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I CURRENTLY DO NOT HAVE INTERNET SO PLEASE BEAR WITH ME AND IF YOU HAVE QUESTIONS ASK. THANK YOU

Hello my name is Niki i am 21 years old and have a 1 year old son. i am recently seperated from my husband. my son and i live in the country. i like to help people, i like to listen and see what i can do to make people happier or help them out with problems. Please do not be afraid to message me! I will respond asap. (i check the site everyday , multiple times a day, most likely you will have a response the same day). Thanks again. :)

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Early Pregnancy Signs......

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23 June 2009: I have been on this site for a few months and i have seen so many questions like "Am i pregnant?". I wrote this to help some of you out there feeling lost.(1)fatigue or the lack of energy.(2)light spotting if you have concieved,spotting can be ...

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Advice on my husband moving out?

Q.   My and my husband are having some really tough issues lately. We are in the process of moving him out of the house, and it is so hard to do. I keep wanting to go back and tell him just to stay here, but I really think him going right now it the ...

A.   23 April 2009: ok breath. this is hard. if you feel deep down this is good for you two, who knows maybe a few days away can help you two, then let him go, being in iraq( thats were im goibg to assume he was) is hard, especially when your whole life is put on hold. ... (read in full...)

Should I take him getting back to me as a good sign?

Q.   I'll try not to ramble, there's a guy, i've known him for yrs, but not really closely, and we know plenty of mutual people. Recently we started casually talking, 1st time we hung out we where drinking and we hooked up. In previous conversa...

A.   23 April 2009: well of course getting back to you was a good sign. you said that it was not the best perdormance, maybe he was a little embareased about that. just hang out and talk. there is nothing that i personally think that needs to be said. maybe say that ... (read in full...)

In love with my best friends man

Q.   I have been in a relationship with my fiance for about 3 years and i love him a lot but i also have feelings for my best friends bloke. We have been meeting up a few times a week and its been great to get out and have some fun, but the other week he ...

A.   23 April 2009: if you sincerally feel that you would be happy with your buddys guy , go for it but be aware chanves are it will ruin your friendship. dont be selfish, try talking to your girl. try going somewere w/ your fiance and see if the other guy is clouding ... (read in full...)

He says he doesn't love me but wants to do right by the children

Q.   Hi I am the mother of 7 children ranging from the ages of 30 to 8 years old. About 14 years ago I met my husband. I was a devout christian woman with 4 children then. I abstained from a relationship for about 10 years. Then I found myself going in...

A.   23 April 2009: the vest thing for you is to do what makes you happy, you cant be sad in anyway bc children pick up on that. if you can not be happy, then the children wont be able to be as happy as theg should, granted their father not being there will be hard but ... (read in full...)

Why does he need porn if he has me?

Q.   Iv'e just found out my boyfriend has been watching pornography and i feel betrayed and inadequate if he loves me like he says he does why does he need to look at porn?...

A.   23 April 2009: all men look at porn. its not you, guys get horny just like women do. i know it feels crappy but its nothing to worry about. if you see a slow or a stop to your sexual activity, that is when your should become concerned. but think about this, are ... (read in full...)

His brother pays more attention to me than my b/f!

Q.   Okay... me and my boyfriend have been dating for 4 months almost 5 in May, and he wont hold my hand, kiss me, tell me he loves me, or anything. The most he will do is hug me. His twin brother gives me waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay more attention then my bf ...

A.   23 April 2009: do you say i love you to him? it might be to early for you to and maybe scaring him a little bit. maybe your guy is a little bit more shy then his brother. give him sometime, dont rush things, maybe try giving him a kiss on the cheeck to start, just ... (read in full...)

Want to get pregnant -- any advice?

Q.   Ok so my boyfriend and i have recently decided that we want to start trying for a baby. I came off my pill last month and we had lots of great sex, however i got my period the other day although it only lasted three days. This is confusing me as ...

A.   23 April 2009: there are ovulation tests out there were you can take it like a pregnacy test but it shows if your are at the peak of ovulation or not. you can get then at a local drug store. goodluck... (read in full...)

I have 2 problems here, but I just want my sister back!

Q.   ok i got 2 problems here. problem #1. ok i just got with this new guy iv been with him for about a week and 3days now... his totally sweet and all but i hear rumours his dating me for a dare by random kids at school.... i spoke to him bout it he s...

A.   21 April 2009: to answer q1 just give her time.. prove to her you arent sexually active and she will come around and be proud of you for not following in their footsteps. q2 well just let her go off, she seems like she needs to cool down. just like your mum shell ... (read in full...)

How can I find out who the father of my child is?

Q.   Please help me... i had sex with one guy round dec 11 or 12 we only had sex once n it was unprotected.. but ive been having sex with this other guy for a while n its always unprotected.my last cycle was dec 26 and now im 16wks pregnant who could be...

A.   18 April 2009: you can get a paternity test when the child is born. but it sounds like the 2nd guy is tge father to me. but to be sure get a test. if your last cycle was on the 28th of dec and your 16weeks pregnant. think about who you had sex w/ 16 weeks ago, ... (read in full...)

Any ways to get girl's virginity back?

Q.   is there any way to get back the virginity for a girl?if yes then what are these ways?...

A.   18 April 2009: pysichally no. spiritually yes. you can become a virgin in the eyes of god, i think you can, just call a local church to find out. i have heard of this happening but i dont know if it is real or not, but i guess a church can do anything. ... (read in full...)

I keep craving attention and flirting all the time

Q.   Hi all! My problem is that i cant stop flirting with men. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years in a long distance relationship-i have always been faithful and would never cheat on him. Lately though i just want to keep flirting with other...

A.   18 April 2009: nothing is wrong with you. you just need the attention that your use to, all girls get like that from time to time. once your boyfriend comes home you wont need to go out to get attention because it will be there at your disposal.... (read in full...)

What do you say while giving a lap dance?

Q.   What kinds of phrases should i use in a lap dance? Like dirty things to say to him to make him really horny?...

A.   18 April 2009: just make eye contact ever so often, the good thing about a lap dance is that you dont need to talk. hell be so wraped up in your body dancing on him he wont care if words come out of your mouth or not... (read in full...)

How can I have more luck with meeting women?

Q.   Hi. Having asked a question recently, it's comforting to know that people feel the same as I do, in that there are others out there who simply hate single life. That's left me to ask, what might people like us be doing wrong? I wish I knew what...

A.   17 April 2009: luck w/ladies has nothing to do w/ it. the way a man carries himself, what the guy says and if he comes on to strong all go into the dating world. body language says alot to...is your srance while talking to a girl overpowering? simple things can ... (read in full...)

I just want to feel beautiful and I don't!

Q.   Please don't call me shallow or vain. I feel very ugly and unattractive. The problem is I was never told I was beautiful, I was even teased because I was ugly! One guy eve told me to get plastic surgery once! This was back when I was in school. I ...

A.   17 April 2009: being beautiful isnt just looks. you lack self confidence. if you tell yourself you are beautiful in your mind a few times a day youll believe it. sounds like bs but its mind over matter. you have to believe you are beautiful before anyone else can. ... (read in full...)

Do I continue speaking with this guy and risk jeapordising my marriage?

Q.   Hey I'm a married woman, I love my husband so much and I don't wanna lose him, but I think I'm in love with someone else, I met this boy on facebook and we talk so much to each other, but I never met him in person, only speak on the phone and I'm ...

A.   17 April 2009: you love your husband, let the other guy go, just be friends. never leave the one you love for the one u like because the one you love will leave you for the one they love. dont jeperadize a life long commitment to be with someone you have never ... (read in full...)

My head says no but my heart says yes, should I give him another chance?

Q.   5 months ago i discovered my boyfriend of 4 years was cheating on me, found a text saying 'come over so we can finally be alone' and believed that they did have sexual relations but merely emotional cheating at that time. Inevitably it was over ...

A.   17 April 2009: i would say if your head is louder then your heart, go w/ what ever one is louder, if he didnt make an effort in the first place that would make me backoff.... (read in full...)

How can I make my Mom trust my boyfriend/best friend?

Q.   Hello! My mom doesn't like my boyfriend at all. She doesn't trust him. He broke up with me once for a day and I was shattered, but even before that, my mom never liked him, back when he was just my best friend. Any tips on how I can make her see...

A.   17 April 2009: im going to be totally honest with you, more then likely your mom will never like the guy. you her "baby" any guy who breaks your heart is in her bad book for life. sorry. its hard ro turn mom from hating to loving a guy. ... (read in full...)

How do I keep my mind off him?

Q.   Stupid question--please don't call me dramatic, I know, I am: My boyfriend will be leaving the country tomorrow for a while, and I'm going to miss him quite a lot. Usually we talk hours every day. Now that he's leaving, it seems as though I'll hav...

A.   17 April 2009: keeping yourself busy and keeping your mind busy is totally differant. try doing brain teasers, cross word puzzles, anything that your mind will have to work at. making your mind work will keep it occupied while you do them, they will only keep it ... (read in full...)

New mother: just curious when babies start to say their 1st word

Q.   just a question that im curious about. my son who was 8 weeks early is actually following the developmental charts just fine. when will he speak his first word appx.?? just curious...

A.   17 April 2009: thank you, he tries to say no, its kind of mummbled but understabdable, he asks were dada is by hust looking around and saying da. he also sounds like he is trying to say hi. i am dumbfounded at how quick this child is going. thank you guys for your ... (read in full...)

My life is full of bad stuff. What can I do to make it better?

Q.   Hi, I'm 13 (account age is wrong) and I just started high school. I think my life is just crashing down on me and I think I really need help. Well basically, life at home is no better either. I'm embarrassed to say that my sister is possibly mad ...

A.   17 April 2009: you are very very welcome. if the teacher drives you crazy try the principle. or a higher authority figure. i appreciate what you said, no has thanked me like that before. thank you, if you want to add me or message me feel free anytime, i will be ... (read in full...)

35 weeks pregnant and feel so alone.

Q.   I'm 35 weeks pregnant and I feel so isolated. I feel like my friends don't wanna deal with me or talk to me. You know when you call or text someone and they don't answer or they just don't seem interested in what you have to say or how you feel. I ...

A.   17 April 2009: when i was pregnant my husband did the same thing. its like getting the last last partying out before baby comes. it sucks but itll get better as for friends, this is the time were you find out who your real friends are.... (read in full...)

Is it wrong for me to fake my own death to see if she still loves me?

Q.   Well basically my ex havn't been going out for ages, but I'm going out for her best mate (2 months) and she's always trying to get her to dump me but the girl i'm with doesn't want to dump me so i'm thinking. Is it wrong to fake my own death to prov...

A.   17 April 2009: yes thats wrong. obviously your ex still haves feelings for you if sues trying to get yoir gf to break up with you.... (read in full...)

My life is full of bad stuff. What can I do to make it better?

Q.   Hi, I'm 13 (account age is wrong) and I just started high school. I think my life is just crashing down on me and I think I really need help. Well basically, life at home is no better either. I'm embarrassed to say that my sister is possibly mad ...

A.   17 April 2009: ok.... your family is normal...i know a lot of people like that here, i call on my mom ever second i can. have you ever seen your friends family "behind closed doors?" they probably have quirks to. being naked is very natural and soothing, your ... (read in full...)

Why won't I let myself cum?

Q.   hi when i masterbate rub the clit to stimulate myself it's really good and really gets me going but what i find difficult is that i won't cum like i'll get really uberly wet but then i feel i have to go to the toilet and i am not sure whether i'v...

A.   16 April 2009: sometime before people cum they feel like they gotta pee, just continue. go potty before so you can completly satisfy yourself, being wet is your bodies way of saying hey im horny, this feels good. on your way to the big o, or lubing itself up for ... (read in full...)

Can you have an orgasm in your sleep?

Q.   Can u have a orgasm in your sleep? I think ive had this experience and it was lovely .but im not sure!...

A.   16 April 2009: o yeah yeah you can sexy dreams= a wonderful feeling. the bad thing is you usually wake up :(... (read in full...)

I'm always being used by guys!

Q.   4 years ago when i was a virgin i was raped by a friend. I never told anyone except my ex who got drunk and told more people including my best friend and her bf, my brother and sister in law... and threatened to tell my dad.. (i know great guy?)and ...

A.   16 April 2009: thats not right. you didnt deserve it. he was drunk so he prolly thought he could get away w/it. dont listen to him, thats not a very good thing that " a friend" would do. you need someone to be supportive in this situation not one who doesnt seem... (read in full...)

I know I love this guy so why am I unhappy?

Q.   Idk what to do any more. I know i love this girl why am i unhappy? I cant figure it out. I've given this girl everything and she has given me everything. I know she is the one for me. I want to be with her but i'm having a hard time with this. ...

A.   15 April 2009: being unhappy at a job can make you feel unhappy, even if your unhappy with yourself will effect your happiness w/ her. if you have financial problems that can be a big issue you to. dont just look at the picture between you to.look at the even ... (read in full...)

I'm always being used by guys!

Q.   4 years ago when i was a virgin i was raped by a friend. I never told anyone except my ex who got drunk and told more people including my best friend and her bf, my brother and sister in law... and threatened to tell my dad.. (i know great guy?)and ...

A.   15 April 2009: if your parents have insurance they should cover it.you should see one. of it doesnt then you can always see a counseler though your countys health dept. they go by your income. one time i went and they charged me $11.00. maybe its best if you tell ... (read in full...)

Sex while on my period w/protection

Q.   i did sex while i was on my period and i used protection but i have missing period can i be pregnet im 14years old?...

A.   15 April 2009: did the condom break?? if it did there is a good chance you are. if it didnt break, it could be that you are stressing about the fact that you could be. stressing delays your period. the only way to be sure is to take a pregnancy test. but some of ... (read in full...)

Pregnancy - How should I deal with this? I can't tell my mum as she will go mental.

Q.   I think I may be pregnant. I had sex 2 weeks after my period and the condom broke. I'm now 12 days late for my period and will get a test tomorrow to make sure I am pregnant but my periods are very regular and i have never missed one or been more ...

A.   15 April 2009: i thought my mom was going to flip out when i told her i was pregnant, she did a lot of crying. as soon as my son was born she wasnt mad anymore. if you are confine in your mom. she might be pissed but shell realize that your hot a baby any more to ... (read in full...)

Any advice on what we should do

Q.   I'm engaged to get married in September and I jsut found out that I am 10 weeks pregnant. That mean that I will be 7 months pregnant on my wedding day. I want to postpone the wedding but my finance doesnt want to. I have always dreamed of this ...

A.   14 April 2009: i had my wedding when i was about4 months. you cant tell that i am. maybe you guys can move the wedding up. i dont think that it would cost the relaties to change the flight to an earlier one. thats my idea idk if it would work or not but just ... (read in full...)

What tips can I give him to de-stress?

Q.   Hi, I need some advice, this amazing guy keeps texting me (flirting) which is great, however, he has recently sent me one saying that he needs to de-stress and have I got any ideas to help him out!!! I am quite shy and I am not sure how to reply, I ...

A.   11 April 2009: yes he wants you to give him ideas, which is good. he can breath in as he counts to 5 then breath out as he counts to 10. or offer him a sensual massage... (read in full...)

I don't want to leave my wife, but I don't love her anymore. What should I do?

Q.   Hi, I've been married for 5 years. Periodically throughout our marriage, my wife and I have agreed that we make better friends than spouses. Over the past few years I've grown increasingly less sexually attracted to my wife. I'd say that at this...

A.   11 April 2009: i think that if you cant work things out with your wife then you guys should try marriage counselling. if all else fails you might want to consider divorce. its better then making her think you still love her when you don't, and having a rela... (read in full...)

2 questions: 1 on my best friend on her b/f and 1 on my b/f

Q.   ok, so this is kind of two questions in one. to start off with my best friend and her bf have been together for about 4 or 5 months now, and they're getting quite serious. they've not had sex yet but she's been asking me and my other friend to get ...

A.   11 April 2009: usually if some wants to have sex they will just go ahead and do it. try telling her about some of the nasty things that could happen. i.e. std sti pregnancy, whatever. but if she has a one track mind and has a desire to have sex she probably will ... (read in full...)

I don't know anything about having sex really. Can anyone help me?

Q.   Okay, I'm 17 about to turn 8 in July. I dated my ex for 4 years and we just broke up in november.. It was really hard on me. I have become depressed and just broken. He hated me for the longest time and didn't talk to me, for reasons.. Well we talk...

A.   10 April 2009: your welcome.... (read in full...)

I don't know anything about having sex really. Can anyone help me?

Q.   Okay, I'm 17 about to turn 8 in July. I dated my ex for 4 years and we just broke up in november.. It was really hard on me. I have become depressed and just broken. He hated me for the longest time and didn't talk to me, for reasons.. Well we talk...

A.   10 April 2009: being is how you are small down there its going to be a bit painful. my first time didn't as for i was a gymnast and the tears the part that keeps you a virgin. you could possibly bleed and be sore for quit sometime afterward. make sure to use ... (read in full...)

I have no idea how to even begin to get through this. Any advice?

Q.   2 years ago, at a party, I met this girl. We totally hit it off, and found out that we were both (randomly) moving to the same city (2000 miles away) for the summer. She was graduating college and moving back to where she grew up to be around her ...

A.   10 April 2009: i know its cliche, but if you love something let it go if it comes back for sure thats how you know its for keeps. i know its hard to get over a broken heart, but the only thing to make it stop hurting is time. try writting your pain down bc then ... (read in full...)

I developed fetishes on my stepmom. Is this weird?

Q.   ok i am 18 and i have a very difficult problem. my dad married this lady who is 36 about 3 years ago and now she's my step-mom. and now i have been having fetishes about having sex with her. is this weird or not? what you think about me actu...

A.   10 April 2009: i def wouldnt act on this because could you imagine the heartbreak your dad would suffer if he found out? dreaming about having sex with her yeah, every guy does this. but i wouldnt act on it if i were you.... (read in full...)

My boyfriend died 8 months ago and I can't move on...

Q.   Hey dear cupid, I was dating this wonderful guy for 2 years, everything was perfect we never fought, never argued, it was a perfect relationship. He was my prince charming.. he asked me out on prom and since then we have been inseperable... but he ...

A.   9 April 2009: let me start of by saying im sorry,in this type of siuation you have to griev. was his death sudden? if it was you had no time to prepare yourself at all so grieving will take a little longer. would he want you to move on? if so give it a little ... (read in full...)

Troubled teenager with a young baby and one on the way

Q.   hello, i'm sorry to bother use with such a embarrassing question but i really need to know, i am a really sexually active teenager and i already have a 3 month old baby, i went through a rough past and turned to men ive had 30 bed partners or mayb...

A.   9 April 2009: hello. well i think you should keep the baby. i think that if you know youll be great go for it. congrats to the new comer. if you want to find a man find ones who is willing to support you guys. i have a lil one when they hit nine months its nuts. ... (read in full...)

I'm going to meet my internet guy over the weekend. Is it safe?

Q.   i have successfully in getting a partner, thanx dear cupid so much for helping me achieve that,but i still have a big problems as you can see in my country gay people does not allowed and base on that they always hide their sexuality from other ...

A.   9 April 2009: Let me start out by saying congratulations on finding someone. Internet dating for anyone can be dangerous. If you don't feel comfortable staying there, get a hotel room so you can still see him. Make sure you talk to him as to why, if he cares as ... (read in full...)

New mother: just curious when babies start to say their 1st word

Q.   just a question that im curious about. my son who was 8 weeks early is actually following the developmental charts just fine. when will he speak his first word appx.?? just curious...

A.   8 April 2009: So i forgot to let you guys know that he did say Da but i don't know if it was because we were " jumping " on the bed to wake him up or if it was just kind of a mimic thing. Gosh i can but can't wait for him to talk!!! You guys Rock for helping me ... (read in full...)

New mother: just curious when babies start to say their 1st word

Q.   just a question that im curious about. my son who was 8 weeks early is actually following the developmental charts just fine. when will he speak his first word appx.?? just curious...

A.   8 April 2009: thats hilarious!!! ... (read in full...)

New mother: just curious when babies start to say their 1st word

Q.   just a question that im curious about. my son who was 8 weeks early is actually following the developmental charts just fine. when will he speak his first word appx.?? just curious...

A.   8 April 2009: thank you so much for taking the time to answer... (read in full...)

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