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I CURRENTLY DO NOT HAVE INTERNET SO PLEASE BEAR WITH ME AND IF YOU HAVE QUESTIONS ASK. THANK YOU

Hello my name is Niki i am 21 years old and have a 1 year old son. i am recently seperated from my husband. my son and i live in the country. i like to help people, i like to listen and see what i can do to make people happier or help them out with problems. Please do not be afraid to message me! I will respond asap. (i check the site everyday , multiple times a day, most likely you will have a response the same day). Thanks again. :)

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Early Pregnancy Signs......

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23 June 2009: I have been on this site for a few months and i have seen so many questions like "Am i pregnant?". I wrote this to help some of you out there feeling lost.(1)fatigue or the lack of energy.(2)light spotting if you have concieved,spotting can be ...

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I'm desparate and I can't take it anymore!!please help me its my first love!!

Q.   Hi! I'm 15 and I was hoping you help me because I got a problem. I really love this boy let's call him 'wb' I saw him staring at me many times and even my friends did, he tried to talk 2 me because he knows 1 of my friends but every time he comes...

A.   29 April 2009: just find something you both have in common, movies, books, sports whatever. when your cheecks turn red, most guys think its cute.... (read in full...)

Is a polygraph test the answer?

Q.   I am in a real dilemma and don't know what to do. I am engaged and have been with my fiance for 9 years now and never imagined this horrible nightmare i am now in. We were shopping on the weekend when some girl approached me and said your ...

A.   29 April 2009: make him do it. girls just dont randomly approach a guys g/f and knows all that stuff or says that for no reason. good for you doing that. ... (read in full...)

I like my best friend. ahh!!!

Q.   Okay, hello. So, Me (a girl) and this guy have been best friends for maybe about 2 going on 3 years now and we just started high school together and got even closer. So, we have been hanging out a lot now. And my other friends would always say thin...

A.   29 April 2009: your bff is the best person to date, eventually you will marry and the guy you do will be your bff. this guy knows you "inside out" i think you should tell him, it couldnt hurt.... (read in full...)

Is it possible to fall in love as a freshman in high school?

Q.   Ive been dating this guy for almost seven months and i know that its not a long time but i feel like i can really last with him. Ive dated a lot of guys before and they all used me for drugs and sex and they nevere respect4ed me. but my current ...

A.   29 April 2009: soulmates a big word for hoghschool. i think ypu could be in puppy love. minor love w/a big connection w/someone. love is more complicated and difficult then you could ever imagine. people grow and change, and its hard to keep away from temtation at ... (read in full...)

I don't think marrying someone I can't have sex with is a smart choice... do you?

Q.   okay so i was confused and was with a guy for a year and 2 months..still had feelings for my ex..and i felt bad..everything was just wrong so like i was saying before here i was confused didnt know who to be with..now i broke up with my bf and my ex ...

A.   29 April 2009: sex can be enhanced. can be made better. talk to him. forget your ex hes an ex for a reason.go back to your man tell him the sex doesnt satisfy you and you would like to do more things and expieriment w new things. ... (read in full...)

I can't stand her ex to be around her.

Q.   I fell in love with a wonderful woman when i was going thru my divorce but I have a major issue. She was separated from her husband when she was with me and went back and forth a couple of times but now she assures me she is done with him and we ...

A.   29 April 2009: its hard yes, and the whole situation is uncomfortable and not fair for you. but since she has kids she is always going to have him in her life. i know it sucks but thats something you can not change. trust her, if shes done shes done, but my ... (read in full...)

Gay unrequited love problem.

Q.   Quick details: 16 years old, 17 in August, England, Currently in college studying IT in hopes of going into industry. I have a case of homosexual unrequited love. He's straight, i'm gay, iv'e felt like this for about 8 months now, except then ...

A.   29 April 2009: its ok it wasnt long. hun you have to remember that hes straight and is into girls. there is someone out there for you.....dont get attaches to him b/c hes straight. try breathinb slowly, it seems when you see him w/ a guy you have a panic attack. ... (read in full...)

How can I apologize to someone I haven't spoken to in a while?

Q.   To give a bit of back story, I'm a gay guy. I'm 21 and the person I need to apologize to is 15 (please don't turn this into a moral issue, my intentions are only amicable, and I would never force him into any sort of situation that would be ...

A.   29 April 2009: well can i just say since its america to be careful b/c your 21 and he is 15 it highly illegal for you to have any sexual interaction w/him at all, so be careful......that being said it seems like he wants to tlk to you but he still thinks that your ... (read in full...)

I want to take her to the prom but my parents hate her!

Q.   I want to take the love of my life to the prom, the thing is that my parents hate her and i have no idea how to tell them im going with their consent or not, for goodness sake in 17!...

A.   29 April 2009: ok tell them you like her and your going w/her. tell them you would like them to respect your descion and since your getting older you would like to make your own mistakes. i dont know why they dont like her, it would have been easier to answer ... (read in full...)

How do I make my ex of 2 plus years choose me over my friend?

Q.   Instead of cutting straight to my question, I am about to explain the background of my situation because I feel that it is unique and should be fully understood if I am to consider advice. If you are going to give me an answer, please do not skim ...

A.   29 April 2009: hi, you seem highly intelligent, that was a lot to read but i understand why you needed to. i think she is showing him more of affection b/c wjat if they are more closer to dating then ypu think. my personal opinon is that she seems to be getting a ... (read in full...)

Very much in love with someone who does not treat me the way I feel I deserve to be treated.

Q.   Feeling a little depressed. Very much in love with someone who does not treat me the way I feel I deserve to be treated. I know we all have our faults but I try to be supportive, kind, calm and loving towards my b/f. He swings from being funny and ...

A.   29 April 2009: i think that you do not have to be treated this way, get out. its scarey, but its going to be ok. you dont need to worry about guys right away. relationships like this can get abusive. he might not but theres always that possibility.... (read in full...)

My heart wants to work this through but my mind tells me different... Help!

Q.   My boyfriend of almost 3 months cheated on me. I found this out recently when his 'girlfriend' called me after an apparent argument they had and tattle-taled on their affair. I was crushed! He admitted to their relationship, (supposedly an old ...

A.   29 April 2009: things happen, it hurts. if you truely like the guy then give him another shot. but if you can not see that he will hold his word get out. but if hes a man of his word then keep him around and keep him aware that if it happens again hes out.... (read in full...)

Do I have to tell my boyfriend everything about my past?

Q.   I have a serious question that I need advice on. I am in a long term relationship and I'm starting to get the feeling that my boyfriend is going to propose. I love him very much and definitely want us to get married. I have two things that I have ...

A.   29 April 2009: you dont need to tell him. i personally think since it is your past, he cant really get mad. these are things that would bring a relationship closer. its scarey to tlk about these things but since your emotionally over them then he can also get you ... (read in full...)

Very much in love with someone who does not treat me the way I feel I deserve to be treated.

Q.   Feeling a little depressed. Very much in love with someone who does not treat me the way I feel I deserve to be treated. I know we all have our faults but I try to be supportive, kind, calm and loving towards my b/f. He swings from being funny and ...

A.   29 April 2009: you dont deserve to be treated like that. i would get out. its scaret and hard to get back out there. but this isnt healthy. you should ask yourself if you see yourself happier in the future with or without him... (read in full...)

I keep having recurring dreams about my friend!

Q.   I've known my best guy friend since we were 8 years old. We're now both 19. Neither of us have ever expressed any romantic feelings towards the other and that is what makes this disturbing to me. I've been having recurring sex dreams about him and I ...

A.   29 April 2009: it might mean that your sub concious wants to connect w/him on a higher level, maybe you two secretly want to be closer, sex in a dream doesnt necasarally mean sex in real life. dreams are your sub concious speaking.... (read in full...)

Help! Is this normal?

Q.   Me and my bf have made love twice. he is totally amazing, but there is one problem. he can never get in more then 5-6 in. even with foreplay it still doesn't go in all the way. when 6in come around it starts to hurt really bad so he has to stop. is ...

A.   29 April 2009: to me it sounds like he may be to big. this can really be normal. lube him up reallly good also yourself dont be afraid to have him put some inside of you as well, its perfectly safe.... (read in full...)

Do guys just want us girls for sex?

Q.   is it true that when a guy is with a girl it is mostly for sex? most of my guy friends say they love a girl but then say i wanna do her tonight....

A.   29 April 2009: at your age most likely. but as you get older it can get worse. but there are some genuine guys out there that do just want the company w them and treat sex like its a privelege not a need for them.... (read in full...)

How can I show them that I am not trying to trap their son?

Q.   This year I went out of state to college and met a guy in the beginning of the school year and a few months into our relationship I found out I was pregnant. He said he was too young to be a dad so he bailed. During the time a guy in my apartment ...

A.   29 April 2009: if it was my son i would be proud. dont be scared. just relax. they might be concerned as it would be a lot to take on but just be calm..... (read in full...)

I just found out about my boyfriend's threesome! I'm shocked!

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months now and we are very much in love. we have our ups and downs like most relationships but we have gotten through bad moments and are enjoying time together. we've recently been away and had the most amazing ...

A.   29 April 2009: nobody wants to admit any sexual activities w/ their new catch. he didnt want you to be questioning. there is nothing to worry about.... (read in full...)

My wife of 20 years wants a threesome...I may want a divorce!

Q.   Let me start by saying my wife and I have been married for twenty years. she would like to have a threesome or swap with a couple. When she told me this i was shocked and hurt. i would like someone to help me understand this. She is forty im forty ...

A.   29 April 2009: ok. maybe she wants to spice up your love life. if your completly uncomfortable tell her no. i would talk to her and find out why she wants one so badly. maybe she want to do it w/ a girl. but seeing as your hurt i can tell you dont want to share ... (read in full...)

How do you ask a guy where your relationship stands?

Q.   How do you ask a guy where your relationship stands after 2 years?...

A.   29 April 2009: just be like, hey i saw 'nancy' (pick one of your friends) at the store and she asked if we were serious and it got me thinking about were our relationship stands. i told her _ b/c i wasnt sure. approach him calmly and if he doesnt say we are ... (read in full...)

Is he Cheating and how do I confront him?

Q.   I am with a man with whom I have been living for three years, recently I have been noticing signs of cheating.About two months ago we were home one night naked when someone knocked at the door. After he recognised the person he went outside for ...

A.   28 April 2009: woah. i would just come out and say it. ask him for the truth. if he denies the child then he wouldnt have any problem taking a paternity test. ... (read in full...)

It's my Birthday today, so I can lie to my parents. Right?

Q.   Today was my birthday and my parents went out of town and so this guy that my parents hate, went out to his friends old abdoned house out in the country to celebrate it and we kind of got drunk and we went into the house to have sex and in the ...

A.   28 April 2009: honestly you dont have to, but if you feel lile you should then you should. she might be pissed but it your life, your an adult.... (read in full...)

Should I date the guy that used to use me?

Q.   There is this boy, who used to use me but now i believe he has feelings for me. . . I still have feelings for him. But he hurt me so much last time, i dont want it to happen again What should i do? Go with me head? or my heart? ...

A.   28 April 2009: go with w/ your head. i would date him b/c your more then likely always going to have .... is he using me?? in the back of your head. if you genually feel as if he wont be using you, then go ahead and go for it. but if you dont think hes changed, i ... (read in full...)

Am I pregnant?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been trying for a baby. I was just wondering how high of possibility that when I take a test next week if I will be bfp. I sort of had a period that lasted 3 days then spotted one day and completely stopped. I had a sip of c...

A.   28 April 2009: yes it does sound like that awesome morning sickness. if your breasts feel tender, the areola is darker and you do get sick( but you dont have to have morning sickness i didnt. and you can have it any time of the day.) you may begin to crave ... (read in full...)

Fed up of my cheating boyfriend

Q.   Me and my current boyfriend have been through a lot. We've been together for a year and a half and during that time hes cheated on me 3 times, but I never let him go because I'm head over heels in love with him. Lately he's been showing less and ...

A.   28 April 2009: if you think hes cheating, chances are he is. women can tell. leave him bc he doesnt love you if he is laying w/someone else. he obviously has no concern over the relationship if hes ignoring you. that is alot of cheating tou have put up w/ and u do ... (read in full...)

Should I talk to my girlfriend about my World of Warcraft friends?

Q.   I have a question. My girlfriend and I have lived together for a while now and we have a great relationship. Since we have been living together, I haven't really played World of Warcraft like a I used to. I just started playing again and some of ...

A.   28 April 2009: maybe try and invite her to play with you guys.( if its possible). introduce everyone or have her sit in and see what you do. its an innocent game and its not like your cheating or anything. sometimes its weird for a girl to hear her guy talking w/ ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend had male sex 15 yrs ago. Will this affect our mariage?

Q.   Hi! I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years, we are planning to get married and have a baby. We love each other. He's been recently unwell, he had a little secret that was tormenting him so he told me eventually that when he was 16 he had sex with...

A.   28 April 2009: everybody dips in to the pool of curiousity, some more then others, whether it a drunken make out session w/the same sex. or innocent curious sex. donf be worried, if hes this tormented about if, then your prpbably the only person he has ever told. ... (read in full...)

Breast pain...

Q.   Hi everyone. I have a REALLY bad pain in my breasts. I have had it for 2 weeks. The nipples are really sore, and if I havent got a bra on the pain is just terrible. Any advice? Does anybody know what it could be? Thanks x...

A.   28 April 2009: hun, it could be pregnancy, take a test or two to find out.... (read in full...)

How do I get close to the one I love the most?

Q.   well, the title says it all... can you please, please, please, give me some helpful tips on how to get along with the one i love? i am asking this question because i'm getting so nervous and tensed when i see him. and that makes me go crazy i...

A.   28 April 2009: your welcome.... (read in full...)

What do you think of my now separated husband? Am I right not to take him back?

Q.   I'm in this situation and i'm not sure how to handle in. Here goes, my husband and i recently seperated after being married for 10 yrs.he continues to blame me for everything that lead to the seperation.I believe that i'm a good women i did ...

A.   28 April 2009: maybe take him back w/ a few considerations, marriage counseling, him doing more house work. he obviously loves you if hes been w/ you for ten years. tell him he has to re-earn your trust and when he satisfies you and you trust him that he better ... (read in full...)

I want to play the field

Q.   I'm a 16 yr old boy and I do not have trouble getting/attractive women. not to toot my own horn ,but i am good looking. my problem is commitment to girls my age. i find myself "looking at the big picture" and think it's a waste of time because i'm ...

A.   28 April 2009: at your age commitment sucks. its normal.....unless it lastes a loooong time and you cant find yourself getting out of it. you can "see" women which is like dating but w/out the commitment. you can also just hang out and find yourself friends w/ ... (read in full...)

Would I be a bad parent for moving in with this guy?

Q.   So my situation is that I use to talk to this guy my freshmen year of college and we were "dating" and we were pretty serious, but it was understood between the both of us that it couldn't go any further because he was going to soon be deployed to ...

A.   28 April 2009: your an adult, your daughter needs a safe and happy home. talk to your parents and listen to their opinion, but if you want to move in w/him. if your parents dont agree w/your action, tough, you have feelings for this guy, and he really sounds good. ... (read in full...)

How do I get close to the one I love the most?

Q.   well, the title says it all... can you please, please, please, give me some helpful tips on how to get along with the one i love? i am asking this question because i'm getting so nervous and tensed when i see him. and that makes me go crazy i...

A.   27 April 2009: You need to calm down..... :) You can't make a guy become close to you, Hell do it by himself, once he sees that you can be comfortable with him then he might become intrested in more then friends. First though you have to hang out with him and let ... (read in full...)

My son was suspended for sniffing glue. Why would he do that?

Q.   My 14-year-old son was suspended from school today for glue-sniffing. He came home at 11:30 this morning, and I was surprised to see him. I asked him "What are you doing home so early?" He admitted he'd been suspended from school for a week...

A.   27 April 2009: Yes a fathers absence can fuel this. glue sniffing is a way to get high and can be potentionally more dangerous then other drugs. It is considered a drug when used unproperly. You have to have a talk with him and tell him what he is really doing. Is ... (read in full...)

Am I immature and difficult or just another common misunderstanding?

Q.   Well, my boyfriend and I are filling in applications for college, and since he's been putting off doing his personal statement for a few weeks now, I offered to do it for him... I looked up some things that might be important to mention and asked ...

A.   24 April 2009: I think that after realizing that he wasnt doing the work he needed to do for himself that he feel bad about it and he realized that he has to be an adult.... (read in full...)

Will our childhood relationship last?

Q.   I'm 15 and my girlfriend is 14 and we are seriously thinking about moving in with eachother when im 20 and she's 19 are we crazy? Are we going to last that Long?...

A.   23 April 2009: its hard to say, over time, people change. living w/someone brings their true colors out. if you two are really dedicated when your 20, you two could srill be together but when high school comes new people come and you meet new people be confident ... (read in full...)

The way I look is holding me back in life!

Q.   Hi I'm 19 and I've never had a boyfriend. I've wanted one since I was 11, but its never happened for me. I've read through the other 'never had a boyfriend' questions and read the advice... I have plenty of male friends (probably more than...

A.   23 April 2009: hey you have you look inside yourself for beauty to. ive tried saying im beautiful to myself and it uped my self image. try it sounda dumb, but it works. if you dont like your hair dye if. little changes have a big effect on what you think of your ... (read in full...)

Wishing I had more female friends to turn to!

Q.   i cant seem to get along with girls(i'm also a girl)- for some reason they are just catty towards me. since i was little i just felt more comfortable around guys than girls. i try really hard to fit in but i still stand out and it bugs me. the only ...

A.   23 April 2009: you have to be yourself, dont try it really does make you stand out. sometimes girls are catty w/people who who are pretty girls are like that. finding a true girl friend is hard, believe it or not the genuine people are slim, there out there, just ... (read in full...)

Should I move to be with my LDR?

Q.   I dated a girl for two months, then she got out of the military, and moved back home..... to the other side of the country. We have talked on the phone everyday, sometimes for 3 or 4 hours. We have had some fights and arguments, and come close to ...

A.   23 April 2009: i think you should give iy a shot, you say you never know unless you try and you wouldnt, so try if things dont worl out have a back up plane, but i dont think you would need it. good luck :)... (read in full...)

Advice on my husband moving out?

Q.   My and my husband are having some really tough issues lately. We are in the process of moving him out of the house, and it is so hard to do. I keep wanting to go back and tell him just to stay here, but I really think him going right now it the ...

A.   23 April 2009: ok breath. this is hard. if you feel deep down this is good for you two, who knows maybe a few days away can help you two, then let him go, being in iraq( thats were im goibg to assume he was) is hard, especially when your whole life is put on hold. ... (read in full...)

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