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im just a normal thirty something stay at home mum

How do I get this happily married man to notice me?

Q.   i like this guy,but he is married and happy.i see him once every fortnight at work.what shoul i do for he notice me,please?...

A.   18 October 2009: hes okay for a look at nothing else keep clear of him, hes a happy married man, a very rare thing, so let him be... (read in full...)

This married man has really got me confused big time.

Q.   No moral judgements please it's to late for that. 30yrs ago i met a married man we had a 3yr affair,i moved away that ended it. now 6yrs ago we catch up again and we have started this all over again,he is still married i am not,the thing is i have a...

A.   13 October 2009: you make it sound so awful, like hes premeditated this affair, planned it all out and just waiting on some unsupecting woman to come along, then reel her in lol prob the kind of woman who lacks self asteem, hasnt had many love affairs and they hav... (read in full...)

Is talking on chat lines a form of cheating?

Q.   my husband has recently been talking on this chat line invu, he stay up all night talking to women about things that are inappropriate,i have talked to him about it and he is staying on it. he say it isn't cheating because it is not real, I think it ...

A.   13 October 2009: i dont think it is, its one step away from meeting her and cheating yes i do think that, i dont think theres anything wrong with a harmless bit of flirting, unless hes planning on taking it further..so tell him your ok with him chatting as long as ... (read in full...)

I've never had to get over anyone before -- how do I do it?

Q.   i was having an affair wed been seeing each other for about 7 years, his wife found some texts id sent nothing too bad, and hes managed to convince her that im nobody..im supposed or at least i thought i was the love of his life lol so now im not ...

A.   11 October 2009: thankyou for a thoughtful reply, the post i did about the baby wasnt about me, he isnt the father of my children.. i never set out to hurt anyone, im not saying woe is me, though, i know what i do is wrong, this man knows what we do is wrong, y... (read in full...)

This married man has really got me confused big time.

Q.   No moral judgements please it's to late for that. 30yrs ago i met a married man we had a 3yr affair,i moved away that ended it. now 6yrs ago we catch up again and we have started this all over again,he is still married i am not,the thing is i have a...

A.   5 October 2009: its easy to say leave him alone and be better off emotionally, but when your in love with someone they are all you think about and you convince yourself that you will never find someone like them again and never be happy again, so to stay with them ... (read in full...)

He shaved his pubic hair when I asked him not to!

Q.   So today is a very sad day for me. I've been with my boyfriend for over 3 years and he's been talking about shaving his pubic hair for a while. Well, today he did it! Why why why? He just came home from work ate dinner and did it while i was ...

A.   5 October 2009: prob just curious to see what it would look like, and to be honest its so much nicer to have your man shave..but then thats only my opinion, end of the day its his hair..i do understand tho but what can u do guys think they know best lol... (read in full...)

Is it weird to love the taste of a guy's cum?

Q.   is it weird to love the taste of a mans cum? i have been giving oral sex since i was 14 and i have always loved the feeling and taste of when a guy would "finish" in my mouth! i was talking to my friend about it and she said that she would never ...

A.   5 October 2009: i love it too, depending on a mans flavour mind, some guys really need to watch what they eat, if they want their woman to swallow... (read in full...)

I've never had to get over anyone before -- how do I do it?

Q.   i was having an affair wed been seeing each other for about 7 years, his wife found some texts id sent nothing too bad, and hes managed to convince her that im nobody..im supposed or at least i thought i was the love of his life lol so now im not ...

A.   5 October 2009: im not married partnered yes, ive never expected or asked him to leave her, i saw him today yes i gave into him again, he has a hold on me ill never really understand,ireally did think when i wrote this that we were over.. thanks all fo... (read in full...)

I've never had to get over anyone before -- how do I do it?

Q.   i was having an affair wed been seeing each other for about 7 years, his wife found some texts id sent nothing too bad, and hes managed to convince her that im nobody..im supposed or at least i thought i was the love of his life lol so now im not ...

A.   2 October 2009: thanks for that reply, things were awful at home, i fell for him because i was unhappy and lonely, and hes everything i wanted, i know he loves me, its just his home life is more important to him i do understand that.. my homelife is not too bad ... (read in full...)

I've never had to get over anyone before -- how do I do it?

Q.   i was having an affair wed been seeing each other for about 7 years, his wife found some texts id sent nothing too bad, and hes managed to convince her that im nobody..im supposed or at least i thought i was the love of his life lol so now im not ...

A.   1 October 2009: your right im a horrible person ive no comeback to that, and well now im suffering for it as i should... (read in full...)

I've never had to get over anyone before -- how do I do it?

Q.   i was having an affair wed been seeing each other for about 7 years, his wife found some texts id sent nothing too bad, and hes managed to convince her that im nobody..im supposed or at least i thought i was the love of his life lol so now im not ...

A.   30 September 2009: i dont want to think of him as a sleazy cheat but what hes done to me i do have other thoughts going on in my head about him..anyway i had a good cry today now i feel its time i moved on i have to for my health if nothing else...thanks guys for the ... (read in full...)

Fiance has profile on online dating website, does that mean he doesn't love me?

Q.   My fiance and I have been together for three years. The other day, his mom called me and asked if I could have him reply to her e-mail she had sent him a few days ago. We know each others passwords to our e-mails, so I thought I would just check his ...

A.   15 August 2009: just ask him outright about his account on this site? i bet hes just curious about mails he gets on it, not that he would do anything about it, but really he should close it now, theres no shortage of porn sites he oould look at he doesnt need to be ... (read in full...)

Break up after 7 years...will I ever get over him?

Q.   ive just finished with the love of my life of 7 years, my question is how do i get over this? will i ever stop thinking about him? should i stop all contact as we still talk online ...

A.   15 August 2009: thanks for the replies i cant let him go but i know itll take time to get over him and it will get better..i hope... (read in full...)

Would you date someone who was the wrong star sign?

Q.   would you avoid dating someone that was the wrong starsign? im seeing a man whose supposed to bethe worst match for me yet we love each other to bits, yet i keep thinking if we were together full time we wouldnt work..any views on this?...

A.   21 July 2009: im aquarius and hes taurus its strange that i seem to always go for deep dark moody taurus men lol when they are supposed to be my worst match, your all right though love is whats important not their signs... (read in full...)

If you'd had a baby through a brief affair would you tell anyone?

Q.   If you'd had a baby through a brief affair would you tell anyone? either confide in a friend or tell the biological father? would you be guilty and tell all eventually or keep this a secret forever? ...

A.   21 July 2009: the biological father has actually had a good few hints that the baby is his, once when preg he denied it saying no way we were careful etc.. then again in a brief 30 min meeting where he seen the baby and again hints were made that he could be the ... (read in full...)

How much porn is too much? I've considered downloading pics of naked me to my PC to let him see how it feels!

Q.   I just got married a few weeks ago and I knew my husband looked at porn but I thought he was doing it just sometimes as is 2-3 times a week. I found out that he is looking at porn almost every day when he gets home from work and on Sunday when I ...

A.   21 July 2009: id be limiting his porn watching then, only if you're away, got a headache or time of month etc then maybe he'll be ready to give his woman his loving and not actors on the tele..his right hand must be hurting him by now lol... (read in full...)

Men: When is a women being cold?

Q.   guys when is a women being cold? when she doesnt get in touch for a few days, in another hand is texting or emailing every day just too much? what would you guys like from us as a thirty something woman ive still never figured out how to play it...

A.   21 July 2009: i just wanted to say thank you jason for letting me tell you all this and giving me advice ... (read in full...)

Men: When is a women being cold?

Q.   guys when is a women being cold? when she doesnt get in touch for a few days, in another hand is texting or emailing every day just too much? what would you guys like from us as a thirty something woman ive still never figured out how to play it...

A.   20 July 2009: hi again we've been together for about 6 years believe it or not, and its not likely that we'll move in together for a while, I see him sometimes once a week sometimes it can be weeks before i see him,the contact is down to zero for the past wee... (read in full...)

How much porn is too much? I've considered downloading pics of naked me to my PC to let him see how it feels!

Q.   I just got married a few weeks ago and I knew my husband looked at porn but I thought he was doing it just sometimes as is 2-3 times a week. I found out that he is looking at porn almost every day when he gets home from work and on Sunday when I ...

A.   17 July 2009: why dont you watch some of it with him? people like poen men and women if his sex drive is so high then its good for him to release it this way, but it shouldnt beaffecting your sex life, you need to tell him this, tell him to lay off the porn and ... (read in full...)

Men: When is a women being cold?

Q.   guys when is a women being cold? when she doesnt get in touch for a few days, in another hand is texting or emailing every day just too much? what would you guys like from us as a thirty something woman ive still never figured out how to play it...

A.   17 July 2009: he lives a distance from me so we dont see each other much, if it wasnt so wonderful when im with him id give up... (read in full...)

Men: When is a women being cold?

Q.   guys when is a women being cold? when she doesnt get in touch for a few days, in another hand is texting or emailing every day just too much? what would you guys like from us as a thirty something woman ive still never figured out how to play it...

A.   16 July 2009: ok i went online last night and left a message saying hope to catch you soon, mins later he logged on and it was all small talk and as quick as he could get offline again..yet there is times when hes on here and ill get a text asking me to come on ... (read in full...)

I have signs of pregnancy but never have had sex!

Q.   I'm a bit concerned because I have some of the symptoms of being pregnant but I know I'm not because I've never had sex. I usually have alot of stress and anxiety though, any help or suggestions? ...

A.   15 July 2009: if its your period thats late then thats a classic sign of stress if u really havent had sex then your not pregnant, go see your doc and talk it over... (read in full...)

If you'd had a baby through a brief affair would you tell anyone?

Q.   If you'd had a baby through a brief affair would you tell anyone? either confide in a friend or tell the biological father? would you be guilty and tell all eventually or keep this a secret forever? ...

A.   15 July 2009: yes eyeswideopen nooneis any the wiser would telling anyone the truth ever be a good idea?... (read in full...)

Men: When is a women being cold?

Q.   guys when is a women being cold? when she doesnt get in touch for a few days, in another hand is texting or emailing every day just too much? what would you guys like from us as a thirty something woman ive still never figured out how to play it...

A.   15 July 2009: i havent spoken to him since sat and that was on here i know hes been on but i kind of hid my online status as i always think hes not on that often so im better to leave it be and give him space lol i hardly see that much of him in the real world, ... (read in full...)

What else can she do to get a man?

Q.   my friend is in her thirties and still stays at home, i think between us we have exhausted her options of finding a man shes quite fussy when it comes to what she wants from him job house money etc..and this is a reson i think shes still single, ...

A.   15 July 2009: lol phil i hope not i think as someone said here theres an element of her, being so used to being single shes not trying but then when i see her its a case of shes "on the shelf and it will be her on her own with her cats" lol i feel for her i ... (read in full...)

What else can she do to get a man?

Q.   my friend is in her thirties and still stays at home, i think between us we have exhausted her options of finding a man shes quite fussy when it comes to what she wants from him job house money etc..and this is a reson i think shes still single, ...

A.   15 July 2009:  bless her shes not a gold digger i think she just doesnt see a future with a broke guy who lives with his mum lol but i do think shes too fussy ... (read in full...)

Snoozy sex!

Q.   Last night me and my boyfriend were really drunk, we went to bed and had sex (we always use condoms) then we fell asleep in each others arms. I can vaguely remember waking up in the middle of the night still half asleep to pull the quilts over ...

A.   15 July 2009: yea def go on the pill but as a poster said i hope u took the morning after pill, if your in a commited relationship then stop using condoms and take the pill then it wont matter when you get frisky wi each other, to that poster before my reply... (read in full...)

Even when invited I feel left out

Q.   I feel totally alone. My friends all go out and socailize, but never invite me. When they talk to me, they blame me, and say I should asume to be invited to everything, and I understand that. But I nver feel welcome or wanted, and when I do go out...

A.   15 July 2009: Just think you'll be left school soon and maybe going to college? just think of all the friends you'll make then, stick it out with your friends just now, its a real shame that they aren't nicer, but i understand how hard it is to find new mates, ... (read in full...)

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