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Is it bad if I make out with her boyfriend?

Q.   So I was dating a guy and we broke up. He has another girl friend and we are just friends even though I still love him more than anything. Last night I was at his bar mitzvah and he pulled me outside and we started making out. I am talking to him ...

A.   25 May 2009: umm... lol idk how to put this the nice way. yes its a bad thing to do. let me say it like this. if you were dating hiim again and he made out wit her, would you think it was a bad thing? sorry for making it sound horrible but unless she does... (read in full...)

Can't get my boyfriend to stop watching porn, what can I do to change this?

Q.   Oh boy, where do I start. I've been with my boyfriend for a year now, he's everything I've ever wanted in a person; faithful as hell-we basically see each other everyday or every other day and he does so much to prove how much he care for me. ...

A.   24 May 2009: well you could try talking to him and saying "baby i dont like it when you watch porn because its like im not good enough for you" and you could tell him that everytime he feels like he wants to watch porn to tell you so that you can be his porn... (read in full...)

My girl wants to use a strap-on, on me

Q.   My girl friend asked me if i would let her use a strap-on on me.i told her i would have to think about it and i just dont know what to tell her now.i dont know if that would make me gay...

A.   13 May 2009: i say that it wouldnt make you gay. imma girl and ive done things with other girls but im not a lesbian or bi. I say that if your willing to then go for it. But if you dont feel comfortable then dont and just tell her that you really dont feel ... (read in full...)

I think I look like a troll and am tired of it all

Q.   i am so tired of being alone and no boyfriend,i thinks mostly because i am ugly and unpopular .no body really bothers with me,...

A.   13 May 2009: beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. get a makeover like a hair cut and get your nails done and make yourself pretty, blieve it or not some pretty girls actually feel ugly and it ruins themselves. be friends with people who will except you ... (read in full...)

We need to kiss!!!

Q.   Okay this is how it all goes down. I'm in love with my ex. He still loves me but we aren't together. We've never kissed but did we want to. We were both to nervous. I feel that in order for us to fall head over heels we need to kiss. I'm too much of ...

A.   3 May 2009: well figure out if he wants to then find the perfect moment and just kiss him... (read in full...)

I'm not pretty, will anyone ever love me?

Q.   ok i am going to be 100% honest and realistic about my situation however sad it sounds! Recently i fell in love with a guy. The first time i have ever fell in love. I don't think he felt the same way but he gave me a taste of how amazing it is to...

A.   30 April 2009: i believe that everyone has a significant other in the world somewhere. and just because you think your not pretty doesnt mean that you wont ever find love. Love isnt about looks. So when the right guy finds you, youll know because he will still ... (read in full...)

How can I be a great boyfriend?

Q.   Hey. This amazing girl is going out with me now. I want to give her everything she deserves. My question is basically "How do I become a great boyfriend?" Any tips, or even your 'ideal' bf would be quite helpful. thanks!...

A.   30 April 2009: honesty, trust, romance. dont ever lie to her. tell her things that are on your mind. trust her to be friends with other boy but also be protective to where if one of your friends was to sau "hey your gf is pretty hot" then just be like "dude ... (read in full...)

My first ever crush hates me

Q.   Hi, I'm 15 and in need of help. I've liked this girl for over a year, she was the first girl I ever crushed on this hard. And I found out by signs and her best friend that she hates me. She actually is rather mean to me. I'm trying to get over her...

A.   30 April 2009: sometimes a girl doesnt know that she likes a guy until she finally meets him. i saw my boyfriend at the beginning of the school year and thought he was retarded but we ended up dating. sometimes the girl just doesnt like the guy who crushes on ... (read in full...)

Starting to wonder if I fancy women, not men...

Q.   I'm starting to wonder if I might be gay. I've never fancied women, or wanted relationships with them. But I've always found them more of a turn on than men - ie if I was watching porn with a boyfriend, it would be lesbian porn that I would cho...

A.   30 April 2009: well im bi. and you maybe too. but for me... i wouldnt date a girl but i would do things with a girl. its just a turn on for me too. and dont feel bad. some people think that its a sin or whatever but you can help it. ... (read in full...)

Help! Is this normal?

Q.   Me and my bf have made love twice. he is totally amazing, but there is one problem. he can never get in more then 5-6 in. even with foreplay it still doesn't go in all the way. when 6in come around it starts to hurt really bad so he has to stop. is ...

A.   29 April 2009: it could be that your cervix is low. i have this. my boyfriend cant get in all the way unless were doing missionary because my cervix is too low. but if i find the right posistion then im fine. a lot of girls have that. its mostly like a sharp ... (read in full...)

Do guys just want us girls for sex?

Q.   is it true that when a guy is with a girl it is mostly for sex? most of my guy friends say they love a girl but then say i wanna do her tonight....

A.   29 April 2009: most guys mostly want sex because of there ragin hormones. but when the guy finds the right girl that will change. ask them why they want to do her.... (read in full...)

Help! Is she trying to make me jealous?

Q.   I have been dating this girl for a while and recently she started pointing out to me how "hot" other guys are, Movie stars and models excluded, everyone has an attraction to some movie star or model (that is just human) but recently it has been ...

A.   29 April 2009: She could be trying to make you jealous but maybe she doesn't realize that she's doing it and what it does to you.... (read in full...)

I want to take her to the prom but my parents hate her!

Q.   I want to take the love of my life to the prom, the thing is that my parents hate her and i have no idea how to tell them im going with their consent or not, for goodness sake in 17!...

A.   29 April 2009: If she did something that they dont like (drugs, sex, drinking) then they have a right to tell you that they dont like it. But I think that parents should at least let there child explore some. If your parents think that your going to do the same ... (read in full...)

I just found out about my boyfriend's threesome! I'm shocked!

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months now and we are very much in love. we have our ups and downs like most relationships but we have gotten through bad moments and are enjoying time together. we've recently been away and had the most amazing ...

A.   29 April 2009: if you guys have been together for 9 months you should just put it in the past. tell him how you feel about it. the reason he may have told his ex about it and not you is because maybe the reaction she gave him about it. and he didn't want you to ... (read in full...)

My wife of 20 years wants a threesome...I may want a divorce!

Q.   Let me start by saying my wife and I have been married for twenty years. she would like to have a threesome or swap with a couple. When she told me this i was shocked and hurt. i would like someone to help me understand this. She is forty im forty ...

A.   29 April 2009: it is very hurtful. and you should just tell her how you feel and that if she wants a threesome is she really willing to put your marrige in jepordy. other than that there really isn't anything else to do about it. just sit down and have a talk with ... (read in full...)

He will be my step-brother in August and we are in love...help!

Q.   Ok - I understand that the general consensus is that is ok to date and even possibly marry your step-brother. But please here is my situation - and help me out. I am 21 - he is 23 - he is in the Navy and came home on leave for two weeks - and ...

A.   29 April 2009: i think that it would be better to wait untill your parents are closser to the wedding. get married to him after your parents do. but tell them before they get married. theres nothing wrong with marrying him. because your not blood. who cares if ... (read in full...)

Am I pregnant?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been trying for a baby. I was just wondering how high of possibility that when I take a test next week if I will be bfp. I sort of had a period that lasted 3 days then spotted one day and completely stopped. I had a sip of c...

A.   29 April 2009: i thought i was pregnant and i had a lot of symptoms as well. but i ended up not being. its a possiblilty that you are. good luck!... (read in full...)

I really like a girl, how do I get her attention without being too forward?

Q.   i really like a girl, how do i get her attention without being too forward...

A.   29 April 2009: find a reason to talk to her and start trying to be ftriends with her.... (read in full...)

All I wanted was to be loved and so I let him use me, any advice?

Q.   Ive stupidly let my ex boyfriend use me for the last six months! Ive being so silly and and fool. Ive been so in love with him ive let him do whatever he wanted so i was afraid of losing him. We spilt cos he wouldnt give me commitment. We were ...

A.   29 April 2009: my best friend went through the same exact thing. except theres more. shes 15 and hes 18 who has kid with someone else. it was her first relationship that involved sex and drugs. she only did it to feel loved and because i have had sex before ... (read in full...)

Does my ex-wife still have feelings for me but scared to take a chance with me again?

Q.   This past year was a tough year. My wife, ex-wife and I had a big argument in july. This was around the time I felt like I needed counselling because I was carrying too much stress on me and it was affecting my marriage. I got to the point of not ...

A.   29 April 2009: well as a women i can say that when theres a relationship break its really hard for both people. now you both were married making it even harder. she probably does care about you and wants to be friends with you but she probably doesnt want to be ... (read in full...)

I need help on being a better girlfriend and not so jealous.

Q.   Okay so, I have been dating this guy on and off for almost 3 years. He says he loves me but I'm so jealous because he used to cheat on me so much. He has changed so much and he treats me so much better. I need help on being a better gf and not so ...

A.   29 April 2009: you have to think about if he really loves you. if he cheated on you then why would he have cheated on you in the first place? people say that once a cheater always a cheater but i dont believe that. i believe that people can change and if he ... (read in full...)

During sex, when a guy goes too deep it really hurts. Is this normal?

Q.   Does anyone know what if this is normal or not? When i have sex its fine but if they push too hard or especially too deep inside me it really really hurts! i have recently had a full STI/STD screening and everything come back negative....so i dont ...

A.   29 April 2009: i have the same thing. i dont know either. i looked it up though and it said it was because the cervix is too low. i read the answers to your question from others and they say that there are other way to make it not as painful. but damn it ... (read in full...)

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