Is love possible between a 20 year old male and a 16 year old girl?
Q. Is love possible with a 20year male and 16year girl? Will girls tend to change after they attain 18years/maturity? Does she still have love with a person whom after falling in love didnt talk to her for a month?...
A. 18 June 2014: It is entirely possible but wholly impractical and I think that you aught to leave well alone.
While a 4 year age difference doesn't seem like much if you are 30 an they are 26, there is a whole world of difference between a 16 year old and a 20... (read in full...)
I have a partner. Should I be feeling this way when I look at another man?
Q. I'm 22 years old. I have been in a relationship with my man for five years on and off. We have a very rocky kind of relationship but we also have alot of happy times too. He works all the time, i never see him. We live together and have a four year ...
A. 18 June 2014: First of all, I don't think that you are a bad person, not at all - you recognised the significance in these chats you were having with this man and called them off and that is a very big and brave thing to do for everyone involved.
You really n... (read in full...)
My ex and I broke up should I still ask her to go on a trip we had planned?
Q. My ex and I broke up a month ago (I'm trying to convince her to take me back) we had plans to travel and visit my sister next week. It's an 8 hour drive and we were going to spend a week there. Should I ask her to still come with me since it would ...
A. 18 June 2014: I really feel as though you owe it to yourself and your ex to take the trip, as planned, but on your own. Don't push it back and don't ask her to go with you, just take the time and space, which you both really do need to think things over, and then ... (read in full...)
She didnt want to be involved with me so why does she want my attention?
Q. I had feelings for a woman but they were not reciprocated. It has taken a long time to come to terms with this and to understand that it wasn't about me, about me being rejected it was about her and what she wanted or doesn't want from life. She ...
A. 9 June 2014: If she is a single mother then I am sure she has been through it all before and just doesn't want to get hurt or have the hassle around her kid/s.
She may very much enjoy your company but just doesn't want to commit to anything more, but that doe... (read in full...)
Should people have to change their personalities for others?
Q. Hello people. I was reading an article about relationships today, and it said that you can't go into a relationship expecting that you won't need to adjust your personality. This seems like a pile of horse turds to me, but I was wondering what y...
A. 9 June 2014: Sometimes you have to consider whether the way you act is right for the situation you are in and for the task at hand - however, when you are at home, with your spouse, you are supposed to be able to be yourself and not have to put on heirs and ... (read in full...)
My long distance girlfriend make me feel anxious and insecure.
Q. My long distance girlfriend make me feel anxious, insecure. Yesterday was our second anniversary. I sent her flowers and she texted me until almost 10 pm. I know she forgot it and pretended it wasnt. I know her family and friends and they are kind...
A. 8 June 2014: I don't agree that she has lost interest - she might just be secure enough in the knowledge that you will be together that she doesn't feel the need to constantly be there
I was in a LDR from 2006 until 2009 when we finally moved in together... (read in full...)
I'm tired of hearing the old stories over and over again and I'm snapping at everyone!
Q. I’ve become real short with people. I don’t know why. I just don’t have the patience to listen to the same stories and complaints over and over again. And I know everyone has their own ‘greatest hits’ material, myself included, so I don’t know why I ...
A. 8 June 2014: i think that there is truly only so much anyone can take from any one person and when you are listening to the same stories over and over again from everyone you know it can get tiresome - either they need to shush about it or get a new line of ... (read in full...)
I found out my boyfriend of 7 years cheated on me and I don't know what to do
Q. Earlier this week I found out my boyfriend of 7 years cheated on me. We were hanging out at the park and he was showing me a text message from a friend that was funny. So i was read it and then decided to randomly look at his other texts for fun. ...
A. 8 June 2014: Also, I wanted to add that people don't usually look through their partners phones for fun, there is usually a reason why we want to snoop if we do it. Perhaps deep down you expected to find this and it was more of a shock to the system because of ... (read in full...)
I found out my boyfriend of 7 years cheated on me and I don't know what to do
Q. Earlier this week I found out my boyfriend of 7 years cheated on me. We were hanging out at the park and he was showing me a text message from a friend that was funny. So i was read it and then decided to randomly look at his other texts for fun. ...
A. 8 June 2014: Honestly, I dont think you will ever know for sure if he is sorry, or not and I think this is something that you will have to learn to deal with as you move on.
I would not contact him, again, and would take a big step back to re-affirm your own... (read in full...)
I don't think the ex has a right to question our financial decisions
Q. Hi aunts and uncles. My boyfriend has a child with ex wife. Whenever we spend money on ourselves he gets questioned why money was spent on us, and who paid. Recently we went away for a short holiday. His son (13) phoned and asked why he spent money ...
A. 8 June 2014: It is absolutely NONE of her business what you choose to do with your money once child support is paid. If there is a child support order in place and those bills are getting dealt with them you have every right to do what you like with the cash.
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Can I trust her to cut all ties to this facebook friend?
Q. I recently found my wife chatting with a man with whom she made friendship on Facebook. They have been talking on phone for past six months. She claims they never met each other and they were chatting as just friends. I am deeply hurt because s...
A. 7 June 2014: Again, you need to see what is missing in your relationship before you can figure out what really happened here. If she has cut ties with this man then that is great but she will do it again with someone else if you do not address the fact that your ... (read in full...)
Neighbor asked my daughter to be bridesmaid then cancelled the big wedding and now I'm stuck with a dress and shoes!
Q. My Nextdoor neighbour was due to get married in August and asked my 7 year old daughter to be bridesmaid. My daughter was thrilled as she'd never been a bridesmaid before and it was probably her only chance (before shes an adult)as all our ...
A. 7 June 2014: Also, yes, you would have been out of $200 if your daughter was in the wedding, but you wouldn't have been out of a memory for her or the experience, so I don't think that the comments about how it was silly to spend that cash were too helpful or ... (read in full...)
Neighbor asked my daughter to be bridesmaid then cancelled the big wedding and now I'm stuck with a dress and shoes!
Q. My Nextdoor neighbour was due to get married in August and asked my 7 year old daughter to be bridesmaid. My daughter was thrilled as she'd never been a bridesmaid before and it was probably her only chance (before shes an adult)as all our ...
A. 7 June 2014: I am really sorry that you were put in this position, but I do have an idea!
Put an add on Craigslist for the dress and shoes and see if you can get price for them - if not then perhaps you can exchange it for something else that might suit a m... (read in full...)
What do I do? All they do is complain about his ex-wife
Q. My fiancé's mother and father are hard edged and bitter towards their last daughter in law. My fiancé is divorced. They were only allowed to see the grandchildren on a limited basis. He has two grown children. The connection is broken with the ...
A. 7 June 2014: It is difficult when you enter into a relationship with someone who has an ex who caused the family a lot of trouble or heartache and it is hard to know where the lines are. I am in a relationship with a guy who had a kid with his ex and there was ... (read in full...)
After 7 years together how much does the average couple have sex?
Q. Hi there I am just about to move in with my boyfriend of 7 years. I just wonder really how often on average couples who have been together this long have sex? We hardly do anymore. Maybe once or twice a month at the moment. Half the time I ca...
A. 6 June 2014: First of all I don't agree with the poster who said that it goes downhill after a week or that men are the ones looking elsewhere, it can happen to anyone and women do stray too and many relationships remain passionate with the right person long ... (read in full...)
Who pays when the guys invite the girls?
Q. We went out with 2 guys yesterday, my friend and I. The whole discussion with her started after I noticed ( I think) that when It was time to pay, the guys were kind of hesitant ( may be I am mistaken). I was ready to offer to pay for my drinks, ...
A. 20 May 2014: Women want equality and there for women need to be prepared to offer to pay their fair share.
IF the guy offers and pays then so be it, but it doesn't hurt to pay! When you go out, you should also go only if you have money to pay and never ex... (read in full...)
Should I try again with my ex? We have 2 daughters and have been apart for 4 years.
Q. My question is whether it is a good idea to try have a relationship with an ex again when there is children involved? My ex wants to get back together after 4 years apart, and even though I would like to try, I have a fear it would affect our...
A. 20 May 2014: honestly, I think life is too short and if you both have feelings for one another, why not go out on a few coffee dates, nothing fancy, just casual and see where it goes? There is no rush and the kids don't have to know right now and so it won't ... (read in full...)
What does proposing mean for a man?
Q. Hi agony uncles What does a proposal mean to you? What is it like to propose to your longtime girlfriend, if she was waiting for it for a long time and sent A LOT of hints? Do you want to surprise her with the question even she is really expe...
A. 11 May 2014: I'm not a guy, but as a woman I just wanted to say that not all women really care about being proposed to. My husband asked me to marry him while we were just laying around. He was like "we should get married" and I was like "ok" - it was that easy. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend always wakes me up with the words 'I gotta to kick you out'!!
Q. I have a question about how a boy friend normally wakes a girl up in the morning. This guy I have been seeing for several months now always wakes me up with the words 'I gotta to kick you out. It's not very romantic and an awful way to have to be ...
A. 27 April 2014: Where does he live, on his own, with family, with room mates? Sometimes that can make a difference in how he feels in the morning and not wanting to make a scene in front of people.
If he lives on his own, then this guy is being a total jerk - I... (read in full...)
His focus is not on me anymore. Is this the beginning of the end of our relationship?
Q. I need to start by saying i feel like a stupid teenager for feeling the way i do bout the changes in my relationship. Like i'm being a whiney, clingy, insecure, jealous teeny-bopper. But, this is how I feel, so here goes. We've been together 10 ...
A. 27 April 2014: I think the best thing to do is to sit down and ask him. You moved in together very early on and now you've hit a point where things are not where YOU want them to be but he might be perfectly content and happy but has just slowed down a bit like ... (read in full...)
Met a girl I like but am a virgin and want to tell her but don't want to seem pathetic or clueless.
Q. For various reasons (a mix of bad luck, bad timing and my own commitment issues) I've never have had a girlfriend. Sure I've been on dates but it's never gone anywhere because either I'm not interested or I struggle to pursue something I am ...
A. 22 April 2014: I don't think it is a bad thing to wait to have sex and I sure wish that I had waited, sometimes!
I think that no matter what happens, you will have a moment where you feel comfortable enough to tell her and it will happen on its own and you will... (read in full...)
Keep thinking about my boyfriends ex irrationally. Help!
Q. Hi there, Having some trouble with my boyfriends ex. I am 22, he is my first serious boyfriend, and consequently the first guy I felt comfortable enough sleeping with. we've been together about half a year, but for some weird reason I cannot st...
A. 22 April 2014: Honestly, I think this is something we all go through no matter how many relationships we've been in, how long we've been in them, how old we are or anything else - it is human to worry about losing something we love and it is good that you are ... (read in full...)
Break up because I sent him to work?
Q. Met this guy six months ago. Before that he was working but resigned from his job due to a disagreement with his boss. Six months later and he is still unemployed. Talking all this crap on marriage and having kids which i see it as a sacrifice. I ...
A. 20 April 2014: You are much better off without someone like that and it looks as though you know it already and so good for you for standing by why you believe.
I wouldn't worry about him in town, it will most likely be that he'll avoid you at all costs, j... (read in full...)
Is it appropriate if my boyfriend of a year visits a female friend who is currently studying overseas alone?
Q. Is it appropriate if my boyfriend of a year visits a female friend who is currently studying overseas alone? Frankly, I do not feel comfortable with this arrangement at all, even if they are good friends. He did not tell me where his accomodations ...
A. 20 April 2014: This is absolutely ridiculous, and you have a right not to feel comfortable with this idea, at all! It sure would set alarm bells ringing for sure!
It is one thing to go out for coffee with an old friend of any gender and something totally ... (read in full...)
Should I be friends with him or not? I think I am attracted to him though I am happily married and deeply in love with my husband!
Q. I have been married for 6 years and I am deeply in love with my husband . However I have a friend very close to my heart and we get along really well ! We like each other's company and do spend a lot of time chatting on Facebook ! Recently, I have ...
A. 17 April 2014: You might need to give yourself a little time to mourn for the lost friendship and then pick yourself up. The feelings will eventually fade. xx... (read in full...)
He stopped talking to me when I 'liked' a picture on facebook
Q. Hey ! We only dated for like 2 months, but nothing happened between us because i wasn't ready for a relationship. One year later I contacted him to apologize for my bad behvaviour and that we could be friends. He added me three months ago...
A. 17 April 2014: Unfortunately you might never really know what happened here but things weren't going anywhere with you and him because you weren't ready and so he moved on and found someone else and maybe he wanted to keep his options open but maybe he thought you ... (read in full...)
Why won't these lusting feeling leave me alone about a man whom I know is taken?
Q. Dear Cupid , I am really in lust with this guy I have tried to fight my feelings but my feelings always win.He is a brick house stallion this man is taken and I know this. But we flirt back and forward with our eyes that's all but i really want to ...
A. 17 April 2014: Sometimes when a person is taken it suddenly makes them even more desirable than they were before and so I am sure that isn't helping but you really are doing yourself no favors flirting with him, either. I would knock it down a notch and try and ... (read in full...)
Would you date a busy person?
Q. My son has grown up and left home and I've met someone lovely who works shifts and also does voluntary work leading teens for outdoor awards some week ends. I really like him and he wants it to work. He was being honest saying his last two ex's ...
A. 17 April 2014: I don't think it is a bad thing at all, I think in many cases too much time together is what spoils a relationship and so having time apart, to yourselves or at work can really be beneficial.
You are in the early stages of a relationship here and... (read in full...)
When men watch porn, are they pretending it's happening to them?
Q. When men watch porn are they pretending it's happening to them? Are they pretending they are the male actor? I'm told they aren't, I don't understand what they get from it if that's not the case....
A. 16 April 2014: I think it depends on the man and what they like and are into. Some are turned on by the thought of sex and the porn stimulates that. Sometimes they can imagine they are there. Sometimes they are just wiping the day out of their mind and gearing ... (read in full...)
Should I be friends with him or not? I think I am attracted to him though I am happily married and deeply in love with my husband!
Q. I have been married for 6 years and I am deeply in love with my husband . However I have a friend very close to my heart and we get along really well ! We like each other's company and do spend a lot of time chatting on Facebook ! Recently, I have ...
A. 16 April 2014: If you are questioning the friendship you have with him then there is already a red flag for you an I think you already know the answer.
You should probably limit your contact with this guy before you put a spanner in your marriage - even a c... (read in full...)
My friend down the street is befriending my worst enemy who also lives on the same street!
Q. A few months ago my neighbor (who used to be a friend) called my husband up and proclaimed her love for him and with no inhibitions said she wanted to sleep with him and divorce her husband. My husband told me right away and we have shut this ...
A. 16 April 2014: I think sometimes it is better to stay out of other people's friendships as we never really know quite what goes on behind closed doors. This "bad" neighbor was wrong in what she did to you but that has now left you a little bias towards her and ... (read in full...)
Unhappy in my marriage.
Q. I need advice about my marriage. My husband and I have only been married a year, but we've been together for going on 7 years in December. We have a 1 year old together. I feel like we are just coexisting and not even trying to work as a team. He...
A. 14 April 2014: Sometimes it is easy to stay in a failing relationship purely because you are used to being with that particular person and are unsure of how to make change.
I would sit down and talk to him, tell him how you feel and see what he says because ... (read in full...)
Pregnant despite the pill -- how to tell the new b/f?
Q. Hi everyone I have a bit of a problem and could do with some help I have been with my boyfriend for 9 weeks now I am on the pill but have just found out I am 4 weeks pregnant I'm in total shock does anyone have any advice on how to break this news ...
A. 14 April 2014: I am a little miffed at how you know you are 4 weeks pregnant but I am assuming you had a period then this go around you didn't, tested and found out you were pregnant? If this is so, then you may not be 4 weeks along, it could be less, or there ... (read in full...)
We've been together for three years but he blocked me on Facebook?
Q. This is going to sound as pathetic as it is but it's irritating me. I've been with my partner for 3 years and we have never been friends on facebook. I don't use it much but about 2 months ago I sent him a friend request. Not only did he decline ...
A. 11 April 2014: The fact that he went out of his way to decline your friend request then block you, your friend and some family is a tad overkill and suspicious, for sure!
Of course, you don't HAVE to be friends on facebook to have a good relationship, of cours... (read in full...)
Guys, what should I do next? I want to see him again.
Q. A question for the guys: If you met a woman at a party and she wanted to see you again, how would you like to be contacted? I was at a huge anniversary party yesterday. I was bored so I looked across the room and I saw this charming guy who was ...
A. 11 April 2014: I'd go ahead and add him, no harm in that at all! If he is interested at all then things will come naturally but if he isn't then at least you'll have made a new friend! :)... (read in full...)
Can I trust her to cut all ties to this facebook friend?
Q. I recently found my wife chatting with a man with whom she made friendship on Facebook. They have been talking on phone for past six months. She claims they never met each other and they were chatting as just friends. I am deeply hurt because s...
A. 11 April 2014: Unfortunately there is no real way of knowing if you can trust her or not because the damage is already done.
I would suggest talking to her and finding out what she is missing in her relationship with you that she felt the need to be talking ... (read in full...)
My friend cheats on her boyfriend, and I think he has a right to know
Q. My dilemma actually has to do with my best friend and her boyfriend. He supports her financially, pays all the bills, and even takes care of her newborn whom ended up not being his. He forgaveher once for cheating. Well, here recently sshe's had sex ...
A. 11 April 2014: If she is your best friend then you have to talk to HER and tell her how you feel she is acting out in the wrong way and that she needs to slow down BUT realize that she might not take kindly to your words as you are supposed to be her friend and so ... (read in full...)
Texting--am I asking for too much?
Q. My bf and I text throught the day and everuthing is fine but sometimes he disappears and doesnt txt me back in a long time, and when ge returns he said he went to do something. I dislike it a lot, because I think he should be courteous and ...
A. 11 April 2014: Definitely asking a little too much, though I do get what you are saying - if you are in the middle of a conversation you would like a little courtesy yourself so that you're not sitting there waiting BUT it is just a text and so you can pick up ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my stubborn mother-in-law?
Q. My husband and I dated for 7 years and married for 4 years with 3 children. He was a very obedient son he will never make any decisions without his mom's input. We lived together for 2 years in an apartment (both worked) until his mom talked him ...
A. 11 April 2014: I would pack up your things - yours AND your husbands and get the heck out of there no matter who she is to him!
There is NO WAY you can subject yourself to more of this misery as all it will do in the long run is ruin a perfectly good marriage... (read in full...)
I thought he just wanted sex, so why would he text me afterward?
Q. I met a guy on a dating site . We text each other for a while and exchanged pictures . He asked if I wanted to meet up and stay the night at his and have a bit of fun . I agreed . When I met him he was really quiet and gave one word answers . I ...
A. 11 April 2014: If you are happy with just being a sexual encounter then that is just fine, you are both consenting adults and there is nothing at all wrong with that - but I would totally be perplexed by his behaviour for sure!
Perhaps this was his first ti... (read in full...)
Late life dilemma.
Q. I have a dilemma I hope somebody can help me with. My partner and are both 61. We've been together 4yrs and are now engaged. The problem is that we live 35 miles apart and I am the one who does all the travelling. This is due to the fact that my ...
A. 11 April 2014: Honestly, I don't think that you moving would bode too well on your relationship as you will be the one giving up everything and if you are having ANY doubts about that now then it won't get any better when you move.
I moved to a differen... (read in full...)
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