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I am a lady in my 30's with 3 children and a few pets. I have experienced many a different awkward situation in my life and I have a lot of advice to give! Don't be afraid to ask! :)

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She avoids me now that she has a new bf! What can I do?

Q.   My gf avoids me what to do...? I love her more then myself but she hates me. Now she is in love with a new bf....

A.   25 January 2010: If she is with someone else, she is no longer your girlfriend. I suggest trying to move on and find somebody new, who can care about, and love you, as much as you do them. Good luck ... (read in full...)

She avoids me now that she has a new bf! What can I do?

Q.   My gf avoids me what to do...? I love her more then myself but she hates me. Now she is in love with a new bf....

A.   25 January 2010: If she is with someone else, she is no longer your girlfriend. I suggest trying to move on and find somebody new, who can care about, and love you, as much as you do them. Good luck ... (read in full...)

I want a divorce, my wife is pregnant and I'm having an affair with our neighbour....help!

Q.   I am 32 yrs old and have been married for 4 yrs. A year ago we moved to a new town and my wife and I drifted apart. She befriended our neighbours and became close friends with the lady. We would often go to dinners there and I met their now 19 yr ...

A.   24 January 2010: Oh geez, you've really gotten yourself into a pickle here!! I can only suggest that the best thing for you to do is to be open and honest about this to ALL parties as soon as possible - there is no avoiding hurt or shame here and I think as a man... (read in full...)

How can I ever let go of this?

Q.   last weekend me and some friends went to a local lounge and started having a few drinks.... Except for me, I finished a bottle of spirit (I know this because of the bill I later found in my pocket....) I actually should have had alcohol poisonin...

A.   24 January 2010: Sometimes we all do really silly things when we are drunk - I know this from experience. I think the only thing you can do is just be thankful that you weren't with a 55 yr old man, chained to a bedpost, in a different country by the time you... (read in full...)

What will I do if she becomes pregnant?

Q.   hi. my girlfriend and i had unprotected sex then she took a morning after pill. we had sex two more times and she took another dose. am afraid of her becoming pregnant. we are both in college. we are waiting. what will i do if she becomes pregnant? ...

A.   2 January 2010: Chances are that she won't be pregnant, this time, but there is ALWAYS a chance that the morning after pill won't work. If she is taking it multiple times this could be dangerous to her health. Stop playing russian roulette with a new life,... (read in full...)

I'm worried about a 2 year age gap

Q.   G'day... A girl and I like eachother- a lot. However, I am 15 and she is 13. When we are out together, it seems right and all that jazz. But the only thing im worried about is the two year age gap. Would be greatful for any advice! Thanks :)....

A.   30 December 2009: Hey there! It is interesting that you are mindful of the age gap, 2 years can seem a world away when you are only 15! My mum and my dad were a whole 15 years apart and they survived for many years without much trouble and so a 2 year age gap really ... (read in full...)

First time sex and he wants me to plan everything

Q.   Me and my boyfriend are going to have sex it is my first time but not his. He wants me to plan everything but idk what a comfortable position is. Can anyone please help me and tell me so i know. He also wants to know if he should finger me and eat ...

A.   30 December 2009: First of all, if you are only 13, 14 or 15, you really shouldn't be planning to have sex - it is illegal and emotionally not recommended. IF you are genuine, and this situation is real, then you really should NOT be having sex with this guy full... (read in full...)

If I end up with my Spanish teacher in the end, would I still be considered straight?

Q.   I know what love is despite what everyone will say. Yes, I'm just a 17 year old girl, but there's not a certain age that breaks the barrier of being able to be in love or not. Anyways, I'm in love with my Spanish teacher. That's not the problem. ...

A.   30 December 2009: You are currently having thoughts and feelings that are not straight feelings but they aren't lesbian tendencies either. You are a little curious and most people go through a similar stage in life and surprisingly a lot of people will have crushes ... (read in full...)

Pregnant: yes or no?

Q.   Hi, I am shantha am an indian 33 years old i have irregular period, i took a treatment vide ayurveda. After treatment, past five month i have regular period. last month i missed my period and also i got pregnancy symptoms, like frequent urination, ...

A.   30 December 2009: The only way to know for sure is to go back to your doctor for blood work. You can have many false negatives before you get a positive result from a regular at home pregnancy test, especially if your HGC levels are still low. A blood test is ... (read in full...)

He broke up with me 3 days before Christmas, Help!

Q.   Yesterday my boyfriend came home from a ski trip. When he came back he told me we should break up. He said that the reason was that he felt like more of just a friend then a boyfriend and that it was better for him. I told him we can try and fix it. ...

A.   22 December 2009: Some men, belive it or not, like to break up with women before Xmas so that they don't have to go to the families for lunch nor buy a present - if he tried to get back with you after xmas, take it as a warning! He's a cheap skate! If he broke up... (read in full...)

Is it normal to not want a boyfriend?

Q.   Is it normal not to want a bf? Or to even not be attracted to guys? I feel it not normal coz it does feel weird not to like guys...

A.   19 December 2009: Im 30 years old and i've dated maybe 6 people in my life. I'm rarely attracted to anyone or anything, I thought this was strange for a while but I think it has something to do with the fact that I have a specific taste in guys rather than not liking ... (read in full...)

Have I become her slave?

Q.   Ladyfriend asks me to do favors for her. When we're at my house she wants me to provide cocktails, snacks, movies, clean bathroom, clean bed, etc. But the favors are growing in scope. Now she has me fixing her house,hanging cabinets, fixing ...

A.   19 December 2009: You're not a slave, just eager to please and she might be taking advantage of this. Take a step back and don't do so much for her. If she throws a fit because she isn't getting her way, you need to find yourself a new ladyfriend. ... (read in full...)

How do I word my Christmas card to him? I want to ask him out on a date.

Q.   "hi there, i somewhat attracted to my fitness instructor. everytime i take his class, he can't seem to take his eyes off me. i'm somewhat shy, but i do stare back at him. the problem is that he has no problem speaking to other women but when it ...

A.   19 December 2009: I definitely agree that you shouldn't say that you're the brunette he can't keep his eyes off of, you'll end up making him feel like a stalker. Maybe instead of asking him on a date by writing in the card, you should write him a simple merry xm... (read in full...)

Do other people get punished during sex?

Q.   When me and my boyfriend have sex, he likes to spank me hard with his belt and he has even stuck a few pins in my bum as we are doing it. Do other people get punished the same way?...

A.   19 December 2009: Some people do, some people don't. The key point to remember is that the ones who do do it WILLINGLY! If you're not happy with your boyfriends approach to sex, you don't have to agree to it. While it isn't the "Norm", it isn't unheard... (read in full...)

Do other people get punished during sex?

Q.   When me and my boyfriend have sex, he likes to spank me hard with his belt and he has even stuck a few pins in my bum as we are doing it. Do other people get punished the same way?...

A.   19 December 2009: Some people do, some people don't. The key point to remember is that the ones who do do it WILLINGLY! If you're not happy with your boyfriends approach to sex, you don't have to agree to it. While it isn't the "Norm", it isn't unheard... (read in full...)

I was torn between two but I think I chose the wrong one!

Q.   Big Problem. Okay, my boyfriend and i have been dating for 5 years... known him for 6. We use to have major problems off and on. Loved him to death and really knew i wanted him. We lived far apart for the first 3 years of knowing each other. W...

A.   18 December 2009: Unfortunately you're in a no win situation - if you had chosen the other guy, you'd have been feeling the what if's with the guy you are with now - we all want what we don't have but it is worse when it is something we could have had. I've ... (read in full...)

Hes broke and I think hes hiding things from me.

Q.   My boyfriend mentioned a welcome home party fro his friend this Saturday, and I told him I worked. I then suggested he pick me up from work, and we can go together. He replied with: "Maybe,I'm running low on cash though." He buys things all the damn ...

A.   18 December 2009: If you're worried then just tell him you'll meet him at the party, get someone else to take you, see what happens?... (read in full...)

My ex has sex with me and then goes and calls his girlfriend

Q.   Three weeks ago i found out that my boyfriend was cheating with me. We had a big fight and he left me. He called me bitch and said he never loved me. One week ago he called me and asked for help...he came to my state to do his pratical and he needed ...

A.   18 December 2009: You need to stop having sex with this man RIGHT NOW! He doesn't love you anymore and you are letting yourself be used. You might still love him, but he is with someone else now, and he is clearly not letting them go if he feels the need t... (read in full...)

Dad is cheating on mom I have the messages as proof do I let mom hear them?

Q.   My parents have been married for 19 years and my dad has been cheating on my mom for as long as i can remember i believe she knows i thought he stopped but i have his voicemail password and i secretly check it a few times a week and there are ...

A.   18 December 2009: In this situation you have put yourself in the middle of business that really shouldn't be your concern. Yes, they are your parents but you might not want them listening to your emails or interfering in your private life either. You don't ha... (read in full...)

His text said "What are we going to do about us?" I thought he wasn't interested!

Q.   My partner and I were together for 2 1/2 years in a long distance relationship. I am very confused and I think he is too as there was no official split. We last saw each other in late September. I had made several arrangements for us to meet up ...

A.   18 December 2009: I think that perhaps he and you are both meant to just be friends but he probably doesn't want the one to say it and make it official. He is probably treading carefully because he wants you to suggest that you both be friends so that he doesn't have ... (read in full...)

He isthe love of my life and I let him slip away!

Q.   I got married really young at the age of 19 to my first boyfriend.I'm married but deeply inlove with someone else who also happens to have a girlfriend and is expecting his first child. I met this guy about 5 years ago and we have so much incommon. ...

A.   11 December 2009: I think you might have to accept that he is the one that got away - he is now expecting his first child and all sorts of emotions will be going through his mind with regards to his last ounce of freedom, his life about to change and all these other ... (read in full...)

We were friends until he told me he loved me...help!?

Q.   My best friend of 2 and half years told me he loved me a few weeks ago and i was very happy and told him how i felt about him in return. Later on in the conversation he then said he was unsure of his feelings for me and didn't want to say anym...

A.   9 December 2009: Sometimes when we think we love someone we mull it over and over and make it bigger than it is in our head until we finally blurt it out - sometimes this moment of an I love you either makes the person realize that while they're saying it it doesn't ... (read in full...)

Is there a chance that I might be pregnant?

Q.   Ever since i thought i was pregnant, my periods have become more irregular... and i actually skipped one last month! My mother keeps questioning me about pregnancy, of which i've been denying because the last time i had intercourse was back in July ...

A.   9 December 2009: There is every chance you might be pregnant, yes. Not all pregnancy's are the same and not every woman can tell that they are without blood work. You haven't taken a pregnancy test yet but this is one of the very first things you should have don... (read in full...)

No period since taking the morning after pill!!!

Q.   I took the morning after pill ( levonelle ) and now my period is 6 weeks late. When i was 2 weeks late i went to the doctors for a urine test and it came back negative. Could this test be wrong or can the morning after pill make your period this ...

A.   29 November 2009: I have taken it twice, it can mess up your cycle. If in doubt, take another test, but you should be fine. Let us know what happens xxx... (read in full...)

Is he a "Phony"? Am I being taken down the Primrose Path? HELP!

Q.   What do you think of the situation where you IM and text daily and where a man and woman have exchanged telephone numbers as well, but every time I try to call him, it goes to voicemail (both cell and house phone), and when I ask (via text) if I can ...

A.   24 November 2009: My husband was a long distance relationship when we were dating and he would text me and email me but would barely pick up the phone because he HATES the phone, talking on it etc et.... I thought this was just an excuse not to talk to me or whate... (read in full...)

Is their relationship against the law?

Q.   one of my best mates has just turned 15. about 7 months ago when she was 14 she was going out with a 17 year old, they where great together and she was madly in love with him. but he works at a primary school training children after school. ...

A.   24 November 2009: legally, there is nothing to say that they can't date, but in England they cannot have sex until she is 16 years old. If they do sleep together then he WILL be breaking the law and could end up with jail time and the loss of his job working with ... (read in full...)

Should I ask her out even though we are total opposites of each other?

Q.   Look Im in the teen years I really want to ask this girl out be she is like the total opposite to me aka I am a computer expert but not that good in the looks department and she's a beautiful and has a good personality and humor so should I ask her ...

A.   24 November 2009: The old cliche is that "opposites attract". Why not ask her out. Life is too short. If she says no, you can't say you didn't try. If she says yes, you'll be glad you asked! I think you should bite the bullet and ask away :) Good luck!!! xx... (read in full...)

I'm worried he'll spend every weekend driving his children around and not be a proper step-dad to mine!

Q.   Hello Aunts/Uncles I really need opinions here. I have been engaged to a wonderful man for 6 months now and although we do not live together at the moment, the plan is for him to move in next year. I have two children living with me from my first...

A.   24 November 2009: I think that you're going to be in for a bumpy transition when he moves into your home. I think you're perfectly right in expecting him to spend as much time with your family unit as he does his biological children but you will have to realize ... (read in full...)

Should I foster or adopt a child against my boyfriend's advice?

Q.   I have a boyfriend of six months who is against my idea of fostering a child. My idea is to adopt a child if i dont get married, and i would like to start with fostering. I realise i have been puting my plans on 'hold' waitng for marriage.I havent ...

A.   24 November 2009: NEVER mess with adoption and children if you cannot first get a definite amount of support and comfort in your own home and relationship. If you are serious about adoption then you really need to stop thinking about wanting a child for YOU and ... (read in full...)

I'm worried he has developed feelings for my best friend, after he performed oral sex on her!

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together on and off for the better part of 5 years. I recently finished school and he asked me to move in with him so I agreed. It has been 5 months and were both under the impression we were heading toward marriage. For ...

A.   24 November 2009: Cheating is cheating and I don't think forgiving either of them is the issue here. You have to look at yourself and see if you can carry on in a relationship with this man knowing that he is not un-swayed by other people and temptation. If yo... (read in full...)

My wife wants me back but I've booked a holiday with my internet lover!

Q.   I develop an embarasing problem where i lost all of my head hair. resently my wife and i have drifted away and i was planning to leave her for another beautiful woman that i met online. she is dazling. since my head hair loss things have turned rite ...

A.   24 November 2009: You need to be honest and open about this sooner rather than later before someone gets hurt. You can't be intimate with this woman if you no longer want to be with her - give her some respect and stop stringing her along. Tell her you want a d... (read in full...)

He wants to drop child support in case his wife finds out!

Q.   I had a child with a married man. He has to pay child support and he wants me to drop child support because he doesn't want his wife to find out. He tell's me I need to do the right thing or he'll never see his child again (he only see's once a ...

A.   24 November 2009: This: "he tells me that if he does have to keep paying support he will tell my son it was my fault that his father wasn't around" is emotional blackmail. YOU should NEVER feel guilty for allowing this man to PAY for HIS son. If he cannot ... (read in full...)

Is my teacher flirting with me? Could my crush be something more? Help!

Q.   Warning: This question is kind of long. I appreciate all opinions. Thank you for reading! I have a problem and desperately need some advice and help. I know I’m like the majority of teenage girls out there, who have experienced this at one poin...

A.   21 November 2009: Hey, I can fully understand that it might feel very real and very warm to be flirted with and given attention by your teacher, of whom you have a crush, but I think the thing you need to be careful of here is that you're thinking this over in your ... (read in full...)

My ex wanted me to have an abortion, but now he wants visitation rights

Q.   Im 18 years old and i have a 3 month old little boy with my ex whose 22. He wants to have some sort of visitation rights but i dont want him to. Since when i found out i was pregnant at 17 he left me for another girl and told me to have an abortion. ...

A.   21 November 2009: The situation and the course of action to take now, depends on your state and the rules there in. The fact that you weren't married to this guy and the fact that, at the time, he wanted you to get a termination, will make absolutely no differen... (read in full...)

He wants to drop child support in case his wife finds out!

Q.   I had a child with a married man. He has to pay child support and he wants me to drop child support because he doesn't want his wife to find out. He tell's me I need to do the right thing or he'll never see his child again (he only see's once a ...

A.   21 November 2009: The right thing for your child is to keep the child support. I know it must be a difficult situation for both you and he but the facts are the facts and his responsibility lies with the child. You are entitled to that money for your child, ... (read in full...)

No gift from BF on birthday....?

Q.   I have been with my BF for three years. He has always been really romantic and thoughtful in the area of giving gifts on special days. However, our 3 yr anniversary passed about 6 wks ago and he did not get me a gift. A card, which was nice, but ...

A.   19 November 2009: I really don't think it is all together strange behaviour at all, I think Honeygirl hit the nail on the head when she said that; "He has lavished all this attention on his kids and his mom, because not matter what, they love him as he is." He is... (read in full...)

New girlfriend vs daughter from ex wife

Q.   I've been divorced for over 2 years now. I've got a 4yr old daughter that lives with mom. I see her on Mondays and have her every second weekend, holiday etc. The divorce was easy, friendly and we're still friendly. I've been dating the girl of ...

A.   19 November 2009: You're a very strong person, and somewhat wise, person to be looking at this from every angle, and I think that it's positive that you've managed to have discussions with one another about the situation like adults. This certainly means that the ... (read in full...)

No gift from BF on birthday....?

Q.   I have been with my BF for three years. He has always been really romantic and thoughtful in the area of giving gifts on special days. However, our 3 yr anniversary passed about 6 wks ago and he did not get me a gift. A card, which was nice, but ...

A.   19 November 2009: If he isn't the kind of guy that usually misses birthdays etc, and you say that the intimacy isn't there then, again, I think you need to talk. Perhaps seek counseling? You have a problem with his weight, which isn't a bad thing, it is personal... (read in full...)

New girlfriend vs daughter from ex wife

Q.   I've been divorced for over 2 years now. I've got a 4yr old daughter that lives with mom. I see her on Mondays and have her every second weekend, holiday etc. The divorce was easy, friendly and we're still friendly. I've been dating the girl of ...

A.   19 November 2009: First of all I really do not think that you're communicating as well as you would like to think that you are, if this is still an ongoing problem and getting worse. Unfortunately it can take a long while sometimes for the reality of the situatio... (read in full...)

No gift from BF on birthday....?

Q.   I have been with my BF for three years. He has always been really romantic and thoughtful in the area of giving gifts on special days. However, our 3 yr anniversary passed about 6 wks ago and he did not get me a gift. A card, which was nice, but ...

A.   19 November 2009: If you say something to him you might come across as being ungrateful or money grabbing - make sure that if you do talk to him about it you don't mention that he spent X amount on so and so or X amount on something else, just say that you feel hurt ... (read in full...)

Are they husband and wife?Cousins? Or brother and sister?

Q.   My son married my best friends daughter a few yrs ago and have a kid. 5 months ago i hooked up with my friend and now she is expecting our kid. How do we figure this out. The new baby will be both our kids half sibling making them not only related ...

A.   19 November 2009: Sorry, my chart didn't show like i expected it to, but basically, i've explained it in the text :) XxxxX ... (read in full...)

Are they husband and wife?Cousins? Or brother and sister?

Q.   My son married my best friends daughter a few yrs ago and have a kid. 5 months ago i hooked up with my friend and now she is expecting our kid. How do we figure this out. The new baby will be both our kids half sibling making them not only related ...

A.   19 November 2009: I think you've probably just about worked it out for yourself :) It might look something like this: You ---------------- Best friend / /\ \ / you and bff daught... (read in full...)

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