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Location: Texas, USA
Favorite color: purple
Favorite food: anything sweet.
Least favorite food: spicy foods.
Relationship status: In a relationship
Ticks: annoying/bratty people. I will usually tell them to just shut up. Also, rude people tick me off a lot.
Likes to: Laugh, smile, and just have great time.
Doesn't like: The rain; I can feel it comming and usually it's not a good feeling.. Stuff that makes me sad. Spicy foods.
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What if he neglects the baby if I were to tell him? Another girl is already having his child!
Q. I'd want to thank in advance for any readers and answerers, sorry for the lengthy post. I really don't know what im asking for here. Maybe just for your opinion on my situation, or I just need people to hear me out. I don't really have anybody to ...
A. 27 August 2008: I'm so glad that my opinion made you feel so much better.
But I strongly feel what I wrote before. I do believe that what you wrote was beautiful (in the most non-offensive way, I just didn't know a better way to describe what you wrote).
I ca... (read in full...)
He doesn't know if he wants too be with me and says he liked being single. He wants to see how our relationship goes but I really want to make it work.
Q. Hi, I split up with my boyfriend about 5 months ago because it was not working and we were forever arguing. I didn't know what else to do, and even though I didn't want to, i felt it was the best idea at the time, as we were both very unhappy. My ...
A. 27 August 2008: It's very natural for you and him to feel this way. You two broke up in unfriendly terms and even though you became friends after, the break up wasn't agree between the two of you.
So I think he might feel resentful. After all, he tried unsucces... (read in full...)
Someone explain what the hell my mind is doing to me.
Q. For my birthday my gf didn't do as much as I did for her on her bday and I am starting to feel petty. Because for her birthday I did a lot and went that extra mile just to make it special for her. I spent a lot of money I am not rich at all. For my ...
A. 27 August 2008: It's not the gift, but the thought that counts.
Probably you gave her an expensive, meaningful gift but she gave you something half-heatedly given.
So wha you should try to do is evaluate your own feelings. Are you feeling this way because you ... (read in full...)
Lack of self esteem is causing problems for me.
Q. I just told my boyfriend about my lack of self esteem and why I tend to push people away including him... and why I'm constantly crying... he said we'll talk more about it... What should I be expecting from him... as far as treating me righ...
A. 27 August 2008: I agree with StevenRoss, the reason why you think he will look at you differently is because of your low self-esteem.
It took a lot of guts to tell him this, and also this proves that you trust your boyfriend enough to think he will support ... (read in full...)
Can getting a piercing help a woman who has never climaxed during sex?
Q. Can getting a piercing help a woman who has never climaxed during sex?...
A. 27 August 2008: I really don't recommend it.
The clitoris is a HIGHLY sensitive area and having something going through with it will make you hurt almost unbearably. Don't do it unless you're a massoquist.
Although having a piercing might help a bit because th... (read in full...)
I am afraid of jepordising the relationship because of my jealousy/insecurity issues over the amount of partners she's had
Q. Hey there, im a 19 year old guy just about to head off to uni in a couple of weeks, and after having thought that id remain single during my gap year after some very negative experiences (including a split in a long term relationship, some mistakes ...
A. 27 August 2008: I don't know how you can say that for you sex is a big thing when you yourself saidhat your relationship with her was primarly sexual when you met her. Yeah, right, that's important.
Sorry for being harsh, but you're really being selfish here. Yo... (read in full...)
I'm a bit worried now that I've been too direct by composing a song for her...
Q. Hello, I posted recently about how to flirt with this girl who I will meet at freshers' week in university. So far we talk only by email, and we have not met. I started being flirty with her and she thanked me and said I was being very swe...
A. 27 August 2008: I really think that you composing a song for her is extremely sweet and romantic and it may actually make her fall for you... or find you creepy.
But this girl sounds sweet, so I'll opt for the first one.
And I really think for agreat impre... (read in full...)
Just how much should I shave off...?
Q. I recently found out that my bf wants to move onto the next step in our realationship. But honestly I'm afraid of what he'll think about my pussy. I know he likes them shaved but I don't know how much. I'd prefer not to ask him though. How much ...
A. 27 August 2008: Oh dear, this is really hard to answer because there are tons of guys that like different things.
Some like it all shaved (full Brazillian), some with some hair (and a shape to go along with it, if they desire), some others like it trimmed,... (read in full...)
What if he neglects the baby if I were to tell him? Another girl is already having his child!
Q. I'd want to thank in advance for any readers and answerers, sorry for the lengthy post. I really don't know what im asking for here. Maybe just for your opinion on my situation, or I just need people to hear me out. I don't really have anybody to ...
A. 27 August 2008: Basically, DiovanLestat wrote everyhing I would have said.
But I want something else that was also going through my mind while I was reading your whole story. Dear poster, you have a great gift for writting. Yes, some people who come here write ve... (read in full...)
My first love broke my heart but I continue to have sex with him! How do I let go?
Q. Back in December my first love broke my heart. I didn't want to date for a long time. But, I met this boy in school and automatically fell for him. We only dated for little over a month but were together every waking second. Once we broke up we ...
A. 27 August 2008: Well, at least you're happy.
Hopefully he'll be a nice boyfriend to you.... (read in full...)
What if he neglects the baby if I were to tell him? Another girl is already having his child!
Q. I'd want to thank in advance for any readers and answerers, sorry for the lengthy post. I really don't know what im asking for here. Maybe just for your opinion on my situation, or I just need people to hear me out. I don't really have anybody to ...
A. 22 August 2008: Thanks for the update! I wish you incredible good luck tomorrow.
One thing I want to suggest you, though, is to have someone else in the house with you when the guy comes to your house. It will be preferably be your mother. The reason is that you... (read in full...)
Why can't I be a normal, decent person?
Q. Hi there... you see, this problem is not about appeareances like most of the post with that title could possibly be. I'm not a good, decent person. I shout at other people (including my family members) i sneer every cristmas/birthday/whatev...
A. 22 August 2008: Usually, therapy helps, but sadly some people are just there for the money.
What lead me think that you needed therapy is because I believe you may suffer from some depression. You show a lot of the sympthoms. Depression is not easy to cure and... (read in full...)
Bad choices, either stay with my boyfriend who I care for as a friend or go for the one I really like but who is moving away?
Q. Well I must be confused as on a website asking this. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.. Here's the main problem. I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years (and have since moved in with) I started dating him after a really bad pa...
A. 22 August 2008: This is indeed a hard situation you're on with. It's like being between a sword and a rock.
I think what you could do is to dump your boyfriend. Although this may be a happy relationship, it's practically one-sided, and that's not fair for him ... (read in full...)
Is he interested in me even though he says "nothing's there"?
Q. I have this friend, a guy, that I have known for over 2 years now. We are very good friends and get along great. We would hang out and drink and talk and have soooo much fun. He would get a little touchy feely with me, but that was ok. He was ...
A. 22 August 2008: There must be something that affected him before that makes him relunctant to get into a relationship.
If you're close with him as much as you say you do, ask if he ever wants to be in a relationship (specify him it doesn't have to be with you... (read in full...)
Am I still a virgin if I was given oral sex from a female?
Q. Am i still a virgin technically speaking, if i've never had sex but have received oral from a girl when i was 15-16. I wished it was more but that was my last encounter with someone else sexually....
A. 22 August 2008: You're a virgin by technichality.
You haven't been penetrated yet, but you're not exactly a blank slate.... (read in full...)
She thinks me telling her I loved her was "drunk talk"! What now?
Q. I'm absolutely in love with this girl i know, but she only sees me as a friend. We were at a party a few weeks ago and whilst i was drunk i toldher that i loved her but now she dosent believe it, thinking it was just drunk talk. We are really good ...
A. 22 August 2008: You have to go to her, and tell her you love her in person.
When you do this, look directly at her eyes and if you can, hold her hands. Then, profess your love to her. Don't stutter and get to the point. Don't talk too much.
But if she sa... (read in full...)
Why can't I be a normal, decent person?
Q. Hi there... you see, this problem is not about appeareances like most of the post with that title could possibly be. I'm not a good, decent person. I shout at other people (including my family members) i sneer every cristmas/birthday/whatev...
A. 22 August 2008: Your problem sounds very serious.
Have you tried therapy? I know this sounds kind of forward to ask, but what you have is more deep down and we can only help you on the surface.
Getting a proffesional would help you go deep into the problem... (read in full...)
I'm into animal erotica. Can anyone answer questions on "fish" sex?
Q. Hey, Im kind of new with this.So anyway, Im a 39 year old female, Im overweight, lonley, and I need to get my freak on, Im so used to my 9-5 shifts anyway Laitly Ive been turned on by animal erotica, I had a moment when I was 10 with a dog that Ill ...
A. 22 August 2008: Hey, to each their own. If this is what you want, then so be it. It's your life.
But you have to admit that this is kind of an odd request and some people might see it as a joke.
But if ask me, I think putting a fish into vagina is not a ... (read in full...)
I'm 100% totally and completely terrified to have sex!! Is there something wrong with me?
Q. ok..so, hi! i'm 15 years old and kinda depressed. all of my female friends are having sex and i feel totally left out. i'm not saying that i'm just going to go do it for the hell of it, but still..it bothers me that i feel like i can't talk to them ...
A. 22 August 2008: I first want to tell you that there's nothing wrong with you. This is just how you are, don't worry, sometimes being like every one else is not the best thing in the world.
Now, the next thing I'll tell you is that sex is a very natural act. And... (read in full...)
My best friend got a boyfriend who took over and got obsessive! How should I handle this?
Q. I need help. My best friend and i used to spend every day with eachother until he got a boyfriend who took over and became obsessive. I never seen my best friend because he spent all the time with his boyfriend. This really upset me. My best friend ...
A. 22 August 2008: Oh my dear, I feel for you. I've been there.
What you could do is go up to him personally and express all the frustrations that you have about him ignoring you. Doing it online or throught text will never work, he'll just ignore you.
So go u... (read in full...)
I'm into animal erotica. Can anyone answer questions on "fish" sex?
Q. Hey, Im kind of new with this.So anyway, Im a 39 year old female, Im overweight, lonley, and I need to get my freak on, Im so used to my 9-5 shifts anyway Laitly Ive been turned on by animal erotica, I had a moment when I was 10 with a dog that Ill ...
A. 22 August 2008: Answer in order:
-Yes
-Just for a couple of days
-You could give it CPR?
-Yes
-It would die?
-Yes if you are ok with the fact it was inside of you a couple of minutes before.
-Yes
-Pirahnnas and sharks.... (read in full...)
I want to get back in touch with him without looking like a stalker! Any suggestions?
Q. Hi everyone, here's my problem: A few years ago I went to school with this guy I had a huge crush on, and on the last day he admitted he liked me too but for some reason I never got his phone number or email or gave him mine. Recently I ran i...
A. 22 August 2008: I agree with the other aunties.
You won't sound like a stalker AT ALL. So don't worry. When you get a facebook account, just drop and say hi, not too much to talk. Make it simple.... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I'll do something wrong kissing a boy who likes me.
Q. Okay so me and all my friends are going out the last time before school and supposedly, we might play seven minutes in heaven. I've never made out with a guy before and I have a feeling I'm gunna get paired up with this guy that supposedly likes me. ...
A. 22 August 2008: I agree with the other aunties, but I'll add this.
Try to be aware of what you're doing always. If he starts touching parts you don't want him to, stop him and tell him a very stern "no". He better understand.
A man goes as far as a woman lets ... (read in full...)
Can I succeed in life even if I don't totally complete school?
Q. iM A graduating at the end of the year and most likly wont get all my senoir point on my certificate. Im stressing so much that i will never be anything or wont get anywhere. Has anyone else failed grade twelve but still become something great? I am ...
A. 22 August 2008: I don't know if they have this in Australia, but school drop outs or those who didn't have enough points to graduate can get this special diploma called GED and it's almost equivalent to a highshool diploma.
But not having graduated from high sch... (read in full...)
My friend is angry because I'm contacting her ex, who I've known since childhood.
Q. i need some help my i guess x friend got mad at me cause i text her ex boyfriend and i have known him since i was 4 and i really like him as a friend and she is saying i cant worry about him i cant even be his friend but i dont care what they say im ...
A. 22 August 2008: You have to learn not to care.
Those people won't ever shut up if you keep on reacting to what they say. The reason why they keep on teasing you is because you seem to care about what they say and I almost guarantee you that once you start ig... (read in full...)
I love two boys at once and they both want me?!!
Q. I'm so distraught about this at the moment. I have loved a boy for about 2 maybe 3 years now and he has had such a massive impact on my life he has loved me too but we have never gone out or anything So i gave up hope of that ever happening a...
A. 22 August 2008: Take a deep breath. Inhale. Exhale.
What you have to do is take some time for yourself to clear your head. You're so very troubled and probably both of these guys are putting pressure on you.
So take a day off and go to a place where you ... (read in full...)
Is it illegal? My 16yr old friend wants to move in with her 17yr old boyfriend.
Q. Is it illegal?My friend is 16 and she wants to move out with her 17 year old boyfriend and live at her boyfriend's sister house that lives in Fontana,California....
A. 22 August 2008: It's legal as long as her parents have given her permission for it. If they don't it's considered kidnapping and her boyfriend can be arrested. Also, the police will force her to come back home.
But if her parents have given her permissi... (read in full...)
What exactly is sexual tension and what's so good about it?
Q. Hi. Seems like a silly question but what exactly is 'Sexual tension'? If I meet a guy I really like I usually struggle to keep my composure and can't hold down a conversation. So basically the conversation is all kind of stilted and goes no-where. ...
A. 22 August 2008: Sexual tension is when you want to have sex (or intimacy) with a person yet you cannot do anything about it because of certain circumstances. It also applies to people who have a spark or connection with another person and can't take it to the next ... (read in full...)
Can I have a relationship with my father's step brother?
Q. hi i know my question is stupid but i can't tell anyone. can i have a relationship with my father's step brother? he's not from our family he's just the son of my grandmother's new husband. we're so attracted to eachother but i don't know.. is he...
A. 22 August 2008: Read this:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/dating--step-uncle-right-or-wrong.html
In my opinion, as long as you're over 18, it's right since there's no blood attachement and you're considered an adult, but your family might see it as morally w... (read in full...)
How is losing my virginity going to feel? And what steps do I take to move it to full on sex?
Q. hi there im 16 and im gunna have sex with my boyfriend at the weekend, im a virgin and have only ever kissed a guy before. i dont know what to do nd hes really experienced and knows alot bout sex and positions but i know nothing whatso ever, wh...
A. 21 August 2008: Original Poster:
This is a website where people with real problems can come here and seek real help when they need it the most. A lot of them are so grateful they got an answer to their problems that could help them get through it. Many times, t... (read in full...)
Am I too young to be in love?
Q. Hi, i am 12 and i think i may be in love with my boyfriend...am i too young? My friends all think i am. Someone please help!...
A. 21 August 2008: No, you're never too young to fall in love.
But there are tons of people who think they're "in love" when it's just a big infatuation, specially people who are as young as you. Don't let this make you feel unsure about your feelings for your boy... (read in full...)
How is losing my virginity going to feel? And what steps do I take to move it to full on sex?
Q. hi there im 16 and im gunna have sex with my boyfriend at the weekend, im a virgin and have only ever kissed a guy before. i dont know what to do nd hes really experienced and knows alot bout sex and positions but i know nothing whatso ever, wh...
A. 21 August 2008: Man, DiovanLestat, I couldn't have put it myself any better.
I'm quiet irritated, but not angry. This girl made a lot of people waste their time. People here sincerely wanted to help.
Original Poster:
IF had at least said thanks gracef... (read in full...)
How do I meet new lads who will be more than just friends?
Q. I am bored of being on my own and want to find a boyfriend the lads i hang arond with have all seemed to have slipped into the "friend zone" and i dont think we could go anywhere. how do i get to meet new lads and stop our relationships being just ...
A. 21 August 2008: One big mistake many women do is to expect the guys they hang out with will eventually start a relationship with them. But clear this out for me: You only hang out with them because you expected all of this?
Well, what you could do is very sim... (read in full...)
Is it fun to watch a girlfriend have sex with another guy?
Q. im thinking about asking my girlfriend to have sex with another guy while i watch. is this fun?...
A. 21 August 2008: Ha, you ask if it will be fun? What a weird question to ask when the thought of it turns you on.
Now, you could ask your girlfriend to do this, but don't expect a "yes". Expect her to be pissed off though.... (read in full...)
Double whammy...I need advice!
Q. I need help,im almost 16 an my boyfriend is almost 14.We dont go to same school anymore but,we reallyyy like eachother, yet we've been a couple for only a week now.And,he wants to have sex with me badly.I'm not sure if i'm ready an if i am ready,i ...
A. 21 August 2008: You've been going out for a week and he wants sex already? And you are falling him head over heels after only being with him for a week?
Sounds like he will use you. Please don't do anything. You WILL regret it.
And like others pointed out, nev... (read in full...)
What if he neglects the baby if I were to tell him? Another girl is already having his child!
Q. I'd want to thank in advance for any readers and answerers, sorry for the lengthy post. I really don't know what im asking for here. Maybe just for your opinion on my situation, or I just need people to hear me out. I don't really have anybody to ...
A. 21 August 2008: Original poster:
I'm so glad that our answers have made you feel so much better. That actually puts a smile on my face. I hope that better things will come in the future for you.
I wish you the best of the world for you and your baby girl. ... (read in full...)
I am best friends of a sort, with this girl, I give her advice, which she seems to forget, that I helped her, I feel used, should I tell her how I feel?
Q. Well I know a girl.. And apperently I'm one of her best friends, however she has 5 other best friends 2 of which r boys, she used to tell me everything but now all she does is ask for their help and is so grateful and public about the help she ...
A. 21 August 2008: Your second update changes my answer slightly, but I still stick up to what I said before. Giving an advise is for free, so don't expect anything back.
But since you say you're best friends, well, it doesn't seem that to me. She only wants to... (read in full...)
How do I convince my girlfriend I won't cheat on her? I want to propose next year!
Q. How do I convince my girlfriend that I don't want to cheat on her? We've been together 4 years and in the past I have done things that caused her to lose trust in me. I lied and hid things to do with other girls, but they were all innocent, I just ...
A. 21 August 2008: I'm sorry to say this, but this cannot be cured in one day.
I'm so glad that you have seen through your wrongs and that you have changed, but I completely understand why your gilfriend is like this and you should try to be more comprehe... (read in full...)
I lost my best friend because I started to date her ex-boyfriend, now I am so sad, and I think I want to break up with my boyfriend to regain her friendship, should I?
Q. my best friends and i have been friends for 2.5 years. we have done alot of things together and gone through alot. we even live under the same apartment. her very first love, i was the cupid who match made them. both of them lasted for about ...
A. 21 August 2008: Myp, please read this:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-if-he-neglects-the-baby-if-i.html
This is not foul nor that too much despicable at all. This is just reality. Would you really say that a man hitting a woman and abusing her mentally... (read in full...)
She says she has strong feelings for me but that I can do much better? How can I fix this?
Q. Dear cupid I have been going out with a girl for two months. These few days she has been iffy if she wants to continue and doesn't know if she can. She finally told me what she thinks. Heres what she said in a facebook message "Okay scratch w...
A. 21 August 2008: You could tell her that she's so much perfect for you, and that you deserve the best, and that's why you chose her.
She sees you as too good for her, and she might actually mean it. She has low-self confidense and I think she still hasn't adjusted... (read in full...)
As a man I just can't resist all these beautiful ladies! Which one do I choose?
Q. I started dating a co-teacher at my school 3 months ago, I seduced her the first time we went out and started making trips back to my house with her even during working hours. The thing is that I already had a girl friend working in a nearby city ...
A. 21 August 2008: You HAD to see this comming.
Sorry, but you really don't deserve her. In your writting, you realized you had done wrong but you never wished a desire to change, not even at least for her. You even blamed her for your own mistakes.
So my a... (read in full...)
I lost my best friend because I started to date her ex-boyfriend, now I am so sad, and I think I want to break up with my boyfriend to regain her friendship, should I?
Q. my best friends and i have been friends for 2.5 years. we have done alot of things together and gone through alot. we even live under the same apartment. her very first love, i was the cupid who match made them. both of them lasted for about ...
A. 21 August 2008: I was in a similar position as you. I'll make the story as short as possible. I don't know how this would help you, but I'm just telling this to you to show you that you're not the only one who had this dilema.
I had a dear friend who was going ou... (read in full...)
I am best friends of a sort, with this girl, I give her advice, which she seems to forget, that I helped her, I feel used, should I tell her how I feel?
Q. Well I know a girl.. And apperently I'm one of her best friends, however she has 5 other best friends 2 of which r boys, she used to tell me everything but now all she does is ask for their help and is so grateful and public about the help she ...
A. 21 August 2008: I know that you like to help her, but you have to remind yourself that giving advise is a free service and you cannot expect anything from her.
Yeah, sure, you would like some praise or a good feeback, but you won't receive it all the time (or... (read in full...)
How is losing my virginity going to feel? And what steps do I take to move it to full on sex?
Q. hi there im 16 and im gunna have sex with my boyfriend at the weekend, im a virgin and have only ever kissed a guy before. i dont know what to do nd hes really experienced and knows alot bout sex and positions but i know nothing whatso ever, wh...
A. 21 August 2008: I agree with DiovanLestat here.
If you say you've been with him since you were 11, then why is he so experienced? I smell a lie here.
And I also agree that by this age, you should have learned how to punctiate and write correctly. Capit... (read in full...)
What if he neglects the baby if I were to tell him? Another girl is already having his child!
Q. I'd want to thank in advance for any readers and answerers, sorry for the lengthy post. I really don't know what im asking for here. Maybe just for your opinion on my situation, or I just need people to hear me out. I don't really have anybody to ...
A. 21 August 2008: I want to tell you that I feel so deeply for you. And also that I'm deeply sorry that I'm not able to help you get through this. I have no idea how I could help you.
While I was reading everything you wrote, I kept feeling this pain, and I still ... (read in full...)
My first love broke my heart but I continue to have sex with him! How do I let go?
Q. Back in December my first love broke my heart. I didn't want to date for a long time. But, I met this boy in school and automatically fell for him. We only dated for little over a month but were together every waking second. Once we broke up we ...
A. 2 August 2008: You think he's just playing you? You're his violing and he's scratching your strings just for fun!
He's obviously using you for sex, nothing more. He KNOWS you have lingering feelings for him and he's toying with those feelings so he can satisfy ... (read in full...)
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