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I can't cope through this breakup!

Q.   I feel so stupid posting on here. But, I am so distraught. I know that no one can really say one thing to make me feel better but I need a helping hand. I am going to see a counselor, too. But, I am falling. I had a break up a couple of months ...

A.   23 January 2007: oh my god, we're in exactly the same situation. Im so sorry you are going through such a bad time but so glad im not the only one. I dont know what advice to give you as I cant help myself, but just know that you arent alone and there are lots of ... (read in full...)

Worried that my husband is being a "sex tourist" in South Thailand...

Q.   My husband is vacationing in South Thailand. Many people have told me that chances are if he's there with his friends, that he's taking advantage of Thailands notorious 'Sex tourism' and that the vast majority of western people visiting Thailand end ...

A.   18 January 2007: I can see why youre worried to be honest, having just come back from there with a mixed group, men and women. It seems that men who would never in a million years consider paying for it in England see it differently over there, because it does seem ... (read in full...)

Im 34 and have never had a boyfriend, what the hell am I doing wrong!!!?

Q.   I'm 34 and have never had a boyfriend. I have a very good full-time job, a lucrative business on the side, spend a lot on my clothes, hair and appearance, have interesting hobbies, read newspapers and books, go to the gym and generally take care of ...

A.   20 December 2006: Maybe you need to be more outrageous. Flirt more. More eye contact, touching, etc. I know you may say thats not 'you', but hell it gets your message across. ... (read in full...)

I'm Anxious about him getting a text from his ex on New Years Eve!!!

Q.   Should i be mad if on New Years Eve, my b/f receievs a text from an ex OR excuses himself a few minutes after midnight to avoid me seeing a text from a girl and to avoid me getting mad about it? I am feeling anxious about it coming up. Last year on ...

A.   20 December 2006: I wouldnt worry about it, I send a block text to everyone in my phone saying happy new year. Mates, exes, colleagues, the lot.... (read in full...)

He says he loves me but I need more reassurance. How do I deal with my insecurities?

Q.   what's the best way to deal with feelings of insecurity in a relationship? my bf tells me he loves me and, intellectually, i believe it. but he's not a very expressive guy, and i tend to be insecure. i don't want to constantly rely on him to ...

A.   20 November 2006: Oh God I could have written this question myself. Its so so so hard. All I have found so far is that the more you ask for reassurance, the more you upset the balance of the relationship and give him all the power. My boyfriend is now exaspera... (read in full...)

I was prepared to change my entire life for her. We had a fight and now I'm not sure. Should I try again at this?

Q.   Dear cupid I have just split from a long distance relationship of 3 years now. My girl friend is 6 years older than me with a 6 year old son. I have no children and am not sure if i want any myself but she is coming up to an age where it would b...

A.   14 November 2006: If I were you, I would give it a go. If it doesnt work out, what have you lost?? You can always go home. Im also in a long distance relationship and this is the approach Im taking. Our relationship is by no means perfect but I love him - so Id be ... (read in full...)

My friends are turning on me and I don't know why! Please help!

Q.   my so called friends have been bitching about me and i dont know why, one girl has sent me a text saying you ugly bitch and other horrible things and recently one other girl printed off an msn conversation and they say im a liar. what do i do plase ...

A.   13 November 2006: Are you at school? If so, then darling dont worry, bitchy girls go through phases like this. I know its a cliche but rise above it and just dont get involved. They are just trying to make themselves feel included and part of a group as they are... (read in full...)

Is a missing condom a clear indication of someone cheating on you?

Q.   Is a missing condom a clear indication of someone cheating on you? I'm a suspicious person, i admit. I try to find ways to make sure someone isnt cheating on me. My b/f says in the past he has gotten very tired of my behavior which i can see but ...

A.   8 November 2006: Argh, listen, my ex boyfriend accused me of cheating for exactly the same reason, with NO grounding at all!! I hadnt even thought about cheating, but my flatmate had pinched a couple of condoms and hadnt mentioned it. When my ex noticed he got r... (read in full...)

I want to make a career in fashion..anyone got any tips on that?

Q.   Hello hi , im nat im 16. Well i've just finished my first 6 weeks at 6th form and yeah, it's ok, but i'ts given me second thoughts. I want to do something with fashion i've been told i have talent i've done abit of making and i have a portfolio...

A.   27 October 2006: A bit of advice for you - you will have to do a lot of work experience. Im a fashion PR myself. All the designers have huge teams of interns working for them - as indeed we do in our office. Send your CV off and be prepared to work for free. Also,... (read in full...)

How can I get it through to my ex, that its well and truly over!?

Q.   I am hoping that some of you can help me with this problem – you see I was with my boyf for 9 years, for 2 of them we were engaged to be married, we broke up 18 months ago after I found out he had been sleeping with my supposed “Best Friend and ...

A.   27 September 2006: Just wanted to say what a great person you sound. I wish I could think I would be as strong as you were in that situation. WELL DONE to you for taking what would be most women's worst nightmare and getting over it and moving on the way you have. ... (read in full...)

I'm leery of marriage? Is there people out there who have been married a long time and still happy?

Q.   Hi all, I come from the land of Divorces. I think only one or two marriages in my family, thus far, have survived. So I was thinking today what my future marriage(s) will probably follow the same path. And now that divorce rates are so high...I ...

A.   22 September 2006: Yeah my parents. Married 25 years, 4 children. They cant bear to be apart, Dad travels a lot and mum will finish work (she's a teacher) and fly over to meet him in, say, Paris for dinner and one night, then come back super early the next morning for ... (read in full...)

Do long distance relationships ever work ?

Q.   hey i need help big style, im still not really over my ex and i need 2 b i think about him every day and we split up cause his lil boy died and went bk 2 his ex!! anyways i have met loads of new guys jus dont feel like goin out with them as i am ...

A.   19 September 2006: Have to disagree with Helen, my long distance relationship works great and we always know what each other is doing - this day and age you can be in constant contact thru email, text, phone, whatever.. we speak twice a day and maybe three or four ... (read in full...)

Ive started dating my ex, but what concerns me is hes shorter than me!!

Q.   I have recently started seeing an ex-boyfriend again who I have been on and off with for 3 years, during which we lived together for one year. I ended the relationship because I had a lot of guy friends and he kept getting really jealous. Now we ...

A.   15 September 2006: Had to answer when I saw this question - I copied and pasted it and emailed it to my parents. You see, they had exactly the first problem when they first met, Mum dumped Dad because she felt self conscious about the height difference. But obviously ... (read in full...)

How can I get over my girlfriends past???

Q.   My girlfriend and I have been dating for about four months and we are definately in love with each other. We spend everyday together, but don't live with each other. We are already talking about marriage but there is one thing lingering and eating ...

A.   11 September 2006: Youre not alone in feeling this, I have been in a pretty similar situation with my boyfriend.I know its a cliche but you have to remember that that is in the PAST. You can only judge on how she treats you. Whether she will return to her ways, only ... (read in full...)

We want a FUN evening date!! - any ideas?

Q.   Does anyone have any exciting date ideas? Something that will make us both laugh together and be lots of fun? We want to do something exciting Friday night, but i just cant think of anything to do in the evening that fits the bill. I can thi...

A.   6 September 2006: Not sure whereabouts you live.... but Rollerdiscos are a hilarious date, very fun and very different!!!... (read in full...)

Scared the lack of sex will drive me to someone else... please help!

Q.   Gosh where to start,.. Im totally in love with my man but im very scared that the lack of sex situation will force me to cheat. Now i hear you all saying if you loved him you wouldnt cheat.. but its not that simple!! Unless you are in it you really ...

A.   30 August 2006: Hi there, I know where youre coming from as my boyfriend does exactly the same thing, and with him ive come to realise that its a power thing. He has to be in the driving seat. Maybe its the same for your man? And also, think about it - you s... (read in full...)

How can I get my BF to treat me special again and appreciate me ?

Q.   I just want to know how to make my boyfriend treat me the way he used to when we first started dating. How do I get him to appriciate me and make me feel special?...

A.   30 August 2006: You know what, I dont want to encourage game playing. But when the same thing happened wih my boyfriend, I found one good way to get his attention is to draw back a little. Dont alwys be available, dont always call, dont always answer the phone. He ... (read in full...)

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