather, he would marry me. I really don't know what to do. I have dreams about him at night and I want to start a ...

A.   16 August 2010: Okay, it's past August 12. How are you doing? I hope okay. ... (read in full...)

I'm in love with my Godfather

Q.   I am a 22 year old female who is in love with my Godfather. Surprisingly enough, he has confessed to me that if he wasn't my Godfather, he would marry me. I really don't know what to do. I have dreams about him at night and I want to start a ...

A.   2 August 2010: I know it's going to take time. Remember, I'm going through what you are, but from the opposite side. She was younger, I proposed, she accepted, then decided I'm not going to be part of her future goals. Trust me, I know exactly what you're going ... (read in full...)

I'm in love with my Godfather

Q.   I am a 22 year old female who is in love with my Godfather. Surprisingly enough, he has confessed to me that if he wasn't my Godfather, he would marry me. I really don't know what to do. I have dreams about him at night and I want to start a ...

A.   30 July 2010: I know what you're going through. I was with someone who was also younger than I was. You put your faith and trust in someone, but you also have to realize that with the difference in your age, was he looking for what you were looking for. It seems ... (read in full...)

I cheated on my boyfriend and he won't get over it- what do I do?

Q.   I cheated on my man. I was wrong, I admit it, and I would turn back time and stay true to him if I could. But I can't, and I let him know that, but now he treats me like I do it everyday, conrtolling me and always accusing me of doing stuff with...

A.   14 June 2010: This is why that exercise is important. It's no longer about you. It's about him and healing. What you did is done, and in the past. What he's doing is currently and presently affecting your relationship. You choose him, he chooses you, that's it. ... (read in full...)

I cheated on my boyfriend and he won't get over it- what do I do?

Q.   I cheated on my man. I was wrong, I admit it, and I would turn back time and stay true to him if I could. But I can't, and I let him know that, but now he treats me like I do it everyday, conrtolling me and always accusing me of doing stuff with...

A.   13 June 2010: You say you love him as much as you do, then why'd you cheat? What's missing where the affect of your actions didn't matter much at the time? First, lets look at the impact and why his behavior has become more controlling. Various psycholo... (read in full...)

I'm in love with my Godfather

Q.   I am a 22 year old female who is in love with my Godfather. Surprisingly enough, he has confessed to me that if he wasn't my Godfather, he would marry me. I really don't know what to do. I have dreams about him at night and I want to start a ...

A.   12 August 2009: These feelings are not perverted. Whoever you begin a relationship with is about you. Not about hurting family. ... (read in full...)

How can I find somebody who truly loves me???

Q.   Hello.. I'm 20 years, I'm working like a model.. i have never had this kind of troubles, but i don't know what's wrong with me ?.. a couple of days ago a guy asked me out.. so I said yes! then he call me and said I'm sorry but i can't go there.. ...

A.   25 October 2008: Here's a different view for you. Two people who really like each other have a certain energy bond between them. You're seeking a new love, but your energy is still with your ex. You may be unknowingly pushing guys away because your feelings for your ... (read in full...)

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