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I really hate it when my breasts are touched, why do you think this is?

Q.   Before I go to my doctor, I want to see if anyone here has any advise for me. I absolutely HATE my breasts being touched. It is really bad because my boyfriend is so sweet, and he loves to be close to me when we are naked, but I refuse to take my ...

A.   22 February 2007: Have you ever been sexually assaulted? ... (read in full...)

I am going to court soon for a rape assault on me. I am really scared, how do I cope?

Q.   I am going to court for a rape assualt on me and i am really scared i need some advice because i feel like i want to run away or take an overdose becuase i would rather do this and wake up in hospital than going to court. i need advice n how to cope ...

A.   22 February 2007: Oh sweetie, you are doing the right thing. I was raped too when I was 17 and the people I told made me feel awful. I never reported it. I ended up seeking therapy when I was older and it helped so much. I recommend it for you. It is about re... (read in full...)

I think he is "the one!" How can I bring the subject up to see if he feels the same?

Q.   I've known the guy I'm dating for well over 14 years and we have been dating for 5 months. The thing is I have this extremely strong feeling that he is 'the one'. Me and this guy have so much in common, the good things, mind you. There have been ...

A.   22 February 2007: its too soon to have such a heavy talk. I know what you mean by feeling that he is "the one" but I have learned that there really is no such thing. And it really places a lot of stress on a relationship. I think if you can be totally present and in ... (read in full...)

I think she was cheating on me before we broke up. She seemed to "move on" way too this normal behaviour for a cheater?

Q.   It's been over six months now since my breakup with my partner of 17 years. She moved on in two weeks of the break up and I suspect that she might have been cheating on me. She would not give me closure and has not made any form of contact with me. ...

A.   22 February 2007: hard to say. It is, however, a sign that she is a horrible communicator. In some cases people just don't deal well with change. In all the years you were together, did she have any fallngs out with friends or family? How did she handle it? It so... (read in full...)

What do I do? I'm confused as to the level of our relationship?

Q.   Hi there i am a single parent who moved in with a single parent as well, we know each other for one year as friends and have feelings for each other. our kids do not live with us. the problem is he does not want to express his feeling towards me ...

A.   22 February 2007: I suppose you may have moved in together a wee bit too soon. Some men have a heck of a time sharing their feelings and there isn't much that can be done about it. I recommend moving out and letting the relationship unfold patiently. If you are ... (read in full...)

Why do I fear other men so much?

Q.   Please i need to get this out of my mind somehow. Why do i fear other men so much, especially when i am on the verge of achieving something or reaching a milestone. I think them to be a kind of threat and try to keep distance and sometimes even ...

A.   22 February 2007: Truthfully I imagine the answer lies in your own sacred history. Males in your life and family maybe? A competitive brother or friend or an overbearing father? Perhaps you are experiencing an understanding of what women go through in the work for... (read in full...)

What do men prefer? Bushy, normal or shaven?

Q.   I just wanted to know what guys prefer on womens private part, Bushy, normal or shaven? Girls answer 2 if ya like, thanks!...

A.   21 February 2007: You need to do what makes YOU feel good. I personally think shaven is odd. Psychologically it is trying to make women and men look like children - isn't that just a little strange that people find children's genitals sexy? There are all sorts of... (read in full...)

I would love children in the future but my boyfriend is soooooo against it, should I move on or hope he changes his mind?

Q.   I'm a 25 year old student living in Canada's capital, just about to graduate college and start my placement. I have been in a relationship for 3 years, things are a tad complicated...especially when it comes to what we want in our future. My ...

A.   21 February 2007: A tough question. Sorry you are going through this. From my expierience when a man says he doesn't want children, he means it. Some women manipulate men into kids, but I don't think that is very honest or a good start to begin a family. I th... (read in full...)

I have been married 18 years, he cheated on me and is not on internet dating sites... what should I do?

Q.   i have been married for 18 years thinking we were fine until he cheated on me 7 years ago said just kissed a girl now we're in middle of leaving each other we fight all the time because he said he wants me to trust him but then i find out he is on ...

A.   21 February 2007: leave him... (read in full...)

What can I do to get my husband help for his allergies and panic attacks?

Q.   My husband is having axiety attacks or something. Hes been breaking out in hives from head to to on and off for over 6 months. The doctor gave him some allegra and said he was alergic to something but we cant figure out what it could be. He ha...

A.   20 February 2007: go see a natropath - they will help you... (read in full...)

I think my wife is suffering from some sort of imbalance of late? Can anyone relate to this and give me some advice?

Q.   Ok folks heres a doozy, I am looking for women preferably who may have suffered an imbalance after pregnancy. but the story is; My wife is acting very erraticly of late, she throws things at me and the kids and she has started hitting, we are ...

A.   20 February 2007: Oh how sad. I am so sorry for your chaos. No one can diagnose your wife but a physician but she sounds like she may be experiencing bi-polar or possibly more extreme issues. Often times it is hormonial and can be soothed with help from a ... (read in full...)

Should I let him decide or try to persuade him to go against his parent's wishes?

Q.   I am feeling very lonely and depressed in a foreign country where I am in unhappy marriage to foreign national. Last year my childhood sweetheart contacted me wanting to know how things are with me. I have been in touch with him and I think I am ...

A.   20 February 2007: I think the first thing is that you get out of your marriage. If you are unhappy with this guy, move on. Secondly, you don't need a knight in shinning armor to give you an excuse to divorce. You wont know if your old boyfriend is a good match un... (read in full...)

Is he being totally honest with me or should I be worried?

Q.   I met this guy 1.5 years ago, he was on a dating site and we wrote to each other. He is very well off and has his own buisness. We ended up living together after only 4 months of getting to know each other. (which is very unsual for me to do this) I ...

A.   20 February 2007: I think you are lying to yourself. If he does care about you, then he is a terrible boyfriend. But I suspect that he has moved on and is too weak to tell you. As far as it seems, you don't have a relationship - he is your landlord. Sorry b... (read in full...)

How do I give my experienced guy one he will never forget??

Q.   Ok here's the deal I'm 18 and goin out with a guy that's a bit older than me. Thing is he has had loadsa experience with gals but I ain't had that much experience with guys. He gave me manual the other night and I climaxed but when I rubbed him he ...

A.   20 February 2007: Get a different boy friend. I have been in your shoes. And in a few years when you look back you will regret giving yourself up to a guy who is a bit of a tramp AND you will regret not waiting for a guy who is your equal. You may even feel used. ... (read in full...)

In love with my best mates brother!!

Q.   Heyah This is weird but Im in love with my best mates brother! He is dead cute and sexy But the problem is that Im 13 and Hes 9! Its Sick . I know but I cant help it. I have a Boyfriend Already but When i go to my mates House , I cant help but flirt ...

A.   20 February 2007: OKay, well... you aren't "in love" your 13! And he isn't sexy, he is 9! What you have is a crush. Which is no big deal. The thing I dont get these days is how serious young teens are getting with relationships. 13 is an age where you should be pl... (read in full...)

Is my friend trying to ruin my happiness again??

Q.   Just over a month ago now I started dating this guy who my friend set me up with. The guy is from her work. Anyway we we went out a fair few times. And then not last week, the week before we had planned to go out to dinner but he cancelled that day ...

A.   20 February 2007: Your friend may have something to do with it but this guy sounds like a lurp. If he is that easily persuaded by a third party then he isn't trust worthy. I would move on. You can ask your friend about it, but it may cause a fight. Best thin... (read in full...)

My fiancee was caught kissing and cuddling another women!!

Q.   Hi Dear, My fiancee was caught with another woman cuddling and kissing each other by my friend and her husband in a night club,she alerted me immediately and when i confronted him he denied and decided to stop communicating with me.He only called m...

A.   20 February 2007: He isn't your fiancee anymore. Dump him. You deserve to be treated with respect and honesty. His reaction is incredibly childish and it amazes me that he is 10 years your senior. Words of advice. Don't get engaged after only dating for a ... (read in full...)

So, girls--is anal sex pleasurable for the female? Is there a lot of pain?

Q.   So, um, anal sex any fun? I am considering having anal sex with my boyfriend sometime in future, depending on whether or not he can get me drunk enough to do it. I'd like to know if the female experiences any pleasure - I've heard tha...

A.   20 February 2007: Get a new boyfriend if he is pushing for anal sex. How insulting. If it is something you genuinly want to do then that is one thing, but it sounds like you are going to use your body, painful or not, to solely get him off. Its fun to try new t... (read in full...)

I have acted like an idiot, should I text him back and tell him I'm sorry?

Q.   Hi, I wonder if you might give me some advice as Ive acted really foolishly over a guy and feel so bad about it. In December I had a one night fling with a married friend of mine who Ive known for a long time. We both knew it was wrong and afterw...

A.   20 February 2007: I don't mean to be an ass... but... Have you put yourself in his shoes or his wifes shoes for one minute? You are too old for this crap. (i'm 31) What it sounds like is that you have been acting like a stalker. I know the affair trigg... (read in full...)

Today, I threw up... is this a sign of pregnancy? Could I be pregnant?!!???$!

Q.   My boyfriend and i were fooling around the other day and i made him cum, a few hours later we had protected sex (used a condom) it did NOT break and everything was fine, he didnt cum inside of me. Its now 4 days later and i just got my period this ...

A.   20 February 2007: No, you are not pregnant. But I recommend you get on the pill ASAP. I am 31 and have had bad cramps and PMS since I began to menstruate. The pill will help the pain and protect you from pregnancy. BUT still use a condom - the pill doesn't pro... (read in full...)

Is his moodiness a way of pushing me away?

Q.   I am glad this site is around and I appreciate any answers to my questions. I am in the beginning stages of a friendship which I hope may lead to more. The problems seem to be happening with the email part of the relationship. The man involved ...

A.   20 February 2007: I recommend moving on. You deserve to be with someone who has a handle on thier moods and who is responsible for how they make you feel. He is probably wonderful, but he may be up and down... I say, seek balance. ... (read in full...)

I've been with my girlfriend 2 years now and she's scared to have penetrative sex with me in case it hurts, any advice would be truly appreciated.

Q.   My girlfriend and I have been dating for over 2 and a half years now. We've had our highs and lows, but we have a really strong connection, and I do love her and I know she loves me. However, one issue I think it starting to put us at a distance. We ...

A.   20 February 2007: Interesting. I applaud you for being such a great guy! I think you should go seek a doctors help. If you are in the states, Planned Parenthood is fantastic. Her fears need to be soothed and will likely be soothed by the calming wise words of other... (read in full...)

My jealousy drove him away, how can I get him back?

Q.   I was seeing someone up until recently...when we were together, it was completely amazing, and we both agreed that we had this brilliant connection. Id had bad relationship experiences in the past, being led up the garden path and such, and I knew ...

A.   20 February 2007: I recommend taking a few steps back and reflecting. Jealousy is dangerous and very unattractive. I would give him a break. Don't bug him. You are reaching out to him to affirm that you are okay. YOU need to affirm that you are okay. You can never, e... (read in full...)

My gf says that she has not felt pleasure when we've had sex. What can I do?

Q.   what do you do if your gf says that she has not felt plesure when your having sex everytime but the one time you did it in my truck i really could use some help because i dont want are relationship to end because i am not able to plesure her beside ...

A.   20 February 2007: The majority of women on the planet do not have an orgasam from sex. It is a sad fact and one many men refuse to realize. Don't freak out. If she enjoys you, then you are ok. Women are not like men, we don't need to "get off" to feel satisfied. All ... (read in full...)

Does my teacher fancy me?

Q.   Hey, I need help! My teacher is a bit older than I am and I need to know if he likes me or not. He always talks to me and I usually talk to him, but if I don't he asks me why I'm not talking to him. He comes out to my locker to talk to me and alwa...

A.   20 February 2007: I don't mean to be weird here but it is inappropriate for a teacher to "fancy" anyone under 18. I know it sounds cool, but the outcome of such a fantasy is very ugly. If you think he fancies you, there is something wrong with him. If you fancy h... (read in full...)

He considers us friends but he won't take it up a notch! What can I do?

Q.   I have been seeing this man for over 8 months now, and he still considers us friends, and yet we spend every weekend together, and it is great. Communication 98%, intimate encounters 2%. What do you think is the reason he doesn't take this ...

A.   20 February 2007: He has reservations. Probably nothing to do with you. But you may end up being disappointed with this guy. Good luck... (read in full...)

How can I move on here? I still like my boyfriend and can't seem to move on with my life.

Q.   hi again everyone! as i just mentioned before that i just broked up with my bf over a year it did taked time to forget abut him and i did!! but again he is back to my heart!!!!!i dont know why and how come??!! i got feelings for him and i got ...

A.   20 February 2007: When we can't forget about someone it is usually because there is still some level of unresolved feelings and issues about the relationship. It is more often than not, that people are unable to go to the source to work on resolution. I think you are ... (read in full...)

He's telling me now he wants us both! I love this man and don't know what to do.

Q.   Hi, I have been seeing a man for 3 yrs now that has an ex wife of 20 yrs 3 grown children and we are all in our 40's since we starting seeing each other the ex wife in which whom divorced my partner 5 yrs ago has been battling against me for 2 1/2 ...

A.   20 February 2007: Any time you date someone with kids, the ex is part of the package. There is NO way around it and you can never expect to be more important than his kids. I tend to stay away from people with a lot of baggage. The ex wife isn't going anywhere a... (read in full...)

How can I get these other 2 guys out of my head? They don't even like me and I already have a boyfriend!

Q.   My boyfriend told me that if someone loves another person then you don't like anybody else, and i love him but i like his brother and this bisexual guy. i do not want to like his brother or the bi dude... 1)because they have girlfriends 2)i ju...

A.   20 February 2007: First off I would say that I am surprised you are so involved with boys at such a young age. There is so much time for dating as we age, why not have fun with friends while were still kids? Your boyfriend is wrong. Just because you love someone... (read in full...)

Together 32 years, he cheated I left...He doesnt want to be on his own so has'nt left her, but wants me back!!!!

Q.   Please can you help me ! My husband is having an affair. We have been together for 32 years. We have had a very good marraige until the last 12 months when we drifted apart. I left him and he felt that i would not come back so he says that he ...

A.   19 February 2007: I think you should opt for couples and individual counseling. It sounds like you both have some issues to work out - as well as issues as a couple (likely started by personal issues.) Ask him to see a counselor with you. ... (read in full...)

I think I might be pregnant!!!!!

Q.   I think I might be pregnant! I had sex 3 weeks ago, when I had just started my period. After I had sex my period stopped, and I panicked and went to a family planning clinic, but they said I had nothing to worry about as I was on the pill and I had ...

A.   19 February 2007: Take a test. Our bodies are very sensitive. Mine will change 100 times each month. Having sex triggers hormones that are not otherwised released. If this is a first for you, you will likly feel those new hormones more so. I imagine that you aren... (read in full...)

I don't want to be hurt again, should I text him or just leave it?

Q.   Theres a lad I fancy loads and I dont know how he feels for me. I slept with him 6 months ago, just as a one night stand, and every time I have seen him since then we have both been drunk and end up kissing. We get on really well when we see each ...

A.   19 February 2007: Invite him out for tea or something where there is no chance for alcohol. Maybe you wont even like him when you are sober?... (read in full...)

I have a yeast infection and I think I may have passed it on to my boyfriend.

Q.   I had a yeast infection last week right before my period. My boyfriend and I used condoms during my period which came right in the middle of treating my yeast infection. I think at one point we took the condom off though. So last night I was...

A.   19 February 2007: I also recommend having VD tests. It is always better to know for sure that you aren't passing a different type of bateria that needs stronger meds. ... (read in full...)

Sometimes I ejaculate with out actually orgasming at all, is there something wrong with me?

Q.   This problem is becoming increasingly more common and im worried something is wrong with me. Sometimes I ejaculate without orgasiming at all, i dont feel a thing, and im not talking about pre-cum here its full on ejaculation. Im just after some ...

A.   19 February 2007: Normal is relative. I think you should make an appointment with your doctor. I am sure it happens to plenty of people but it is important to make sure there is nothing pysically concerning. Your doctor, as weird as it is to talk about sex with... (read in full...)

Would it matter to a guy if my vagina area was strange?

Q.   basically, there's a guy, and its possible stuff might happen but im sorta worried. like, ive never been past first base before and im worried about my vagina area not being right? like my clits always seem really odd to me, big and sorta shrive...

A.   19 February 2007: Save yourself for a guy who makes you feel beautiful and amazing! If I could do it all over again I would have taken back my power instead of having sex because some guy wanted to. Your vagina is beautiful. Society, porn especially, has totally ... (read in full...)

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