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I tend to break up each time with someone and I don't seem to care at all.

Q.   I am 21 years old and my problem is that whenever i break up with a guy i dont care at all i mean i dont feel upset at all, usually girls cry or something , i guess it ment that i didnt love each person i've been with especially when i remember ...

A.   18 June 2009: If you love someone, you will not want to break up with that one. On the contrary, if that someone chooses to break up, you may cry. Also, true love makes you a better person and makes you willing to accept his faults. Likewise, if he truly lov... (read in full...)

Opinions please... Is it too soon to be in love with each other?

Q.   hey, just a quick one, would really appreciate a reply, thanks guys. i met this girl a week ago, we've spoken every night for hours and hours and i really love her. i told her i did and she said she did too. we can be completely honest and i trust ...

A.   18 June 2009: If you see her as an angel, then it's not love. True love sees her faults and yet willing to live by them. Remember "puppy love is prelude to a dog's life".... (read in full...)

Rules for dating?

Q.   heyy im 14 and i have my first boyfriend... its great he's so nice and polite and actually perfect... everything is going great... but i was just wondering is there like rules? like when to do this and when to do that? how long before your supposed ...

A.   18 June 2009: Love is unselfish toward the recipient. You want the best for him. Love can move him (and you) to become better persons. Love is kind and understanding. Hence you will forgive him even he hurts you. Likewise, he will forgive you your mistakes. Love ... (read in full...)

Sex just DOESN'T happen with us any more...

Q.   Me and my partner have been together for about 4 years, the last 18 months or so 'sex' does not happen! Well it does but once a month at the most. I dont know why and it could break us. Its as if she just dosnt want it any more. What could be the ...

A.   18 June 2009: I agree with QuirkLady. Try make the setting for heart-to-heart talk formal. Arrange a proper place with good ambiance, e.g Candlelight restaurant. Write down notes on what you plan to speak about. (beside the sex issue, think what might... (read in full...)

I feel as if I'm in a loveless void... how can I find love?

Q.   I am a hard working person in a loveless void, I would love to have advice on how to find a girlfriend, but it just does not happen. I see people every day hanging out with their lovers and it makes me so sad, because I know I probably will never ...

A.   18 June 2009: Hey Tron, first of all, you're young. I was likewise "loveless" when I was your age. But what is important now is to "build your assets". Love will be attracted to these. Love assets include the following: 1) Be financially responsible -- You may ... (read in full...)

My wife is not interested in sex anymore.

Q.   My wife of 6 years is not interested in sex. In all other respects our relationship is excellent. We get on really well with no arguments or disagreements, and are each other's best friends. But since day one she has had a low sex drive, and show...

A.   18 June 2009: Please don't mind I being straight. Could it be she don't enjoy sex in the past? When two you had sex after marriage, did she get the satisfaction she deserved? Of was she left in pain and unfulfilled arousal because of your lack of proper ... (read in full...)

Depressed from the bombshell my wife dropped. She wasn't a virgin.

Q.   I recently got married and on our wedding night my wife dropped a bombshell by saying shez not a vrigin. she said she had sex while she was 9 years old and the guy was 20 years old. She didn't have any boyfriend or any sort of relationship since ...

A.   18 June 2009: I agree with most writers that she possibly was raped. But to you, You might think you missed the "break the cherry" part. Well, it's not much different from all sex thereafter. If it is only your dignity/pride involve, please, lower them to ... (read in full...)

Signs of masturbation?

Q.   what type of mark will be found on the bed after men masturbate.whether the mark will be round in shape and the fluid is thick and sticky?Do men masturbate on bed? ...

A.   18 June 2009: Special Note: If you're with someone your age, that person may NOT masturbate but having "wet dreams". Hence the patch may be drippings of semen from his pants after his natural emission rather than a deliberate act.... (read in full...)

Together for 3 years and still no sex, what should I do?

Q.   So I have been dating a girl for almost 3 years. From day one she was against oral sex, which is fine. But I believed that after dating for a while she would be willing to have sex....3 years later an this has not happened yet. Basically, I am ...

A.   18 June 2009: I partly agree with QuirkLady on matter of sex after marriage. Ask her about it. If for whatever reasons, she wants to reserve sex only after marriage, then, respect her wish. This might be the best thing to wait for. Concerning the part of calling ... (read in full...)

We've been married for 18 months and she's still a virgin! What can I do?

Q.   Hi, I have been married since March '07 (nearly 18 months ago), I love my wife to pieces but am extremely stuck on this. She was a virgin when we started going out, but the problem is she is still a virgin now. We've been together since '03, and...

A.   15 June 2009: Is your wife a Christian? If yes, see if 1 Corinthians 7:1-5 helps: "let each man have his own wife and each woman have her own husband. Let the husband render to his wife her due; but let the wife also do likewise to her husband. The wife does not ... (read in full...)

Wondering how people's 'first times' were?

Q.   Okay so I've been awfully curious about how different first times having sex has gone. This isn't like an advice needed thing. I would just like to hear how male and female first times went. Did you regret it after? What made you feel like you were ...

A.   15 June 2009: My wife and I were virgins until we wedded at age 25/26 (close to your age). Because we both were not experience, (well, not even qualified to be called amateurs) the first time was quite disappointing. I still wonder if I penetrated her correctly ... (read in full...)

For those who do not believe in sex before marriage for religious reasons: where would you draw the line in a sexual activity?

Q.   A question for strict religious people out there... I am an atheist and I just wondered where in sexual activity someone who doesn't believe in sex before marriage (for religious reasons) would draw the line? Would it be using your hands? Oral? Or ...

A.   15 June 2009: Jesus said in Matthew 5:27, 28 "YOU heard that it was said, ‘You must not commit adultery.’ But I say to YOU that everyone that keeps on looking at a woman so as to have a passion for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart." This ... (read in full...)

Is it better to wait for sex?

Q.   So I'm 19 and a virigin. I have a bf who's also a virigin (he's my first ever bf) and he really wants to have sex. We came kinda close to doing it once but we've never gone all the way. Part of me really wants to wait til marraige but part of me ...

A.   15 June 2009: Hey... You're only 19. I was still a virgin at 26 and "did it" the first time with my virgin wife after our wedding. Let me reveal some truths about us.... Our "first time" was disappointing. But until today, almost 15 years into marriage, that ... (read in full...)

How many couples have sex when the woman in on her period?

Q.   Hi everybody, I am wondering how many women or couples out there have sex when the woman is on her period? I have to do it with my boyfriend everyday no matter what and I am not about to skip the sex because of my period. I don't see the problem ...

A.   15 June 2009: My wife and I tried only once when newly married. We both not like it. Now, she will warn me of her period with intention of not having sex. I on my part will get the hint and abstain, partly respecting her decision, partly I also not like the ... (read in full...)

My husband masturbates all the time...

Q.   my husband masturbates every day at least 3 times a day i have never experienced this with him before and its making me feel really bad. the fact that he's maturbating has decreased our sex life from 3 times a day to once every two or three days. I ...

A.   15 June 2009: Have you tried asking him direct question like "Does it feel good to be inside me?" after the session? A frank answer may be very revealing. One guess from me is, he feels masturbating "tighter" than your vagina. If this is the case, try advising ... (read in full...)

Still worried about my banana-shaped penis. Will I be able to satisfy a woman?

Q.   I wrote a problem but didn't got a satisfactory answer, so I am hoping this time somebody will help me. I just wanna know. I've got banana type of erection. While erecting it bends towards downward, like a banana, so I wanna know will this kind of ...

A.   14 June 2009: Hmmm.... Thank to the ladies who replied on 7 April 2008 and 12 February 2008. Now I know why my wife got horny whenever I stripped and reason(s) she enjoys almost every sexual intercourse with me for the past 15 years. I too have a banana-shaped ... (read in full...)

Does he not want to see my face?

Q.   Last night me and my boyfriend were having sex. We hadn't been able to have sex the whole week, so we were both very turned on. We were on the couch, he was sitting and I was on top of him. We were face to face. Suddenly I noticed it was taking him ...

A.   14 June 2009: Have you tried "The Inverted Missionary Head to Toe Sex Position"? This is the Missionary position with the giver (him) lies back on the bed and the receiver (you) on top but facing the giver's feet. This position allows him to lie down as if ... (read in full...)

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