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Hi,

I am on Dear Cupid rather sporadically, some weeks I will answer lots of questions and you may not see me on here again for a month, that is because I volunteer my time to do this and I have a personal life, too.

I am qualified to help people mostly because I have had a lot of life experience and have lived through a lot a relationship problems, both romantic and and family. I have personal experience with mentally ill people, though it is not my profession I am degreed in Psychology and I read, A LOT.

I tend to answer mostly questions about break ups, troubled relationships that have to do with someone being blind to the fact that they are being mistreated or may even be in an abusive relationship. I am not going to sugar coat it and tell you what you want to hear, your boyfriend/girlfriend has probably manipulated you enough by doing that. I am going to tell you the truth as I see it.

Most problems people have in relationships are a problem with thinking. We all have trouble seeing our own problems clearly because we are too close to the problem or the person we are having trouble with. It isn't a disparagement of you to point out the flaws in your thinking, it's what you came here for...some advice, a clear perspective or how your situation seems to someone who is not too emotionally involved. It's why Doctors are not allowed to operate on their own family, they don't do a good job, they are too close, they care too much.

So you may not like my advice or think I give the same answer to every girl or guy with a love problem, but I can assure you that it is mostly because I answer the same types of questions. And as hard as it is for you to accept, most problem relationships have the same things going on with them and all the he said, she saids and details do not make a hill of beans (OK, yes I am older)because it is the same old story that women and men struggle with.

That is what I am here to help you muddle through. You can choose to disagree with me, or disregard my advice. After all, it is your life and your life is a sum of your own choices. If you want a guiding light or not that is clearly up to you, so don't shoot the messenger for shining a light on your faulty thinking.

Have a blessed day.

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My boyfriend finds it really easy to lie to my face! Should I be worried?

Q.   okay so basically, my boyfriend worries me. i don't know if he has mental health problems, as i wouldn't want to put a massive label on him, i'm not naive. he has no parents as he lost his mum due to drink 3 years ago, he's been dealing with an ...

A.   24 August 2010: People get hung up on the label, you worry about how drunk he will get when he goes out, yeah, he can't drink responsibly, he drinks to excess frequently, it's in his genetics (his mother died of alcoholism) and he continues to go down the same ... (read in full...)

I am afraid my abusive ex will try to punish me for having a new boyfriend...

Q.   I am separated from the father of my child, mainly because he was addicted to cocaine and abusive. I barely knew him when I got pregnant, he told me got me pregnant on purpose (he was 10 yrs older). Anyway we are apart and still going through co...

A.   24 August 2010: Further, if you have a computer, immediately backup any information and pictures from your Blackberry onto your computer, and get tracking on your computer, or fingerprint ID so if that is stolen you can find the laptop or keep someone from ... (read in full...)

I am afraid my abusive ex will try to punish me for having a new boyfriend...

Q.   I am separated from the father of my child, mainly because he was addicted to cocaine and abusive. I barely knew him when I got pregnant, he told me got me pregnant on purpose (he was 10 yrs older). Anyway we are apart and still going through co...

A.   24 August 2010: Ok, sorry to hear that, but lesson learned, don't leave you valuables in your car where they can be stolen, ever...I learned that a long time ago when my car window was broken and my stupid sunglasses I left sitting on the console at my health club ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend finds it really easy to lie to my face! Should I be worried?

Q.   okay so basically, my boyfriend worries me. i don't know if he has mental health problems, as i wouldn't want to put a massive label on him, i'm not naive. he has no parents as he lost his mum due to drink 3 years ago, he's been dealing with an ...

A.   21 August 2010: You can play word games, worse, not helping him, keeping him a drunk, what ever, an alcoholic needs to go to rehab, having an enabler (YOU) keeps them from getting help that they need, so in a sense you are making him worse by being that person who ... (read in full...)

I'm 21, He's 58 and been divorced 3 times! Could we be happy together?

Q.   I am currently in a relationship with a 58-year old man. I just turned 21. We've been together for 7 months, and most of the time I think our relationship is very good. We are very comfortable with each other and have a great sex life. This is the ...

A.   14 August 2010: I agree with eveyone here. Try reading my articles on spotting a bad man before you get involve, whoops too late for that, but you still might want to think hard about this relationship being so "wonderful and happy" after a short 7 months.... (read in full...)

Could he just be using me?

Q.   I've been dating this guy for a couple of weeks now, i really like him, however he keeps on touching me where i dont want to be touched and the only time he does this when he kisses me even if its just a peck. He wont hold my hand or even act like ...

A.   14 August 2010: If that is the way your gut is making you feel, then you are 100% accurate. Our body ALWAYS tells us information before our mind is ready to hear it. He isn't acting right, he isn't being sincere and you should listen to your instincts as ... (read in full...)

We broke up, but I'm stuck with her dogs

Q.   My girlfriend and I have been on and off for the last 2 and a half years. She had two dogs when we meet.Shortly after our meeting she had to sell her house. (which I helped get ready to sell with her)After this she had no room for the dogs which I...

A.   14 August 2010: I want to say don't give them to the SPCA, with the current bad economy, more than the normal amount (which in some communities, animals at the Humane Shelter are measured in Tons rather than numbers because they are euthanized by the tons) are ... (read in full...)

Dear non - Borderline Personality Disorder.

Q.   Hi everyone. I guess this article sort of follows on from my last one about Borderline Personality Disorder. I found something on the internet I would like to share. It is a letter written by someone with BPD, addressing those who don't have it bu...

A.   14 August 2010: Dear Samantha, I think you are the exception when it comes to a person diagnosed with BPD, you seem to be improving with therapy and are capable of change. Perhaps this is because you are NOT actually a person with BPD, but a child of a paren... (read in full...)

My boyfriend finds it really easy to lie to my face! Should I be worried?

Q.   okay so basically, my boyfriend worries me. i don't know if he has mental health problems, as i wouldn't want to put a massive label on him, i'm not naive. he has no parents as he lost his mum due to drink 3 years ago, he's been dealing with an ...

A.   14 August 2010: You can't fix him, you're worrying about him every time he goes out about how drunk he will be is called "enabler". You are actually now part of "his problem with drink". As long as he has your acceptance, he had your approval, he will not be m... (read in full...)

I am afraid my abusive ex will try to punish me for having a new boyfriend...

Q.   I am separated from the father of my child, mainly because he was addicted to cocaine and abusive. I barely knew him when I got pregnant, he told me got me pregnant on purpose (he was 10 yrs older). Anyway we are apart and still going through co...

A.   12 August 2010: I would start recording your phone conversations with him and keeping any emails or texts that are threatening. Also, start keeping a written record of his violations to the court ordered visitation.. I don't know what the family laws are in Canada, ... (read in full...)

Why is he playing both of us?

Q.   okay so my ex and i have 3 kids together and a 6 year history. we split a year ago and ever since i dated two guys and he has dated two girls but in the mean time we have still been sleeping together... its crazy but now i know i actually want him ...

A.   12 August 2010: What kind of environment are you raising your kids in? Here you are broken up with their father and basically still letting him use you for sex and come and go between you and another woman. You are accepting his verbal abuse, yes that is what... (read in full...)

I need advice to help Tina!

Q.   Oh goodness, where should I start? Alright well in the summer of 2009. Mine and Meg's best-friend Tina got pregnant. Tina was in a horrible relationship, abusive emotionally and verbally. Her boyfriend has issues with drugs and his mother had ...

A.   12 August 2010: First off, I don't think either of you ought to feel envious of Meg and her pregnancy and her boyfriend. She is making some pretty bad choices, getting pregnant now twice before she is married. Who is to say that this boyfriend won't dissapoint... (read in full...)

My fetus is at high risk for Down Syndrome and I don't know what to do.

Q.   hi im just writing because i need some 1 to talk to im 19 years old and 20 weeks pregnant with my first child yesterday i found out that my baby is at high risk of having down syndrome i dont know what to do .. dont know if i can handle a chil...

A.   12 August 2010: PS, I know how upset and worried you must be over this, but doctor's have to give you all the risks obviously and it is good that we have the technology now to find out so you can make an educated decision. Of course you will be in our prayers ... (read in full...)

Do I break it off with my fiance and try to get back with my high school sweetheart

Q.   Ok here is my Issue. I just got engaged to a guy I have been dating for 7 months. He is a wonderful guy. He takes care of me and puts me first in everything. The problem is every sunday I see my first love. He and i dated for 3 years off and on, and ...

A.   12 August 2010: Seven months of dating is not long enough to spend with a person to become engaged, nothing replaces time spent getting to know another person and building intimacy. You haven't been through the four seasons even once with this guy so you don't ... (read in full...)

What does this non-serious ex keep contacting me a year and a half later?

Q.   Hello, about a year and a half ago I dated a guy I was crazy about. We only dated for four months and only saw each other maybe ten times. We broke up on good terms, but basically because I wanted something more serious than him. He started con...

A.   12 August 2010: It's hard to say what he wants, a lot of guys keep their little black books and when they end one relationship they go back to the little book of past lovers and friends and try to pick up where they left off, to them it is a lot easier than ... (read in full...)

My fetus is at high risk for Down Syndrome and I don't know what to do.

Q.   hi im just writing because i need some 1 to talk to im 19 years old and 20 weeks pregnant with my first child yesterday i found out that my baby is at high risk of having down syndrome i dont know what to do .. dont know if i can handle a chil...

A.   11 August 2010: I know I am going to get a lot of push back and disagreement, but here goes, the reason we have these tests is to find gross birth defects before bringing a life to the world to have to suffer the consequences of these defects. Many many downes s... (read in full...)

How can I gain my boyfriend's trust back?

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for 9 months and 4 of those months he has been in work release. I lied to him about how many times I talked to this guy. I've never cheated on him nor hung out with another guy. I truly love this man with all my hear...

A.   11 August 2010: Question: How did a DUI from two years ago finally catch up with him? He had to have violated his probation in some way, either getting caught driving without a valid driver's licencse (as DUI's get their license and driving priviledges taken ... (read in full...)

How can I gain my boyfriend's trust back?

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for 9 months and 4 of those months he has been in work release. I lied to him about how many times I talked to this guy. I've never cheated on him nor hung out with another guy. I truly love this man with all my hear...

A.   11 August 2010: It's interesting that you think pointing out your errors in thinking and choosing a boyfriend is "putting you down". Did you ever perhaps think that an older, wiser person has the life experience to see those red flags where you do not, and is ... (read in full...)

What is the right path for us to take to help mend our marriage after the affair?

Q.   PLease someone help me ...advise me please...i hurt so bad... I want my husband to give me absolute honest detailed clear picture of what he was doing talking on cell phone,emailings text messaging exchanging pictures with some women in secret f...

A.   10 August 2010: I think what you want is to feel that your husband is truly sorry for his betrayal of your marriage and your trust by conversing and sending pictures to women behind your back, women you never met or knew anything about. Although I don't think it... (read in full...)

I like my oldest step brother but my mum told me not to fool around with him!

Q.   I'm getting 2 step brothers and I'm sorta starting to like the oldest one, B.he's the same age as me and about a month ago he wanted to fool around but I stopped it cause my mom had a chat with me saying it was wrong to fool around with each other ...

A.   10 August 2010: It's time you learn that certain things and certain people are out of bounds, off limits, and you have to just respect that and don't go there. You are brother and sister now by marriage and you are both living at home with one of each of your par... (read in full...)

My friends say I should tell a guy how I feel about him, but I don't know

Q.   I have liked this guy for about 6 months now im only in high school but i think im in love because hes all i think about i really love him everyone says i would have a chance with him but i dnt think so. I don't know what to do because im a really ...

A.   10 August 2010: Ah, honey, it's nice that you have a big crush on a fella, you don know that is what it is don't you? Because Love is a pretty big word and that actually happens between two people who really know each other well. I think it might be a bit off ... (read in full...)

How can I gain my boyfriend's trust back?

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for 9 months and 4 of those months he has been in work release. I lied to him about how many times I talked to this guy. I've never cheated on him nor hung out with another guy. I truly love this man with all my hear...

A.   10 August 2010: Out of the mouths of babes who think they know it all. Your lie was minor, it was about how many times you talked to a male on FACEBOOK, since half of the human race is the opposite sex are you planning on never speaking to another male as long ... (read in full...)

I've got stong feelings for this guy but he's using me for sex...

Q.   few months ago ive been seeing a guy who i have strong feelings for but he's been using me for sex, and i told him i want more than this. its very hard to get a smile from him he wont have a normal convo, he's very disrespectful, why does he hate me ...

A.   10 August 2010: And by the way it is the man with a conscience and some compassion and empathy for others who will let the little wet, cold, unkempt, starving dog in the house. This man is cruel and posesses none of those qualities or he wouldn't be using yo... (read in full...)

I've got stong feelings for this guy but he's using me for sex...

Q.   few months ago ive been seeing a guy who i have strong feelings for but he's been using me for sex, and i told him i want more than this. its very hard to get a smile from him he wont have a normal convo, he's very disrespectful, why does he hate me ...

A.   10 August 2010: The thing about closure is it really never helps. What you are feeling is emotional pain, and what you are asking for is a logical explanation of why why why. Well logic does not solve an emotional issue, it can't, the pain is still there. You ... (read in full...)

How can I gain my boyfriend's trust back?

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for 9 months and 4 of those months he has been in work release. I lied to him about how many times I talked to this guy. I've never cheated on him nor hung out with another guy. I truly love this man with all my hear...

A.   10 August 2010: He obviously is a repeat offender, driving while intoxicated or under the influence of drugs is a CRIMINAL offense, he IS a criminal and shows a genuine lack of responsibility and empathy for others. If he has three DUI's he is a FELON and has to ... (read in full...)

I give guys my number but they never call... why???

Q.   I am a very frustrated young woman. I have given my number to numerous men who never bother to call. In person, they seem very interested in me, but the moment I give out my number; I never get called. I want desperatlely to be in a casual ...

A.   10 August 2010: Don't give your number out to men who don't ask for it. Stop feeling desperate and frustrated, that is the energy you put out there and men can sense that like a dog senses fear or treats, lol. Instead of relying on the bar scene to meet men whe... (read in full...)

We're teenagers and we really want to have a baby!

Q.   Hi :) My boyfriend and I realllyyyyy want a baby!! We've been trying for about 2 months and it doesn't seem to work. Everyone says I'm too young for a baby, but I know this is what we want. I love my boyfriend to death, and we want a baby and ...

A.   10 August 2010: S T U P I D Selfish Thoughts lead to Unpredictable Relationship Outcomes Pregnancy when you yourself are a child is Idiotic Denial is your middle name Get Permission from Your Parents to Have a Child since they will be the ones raisin... (read in full...)

How can I gain my boyfriend's trust back?

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for 9 months and 4 of those months he has been in work release. I lied to him about how many times I talked to this guy. I've never cheated on him nor hung out with another guy. I truly love this man with all my hear...

A.   10 August 2010: You are in love with a guy with a criminal record? He's on work release? What is he a Felon? He doesn't sound to me like the best thing that ever happened to you, but the worst thing that ever happened to you. His jealousy and checking you... (read in full...)

He doesn't seem to miss me at all since he moved away...

Q.   Okay well my boyfriend of almost 7 years got a very good job offer sprung on him last week which gave him 2 days to get his stuff packed and move 1200 miles away. before he went we talked about it and decided that i would go down a month after so he ...

A.   10 August 2010: I think you should just back off and relax, stop calling him, Let him miss you. Moving house is right up there with divorce, death, etc, as one of the most stressful things a person has to go through even if it is a choice and even if it is somet... (read in full...)

Why do guys like to talk dirty with someone they don't know?

Q.   Why do guys like to talk dirty with someone they don't know? I have been in online dating chat rooms. and all the guys want to talk about is sex. It makes me feel uncomfortable since the guy is a stranger. If anyone knows the answer to this ...

A.   10 August 2010: Come on you know the answer to this question, because guy's in internet chat rooms are horny perverts and internet predators. Stay out of the chat rooms. What comes first is the man with a problem, what comes next is he shows up in a chat room and ... (read in full...)

Engaged... but I don't love her!

Q.   Hello, We're engaged for nearly a year now, I like her but I don't think that I love her. We're sexually attracted to each other but other than that we have nothing in common. I told her once that I am not sure where our relationship is headin...

A.   10 August 2010: I think you know the answer to your question and know what you want to do, just do it and get it over with so you both can move on and heal. Of course she will cry and be upset and you very may will do the same. If the time isn't right for you to m... (read in full...)

Should I help my ex with career at the risk of losing my current boyfriend?

Q.   Hey guys, be great to get ur advice on this. Im in a very loving and caring relationship with my boyfriend a year now. im 25 and he's 26. im going into my final year in college stusying animation, and recently have a great opportunity for a great ...

A.   10 August 2010: I don't think the cover art for an up an coming band is a career maker. That said if you want the experience and want to do the work for your ex, then make sure he pays you for it first and foremost, half of your fee up front before the job is d... (read in full...)

How can I tell my friends and family we're trying again?

Q.   I split with my boyfriend about 3 weeks ago, but I cant move on. I still love him, i still feel something for him and i cant see my future without him. We've spoke for the past 2 days about trying again, he said im the only one he wants and i trust ...

A.   10 August 2010: Are you really only 13-15? You are too young to be in such a relationship that weighs you down and takes your focus off of school. Yeah, that is what your time is suppose to be spent on, not agonizing over some boy who lives too far to spend time ... (read in full...)

He thinks I'm cheating with my ex but I'm not! How can I convince him?

Q.   Hey. I'm a 21 year old female. I have a boyfriend that I love a lot ! We've been together for 4 years now and he thinks I'm cheating on him with my ex!! He doesn't like when I talk to guys, and I don't like when he talks to girls either! He does it ...

A.   10 August 2010: I think you both are too immature to have a serious long term relationship and this one has run it's course. If you play childish games to try and make each other jealous then there isn't much left to the attraction or to the relation... (read in full...)

Is this just the end of infatuation or really true love?

Q.   Is this true love? Me and my girlfriend have been together for 9 months, but just recently we broke up. I felt sick and she said that she cried a lot. I know I want her back, but I have the feeling that I should let her go and live her life and let ...

A.   10 August 2010: I know you will hate to hear this but at your age it isn't true love. You know nothing of real love between a man and a woman because you are still children. Mostly what you are feeling is dependance and attachment, which are important ... (read in full...)

I'm afraid of being alone forever!

Q.   I know im only 13, but im afraid of being alone forever. I havent had a father in my life since my parents got divorced when I was 6. I dont have any brothers, so I dont know whats it like to be around men. My mom says that all men are pigs and that ...

A.   10 August 2010: Wow, it is sad that you feel this way at 13, but I bet a lot of kids feel this way, even those that have loving parents...you are at a tough age where you are trying to transition from being a totally dependent child into a young teen on the verge ... (read in full...)

He suggested we be 'just friends' and then acts like we're a couple?

Q.   My best male friend and i have abit of a past, on and off throughout our entire 'friendship' we've battled back and forth between friends and more. Multiple times we have expressed we have feelings for one another, but in the almost 3 years w...

A.   10 August 2010: Well, OK, If you say so, in three years, more than friends doesn't mean you have had sex with each other.... In my view if this hasn't taken off into a romance by now it isn't going to. He sees you as a friend. If you want something more a... (read in full...)

How can I stop these thoughts and move on?

Q.   Hi, Logically, I know that its best to have my ex out of my life- he's lied and cheated ever since we got together (six years!) and now I have broken contact for good. So, why do I keep thinking about him and how he continues with his life like I ...

A.   10 August 2010: Boy, I can relate to how you are feeling about your ex and how unfair it seems that he has moved on with his life and you are left picking up the pieces of yourself that he is responsible for shattering. It isn't right, but those are the sad cons... (read in full...)

How can I advise my daughter???

Q.   My daughter is 19 ,and very confused. She is unable to be alone, and because of that ,she is putting up, with a boyfriend ,who is not treating her very nice. I think she is putting in much more than he does, and I dont know how loyal he is , ...

A.   10 August 2010: Are you married still to your daughter's father? I am asking because often times daughters that have "not very nice" boyfriends either lack a close relationship with their father or a father figure and or have a history of receiving some abuse from ... (read in full...)

My husband loves his truck more than me!

Q.   Well cupid I'm back again just need some honest answers. I was in a car accident about three months ago and my car was gone trashed went to car heaven lol and now I'm working on getting better I did break my heel and boy does that hurt plus i...

A.   9 August 2010: Ha ha, well at least you have a sense of humor about it. Does your husband really love his truck more than you or is just blowing off steam and acting the fool? I love that you told him your money tree just died. Did you have the car insured?... (read in full...)

Why is my abusive Ex not abusive to the new girl?

Q.   well i left my abusive bf(the father of my 5 year old twins)about a year ago and i am lonely and misserable i live at my moms cause i cant afford my own place.my ex has a live in girlfriend and his own apt and he appears to be happy and not abusive ...

A.   9 August 2010: You have a six year history with a man who was abusive to you. He is with a new woman and not abusive to her or her kid. He's been with her for only 5 months. Give him time, a leapord never changes his spots and neither does a dysfunctional ... (read in full...)

How will I know, when I am ready for sex?

Q.   I am currently in a relationship with a guy. We have been courting for almost two months but we have an issue regarding the sexual aspect. I am 24 and a virgin and 'not ready' whilst he is experienced. He keeps saying he loves me and is willing to ...

A.   9 August 2010: Fair has absolutely nothing to do with deciding to lose your virginity. Two months is not an earth shattering amount of time to wait to have sex with a man you are dating as it is apparant you are sexual in other ways, by playing around. ... (read in full...)

To worry or not to worry???

Q.   I have a situation with my boyfriend that is really bothering me. This may sound strange and/or stupid at first but read on.... We’ve been together for 1-1/2 years. He seems to have this strange habit of texting a couple of his female friends ...

A.   9 August 2010: You don't get it. Stop sending him texts, you live with him, stop obsessing over the texts he sends to women who are not in his life or that he values...texting is a low level form of communication. If it bothers you THAT much, and I must say... (read in full...)

Can I win back her heart before it is too late?

Q.   I've posted before about my divorce from my partner of 20 years. It involved an affair on my part that is now over. However, I'm having severe problems that I am trying to work through and could use some advice. I know how the Aunts feel about ...

A.   9 August 2010: I think if you feel your wife still loves you then there is an inkling of a chance that you could get back together with her and keep your family in tact. I hope that what you will do is to show your wife this letter you have written to us, when... (read in full...)

Moving in with my boyfriend could be a bad idea if his brother moves in too?

Q.   I have been with my current significant other for 3 years and we are planning to move in together. At first, it was very exciting searching for apartments and actually viewing them! We actually started saving money months ahead and made a list of ...

A.   9 August 2010: Just because you made a plan now that has been in the works for months does not mean you have to follow through with it when it has all turned to shit. It is a really bad idea for you to move from your place of work and school and commute just to ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend finds it really easy to lie to my face! Should I be worried?

Q.   okay so basically, my boyfriend worries me. i don't know if he has mental health problems, as i wouldn't want to put a massive label on him, i'm not naive. he has no parents as he lost his mum due to drink 3 years ago, he's been dealing with an ...

A.   9 August 2010: You boyfriend flipping out and lying to you are signs he may have deeper problems that you cannot fix by "wanting the best for him" or "loving him to peices". The longer you stay in his dysfunction in this toxic relationship, the more harm wil... (read in full...)

My boyfriend finds it really easy to lie to my face! Should I be worried?

Q.   okay so basically, my boyfriend worries me. i don't know if he has mental health problems, as i wouldn't want to put a massive label on him, i'm not naive. he has no parents as he lost his mum due to drink 3 years ago, he's been dealing with an ...

A.   9 August 2010: "I hate when we argue and if he is wrong he will never accept it (take responsibility for his actions) he just turns it around on me (manipulation) i just do worry about him. he's so quick to start an argument when there's not one to be had. he ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend finds it really easy to lie to my face! Should I be worried?

Q.   okay so basically, my boyfriend worries me. i don't know if he has mental health problems, as i wouldn't want to put a massive label on him, i'm not naive. he has no parents as he lost his mum due to drink 3 years ago, he's been dealing with an ...

A.   9 August 2010: I think you need to stop checking up on your boyfriend and looking at his Facebook page. If he got in at 2 AM and told you 12 then why is he lying? And what difference does the time make after all? What would concern me is that he is going out ... (read in full...)

He suggested we be 'just friends' and then acts like we're a couple?

Q.   My best male friend and i have abit of a past, on and off throughout our entire 'friendship' we've battled back and forth between friends and more. Multiple times we have expressed we have feelings for one another, but in the almost 3 years w...

A.   8 August 2010: This guy is getting all the "benefits" of having a girlfriend without any of the responsibility of having a relationship. He's immature, he likes you, and since you have been something more than friends (translaions, you two are doing the hori... (read in full...)

To worry or not to worry???

Q.   I have a situation with my boyfriend that is really bothering me. This may sound strange and/or stupid at first but read on.... We’ve been together for 1-1/2 years. He seems to have this strange habit of texting a couple of his female friends ...

A.   8 August 2010: Disable your Facebook page, ask him to disable his. Facebook is stupid, really, it is to keep in touch with people who for the most part are NOT part of your real life, but friends from the past or work friends or friends of friends, it is a social ... (read in full...)

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