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I am a lady in my 30's with 3 children and a few pets. I have experienced many a different awkward situation in my life and I have a lot of advice to give! Don't be afraid to ask! :)

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Having an affair...

Q.   If you have an affair, and then she goes cold, is it guilt on her part of just trying to protect her feelings from becoming deep love that will force her to decide on quitting her relationship?...

A.   4 November 2009: I can see that you really want this to be more than it looks like it is from what you've said. To be honest, without the i love you's there is usually something missing. The absence of verbal re-assurance is one of the surest signs that this ... (read in full...)

What compliments do guys like to receive?

Q.   I've been talking to this guy who lives on the other side of the world, i think i'm falling in love with him... he's falled in love with me, when we are at uni we plan to meet up, i think he could be 'the one', i'm not being silly and immature, but ...

A.   17 March 2009: I have several points to make. First of all, i laughed at the previous comment about the husband matching his socks - mines happy if i compliment him on having some! :) Second of all, it is pretty common these days to have found love online, ... (read in full...)

Bump after unprotected sex 3 weeks ago..pregnant?

Q.   Hi, im 15 and 3 week ago i had sex for the first time, and we didnt use protection, i know it was stupid not to, but now ive started putting on weight, to form a sort of bump on my stomach, and people have started asking if im pregnant, and i keep ...

A.   17 March 2009: sometimes if you worry about being pregnant your mind can cause you to go through something called phantom pregnancy symptoms, where you may experience several symptoms of pregnancy even when you're not pregnant - stress can also affect the way ... (read in full...)

Failed marriages...

Q.   Anyone out there who has had a failed marriage? Why didn't it work? Did you try to make it work, but then get to a point where you just gave up? I feel like I'm about to shut down and stop trying....

A.   17 March 2009: recognising a problem early might be the key to resolution..talk to your man, perhaps over dinner? communication is important...you both have to want it to work though! Good luck!!... (read in full...)

He's shorter than me!

Q.   We like each other very much he worries all the time that i dnt like him cause hes shorter than me... M 5"10 hes 5"8. By him worrying he makes me self conscious about my height. Any idea guys please... And also girls too... Help me...

A.   17 March 2009: If you love someone height makes no difference, it might fel strange at first but you'll get used to it and just be yourselves! My friend is 6'2 and her husband is 5'7, they have been together over 20 years and hae 2 grown children, so anything... (read in full...)

Never calls me..wonder if he's cheating?

Q.   Im in love with a guy who is 4 years younger then me. Im 25 and his 21. Its just 5 months since we met. His in another state schooling and im staying home. Its four months now we haven't met. He hardly calls me. Its me who always calls and reminds ...

A.   17 March 2009: because he doesnt call doesnt mean he is cheating but it doesnt look good either - saying that, i was long distance with my husband for 2 years and he never called regularly because the time difference sucked, our working hours crossed and he htes ... (read in full...)

Is being long distance really worth breaking up over?

Q.   hello. Well, long story short; I am leaving for college in 2 months. A different country (and continent) and all. I have been dating a FANTASTIC guy for 4 months now. he is perfect, i have never had such a perfect bf in my entire life. But I ha...

A.   17 March 2009: If your heart isn't in it then you have to tell him for his sake - if you love him, you should at least try to make it work instead of regretting it later... Starting college is a huge deal in some relationships, even when you live near oneanoth... (read in full...)

Its not intentional but I'm doing sexual things to my girlfriend while I'm asleep and its upsetting her!

Q.   Okay this is really embarrassing but i have no idea where to go. I have a girlfriend, we have been going out for 1 year 4 months. Everything has been great. Had a probblem couple of months ago but since then everything has been sorted. So a...

A.   17 March 2009: Its natural, i think. to have wandering hands when you're in be sleping with someone you love...im glad to see some talking went on, i hope everything will now be ok :) xx... (read in full...)

My dad just saw us have sex and is obviously upset.

Q.   I'm 17 years old and very close to my dad, Hes been a single father since I was 3 and has made it a point to be close to my brother and I. I am a complete daddy's girl and do no wrong in his eyes. Until now!!! I have been dating my bf for almost 8...

A.   12 March 2009: I expect your dads initial reaction, and reason for shouting, is the shock - his litle grl isnt his little girl anymore, and while he knows that, it is always really hard for a parent to accept - they usually do accept this over time but they dont ... (read in full...)

My b/f says it hurts while we have sex. What does that mean?

Q.   my boyfriend says that it usually hurts when we have sex. what does this mean? are we doing something wrong? should i be concerned? [moderator's note to the poster: can you elaborate a little bit? hurt in his pelvic muscles? hurt where?]...

A.   10 March 2009: Talk to your partner, he may have a tight foreskin if it is that area that hurts or it might be a sign of something more serious if elsewhere. A propper discussion with your partner about this may help to clarify exactly what is going on and perhaps ... (read in full...)

Any tips on how to make him last longer?

Q.   My long term boyfriend and I have recently in the last 5 or so months, have started having sex. I love him, and don't in anyway regret this decision, and our relationship isnt purely physical and sex isnt everything. However, when we do have those...

A.   10 March 2009: There is a theory that men ejaculate sooner when they're worried about lasting longer, and that men worry about lasting longer when they are with someone they love and care about a lot because they want to make it special - there is also a theory ... (read in full...)

Confused male question to the ladies: do you all have a G-spot??

Q.   Hiya Been with my partner a while now, previously to that id been married most my life. All is good, but on one area im a little puzzled. With my wife her g-spot was easily found, on the front wall and a couple of inches in- and it felt like ...

A.   10 March 2009: Some women do, some women dont, some women have one and feel nothing from it... This site might help: http://www.bbc.co.uk/relationships/sex_and_sexual_health/enjsex_gspot.shtml good luck!... (read in full...)

Why can't men understand how women feel about porn?

Q.   Why cant men understand how many women feel about porn? Especially after we marry and have babies.Like it or not guys, we mothers often give up a lot when we marry and have kids, Its pretty heartbreaking when we lose our pre baby bodies and end up ...

A.   10 March 2009: because not all women feel the same about porn - and not all men like porn either....thats why neither can understand the other because we dont communicate enough... i'm a woman, last i checked, and i dont mind porn, i dont watch it often but if i... (read in full...)

How can I stop feeling like a whale in comparison to my boyfriend?

Q.   Ok, well I have been dating this guy. He's great and I love spending time with him, but I feel fat in his presence. I know it's kind of dumb, but I can't help it. He's very thin and small framed, while I on the other hand, am probably 15 pounds ...

A.   10 March 2009: I agree whole heartedly with the previous poster, there is litle you can do but be yourself and enjoy yourselfs being together and dont worry about your frame - if he is with you, he loves you for you, im sure he doesnt even notice - if he does, he ... (read in full...)

I've decided to swallow my boyfriend's semen, but I'm still scared.

Q.   i've decided to swallow my bfs semen and i'm still nervous about it. i'm afraid i'll gag from the taste. people said it's better to let it shoot down your throat but i'm horrible at deep throating. i was wondering, does the semen shoot out fast into ...

A.   9 March 2009: there is no way of telling how much, how fast or in what direction it'll happen as every time can be different - if your worried about gagging or choking, let him give you an indication wen he's about to cum so you'll not be taken by surprise - ... (read in full...)

I just found out he has a child!

Q.   Dear Cupid i have been in this relationship for four years with this guy i love him very much and i know that he loves me too.the problem is tht this past week the was a lady who came to him and told him that he has a 4 or 5 year old girl whit her...

A.   9 March 2009: Im sorry that you have this situation to deal with and realise it coul be quite upstting but this woman has bought this to you and it seems that he is doing the right thing for being tested. If the child does in fact turn out to be his it will ... (read in full...)

I took 2 morning after pills at the same time!

Q.   i bought some morning afterpills after having unprotected sex last night with my husband. i took both pills immediately without reading the instructions, which after i read i saw i had to take one then the other one after 12 hrs from the first one. ...

A.   9 March 2009: you should chech out this website: http://ec-gsmf.com/use.php They suggest that taking both at the same time is just as affective as 12 hours apart - in england they give you thm an tell you to take them together or give you 1 bigger pill, so ... (read in full...)

Where did it all go wrong?

Q.   I have been dating a married man for two years. He always told me he was preparing to divorce his wife but he wanted to make sure his kids would be okay (ages 10, 14, and 18). He finally got a divorce about two months ago. He stayed at his house for ...

A.   9 March 2009: Sometimes we realy dont realise what we have until we dont have it again, im really sorry that things havent worked out for you but it seems like this is a case of the grass looking greener over the other side - he jumped over the fence and realised ... (read in full...)

I feel trapped, unwanted and depressed...

Q.   I have been in a relationship for 4 1/2 years. The first couple of years was great, but the last 2 1/2 years have been hard. It seems like just for me. I have a daughter from a previous relationship. Me and my partner had a daughter together. ...

A.   9 March 2009: What was he like with your elder child, before the younger child was born? Does he feel overwhelmed now perhaps with a child that is completely his responsibility? You partly raised your elder child on your own, he didnt have to go through that the ... (read in full...)

Are all females overly critical of their appearance?

Q.   Hi there...well I'm just after some opinions here. Do all females really judge themselves badly on their own appearance? I've had a couple of girlfriends in the past, both in their early 20's, who both seemed to be convinced that...

A.   8 March 2009: Not all women are critical of their appearance, but this isjust human nature at work - some beautiful women find themselves incredibly unattractive and some unattractive women find themselves incredibly beautiful - this is't because either are ... (read in full...)

What can you feed a man so his sperm isn't so salty or sour?

Q.   What can you feed a man so his sperm isn't so salty or sour? It doesn't have to taste like candy or anything....

A.   7 March 2009: pineapple huice - it does work - my husbands a fruit nut, and what better reason ;) ... (read in full...)

Having an affair...

Q.   If you have an affair, and then she goes cold, is it guilt on her part of just trying to protect her feelings from becoming deep love that will force her to decide on quitting her relationship?...

A.   7 March 2009: sometimes we want what we cant have, until we get it, then we have to think about whether the grass really is greener or if we're making a mistake. I do think you can love more than one person at a time but societies rules make it difficul... (read in full...)

Why is it more of a turn on if the girl swallows?

Q.   I supose this is a question for the guys/men - Why is it better for a girl to swallow? I was told its very sexy and if the girl that does that for you is amazing. Why? Is it sort of an 'acceptance' thing? And if she spits, is it a 're...

A.   7 March 2009: basically, some guys like it, feel acceptance, sure, but some guys hate it, some see it as a degredation to their partner so wont do it even if she wants him to - many woman wont do it because they fel degredated or they just dont like the taste ... (read in full...)

We're both married, having a purely sexual affair - why lately has he gotten so clingy?

Q.   I am having a sexual affair with this man. We are both married. The affair is nothing but sexual. We meet about once a month for no more than 2 hours. There is no calling in between meetings or any other form of communication. No lunches or ...

A.   23 February 2009: from personal experience i dont think this is going to end well - unless you are asking what this means because you WANT him to be getting closer to you?? regardless of your marriage, if you just want sex with this guy, you should ask him w... (read in full...)

Why has my boyfriend's interest in sex with me waned?

Q.   My boyfriend of 2 years and I usually have a normal sex life, but for the last 3 weeks we haven't had sex once. I know I could initiate it, but I feel like if he REALLY wanted to have sex I wouldn't have to. He usually has a higher libido than I do. ...

A.   22 February 2009: sometimes relationships go through patches of less sex rather than more - when you both know you can have it, you tend not to want it perhaps...well..clearly you do want it, and you are worried about him not wanting it, but perhaps he thinks the ... (read in full...)

Crush on someone you've never even met?

Q.   Is it stupid to have a crush on someone you've never even met? I have spoken to him on msn and on the phone and stuff but I've never seen him in real life. I feel really stupid but I REALLY enjoy speaking to this guy. Shall I suggest that we meet ...

A.   22 February 2009: it is not unheard of to like someone that you have spoken to online - i met my husband online, i was very lucky that he turned out to be everything i thought he was...however you are still very young and while he may well be everything you think ... (read in full...)

Am I covering their affair by remaining silent?

Q.   Hello dear friends, I am facing a dilemma right now and I don't know what to do. At my workplace, there is an affair going on between a male driver and a female officer both married.Everytime I tried to talk to her, she justified her act, she says...

A.   21 February 2009: sometimes its hard to stay out of someone elss business when you know the people involved, your bias towards the wife and want her to be ok - thing is it isnt your place to say anything to either of them or his wife - no matter what your morals are ... (read in full...)

My partner has genital warts..what does this mean for the future?

Q.   My patner and I recently had sex tests as we both wished to have unprotected sex, thankfully my results came back clear but he was diagnosed with HPV (genital warts)From research on the internet I understand that this is a highly contagious ...

A.   21 February 2009: you can be treated for genital warts but in some cases the treatment does not work, the warts get worse or they stay the same. In other cases the warts clear up never to be seen again. You can catch hpv even when warts are not visible on the o... (read in full...)

Was he trying to change me?

Q.   My boyfriend and I had been having problems in our relationship for a while about his ex girlfriend who looks exactly like me, in which they hadn't been together in 15 years. Our relationship was absolutely amazing until we went to a party and his ...

A.   21 February 2009: reading about the kids too, i think this guy is defintely best left be, you're better off without him - children are resilient, they will be just fine - they know they have a mother who loves them and that will save them more times than almost ... (read in full...)

He has no time for a girlfriend

Q.   Ugh ok... My boyfriend is a great guy and all but he never visits me! He just DOESN'T have the TIME he says. He was in Japan for a while and he came back for a few days. I didn't even know! I had to find out that he had been home by his best friend! ...

A.   31 January 2009: If he cared about you at all he would want to spend time with you and make the effort. You dont need that...call him, break it off, get someone who wants to be with you...if he cares at all you'll know when you break it off, he'll fight to make the ... (read in full...)

She said sounds good, but maybe anothe time..is she into me or not?

Q.   I asked this girl out twice, once about 3 months ago and another time about a month and a half ago, both times she said it sounds good but maybe another time cos she had stuff to do on those days, so i stopped asking her. Now after a month and a ...

A.   31 January 2009: you never can tell whats going on inside someone elses head, she may or may no be interested in you or she may want to be friends...only way you'll know is just by talking to her - maybe sk hr out for a coffee, third time lucky? Maybe she's playing ... (read in full...)

Hockey game w/co-worker--husband says its a date!

Q.   I am going to hockey game with a male co- worker. He knows that I am married and we are just friends. My husband is really bothered by it because he said that men and women can not be just friends.My husband said that I am going on a date and ...

A.   31 January 2009: Go to the game if you feel that the aftershock won't be a big one - your husband is probably jealous and is probably testing his "authority" as a man because he feels put out by this other man. By all means, invite him to the game too, or sav... (read in full...)

I rushed into marriage and now another guy is looking good

Q.   I'm 19 and i've been married for two years my husband is 24 we've been very happy for the past years but lately he's been treating me like he doesn't love me. i've talked to him about it and he says that he'll try to change but it only lasts about a ...

A.   31 January 2009: It sounds like you're trying to justify the friendship/relationship with your friend by concentrating on all the bad points of your marriage to your husband. you clearly have feelings for this friend and he has confessed to being in love with you... (read in full...)

Crush for 3 years is free! Should I go for it?!

Q.   I've had a crush on this guy for three years. They say he likes me too. It turns out he broke up with his girlfriend. Should I give it a shot or should I wait until he makes the move? ...

A.   31 January 2009: Life is too short to let other people make all the moves, there's no harm is asking him out for coffee or something relaxed that isn't as full on as a date, see where it goes from there. Just remember that you don't want to be the fall back fro... (read in full...)

The age difference is freaking me out! How do I forget him?

Q.   There's been this guy that I had been asking questions about lately. He and I have known each other for about five years; have become really close friends for 2 1/2 to 3 years and have started really flirting back and forth since last summer. He w...

A.   31 January 2009: Falling for someone in a position of power is very comon and may seem like love, if not something close to love, and it can be very difficult to get that person out of your mind. This person is no longer in a position where by a relation... (read in full...)

I just don't know if I can trust him, so should we have a LDR?

Q.   I am wondering how do you make a long distance relationship work? A friend of mine lives far away from me- about a 3 day drive or a 3 hour flight. And he wants to give a long distance relationship a go with me. I really do like him and care for...

A.   30 January 2009: Heya, I met my husband in 2006, we spoke online but never banked on having a relationship because he lived in america and i lived in england. I'd previously had a relationship with a guy who was 1 hour away from me and that for me was to far a ... (read in full...)

My husband won't stand by myside

Q.   So I have been married to my husband for 3 years, generally as a whole we have a really good relationship. We really only fight about one thing, his parents. I don't agree with the way they treat me and talk to me, he thinks I am over reacting. They ...

A.   30 January 2009: First of all, that sounds horrible! There is no excuse for the beer incident, even as a joke, who does that to someone unless your at a party and rediculously drunk or clumsy? That is rude and disrespectful. Of course, i was not there, i ... (read in full...)

3 questions about sex!

Q.   Hey, My boyfriend and I lost our virginity about 3 months ago and have sex every day. Before I lost my virginity my boyfriend would finger me. Since I've been having sex my vagina has become somewhat looser (to the point where my bf can fit 4 fin...

A.   29 January 2009: Everyone reacts differently, there is no real answer to what is normal. If you think about it, the vajayjay is supposed to stretch and will stretch to fit - think about how much it stretches when you pop out a babie...i don't think you should... (read in full...)

Should I ask my wife to cover up???

Q.   Hi I am 24 and I am balding, me wife to my surprise dosen't want me to shave off my balding head but wants me to grow hairs on the sides so that my baldness becomes more prominent, also she wears traditional clothes to her office but at home she ...

A.   29 January 2009: I think you should do whtever you want to do with your body, shave your hair if its what YOU want and let your wife do what she wants with hers - we dont control much in this life but we should be able to control what we do to ourselves. It d... (read in full...)

I want us to break up so I can continue seeing the other guy and seek out new relationships.

Q.   Well, I cheated on my boyfriend of a year with another guy. Now I feel like I want us to break up so I can continue seeing the other guy and seek out new relationships... do you have any advice as to how to break it off with him? I know there is no ...

A.   29 January 2009: sometimes when a relationship is no longer working we push ourselves so far away unintentionally until the other person breaks it off with us! you really should sit down with him and tell him face to face that it really isnt working. Tell him you ... (read in full...)

I found something unusual inside me, anyone know what it is?

Q.   i know this isnt the right sight to be asking this question but i didnt no were to go. this morning i was masturbating and i felt a small sqishy ball in my vagina, rilled it out and it was just like a small lump of jelly but was a very very dark ...

A.   29 January 2009: Our bodies can do perculiar things and withoutht further investigation there is no way of being able to tell what it is you are dealing with. If you are worried you should visit your gp for some sensible practical medical advice regard... (read in full...)

Anyone know what these pains might be?

Q.   hey, i know this probably isnt the right place to be asking this question but im just curious. im on the injection, have been on it for like a year now. but just recetly ive been getting pains which feel like period pains. im not due to go and get ...

A.   29 January 2009: this is a personal question but have you recently had unprotected sex? although it is a slim chance, you can still get pregnant on the injection and that is alway someting you might want to check - you may just be getting normal symptoms of a ... (read in full...)

Was he trying to change me?

Q.   My boyfriend and I had been having problems in our relationship for a while about his ex girlfriend who looks exactly like me, in which they hadn't been together in 15 years. Our relationship was absolutely amazing until we went to a party and his ...

A.   29 January 2009: Sometimes a person has a specific type and just because you look like his ex doesn't mean that this was the sole reason for his being with you - if it was, he's a jerk and you're worth more than that. sometimes we just never know why someone has ... (read in full...)

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