My girlfriend just broke up with me shall I wait or let her go?
Q. My girlfriend just broke up with me 4 days ago. I didn't realize that we'll end up like this because I thought that everything is flowing smoothly. We've been together for almost 1 and half years now and she told me that she still have feeling ...
A. 11 April 2008: Wow that's hard. She was pretty clear with you though, which is good. I'd say she definitely wants to be alone. So for the time being, you may just want to leave her alone, and find new ways of spending your extra time.
To be honest, I can't ... (read in full...)
I'm single and he's married, is it possible to be 'just friends'?
Q. Can a man and woman be friends? He is married, I am single. We were friends in college, ran into one another, and I am not sure if a friendship is appropriate. I feel I can be friends without complication, but can a man? Do they seek friendship f...
A. 30 March 2008: I think some guys are wired that way and others are not. I think most married guys mean well going into a friendship type relationship, but obviously that's not how things always turn out. I think as a guy matures, it becomes easier and m... (read in full...)
I want to take our relationship to the next level, but don't want to appear cheap!
Q. My boyfriend and i have been going out for two months now and all we've done is kiss. I really want to take it to the next level, but in every other relationship i've been in, it's the guy who's taken the intiative. How can i suggest to him that i w...
A. 30 March 2008: You are pretty young. Maybe he's never done anything more serious than kissing!! I just hope you are closer to the 16 end in your age bucket.
Anyway, one trick that usually works, is that you could try giving each other massages. The basic tr... (read in full...)
We're in love but live too far apart!!
Q. I'm in love with a guy who's far away!! I know he loves me and i love him, that's not the problem, but he's not going to move back here, and i dont think im going to move there anytime soon really. No one has, or ever will come close to him in my m...
A. 30 March 2008: Every relationship requires that time is put into it. Well, here's the possibilities of things you can do with each other: 1. write real letters 2. talk on the phone 3. visit 4. take a vacation 5. play an online game (e.g. scrabul... (read in full...)
She is my soul mate, lover, best friend, wife, and mother of my children. All she wants to do is party!!!
Q. My wife of almost 8 years left me for partying, and to "miss me" so she can fall in love again, from what she said. I know she is just out partying. This wouldn't be as big a deal, but we have 10 years together, 8 of which is marriage, and 3 chil...
A. 30 March 2008: She's bored of being in a marriage, and wants to party while she's still young. Clearly she didn't think that was possible while being married. This is hard, very hard. She's clearly turned off the channel, as you have said. Just try ... (read in full...)
Any original non-corny suggestions that I can text to show my love to my guy?
Q. I have the most adorable boyfriend any one in the world has ever had !!! I LOVE him soooooo much !!!! I've told him I love him many times but saying I love you just isn't enough !!! I text him alot and I wanna text him some stuff that lets him know...
A. 30 March 2008: Hehe.. You could text something really hardcore like..
"your mischievous smile sets my heart on fire"
"your breath next to mine, makes time still"
I'd just recommend you read a lot of love poetry, and then the loving-yet-clever words ... (read in full...)
How come I don't want sex as much any more? Is there something wrong with me?
Q. My boyfriend thinks that I am cheating on him because I don't want sex. We've had sex before and are engaged to get married sometime next year. For the past month I haven't felt the want to have sex with him. Now he thinks that I am getting it ...
A. 30 March 2008: The reason he thinks that is because cheating (emotional or sexual) is a very common reason for why people stop having sex.
On the other hand there's other common reasons, like decreased intimacy or stress.
The way to convince him is ... (read in full...)
He swears he didn't rape her, do I believe him...?
Q. a friend of mine has recently been summoned to court because a girl is pressing rape charges against him. supposedly he raped her at a party a few weeks ago, I was at the party and I don't remember seeing anything but he swears to god that he didn't ...
A. 30 March 2008: I disagree with the other aunt's opinions. The verdict is irrelevant. Though "innocent until proven guilty" is true, "friends until proven guilty" does not necessarily follow.
If you don't want to be his friend and/or move out, do it! IT's *yo... (read in full...)
We love each other, but I don't know if it's a good idea to be with someone who has these different views towards life.
Q. Hello, I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year and in October I moved in with him. At first things were good. We were both spiritual and wanted to find a church together. Since moving here, I found a church and he has decided to give up ...
A. 30 March 2008: Yikes, sounds like a different person than the one you met! It must drive you mad that he won't even discuss these changes with you.
You've moved from another place into his home. If you think about it he has you in a vulnerable spot. I... (read in full...)
I want more than this friend with benefits, should I break it up?
Q. K so, I'm with a girl atm, well, we arn't dating or anything, we're more like friends with benefits. Anyways, we talk for a couple hours a day on the phone, we get along great, and I was planning on asking her out, but as it turns out she's got ...
A. 29 March 2008: Yeah, if she's lying to you, that's annoying. Here you are trying to be clear and she's lying. Definitely annoying.... (read in full...)
I'm scared I will lose my boyfriend because of my small breasts-help!
Q. I'm 17 and I have A cup breasts, and I'm worried my boyfriend thinks my body's ugly. He has said that he doesn't need me to have bigger breasts because he enjoys my legs and butt more. I think he's lying just to make me feel better. I'm scared that ...
A. 28 March 2008: Chances are he is being honest. Some guys are ass men and others are breast men. Sounds like this guy is open to both.... (read in full...)
I want more than this friend with benefits, should I break it up?
Q. K so, I'm with a girl atm, well, we arn't dating or anything, we're more like friends with benefits. Anyways, we talk for a couple hours a day on the phone, we get along great, and I was planning on asking her out, but as it turns out she's got ...
A. 28 March 2008: Peters' advice is good. It's like taking a car from 5th gear and moving it into 1st. You might even consider having an honest conversation with her, just to be clear about where you stand. There's no reason not to be cordial with her.... (read in full...)
I'm so disgusted with myself I didnt mean to kiss this other guy
Q. Please help: Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for nearly three years now and love him so much. It's marriage for sure. He's the most geniune guy I know and would never do anything or cheat on me. Hes not the type. Neither am I, but was out with my ...
A. 28 March 2008: If you tell him, the important thing is how you tell him, how well prepared you are, where you are, etc. Be mindful of him and his feelings. Obviously he's going to be really upset, so be prepared for it, and apologize and let him know how you ... (read in full...)
Is it fair I give up ballroom dancing because my boyfriend doesn't want me dancing with other guys?
Q. My boyfriend has a problem with me dancing with another man. Do you think it's fair? Background info: I used to take ballroom dancing with my gay friend. After I dated my boyfriend, I have stopped. He doesn't like me dancing with another men beca...
A. 28 March 2008: Anon, did really put it well. One thing I noticed..
"he said he would learn if I really want to go dancing"
Clearly, you do, or you wouldn't be doing it! Whenever guy's put "really" in a sentence it just means it's a hassle and they'll only... (read in full...)
My boyfriend dragged me in the house and forced me to have sex. I don't want him to get in trouble & I'm only 16!
Q. Is it considered rape if it was your boyfriend? A few days ago I was at my bf's house and we started having an argument, mostly because I wanted to wait until I felt comfortable enough to have sex and he was getting annoyed with me. Well I walked o...
A. 27 March 2008: Yes, it's called date rape. That completely sucks. If you don't deal with this appropriately, it will likely haunt you for a long time to come.
You need to do what is best for you. You are probably in emotional trauma or shock right now, som... (read in full...)
Why keep begging me to come see you if we're not going to have sex?
Q. My Ex-girlfriend wants me to drive 3 hours and come spend the weekend with her so we can "hang out and have fun". I just got off the phone with her and she says she doesn't want to have sex and that I can have her bed. The whole not have sex thing ...
A. 27 March 2008: Yeah sounds pretty boring. Maybe she just wants to be friends with you. Why doesn't she come see you instead?
Why don't you guys turn off the tv and talk if you enjoy talking. You could be upfront with her about that too, that you want to ... (read in full...)
Will having sex before marriage kill what we have?
Q. Ok, this may sound weird, I would like to hold off from having sex with my girlfriend till marriage... ok, thats easy right, ill make it trickier, weve been having sex for 9 months. Lets make this even more interesting, were confessed Christians and ...
A. 27 March 2008: You and your gf have changing and divergent views on sex, which are being questioned and judged by others in your community.
I recommend you determine what causes you to think this situation is "weird." I don't think it's weird at all. It's imp... (read in full...)
Are these signs of immaturity that he'll grow out of?
Q. I've been dating a 6 years younger guy. He is 25, a typical American cool guy who's life is about gym and clubbing on the weekends, very social, fun to hang out with but sometimes annoyingly immature! He is a good looking guy with a nice bod...
A. 27 March 2008: Ugh. This guy sounds annoying.
There's nothing for him to grow out of per se. This guy just wants to f**ck with you, basically. Sounds like he's in dire need of some guy friends to act immature with.
Its only been six weeks, but give it some... (read in full...)
Feeling the pressure of a steady relationship. What can I do and how can I break up with him?
Q. Ok im 17 and have been with my boyfriend for 2 years, we regulary have great sex and i love him.. however im starting to feel the pressure of going steady for so long! its like when im with him everythings graet but when im not with him i have my ...
A. 27 March 2008: Breaking up isn't easy, but it's doable. It's like taking a car from 5th gear and bringing it to a stop. You don't want to just slam on the breaks, you need to take your foot off the gas, apply the break, and down shift before you can come safely ... (read in full...)
Need to tell him I'm not sure if I want to sleep with him without hurting his feelings...
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a while now, We've been on and off since I started at this school. Its been sorta Y'know. 'I cant come. I'm really sorry but I cant I'm extremely swamped' and it was true I know we had the same classes. [Thats ...
A. 27 March 2008: It's plain.
Just say to him, "[SensitiveGuy's Name], I understand that you want to do X-sex, Y-sex, or Z-sex, but I am not ready to have any kind of sex with you. I'm old-fashioned, and sex is a really big deal for me. It may take some time bef... (read in full...)
I recently found out she had a threesome last week with her best friend and a local DJ.
Q. Hello Cupid, There's this girl I really like. We have a strong internet friendship and have never met. The last few months we've started flirting a lot more, things have become a lot more serious and we talked about being together. She te...
A. 26 March 2008: What do you think? What are you infuriated by? The fact that you haven't told her how you feel, or the fact that she's promiscuous, or both?
Whichever way it is, from what you've said, she hasn't really wronged you in any way.... (read in full...)
Can you becoming pregnant if you swallow?
Q. Can you become pregnant if you swallow cum? I was just wondering. Thank you very much....
A. 26 March 2008: This is a great question!
Though improbable, there exists a small chance which increases based on how much cum you are able to swallow and how frequently. If you swallow more than a litre, the cum will form a naturally protective globule that can... (read in full...)
He told me "dating you would probably never happen"...so what does this really mean?
Q. One time this guy said to me that dating me would probably never happen and i said well i am not going to expect it but if it does well then it does what do you think he meant by saying probably never happen was he thinking that i wouldn't want to ...
A. 26 March 2008: There could be several reasons dating you "won't happen." You pick:
1. He doesn't find you attractive
2. You are not his "type"
3. He is pretending not to be interested (e.g. lying)
4. He's actually a fortune-teller
5. Reason X
Truth... (read in full...)
Is this relationship salvageable?
Q. Okay, so it's kind of a complex situation. My boyfriend (on and off) of more than 5 years and I have decided we want to get married. I have just recently finished college and am currently looking for a decent job. He has just decided he doesn...
A. 15 March 2008: Often I think people see money as having anything to do with relationships, because money has nothing to do with the heart.
I suggest that you guys really need to connect and stop resenting each other.
Separate out all the concepts and pre... (read in full...)
What does his text mean?
Q. i got this text from this boy that i think likes me i donno what it means. "i love you can it be our little secret u dont have a bf right can u come to our beach party fri night i wanna prove it to u love u xxxxx" what does this mean does it mea...
A. 29 February 2008: That's just creepy. If someone wrote me that I would run away. NSA: No String Attached... (read in full...)
Is my mother sleeping with my boyfriend?
Q. I’m a little confused. I have been dating this wonderful guy (Greg) for 9 months now. He is 21 I’m 20. I live with my mother and my younger sister ( our father left when we were little – so it’s just us girls). My mother loves my boyfriend to bits ...
A. 29 February 2008: It sounds like your sister is jealous, and is playing games with you. Just relax and trust your feelings. Maybe there is something going on, but it might not be what you expect.... (read in full...)
Where to look for a relationship? I'm 27 and never dated.
Q. Where is a good place to look for a relationship? I'm 27, soon to be 28, and have never dated. I am interested in trying now, but I don't know where to look or even what to do if I do find someone. ...
A. 29 February 2008: Talk to the next attractive woman you see and ask her for her phone number. ... (read in full...)
If I don't have anything interesting to say I remain silent; he says our stretches of silence make him uncomfortable!
Q. I'm in a realationship of nine months with a wonderful man who I love but we dont seem to have anything to talk about. All he talks about are cars and I'm just not that interested in them. He's brought up the lack of talking and says that our long ...
A. 29 February 2008: I think he's searching for a connection with you. You might have high standards for speech, which is good. On the other hand, it's kind of depressing to never talk. I'd start by telling stories. Tell him a story about what you did that day. Ask ... (read in full...)
How can I make him understand that this is a pointless argument?
Q. I had a fight with my BF. He gets so upset each time the issue is brought up, but he's the one who brings it up so there's no way for me to stop it. Anyway... I had a friend with benefits when I was 15, and years later, he introduced me to...
A. 29 February 2008: This guy has ego issues. He doesn't appreciate what he has, clearly. ... (read in full...)
My friend's bf is a liar and a cheater, he flirts with me and other girls when she is not around! What can I do?
Q. My friend's boyfriend is a liar and a cheater! She cares about him and is always helping him, even if he says he doesn't need help. Her bf claims to love her, even though he flirts with me and other girls when she's not around. Also, my friend has ...
A. 29 February 2008: This is a classic problem, and can be classified as HARD. Ironically, I have always tried to stay out of my friend's relationships, hoping they would "come to reason" eventually. But, at a certain point, it just starts affecting you, and the qua... (read in full...)
How to let my older friend know how I feel for him without looking foolish?
Q. I am madly in love with a guy who is 12 years older than me. He is Christian and so am I. We wouldn't have sex or even kiss before marriage but I just love being near him how do I let him know how I feel for him without making me look like a fool or ...
A. 29 February 2008: There are three patterns in human behavior that I think are affecting this situation: 1. The more you like someone, the more shy you become around them. 2. People behave conservatively when faced with risk. 3. People need to reconcile oppo... (read in full...)
New relationship, how long should I wait before having sex, I'm 28?
Q. how long should a nice girl wait before getting naked w/ a new boy? i'm 28 and dating again for the first time in years. my ex was the first guy i ever went 'all the way' with, and we'd been dating close to two years before we did (i was 25 when w...
A. 25 February 2008: I would be "weird and ok with other stuff", until I felt I was 100% ready. Just take it slow, and trust your intuition. A good lover will respect your wishes.... (read in full...)
The man I am dating goes to social events and does not invite me, should I suggest him that I'd like to accompany him?
Q. The man i am dating the last year sometimes he goes out to social occasions without telling me to go with him. He usually tells me after, that he went to a social event. Should i tell him that i would like to invite me to these events or not telling ...
A. 25 February 2008: Why is it so important to go to these events? Is it really going to these events, or is it that he's not taking you?
Is your relationship not working out in other ways? I'm guessing this event situation is just the tip of the ice berg.
Sou... (read in full...)
Is it true that men want what they can't have?
Q. is it true that men want what they cant have? I've been told many times that the reason why the guy i used to like started talking to me again is because he found out that someone else is interested in me and im over him.Now he has been trying t...
A. 25 February 2008: A man wants to work to get a woman, not just pick her off a tree. It fulfils his sense of adventure, by obtaining something difficult to get. It's like finding a prized jewel in a lost city. I know, we men, are strange beings.... (read in full...)
I don't trust my boyfriend, its hard financially, but I want another baby, advice please?
Q. Ok so I have a question. Hopefully someone can help. I'm a 24 yr old with a beautiful 3 yr old daughter. Lately I've been eager to have another child eventhough I know I'm definitely not ready. I'm living with my parents due to financial reasons. ...
A. 25 February 2008: Bottom line: Your friend doesn't know what you need. Only you know what you need. This is what you've said: "Lately I've been eager to have another child even though I know I'm definitely not ready." Use your mind. There are powerful mom... (read in full...)
He's big, but he cums too quickly, how can we deal with this?
Q. My boyfriend and I have only been together for alittle over a month and just recently started having sex. My boyfriend has quite a big penis. We have had sex about five times now and each time he ejaculates quite quickly which doesn't give me enough ...
A. 25 February 2008: To start off, yeah I think oral is key here. He should be giving you lots of oral. This needs to be priority #1 for him.
There's some techniques you can both use outlined here:
http://ww... (read in full...)
How to show my teacher that I'm available without settling our friendly relationship? How to tell if he has (supressed, due to regulations) sexual feelings towards me?
Q. I'm 17 (skipped 2 years of school, now a freshman in college), my teacher is 32. We're intellectual equals and he thinks i'm very smart and funny, and in class he singles me out and playfully banters with me in front of the others.. basically,i get ...
A. 25 February 2008: Just ask him out for coffee to discuss some book, or invite him to a hip party. See if you guys have chemistry. Try to get him away from the teacher/student context, into a "person/person" context. If things do get sexual, then it's important to ... (read in full...)
Do I push for sex or respect my girlfriend's wishes?
Q. i want to have sex but my girlfriend doesnt want to until engagement. Should i try to push for sex or just respect her wishes and hope for the best??...
A. 25 February 2008: Bottom line: If a girl wants to wait, she wants to wait! Don't be pushy, ever!
I would suggest talking about sex with her more, and understand her feelings about it.
If you are in a serious relationship, I suggest realizing the level of com... (read in full...)
Should I try to find out what his feelings are to me OR should I just leave him alone??
Q. Ehhhh... I'm COMPLETLY stuck!!! I'm in love with my best friend!!! I don't know if he loves me back but either way I don't know if it would work. His mom hates ne and doesn't want me to hang out with me because she thinks I"m the reason he's sad ...
A. 18 February 2008: Yeah, try to find out what's going on. Sounds like you need closure. Just watch out and if this guy's a jerk realize that he's dumb and move on!... (read in full...)
Should I tell my Mom I lost my virginity?
Q. I recently had sex for the first time but i dont know if i should tell my mum or not, i dont want her hatin me for it, what could i do?...
A. 18 February 2008: It's a dilemma. I never trusted my dad to talk to him about something like that, and thought him too foolish. So I wouldn't, but that's just me and my crappy parents. Some people have nice parents. I guess thing you really gotta ask yourself, ... (read in full...)
How do I know if a guy is flirting? And how do I flirt back?
Q. i was wondering if anyone can tell me how i can tell if a guy is flirting with me or not as i'm new to the whole dating scene also what should i do if a guy flirts with me? should i flirt back and if so how do iflirt with him? if it's a guy that i ...
A. 18 February 2008: Send him cute notes, call him, ask to hang out, just keep him thinking about you. Pace things, be confident, and in-control but make him make the first move if possible. This will help boost his ego. If you are only going to meet a guy once ... (read in full...)
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