I need advice on my cheating girlfriend!
Q. Hey guys im rather upset about this but just wanted some constructive feedback and others opinions on it. last night my girlfriend of 4 years went to her male friends house and just them two were drinking until they were completely wasted and he...
A. 21 November 2009: Addition...
At this point in her life, she cannot fully appreciate what you have to offer. For her life is all about fun and anyone who tries to interfere with that fun is, like i said earlier, quickly dismissed as 'insecure' and 'control... (read in full...)
I don't want a relationship but a one night stand might be ok, how do I tell him?
Q. I am in love with a guy who I dated best friend of him I desire him so much we were just friend at the beginning but some emotional reactions started and he ran away I am thinking it is because of his best friend that he doesn't want to be in a ...
A. 21 November 2009: I'm telling you how to 'get him' or at least increase the odds. Wait it out. Trying to rush things will only backfire. If you have feelings for this man, then being his friend with benefits or a one night stand is NOT what you want, correct? And ... (read in full...)
Creepy friend keeps asking for hugs
Q. So, one of my male friends keeps asking me for hugs. He does this even at weird times (like, not hellos and goodbyes) and hangs on for too long or tries to sneak a second one in. I'm always hesitant about giving a hug, and I've already had the ...
A. 21 November 2009: I love being my age. Gone are the days when I was so concerned about offending people when they crossed the line.
Next time he asks, just say 'No' and continue whatever it was you were doing or talking about. And stop feeling bad about it. When... (read in full...)
A girl with a boyfriend likes me a lot... what should I do?
Q. Hi guys, One of my friends (who has a bf, but doesn't see him much any more) has started hanging out with me a lot, she invites me out to town around once or twice a week, and sometimes sleeps round my house. I like her a lot myself. I can...
A. 21 November 2009: Absolutely nothing.
Having a boyfriend means she cannot give you what you should expect from a girlfriend. ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him how I'm feeling or just ignore it?
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship that seems to be one sided at times. It's been 3 months since we saw each other and almost a month since we spoke. I decided not to call him and see what happens but I now feel like I'm a burden to him. I have con...
A. 21 November 2009: Almost a month since you last spoke... Unless he's on covert military maneuvers, a month is far too long to go without contact. I know you don't want to hear this, but I think it's something you must face. Clearly he is not worried about ... (read in full...)
I don't want a relationship but a one night stand might be ok, how do I tell him?
Q. I am in love with a guy who I dated best friend of him I desire him so much we were just friend at the beginning but some emotional reactions started and he ran away I am thinking it is because of his best friend that he doesn't want to be in a ...
A. 21 November 2009: If you have feelings for this man telling him you're ok being a one night stand is about the worst thing you could do. He'll consider you loose and keep his distance or he'll use you for sex.
Either way, his opinion of you will plummet and you'... (read in full...)
My mate lied to me and it cost me my friends!
Q. Hi, when i was 22 i bumped in to my old school friends and became good mates again like we were back at school, 2 years later i was still single and my mate jess promised me to set me up with her mate and she said her mate claire is interested in me ...
A. 21 November 2009: This is hardly something to 'ditch' a friend over. If anything they should have been supportive of you.
Either there is more to this story or these are the worst friends I've ever heard of.... (read in full...)
I need advice on my cheating girlfriend!
Q. Hey guys im rather upset about this but just wanted some constructive feedback and others opinions on it. last night my girlfriend of 4 years went to her male friends house and just them two were drinking until they were completely wasted and he...
A. 20 November 2009: By her behaviour I see more of a drunken mess than I do a slut.
Whether or not this is a phase is anyone's guess. Why stick around to find out? She's demonstrated limited impulse control, poor judgment and lack of etiquette. Either way you cann... (read in full...)
Things have been great but can spending too much time together hurt us?
Q. I've been going out with my boyfriend for a month and I really like him. We've been getting along well and he makes me feel complete. I love hanging out with him and we ALWAYS have great fun :) We haven't done anything sexual yet. I'm a little c...
A. 20 November 2009: If it's not broke, don't fix it.
Right now you're dating and you're happy. Things are going well. Don't create problems when there aren't any. If trouble arises, deal with it then.
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He never does his fair share around the house!
Q. My husband says he is not taking care of any chores because he has to work. When I tell him, that is not right and he needs to do something too around the house etc, he says you are bitching at me all the time, why would I spend time with you? He ...
A. 20 November 2009: You've provided very little information about the living arrangements here. What exactly is his fair share? 50 percent? Do you have a full time job outside your home? Who pays the bulk of the bills and finances the recreation? Do you have children ... (read in full...)
Ex wants to get back together but she has a boyfriend
Q. My ex told me she wanted to get back together (dated 4 years), but she has a new boyfriend (dated a few months).She told me that breaking up with him would be hard, and she'd do it "very soon"--that was 2 days ago. since then she hasn't called me or ...
A. 19 November 2009: Why wait? You're single so do what single men do. Date others.
Her revelation was meant to keep you available to her while she weighs her options. She should not have said anything until she was actually in a position to act on it.
If and ... (read in full...)
Have I ambarrassed myself, or am I just a little paranoid after my text?
Q. Yesterday I texted to my crush/friend for one year, Rob, that I have had a little crush on him. Then I texted him asking him not to tell anyone or else I would have someone beat him up. So today was totally weird. It started out like a normal day ...
A. 19 November 2009: What you should have done was cheerfully wave back.
You admitted to having a crush. Everyone has those. It's not as though he discovered you had a shrine dedicated to him in your bedroom closet, so relax.
This is salvageable.
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Christmas alone...
Q. I have no family and all my friends have their own lives/families at Christmas. Can anyone recommend ideas how to spend christmas without having to spend a fortune on hotels? One would think there must be lots of other people alone at Christma...
A. 19 November 2009: Most welcome. As a last resort, I daresay there will be people here.
Best of luck.
:)... (read in full...)
Has anybody taken a break and everything worked out in the end?
Q. Ok so I'm 23 my bfs 25 we were dating for 4 months yet we have gone thru so much in so little time... yet he asked for space to make sure what he wants n to see if he's ready to make the next step which is marriage, yea sounds fast but we know each ...
A. 19 November 2009: Giving each other some time and space to re-evaluate and regroup is reasonable, and when that time is used wisely, many relationships have gone on to thrive. It's important that both of you are clear about what the expectations are. The mistake ma... (read in full...)
Christmas alone...
Q. I have no family and all my friends have their own lives/families at Christmas. Can anyone recommend ideas how to spend christmas without having to spend a fortune on hotels? One would think there must be lots of other people alone at Christma...
A. 19 November 2009: Try local Churches or community centres and see if they have some functions planned.... (read in full...)
Who the heck is "Sadie?"
Q. the guy I ve been seeing just text me, he said ok tks sadie, thing is my name isnt sadie....what shall i do...
A. 19 November 2009: Text backing saying 'umm...my name isn't Sadie'. Simple enough.
If this is someone you're just 'seeing' then technically you're both free to 'see' others. It sounds like things are still too new to consider yourselves an exclusive couple.
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Am I stupid to still care about him?
Q. i was in love with dis guy 2 yrs back,he showed me love he made me forget about all my past we had 5 mnths but it was like many years.everything changed when he want to marry me cuase he wnt kids i suggested we get tested before.he tested positive ...
A. 19 November 2009: You made the right choice and you're not stupid to care about him. Not at all.
However, you've done what you can for him. Leave him to live his life and make his own decisions. You can care about him from afar by wishing him well and keeping ... (read in full...)
To date or not to date?
Q. I've been talking to a guy for almost a year and the past 2 months we've been spending more time together. I have a couple of questions.. he has bad credit and short on money. I feel so shallow when I think of that being the dealbreaker for going to ...
A. 19 November 2009: We don't think he's a bad guy. Everyone has gone through rough patches and made mistakes. We just recommend you not get sucked into his dilemma, which is all too easy to do.
Have fun with him, enjoy his company but keep a separate account.... (read in full...)
Should I just let it go or do something about it?
Q. There's this rumour going arounnd school and everybody has finally left me alone about this but one kidd. Every time I see he him he starts making fun of me for it. My friends said I shouldn't take shit from people like him. Should I just let it ...
A. 19 November 2009: It depends on what you do. Most likely that will just draw attention to the rumour and start things back up again. What is the rumour?... (read in full...)
She I leave her to sort out her past?
Q. Hi - I need help at this point in my life! I have met a wonderful woman - we met through an internet dating site. Everything was amazing from the very start - a great friendship, common interests, physical attraction, the best sex I have ever had in ...
A. 19 November 2009: I think you need to respect her space and not put her in an emotional dilema. It was very hard for her to make the decision she made. She's got to sort one relationship out and take some time for herself before plunging into a new one. Remain fr... (read in full...)
Is he nervous or just playing me?
Q. I have been seeing this boy for about a month now. We both go to the same college and we met for the first time at one of my friend's parties. We both asked for each others numbers and that was it for the night. We talked for the next day and we ...
A. 19 November 2009: He's nervous. The way I would have handled that is when he says he doesn't want anything serious and to reduce time spent together, I'd go along with it. Then leave the ball in his court. Bear in mind that means I'm still single so if someone e... (read in full...)
Friend with benefits, why is this such hard work?
Q. A few months ago I saw this guy I knew of through a friend while I was on a night out. Wouldn't have normally spoken to him but he spoke to me and we had a dance and a kiss and swapped numbers. The next week he text me literally non stop and we ...
A. 19 November 2009: I think the problem is that you both have different expectations of the arrangement. This seems to be more common among women than men, because women, as a group, are not quite accustomed to having as much sexual freedom as men have had. Despit... (read in full...)
I orgasm thinking of my ex. Does this mean I'm still attracted to him?
Q. hi i love my boyfriend more than anything in this world, been together for ten months but i have known him for years. we are really close and we have so much fun together. its just the other night when we was having sex i thought about my ex and i...
A. 19 November 2009: It probably does mean you're attracted to him, but not necessarily that you want to date him again or that you prefer him over your boyfriend.
It's normal to go through phases in our fantsies. We can think of something or someone for a while, t... (read in full...)
Suggested sexual positions please!
Q. ok well me n my best guy friend r plannin on doin it n we want to kow what kind of um sex positions can we do??? plz tell me all da ones u know n explain them to me plz im desperate...
A. 19 November 2009: There are some on this website I've provided a link to.
http://www.caitlainscorner.com/content/category/24/51/69/
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Help me get over this "desire!"
Q. How can a man get over the desire to have a threesome?...
A. 19 November 2009: joey's question IS relevant actually since the dynamics of an FFM and an MFM are different.
The way to overcome this desire is to first figure out what exactly it is that threesomes give you, besides the obvious. Clearly it's about more than jus... (read in full...)
Is it possible just to give up on love?
Q. It's been 8 months since my ex dumped me. I tried being friends after the break up which was a mistake and just hurt me more. Her and I are over. I kind of want to send her a message saying we can't be friends but that would be pointless. I've ...
A. 19 November 2009: Your idea is a good one, but for different reasons.
By redirecting your energy into doing the things that make you happy you become the person that people want to date and you open yourself to other possibilities.
It's not giving up on lov... (read in full...)
Is he too dominant in bed?
Q. i think maybe my bf is to controling in bed. wen we have sex he is always moving my body into positions and he dont ask me if stuff is okay. sometimes he pushs my head to his penis and then holds it there and then he thrusts. sometimes this hurts ...
A. 18 November 2009: I agree wholeheartedly with Yos on this. ... (read in full...)
To date or not to date?
Q. I've been talking to a guy for almost a year and the past 2 months we've been spending more time together. I have a couple of questions.. he has bad credit and short on money. I feel so shallow when I think of that being the dealbreaker for going to ...
A. 18 November 2009: There was a question here just yesterday from a woman whose husband (or boyfriend) had poor credit and kept spending money...I wish I could find it.
It is absolutely NOT shallow to not want to invest yourself in someone who's finances are circling... (read in full...)
I feel as if I have given my all to this guy but I'm worried I might not get anything in return!
Q. Hi all, I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 6 years and am now in a long-distance relationship with a guy who I love very dearly. In fact, it was falling for him which made me realise that my previous relationship wasn't working. I fe...
A. 18 November 2009: What exactly is it about him you find so irresistable that you'd settle for this?
If you two did live together, how do you think he'd be spending his time (and your money)? Mowing the lawn, tending to house repairs and paying the bills? Or playi... (read in full...)
Do I give my husband another chance or give it a go with mr perfect?
Q. Where to begin. Me and my husband have been married 8 years. But the last year and a half lived apart it started out just for work but progressed to a real seperation. Our marraige has been rocky for most of its duration. We have argued for yrs and ...
A. 18 November 2009: You do not owe your husband any more chances. If life with him was not a happy one, that is reason is enough and second chances are not obligatory. In this case, you've given more than a second chance.
Things MIGHT be different if you gave it ... (read in full...)
Am I more committed to our relationship than he is?
Q. this is an update and question in one. i wrote once how my boyfriend and i have been together for almost two years and i only see him once during the week and on the weekends. he doesn't feel the need to see me more. i got brave and asked him to ...
A. 18 November 2009: Once during the week AND on weekends? Personally, that's enough for me.
I think you've invested more of yourself than he has, but that doesn't mean he doesn't care about the relationship. Just that he relies on it less for his happiness than you... (read in full...)
How can I gently break the news to my mother-in-law that I am pregnant?
Q. Ok then. This is the first time i've used this site, so be nice! (And excuse the punctuation, my CTRL button is tempermental today) So I was wondering how to break the news that im pregnant to my mother-in-law. She is a wonderful woman, and has a...
A. 18 November 2009: Tell her you're expecting quintuplets. Give her a chance to wrap her head around that. Then when she settles down tell her you're only having the one. After all that, she should consider the fact that you're expecting one baby good news.
A bit... (read in full...)
Why is my ex-girlfriend blocking me on msn and Facebook?
Q. i need to know why my ex is not talking to me for some reason. because last month we had an argument but then i aplogised and she forgave me and said she would give me one more chance. once we had our argument she deleted me from msn but didnt block ...
A. 17 November 2009: Normally I'd agree with PeanutButter and whattodoabouther, but here I have to agree with birdynumnums.
She blocks you because you're making a nuisance of yourself.
When someone has declined your invitation to add them to Facebook ONCE, y... (read in full...)
How can I gently break the news to my mother-in-law that I am pregnant?
Q. Ok then. This is the first time i've used this site, so be nice! (And excuse the punctuation, my CTRL button is tempermental today) So I was wondering how to break the news that im pregnant to my mother-in-law. She is a wonderful woman, and has a...
A. 17 November 2009: The best way is matter of factly. Saying things TOO gently tells the recipient of the information that you consider what you're about to tell them to be so awful that you have to brace them for it.
Frankly if you'd said you were on public assistan... (read in full...)
His girlfriend told him to stop talking to me!
Q. Hello :) Okay so I recently met a guy and his friends. He has a girlfriend, who is a friend of one of my best friends. Me and the guy talk alot, we're good friends. The other day my best friend told me that his girlfriend told him to stop talking ...
A. 17 November 2009: The reason is obvious enough that you've answered your own question.
He flirts a lot and he seems especially close with you. In her mind your friendship is a threat to her relationship. Not necessarily because of YOU but because of HIM.
She has... (read in full...)
Did I do the right thing by rejecting this guy, or should I have said nothing?
Q. is it wrong to like a guy who has repeated called u boring? u like him and he likes u back but u rejected him alot.. becuz your not sure of a relationship with him now.. u tld him when u guys turn 25 u wud be willin to try a relatiinship if your ...
A. 17 November 2009: If your communication with him is as jumbled and incomplete as this post, it's hardly a wonder he's confused.
Yes, I think declaring age 25 as your relationship target date was a tad unrealistic, and pointless.
It's understandable t... (read in full...)
Opinions needed. Did I make the right decision?
Q. I recently broke up with my girlfriend of almost two years. She had tendencies that bothered me and I believe it is part of her personality and will never change. Part of me doesn't want this relationship to end because I care about her very much, ...
A. 17 November 2009: I think you're taking on the weight of the world here.
Caring about someone is not a good enough reason to date them. Whatever decisions she makes for herself after you break up will be hers to make, not yours to pay penance for.
She'll ... (read in full...)
Can a life-long cheater ever be trustworthy or am I wasting my time?
Q. part one; in aug 08 my then finance added some guy to her facebook and when asked about it she said she thought she knew him, she then deleted him and i thought that was the end of it, or so i thought. part two; in jan 09 she went to her work chri...
A. 17 November 2009: This is a pattern of behaviour and is deeply ingrained enough that I, personally, would not trust her entirely.
In order for us to trust someone who has previously broken that trust, they must demonstrate through their behaviour that they HAVE cha... (read in full...)
He acts like he is not interested, but his eyes say something different.
Q. How can I make him confess instead of using his boddy language although he knows that I am 9 yr elder than him.I know that he loves me too much but he avoids me and he tries to show to public that he even doesn't see me.He looks at me secretly and ...
A. 17 November 2009: I agree with Lola on this one. There is insufficient reason, that I can see, to be certain he's attracted to you. He may be more watchful of you because, clearly, you are rather watchful of him.
If he does fancy you and he's shy, then being wa... (read in full...)
Could my symptoms be a sign of pregnancy?
Q. Last week, things got a bit heated between me and my boyfriend. We didn't have sex, but he had touched himself briefly before fingering me. I didn't notice any pre-ejaculate on him, so I didn't think anything of it. Later on I spoke to him about my ...
A. 17 November 2009: Most welcome. Glad everything is fine. No doubt that is a tremendous load off your mind.
Thanks for the follow up.
:)... (read in full...)
Could my symptoms be a sign of pregnancy?
Q. Last week, things got a bit heated between me and my boyfriend. We didn't have sex, but he had touched himself briefly before fingering me. I didn't notice any pre-ejaculate on him, so I didn't think anything of it. Later on I spoke to him about my ...
A. 15 November 2009: It doesn't sound like pregnancy or anything serious to me. For the most part my own cycle is normal, but on rare occasions, I have more pain or the flow seems a bit different.
... (read in full...)
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