Should I worry that his first love is making contact?
Q. Hi my husbands first love is trying to get in contact with him. He's not sure yet if he will reply to email. I'm not sure how I feel about this,on the one hand I want him to do what he wants but on the other I'm a bit concerned about feelings being ...
A. 21 December 2016: okay this has happened to me. A few years ago my first love in fact we were engaged to be married contacted me. I replied and I wished I had not, it brought back much heartache and memories. We did not see each other because he lived abroad, bu... (read in full...)
My disappointment and depression are acted out in tirades
Q. I am in a relationship with a man who is rather controlling and kind of immature. However, he won't change since we are older. I realize that to enjoy all the great things about him (and he is a wonderful companion for many reasons) I must develop ...
A. 21 December 2016: There are many types of depression, have you been diagnosed with a particular type? This will make a great difference as to how you will be helped and you cannot just solve this at surface level. Imagine a tree with its branches and leaves and ... (read in full...)
How can I prevent my Aunty from showing me up in front of my boyfriend on Christmas Day? Title
Q. I've been with my partner for 6 years, and this will be the first time we are spending Christmas with my family. Though my boyfriend has met the rest of my family, this will be the first time he's meeting my aunty. She's actually a really nice pe...
A. 21 December 2016: You say that you are not close enough to her to tell her how you feel, but she obviously feels close enough to you to show all your photographs to everyone. I would be really upfront and I would ask her to refrain from showing photos and shari... (read in full...)
How can I stop her spreading false rumours ? How can I get her to fess up and tell the truth?
Q. I had a friend who I used to be close to some years back. I used to babysit her children when she was in hospital free of charge and generally be helpful. As the years passed the friendship changed. I moved to a more distant area and she rarely ...
A. 21 December 2016: Well you must be a very patient person not to get angry, because she has lost her home. I would be angry. How does she justify that YOU were the cause of her losing her home? Why was it YOUR fault that she has not paid her rent and had co... (read in full...)
I can't take any more with this man
Q. Help me please iam getting emontion abused. i have lost nearly 9 stone but he calls me fatty.wobbly and he knows iam hurt by it but laughts and carrys on.does a day go by when he never done it. I do everything for him.he dont seem to be happy unless ...
A. 20 December 2016: I know EXACTLY how you feel on this ne my husband says the same things to me too, but like you I have a child and it is not so easy to leave. I see you are in England so I am going to give you a link to http://www.krasacc.co.uk/. I am a psychiatr... (read in full...)
Suspicious of my friend's invitation
Q. If you have a friend who you havent seen for some years but who has made it quite clear that he wants sex with you although not exactly in those words, then it doesnt make sense to visit him in his home does it? I imagine its probably best to not v...
A. 20 December 2016: Please keep yourself safe and don't go to his home, meet in a public place. If you don't want sex with him make it very very clear before you meet him. I suspect he may pull out of the meeting, if he is a friend he will respect your wishes. ... (read in full...)
The LDR visit is not going well and I'm completely lost as to what to do!
Q. Hi, I'm currently 8 months in to a LDR, (we're separated by 10000 miles) and I've just arrived at hers two days ago for a three week visit. The problem I now have is that from the moment I landed she's been off, we've had a chat and she's now to...
A. 20 December 2016: oh you poor, poor man, I feel so sorry for you and angry with her. Why didn't she tell you before you arrived? what on earth is this girl playing at? In one way I would say don't make it easy for her and tag along with her for the next two wee... (read in full...)
I need to stop his demands
Q. Hi, i have been sharing for some time with a friend. He start looking for me and sharing with me. But it become a friend with benefits relationship, which i see was a mistake. Although he told me he isnt dating other girls, i dont believe him. A ...
A. 20 December 2016: Yes I think you have done the best thing, I wonder whether you are going to be able to cope with just being friends because it sounds as though you already have feelings for him. I think you have to ask yourself have you done this to jolt him into ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend will not stop going on about an instagram post!
Q. I've completely lost the plot with my boyfriend but I'm not sure if I overreacted. I'm trying really hard to think of things from his point of view but it's difficult. My friend's daughter commented on one of my photos on Instagram that h...
A. 20 December 2016: Oh for goodness sake GET RID OF HIM. he calls you abusive? He is abusive he is controlling you and trying to isolate you. I know EXACTLY how you feel, I am on facebook and my husband practically drives me mad about it, remarking about all my 500 ... (read in full...)
Take a job I don't want just to keep in contact with a crush?
Q. Hi I'm Sam and I'm 17 years old. I have been working at a bar in the UK temporarily over the Christmas period. I was hoping that after this temporary spell, I would be offered the job permanently. However at the my shift last night, my boss spoke to ...
A. 19 December 2016: Just go for it and ask her out, stop fannying about lol. DO IT. Washing pots in a kitchen is hard I know I have been there and done that. So go for it and ask her.... (read in full...)
I love her but don't know to what extent I love her
Q. I am facing a dilemma. Whether to marry, or to leave my girlfriend. I am inexperienced, and I need your opinion on what our relationship looks like to you, and what you think I should do. I also would like to hear what you think is important in a ...
A. 19 December 2016: I think you need to be honest with this girl, you need to let her go. Anyone who needs to ask if they should marry should not. You say you are stressed I bet she is more stressed because she probably knows herself deep down. You must make a ... (read in full...)
We disagree about matter of religion! Any advice?
Q. Hi everyone! I thought it might be a good idea to hear some impartial opinions on an issue I have been dealing with in my relationship. So my boyfriend and I are both Christian, though I only decided to be baptized when i was 14 while he ...
A. 19 December 2016: I can really see your point here, but I think its what your boyfriend is used to and what he has grown up with. I think it depends on what the children are being taught, and whether or not the teachings frighten them or are harmful. I believe ... (read in full...)
Should I write my bus driver crush a Christmas card?
Q. well I seen the bus driver I have a crush on who I think is about 36, I am 33. he is always shy but extra nice towards me and talks very low and mild mannered….so as I am getting on the bus today, he just cheeses and grins with all 32 teeth and says ...
A. 19 December 2016: Well I WOULD send him a card you said you would, so do so. Okay so he MAY be married and have children but that is up to him not to take it any further. You cant go through life thinking oh he may be this or that. Just send him a Christmas card DONT ... (read in full...)
Have I completely disrespected my boyfriend, when I had no intention of doing that?
Q. I went out on an unexpected night out with a work friend on Friday. We thought we'd just get a bite to eat and a few drinks after work but we ended up having one too many and never got home until 2:30am. We had dinner and went to a few bars. ...
A. 18 December 2016: Honestly I think you are being far too hard on yourself. I think this chap changed his tine and told you that yu should not be chatting people up because he knew he wasn't going to get you into bed. At least you told him about your boyfrien... (read in full...)
For the sake of my daughter, should I stay with a man who has just told me that "he wishes I was dead" ? l
Q. i dropped my fiance off at a work christmas party so he could drink if he wanted to and so he wouldnt have to worry about the snowstorm. he was going to call an uber at 11 so itd be there for sure by 12. that was the plan. i go home, fall asleep t...
A. 18 December 2016: I don't blame you for locking him out. I am not surprised that you were worried, what does he expect? anything could have happened to him. And it was at 8:30 the next morning, he cant just think he can stroll in when he wants to. We all do things ... (read in full...)
I really hate my name
Q. My birth name is Sarah, and it makes me sick. This is a trivial problem compared to some of the things people are dealing with, but I REALLY hate the name. I'm not a kid going through a phase. Ever since I can remember, I have always resented ...
A. 18 December 2016: Well why don't you change it? Here in England we have something called Deed Poll and you can legally change your name. But like you say you can change it but they may still call you Sarah. Why don't you try just not answering your family, when the... (read in full...)
Should I trust this man?
Q. I had an emotional affair with him and he left his wife and adult kids for me and mine. Which at first felt great. But then suddenly he lied to me saying he was going away for the weekend for Manchester, UK with his sons to try and get them on his ...
A. 18 December 2016: You are young how much time are you going to waste on this waste of space, because that is what he is. I have two friends one was one like you and she waited around 7 years and the chap never left his wife. My other friend started seeing her man ... (read in full...)
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