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Hi, I really enjoy this site, it has helped me a great deal and in turn I enjoy helping others when I think I can. I work as a holistic nutritionist because health and helping people are my passion!

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I'm way more pleased with myself than guilty!

Q.   This morning i cheated on my fiance with someone I met online. I have been with my fiance for 8 years...my question is why don't i feel guilty? I try to make excuses like i did it for an ego boost because i have low self esteem or that it was nice ...

A.   16 November 2010: I agree with CaringGuy. You don't feel that guilty because the man you are with is not THE ONE. You feel pleased with yourself because by cheating you in a way stood up for yourself and found an escape from a relationship that you are clearly not ... (read in full...)

I was warned, but I had sex with him 4 times anyway!

Q.   I need help! I slept with my coworker/ friend's son. She invited me to move with her and warned me about her son. But we kept making passes at each other. The other night, we were talking and he started kissing me. The next thing i knew, we were ...

A.   9 November 2010: What do YOU want to do? Is he that fantastic in bed that dumping him and getting involved with another man is out of the question? Are you willing to comprimize your relationship with your friend/coworker over this? What exactly attracts... (read in full...)

Should I wait for him even at the risk of ending up alone?

Q.   i have a very serious question that i need some closure on. please don't think i'm silly for asking it. first you need the back story. i grew up going to church every time the doors were open. it was nice especially for children because...

A.   20 October 2010: Wow..........now that's a love story! Hun, forget what happened in the past and just focus on the connection and the foundation you have with this man. When you guys were younger you couldn't be together mostly because of his grandmother who mayb... (read in full...)

He hits me saying its the only way I'll shut up

Q.   Hi i just would like some advice from someone i have been with my partner for 4years and we have child that is 5months but he is really horrible sometimes and hits me he say it is the only way i will shut up and i feel like i deserved it i want to ...

A.   16 October 2010: He doesn't hit you because it's the only way he can make you shut up, he hits you because when you argue he is afraid that you might leave him, he doesn't know what to do to fix things, feels like he's lost control of the situation and by hitting ... (read in full...)

15 and 3 months late for period but all the tests are negative!

Q.   i need help...i am 15 years old and i am 3 months late for my period. i am having all the symptoms of pregnancy but ive taken four pregnancy tests but they all came back negative. do u think i could be having false negatives or its just all in my ...

A.   15 October 2010: Go to a doctor to confirm that you are not pregnant first. Are you under a lot of stress? stress can often delay your period. I experienced extreme stress a few years ago and my period didn't come for something like 7-8 months( my doctor knew the... (read in full...)

How do you stand up for yourself?

Q.   I don't know how but people think im too flirty. I barly have any guy friends and the ones I do have I don't love them like that. And one person called me a bitch about it. I don't know how but people think I am and I never liked a guy before or ...

A.   14 October 2010: They are probably jealous of you cause you might get more attention from guys and are prettier then them. Just ignore them or say thank you when they insult you. There's no point in getting in an actual argument about it because that means that what ... (read in full...)

Why do you answer to these questions?

Q.   I just want to know something, why do you guys answer to these people? what do you plan to get out of it? do you think "God" will reimburse you for your efforts and "love"? do you feel better by helping others you don't know? I really don't see any ...

A.   12 October 2010: Some of us help others not because we think we'll get something out of it but because it's human nature to want to help others in need and share and maybe they may learn from our experiences and mistakes and not go down the same road we went. You ... (read in full...)

Married with kids and I have a crush on my doctor!

Q.   Help!!! Any advise out there about getting over a crush? I am in my forties married to the man of my dreams and have two beautiful kids but can't get my MD out of my head! I did not really like him at first but then he started flirting with me and ...

A.   7 October 2010: It's just a fantasy and you enjoy the attention you are getting from him. Do you feel that your husband is not paying as much attention to you as he used to when you first met? Does the attention you are getting from your doc remind you of the ... (read in full...)

Do I risk my marriage to find a better match? I feel my husband is more of a roommate.

Q.   I’m 30 and been married to my husband for 2 years now. We do not have any kids together. To give you a little background, I met him through mutual friends that were also dating. When I first met him, I was not attracted to him. But my friends told ...

A.   7 October 2010: What I hear from this letter is.....I am very confused, here are a lot of reasons why I should leave but I feel bad so I need someone to give me the courage to leave or make me feel bad enough to just stay. You do not seem confused because you have ... (read in full...)

Why do I always look for something wrong in the guys I fancy?

Q.   Hi I feel like I always try to find stuff wrong with guys that I am interested in (looks, personality, etc)... I do that so that way I can convince myself that I don't like them and that I can do so much better. I am not sure why I am doing that ...

A.   4 October 2010: You try to convince yourself that you don't like them so that you don't get too attached and you won't get hurt. It works very well but in the end all you are doing is ensuring you end up alone.Remember that no one is perfect and you WILL find ... (read in full...)

Would YOU not cancel the trip if you broke up with her?

Q.   So if you've read a lot of my questions on here I have beeen moving on with my life... but still wonder why my ex who ended it with me 3 weeks ago hasn't cancelled the trip we were supposed to go on in Nov. I can't cancel it, its not in my name... ...

A.   3 October 2010: Maybe because he can't get back his deposit and it would make more sense financially to just go either alone or with someone else. I Don't read into it too much and start telling yourself that he still has hope for you to go with him because if that ... (read in full...)

Why has she went cold on me?

Q.   I'm a junior in high school, i had started talking to this sophomore girl and after about a month we were talking about us and how we liked each other and so on, at the end of one of the friday night football games we were hanging out and we had our ...

A.   3 October 2010: Let her bring it up. She hasn't gone cold on you. It's not like she's avoiding you and pretending like she doesn't know you. It sounds to me like you guys maybe rushed things a bit(emotionally speaking) and in person the chemistry wasn't as strong. ... (read in full...)

Advice on love handles?

Q.   This isnt a love question but im just curious. I'm 16 years old, weight isnt an issue for me, my figure is normal, but i have this fat belly that really bothers me, like when i wear clothes without a jumper to hide it basicaly! I would like some ...

A.   29 September 2010: Ab exercises will tone the muscles under your belly but the belly fat will still be there. I completely agree with Jmtmj.....you can't target where you burn fat. If you start exercising you will start to burn calories and it will come from ... (read in full...)

What to do when you feel burned out?

Q.   I'm at a point in my life where I have no clue what to do and I literally have no inspiration whatsoever. I compensated for being a fluke in high school by trying extra hard in college. Right now I'm getting my bachelor, but lately it just s...

A.   28 September 2010: You are overstressed, overworked, you push yourself too much and your body is exhausted( I can totally relate as I have done this many times to myself as well.........it's not good to push yourself too much! This time of the year doesn't help either ... (read in full...)

I can't get wet anymore.

Q.   [OP original title] I'm 18 years old. I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. For a long time we were very sexual and I was always wet, very wet. Now, I'm never wet. Sometimes, I'll try touching myself before sex but it doesn't work. He m...

A.   23 September 2010: It's in your head...........the brain is the largest and most important sex organ. You are only 18 so you should not have any physical problems. To get wet you have to be stimulated both mentally and physically. Something is not happening right. Are ... (read in full...)

Are women satisfied with average size penis or do they fantasize about bigger penises?

Q.   hello everybody, thanks for the time i would spend in order to answer my question :D mu question is mostly for women who are married to men with average penis size, i just wanna know are the women in this situation really satisfied with their hu...

A.   21 September 2010: Size doesn't matter as much as how you use it.... I never fantasize about a man's penis.....I fantasize about how he'll treat me, how he'll make me feel, how attentive he is, how much he's into me and not just interested in the actual act. Ave... (read in full...)

How can I start making money of my own? and how can I get rid of my acne without seeing a doctor?

Q.   Hey are u ready to hear one of my many questions? If so, then pull up a chair. With the times a little rough, its hard to get some of the stuff I want and need. My mom can't always buy me the coolest brand of shoe or a funny graphic tee (my usual ...

A.   17 September 2010: Would you consider doing a paper route or babysitting until you are legally allowed to be employed? Acne is completely normal at your age.......your hormones are going crazy! -don't touch your face -get plenty of exercise -eat healt... (read in full...)

Anyone have any insight into ED?

Q.   So for the past couple of months my boyfriend has been having trouble maintaining an erection during sex. It won't happen every single time we have sex, but it does happen and its getting really depressed about it. For starters, he's 23 and I'm ...

A.   16 September 2010: ED doesn't just affect the elderly. It can happen if the man is exhausted, stressed.......oversexed. Is your boyfriend diabetic or a smoker........these 2 also increase the risk for ED.Does he have any heart problems?......if the heart is weak( ... (read in full...)

Am I just wasting my time? or do I wait and see what happens?

Q.   theres this guy i've met few weeks ago in a club i havent talked to him so when i saw that on facebook he has gave me a friend request and we talk everyday since. his cute really nice and it seems like he really likes me. he is 5years older then me ...

A.   16 September 2010: He is playing with you just like he's playing with all the other girls. He likes the reaction he gets out of all of you. You are all toys to him. Be really careful when he comes to where you are...........don't lead him on and just treat him like a ... (read in full...)

How do I nicely reject a sweet guy???

Q.   Alright I need some seriouse help. So homecoming is coming up and I'm really excited to go, and at lunch this guy asked me to homecoming, and he kept walking, so at first I thought he was just joking around, but then I heard him say "no don't! I ...

A.   14 September 2010: Hi sweets.........why don't you want to with him? Is it something about him or are you waiting for another guy to ask you? Just say, thank you so much, I am flattered, you are a really sweet guy but I'm not sure if I want to go or I am going with ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend's brother likes me more than he should and it's embarrassing me... how do I deal with this?

Q.   I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now. I am 18 and he is 19, he recently moved in with his brother who is 25. So, I see a lot more of his brother than I already did. I've lately gotten the feeling that his brother is attracted to me. ...

A.   14 September 2010: Your boyfriend's brother is showing no respect not only towards you but also towards his own blood! You should be off limits to him romantically, leading me to think that he is not interestewd in you romantically but sexually. His behaviour is a bit ... (read in full...)

I haven't had my period for almost a year

Q.   hey i'm a 14 year old virgin and it has been 2 years since i had my first period. The last time i remember having it was in october or november or 2009. i don't have any money or health insurance to go see a gyneacologist but i wonder if my symptons ...

A.   11 September 2010: Nelly, how were your periods before Nov'09? Were you regular up until then? What happened around that time in your life? Have you experienced any stress more then usual ? Stress can often cause periods to be absent. This is how the human body is ... (read in full...)

I don't have closure...

Q.   I had been seeing this really nice guy for 4 months. We always had problems as we are long distance, and he finds it difficult to communicate and is sometimes away as he is in the military. We tried to stay close by texting often. 2 weeks ago we...

A.   10 September 2010: This is why I am not a big fan of online dating and especially of long distance relationships. Although they work for some, many people on there are looking for a fantasy more then for Mr or Mrs right. People find someone they are interested in and ... (read in full...)

I am the other person in the relationship!

Q.   Hi. I am a 28 year old female. I have been in a relationship for 9 months with a married man. This relationship started off with just a simple kiss and has escalated to a lot more, including love. He has been with his wife for approximately 8 ...

A.   2 September 2010: Of course you like being with him...........I presume that he is very nice and treats you well. He is not being himself, he puts on this act to feel better about himself and to ensure he keeps you around until he is ready to call it off.While he is ... (read in full...)

Will taking 12 diabetes pills have any affect on me long term?

Q.   hey, basically about a month ago i took 12 diabetes pills, (they were my grandmas coz she has diabetes, mum was going to chuck them) i didnt take them to kill myself, just to be sick because id eaten too much that day and wanted everything out of my ...

A.   27 August 2010: Diabetes means chronic high blood sugar. I don't know what your grandma's pills contain but typically people who take medication for diabetes do so to help lower the blood sugar level NOT to lose weight. Their body either does not produce insulin ... (read in full...)

Why have I got such low self esteem?

Q.   HELP! - Why have I got such low self esteem and panic so much? I have always been a worrier - but lately I so much worry about EVERYTHING!! - I am beginning to hate myself - I worry about my frizzy hair (that is always frizzy no matter what I ...

A.   17 August 2010: You are normal.........nobody is perfect and most people have self esteem issues of one kind or another. Even the most beautiful women in the world have self esteem issues mainly because they haven't learned how to believe in themselves, accept who ... (read in full...)

What does it means when a girl sms and calls a boy after midnight?

Q.   when a girl often give calls and send sms to a boy often after mid night....what does its mean.?when they live in a society where friend of male and female is not thought good....You can also send humorous comments [Mod Note* edited for clarity] ...

A.   26 July 2010: Late night calls and msgs would upset me as well. I don't know the guy so it is possible that he is just being a good friend and may not understand how his partner feels unless she explains to him that what this woman is doing is very disrespectful ... (read in full...)

What does it means when a girl sms and calls a boy after midnight?

Q.   when a girl often give calls and send sms to a boy often after mid night....what does its mean.?when they live in a society where friend of male and female is not thought good....You can also send humorous comments [Mod Note* edited for clarity] ...

A.   22 July 2010: It depends on what kind of relationship or friendship they have. It could be a booty call or it could just mean....I'm bored, I have no one else to msg so.......Don't jump to conclusions hun, does he msg her back? If he does, does he eagerly do it ... (read in full...)

He comes on to me even though we broke up!

Q.   I broke up with my boyfriend before school ended and he keeps texting me wanting to be friends but earlier when i asked him about 10 times he got mad. School is starting and I really dont want him around me cause he needs to get over me. Any ideas ...

A.   19 July 2010: You don't have to be mean..........just don't answer his texts and if he comes to you during school just say hi and tell him you're busy and you gotta go...........do that a few times and he'll get the point. Good luck hun..........hope that hel... (read in full...)

Is there some other meaning to this?

Q.   I have just started dating this guy, maybe about 2 months or so. Sometimes, we'll be watching something on tv and then he'll just turn, look at me, and say hi. I find this kind of weird but I go along with it and say hi back since I am not too sure ...

A.   18 July 2010: He likes you! Looking at you makes his heart smile and he wants to tell you without telling you( they are not aggressive guys)... (read in full...)

I'm stuck with a controlling boyfriend, what should I do?

Q.   Hello everyone. I am having a huge problem. Please don't jugde me and be mean I'm honestly looking for some good advice. See, me and my bf have been dating 1.5 years. I live with him, his mom, and sister. When we first started dating everythin...

A.   14 July 2010: No I don't think he is but I think he wants YOU to think that he is so that he feel like a cool ladies man and so that you stroke his ego by showing that you are jealous. This is another way of controlling you. See what happens when you don't act ... (read in full...)

I'm stuck with a controlling boyfriend, what should I do?

Q.   Hello everyone. I am having a huge problem. Please don't jugde me and be mean I'm honestly looking for some good advice. See, me and my bf have been dating 1.5 years. I live with him, his mom, and sister. When we first started dating everythin...

A.   14 July 2010: Sweetie, I understand how you feel............it WILL be ok in the end.........be strong. People who have control issues do so because they have self esteem issues. In a weird twisted way he is actually afraid of losing you so he keeps you chained ... (read in full...)

I think about him constantly, and him about me..but he is with someone else!!

Q.   My ex and I have been broken up since End of Nov. 2009. He immediately started dating someone and after 6 months of no contact shows up to my work and says he still cares for me and that he can't stop thinking of me. Well he is still with the same ...

A.   14 July 2010: You do exactly what you told him to do. why is he saying these things to you while he is still with her?? if he really missed you and regrets the breakup he would break up with her then come to you to tell you those things......otherwise he's either ... (read in full...)

I know that he loves me, but he doesn't spend time with my girls

Q.   I am a 35 year old single mom with 2 girls. I have been dating a man that is 11 years younger than me for about 2 years now. I know that he loves me, but he doesn't spend time with my girls or come to any of my family gatherings. I get along great ...

A.   14 July 2010: Sounds to me like you see this as a relationship..........of course, and him being 24 sees it as more of a friendship with none of the responsibilities of a relationship but doesn't mind fantasizing about marriage and family life because he knows he ... (read in full...)

A guy I like said he thinks I'm tight what does this mean?

Q.   a guy i like told his friends that he thinks im tight... what does this mean? ...

A.   13 July 2010: it depends on the context.............if it was said in a sexual way then yes he was refering to you not having been around too much. if you are known to be thrifty or you guys went out and you may have not tipped your fair share then he was reff... (read in full...)

Should I ask him why he stop calling me beautiful or babe?

Q.   Hey well my bf used to always say "morning babe" or "morning beautiful" but lately he hasnt been he just says "morning". I miss him calling me that stuff do you think it would be ok if i asked why he stoped? Its only been like 3 or 4 days but i ...

A.   13 July 2010: It's possible that he felt like it had become his duty to stroke your ego and got tired of it. This does not mean that he loves you any less, just that he wants to be more real. You shouldn't need to rely on compliments to feel ... (read in full...)

How can make my girlfriend be more open with me?

Q.   Hello guys I have a big big problem right now, how can I make my girlfriend to be open to me, I'm really confused, she's everything I need from a girl but she never talks and worse she ain't open to me and we have together for almost 2 years now. ...

A.   13 July 2010: Make her feel safe. Don't push her to open up when she's not ready, give her time and wait for her to do it on her own. It may help if you open up and share personal things with her. When I see people doing that it makes me feel a lot safer to open ... (read in full...)

I am 30 years old and have never had an orgasm.

Q.   I am female thirty year old and never had an orgasm. What can I do to achieve an orgasm? Are there any gadget or products I can buy to aid in this?...

A.   8 July 2010: It's not uncommon..........you need to find a relationship with someone who makes you feel safe and loved as how we feel about ourselves and the relationships we are in are very much linked to physical pleasure and the ability to let go enough to ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend is refusing to eat properly, what should I do?

Q.   Dear Aunts and Uncles whom have helped me many a time, I have grown concerned about my girlfriend - she had eating issues before I knew her, she was constantly concerned about her weight, and now it's come back to haunt her. She's on a diet that ...

A.   30 June 2010: Can you speak to her parents privately and ask them to intervene? If she is severely underweight she can be admitted in a hospital that specializes in dealing with eating disorders. She needs to be educated and understand that we NEED to eat to stay ... (read in full...)

Very confident, but one area, not so much

Q.   Well im a virgin and im 17, i grew up in an enviroment where sex was around me everywhere i went and i came to know alot of things about it. Growing up all i could gather from females conversations about sex was they were only interested in one ...

A.   30 June 2010: Hun, if she loves you, it won't matter, she isn't going to pull out a ruler and measure it like you did, she will just remember the experience as a whole so make sure you do everything that you know she enjoys and when it comes to intercourse just ... (read in full...)

His ex wife doesn't want the child to know about me

Q.   my boyfriend and i have been together for two years now we recently just moved in and everything seems to be good.theres just something that im tryn to understand better.hes ex wife doesnt allow hem to see there daugther unless i am not around or ...

A.   30 June 2010: Well, look at it from her point of view..........she doesn't know you, who knows what he's told her about you, she might think you are just with him for the time being and your relationship with her ex will not be long term so she is protecting her ... (read in full...)

Very confident, but one area, not so much

Q.   Well im a virgin and im 17, i grew up in an enviroment where sex was around me everywhere i went and i came to know alot of things about it. Growing up all i could gather from females conversations about sex was they were only interested in one ...

A.   30 June 2010: Yes there is something you can do............wait for the right girl. Girls who like to have sex for fun will care about stuff like that( and even party girls won't be disappointed as long as you know how to be attentive and make them feel good) but ... (read in full...)

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