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How can I make my girlfriend squirt?

Q.   how can i make my girlfriend squrit? ive been wanting to make her but idk how to help me...

A.   26 March 2010: I agree, you shouldn't put sexual pressure on her, it's the least sexy thing in the world. However, if this is something your girlfriend also wants to try + do, the best thing I can advise it to have her go on her all fours, and finger her, stim... (read in full...)

I can't feel my boyfriends penis when he's inside of me...HELP

Q.   *OP's own title* I am in a relationship with an incredible man that I am highly considering for marriage. My past relationships were all based on the physical but quickly fizzled b/c they had nothing else to offer. My current boyfriend and I star...

A.   24 March 2010: Kegal exercises do work! Just clench, and release for 10 minutes a day... You'll notice the improvements very quickly! There are also different positions you can do.. Have you tried putting your legs over his shoulders when he's on top? Very ... (read in full...)

She said I was too small for her. Do other girls think the same?!

Q.   I was with my girl and one thing led to another at that time... When the pants came off, she just looked blankly and told me bluntly "Hun... you're sorta too small. I... don't think you can do it for me." Then she got up flustered, apologiz...

A.   24 March 2010: I agree with the other comments, she was rude, insensitive, and not worth your time. I'd be like a boy having sex with a girl for the first time, realising she wears a padded bra and telling her that her breasts are too small for him to get arou... (read in full...)

Do you think going to the bar would help me find 'Mr. Right'?

Q.   i've been a single for 4yrs.. hate being a single for long time while my friends got themselves their mr.right. i've been to youth club a yr ago but none of guys doesn't seems attracted to me. i thought about dating site,my cousin warned abo...

A.   23 March 2010: I have never met a lovely boy in a bar... I'm sure some of them were perfectly nice, interesting, caring individuals.. But they're not going to display that in a bar environment. I don't want to generalise, but to be honest, most of them are look... (read in full...)

He says my vagina is too tight. Is that good or bad?

Q.   My guy and I have been together for a while. We just recently had a conversation about our sex life and he says that my Pussy is too tight. He enjoys himself, I am always wet enough, my hygine is great, but I'm too tight. I am 27 years old and all ...

A.   23 March 2010: Being tight is something to be proud of :) Do you exercise your pelvic floor muscles a lot? This is how I stay tight, it's definitely a good thing! Although sometimes, even if I'm wet I still need a little bit of lube to help get things going. ... (read in full...)

I had unprotected sex, and now worry of the consequences. Please help me!

Q.   [Moderators Note - Helpful advice only please] ok this is really long but ill try to make it short: alright im fifteen,i went out with a guy for what would have been a year on feb. 27 this year but he kept breaking up with me an begging me to ta...

A.   23 March 2010: I would firstly talk to this guy about it, ask him for his discretion(he should keep it quiet anyway, if he respects you) and then cool it off. I don't know how the sex situation went initially, but it doesn't sound like he respects you, when you... (read in full...)

What physical attributes do you like in a man?

Q.   What physical attributes (body parts) do you like in a man? Ladies, here is a question which I hope you take your time in answering. I bet you Women hear that most guys love a women's "butt" or Breasts" or even "Height"...so now its your turn....

A.   23 March 2010: I like a pretty face.. My boyfriend has quite a feminine face, full lips, big dark eyes, reallly long eyelashes, high cheek bones, but is incredibly tall, and has a broad, strong body.. Best of both worlds for me. ... (read in full...)

I've taen 3 preganacy tests and nothing. Please help.

Q.   hey all, kinda puzzled looking for some help please.. well in January I have sex well to put it nicely 2 pumps and a squrt with no contraception(silly I know)anyway... got my period at the end of January on my usual date then the end of February ...

A.   23 March 2010: It is generally thought that a foetus Cannot feel pain under 20 weeks of gestation. Don't try and make it into a baby yet, it is not. You shouldn't feel any shame in wanting an abortion, if that's what you want, and don't let other people f... (read in full...)

Is society right in thinking masturbation in mainly a male activity?

Q.   Heyy everyone, this is just a general wondering, mainly to our female readers... How often do you masturbate in a week? I was talking to my boyfriend the other night, and I said on top of the sex we have, I probably masturbate about 5 times a week.....

A.   23 March 2010: Ha this is quite interesting! I thought I was right in my assumptions... Thanks everyone for putting in your thoughts. Yeah, I did it a lot more when I was younger, which I am very glad for now! When I was about 15, I thought I was quite stra... (read in full...)

I've taen 3 preganacy tests and nothing. Please help.

Q.   hey all, kinda puzzled looking for some help please.. well in January I have sex well to put it nicely 2 pumps and a squrt with no contraception(silly I know)anyway... got my period at the end of January on my usual date then the end of February ...

A.   23 March 2010: I'd go straight to the doctors and they'll give you a test there for free, and you'll know for sure. If you are, it's not too late for termination, you can go up to 5 months before it becomes illegal. The sooner you sort it the better really.... (read in full...)

Guys watch porn. Do women?

Q.   It seems that one of the most discussed topics on DC is porn and situations related to the watching of and enjoyment of porn by one person in a relationship, and that being resented by the other. To wit: a guy watches porn, as guys are known t...

A.   23 March 2010: I like watching porn on my own. I never watch it with my boyfriend. I'm bi-sexual, so I mainly watch lesbian porn, just for some variety. It definitely does not mean I'd rather be with a woman though (as somebody once suggested to me) I think t... (read in full...)

Orgasm help?

Q.   When I give myself orgasms after a few seconds It feels really good nd I strt twitching nd I have to stop. Y?.....

A.   23 March 2010: It depends... If you're talking about just After you've had an orgasm, then it's normal because your clitoris becomes very sensitive after.. However, if you're talking about during, or just before you reach it, it could be a lot of different ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend and his mates are groping me. It turns me on but I am scared they will take it further.

Q.   My boyfriend has been grabbing me in front of his friends and they have been joining in on grabbing me, ass smacking and pinching and grabbing my breasts. It is a turn on but I'm afraid they will go farther and want more. Any advice?...

A.   21 March 2010: Your boyfriend should have far more respect for you than to do this to you, And to let his friends treat you like that! My guess is that they've picked up on the lack of respect he has for you, and this is why they think it's okay to do this... ... (read in full...)

How important is having boobs to guys?

Q.   ok I have got a major insecurity issue. I barely have breasts at all. And I don't think they are going to get much bigger. How important is having boobs to guys? I don't mean big boobs either. I barely have anything....

A.   19 March 2010: I have small boobs, it's quite annoying because I'm a size 12, and they don't look quite right on my frame! However, I prefer them to larger breasts, my friend has massive boobs, she's only 20 and they've started to go saggy already. we wont have ... (read in full...)

She thinks she is pregnant but we always use condoms, I'm nervous, any help?

Q.   hi i am 18 years old and just started having sex a couple of months ago with condoms but my girlfirend is saying that her period has been late three weeks and her boobs hurt and she is urinating a lot and she thinks she is pregnant but we always use ...

A.   19 March 2010: You can always go to the doctors, and they will give her a pregnancy test for free; the added benefit of this is that you've both got someone there to talk to straight after. ... (read in full...)

Tempted to sleep around with a lot of men, as I have a high sex drive! Will I regret doing this?

Q.   I would like some advice from fellow adult females. I have just got out of a long relationship and don't want to get into another one for a good while. I have a high sex drive and miss that aspect of relationships. At present, I am tempted to sleep ...

A.   16 March 2010: Everyone is different and I don't know how you will feel after you sleep with someone casually... Is it genuinely that you miss sex, or miss the intimacy with your previous partner? If you're just trying to fill a void, then I would say this wasn... (read in full...)

Cut short on pleasure.

Q.   Okay, ive been with my boyfriend for a year now. I love him more than anything and am 'head over heels' as they say. However i feel like im being cut short when it comes to sex. Im definetely an oral type of girl and i orgasm every time, dont get me ...

A.   16 March 2010: Try doing the 69 position, then both parties are happy... And I also find I give better oral that way because I'm getting pleasure + it's one of the only positions where I can deep throat him.... (read in full...)

14 and may be pregnant. What should I do?

Q.   I'm 14 and just lost my virginity one week ago. My boyfriend and I didn't use a condom. I was suppose to have my period this week but it hasn't came yet. Is this normal or may I be pregnant? I don't think he cum inside me but I'm not sure because it ...

A.   15 March 2010: Abortion is Not murder, you can't tell someone to keep a baby if they can't take care of it. ... (read in full...)

How do you know if you are in love?

Q.   How do you know when your in love? And can you love someone that you have never seen, but always talk to? If you can, how?? How do you know?? Please help!!...

A.   15 March 2010: You will know when it happens... I know it's an infuriating answer, but it's true. More than often, if you don't know it is infatuation (very easy to confuse, especially when you're young) ... You will know the difference once you gain perspective. ... (read in full...)

I can't orgasm!

Q.   Hello All, I am in a new relationship and when my boyfriend and I are together we have sex on average of 3-4 times a day. I am really turned on by him even when he does something as small as rub my back and sex feels really amazing BUT, I c...

A.   15 March 2010: I agree with the others... masturbate! I don't know if you've ever had an orgasm before? But if you have, then you can show him how to touch you... A vibrating cock-ring might be a good investment too, makes it much easier to orgasm. ... (read in full...)

Why does it hurt so much when the person you love is away from you?

Q.   Dear Aunties, Why does it hurt so much when someone you love is physically apart from you? The pain seems... Irrational when one considers that one is still loved by that other person--there is just no geographical togetherness. e.g. The rippi...

A.   15 March 2010: Ah, I know the feeling... I wont be able to see my boy very much for the next week because he has looming deadlines for uni, and ever since he left my house(only yesterday!) it's felt like a dull ache on my heart... Completely irrational because ... (read in full...)

How can I learn to have squirting orgasms?

Q.   i been with some of my ex's in the past, and they made me cum but i all ways wanted them to make me squirt, n they try, but i cum instead of squirting, how can i get my self to where i aquirt?...

A.   15 March 2010: I have found the only way I can squirt is by going on all fours, and having my partner stimulate my g spot, usually with fingers, I have found penetration doesn't work as well for some reason... And it did make a hell of a lot of mess, soaked ... (read in full...)

14 and may be pregnant. What should I do?

Q.   I'm 14 and just lost my virginity one week ago. My boyfriend and I didn't use a condom. I was suppose to have my period this week but it hasn't came yet. Is this normal or may I be pregnant? I don't think he cum inside me but I'm not sure because it ...

A.   15 March 2010: Before you panic completely, you need to take a pregnancy test. The stress of this situation may be what is causing your late period, if I am stressed it's sometimes 2 weeks late. If you are, you are... You sound like you have a big family, and ... (read in full...)

Why did he spend so much on his cheating ex girlfriend but wont even put in a little bit of effort when it comes to me?

Q.   Hello - as shallow as this sounds, give it a chance as I really need hep with my thoughts. I have been in a three year relationship with a man. Before he was with me, he was with a girl for two years. During those two years, he spent so much mo...

A.   15 March 2010: He probably spent so much money on her because he was trying to buy her affection and devotion, which Never works, clearly. It's definitely a good sign that he doesn't feel the need to buy everything for you. Money and relationships rarely m... (read in full...)

How often on average to people have sex?

Q.   Just another question out of interest. but how many times a week is it considered normal to have sex? I heard a guy at work the other day say He and his partner had sex at least 4 times a day. I thought that sounded pretty excessive? I realise...

A.   14 March 2010: I've only been going out with my boyfriend for 4 months, and we have sex about 3 times a day... Obviously sometimes it's more, sometimes it's less depending on what we're doing, but I'd say that was the average. ... (read in full...)

Help!!! How do I make a good impression on his parents? Meeting them for the first time!

Q.   Tomorrow my boyfriend is taking me to meet his parents and I am soooo nervous! I want to make a good first impression because me and him are really in love. Any advice (:...

A.   13 March 2010: I find manners are everything in this situation. I'm sure they'll adore you anyway, just because their son loves you.... (read in full...)

Is there any way to get back to my usual size besides incessantly working out?

Q.   hi, well I'll be 16 in a couple weeks, and have pretty much the typical high school life. im a cheerleader, have an amazing boyfriend, get good grades, lots of friends. i should be so happy. everything is going great for me. i have one major problem ...

A.   13 March 2010: you don't need to lose weight, you need some perspective. all you need to do is eat healthily and do regular exercise, as i imagine you'll need to stay fit to do cheerleading in may. 115lbs is nothing anyway, i imagine you're a slip of a thing.... (read in full...)

Reluctant girlfriend

Q.   I have a problem, my gf and i have been going out for 2 months now but she shows no sign of "loving" me, she wont hold hands cos she says her hands get to sweaty and she dont like it , we cant kiss because she says she never liked kissing the only ...

A.   13 March 2010: youve only been going out for two months, give it some time, people rarely fall in love after such a short amount of time. Maybe she's not as comfortable with you as you are with her yet? You both need to get used to each other, be patient with her.... (read in full...)

How do I show this girl, that I want a second chance?

Q.   ok so i decided to set up an account and see if i could get some advice because i really dont know what to do. i was with my girlfriend for nearly 3 years and we had some really really great times.we broke up 7 weeks ago. the ting was i was v...

A.   13 March 2010: Fight for her, all a girl wants from a boy she loves is to have him show her that she is everything to him, that he is nothing with her, that her smile is more important than oxygen... of course, only if he really means it. And sit her down and ... (read in full...)

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