He has a very high sex drive whereas my libido decreased after giving birth - it does not help that there is no foreplay before the actual sex! How to get my sex life back on track?
Q. ive been with my boyfriend two years and our sex life is non existant due to me. It was fine before i got pregnant with my son over a year ago but now im never in the mood and i only do it to stop him bothering me. I love him and prefer cuddles and ...
A. 30 May 2008: Hi,
Even though your baby is just over a year old, it takes time to get your energy back let alone your libido. Your boyfriend obviously needs satisfying, but doesn't want to take time out to arouse you.
At the moment you are giving to your b... (read in full...)
Is romance in a relationship optional??
Q. I wish I had more romance and passion on my relationship. Could a couple last long if there was never romance in it, you know like he actually going after me and trying his hardest to keep me. I think I missed that in my relationship. I want rom...
A. 9 December 2007: Hi,
Noone can ever know for sure whether someone loves us or not, that's why we need some outward show of affection, whether it be words, actions or both to confirm our feelings for each other.
If you're not getting this it could be that:
... (read in full...)
What can I do about my love for my boss??
Q. Hi everyone. Im very depressed and hurting. I am in love with a guy I mostly likely stand no chance with. You see he is one of my bosses at the place where I work. He is a few years older than me and im pretty sure he single. I dont know him well...
A. 9 December 2007: Ok, firstly stop putting yourself down - different people fall for different things. The situation you've got is that you do not know this guy at all personally, even though you say you do. You have never met me outside work so you have a crush on ... (read in full...)
The sex is great but I just cant seem to climax. Is there something wrong with me??
Q. I am a 22 yr old female and have been with my current boyfriend for about three months now; we have known each other for about six though. We have a great relationship that is fun and spontaneous. Our sex life is great and adventerous. My problem ...
A. 9 December 2007: Hi,
You say you have orgasmed before, but you really don't know what it feels like, so you need to know what an orgasm is. Masturbation is the only way you will be able to know for sure. It is extremely pleasurable and is an excellent way of f... (read in full...)
Any useful tips on how we can spend time alone so our first time can be special??
Q. Me and my girl friend are both virgins living at home with our families. We have recently decided we want to have sex but we want to do it properly (in a bed unlike a lot of people or age that are happy to use any old street corner!- using most of ...
A. 9 December 2007: Your letter heading says that you are between 16 and 17 so that's a good start.
If you and your girlfriend know you are ready to start a sexual relationship you must make sure that she is firstly on the pill - do not just rely on a condom (as you ... (read in full...)
Do I risk another year of drama for the chance that she might like me??
Q. I'm a seventeen year old girl, and I consider myself bisexual, even though I've never actually been in a relationship with another girl. Only my closest friends know about my sexuality. I have to tell a little bit of a backstory to get people to ...
A. 9 December 2007: Hi there,
Let's put all of this into perspective. You are a seventeen year old girl who will develop crushes on people you fancy, whether they are boys or girls and whether your bi-sexual or not it is part of growing up. In your case you will... (read in full...)
He won't see our child in a contact centre but I don't want him in my life again.
Q. Me and my ex had a big blow up over 2months ago now, to cut a long story short, i think its important for fathers to have contact with their children, depending on the situation of course. I arranged for my ex to see our child in a contact centre, ...
A. 25 November 2007: I've have been through a similar situation and have come out the other side. The pain and hurt is real because you still have feelings for this person, you are human. 6 months on you are still going to be feeling raw, but this will (i promise you) ... (read in full...)
Do I go for maintenance or not?
Q. Hi every1, im in a bit of a delemma. I was seeing a guy for a few months and i thought everything was fine until his friend told me had a gf in another state. I tried to end it although after a drunken night wed hooked up, it was the last time i s...
A. 20 November 2007: You need to separate yourself from this guy at the moment and concentrate on the baby. When the baby is born, he/she will have the right to the best life you can give them. Maintenance would be a way of getting a bit of financial help from the ... (read in full...)
There is no way to get in touch with him
Q. I went too Canada during the holidays. As we are waiting in the waiting zone i notice this really gorgeous guy. He was looking after his 2 little brothers while his mum and dad went too get food. Although he was gorgeous he looked shy. Which was ...
A. 20 November 2007: Thanks for that. It sounds as if he maybe shy. My friends husband followed her around for months, pretending to bump into her, before he could pluck up the courage to ask her out.
He'll create a chance meeting again and when he does smile, a... (read in full...)
He won't see our child in a contact centre but I don't want him in my life again.
Q. Me and my ex had a big blow up over 2months ago now, to cut a long story short, i think its important for fathers to have contact with their children, depending on the situation of course. I arranged for my ex to see our child in a contact centre, ...
A. 19 November 2007: I agree with Irish49. Also my ex was violent and I found it was another way to intimidate me if he could get me on my own. I'm afraid they don't think of the child as much as we do, so try not to let him get to you. If he doesn't want contact via ... (read in full...)
I worry that he isn't ready.
Q. hi all, This could become a very long story if I let it , so i'll try to keep it short. Basically I'm the girlfriend of a widower (of 4 years) , and the relationship has had many up's and down's over 3 years , including a split for 3 months. ...
A. 19 November 2007: It's not easy feeling an outsider, but it is common when you join a ready made family. He obviously wants you to be around, but it seems to me, he doesn't know quite why.
Your boyfriend needs to sit down and talk to you, you both need to make ... (read in full...)
Is a peck on the lips cheating??
Q. Is it considered cheating if you peck a close friend (of the opposite sex) on the lips, if you have been going out with someone for approximately two months? I am driving myself insane thinking that it is. Anyone I ask thinks I'm being silly! Could ...
A. 19 November 2007: It all depends. You are obviously feel it isn't or you would not be questioning it. I give my husband a peck on the lips when I'm going off for the day, but should he or I give another person of the opposite sex a peck on the lips then yes, neither ... (read in full...)
Should I go to social services??
Q. My brother is 15 years old and my mum has let my cousin and his wife live with them in his room "for a little bit.” for the second time this year. But it is a 3 bed roomed house, my mum in one of the big rooms. My 18-year-old brother in the small ...
A. 19 November 2007: You are obviously very concerned about your brother and I can see it is clearly not an acceptable situation that two grown adults share a room with a 15 year old boy.
If your mother is not listening to you, ask your brother what he thinks a... (read in full...)
He won't see our child in a contact centre but I don't want him in my life again.
Q. Me and my ex had a big blow up over 2months ago now, to cut a long story short, i think its important for fathers to have contact with their children, depending on the situation of course. I arranged for my ex to see our child in a contact centre, ...
A. 19 November 2007: I went through a similar thing myself. My ex was only interested when he had no other girl on the scene. The most important person here is your child.
You are obviously comfortable with meeting at a contact centre, which is on neutral grown. ... (read in full...)
I'm interested in a popular guy, but I'm scared to make a move. Please advise.
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm a 18 year old girl and I have a big crush in this guy, I'm really crazy about him. The problem is he doesn't know me and he is a little bit famous but still grounded. I'm not interested to his popularity, I liked him before he even ...
A. 19 November 2007: Do you tend to hang out at the same place as this person - how do you know him?
xx... (read in full...)
Her parents won't let us
Q. i`m an 18 year old girl who has been thourgh A LOT throughout her life. im diagnosed with borderline(thats something like depression). and now things are getting really hard for me and i dont what to do anymore. when i was 16 i got a crush on my ...
A. 18 November 2007: Your letter suggests you are 18-21, so therefore are an adult and need to make up your own mind in the end. Your parents are of course worried as you have sufferred from depression - but don't pressure yourself or put yourself into a category. It ... (read in full...)
Does he want me to know.
Q. I have just found out that my ex boyfriend as just split up with his girlfriend. I was told by a friend of us both. He told the friend not to tell me. Im wondering do you think he wants me to know he broke up with his grilfriend, because he...
A. 18 November 2007: I agree with Phil, he told his friend not to tell you and didn't think his friend would tell you. Don't read anything into it, there was a reason you broke up in the first place. Another man might just be round the corner!
xx... (read in full...)
I'm stressed and don't know what to do.
Q. im very upset, me and my boyfriend had a small argument about something stupid and the same night he took advantage of it and he went out clubbing with his mates and got drunk and some people told me he was dancing and making out with girls, when we ...
A. 18 November 2007: What you do is dump the guy. He is extremey fickle if he is tempted by others girls at a nightclub because of a little argument. Your letter suggests your are 26-29, you need a man that is grown up and walking the same path as yourself.
Remem... (read in full...)
There is no way to get in touch with him
Q. I went too Canada during the holidays. As we are waiting in the waiting zone i notice this really gorgeous guy. He was looking after his 2 little brothers while his mum and dad went too get food. Although he was gorgeous he looked shy. Which was ...
A. 18 November 2007: You don't say how old this guy is as this could make a big difference. You letter suggest you're 13-15. Is he around your age do you think?... (read in full...)
I drank and had stomach problems.
Q. Help please yesterday i was drinking too much and i was sick 3 times. 2 of the times was normal sick but the last time i was sick it didnt look normal it looked like just liquid stuff but strong like acid it didnt have the normal sick stuff in it. ...
A. 18 November 2007: The acid stuff that you would have brought up would have been bile. It should be clear or slightly green, but should not have any blood. If you experience stomache cramps, I would suggest you visit your doctor.
I would however reccomme... (read in full...)
I'm in a long distant relationship and would have to move for it to work, what should i do?
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship, been a year now. He is seperated but not divorced yet and states he has no plans in the near future to get one as he will have to pay full child supports. I have a career (a really good one). He says he will ...
A. 26 August 2007: I agree, this doesn't sound like a healthy relationship and you would be giving up so much. There are good dating services these days that are monitored and legislated, like Avenue. Why not try this? A couple of my friends have met their current ... (read in full...)
Ive got stretch marks near my belly button. How can i get rid of them?
Q. dear cupid i would like to know do all fat people get stretch marks, and why are stretch marks growing next to my belly button and is their any way to get rid of them? plzz can you give me advice on if all fat people get them and why they are...
A. 26 August 2007: Stretch marks can develop on any skin type, on people of all shapes and sizes. Some people are blessed with skin that holds more moisture, making their skin more elastic - others aren't blessed in this way, so we have to add moisture to our skin. ... (read in full...)
Ive got a boyfriend but i like this other guy, what shall i do??
Q. Ok well i have a boyfriend and everything i really like him of course but the guy i've liked for a long time just told me he really really likes me.He asked me out when i was already going out with someone i told him that i couldnt because i had a ...
A. 26 August 2007: I can see your dilemma. As you are young, they could both be your friends - it's never a good idea to just have one friend that's a boy when you are so young. You should have a few friends, boys and girls that you hang around with, go out with and ... (read in full...)
The guy ive been flirting with has gone a bit cold, what happened?
Q. I've been flirting with a guy i like and i think he's been fliring back, well anways he's shy and i'm shy but a few weeks ago he had asked me to see a movie with him at his place then asked my roommates (his brother and wife, my friends) to see it ...
A. 26 August 2007: A Relationship is the hardest to understand. You have said that he is shy so maybe he finds it difficult to talk to you now because you are becoming more that just friends. It's not just a harmless flirt that could lead somewhere now, the flirts ... (read in full...)
She feels great shame for her past and I just want her to love herself! What can I do?
Q. hi, ive posted before about an issue with this girl. i love her so much and its really upsetting me now. long story short we were first loves, she cheated on me pretty bad, it hurt [still kinda does]and recently admitted how we felt for one anot...
A. 11 August 2007: She probably does love you, but maybe she needs someone who is stronger and more sure of themselves. She is probably not feeling in control of what she is doing at the moment and may feel that she will hurt you deeply (as she is doing now), beca... (read in full...)
I can't afford to leave my partner. We rent a place together but he is never there and when he is there we argue.
Q. Hi Everyone, please help me. I can't afford to leave my partner. We rent a place together but he is never there and when he is there we argue. I can't stand it anymore, I have no family or friends to turn to. I don't wanna be with him anymore but I ...
A. 10 August 2007: There are a couple of things you could do:
Look in your local paper for flat shares - there are often other girls in your position that want to share a flat or house with other girls.
The council or local housing association might be able to... (read in full...)
I was raped when I was 7, I'm now 12 and it's ruining my life.
Q. Okay this is how it is: I was raped when I was 7, I'm now 12 and you see it's ruining my life because the thing is I have nightmares about that time all the time so I stay up all night... then I'm late for school and don't concentrate properly...
A. 10 August 2007: It was an awful thing to have happened to you at such a young and impressional age. I'm talking from a position of a survivor of rape also at a young age and would like to say to you that you can survive this and become a more loving, giving and ... (read in full...)
Should I try to sort all this out or just leave it?
Q. I started going out with my girlfriend at the start of this year, and just recently broke up with her about 3 weeks ago. We were good friends before we started going out, maybe for about 5 years, and we all share the same group of friends. I was ...
A. 10 August 2007: Yes, heart ache feels awful, but don't ever stop loving. After years of heart ache, I met my perfect match and we've now been married 11 years!
So don't give up on love.
Best wishes.... (read in full...)
I don't want him to think I'm easy but he is very fit. Wot do I do????
Q. I still realy like my ex but he is with someone else. We were together for a couple of months but I really liked him. He cheated on me with a girl, I would have still forgiven him but he ended it with me to be with her. A couple of months later ...
A. 10 August 2007: It seems to me he's using the fact that he's fit to move from one girlfriend to the next and then back again. I would suggest you try and keep away from him an find yourself another boyfriend more deserving of your affections. Good luck.... (read in full...)
I'm 17 and he's 32 and I'm very afraid of hurting cos even though it all sounds fine it's still on internet and he may be "fake" even though I dont think so.
Q. I met a guy on internet just for cybering about a year ago, then I didn't enter for about 10 months, after 10 months I started to enter and blocked all the people except for one in particular. Anyway we started to chat not only cybering, I mean ...
A. 10 August 2007: As long as you don't meet him by yourself at first - meet him with a friend or family member that will be with you at all times. And as Dr Pete said, STAY SAFE. Can I just ask, why have you decided to date over the internet and not with a local... (read in full...)
She feels great shame for her past and I just want her to love herself! What can I do?
Q. hi, ive posted before about an issue with this girl. i love her so much and its really upsetting me now. long story short we were first loves, she cheated on me pretty bad, it hurt [still kinda does]and recently admitted how we felt for one anot...
A. 10 August 2007: It seems to me that although you might be good for her, she is not good for you. She has a lot of healing to - it took me 5 years to get over my abusive husband. People can go one of two ways, either live life to the full regardless of wh... (read in full...)
Should I try to sort all this out or just leave it?
Q. I started going out with my girlfriend at the start of this year, and just recently broke up with her about 3 weeks ago. We were good friends before we started going out, maybe for about 5 years, and we all share the same group of friends. I was ...
A. 10 August 2007: It's always so sad when a beautiful friendship turns into a sour failed relationship. It must have been hard for you both being apart for extended time so that when you did get together it was probably only sex on the adjenda! Your friendship ... (read in full...)
I'm 17 and he's 32 and I'm very afraid of hurting cos even though it all sounds fine it's still on internet and he may be "fake" even though I dont think so.
Q. I met a guy on internet just for cybering about a year ago, then I didn't enter for about 10 months, after 10 months I started to enter and blocked all the people except for one in particular. Anyway we started to chat not only cybering, I mean ...
A. 10 August 2007: You have just hit the nail on the head - he may be fake, but you don't think so - because you don't really know him. What do you know about him? The age gap of 15 years is a big one when you are only 17. It is impossible to know you love someone... (read in full...)
My friend and I are fighting..all due to this guy I like! Any advice?
Q. What am i goin to do? I like this guy but he likes my friend and my friend likes my crush`s friend and he knows That i like him and at the past he told me that someday he and i will be together and i thought that he is falling for me but i am wrong...
A. 10 August 2007: Firstly, boys are quite confusing at times, aren't they!
Secondly, you must not fall out with your friend over what this boy thinks he might or might not want. Boys will come and go, but good friends are hard to find.
Ask this guy why he ... (read in full...)
I have strong feelings for a cousin of mine. How do I deal with this?
Q. hey okay well iv always had a really big family on my dads side, with 100s of cousins etc. me and 4 of my cousins were always really close as we spent most of our life growing up at my nans together. Being the youngest out of us they always looked o...
A. 10 August 2007: Hi,
When you say you have strong feelings for your cousin are you talking about sexual feelings or feelings of love? Because if you just really love your cousin then I think this is normal as you all grew up together and you are like brother ... (read in full...)
We split up and we are friends now but...will I get over this guy?
Q. hello i need some advice. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years and he finished it with me on sunday. he said he still loves me as a person but wants to be single. im gutted...i feel so crap and cant stop thinking about him. Fair ...
A. 10 August 2007: It's always hard to deal with a break up, especially when it comes as a total surprise.
Has he told you why he wants to be single? If he hasn't you must respect his wishes.
When I broke up with a partner, I felt that he had left a huge hole... (read in full...)
If muscle weighs more than fat...then how am I to loose actual weight?
Q. i want to loose weight and im on a dieting site but its best to exercise aswell whilst eating better foods but then i will develop more muscle and muscle weighs more than fat and i have a goal to reach but by doing exercises muscle will develop and ...
A. 10 August 2007: Hi, Your muscle tissue will not be an issue once you have lost the weight as there is no huge difference. If we look at it the other way round. Once a person starts to gain weight, they do not gain muscle they are putting on more and more fat... (read in full...)
Whenever I see him, I feel sick with nerves, and I feel sick when I hear the mention of his name and even when I see him in person or even think of him, is this normal?
Q. Hi I've just recently met a guy I like a lot. The trouble is, whenever I see him, I feel sick with nerves, and I feel sick when I hear the mention of his name and even when I see him in person or even think of him, is this normal? I keep wretchin...
A. 7 August 2007: You are love sick! How lovely. It's the most wonderful feeling, but awful at the same time. The anxiety, the nerves, your heart pounding - Wow. Yes, it is normal - I felt the same way when I first met my husband. And I couldn't sleep. I looked a ... (read in full...)
I feel like a stuck record about this but it's really bugging me...
Q. Hi I feel like a stuck record about this but it's really bugging me! I split with someone just over a month ago. Was a year long nightmare relationship. All is good, I can't stand the bloke. He rang Friday night trying to explain things 'cuz he l...
A. 7 August 2007: You need to sit down and talk to your kids, you're their mother and they will take what you say to them. Tell them that you and this fella have broken up and what you want them to do should he ever text them or talk to them. To stop yourself fr... (read in full...)
Everytime I have sex with my boyfriend and to the bathroom afterward, I have really painfully burning when I urinate
Q. Lately, almost everytime I have sex with my boyfriend and to the bathroom afterward, I have really painfully burning when I urinate. The sex itself isn't painful. I do/I have trouble getting lubricated, but we usually take it really slow star...
A. 7 August 2007: It sounds like you might have an infection and should book an appointment with your doctor tomorrow. They will give you ointment or pessaries that will soon clear it up if this is the case.... (read in full...)
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