Does light spotting mean I'm not pregnant?
Q. I have a boyfriend of 5 month and we've been having sex, unprotected. We aren't in anyway trying to get pregnant as that may seem like something stupid to say but I am on the pill. I've only started the pill a month ago, finished that 21 day pack...
A. 9 November 2009: Heya, first of all I want to say that even if you're on the pill and taking it religiously, you can still fall pregnant, so you should think about using condoms or some other form of contraception too. I learnt this the hard way.
I'm not flaming ... (read in full...)
Hubby watches women live on their web cams and chats with them - is this cheating?
Q. Hi everyone, I was hoping for a bit of advice on the subject of the boundries between porn, and cheating. I would especially appreciate a male perspective, although all answers are welcome. The problem is this. My husband, as like a lot o...
A. 9 November 2009: Hey Emily, I personally think that there is a very, very fine line between looking at porn and cheating on your significant other.
If my husband was to look at porn, i wouldn't class that as cheating, it is just visual stimulation. If he were to ... (read in full...)
I lied about my sexual history. How can I make it up to him?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 7 months now. When we first got together i lied about how many sexual partners i had had. Since then, I have lied to him about 2 or 3 more times, letting only a little bit more information slip but not telling him ...
A. 9 November 2009: Hey, I don't think there is anything much that you can do to earn his trust again other than to keep everything open from here on out. The trust can only be given by him and like the little boy who cried wolf, you've lied to him and he now has to ... (read in full...)
How can this girl who told me she loved me break it off so out of the blue?
Q. so a couple years ago I met a girl online. I would say she's perfect in my eyes but that would be an understatement. needless to say I loved her so much. I don't know how I could when I met her over the internet. we talked every day. via text or ...
A. 9 November 2009: Hey, I feel for you, I do, but you are the only person who is going to help pull you out of this situation if you cannot afford a councilor or some kind of professional help.
Unfortunately, when we break up with someone, if you're the person w... (read in full...)
Should I meet an Online Friend?
Q. Advice on Meeting this guy... I met a guy pretty randomly online about 3 months ago. He IMed me, and we just sort of introduced ourselves and we started talking. We kept talking acouple times a week, we would get on webcam and talk, but the so...
A. 7 November 2009: I am of the opinion that life is too short and that sometimes we have to take a chance. However, with a situation like this, you have to be very very careful if you do somehow decide to meet up in person.
I don't think that surprising him woul... (read in full...)
Is there a risk of prostate cancer if you don't masturbate or have sex?
Q. Hi Cupid,I asked this question here last time about the word masturbation. this question confused me sometimes, i want to be sure of it. my question is, a person that still a virgin whether a boy or a girl. like a boy that still a virgin. if the ...
A. 7 November 2009: The lack of masturbation or sexual activity does not increase the likelihood of developing cancer.
As someone pointed out, if you don't do either, the semen level builds up and you body gets rid of it for you while you sleep, so you're unlikely... (read in full...)
Anger issues with my LDR
Q. hi im 18 and i have been in a 2 month long distance relationship with a man from argentina who is 27. we met on the internet so we havent met in person yet. however we connect very well. im in love with him and he says he loves me to. but a cou...
A. 6 November 2009: I met my husband online 3 years ago, there were real intense feelings there for him before we physically met, but we always kept those emotions to ourselves because the fact that we'd never physically met meant that we were only thus far in love ... (read in full...)
Me and my best friend...I just wanna know why...???
Q. Ok, so my best friend and I haven’t been friends for about 6 months because I was a bad friend and she chose her boyfriend over me and everyone else. He told her not to be friends with me anymore and she listened to him. She would have never ever ...
A. 6 November 2009: Oh, I feel for you, I really do, I was in a similar situation with my best friend a while back. We were best friends for a few years and things just changed. I married, she found a new outlet for work, we both drifted and spent a lot of time on ... (read in full...)
He said he would call after ons, but he didn't?
Q. I'm not normally into ons, but I was upset that night, so I was actually looking for someone for a cuddle and kiss, but I ended up at his somehow. We didn't even ask each other's name on the night, it seems like we both were clear it would be just...
A. 6 November 2009: I absolutely agree withe the previous poster about the fact that one nighters rarely lead to anything more. However, he did give you his jacket and 5 days isn't all that long - he may well, as the male poster said, be a smooth player. Try to co... (read in full...)
I want a relationship with this guy who is 7 years older than me.
Q. I'm 16 and he is 23 hes been in my life a very long time.. our families our close. hes gonna graduate from college and pursue his career,so hes very responsible. I'm confused about my feelings for him,and his feelings for me. he comes over ...
A. 5 November 2009: I don't think the problem you'll have here is the amount of years between you because 7 isn't all that many really - there were 15 years between my mum and my dad! I think the problem is going to be that you're only 16 and he's 23. He might be ... (read in full...)
Pregnant with 1st child, Boyfriend distant...I'm so lonley.
Q. I am 15 weeks pregnant with my first child, my boyfriend and I got pregnant maybe a month or two after we first got together and so much has changed. At first he was so sweet and when I told him I might be pregnant he was so excited and happy to ...
A. 5 November 2009: Oh dear, I feel for you, I don't think this looks for a bright and happy future. I know that being pregnant makes you very hormonal but there is a difference between you being hormonal and him being a moron. It sounds like he's chased you, got... (read in full...)
Is it best to confess your feelings for someone or ignore those feelings to avoid rejection?
Q. when we like someone a lot and eventually fall in love with that person, we never think of rejection until later on, but in those situations is it best to either confess to that person or to ignore those feelings to avoid rejection?...
A. 5 November 2009: My philosophy is nothing ventured, nothing gained.
If we were all to keep our feelings to ourselves to avoid rejection, we'd never get the opportunity to be accepted instead!
... (read in full...)
How can I make the guilt of cheating in a past relationship go away?
Q. 3 years ago, I was in a long term relationship. she gave up everything for me, friends, family, just to be with me. We lived together for years, but I developed feelings for another woman and began an affair. I hate myself for what I did to this ...
A. 5 November 2009: There is no real way to make the guilt go away. What is done is done.
The only thing you can do is to forgive yourself. Realise that you made a mistake and let yourself be ok with that and make amends with your inner turmoil.
If you two ar... (read in full...)
What does it mean when someone is considered the "backbone" of a relationship?
Q. What does it mean when someone is considered the "backbone" of a relationship?...
A. 5 November 2009: It basically means the person who holds the reigns and keeps everything together and going smoothly.
For example, my nan was the backbone of her marriage. Her husband worked and earned a crust but she organised everything, made sure bills we... (read in full...)
I always thought I was straight but now there's a girl I'm crushing on!
Q. Ok, I'm going a little crazy here. I've always thought I was straight, if I thought about it at all. I've just always been attracted to guys, but also I've always been more comfortable with guys because I don't fit in with most girls my age. Anyway, ...
A. 5 November 2009: I think that its wonderful that you're open to all of the feelings that you're having but appreciate that it could be very confusing.
You like this girl and you're thinking about her a lot, but it doesn't mean you're into girls, it just means yo... (read in full...)
Help me cope with my worry about someone I care about deeply!
Q. Hey there. Umm, starting this is really hard so I'll start from the beginning and a bit of a backstory.. I've recently started university and I met a girl here on my first day, in fact she was the first person I met here. A few days later we open...
A. 5 November 2009: Sounds like you really care for this girl, and that's wonderful, but unfortunately you can't make someone talk to you no matter how good your intentions are and no matter how close you might feel you were.
It is unfortunate that she has so many ... (read in full...)
How can you tell a guy is really interested?
Q. why is it when guys like q girl around her they are sweet but in front of their friends they can sometimes be jerks? how can u tell if a guy is genuinely interested in you?...
A. 5 November 2009: I don't think you can ever really tell if a guy is genuinely interested in you or not until you've been seeing him for a while.
Men sometimes don't want to show their friends they're interested in you because they don't want them to know they're ... (read in full...)
I'm trapped in a marriage with a husband who prefers masturbation over sex!
Q. We've been married for 3 months, been together for 3 and half years in total. We lived together for a year but I moved back in with my parents cos I hated his housemates. We got our own place and moved in a week before the wedding. For me the bigg...
A. 4 November 2009: I can absolutely empathise with your situation. I think the main thing to realise here is that you yourself seem to know in your heart that this relationship isn't what you hoped for and wanted and I am guessing from your post that you don't see ... (read in full...)
My brother asked me to look at his because to judge its size
Q. My older brother asked me if I could look at his erect penis and tell him what I thought about its size. I know he is really self conscious about it and I just wanted to help him out. I've seen his dick before when we were really young. But never ...
A. 4 November 2009: If this post is real, which i doubt it is, then the mere fact that you'd need to ask this question suggests to me that you're not old enough, wise enough or mature enough to have a boyfriend to be cheated on in the first place. But to answer t... (read in full...)
Is 7 months too soon to bring up marriage?
Q. When is it safe to bring up marriage? We've been dating 7 months, and we are in love. He treats me like I've never been before, and the signs are all there. He is younger than I am and has never been married. I have been married before but this ...
A. 4 November 2009: I met and married my husband within a few months! He asked, I said yes. It works for us, we're still going strong years later but it doesn't always work for everyone. The saying; "if it ain't broke, don't fix it" comes to mind - you're happy rig... (read in full...)
Having an affair...
Q. If you have an affair, and then she goes cold, is it guilt on her part of just trying to protect her feelings from becoming deep love that will force her to decide on quitting her relationship?...
A. 4 November 2009: I can see that you really want this to be more than it looks like it is from what you've said. To be honest, without the i love you's there is usually something missing. The absence of verbal re-assurance is one of the surest signs that this ... (read in full...)
Should I pick the one I'm living with, the ex-boyfriend, or just toss both of them?
Q. well here goes. im living with a guy that at the beginning wanted a real relationship. now he says he doesn't wont to fall in love and now he only has feelings of a friend. he waited for 7 months to tell me this. what gives? now an old boyfriend has ...
A. 19 May 2009: If you need to ask, you may already know the answer.
While it might be nice to re-visit the ex boyfriend, there i a reason he is "ex" and so it may be nice to work on a friendship for now with him and see where it might go in the future, but knoc... (read in full...)
We have been together for 20 years and I am looking for something new in the sex department, any suggestions?
Q. I have been having a sexual relationship with this guy for over 20 years. I know he is totally happy with what I do, but I am really kinda looking for something new to do. I love giving him oral sex, but I need something new. I've tried different ...
A. 8 May 2009: You know the old sayin' "If it ain't broke, don't fix it", you've been having good sex with this guy for 20 years, you must be doing something right!!
However, that said, have you tried role play or something a little more kinky? Maybe discuss ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend would rather climax watching porn, than satisfiy me, what can I do about this, please help?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. He enjoys porn alot. I mean alot. At first we had sex frequently and he appeared to enjoy himself. I have always had a high sex drive myself. However, when we were first together he did not ...
A. 8 May 2009: You need to talk to him about it asap, he isnt psychic nd neither are you and if you let it go on any longer it is just going to get worse as you decide you dont want sex so he watches more porn and so you have less inclinatin for sex and he watches ... (read in full...)
I just cant see myself raising my daughter. I don't think I even love her.
Q. Hey, I'm basically wondering what's the best way to end a long term relationship when you don't want to give the real reason? Bit of background... I'm 18 and so is my boyfriend. We've been together for 5 years and we have a daughter who's 2....
A. 8 May 2009: I feel terribly sad reading your story, but i know that whatever you decide to do, you'll do it for what you believe to be the right reasons for now.
My mum left us when i was 5, she was never very maternal. She gave my elder sister to my nan for ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my boyfriend give me oral anymore?
Q. My boyfriend and I are engaged and have been for the last past year and been together for 5 years now and had a baby last july. since i had been pregnant i noticed my boyfriend stopped giving me oral sex. now i admit when i was pregnant i could not ...
A. 8 May 2009: If you asked him and there seems to be no real problem, maybe its a psychological one? You had a baby, maybe in some kind of strange way he sees your haven as that babies home and feels a little weird going back down there? Maybe he just hasnt done ... (read in full...)
I don't want to turn 30!
Q. I'm 29 and my birthday is tomorrow. I know that it's inevitable, but I can't help it. I don't want to be 30... Most people probably wouldn't consider that to be young anymore. I need words of comfort, please, the thought of my youth being over...
A. 3 May 2009: Hey, im about to turn 30 in a few months too! Its just an age, a number, you have to ignore the number and go with how you feel. I really dont feel thirty at all but when i was 15 i felt 30! go figure!!
If you want to change anything in your lif... (read in full...)
The cheating distance factor...
Q. My boyfriend lives in Illinois, and I live in California. We've been dating for a while now, without seeing each other, once. So it's officially long distance, without meeting in person :( And recently I found out he was cheating on me. I love him ...
A. 24 April 2009: i havw been married to an american for 2 years, dating for 3, i am english, i am used to being so far apart from him but we met before we decided to be an item.
if you two were exclusive and he cheated i would consider moving on. if you didnt ha... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant?
Q. Ok So Here It Goes My Boyfriend Finger Me So I Returned The Favor and he wiped his thing off then he fingerd me could i be pregnant i never slept last night thinking about it im sick to my stomach please help me im flipping out...
A. 24 April 2009: you are prob not pregnant but amy form of unsafe sex is a chance to get pregnant. im sure in this intance you will be fine but if you miss a period take a test and remember to be more careful next time
best wishes
lise xx... (read in full...)
Why would an ex tell me about his new life?
Q. Does anyone else feel like their life sucks after looking at friend's facebook? I received an email from an ex that I hadn't talked to in years. He went on to tell me that he was engaged to a girl that I had met when we were dating (she was a ...
A. 24 April 2009: sometimes i dont think people tell you stuff to make themselves look better or for you to feel bad - i think he is genuinely happy with his life and jsut felt thst you would be too - we dont all recognise that our lives dont all move at the same ... (read in full...)
My lover lives far away....
Q. My boyfriend lives over 700 miles away from me, and I get so lonely sometimes. He is really busy with school, as am I, and it feels like forever since I've seen him last. We talk all the time on the phone and online, but I miss him desperatly...Any ...
A. 23 April 2009: My husband is American and i'm English - we spent the last 3 years over 4000 miles apart on a far too regular basis and it was hard but it is possible.
Try and tell yourself that its not forever, you'll see him again - many people have no one, at ... (read in full...)
Am I over reacting and have I a right to set those boundaries?
Q. I am a 36 year old mother of three, that has been divorced for almost 2 years. I have been in a relationship with a 28 year old for the past 10 months. I was married for 12 years so it has been very challeging to going back into the dating scene. My ...
A. 20 April 2009: I think when you come out of a long relationship its hard to find a balance and foothold on and in a new one when you're so usd to things being a certain way before and without getting yourself hurt.
I dont think that is is wrong for him to have ... (read in full...)
Sees me out, we have sex, and then he doesn't get back to me! Its happened twice!
Q. Im gonna be honest from the start about my problem and would like honest answers. Back in December I slept with a man who afterwards didnt want to know me because I had a drug problem. I did have a cocaine problem until January of this year when his ...
A. 18 April 2009: i think its a cliche but time will get you over it!
what you have to think of it like is a chapter in your life - this guy was that much to you that you stopped a habbit, you're on a good path now and you just dont need the shit - you might ws... (read in full...)
Should I believe him? He said he didn't post profile and messages on online dating sites.
Q. hey there i need advice as im soo confused me n my bf hav bin 2gtha a yr, i had my doubts about him cheating as hes told me a few lies in the past, so i decided to do some hunting. i went on to google n typed in the user name he uses the most, t...
A. 17 April 2009: You need to get out of this relationship, its unhealthy before its even really started - you have had little or no reassurance from this man, its more than sinister, its down right disgusting.
If you cant trust him, you have to get out before i... (read in full...)
Had my period...can I still be pregnant?
Q. I had sex with a guy. We used protection, im not on the pill but i think i might be pregnant. We had sex about 2 years ago and i fell pregnant then. That was protected too but still. I had what i thought was my period last week but it was ligh...
A. 17 April 2009: you may be worrying about being pregnant because you were pregnant before - the worry of being pregnant can stress you out and make your perios late or lighter and sometimes even cause phantom symptoms.
By all means take a test, wait it out till... (read in full...)
Should I ask him to marry me?
Q. Hiya, I've been thinking about asking my bf of 5 months to marry me... I'm very confused, i am 24 and have been with my new (29 yr old) boyfriend for 5 months. We are very close and very much in love and moved in with each other very shortly ...
A. 17 April 2009: You should do whatever you feel is comfortable and feels right - hell, my husband proposed to me 3 days after we met, we've now been together 3 years and married for over 2 of them! His philosophy was that he was never going to love me more than he ... (read in full...)
My husband likes to watch me sleeping. Is this odd?
Q. ok its a little weird but i have been married 7 and 1/2 years and ever since i got married when i go to bed at night after i am asleep my husband will mess with me in my sleep and i will wake up and not say anything but just pretend like i am still ...
A. 17 April 2009: I know i love to look at my husband when he sleeps, he is just so ridiculously adorable, but then what? He's asleep and so i go to sleep or go do something else because sitting there staring at him all night would be a little creepy. I think w... (read in full...)
I think I'm pregnant yet we're not supposed to be around each other.
Q. Now i'm 16 and his 20. I have no clue what to do i think i'm pregnant by him which cause a problem cuz we're not suppose to be around each other. that's my mother's doing....
A. 17 April 2009: What was the reason for you not being allowed around this guy, was in just an age thing or something more sinister? As the last poster said, you are NOT stupid nor are you silly AT ALL and please don't think that you are. Ok, so you broke the... (read in full...)
My husband answered an online question by a girl. Should I approach him on it?
Q. I've been having trouble with my trust issues with my husband and now I found that he answered a question that was asked online by a girl is this really something to be mad over and should I approach him about it? I'm really upset about this!...
A. 16 April 2009: What sort of question, where, on a forum? in an email? what was the context?... (read in full...)
Do you think I can have sex in the future, with my problem right now?
Q. I was wondering if I had a problem. I try to use tampons instead of pads, but I can't seem to fit them in. I have a light flow for about 4 days,every 5 weeks. I thought that may be the problem, but I'm not sure. All of my friends use tampons and ...
A. 16 April 2009: I refuse to use tampons, they are uncomfortable and tricky little buggers. I have a very light flow for 3 dys every 28 days and the stress of tampons are just not worth the hassle - i've never had a problem with sex though and neither should you ... (read in full...)
I am really baffled by this!
Q. My husband and I have been married a year together for two.. When we got together his oldest daughters were moved out and it was just his son.. Well his oldest daughter was living with her boyfriend and his parents. Neither one of them had a jo...
A. 16 April 2009: I think he cares for his daughter and wants to see the best for her but i dont feel that it should be your responsibility to care for her or the child, no. By all means, if he wants to look after her, let him take care of everything, he m... (read in full...)
Sees me out, we have sex, and then he doesn't get back to me! Its happened twice!
Q. Im gonna be honest from the start about my problem and would like honest answers. Back in December I slept with a man who afterwards didnt want to know me because I had a drug problem. I did have a cocaine problem until January of this year when his ...
A. 15 April 2009:
situations like this drive us nuts because we just cannot get into the other persons head and figure it all out, i think you should take what has happened and put it in your pocket and wait and see if it goes anywhere. while you are... (read in full...)
Having an affair...
Q. If you have an affair, and then she goes cold, is it guilt on her part of just trying to protect her feelings from becoming deep love that will force her to decide on quitting her relationship?...
A. 7 March 2009: sometimes we want what we cant have, until we get it, then we have to think about whether the grass really is greener or if we're making a mistake.
I do think you can love more than one person at a time but societies rules make it difficul... (read in full...)
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