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He says, he loves me but I can't trust him. Please help!

Q.   Hi, Ive know my boyfriend for 2 years now, ever since i met him he was always interested in me however i wasnt really in to him. But 6 months ago he asked if i wanted to go for a drink, i went and we havent been apart since then and are currentl...

A.   8 April 2010: Thats tuff. Because before you went on his facebook I would have said give him a chance because you have to take a risk to find love. And he has done nothing to make you not trust him. But if these flirting emails were recent (while you are goin... (read in full...)

Help this stressed out hubby whose wife was sending naughty texts to another man!

Q.   A few months ago I started suspecting my wife was sending naughty messages to one of the truck drivers that delivers to her work. I asked her about it and she said it was just a friend and they talk about their day and nothing more then that. We ...

A.   8 April 2010: You will always be wondering if it went further. You will not forget ever. The question is can you forgive and move on because it will eat away at you until yo have has enough. If you can trust she wont do it again then go for it. But also that she ... (read in full...)

Ready to lose virginity at 13, everyone else has!

Q.   MOD NOTE: Age posted is not right, poster says they are 13, NOT 19) hi. im greenpink, im 13 years old (i'll be 14 in may) and i think that i am ready to loose my virginty. we just offically met a few days ago (through mutual friends) but i have bee...

A.   8 April 2010: Only do it if you are truely ready. Dont do it for him or because everyone else is. Because these reasons may make you do it but wont stop you from regreting it.... (read in full...)

Can people change?

Q.   My husband had a 3 year affair with his niece who was 15 when it started. He was 30. He says she initiated it and that he was to far in to get out, he said she threatened him with suicide if he left her. He was raped by family members as a young ...

A.   8 April 2010: 15 to 30 Sorry but this is wrong. If he is attracted to women this young this shows kind of a warning sign doesnt it. And it was his neice, to state the obverious but that means it was his sister or brother's child. That is wrong no matter where you ... (read in full...)

Is it normal for a married, straight woman to get turned on by 'guy on guy' porn?

Q.   I've recently become aware that I am incredibly turned on by pornography involving two men, most specifically pornography involving mutual hand-jobs and blow-jobs. I'm am a married straight woman. This isn't something that I can share with my hu...

A.   8 April 2010: Think of it this way, Males are attracted to girl on girl things. Why cant we be atracted to male on male, double the fun! This inst weird dont worry... (read in full...)

My boyfriend got another woman pregnant!

Q.   I've been living with my boyfriend for almost 3 years now. A few months ago, I found out that he got his officemate pregnant.She was on her 5th month that time. I know that this is mainly my guys fault, but I found out that the girl knew all along ...

A.   9 February 2010:  I dont know how you are doing this. They anxiety of this would prob kill me. Its great that you are thinking of this child first, many people forget this. Now I am going to have to say that a women who has a child by someone who is attached usu... (read in full...)

Why does my ex expect me to wait for her?

Q.   My ex always wants to hang out, but she is always late, or makes me wait all night (so I cancel other plans) and then blows me off. Why does my ex always expect me to just wait on her?...

A.   24 November 2009: A women that is interested would not be late or blow you off. She's useing you for plan B, if she doesnt got anything better to do.... (read in full...)

Is sex painful?

Q.   I love my boyfriend of 2 years with all my heart,the problem is when we kiss, whenever he feels horny and asks for sex, I get really scared, is sex really that bad and is it painful?...

A.   23 November 2009: It hurt for me but it doesnt with everyone. It's not bad because you want to be with that person and it over powers everything else. Just try to have fun with it and make sure your pleasured too and it wont be bad. : ) Dont be scared about it... (read in full...)

How am I supposed to sit with a bunch of guys I don't know and watch porn? Who's in the wrong here?

Q.   Last night my bf started yelling at me heaps because when I met his friends I was quiet and shy. However, I do feel I had good reasons for acting the way I did. Here is why: 1. I didnt even technically "meet them". I mean, he didn't introduc...

A.   7 October 2009: Dont walk but run from this guy. 1. He never intruduced you which is rude and shows he has no respect for you. 2. Getting mad at you for being shy and not joining the convo (which most females would have nothing good to say to what they were t... (read in full...)

My g/f's ex is threatening to kill us!

Q.   Hi, I have this huge issue my girlfriends ex keep hassling her and me saying he wont leave us alone and threatening to kills us...........But this ex was also a friend we expect to get married one day..........me and my girl pls advice on how to...

A.   7 October 2009: Go to the police and ask them for some advice on what you can do. Dont fight with him because that can get you in worse trouble. He can charge you if your over 18 for assault. Best to go to the police and explain whats going on so they are aware. ... (read in full...)

I don't think I can trust him after he went off on stage with a stripper....

Q.   What would u do in this situation? I met this man a few wks ago and its been going good really getting to know each other. We havent slept together yet. Just kissing a cuddling. Anyway he went on a stag do last wk end to ansterdam. I didnt worry ...

A.   7 October 2009: What he said to you sounds kinda like a warning. I know you wouldnt be asking your question after 2 weeks if you are getting some kind of warning signals too. If your gonna leave, leave now before to much is invested. Good luck xoxo... (read in full...)

I don't think my virginity meant anything to him

Q.   i recently lost my virginity to my boyfriend (about a month ago). he was not a virgin, very experienced from what ive heard and what hes told me. about an hour ago we were just talking and watching tv, and he turned on a channel with guys cage ...

A.   4 October 2009: "best virgin i have had" Sounds like he is keeping a record. I am sorry he said that. I know how it feels when you choose that person. But you should leave, he just used you. You deserve better.... (read in full...)

Was this rape? He's acting like nothing happened....

Q.   Last night me and my bf were having sex he was behind me when he stuck his finger in my anus. He has done it b4 which i dont mind as it doesnt hurt me. B4 i continue weve always had this joke bout doing it up the bum. I always said i would never do ...

A.   3 October 2009: You've now prob lost trust. You screamed stop and he shouldve, no doubt. He was thinking of himself and not you. The question is do you want to be with a man that thinks only about himself and has no consideration if he was hurting you? He k... (read in full...)

I don't think I can trust him after he went off on stage with a stripper....

Q.   What would u do in this situation? I met this man a few wks ago and its been going good really getting to know each other. We havent slept together yet. Just kissing a cuddling. Anyway he went on a stag do last wk end to ansterdam. I didnt worry ...

A.   3 October 2009: The relationship is just starting out so even if you guys move on from it, will you be able to move on yourself from what happened? It will always be there and if you cant trust him now after 2 weeks then it prob wont get much better. Persona... (read in full...)

Should I break up with her over this?

Q.   I am having an issue with my girlfriend. I have been with her for a bit over 7 months. She has facebook. When i first starting dating her, about a month into our relationship, one of her facebook friends left her a comment on one of her pictures ...

A.   3 October 2009: The messages arnt too bad, as in they are not hitting on each other. It sounds like they are friends. I would let it go but If she does go for a coffee with him see if she tells you. Just watch and see if it seems like it is developing into som... (read in full...)

Girl I'm interested in was violated and I don't know how to date her/talk to her!!!

Q.   Hey everyone, I need some help here. I care about this girl that i've been (kinda?) talking to, but something really bad happened recently. I was with he one night, drinking, and another friend of hers came in to chill too. He sketched me out,...

A.   30 September 2009: I am sorry to hear what happened. What I would do is, is that it does seem that she likes you. I would be a friend to her. Tell her how you feel about her and let her know your there for her. Be friends first that way she can trust you and hope... (read in full...)

Does anyone know what the difference between body rubbing and dry humping?

Q.   Does anyone know what the difference between body rubbing and dry humping ( i have no idea if thats even something) ? Or are they both the same thing ? Anyone care to axplain. Thanks....

A.   29 September 2009: To me Dry humping is humping with your clothes on. And body rubbing could be anything. Ex: arms rubbing on another arm, rubbing naked bodies together. Basically the difference I believe is dry humpping is with clothes and body rubbing is not... (read in full...)

Is it important to know your partner's sexual past?

Q.   I am currently dating a guy who I like a lot. I have a feeling that he may have "got around" a bit when he was younger, but to be honest I just simply do not want to know. Is it immature for me to be thinking like this? Do you think it's important ...

A.   29 September 2009: If you think it will bother you or hurt you then no need to know, as long he gets tested. you dont need to know.... (read in full...)

Making a move on the math teacher

Q.   im a male and i like my male math teacher when he is teaching i fantsise about him and he is so hot. i dont know if he is gay or straight but if he is gay i want to make our relationship go further. i have an A in his class and we talk on facebook ...

A.   24 September 2009: Don't do it, Both of you can get in a lot of trouble but besides that point. There is no future in this. You will get yourself hurt and upset please walk away, Dont let him use you. ... (read in full...)

The man I love wont leave his wife for me and I feel so lonely!

Q.   The man I'm in love with never told me that he would leave his wife.He pays all my bills,rent and still gives me extra money but,I'm just so lonely.He doesn't spend time with me like he use to in the beginning.He has keys to my house so he comes ...

A.   23 September 2009: Hello : ) I dont want to be to harsh and I do Sympathise with you but what comes to mind is that you are just paid for what he wants (sex). Your his mistress and he has your bills paid etc and your hidden away. He is basically paying you for sex ... (read in full...)

The girl I'm seeing has a very high sex drive! Please help!

Q.   The girl I'm currently seeing has a very high sex drive. Yesterday, we had sex four times, and if she had gotten her way, we would have had it even more than that! Obviously I can't complain too much, as there have been times in my life where I have ...

A.   23 September 2009: Hello : ) Everyones Libido is different. Hers happens to be higher. This is touchie because if you reject too much she might start to feel you dont want her anymore. It is normal for a man not to be able to perform after two hours. It depend... (read in full...)

She's used to the single life. I'm not sure she would be faithful if we started something. What should I do?

Q.   I met a girl this week. I've been coming over to hers, we've been having dinner together and lot of sex. However, having spoken to her about the concept of starting a relationship, she's hesitant. She has trust issues, as she's had a number of guys ...

A.   23 September 2009: Hello : ) If your not sure now about the trust then it's not going to work. Trust is the number ONE thing in a relationship. If you are head over heals for her then give it a try, but if you just think she's nice enough then maybe just take ... (read in full...)

B/f & I broke up because of interference from his ex g/f

Q.   i just need some advice. i have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and were both young. hes a senior and im in college. his ex girlfriend has been spreading nonsense about him around his school making it hard for him to make any friends....

A.   23 September 2009: Hello :) Ok ya this stituation sucks.The ex's usually are trouble. but here's the thing I have to say he is acting insensative to you. He got mad that you find that text because in a way you caught him. If he wanted things to work between you... (read in full...)

How do you handle stress in a bad marriage?

Q.   I have been emotionally eating and have gained a lot of weight because of my marriage problems. Now I would really love to lose like 30 lbs, but things in my marriage are just not getting any less stressful. What are some good ways to deal with ...

A.   23 September 2009: Hello, I am sorry to hear that your having trouble with your marriage. I have always been told that walking or some type of excercise will help relieve stress. If you don't have the engery to do that then maybe even make some time for yoursel... (read in full...)

I have fallen in love with a sophomore! Or is it a crush?

Q.   Hi I just started my first year in high school and i think that i have fallen in love with a sophomore. when i first saw him i was attending to a freshmen orientation. i guest he was taking summer school classes or something. so when i when to the ...

A.   23 September 2009: Hello, I am not going to be a hypocrite and tell you to focus on school :) To be honest it may be a crush. The excitment of him, the mystery. Do you know much about him? Do you think he likes you that way? If you talk to him more then you wo... (read in full...)

I love him but ever since our encounter he's been with other girls sexually!

Q.   I'm 19yrs old my best friend and I have known each other for about 2years. I enjoy being around him, we have hold hands and told each other I Love You before. A while back we were both under the influence and he spend the night at my house. I slept ...

A.   23 September 2009: Hello : ) Not talking about it is not the way to go. It leaves a lot of questions unanswered and it won't go away. I know it sucks to have to talk to him about it, but be blunt and truthful. Get the courage to speak your mind and go for it. T... (read in full...)

I really wanted to help my friend but I don't know how.

Q.   Hi, I have a friend his name is Ruben, he is just really my ordinary friend but a very close friend. He has before a girlfriend, and i am a witness of their loves. they really love each other that almost got married. suddenly. his gf go abroad for ...

A.   23 September 2009: Hello, It was nice of you as a friend to try to help him but You shouldnt interfear again, It will make things worse. What he said may not be bad to you, but it is to his wife. Put yourself in her shoes, would you want to read a message of yo... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is an alcoholic and I don't know what to do.

Q.   My boyfriend is an alcoholic and I don't know what to do. I've tried almost everything and nothing seems to work. He doesn't feel he has a problem. I'm getting more depressed by the day. All we ever do is sit around and he drinks. I love him with ...

A.   23 September 2009: That is hard to deal with because the excuse that comes to your head is that its not that bad , I can help him and/ or He is sick, he is a great guy it's just the drinking. You know what my mom told me when I was in the same situation, think to... (read in full...)

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