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Age: 19

Location: Texas, USA

Favorite color: purple

Favorite food: anything sweet.

Least favorite food: spicy foods.

Relationship status: In a relationship

Ticks: annoying/bratty people. I will usually tell them to just shut up. Also, rude people tick me off a lot.

Likes to: Laugh, smile, and just have great time.

Doesn't like: The rain; I can feel it comming and usually it's not a good feeling.. Stuff that makes me sad. Spicy foods.

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We broke up in February, when he gave me a letter, stating he wanted to start up again in a year with me, have not seen him since we broke up, now I get a voice mail, that he wants to drop over, what could he want?

Q.   Hello Everyone, I need some advice regarding my ex... We broke up in Feb this year and haven't seen him since. I have recieved a voice mail message and messages stating that if I am home so he can pop over??? What does this mean? What could...

A.   31 August 2008: I think you should just ignore him. You have zero feelings for him and no interest to be around him, so just express that through your actions. Now, if you actually see him, then just tell him you don't want anything to do with him and to stop ask... (read in full...)

My depression broke her heart. Could get a second chance?

Q.   This story is somewhat complicated but I will do my best do explain it. Basically, I was in a long-distance relationship with a girl. She was really in love with me and wanted to be my girlfriend. I was up at college, and was going through a ...

A.   31 August 2008: I'm so sorry to say to you, but it really sounds to me that you're getting played. It kind of hurts me because it just sounds that you really REALLY love this gal and her treatment towards you is incredibly unfair to your part. Nobody deserves... (read in full...)

Is he cheating? Or what?

Q.   me and boyfriend have been together for about a year! things were great for about 6 months and now things are changing. he doesnt come to see me anymore even though im a 6 minute drive away. i ask him if i can go to his and he just says no and to l...

A.   31 August 2008: Original poster: Did you force the answer on him? Like, accusatory? I'm asking because my boyfriend would try to defy me when I ask him this way. For example, if I were ever to say, "What were you doing? Are you bored of me? Why haven't you ... (read in full...)

If she had wanted to hit me with the bottle, she would have... right?

Q.   was at the pub meeting my friends n i bumped into this boy who is gorgeous..we hugged said hello..he introduced me to his friend etc..anyway bit of history..he is kinda mates with my ex..he stares at me and litrally turnt his head as far as it would ...

A.   31 August 2008: Basschick, I think you should try to read more careful next time. She made no mention of "trying to steal him" nor did it say that the guy made such advances to her farther than a friendly smile. Well, original poster, you gotta remember that thi... (read in full...)

What is my boyfriend up to with this "friend" of his?

Q.   my boyfriend and i have been together for 3yrs 8 months now and we are in a long distace relationship.i notice a co worker of his calls him often. one day while we were out driving she called because she wanted to check up on him (he did go to work ...

A.   31 August 2008: I don't know, all of this sounds suspicious. What you could do is go up to his work and tell your boyfriend you want to talk to this female friend. Please, in the talk, don't sound accusatory AT ALL or she will come to the densive, fueling... (read in full...)

Is he cheating? Or what?

Q.   me and boyfriend have been together for about a year! things were great for about 6 months and now things are changing. he doesnt come to see me anymore even though im a 6 minute drive away. i ask him if i can go to his and he just says no and to l...

A.   31 August 2008: He doesn't have to be with you 24/7. He has school, friends, and family to care about. Not even a married couple spend that much time, there's still work and kids to add. I'd say you're pretty lucky. You get to see your boyfriend 4 times a week a... (read in full...)

I over-reacted and now he has been ignoring me! What should I do? I don't want to lose him!

Q.   my boyfriend and i dated for two months, talked for three months before that, and have been close friends for three years, he sent me a text saying we need a break after i acted a little crazy (he went away to camp and i was having a hard time not ...

A.   31 August 2008: You have to talk to him PERSONALLY. Forget texts. Forget emails. This is a matter you need to discuss in person, if you want it fixed. In the conversation, tell him what you told us here. What you wrote here was full of emotion, sincerit... (read in full...)

One of my closest friends changed suddenly and I don't know if I'm to blame!

Q.   Ok, sorry if this is really long..... its kinda hard to explain I have a friend named Nate, we have been friends for over 5 years, we have dated before for about a month but it was really ockward so we decided to remain friends. My boyfriend and...

A.   31 August 2008: Oh dear, first of all, you're NOT the bad person here. You just happen to be the middle-man, the one who would take most responsibility of these problem, the escapegoat. Now, it's really hard to help you here because your friend Nate doesn't ... (read in full...)

Which boy should I go for?

Q.   Hello, rather basic question here: I currently have a rather embarrising crush on too great boys - one in the year above me and one of my friends mates who is just going into sixth form who i have known since year 2. I really REALLY like my f...

A.   30 August 2008: You haven't given too much information about all of this, BUT, you mentioned that you "REALLY like" your friend's mate, which you didn't do with the other fella. You already got an ok from her, and you obviously like him more than the fella a ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend acts different with everyone else except me, what can I do to change this?

Q.   Dear cupid, I am so confused! I started dating my boyrfiend 6 months ago and im head over heels in love with him. Ive had so many bf's and never fell inlove before. A few months ago i truly felt that he was the one and i wanted everything with him...

A.   30 August 2008: This post has gotten me alarmed. Dear poster, I don't know if you're going to believe me or not, but your boyfriend shows the signs of a dangerous individual and a probable future abuser. It's ringing so many warning bells here. Please read t... (read in full...)

Is it possible to be in love with two people at the same time?

Q.   is is possable to be in love with 2 people at the same time? iv been with my boyfriend 2years now and we were best friends years b4, i really think i love him and at the moment i feel like i wont to be with him for ever. But i'm very close to my ot...

A.   30 August 2008: It is possible to love two people in the same degree, but it's impossible to be IN love with two people in the same degree. You may love your friends, family, and boyfriend. Each of them to an extent, probably depending with your experien... (read in full...)

I'm torn between two guys and I don't know who to choose!

Q.   I have been with a male that we will call ram for just about a year now. We fight we argue and practically tear eachothers heads off. There has been cheating from both sides in the relationship. All of my friends wonder why I am soo crazzy about him ...

A.   30 August 2008: I don't know, in my opinion, I think you should lose both and take some time for yourself. Being in a relationship is confusing sometimes, specially when is as heated and full of drama as yours, and it can mess your head a bit. Take some time, ... (read in full...)

He likes me, I like him too, but I don't know how to get into a relationship with him!

Q.   ok so well i reallly like this guy... we are good friends we always sit together at lunch and class... well rumors went aroudn by his ex that we like eachother... jokes on her cause we do... but how do i turn on the flirting and the charm? and how ...

A.   30 August 2008: I think you have to be more forward to him, and ask him the same question you asked here. You know that he likes you, and that is SUCH a great advantage to you because the most reason why people don't ask their crushes is because they fear rej... (read in full...)

Whats the difference between french kissing and making out... and how do you make out?

Q.   i really like this guy and im 14... he said he likes me too... and we are great friends....him and his gf broke up a few days ago and shes so mad that shes spreading about me to everyone... i dont really care cause (lets call him daniel) daniel told ...

A.   30 August 2008: I first want to tell you that I think french kissing him on the first date is a little bit... too forward. You don't want this, specially if you want something serious. A french kiss is very passionate and full of heat, and giving this kind of kiss ... (read in full...)

Does bleeding mean you broke your hymen?

Q.   I think i lost my hymen because i bleeded when i made out with my boyfriend, i don't know if he did enter me all the way through or not but since i bleeded this means that i lost my hymen right ? ...

A.   30 August 2008: It appears to me that yes, you lost your hymen and your virginity. Regardless, when penis has entered your vagina, it doesn't matter how far it gets in, you still had sex.... (read in full...)

He is 30 and I am only 17, his ex has tried to split us up and once she succeded, any advice?

Q.   Im a bit wooried about my boyfreind he seems to be very getting very freindly with his ex they have a daughter together but she has stopped him seeing her before and has not been nice to him at all since they split up surely he should hate her? but ...

A.   29 August 2008: I think a lot of you are forgetting one important thing she said. You mentioned that the two of them have a child together, and that few months ago she didn't allow him to visit his daughter. Obviously, that was because they were fighting and prob... (read in full...)

Does My Teacher Like Me Back?

Q.   I'm not his student anymore but he comes and helps out at my high school in the summer sometimes and I see him there. Anyways I've liked him since I met him which was 6 years ago. I found myself staring at him when he was around and a lot of the t...

A.   29 August 2008: So why you want to know if he likes you or not? Please don't try to level up your ego. It's not good.... (read in full...)

What should I do about my super-jealous boyfriend?

Q.   i've been with my boyfriend for nearly a year now, and at the start of the relationship everything was great he really did make me feel like a princess. But just about 3 months ago things started to change, he went out with his friends a lot more, ...

A.   29 August 2008: Please read these wonderful articles that may help you: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/warning-signs-youre-dating-a-loser.html http://www.dearcupid.org/question/dating-red-flags.html Your boyfriend's actions sound very fishy, and you have... (read in full...)

We spend less time with each other because of our jobs. What can I do?

Q.   Me and my fiance for 8 months have not left each other side.. but maybe for 4 hours a day.. Now i have a job that is 9 to 5 like he wanted and he works nights for about 5 hours. We see each other for about 3 hours a night.. Now he's lonely during ...

A.   29 August 2008: Now, you have to stand your ground here. It seems to me that he's pretty bored, so he wants some "action" or "drama" to spice up his afternoon. And instead of watching soap operas, he just takes it on you. So just tell him, firmly, to stop ... (read in full...)

You can add Dear Cupid on your Facebook!

Q.   Hey, it's not a question but it's just to tell everyone that if they have facebook, they can add themselves to the dear cupid group through the link below! :) Would be good to see you on there! :) http://www.fac...

A.   29 August 2008: http://www.facebook.com/pages/DearCupid/19602428432?ref=nf... (read in full...)

My boyfriend has changed, he is not as loving as he had been, I want my old boyfriend back, what do I do now?

Q.   After telling my boyfriend about my lack of selfesteem things haven't been the same... he's not affectionate when he texts me or talks 2 me on the phone... Things dnt seem the same and I miss us and my heart is beakin apart... I love him so m...

A.   29 August 2008: My guess is that he really doesn't know how to approach this problem, and is doing the exact opposite thing of how he was without realizing it. He probably feels guilty for not caring for you enough, and must think that all his efforts are ... (read in full...)

I cant get over the fact that my older boyfriend has been with so many other women before me!

Q.   There is a 5 year age gap between my boyfriend and I, I am 16 and he is 21. We've been together for 7 months and his past has never bothered me until recently; ofcourse he was going to be more experienced than me etc but he's slept with 20 maybe ...

A.   29 August 2008: You should take a look out for this guy, and try to keep your pants for a while. I know some may disagree with me, but there are some guys who have seen their wrong and have truely changed, but barely get their second chance. But this does... (read in full...)

He told me I was boring! Should I continue with this relationship?

Q.   Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years. We don't see each other too often because we both have busy schedules, when we do, however, it'r very great and fun. But sometimes we talk on msn. The problem is, he gets bored and usually le...

A.   29 August 2008: Have you ever expressed this distress to your boyfriend? Sometimes, we humans do or say things we don't even realize that hurt others. And this might be his case. So next time you talk to him, express to him that it bothers you when he talks to... (read in full...)

I'm 16 and in love with a married man!

Q.   hi, im 16 and i joined the police explorers group about a year ago. In like November of 2007, i noticed was growing more and more attracted to the police officer in charge of our group. I had knee surgery that spring, and he saw a picture of my knee ...

A.   29 August 2008: Kell, I know that what I will tell you, you might not like, but you came here for some advise and this is what I'll tell you: Please stay away from this man. It will lead you to no good. You'll end up hurt and probably humiliated if you wait for... (read in full...)

Does My Teacher Like Me Back?

Q.   I'm not his student anymore but he comes and helps out at my high school in the summer sometimes and I see him there. Anyways I've liked him since I met him which was 6 years ago. I found myself staring at him when he was around and a lot of the t...

A.   29 August 2008: I think before anything, you shoul read these articles: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-falling-for-your-teacher-is-never-good.html http://www.dearcupid.org/question/a-student-is-in-love-with-me-how.html http://www.dearcupid.... (read in full...)

What are the chances of me being pregnant?

Q.   Alright. So me and my boyfirend (long term) have been havign sex, everything is fine. But i think i may have gotten pregnant. We had sex the past 3 days a few times he finished off inside me. And a few times we used a condom and then after we used a ...

A.   29 August 2008: The chances of you becoming pregnant are very high. So what you should do is go to the pharmacy and buy a pregnancy test. No one, beside your GP, can tell you if you're pregnant or not...except this little test. It's better to know this way and ... (read in full...)

She's my friend's sister, how can I tell if she likes me back?

Q.   i like my best friend's sister but she's 4 years younger than me how can i tell if she likes me back ...

A.   29 August 2008: At her age, she would look at you constantly and either not talk to you or go up to you exclusively (often ignoring others). Look at her body language. If she plays with her hair and where she puts her hands (near waist or legs). If she tries to... (read in full...)

We hit it off on the summer, but I had to go back to my country. Now he ignores me, why?

Q.   I met this guy in a club during the last days of my holiday. He started to talk to me.. Like "Hi, What's your name etc.." We exchanged telephone numbers. The next day we met again. He was a business-man who studied abroad for 8 years, but now ...

A.   28 August 2008: I think that reality has hit him really hard and he may just be trying to cope with it. You told him directly that you will NEVER leave your country for anyone. So my guess is that he's trying to avoid you for now so he can get over you. You know... (read in full...)

Why can't I have a girlfriend?

Q.   ok well i am i junior and i havent had a gf since i was in the 7th grade. my last gf turned lesbian a few months after we went out. but she went out with other guys after me so im pretty sure it was me. i get compliments on my eyes like hourly. and ...

A.   28 August 2008: It's not the clothes you wear, it's how you wear them. What that means its that what matters is your attitude. You've already got the looks, but not probably the attitude to go with it. Confidense in one self would desplay and spread towards ... (read in full...)

How can I help my friend with Asperger's Syndrome?

Q.   Ok, so recently I got with a new guy, and he has Aspergers Syndrome. He's such a lovely person, but finds it difficult to be in social groups and whatnot, and obviously acts oddly, though it doesn't bother me, recently I brought him to meet my ...

A.   28 August 2008: As a person who has the Asperger's Syndrome, I can give you some insight. Like baby duck said, google Asperger's Syndrome and read all about it and get informed. It's the best first step you can ever do to talk to him. And just keep being nice ... (read in full...)

My high sex drive is straining my relationship!

Q.   I have always really been into sex have a high drive I guess. Have been in loving committed relationship for years now and the sex just not enough. Is there any real hope? We have talked but nothing changes... just reamins the same me pining for ...

A.   28 August 2008: Have you tried toys? or more foreplay? A good vibrator would make your day, trust me.... (read in full...)

How soon is too soon to sleep with someone you are dating?

Q.   How soon is too soon to sleep with someone that your dating?? Iv been single for a couple of years and im still none the wiser! Iv done the first date (yes even I know thats too soon, the 5thd date and the 2 month mark but just cant seem to get it ...

A.   28 August 2008: It's only right to have sex in the first date if the only thing you want is to have sex. But if you want a more serious relationship, sex should be postponed. Yes, like the other poster said, sex on the first date won't scare another man, BUT he w... (read in full...)

Why do men touch this specific area on your back? Does it mean something?

Q.   I'm wondering why men like putting their hands on my back espacially touching the area where my bra's belt and aqraffe is there. These men are the ones i know and we get along well.I just wanna know why they like fumble in that area but not my waist...

A.   28 August 2008: Because the waist of the woman is a sexual feature. It defines your curves, depending if it goes inwards, making the hourglass figure most guys vie for. So most people think that if a guy is touching a girl's waist, then in means there's some sex... (read in full...)

What are the chances of getting pregnant?

Q.   I'm 13. Turning 14. I had unprotected sex three times last week. I told my friend about it. And she told me that I am probably pregnant. I don't really know if I am. I had sex 9-10 days into my menstrual cycle. And the guy didn't pull out. What are ...

A.   28 August 2008: I would want to really say that this would be poetic justice, but it's really unfair for the child. So, what you have to go get a pregnancy test and check if you're pregnant. That's the only way, besides going to the doctor, to find out if you'r... (read in full...)

Does the age difference matter?

Q.   im 14 years old and my sisters best mate keeps flirting with me and tries cuddling me but shes 11 nearly 12, i do have some feelings for her but is the age diffrence a problem?...

A.   28 August 2008: It isn't really. If you like, then just go for her. And good luck.... (read in full...)

I'm 16 and in love with a married man!

Q.   hi, im 16 and i joined the police explorers group about a year ago. In like November of 2007, i noticed was growing more and more attracted to the police officer in charge of our group. I had knee surgery that spring, and he saw a picture of my knee ...

A.   27 August 2008: So is this man married or is the title description wrong? Well, if he's married, then he's out of the question, no matter how strong you feel about him. You should never be a homewrecker. Well, in my opinion, his actions are pretty clear. He... (read in full...)

He said he lied about planning to marry me, I don't know what to think anymore.

Q.   My boyfriend of 2 1/2 years just broke up with me 6 days ago .. seriously out of nowhere...this is such a long story i'll try to keep it short. He was acting weird one day and then the next day broke it off and said he was moving out right then and ...

A.   27 August 2008: I think that if you want to be with him, talk to him about your relationship and tell him that you want it to work. But if you don't, then take this as a sign and get out of his life. Also, if he insists, after so much explanation from your par... (read in full...)

Is he really 'straight' or is he too afraid to be with me?

Q.   About 6 months back, I met a guy, who was 19 at the time, we started to hang out, and the second time we went somewhere I told him I was gay, which he had no problem with. He was 3 months out of a relationship with his fiance, things just didn't ...

A.   27 August 2008: I think you should really leave him time to think about all of this. It's not very easy for some people to accept themselves as homosexual, and it's even harder when the person knows for a fact that their parents and most of their friends will not... (read in full...)

He said he lied about planning to marry me, I don't know what to think anymore.

Q.   My boyfriend of 2 1/2 years just broke up with me 6 days ago .. seriously out of nowhere...this is such a long story i'll try to keep it short. He was acting weird one day and then the next day broke it off and said he was moving out right then and ...

A.   27 August 2008: This doesn't sound fishy at all to me, but it does sound really weird. This guy sounds sincere to me and I think he's sincerely having doubts about himself and the relationship. I think he really feels inadequate and thinks he will not make you... (read in full...)

Do I think I like Tom because I am getting over Sam?

Q.   Okay.. Im 16, i've always been single. I dated this guy (lets call him Sam) for nearly 3months - May, June and a bit of July. He went to my school, so I knew him for a year before that, but I developed feelings for him and he did the say for me. We ...

A.   27 August 2008: I really think that you may only like him because you tried to get over Sam. You needed emotional support after Sam left you, and Tom gave it to you. So I don't blame you for getting feelings for him. But to me, he's only your rock, your crying s... (read in full...)

What if he neglects the baby if I were to tell him? Another girl is already having his child!

Q.   I'd want to thank in advance for any readers and answerers, sorry for the lengthy post. I really don't know what im asking for here. Maybe just for your opinion on my situation, or I just need people to hear me out. I don't really have anybody to ...

A.   27 August 2008: I'm so glad that my opinion made you feel so much better. But I strongly feel what I wrote before. I do believe that what you wrote was beautiful (in the most non-offensive way, I just didn't know a better way to describe what you wrote). I ca... (read in full...)

What if he neglects the baby if I were to tell him? Another girl is already having his child!

Q.   I'd want to thank in advance for any readers and answerers, sorry for the lengthy post. I really don't know what im asking for here. Maybe just for your opinion on my situation, or I just need people to hear me out. I don't really have anybody to ...

A.   27 August 2008: Basically, DiovanLestat wrote everyhing I would have said. But I want something else that was also going through my mind while I was reading your whole story. Dear poster, you have a great gift for writting. Yes, some people who come here write ve... (read in full...)

What if he neglects the baby if I were to tell him? Another girl is already having his child!

Q.   I'd want to thank in advance for any readers and answerers, sorry for the lengthy post. I really don't know what im asking for here. Maybe just for your opinion on my situation, or I just need people to hear me out. I don't really have anybody to ...

A.   22 August 2008: Thanks for the update! I wish you incredible good luck tomorrow. One thing I want to suggest you, though, is to have someone else in the house with you when the guy comes to your house. It will be preferably be your mother. The reason is that you... (read in full...)

What if he neglects the baby if I were to tell him? Another girl is already having his child!

Q.   I'd want to thank in advance for any readers and answerers, sorry for the lengthy post. I really don't know what im asking for here. Maybe just for your opinion on my situation, or I just need people to hear me out. I don't really have anybody to ...

A.   21 August 2008: Original poster: I'm so glad that our answers have made you feel so much better. That actually puts a smile on my face. I hope that better things will come in the future for you. I wish you the best of the world for you and your baby girl. ... (read in full...)

What if he neglects the baby if I were to tell him? Another girl is already having his child!

Q.   I'd want to thank in advance for any readers and answerers, sorry for the lengthy post. I really don't know what im asking for here. Maybe just for your opinion on my situation, or I just need people to hear me out. I don't really have anybody to ...

A.   21 August 2008: I want to tell you that I feel so deeply for you. And also that I'm deeply sorry that I'm not able to help you get through this. I have no idea how I could help you. While I was reading everything you wrote, I kept feeling this pain, and I still ... (read in full...)

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