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My boyfriend lied about watching porn. Now I can't trust him. What should I do to make things better?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. We have a better relationship than many. Except for one thing... Right now we finally have a place of our own. But we were in a long distance relationship for about 1.5 years in the middle of that. ...

A.   11 November 2010: I totally agree, porn certainly makes us feel bad about ourselves. I met my boyfriend almost a year ago, he had been living on his own for the last couple of years (kind of expect men to be watching porn in this case) We had a conversation about ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is a compulsive liar. Should I leave him now?

Q.   I have been dating a guy for almost 2 years. He was my first boyfriend. At the beginning of the relationship he was a mess ie.was a pot head, porn addict,continously talking about exes, didnt see me much and was really lazy. But at that time i didnt ...

A.   6 February 2008: I understand how you feel as my b/f lies a lot of the time and I know it. He also has pics of his ex g/f on his PC and as I don't live with him, I have no idea whether he looks at them to get pleasure or whether he just keeps them because he was ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend's mother hates me!

Q.   Boyfriend's Mother HATES ME I suspected my boyfriend's mother hated me when she repeatedly sang praises about his ex-girlfriend (two girlfriends ago) and how much the whole family loved her. It was confirmed when she began calling me NOT by my act...

A.   6 February 2008: Hey Ayla, It sounds like she might just be jealous about the amount of time her son dedicates to you and maybe she didn't even like the "ex ex" g/f that much but is just using that as an excuse to be nasty and try and drive you and your b/f apar... (read in full...)

My boyfriend says he "loves" me, but he's not "in love with" me!

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for a year and 10 months. Two and half of these months has been long distance. Were about 5 hours apart. It has been hard but I believe in him so much and love him so much that I'm willing to do this long distance ...

A.   4 January 2008: Yep, i'm going through something very similar at the moment with my boyfriend of almost 3 years...Last Oct, he wrote me a long letter saying that he loved and cared for me a lot but was just not "in love" with me and that it would be best if we just ... (read in full...)

My cousin and I are both single. How do I tell him I love him, and dare I risk doing so?

Q.   Im in love with my cousin who is three years older than me. I had heard that he loves me too. So when recently he came to our home he acted exceptionally friendly with me only. He touched my hand, kissed it too. Even i started loving him since ...

A.   3 January 2008: Actually it is wrong to act on these feelings, I agree with the last comment & think you should just try and move on even if it is difficult. My boyfriend said he would like to have sex with his cousin even though he knows it's wrong...I found that ... (read in full...)

After 2 1/2 years, my boyfriend wants to move to Australia...without me

Q.   I met my boyfriend 2 1/2 years ago and we spend so much time together (maybe too much sometimes) I always knew he wanted to move to Australia eventually as his bro lives out there and he wants to get his mum out there on permenant residancy so he ...

A.   3 January 2008: Thanks again :) I should have realised he's not that bothered as i've been sick with flu for the last 2 days and haven't even had as much as a text or phone call from him to see how I am! :/ It's all very strange...I have decided to end i... (read in full...)

After 2 1/2 years, my boyfriend wants to move to Australia...without me

Q.   I met my boyfriend 2 1/2 years ago and we spend so much time together (maybe too much sometimes) I always knew he wanted to move to Australia eventually as his bro lives out there and he wants to get his mum out there on permenant residancy so he ...

A.   2 January 2008: Hi all, Thanks for all the advice :) We did sit down and have a chat about it the other day and he ended up calling me selfish for wanting him to dedicate half his life to me and not just be happy for him that he will be happier living i... (read in full...)

After 2 1/2 years, my boyfriend wants to move to Australia...without me

Q.   I met my boyfriend 2 1/2 years ago and we spend so much time together (maybe too much sometimes) I always knew he wanted to move to Australia eventually as his bro lives out there and he wants to get his mum out there on permenant residancy so he ...

A.   2 January 2008: Hi all, Thanks for all the advice :) We did sit down and have a chat about it the other day and he ended up calling me selfish for wanting him to dedicate half his life to me and not just be happy for him that he will be happier living i... (read in full...)

He loves me but doesn't trust me! How do I gain his trust?

Q.   Im going out with someone and we have recently just told each other that we love each other. The thing is though he cant trust me, how do i gain his trust? ...

A.   2 January 2008: First of all, does he have any reason not to trust you? Maybe he has some self esteem issues that he needs to work through. I am the same with my boyfriend because he still keeps in touch with his ex girlfriends and has lots of girly mates so i'm ... (read in full...)

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