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After we broke up he started calling me all these names... I'm so hurt!
Q. Ok me and my boyfriend of 2 and a half years broke up. I broke up with him first because he stays in new orleans and I stay in monroe lousisiana and I was tired of being upset by poor communication. I was also interested in other people and I felt ...
A. 6 March 2009: You are hurting because you want him and he doesn't want you any more. he is calling you names and saying hurtful things because he also feels hurt and that is his way of projecting those feeling. he doesn't mean to hurt you per se he is just trying ... (read in full...)
Putting the lust back into the marriage so I don't fantasize about other women
Q. Before we got married I was always attracted to my wife and would often fantasize about her. We never managed to have a very successful sex life primarily because my mind would always wander and I wasn't therefore able to achieve orgasm. Then...
A. 5 March 2009: sounds like you are fantasizing about these different women during sex with your wife because you possibly crave variety and perhaps the thought of having sex with someone you shouldn't makes you feel like you are being bad......therefore excites ... (read in full...)
Why can I not rise to the occasion?
Q. I am 23 years old and I was sexually active kind of a year ago. Recently I hooked up with a lady but I simply can't rise to occasion as much as I try and by any chance it wouldn't last to the extent of penetration. What is wrong with me?...
A. 4 March 2009: were you tired? stressed? not overly turned on by her? uncertain about what you were about to do? were you afraid you would not perform up to her expectations?... (read in full...)
Even though we live together, he's still married. Will he ever be free?
Q. Okay, I have an issue and I hope that someone can give me a little insight on how to handle the situation without being judgmental, brutal, and malicious. I dated a young man when I was fifteen for almost 2 years so there is a little history. ...
A. 3 March 2009: You need to sit down with him and casually ask him what his plans are regarding the other woman/ does he still love her/ does he still hold hopes that one day they can get back together/ if no then is he planning to close the chapter by getting a ... (read in full...)
Being used just for sex?
Q. My boyfriend wants me to have sex with him came to me a condom and ready to go amd i said no because i'm a virgin now he said next week he want's me to suck his penis.but he want's he's friend there to.is he using me just for sex?should i do it?...
A. 2 March 2009: you should never do anything you don't absolutely WANT TO DO. don't do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. just because he is your boyfriend doesn't give him the right to demand sex or sexual favors from you. if he loves you he will respect ... (read in full...)
Sick or pregnant?
Q. ok so here is the story. 4 days ago me and my g/f made love and i had a brand new comdoms on and it had no leak and it didn't break either but she's now worried that she's pregnant becuase i came inside her with the condom on and had no leakage a...
A. 1 March 2009: sounds like she is sick. with pregnancy you get morning sickness not all day sickness and certainly not fever. she needs to see a doctor because it sounds like she is very sick. i wouldn't worry about her being pregnant if you guys used a condomand ... (read in full...)
How can I get over always thinking he wants to be with her??
Q. My boyfriend cheated on me with his ex last year while i was heavily pregnant with our 2nd son, and even though i hated him at the time i took him back. Now our son is 4 months old, and our first born is 2, and my boyfriend wants us to start ha...
A. 27 February 2009: If he really wanted to be with her and not you he would and at the very least he would make excuses to go out all the time (to be with her)and he would not be asking you for sex all the time. you 2 need to sit down and really talk about this problem ... (read in full...)
How do 40-45 year old men keep up with much younger women in sex?
Q. If man's sex drive drops after 40-45, than how can they keep up with 20 years younger girls? Is this because their old wife does not turn them on , but the fresh young woman does? Is this an ago thing, or ist biological? I keep hearing about gu...
A. 24 February 2009: they either work out lots and are super great shape or they cant keep and get dumped or they die trying(no pun intended)... (read in full...)
Why would my friends think that I will end up pregnant before collage and how to prove them wrong?
Q. im confused. My friends keep saying that i will end up pregnant before i enter collage. Im in marching band like all of my friends i play the flute(we don't have over night band camp by the way). My parents aren't the most caring people and they ...
A. 20 February 2009: They dont really think that they are just saying that out of jelousy and because they are mean. they are mean and trying to belittle you because they realize you are better then them. best you can do is smile, ignore them and say thank you when they ... (read in full...)
Advice needed! Do I follow my head or my heart?
Q. My brain is telling me to say "goodbye", but my heart is not onboard. I have been seeing my "boyfriend" for 6 months. We had a rocky start. I had a drunken psycho moment. Then we kinda moved past it. We dont see eachother that often. He tells ...
A. 19 February 2009: Slow down, get to know each other first...........it takestime........why not be friends first and then maybe it can grow into more.We (women)wants relationships because we need security, men are not like that they will commit only when they are ... (read in full...)
Having change of heart about having abortion
Q. I am going to try to make this quick...I am writing because I need advice very soon. My situation is down to the eleventh hour so to speak. I am pregnant and have had a change of heart,I think??? I really think I want to have this baby and know it ...
A. 18 February 2009: PLEASE DONT KILL YOUR CHILD! remember there is also the option of adoption. There is a reason you are having a change of heart, you are meant to have this baby. Start planning now what you will do financially if you can only depend on yourself but ... (read in full...)
Is he using me till something better comes along?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and we are generally happy. The problem is that he has never told me he loves me, he says that he would probably cheat on me if the right opportunatity come along and he wants to marry someone who is from ...
A. 18 February 2009: he is taking the milk cause its free but he is also trying to push you away. he knows you 2 are not right for each other but probably doesn't want to just leave you cause he thinks you are a great girl so he is telling you all this stuff to make it ... (read in full...)
I got fired because I'm pregnant!
Q. I'm 5 mouths pregnant and recently got fired because of it (I was a waiter). My ex-boss always had it out for me since day one said they needed more "skinner" waitress who could got more tips (so he could pay them less). When I told my husband about ...
A. 18 February 2009: your husband is right! you do need to pursue this. there are lawyers who will do pro bono(for free) work if you can't afford to hire one. you need to go after them, you cant let them get away with it or they will think its ok and do it to other ... (read in full...)
Ahhh!! Out damn spots, out I say!
Q. for many years i have had spots not really bad ones just ones that are always there also my whole face if just covered in black heads what is the best thing to do to get rid of them? and what makes spots worse?...
A. 16 February 2009: blackheads are clogged pores. best thing is to clean, tone and moisturize and DO NOT TOUCH YOUR FACE! Make an appointment with a facialist and get a personalized professional opinion. its soo worth it trust me.... (read in full...)
What interests older men about younger girls?
Q. What interests older men about younger girls? I'm not talking about a 40 year old and a 12 year old... I mean, like, a 30 year old and an 18 year old. She's too old to still be too innocent, and isn't that what mean are usually in to? i'm asking ...
A. 16 February 2009: young girls make them feel young again! they enjoy the company and feel youthful themselves around younger girls... (read in full...)
He will only have sex after we are married, what are my options?
Q. I've had sex countless times before with only one guy over the course of two years. This guy is now my ex; has been for over two months now. Anyways, I've been friends-with-benefits with another guy for two days now and earlier today, he told me he ...
A. 15 February 2009: How are you friends with benefits if he wont have premarital sex? you need to respect his wishes and beliefs and either wait or maybe look into getting a toy for yourself online. Dont try to tempt and seduce him, that would be very disrespectful and ... (read in full...)
He will only have sex after we are married, what are my options?
Q. I've had sex countless times before with only one guy over the course of two years. This guy is now my ex; has been for over two months now. Anyways, I've been friends-with-benefits with another guy for two days now and earlier today, he told me he ...
A. 15 February 2009: How are you friends with benefits if he wont have premarital sex? you need to respect his wishes and beliefs and either wait or maybe look into getting a toy for yourself online. Dont try to tempt and seduce him, that would be very disrespectful and ... (read in full...)
How can I talk her into having sex with me again after all these years?
Q. Hi, when I was 9 me and my first cousin who was 11 and a girl, had sex. This lasted for like two years, until my parents broke up and I moved away. Me and her still talk sometimes, but we never talk about what happened back then... but we haven't ...
A. 15 February 2009: SHE IS YOUR EFFFFIN COUSIN! YOU SHARE THE SAME BLOOD ! YOUR PARENT'S SIBLING'S BABY. OH MY GOD!!! ARE YOU SERIOUS?... (read in full...)
Can you get pregnant from the pre-ejaculatory fluid?
Q. Can a woman get pregnant with the male discharge before sperm (pre semen fluid) What if she's 2days after her periods???...
A. 14 February 2009: YES you can! precum does contain very small amounts of sperm so yes you can. spem can live inside the woman i believe for something like 7 days so it depends when you are ovulating......the chances are small as the sperm count in pre cum are very ... (read in full...)
Dumped my married man and now, he hates the sight of me!
Q. I recently broke it off with a married man whom i was seeing for 7 years and we have a 5 yo child. Since now, he can't stand me, he lies to his wife and family saying I'm calling his phone and playing with it up, telling me need to get a man. He ...
A. 14 February 2009: He wanted to keep you around until he was done with you. now he is trying to push you out by lying and competing with you. he obviously feels a responsibility to his daughter but he wants you out. you were there while he needed you now he doesnt and ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and do not want children. Do I abort it or put it up for adoption?
Q. My birthday was two days ago, and for my present I found out that I am pregnant. For many people this would be fabulous news! And I really do want children, however due to finances, we really cannot afford to have a baby just yet. We were using ...
A. 12 February 2009: PLEASE DONT KILL YOUR CHILD! please give him/her up to a good family who cant have children and will take good care of your child. I understand you guys got pregnant by mistake and accidents do happen but there is no need to kill the child who has ... (read in full...)
Everytime we have a big argument, my husband threatens divorce!
Q. I know almost all married couples have arguments and fight occasionally. The thing which bothers me is every time we have a big argument, my husband threatens of divorce. We have a 3 yr old son and have been together for 8 yrs. We are Indians and ...
A. 12 February 2009: he is just saying that to scare you and make you avoid arguments which in turn could mean that he will be able to get away with a lot of bull. next time instead of arguing just remain calm tell him what you dont like and if he "talks back" just walk ... (read in full...)
A moment of weakness...
Q. My husband of 9 years just sat me down the other day, and told me that 6 years ago he had a moment of weakness and with a co workder pulled over in a parking lot and and pulled his pants down, and before anything could happen the cops pulled up and ...
A. 12 February 2009: what a SLUT! what BITCH! who does that to a married man! its her fault i think, of course he was tempted, he is a man, he was curious, sex feels good...yada yada, it's a good thing nothing happen and an even better thing that he regrets it. If he ... (read in full...)
Is it unreasonable to ask my bf to keep his Playboy mags out of my sight?
Q. I sincerely appreciate the response of men to this topic. However, I am always discouraged because it ultimately ends with the conclusion 'it's normal' and/or guys will become addicted no matter what. I really want men to GET what porn CAN say to ...
A. 12 February 2009: Yes its normal to look at porn stuff, online or mags as guys are very visual but yes i think it would be very reasonable for you to ask him to just keep it/them away from you. you are not asking him to stop his little hobby you are just asking him ... (read in full...)
When a guy asks their girlfriend to get on birth control, does this mean he's thinking of something long lasting...?
Q. When a guy asks their girlfriend to get on birth control, does this mean he's thinking of something long lasting...? You know a more serious relationship? Maybe... trust, love, or just wants to feel the 'real thing'? ...
A. 12 February 2009: it means he wants to have sex without a condom and without the worry of pregnancy:)... (read in full...)
Will she forgive me and give me another chance?
Q. Can anyone help... my wife and I recently split up because I was drunk one night and ended up in bed with a man, the thing is I can't remember how I got there. Since we have split up I've told her all the truth, that I have been having these gay ...
A. 11 February 2009: of course there is a chance she will forgive you but do you really think its a good idea that you 2 get back together? why not come out and be who you are supsed to be and just remain friends with your wife. no offence hun but no woman wants to be ... (read in full...)
Fooled around with a married man what do I do?
Q. There's this really cute guy at my work that we flirt with each other a lot. Anyway we made out and did others things at his place. To a very long story short I found out hes married and of course he didn't tell me and I completely regart it. Does ...
A. 11 February 2009: At this point you are not a slut of course. getting pregnant at 17 is besides the point, you were young , you made a mistake,etc, fooling around with a married man is not your fault if you were not aware, now you are. if you continue this ... (read in full...)
Is looking at live nude webcam girls porn or cheating?
Q. I have asked this question before but feel the need to ask one more time. Has any girl out there had her boyfriend look at live nude girls on a video cam? Or are there any guys who watch it? Is it normal and I'm being old-fashioned or is it ...
A. 11 February 2009: I have a close friend who is a male of courseand he said that he chats with hundreds of women and they masturbate for him on camera. i think its sick and gross and shows that the girls dont respect themselves and just want attention from bored ... (read in full...)
WHY did my b/f cheat on me??
Q. hey recently my boyfriend cheated on me and im having a really hard time dealing with it... what keeps playing on my mind is WHY?? i just want to know so i can try to logically understand the concept however when i asked him he said it was just a ...
A. 11 February 2009: Men cheat cause they have a smal attention span and need variety otherwise they get bored. they are very visual and need to have sex while looking at someone else sometimes-its stupid i know. if there is no emotional connection with thia woman then ... (read in full...)
I discovered the man I date does porn for a living! Should I confront him?
Q. I have a really big delma that i can only ask you guys about. Ok, so I've been dating this guy for 5 months and i just learned from searching him up on google, that he does porn for a living. I he's really nice around me and consideret i mean he ...
A. 10 February 2009: first of all, how do you feel about it?
second, next time google them before going on the first date
i had a date with a guy and i googled him before i met him to find out that he gives 'the art ofseduction seminars". i still went out with him out ... (read in full...)
Could someone please tell me what is up with my relationships?
Q. Question: I had 2 flings the past year that i was crazy about. So heres the pattern: 1.They chase hard 2. they get me 3. I fall for them ...eventually it becomes sexual 4. I think of them and want to get a lil serious 5. they get distant...
A. 10 February 2009: they chase you you give in, thats the problem, wait to get to know them better, till there is a solid connection and foundation, then take the next step, wait for them to ask you for an exclusive relationship, you shouldnt ask them, dont be so ... (read in full...)
He got me a $1000.00 gift certificate and I'm planning on divorcing him!
Q. Separated from husband, planning on filing for divorce, just giving him time to adjust to the break up. For V-Day he bought me $1,000.00 gift certificate from a nice jewelry store. I don't know what to do! We've been apart 2 years and I've told ...
A. 10 February 2009: i think you need to return the gift, its the right thing to do. can you go to the store and get a refund and then mail your husband the money with a note thanking him for his intention but that you can not accept it.... (read in full...)
Afraid of making the wrong choice!
Q. Torn between two men and I can't decide. One is patient, kind, buys me lots of nice things and treats me well. But I'm not really attracted to him. He is very quiet, and I don't feel close to him; I don't feel lik I really know him even after many ...
A. 10 February 2009: Dump the exiting one because he will just break your heart, i know the type ive been there done that too, give the nice guy a chance, he will grow on you trust me, start appreciating him for the nice guy that he is. ... (read in full...)
Guy treated me horribly now how do I move on?
Q. How do I get over this guy? Its impossible! Long story short, I met this guy 2 years ago and we started off as friends who developed into more. He told me he liked me, we hung out and texted nonstop, leading me to believe we were headed for a rel...
A. 10 February 2009: Sweetie, youre a bootie call to him, that's it!. keep telling yourself that and make a list of all the things you dislike about him untill you dislike him so much that it will be easy to ignore him. deactivate your fb account or delete him, dont ... (read in full...)
Why does he say he wants to meet up and then never shows up?
Q. So I live with my boyfriend of a few years and we get along pretty well. But he has this thing were he will say or text me to meet for dinner or meet at the supermarket or tell me he will be home for dinner in 15 min.....things like that but then ...
A. 10 February 2009: he's inconsiderate and selfish and trying to send you the message that he does what he wants when he wants. what you can do is when he sais ill be home in 15 min for example, if he's nort there in 30 min, go out or do something else without him, if ... (read in full...)
I have a hard time getting boyfriends because I'm in a wheelchair
Q. ok, i have a hard time getting boyfriends...or even guys to like me becuz im in a wheelchair. i feel really left out alot becuz all my friends are dating. i've tried dating websites, chat rooms..i dunno what to do ne more...and my friends say they ...
A. 9 February 2009: first of all PLEASE dont advertize the fact that you are in a wheelchair online because even though there are lots of people out there you may attract the ones who are well less then nice..........predatorial.
At your age guys are stupid and supe... (read in full...)
He won't commit, but says we're not breaking up either?!
Q. My boyfriend of two years is leaving the state to return to school. He says he loves me and doesn't want to break up, but also says he doesn't want to maintain a relationship while he's in school and doesn't want me to move to be closer to him. ...
A. 8 February 2009: i understand what he is saying. he wants to concentrate on school right now but doesn't want you out of his life. sounds like he wants to maintain the friendship part while he is in school and possibly restart the relationship part during ... (read in full...)
I don't think my mom approves of my g/f
Q. I have been going out and have been living together with my girlfriend, who has Cerebral Palsy. We have both met my parents twice. I get that impression that she cannot get used for us being together. When I asked my mum what she thought abou...
A. 8 February 2009: I can understand your mother's desire to see her son with a young, active,etc woman but i think your mother needs to realize that you 2 are happy and that your girlfriend is a good person(assuming of course)and that matters the most. your gf may not ... (read in full...)
He wants to see me and another girl too!
Q. I have been seeing this guy who I know I am in love with, but he keeps telling me he doesn't want a relationship, but said he loved me too and really misled me. He is also seeing another girl as well which is killing me inside. He was honest and ...
A. 7 February 2009: he wants to date both of you because that makes him feel free and like you said he wants to have his cake and eat it too. there is nothing you can do, say or be, if he is not ready for a commitment you can't force him. you can either decide to play ... (read in full...)
My husband wants to act like my ex in bed!
Q. Greetings What do you say to this! My husband wanted me to pretend like he was my ex while we were having sex. And my husband said it was harmless fun role play. And I said Role play is nurse/doctor, cops/robbers, etc. Not the ex. I told husb...
A. 6 February 2009: could it be that he wants to pretend like he is your ex as in....you guys went out...broke up......now reunited and found a new spark that could lead to passionate make-up sex?
just a thought! if thats the case its not so bad but if he wants to... (read in full...)
Why would a guy who wants a girfriend party all the time?
Q. I dont understand this at all. This guy I know said that he wants something long term and he is not into hooking up anymore. But he still parties every weekend, why? I thought that guys party in order to hook up with lots of girls. I mean I know ...
A. 6 February 2009: Some guys also party cause they cant sit still(it's part of who they are)they want their cake and they want to eat it too. my ex was like that as well. they want the security of a nice girlfriend but they still want to go out and have fun with their ... (read in full...)
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