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Did I insult him by asking if he's gay?
Q. If you think a guy might possibly be gay and after you decide to ask him about it and he blows up at you and doesn't want to speak to you anymore. Is that an admission or did I insult him?...
A. 29 August 2011: You are right..........you would typically expect that from a much younger and inexperienced guy BUT if this man did not have much experience before he got married and the whole time he was with his wife he just used her to get himself off and did ... (read in full...)
Did I insult him by asking if he's gay?
Q. If you think a guy might possibly be gay and after you decide to ask him about it and he blows up at you and doesn't want to speak to you anymore. Is that an admission or did I insult him?...
A. 27 August 2011: I see...........I don't think he's necessarily gay. Definitely a bad lover and/or emotionally immature and closed off. Not all bad lovers are gay hun. He was unable to let himself open up and completely enjoy the moment.............perhaps he has ... (read in full...)
Did I insult him by asking if he's gay?
Q. If you think a guy might possibly be gay and after you decide to ask him about it and he blows up at you and doesn't want to speak to you anymore. Is that an admission or did I insult him?...
A. 25 August 2011: Do you mind sharing what that strange sexual behavior was? It sounds like you might have projected your sexual frustration on him with a "are you gay?" question and if that is true then it's understandable that a man....gay or not.... would get ... (read in full...)
Did I insult him by asking if he's gay?
Q. If you think a guy might possibly be gay and after you decide to ask him about it and he blows up at you and doesn't want to speak to you anymore. Is that an admission or did I insult him?...
A. 24 August 2011: Gay or not gay, his reaction is appropriate since he was shocked by your direct and aggressive way of wanting to know(if he is gay then he was insulted and shocked by you tring to force him out of the closet when not ready yet and if he isn't gay ... (read in full...)
Mother has Psoriasis, any tips or advice on how to deal with it?
Q. Hello Agony's This isn't a medical question per se, my mum just wants a bit of advice. I'm doing this question for her because she's computer illiterate (bless her). She has recently been diagnosed with Psoriasis and wants to know how other ...
A. 14 May 2011: Psoriasis can be symptomatic of fat/protein malabsorpion and /or poor digestion. Digestion normally slows with age and if we do not digest properly then we don't absorb nutrients no matter how perfect is our diet. She should avoid eating when angry ... (read in full...)
Should I lose weight? Would it make my breasts look better?
Q. I'm ashamed to ask anyone directly, and I realize you shouldn't get medical advice from the internet but this isn't a sign of something serious, just something about my appearance that I can't stand! My breasts are disgusting... they're not firm...
A. 14 May 2011: Yes, they will get smaller but as you loose fat, which is part of what fills them up, they will also get droopier. If your large chest is causing you health problems such as severe neck and/or back pain then you may want to consult with a doctor and ... (read in full...)
Should I go blonde because my boyfriend prefers it?
Q. Hello Everyone, Me and my boyfriend were talking the other night about music and we were both watching the video to this song. I said one of the girls in the video was pretty and he said 'Yeah but the blonde is fitter'. I asked him if he likes ...
A. 14 May 2011: NO, YOU SHOULD NOT CHANGE YOUR HAIR COLOR for him. You should never change for anyone.........be yourself and love what you were given. First of all he is now with you so he must like you the way you are. It doesn't even sound like he told you to ... (read in full...)
My married boss asked me out?!
Q. Am a girl and my boss is asking me for dating.he is married with two kids.what will i do....
A. 14 May 2011: Tell him that you are very flattered but under the circumstances( HE IS MARRIED, HE IS YOUR BOSS) you are unable to accept. ... (read in full...)
Asked her out and now having second thoughts?
Q. So I have liked this girl for about 2 weeks. She is pretty and we are good friends. I found out from a friend that she had liked me and so I asked her out today and she said yes. The only problem is that I am starting to get the feeling like "omg ...
A. 14 May 2011: You are like the rest of us and feeling insecure......don't! You asked her out because you are good friends and because you like her. Leave it at that and don't over think it too much. Just go out, get to know her better and have fun, at your age ... (read in full...)
I like a player. What can I do to get him to like me?
Q. Hey ! (: Whenever I used to go out with my group of friends I used to notice a very pretty guy there... so when we all went out he would look at me and smile , at first we didn't speak very much... UNTIL the last Friday. We were at a friends b...
A. 12 May 2011: Honey, the only person he likes is himself. He has no respect for you or any other girl. He is just playing with you and using all of you to boost his ego and have something to brag about to the guys. Walk away from him and never look back. He will ... (read in full...)
Should a guy really forgive a girl for being rude because she is on her period?
Q. Is a woman's cycle really a reason to forgive her sudden bitchiness? ...
A. 2 May 2011: During a woman's period, her hormones are out of control and can indeed influence her mood in a big way. The older she gets, the more she should be able to control herself but when very young it can be very overwhelming and uncontrollable. I would ... (read in full...)
Why did my husband fondle me then go masturbate in the bathroom when we were at a friend's house?
Q. I do not have any idea how to title this question. I am 31 and my husband is 32. We were at some friends' house recently. He came to me and asked to come with him. We went into a bedroom and he closed and locked the door. He said to me to get ...
A. 12 April 2011: It sounds like he was clearly horny and just " had to" get off. He tried first with you, but you were sensible enough to not have sex in someone else's house so..left "frustruated" he did what he knew best. I would just laugh it off and let it ... (read in full...)
The more he hurts me the more I want to cheat on him!
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm back with more relationship drama, i'm 18, i shouldn't be dealing with this, but anyway the last time i was on here it was about my best friend and i and our break up. call me crazy or stupid i probably am for this but i'm back with ...
A. 5 April 2011: Hun, first of all you are not stupid or crazy........you are human! People usually don't change unless they really want to so you can not esxpect him to become someone he is not. If you are not hapy in this relationship and feel that his neglectful ... (read in full...)
I can't stand my friends - but I don't know why!
Q. What is wrong with me? i hate spending time with my friends...and i even avoid answering the phone incase its them. they're not mean to me, and i feel so sad about this....
A. 17 March 2011: It's understandable as you are at an age when you are finding yourself and figuring out what you like and don't like, etc. Having said that, we all need friends and people who can be there for us to love and support us, so it's not the best idea to ... (read in full...)
How can I stretch my vagina?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been wanting to have sex. We've tried a a couple of times, but my vagina just was too small for his penis. How can I stretch my vagina a bit to enable him to enter?...
A. 20 February 2011: Hun, being too tight is not a bad thing.................more men complain about their partner being too lose not too tight. Have you tried foreplay before he enters you? When you are aroused and relaxed, the muscles down there are more relaxed and ... (read in full...)
Be a good father and husband or try to be happy?
Q. My wife is a very good person. She takes care of our three lovely children, even has her own business. I work at home and participate in managing the household. The only problem is that I am romanticist while my wile looks at things in a very ...
A. 8 February 2011: You need to talk to your wife and explaine to her that you need intimacy in your lives and that it is a very important part of a marriage. It is absolutely unreasonable for you to ask your wife to be ok with you finding a mistress. You two need to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend seems to be obsessed with women's bodies.
Q. Hi I have just returned from a day out with my boyfriend of 18 months followed by yet another row. My boyfriend seems to be obsessed with women's bodies. I am slim and considered pretty and he always compliments me and what I wear. I used to have ...
A. 25 January 2011: You can't do anything to change him. He is clearly a very visual person and is distracted by beautiful women..........he is with You afterall isn't he? As long as he just looks and doesn't try to touch then I would work more on your confidence and ... (read in full...)
How can I reach 177cm tall?
Q. Hi! I am 17 and only 168 cm tall. From young, I am the shortest in the class and in military band. All my friends are just taller and bigger than me. I feel left out when we do sports or hanging out. My family include my uncles and aunts are rela...
A. 19 January 2011: Guys continue to grow until the age of about 21. Like you said yourself, genes do play a big role so don't forget that. Make sure you go outside lots and get lots of exercise as the the vitamin D we get from the sun plays a crucial role in bone ... (read in full...)
Are we going to be more than just friends?
Q. Hello Agony Aunts! I am driving myself mental and need some advice. There is a particular girl I am interested in, we have been chatting, seemingly having fun (its still online only so I can't tell body language), but I am sick of just having ...
A. 18 January 2011: I understand how you feel, you want something real not just some virtual fun. I can tell you with certainty that there are some lonely women out there who are just interested in chatting/talking to someone to kill time( i have a close friend of mine ... (read in full...)
A bump inside my breast! Is this normal?
Q. Dear Cupid, Im a 16 yr old normal teen. I've recently started feeling my breast and noticed there was like a bump inside my breast. Whenever i put my finger on that certain area, i can feel the bump. Im super worried because i have no idea what it ...
A. 11 January 2011: Some women to have lumpy breasts naturally. It is especially common and normal to find lumps around the time of your period. If they are tender it usually means they are normal. Do you have any skin puckering, discharge from the nipple or lumps ... (read in full...)
He is verbally abusive, how do I get him to change his behaviour?
Q. Hi Whenever my bf gets angry i.e. like when i try to call him when he is at work or when he is busy, he verbally abuses me. He calls me names, if i have known that he is busy i would have never called him in the first place. We discussed a ...
A. 11 January 2011: Stop calling him or talking to him all together. If he questions why you have pulled back tell him that you understand how much you irritate him and you do not wish to cause him any more trouble and that you think it is best that you 2 part ways and ... (read in full...)
He wants to video tape us having sex and I'm not comfortable with it
Q. Okay so I've dating my boyfriend for 5 months I love him more then anything. I'm in college and he works. He's 34 years old and I'm 19 years old. I know there is a big gap but I love him and I feel like he does loves me back. so we had issues in the ...
A. 10 January 2011: Don't do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable just to please someone else. Do it only if YOU want to do it and that's it. Keep in mind that once you make it, anyone could see it and it could be used against you in the future. What happens if ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be friends with her if I can't be her boyfriend!
Q. In short, I know a girl who I became friends with over the past year. But to be honest, being friends with her is not like being friends with one of my guy friends. We talk, or rather she does most of the talking. I find myself in a role of helping ...
A. 9 January 2011: You are not selfish at all..........you know what you want and you are tired emotionally. I understand completely, I went through the same thing with my ex. Talk to her and explain all this to her like you did on here and don't just drop her like I ... (read in full...)
Should I keep on ignoring my mother or try to be civil with her?
Q. my mother and i have a horrible relationship. we dont talk anymore, and when we visit family around the holidays we dont even look at each other or go in the same room as each other. we stopped talking because she kicked me out because of one of...
A. 4 January 2011: I don't think you should turn your back on your own parents and I can tell you don't want to do that either other wise you would not have come on here and you would have just turned your back on her. The past is history! Try talking to her and makr ... (read in full...)
Expensive love!
Q. dear cupid, i would like to ask, is right to spend alot of money in a relationship to impress your girlfriend....
A. 4 January 2011: Only is she has earned it and you know her for long enough to be confident that it's not material things she is interested in but yourself!
Money can't buy you real love hun, it will only attract shallow materialistic women
Hope this helps:)... (read in full...)
How do I let her know I still love her?
Q. I saw myself being together with this girl forever; I even thought about marriage. However, she broke up with me a few days ago... and I still love her and want her more than anything. I think she really is the perfect one for me and I am ...
A. 4 January 2011: Do you know why she broke up with you in the first place? Did she ever share the same feelings for you( has she ever said that she loves you?) Try talking to her and tell her how you feel and see how she reacts. If it's true love she will be happy ... (read in full...)
Do you think it's possible that we're actually in love at such a young age?
Q. Hi(: Okay, as you all know adults and even other teens say when your in high school you think you're in love but you don't know what love is. Well, I've been with mmy boyfriend for almost 15 months now and honestly I can say I love him. I...
A. 31 December 2010: Absolutely! Hun, you sound so sweet and truly in love and yes i do believe that love is possible at 15. It does evolve and grow with age and at you age what most people calL love tends to be more puppy love or hormonal but yes I do believe that it ... (read in full...)
Married man or emotionaly unavailable?
Q. I had been seeing a man for over a year, then he broke it off stating he was not ready for a long-term commitment. After 8 months with no contact, we recently reconciled. I suspect he may be married and have tried to ask questions to determine his ...
A. 31 December 2010: This man sounds like a complete jerk! You did the right thing to end things with him as it sounds like he might have been using you. He is either utterly selfish, living with someone or seeing someone who isn't giving him everything he wants so he ... (read in full...)
He met someone else and broke my heart
Q. How can I fall out of love with someone when I have been in love with him for years and was willing to move overseas just to be with him. Now he has met someone else and I am left broken hearted and lost. What should I do? ...
A. 30 December 2010: Hun, I completely understand where you are coming from..........it's not easy but it's possible. Many times I had the intention to move on but was unable to because my heart still wasn't available and wanted to still hang on . First you need to be ... (read in full...)
Whats better for penis size?
Q. So this may sound dumb but I'm wondering from a girls point of view. What's better for penis size, length or Gerth? Cause I'm 5.5 long and 5.75 around, so which one is more enjoyable...
A. 15 December 2010: It's not just about size hun, it's also about how you use it, how you touch a woman, how you treat a woman. What good is a guy hung like a horse if he also treats me like an animal?
Learn how to treat and touch a woman and you'll have more hap... (read in full...)
Broken-hearted girl!
Q. heey i am a 14 year old girl who has been split up from her ex boyfriend for about 8 months now i was with him for about 8 months and i just cant get over him he treats me like crap all the time says he loves me then says he dont then has a go at me ...
A. 14 December 2010: He is very confused!. He wants to have his cake and eat it too. He is stringing you along until you guys actually break up meaning until YOU end it orhe finds a new girl so talk to him and ask him what he really wants! if he wants to break up and ... (read in full...)
She won't shave or trim!
Q. I have had multiple conversations with my wife regarding the shaving of her vag, but she will not so much as keep it trim. I've actually shaved her a few times, but I feel like it's just part of a woman's grooming process to keep it trim if that's ...
A. 14 December 2010: She needs to feel comfortable with her body during sex and maybe if she shaved she just wouldn't feel like herself. If she wants you to go down on her then ask her kindly to landscape beforehand. During intercourse it shouldn't matter, the important ... (read in full...)
Broken-hearted girl!
Q. heey i am a 14 year old girl who has been split up from her ex boyfriend for about 8 months now i was with him for about 8 months and i just cant get over him he treats me like crap all the time says he loves me then says he dont then has a go at me ...
A. 14 December 2010: Sweetie, if you guys broke up 8 months ago then you need to move on. You are broken up, not together! If you just had a fight then let him come to you when he misses you and when he is ready. He sounds like he is very confused and doesn't know what ... (read in full...)
Married, but I had a co-worker's baby, now what??
Q. I've been together w my husband for 81/2 years. I got pressured into having sex with a co-worker. I was too afraid to tell him no. (why , because he got mad at me if I didn't). Stupid stupid I know. I have always had zero feelings for this guy. ...
A. 12 December 2010: Honey, it's going to be ok in the end
Were you in an emotional relationship with your coworker? you said he pressured you into sex? Did you consent to have sex with him or did he force himself on you?
Does this guy know you are now pregnant and... (read in full...)
Married, but I had a co-worker's baby, now what??
Q. I've been together w my husband for 81/2 years. I got pressured into having sex with a co-worker. I was too afraid to tell him no. (why , because he got mad at me if I didn't). Stupid stupid I know. I have always had zero feelings for this guy. ...
A. 12 December 2010: Honey, it's going to be ok in the end
Were you in an emotional relationship with your coworker? you said he pressured you into sex? Did you consent to have sex with him or did he force himself on you?
Does this guy know you are now pregnant and... (read in full...)
I can't get fully aroused and sex become uncomfortable
Q. I'm 22yrs old and why is it when I have sex or foreplay I can't get fully aroused. It gets unenjoyable fast. I've never even had an orgasm (I think). And during intercourse it's like I dry up to the point where my vagina feels raw and the labia ...
A. 8 December 2010: Can you get wet when you fantasize or play with yourself? If you can then you must not be getting mentally aroused enough to be doing what you are doing. Are there issues between you and your bf? Are you really into him? The brain is the largest sex ... (read in full...)
Is it possible I'm pregnant even though the test came back negative?
Q. ok well about six months ago i was with this guy who i just met and he was 20 at the time and i was 16. we had sex using no protection or anything and now i think im prregnant. ive taken preg test but all but 1 said no and i cnt go to my parents. i ...
A. 7 December 2010: Hun, go to your doctor or school nurse. Yes it is possible. false negative tests are common but false positive aren't so common. Some women do experience spotting during the early stages of pregnancy. You really need to get this confirmed by a ... (read in full...)
"We're too young to be in love." What do I make of THAT?
Q. I told my boyfriend, who I've been dating for a little over 9 months that I'm in love with him (neither of us have ever said that before). I thought it would go over well and he would say it back, but it would have been okay if he didn't, but ...
A. 1 December 2010: You are not " too young to be in love" but it might be a bit early in the relationship to feel love. You just took him by surprise, that's it. What you are love, feeling is most likely lust, not love, you need to spend a lot longer getting to know ... (read in full...)
Where do I go from here?
Q. I met this guy we will call him ...... bill. i met him a while ago but we started to hangout again here a few weeks ago. Were always together but me him and his best friend and one of my friends all got drunk together the other night. I really like ...
A. 30 November 2010: Hun, you have put yourself in a tough spot.:(
You may want to relax on the drinking if it leads you into situations like this, you may want to spend some time alone( BE SINGLE FOR A WHILE) to re evaluate yourself.Bill is acting hot and cold bec... (read in full...)
Homelessness.....
Q. Hi, everybody well, I know that my question may not related to this site by any way (a site for social advice would be great). but since you are all active and like answering questions. I'd like to know your views on the issue of homelessness. ...
A. 26 November 2010: IGNORANCE IS BLISS...........If you pretend something doesn't exist then maybe it will go away? Some people don't want to admit reality sometimes because then they might feel that they are expected to help out somehow to better the situation and ... (read in full...)
Are we on a break?
Q. Said she needs space, does that mean we are on a break? Do I still text her and say happy thanksgiving?...
A. 25 November 2010: It means she needs space!..........she must have too much on her plate right now and feels that she is not able to offer you all the attention you crave and deserve. Don't contact her, let her be. Don't make any contact AT ALL.... giver her some ... (read in full...)
How can I find a man who truly wants to have a family?
Q. I met my ex husband when I was 16. Back then we both dreamed about having lots of babies when we were older. When we got o older he started to give me excuses why it wasn't the right time yet and even went as far as to tell me that if I were to get ...
A. 17 November 2010: Thank you both,
I actually did look into freezing my eggs after I talked to my 40 year old friend and found out that it is aprox $15,000 plus $500 per year to keep the frozen. I feel that options like this are for women who chose to wait and perh... (read in full...)
Can someone please explain why he keeps on being a jerk but he still keeps on contacting me?
Q. I've posted about this situation before but things keep happening and I am at a loss. So to recap, I met this guy on a dating site and we dated 2 months until he ended it with me. Things were really great at the beginning but about a month into it, ...
A. 17 November 2010: Hun,
This is how he sees things:
that girls is his chase- he doesn't want to get sex from her because the chase will then be over
he wants sex from you because you are not a chase, in his eyes you his been there done that, want to do that agai... (read in full...)
I'm way more pleased with myself than guilty!
Q. This morning i cheated on my fiance with someone I met online. I have been with my fiance for 8 years...my question is why don't i feel guilty? I try to make excuses like i did it for an ego boost because i have low self esteem or that it was nice ...
A. 16 November 2010: I agree with CaringGuy. You don't feel that guilty because the man you are with is not THE ONE. You feel pleased with yourself because by cheating you in a way stood up for yourself and found an escape from a relationship that you are clearly not ... (read in full...)
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