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23 June 2009: I have been on this site for a few months and i have seen so many questions like "Am i pregnant?". I wrote this to help some of you out there feeling lost.(1)fatigue or the lack of energy.(2)light spotting if you have concieved,spotting can be ...
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I have no idea why my husband doesn't want sex anymore
Q. im 20, my husbands 25. we have been married for a year and have a 9 months year old son. he seems like he has lost interest in having sex with me. sex never use to be a problem, and all of a sudden he makes up excuses..its driving me insane. i have...
A. 4 June 2009: since i have wrote this our sex life is productive, b/c he stoped working on te farm. he literally worked over 80 hours a week and 7days so i finally have him to myself, well kinda thank u guys... (read in full...)
New mother: just curious when babies start to say their 1st word
Q. just a question that im curious about. my son who was 8 weeks early is actually following the developmental charts just fine. when will he speak his first word appx.?? just curious...
A. 17 April 2009: thank you, he tries to say no, its kind of mummbled but understabdable, he asks were dada is by hust looking around and saying da. he also sounds like he is trying to say hi. i am dumbfounded at how quick this child is going. thank you guys for your ... (read in full...)
I'm going to meet my internet guy over the weekend. Is it safe?
Q. i have successfully in getting a partner, thanx dear cupid so much for helping me achieve that,but i still have a big problems as you can see in my country gay people does not allowed and base on that they always hide their sexuality from other ...
A. 9 April 2009: Let me start out by saying congratulations on finding someone. Internet dating for anyone can be dangerous. If you don't feel comfortable staying there, get a hotel room so you can still see him. Make sure you talk to him as to why, if he cares as ... (read in full...)
Am I being that bad to my ex GF?
Q. I posted on here before and came back to get some more advice. I dumped my GF last year and we were on and off since then. I told her i would consider getting back with her if she lost weight she is a size 14-16 but good looking i must say, I prefer ...
A. 9 April 2009: your being rude and selfish. why not trying to be there for her when she was there for you. i dont see anyone liking such a control freak. are you mad??... (read in full...)
Question on safe sex during pregnancy.
Q. Ok, I have a question for all! When you suspect you're a few weeks pregnant it's still safe to have sex, right? But even rough sex? The thing is..I'm waiting for my blood test results. I won't find out for a week or so. I haven't told my bo...
A. 9 April 2009: sex during pregnancy is fine. rough sex is ok but keep in mind there might be a baby in there. if you do wind up positive, in your 9th month be careful. it can actually send you labor if you have sex close to your due date. ... (read in full...)
My husband just wants his children's affection but they shower so much of it toward their mother
Q. My husband has three grown children from a previous marriage. Their mother left him and them when the kids were teenagers. He finished raising them with no help from her and she had a good job; was fully able to contribute financially. My husband ...
A. 9 April 2009: i think that the kids are trying to gain moms love and respect w/out taking into consideration what their father has done, when a child is faced with a divorce they most of the time feel like it is their fault that the divorce has occured therefore ... (read in full...)
Is this just a natural phase in a relationship?
Q. I've been dating someone for two months now, everything was going really well, until I left town for a week. After that he stopped calling and texting me as much. He's really busy with work and is really over stressed; however, I wonder if he is o...
A. 9 April 2009: if he is very stressed this does happen. even in a marriage it happens. guys get in there moods. if i were you stick it out for a little bit and be aware of his strees. try getting him to a relaxing technique to calm himself.... (read in full...)
Pregnant, unemployed, no government benefits. I'm worried about my baby's health. What can I do?
Q. I have recently discovered that I'm pregnant. I have been doing my research and i have a lot of course for concern. I don't have a job, I'm not entitled to receive job seekers allowance, I can't get a penny from anyone because i live with my b...
A. 9 April 2009: you can get prenatal vitamins over the counter, like no prescription needed. there not super expensive. but it will ensure you have the right beginning to your baby's growth. for the eating, i didn't know i was pregnant until l i was three month , ... (read in full...)
Fiance breaks up, gets back together, breaks up again!
Q. Help me plz. My fiance well rather just bf because he broke up with me and we weren't engaged anymore. He then took me back and we were fine for a few days but now he ended it again. It really really hurts. He was my first everything. How do I get ...
A. 9 April 2009: its going to take time. it sucks but there is no magical remedy to cure a broken heart. if you two get back together , make sure to maybe go to couples cousling or try figuring out hos problem before going back. if you do i mean. good luck... (read in full...)
Is he interested or afraid of a relationship
Q. I work with great guy thats a single father. I'll call him steve. I have been in a bad marriage for several years. Me and my husband seperated around Christmas time. My company had a Christmas party and my and Steve ended up making out (neither one ...
A. 9 April 2009: he may be afraid because he had his heartbroken like you. he sounds genuin and probably wants to see if the marriage is over for good this time. ... (read in full...)
I had sex today without protection, could I get pregnant?
Q. My boyfriend and I had sex today just about, maybe 11 hours ago. We didn't use protection(I thought he had a condom on but he didn't so please no rude comments) anyway, We started it "doggy style" but while we were doing it doggy style, He didn't ...
A. 9 April 2009: most likely yes. if you know for a fact no cum actually made it into your vagina then you should be fine. if you are super concerned take the mornong after pill... (read in full...)
My parents don't trust me!
Q. OMG I AHTE MY LIFE...i hate my rents they are so oo over protective, they get on my nerves and are always on my back!!! it's soo frustratting.....i hate my life, im a freekin 14 year old guy, i can take acare of my self.... i have no frreeedo...
A. 9 April 2009: listen to satindesire. she sums it up. dude i was like you hated life yada yada yada. im 20 and i need my parents sometimes still. listen to them, they are not trying to make you mad. dont run away you wont go far. and frankly if police find you ... (read in full...)
Why won't he tell me the truth that he cheated?
Q. I found out that my boyfriend cheated. i confronted him about it, but he denies everything that was said. the sad part is we have kids. why wont he tell me the truth? what is he hidding?...
A. 9 April 2009: he probably doesnt want to admit it because he may be afraid to loose you.... (read in full...)
I can't perform and she's starting to think I'm not attracted to her!
Q. I currently just tried having sex with my girl friend and was not able to maintain an erection. She able to make me have an orgasm by performing oral sex. I'm very much in love with her and I care about her a lot. She is the first girl I have tried ...
A. 9 April 2009: the less you watch porn and masterbate the more likely you will be able to perform. is your mind totally into the moment or are you thinking of money etc... (read in full...)
I'm worried about him and my best friend!
Q. question 1. hi guys. i'm worried. well.. i'm 12 and theres a boy i really like. hes also 12 but a day younger than me. i met him in year 4 or 5 and now i'm in 7. i hav been out with him about 3 times now. i would love to go out with him ag...
A. 9 April 2009: hey dont bother with a guy like that, he ignored you, you dont want to be ignored hun. i say find some one who wont ignore you. you deserve to be lostened to. ... (read in full...)
Is a girl desperate or slutty if she calls a guy?
Q. I have a long distance friend who I like very much. He's very nice to me and we generally keep in touch by email. More like once a week or so. It's been 2 yrs since we met in a meeting and we haven't cut communication ever. He says he enjoys...
A. 9 April 2009: no you be slutty or desperate if you call him. especially if it is difficult for him to call you. just dont call him to much. ... (read in full...)
If I am pregnant, I have no idea who the father would be!
Q. Well I'm 15 and I have a 15 year old boyfriend that is about to turn 16. We have been together for 9 months and We have had PROTECTED sex a few times and had no worries about it. But lately I have been getting pregnancy signs and I missed my period. ...
A. 9 April 2009: ok calm down, there are free clinics that could give you a bloodtest. call your local health dept. and ask. as for the father, after the baby is born (if you are infact pregnant) you can get a bloodtest done. ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is distant because the sex is bad
Q. hey guys. ive got a really embaresing problem! my bf and i hav bin togetha for 2 yrs. bt we seriously lacking in the intimacy deprtment! the sex isnt good because i neva go on top and we neva change styles plus we've never kisd coz i just simply ...
A. 9 April 2009: if you want sex positoins go to google.com and type in kamasutra but i agree that you should talk to him about this. if he cant tell you what is wrong, then try new positions and try to intiate it. maybe give oral. if you would like to message me ... (read in full...)
Why is he so inconsiderate?
Q. my boyfriend and I moved together 3 months ago.I started getting very stressed because he wouldn't clean at all. I told him, we had an argument he got a bit better,but later he keept neglecting everyhting.We had around 3-4 arguments about this, ...
A. 9 April 2009: when a girl is in a house a guy would expect the things from her. seeing is how your guy is a cook he probably doesnt want to cook. try making an arrangment were you cook he cleans up. if that doesnt work, then just leave the dishes he will get mad ... (read in full...)
Cant get my boyfriend to come...what am I doing wrong?
Q. No matter what I do it takes my boyfriend ages to come or he doesn't come at all. We do every position known to man, heaps of foreplay (at least half an hour of mutual kissing, touching masturbation), I give him oral sex for ages but I just canno...
A. 9 April 2009: you can do keegle excersises to make it tighter. your not doing anything wrong, is his mind in it?? try spooning and cross one leg over the other while hes in u it would make you feel tighter. if he cant go let him do you in his way, that way you ... (read in full...)
Funny pains...
Q. when my bf and i are having sex, air usually is trapped and it usually comes out cause of the funny farting noises but for the pass two days, it isnt coming out and i'm getting alot of,what feels like gas pains. is that normal? will the air comes ...
A. 9 April 2009: yes it happens embarassing as iy may be. its air. try laying a you back and do a little sit up putting pressure on tjat area w/your muscles. try pushing it oit of you if it still hurts. ... (read in full...)
He probably will never like me
Q. There is this guy that I have really liked for about 7 months. He stares at me a lot and his friends that I don't even know look at me and whisper as I walk by them. We are both really shy. He never really spoke to me. I know he listens when I talk ...
A. 9 April 2009: never doubt yourself. if people tell you that you are pretty, you probably are. to me yes it does sound like he likes you. by telling yourself that he will never like you it brings your self confident levels down. you shouldnt do that. oppisites ... (read in full...)
Will she ever come back?
Q. Alright so let me explain the situation. My first love, girlfriend of 2 years has been great to me and to be honest she has put up with a lot of my bull. We were great together. In the first week of the relationship i cheated on her with another ...
A. 9 April 2009: let me start off with congradulations on getting through that. when you cheat on a girl, its true she can never forget. from personal expierance i could not be with a guy who cheated on me. if you two did get back together it would be hard for her ... (read in full...)
The more we hang out the more it hurts
Q. so theres this guy and he is my best friend, hes there for me though thick and thin. he treats my brother like gold (spoils him rotton)and my family loves him. we've gotten really close lately and i have fallen in love with him. but he doesnt like ...
A. 9 April 2009: is there an age gap between you two? if there is and he is significantly older that can be a factor. are you sure if it is love or lust? you should savor your friendship, he may or may not have feelings for you in time.... (read in full...)
I'm 15 And 80% sure that I'm PREGNANT
Q. Hi , i am 15 years old and i am very confused , and in need of advice of a few things , im sorry that this is long.. , my ex bf keeps on asking me out , nd i keep on saying i cant go out with him , like i like him alot , its just the night i broke ...
A. 9 April 2009: well dear its very hard to take care of a child. i believe that you should talk to a dr. and see if you are surely pregnant.i am sure your mom would be angry but eventually shell understand you have to tell your mom very calmly and stand up for why ... (read in full...)
He cheated on me. Should I stay?
Q. I have known my boyfriend since2005... apparently he had a girl den and i knew and den he said they broke up. We started dating and i found out 2yrs later while we were still 2gether that he got back wit her while still wit me. Wen i found out we ...
A. 9 April 2009: i personally think that you shouldnt stay if it is hard for you two to get along. i believe that if you could forgive and forget try. i have heard that you cant change the cheating kind but were theres a will theres a way. personally i wouldnt stay. ... (read in full...)
Do you think I sould have sex ?
Q. I am Only 13 and my boyfriend wants me to have sex i think i am ready for sex i have kissed some one an messed around on the bed but i am still a vigen i nee answers please x...
A. 9 April 2009: do not have sex your to young... (read in full...)
Most nights, I can't fall asleep until 5AM
Q. Can anyone explain why i dont sleep? its 1:03 here and i cant sleep i just dont so i end up just watching a film (currently reservoir dogs) i normaly fall to sleep at 5ish any help?...
A. 9 April 2009: first let me ask if you smoke, smoking, excersizing , washing with any citrus scented facial or body soap. watching the tv or using the computer is scientifically provin to make your mind stay awake. try eliminating any of these and sleep in pitch ... (read in full...)
Can all girls get a tampon on?
Q. Hey am 15 and I was wondering if all girls can get a tampon in. I have tried many times and I still cannot fit it in but my bf can fit his finger sort of in. Is this something I should be concerned of. Is this abnormal?...
A. 9 April 2009: you dont have anything wrong with you. are you putting it in slowly and you relaxed?? message me if you feel uncomfortable talking on a page... (read in full...)
Can anyone explain these weird dreams I'm having?
Q. okay well hi, i know this is nothing to do with relationships but i cant think of another way to find out.! basicly, ive been gettin really strange dreams, its now half past midnight and ive tried to sleep twice and i just cant! when i lay down ...
A. 9 April 2009: dont be sorry. dreams are what the sub concious think. the house and everything is probably reprsent the thoughts that go through your mind. at night lay down and try and count from 100 backwards, try not to think of anything else. i use it and ... (read in full...)
I have a hard time being intimate and asking girls out
Q. I have a pretty big problem with intimacy. I'm 24 and have been in 2 relationships - one lasting almost a year and the other 2 whole years. The problem was that during all of that time I felt uncomfortable behaving affectionately towards my ...
A. 9 April 2009: are you afraid of intimacy bc your self concious?i think in order to be intimate you have to comfortable w/yourself first. as for not wanting a girl to know you dont fancy her, girls lile to be liked and noticed. start off small, if you see a girl ... (read in full...)
How can I help my girlfriend when she drinks and refuses to talk to me?
Q. hi people hope some 1 can help me! im with my gf 4 nearley 2 years now and at the moment we r struggling! i tink she is depressed! she gets upset alot and she gets really down! when i try to help her then she jus turns away gets angry at me does...
A. 9 April 2009: i wasnt thinking she is an awful person, when i know alcohol can do this to the best of people. as a recovering alcoholic, do you see alcholisim in her? does she drink alot?? if you do give her you aa book and ask her if she will read some with you. ... (read in full...)
How can I get my girlfriend to feel better about herself?
Q. My girlfriend and I have a great relationship and are very happy. We live together and share everything together. We are both quite attractive but lately my girlfriend has started gaining weight. It's hardly anything and I don't even care. Thats ...
A. 9 April 2009: this is a way that women go fishing for compliments. just tell you dont notice anything,pretty much what you have been doing. try and change the subject nicely and smoothly, if it is braught up... (read in full...)
Drama over a kiss!
Q. I'm going to try to make this short but I can't promise anything. Basically my gf and I split for s weekend, and over that weekend my exbff kissed her. Then the exbff made my gf swear not to tell me until the summer because she didn't want "pro...
A. 8 April 2009: ok well She told you that is a good sign, Girls will be girls, we always start drama. Were you mad at her when she told you or did you try and be understanding? If you flipped on her she prbably got scared. I think that you should try andsit down ... (read in full...)
Stretch marks on breast
Q. I have unsightly stretch mark looking things on my breast. I was wondering what it's from? And how can I get rid of these marks? Is it because they're getting "saggy"?...
A. 8 April 2009: Stretch marks occur when there is a rapid growth beneth the skin. Your boobs getting bigger, The occur because skin doesn't have the elasticity that is needed when it grows, or stretch. Stretch marks are very normal, Even if your breasts are ... (read in full...)
I'm really confused about my sexual orientation!
Q. so, let start off with im a 16 year old girl. problem is, how do i know if im straight, bi or les? like i know what it means to be each one, but im so confused and it freaks me out because there is so much pressure around me to be straight or to ...
A. 8 April 2009: I think you are bi because you still have the attraction to guys. However if you think you are a lesbian try shutting guys totally out of the picture. If you still have a attraction not just emotional to guys then you are bi. Try that out for a ... (read in full...)
Can all girls get a tampon on?
Q. Hey am 15 and I was wondering if all girls can get a tampon in. I have tried many times and I still cannot fit it in but my bf can fit his finger sort of in. Is this something I should be concerned of. Is this abnormal?...
A. 8 April 2009: Just wondering , What size are you wearing?? You might need to use a smaller size. Remember that you should just relax and push the outer tube of the applicator fullly into the inner applicater.Point the applicator towards your lower back. This ... (read in full...)
New mother: just curious when babies start to say their 1st word
Q. just a question that im curious about. my son who was 8 weeks early is actually following the developmental charts just fine. when will he speak his first word appx.?? just curious...
A. 8 April 2009: So i forgot to let you guys know that he did say Da but i don't know if it was because we were " jumping " on the bed to wake him up or if it was just kind of a mimic thing. Gosh i can but can't wait for him to talk!!! You guys Rock for helping me ... (read in full...)
New mother: just curious when babies start to say their 1st word
Q. just a question that im curious about. my son who was 8 weeks early is actually following the developmental charts just fine. when will he speak his first word appx.?? just curious...
A. 8 April 2009: thats hilarious!!! ... (read in full...)
New mother: just curious when babies start to say their 1st word
Q. just a question that im curious about. my son who was 8 weeks early is actually following the developmental charts just fine. when will he speak his first word appx.?? just curious...
A. 8 April 2009: thank you so much for taking the time to answer... (read in full...)
Should I give this wonderful guy a chance? I still can't get over my cheating ex b/f!
Q. I have a problem i just broke up with my boyfriend a month ago because he was cheating one me,,,,, Now i trying to move on but i found out one of my guy friends is in love with me he even proposed i'm just 16 so idk what to tell him because i'm so h...
A. 7 April 2009: in a situation like this you have to remember that all guys are not the same. This guy sounds great. I would say give him a chance.as for proposing thats a little rushed good lick!!... (read in full...)
Sleep without the sex? What is happening here?
Q. Sleep without the sex? - Can someone explain to me why me and my boyfriend (both in our 30s - who have just started to spend the nights together)cannot innitiate sex? I do feel the relationship is a little one sided as I am madly in love with him...
A. 7 April 2009: Maybe he just doesn't want to make the first move and 'spook' you. He may want to but doesn't know hoe to intiate sex with you, he has had another partner but for you intiating sex is for him, he may not know exactly what you like or what gets you ... (read in full...)
I have no idea why my husband doesn't want sex anymore
Q. im 20, my husbands 25. we have been married for a year and have a 9 months year old son. he seems like he has lost interest in having sex with me. sex never use to be a problem, and all of a sudden he makes up excuses..its driving me insane. i have...
A. 7 April 2009: So i figured it out, he finally cracked! I asked himn if he wouldn't have sex with me bc of me. He said no and that it was because when he has a bad day at work it sets off all of the sex drive he has had for that day. He said that he didn't want to ... (read in full...)
I have no idea why my husband doesn't want sex anymore
Q. im 20, my husbands 25. we have been married for a year and have a 9 months year old son. he seems like he has lost interest in having sex with me. sex never use to be a problem, and all of a sudden he makes up excuses..its driving me insane. i have...
A. 7 April 2009: alright so after i wrote the article i spoke with my husband as seriously as i could and i was upset. I tried a differant approach to asking him if it was me or not. Surprisingly i got him to talk but it didn't lead to much. thank you guys so much ... (read in full...)
I have no idea why my husband doesn't want sex anymore
Q. im 20, my husbands 25. we have been married for a year and have a 9 months year old son. he seems like he has lost interest in having sex with me. sex never use to be a problem, and all of a sudden he makes up excuses..its driving me insane. i have...
A. 7 April 2009: i also wanted to add that i have tried to talk to him. hes not the talking type i guess you can say.... (read in full...)
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