She's under the impression it's her idea to take things slow, when in fact it's mine! I noticed strange reactions, should I be worried?
Q. Is this girl crazy or what? So I met another girl online, but this one seems to be a little loopy. She doesnt really make sense to me. The first night we talked she was already to come over or the night. I wasnt sure If I really wanted a strang...
A. 23 December 2007: She sounds pretty insane to me. If she can't talk to you about anything other than sex, I think she's not worth your time.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's been moody and off with me, he says he's ok, do I push it or leave him alone?
Q. my boyfriend get along great. were COMPLEATLY oposite. COMPLEATLY. dont take that lgihtly. but somhow it still works. now. last night, he was in a bad mood. and i was talking to him. i was like, "i wish there was somthing i could do to he...
A. 18 December 2007: I don't like how you say bye as soon as he said he was in a bad mood. When I'm in a bad mood, the person I show it to most is my girlfriend because she's the only one I feel comfortable to express my sad or upset feelings to. Have you tried asking ... (read in full...)
I found out he cheated, he then chose her over me, but I still want him back, how can I do this?
Q. I have been with my mate for 13 years, in October I found out he was cheating on me. (he was not the one told me) I confronted him and made him choose. He chose her! Since then,we talk maybe once a week, and he says he is sorry and that he did not ...
A. 4 December 2007: If you keep calling him, he won't come back to you. If he knows you're still crazy about him and will continue to wait for him to become available, he won't have any pressure put on him to go to you. You have to tell him you're moving on and act ... (read in full...)
I'm thinking of just ending the relationship with my boyfriend to keep my Mom happy...advice?
Q. Please help.. I'm 18 and in a long-distance relationship. I've been with him for 18months.. and I feel so happy with him. However, my mum has a problem with it. It's not that she doesn't like him.. because she does.. and she also lets me see him ...
A. 1 December 2007: Your mom is being completely unreasonable. I don't think you should leave your boyfriend to make her happy, because that would make you unhappy. Normally mothers know best, but yours doesn't seem to have any intelligent reasoning for her worries. ... (read in full...)
When I am naked he doesn't get an erection...is this normal?
Q. What does it mean when you can be entirely naked in the shower, with your boyfriend talking to you (sat on the toilet) and he doesn't get an erection... Any ideas? Does it mean he doesn't find you arousing? Does it mean he could be gay? Does it ...
A. 1 December 2007: Men are NOT governed by "what is in their trousers" and I would say that is borderline sexism. You can't expect a man to get an erection every time he sees you naked (hell, half the time we get erections for no reason at all). Don't be so full of ... (read in full...)
Why did she lash out at me when I've been good to her? Was I blind and foolish??
Q. Hi there. I first used this site back in late April when I'd just started seeing a girl I work with. Since then, I've been on a rollercoaster ride of emotions and now I hope I've finally reached the end. So please bear with me. Thanks. I promise...
A. 1 December 2007: I'm not saying this is right, or in any way justifying her lashing out at you, but I think that because you've always been the shoulder to cry on for her. She's most comfortable showing you her suffering that she took everything out on you. That ... (read in full...)
I'm late, the test says 'negative' but I am really stressed out.
Q. I've been having sex with my boyfriend for about four months now and things have been going great. My periods have always been a little unpredictable and my longets cycle lasted 42 days. My period is now 4 days late from the 42 day mark and I was ...
A. 29 November 2007: Being stressed and afraid about being pregnant can not only stop you from having your period, but also make your stomach develop like you're having a baby as well (my biology teacher told me a story about a friend it happened to). If the test came ... (read in full...)
I'm madly in love with a boy but my parents wont let me go to his house.
Q. I'm 14 years old, and im madly in love with a boy thats 17 and will be 18 in January and his paretns let him do what ever he wants.. Mine won't even let me go to his house. What do I do?...
A. 28 November 2007: Forget about him. He's about to turn 18 and become an adult, and you'll be too young to have a relationship with him. Your parents will never be comfortable with you seeing him because of the age difference, so your relationship wouldn't be able ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to date an ex's best friend??
Q. Well i am going to ask this girl out soon and we flirt alot and it just so happens that her best friend is my ex. I was wondering if it was looked down upon. Me and my ex are still really good friends. Any help would be great... ...
A. 28 November 2007: If you're still really good friends, I think you should ask her and see how she feels.... (read in full...)
The last thing I want to do is leave her but I'm tierd of this drama.
Q. Hey, I'm 22 and i really like this girl. We have been seeing each other for about a month and half. I made the mistake of asking her to be my girlfriend after only 3 weeks when her heart is still broke over a lad. She's so the person i been lo...
A. 28 November 2007: I really feel for you. You're in a tough situation. I think you should tell her she needs to choose between you and her ex. Tell her she needs to cut all contact with her ex - don't pick up his calls, don't even read his texts, avoid seeing him ... (read in full...)
My husband has cheated twice! I forgave him the first time, now he says it will not happen again. Should I stay or leave?
Q. Hi cupid! this's my first time here. I dont know what to say and i still cant get rid of it. I'm married with military and move myself to live in Japan for 2 years before we move back to states. My husband is younger than me 7 years. We have 2 ...
A. 28 November 2007: Take your children and get the hell out of there as soon as possible before he hurts you. Go stay with your family for a while. Don't worry about him hurting himself, you can't let him control you. I wish you the best of luck.... (read in full...)
My husband has cheated twice! I forgave him the first time, now he says it will not happen again. Should I stay or leave?
Q. Hi cupid! this's my first time here. I dont know what to say and i still cant get rid of it. I'm married with military and move myself to live in Japan for 2 years before we move back to states. My husband is younger than me 7 years. We have 2 ...
A. 27 November 2007: I'm very sorry to hear you're with such an untrustworthy guy. I don't believe a "one time thing" exists. If something ever happens, it definitely WILL happen again. I'm sure you know this from your experience. He's a cheater. It's in his pers... (read in full...)
He prefers not seeing each other every day, only in weekends - and not calling either. Isn't a relationship having one life?
Q. Hi, I ve been with my bf for 2 years, im 20 hes 22. We love each other very much. I depend so much on him, i like callin him everyday, talkin to him, see him in college between classes if i can. I cant get enough from seein him. But he doesn...
A. 27 November 2007: You're acting like you're married to him. It's natural - in fact, it's healthy to have a seperate life outside of a relationship. I think you should give him the space he wants.... (read in full...)
Losing my virginity soon..and need some questions answered...
Q. I'm 16 and hoping to lose my virginity to my bf of 4 months whos 20, i know many people will think that this is to soon but i know he's the one. He makes me feel so loved and gives me butterflies everytime he calls and i've never felt this way about ...
A. 27 November 2007: I hope you realize where you live this is probably illegal. Do your parents know about this relationship? And why are you thinking of having sex with him when you've only seen him once a month for four months? It doesn't sound like you're ready ... (read in full...)
What can I say to my teacher, when he confronts me about my crush on him?
Q. Sorry if this is long... Right, On monday i made an appointment with the school nurse to discuss my problem over a teacher. I just went into details of how this situation is affecting me emotionally and also having such an impact on my life, etc....
A. 27 November 2007: I highly doubt you'll be confronted about this, unless it begins to seriously affect your behavior and work in school. It's common to have crushes on teachers, and I'm sure you're not the only one who has had a crush on "Steve." Asking the nurse ... (read in full...)
I hooked up with this guy , he said call me, but I don't do that, why hasn't he called me ?
Q. I met this guy at work.. I wasnt really interested at first. But then we went out a few times after work with other co-workers, and got along and it was apparent that we were attracted to eachother. The first night we hung out he gave me tickets to ...
A. 27 November 2007: That's horrible behaviour. Just call him and fix this whole problem. If you are interested in this guy, you should be willing to show him you're interested.... (read in full...)
I like my cousin's bf! What do I do?
Q. i have a big problem, me and my cusin were like best friends, shes beein going on about a boy she meet at work she told me soo much about him and i was happy for her, but the other day i meet him by the end of the night my cuzin asked me if i ...
A. 27 November 2007: Family is more important than boyfriends. You don't want to betray her in any way. I think you should put off seeing him again, make an exuse or something, and try to meet other guys or just spend some time alone to get over this crush. You don't ... (read in full...)
Should a newlywed man still keep pictures of his ex's on his computer?
Q. I am newly married and my husband keeps pictures of him with previous girlfriends on his computer. Do you think he should get rid of them? We are married now so I don't see why he needs them anymore....
A. 27 November 2007: No, I don't think he should have to delete them. Unless his exes did something to make him hate them, he probably still loves them, even if in a different way from how he used to. You shouldn't have to make him delete his pictures holding his good ... (read in full...)
How do you play hard to get, when you like a guy?
Q. How do you play hard to get, whist still hinting that you like him??...
A. 27 November 2007: You don't.
Seriously, these girl mind games are ridiculous. Don't be difficult or he probably won't be bothered and forget about you.... (read in full...)
Someone we don't know is telling him things.
Q. Ok my boyfreind and i have been going out for a month and a couple weeks and a person that nether of us know that well told him that i don't trust him and he belived her and we have been fighting and alot of stuff we both said was not true and i ...
A. 27 November 2007: You wrote it in your last two posts, I'm going to highlight the important parts:
-He wouldn't give back your stuff after you two broke up.
-He hangs up on you.
-He doesn't stop his friends from prank calling you.
-He ignores you.
-He's ... (read in full...)
I only last 2 minutes at most, what is average for guys?
Q. When i have sex with my girlfriend i only seem to last under 2 minutes... i make up for this in other ways and she loves our sex life but im ashamed that i dont last longer. what is the adverage time in mutes it takes a guy to reach an orgasm?...
A. 26 November 2007: You'll have to slow down when you start feeling like you'll orgasm. Good luck.... (read in full...)
We're in love and I want to date him again! Will sex bring us together?
Q. In Febuary, I met a boy who I fell head over heals for.. Ever since that day my really close friend and I have been through hell and back. We went out for about two weeks and couldn't stand eachother! We both knew we were better friends. But ever ...
A. 26 November 2007: NO. Only have sex when you're ready to have sex. It will make things so much more complicated - you could become sexually dependant on each other, which will be especially bad if you start to hate each other.
I think you should try being in... (read in full...)
Someone we don't know is telling him things.
Q. Ok my boyfreind and i have been going out for a month and a couple weeks and a person that nether of us know that well told him that i don't trust him and he belived her and we have been fighting and alot of stuff we both said was not true and i ...
A. 23 November 2007: Oh, that should be the easy part. Tell him you want your stuff back. If he says no, threaten to have your parents take legal action. And even if it doesn't get to the point where you'd take him (his parents) to court, you can at least get your ... (read in full...)
Always going to be more than a best friend to him...
Q. I've been best mates with a guy for over a year now. However after 2 months of knowing him he told me he loved me. I told him straight, that i wasnt intrested but I'd hope we'd still be able to be friends. So we have tryed being friends for a while ...
A. 23 November 2007: I don't know if you did the right thing, but I do agree with Frank. Rejection really hurts, and knowing that you'll never be more than friends could be enough to make him want distance to get over you. Maybe once he has he'll come back.... (read in full...)
Suspected: The Cheated Becomes The Cheater...?
Q. Hi All, I appreciate all the comments on my original post about the break up (http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-get-loads-of-attention-from-other-girls.html). Yesterday evening I found out she’s been seeing someone else for the last month ...
A. 23 November 2007: You sound like a geniunely smart person, and I'm sure you'll find someone better. Next time you'll be able to recognize the signs of a cheater, so you won't have fall for this again. Good luck!... (read in full...)
Why can't he invite me too when he goes out with his friends? Am I being unfair?
Q. hiy, i have been with my boyfriend for 1 year now and he has started going out with his friends in the evening once in a while, it annoys me because i dont ever go out with any friends of mine, and he didnt go out for the first 7-8 months .. it bot...
A. 23 November 2007: You're completely unjustified. I think you should try to build up your relationships with your female friends so you aren't alone when he's not around. Stop trying to monopolize the poor man's life.... (read in full...)
..Still completely in love with my ex.
Q. My ex is four years older than I am and we dated for over two years, about a year of which became long distance when he moved to complete his education. When we broke up, he'd been going out with his current girlfriend for over half a year ...
A. 23 November 2007: You said yourself you won't be getting back with him. I suggest you cut contact, for a good while. Get over him. Talking to him every day will only make the pain worse.
You can tell your boyfriend you need some space too. Tell him you're c... (read in full...)
Do you think he loves me anymore?
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for quite some time now at least 6 months i knew him as a friend from school before we went out with eachover,when school ended we built our realonship together things went really well in the past months,...
A. 22 November 2007: I say step back and ignore him for a while and see what he does. Wait for him to call you. If he doesn't, well, then he's just lost interest in you. If he does contact you, it'll probably be for sex. Deny him that. Don't have sex with him ... (read in full...)
Someone we don't know is telling him things.
Q. Ok my boyfreind and i have been going out for a month and a couple weeks and a person that nether of us know that well told him that i don't trust him and he belived her and we have been fighting and alot of stuff we both said was not true and i ...
A. 22 November 2007: This guy is believing that person instead of you? Jeez. Tell him upfront that either he will trust you unconditionally or he won't, or the relationship is over. You don't have to deal with this.... (read in full...)
He asks me if he decides to go out with some other girl "should I hide it or should I tell you right upfront?" Why is he doing this? Just to have a reaction?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for the past 10 months. He can be very sweet and I think I love him well. The problem is that he keeps saying that he doesn't belong to anyone and more sometimes he tells me about the girls he "used to have a crush on"...
A. 22 November 2007: I don't have that much experience with this kind of thing, but it sounds like he's not entirely committed to you and is hinting to you that he could two-time you. If I were you I'd make it clear that as long as he's with you he has to be entirely ... (read in full...)
How come some guys are passionate and some guys aren't
Q. i'm the kinda girl who loves to be cuddled love to hold hands all the time love to be smothered and spoiled with kisses but my boyriend doesn't do any of that. so my question is how come some guys are pasionate and some guys aren't?...
A. 22 November 2007: Hey, not all girls are passionate and lovey-dovey. It works both ways. I'm very affectionate myself, and I'm happy my girlfriend is too, but some girls (like my sister, for example) hate affection. I used to try to hug and kiss her (and still do) ... (read in full...)
How long will it be until I find another girlfriend?
Q. Hi. I'm a little confused. I understand that it varies, but how often do guys, on average, get girlfriends? I've only ever had one, and I got her when I was 16. She split up with me a few months ago. I'm 19 now, and I can't say that I know that...
A. 22 November 2007: I'm sure you're going through hell still. Honestly, you're not ready for a new girlfriend unless you absolutely do not need one. Saying you need one shows you're not emotionally stable, and are in no position to be in a relationship. You should ... (read in full...)
I am scared to try this.
Q. hey. i have been with my boyfriend now for a little over a year and we have stated having sex. we have only been exually avtive for about 6 weeks and its ok so far. but my boyfriend recently asked me if i would like to perform some role plays wi...
A. 22 November 2007: I think you should definitely tell him what happened. If he's not a jerk he'll sympathize and stop bringing it up. Then, if you decide for sure that you want to try it, you can tell him you're willing to try it if he promises to stop if you're not ... (read in full...)
Am I wasting my best years by not having sex?
Q. I'm in my teens. Now is the best time to be having Sex, and I'm not! I was not so long ago, and I think I took Sex for granted because I was enjoying my girlfriends company so much. Am I wasting my best years?? Do many guys suffer this when it com...
A. 22 November 2007: You're not wasting your "best years." You can enjoy sex at any age. In fact, it's something you'll be doing for the rest of your life. Don't be in a hurry.... (read in full...)
We are in a long distance relationship, I'm not sure what he meant when I got his last message, am I reading between the lines too much?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going strong for 18 months now, and have always been vocal about how we feel about each other. Because we- at the moment- are long distance, on Monday we had a serious chat about whether we should stay together, and both ...
A. 15 November 2007: You ARE being ridiculous. He just wants to find a way to tell you he loves you in as nice a way as you did to him. The reply he gave you was adorable, you should be happy.... (read in full...)
He's sulky, and he says I nag him, how can I stop this?
Q. When sometimes me and my boyfriend are talking and I say something and either by the tone of his voice I realize he's upset or because he says something like "I have to go" or he suddenly has something else to do... when I ask him what's wrong he ...
A. 15 November 2007: Maybe he's embarrassed to be offended over something he knows isn't a big deal, so he doesn't want to tell you. He does have serious problems with communicating. If he's not able to tell you when he's upset about small things, he won't be able to ... (read in full...)
Last night I experienced a bellyache after sex. Bad sign?
Q. iv been having unprotected sex since may and never got pregnant, afterwards i have pains or shaky leggs , but last night after sex i didnt have either of them til about an hour after i started to get belly ache. are those a bad thing and could their ...
A. 15 November 2007: A pregnancy test is the only way to know for sure. Start using protection.... (read in full...)
I still have feelings for my boyfriend.
Q. Alright, well my boyfriend and i have been kind of in a rough patch lately (we go to different schools)...i haven't been able to talk him/see him a lot lately and we lately have been constantly been getting into arguments that are really dumb...and ...
A. 14 November 2007: I could be wrong, but I think it's generally a bad idea to jump from one relationship to another. Only break up with your boyfriend if you WANT to break up with him. Then feel free to move onto this guy.
Leave the new guy out of the picture.... (read in full...)
Does fortune-telling really work?
Q. Does anynoe belive in psychic and has anyone had a reading that has actully come ture....Do u really belive there are people that can read your sitution without telling them to much?...
A. 11 November 2007: Most of the time, they will try to steal your money. However I do believe that some exist that really can see the future. My family has a friend in Brazil (my mom's side is Brazilian), a medium. She has helped our family out so many times (and ... (read in full...)
Mom won't let me date.
Q. My mom won't let me date till im 16. I really like this girl, and she likes me back. I have tried to talk to her about it by like saying that i am mature and stuff like that. What should i do? Wait it out, or go behind her back...
A. 9 November 2007: If you do it behind her back, you won't really be able to enjoy it. You'll be paranoid about getting caught and that'll cause problems between you and your girlfriend. I'm not saying I agree or disagree with your mom's rule, but I know that you ... (read in full...)
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