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23 June 2009: I have been on this site for a few months and i have seen so many questions like "Am i pregnant?". I wrote this to help some of you out there feeling lost.(1)fatigue or the lack of energy.(2)light spotting if you have concieved,spotting can be ...
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I'm due on next week and people say my tummy looks a bit big..... could I be pregnant?
Q. After my mensuation time i met up wit a guy we did nt hv intercouse bt our genitals touchd. I am 2 recieve my menstuation 12may. Ppl are telin me my stoamach luks abit big. Cud i be pregnant?...
A. 7 May 2009: if there was any cum released from him and got into you yeah you could. but people gain weight. if you are concerned, take a pregnancy test.... (read in full...)
Is it better to wait for sex?
Q. So I'm 19 and a virigin. I have a bf who's also a virigin (he's my first ever bf) and he really wants to have sex. We came kinda close to doing it once but we've never gone all the way. Part of me really wants to wait til marraige but part of me ...
A. 7 May 2009: it doesnt matter what other people do. if you want to wait, you will be happier you did when you get married. ... (read in full...)
No Make-Up?
Q. I've been dating this man for about 2 months now. He saw me makeup-less yesterday and raved about it. I HATE NOT WEARING MAKE UP. He caught me in very good light and my hair looked amazing, but this is rarely the case. It's not what I'm most ...
A. 7 May 2009: guys love natural make up. use a powder as close to ypur color as possible. use mascara and a little bit of eyeliner on the outter bottom lid. a sheer gloss and maybe a little blush and bam your done. or even just powder and mascara. that always ... (read in full...)
Can someone please explain the process of natural childbirth in detail
Q. hey! can someone please explain the process of natural childbirth in detail. starting from contractions right down to bieng stitched down there.thanx...
A. 7 May 2009: um.... well i was in labor for 3 days, the contraction hurt but to me they werent that bad. i had the epidoral, i just pushed and in 10 min my son was born. the stitches, i couldnt even feel them. i was literally up and walking around w in 30 min of ... (read in full...)
Seriously guilty over having cheated
Q. I love my fiancée very much. Last month I went out with some buddies and cheated on my girlfriend with not 1 but 2 girls I met at the bar. I was really drunk and started flirting with a girl thinking it would never amount to anything, next thing I ...
A. 7 May 2009: the only thing to end it. is to tell her. otherwise she might tind out sooner or later from somebody else, which could and will make everything worse.... (read in full...)
Confused over two men, please advise, who would be better?
Q. i am currently with a guy i liked for 8 years, we've been together for 7 months. He is pretty awsome, really sweet, treats me great, helps me with my kids, and im slowly falling some what in love with him(not really love yet), anyways, there is ...
A. 7 May 2009: stick with the one you got, he treats you great likes your kids. forget the other guy. it sounds like you have it great were you are... (read in full...)
I am at a loss for words with my boyfriend and very shy, can someone give me some topics of conversation?
Q. i have a boyfriend and well i always seem to not to talk to him cuz well i have nothing to say so please give meh things to say and well i always seem to get red when i talk to him and im afraid to kiss him im really nervous cant you help meh???? ...
A. 7 May 2009: anything really doll, sports, food, pets, favorite thing, boats, water, fishing, skiing, bike riding, cars, anything you can think of you could be like........*i really love pizza its so good and i really like to put pepperoni on it, what is your ... (read in full...)
Would this be considered an abusive relationship?
Q. I already posted a question, but it's getting worse.. This clingy, attatched boyfriend is getting rediculous... My phone was messed up and basically unusable. And so I got an old one a friend had given me. It was tmobile, I have att, my boyfriend ...
A. 7 May 2009: yes, it is emotionally abusive because he is tearing you apart. you should get out of this relationship and take a breath if fresh air. find someone who treats you like a queen and doesnt fight with you every night.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend got involved with another girl and it is troubling to me, should I be worried?
Q. Me again. My girlfriend came back to me, you could say. We were going pretty good until this other girl came along. My girlfriend told me she only liked one girl, and that was me. This other girl [Let's call her "Girl B"] claims to be madly in lo...
A. 7 May 2009: if you are worried its ok, i would be to if i was in your situation. the fact that she just let girl b do that stuff to her and never stopped her would concern me. personally i think that you have a pretty stable reason to worry, ... (read in full...)
There is a clear liquid that comes from my nipple, what could this be?
Q. Dear Aunts Can anyone tell me what is the clear liquid that comes from my breast when I squeeze it. I don't think I'm pregnant. Please help...
A. 7 May 2009: its called nipple discharge. although it may be worrisome the breast is actually a gland and may produce anything from clear or milky to green or yellow. from sticky to watery. very rarely its the underlying symptom of breast cancer or another ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to have sex, I don't think I have enough experience tp please him, what do I need to know?
Q. ok im new to the hole sex thing and i really want to hear how to so it by someone that has please my boy friend is really wanting me to do this and i keep telling him to wait so help!!...
A. 7 May 2009: the key to sex is rhythm. you can yo to sites like sex101.com and get info, you can sit on top of him so your clitoris grinds w/his pubic bone.... (read in full...)
My husband WANTS another man to make me pregnant!!!
Q. Me and my husband both want kids, but my husband does, albeit in a slightly odd way... he wants me to "use my feminine wiles and sleep with whoever I fancy to get pregnant!" He says that I should get pregnant by another guy - and said I should ac...
A. 7 May 2009: um...... thats not right. bringing a child into the world is ment for showing you want to be w/ tnat person on a higher level. sorry to bring this up but do you maybe think he wants you to do this so he can say you cheated on him and make a fool out ... (read in full...)
Can you really get to know someone through online, skype, and many weekends (Friday - Sunday/Monday) together?
Q. Alright, I'm trying to figure something out. I know this is a question I have to determine for myself, but it helps me a ton to talk out a question and receive people's input. (like anyone else, I guess). My girlfriend and I are currently i...
A. 7 May 2009: my husband and i didnt live together untill we were married. it was hard at first b/c i found out a lot i kust didnt know / or want to know about. just how his routinues go and everything, but after a while it got good. i personally think try living ... (read in full...)
Women all around him but he says he's just being friendly
Q. My boyfriend is says he quite honest and this is making me insecure. Weve spilt up a few times and things have happened where he done stuff. And even though were trying again i dont think i trust him. Here is what i mean. Everytime he goes somewhere ...
A. 6 May 2009: thats not a boyfriend. i think his behavior is really odd i dont think hes ready to commit. dump him and find another.... (read in full...)
We passed 100,000 questions published on DearCupid
Q. Today is another milestone in DearCupid history: Over 100,000 questions (100,020 as I write this) have been published! Wow. Thanks to the aunts, the moderators and everyone who shares their problem. As always any ideas on how to improve the s...
A. 6 May 2009: yay!!!! aunts/uncles and problem askers rock :) go all of us ... (read in full...)
Is it better to have the little he gives to me or nothing at all?
Q. I met this guy a little over a year ago, we were together without the boyfriend/girlfriend titles and it wasn't until recently that I found out why. He's got a fiance! I had suspicions about it the whole time because she'd always send me messages ...
A. 6 May 2009: yeah you should leave. thats not a relationship. its all based on his cheating lies. hes going to be getting married. so if you two were to be together, would he do the same thing to you? or would you even know? did he tell you that he had a fiance ... (read in full...)
Getting a really bad feeling
Q. I have got a really weird question, I have no idea what is going on. I have got a really strange feeling in my stomach and haven't got a clue why. You know the feeling you get when you are super nervous, its really hot and unpleasent right in the ...
A. 6 May 2009: i have that feeling before my husband gets home from work. its your body knowing that your love isnt there and protecting you. thats my idea. :) ... (read in full...)
The symptoms are correct but am I pregnant?
Q. well im 17 my boyfriend is 21 we want a baby so bad and now i think im pregnant i had sex april 5th and got my period april 27th but it stayd 4 3 days and was very light every since then i have been craving icys n pickles i pee alot i sleep alot and ...
A. 6 May 2009: sounds like u are hun. you can still have spotting during pregnancy. take a test now and see. if you come up negative, wait....good luck... (read in full...)
What is this and what does this mean?
Q. Whenever I remember something that I did with my boyfriend, I get this sort of warm feeling in my chest. What is this and what does this mean? ...
A. 6 May 2009: i agree w/satindesire, it does sound like your in love. ... (read in full...)
He wants another baby but I am feeling overwhelmed with the first one!
Q. I was 16 and my bf 17 when we decided that we would have a baby. It didnt take long for us to get pregnant. When I found out I was pregnant we moved into his parents basement apartment. I now have a 4 month old son,Kyron. He is my life and I love ...
A. 6 May 2009: when he gets older it gets harder, i have a 10 mo. year old so i would seriously talk to him and ask him what the rush is? if you want to have another baby but not right away tell him you have to wait.....you would like to wait. he should know you ... (read in full...)
I don't trust his ex, but I want to trust him
Q. So it's been 5 months since my boyfriend and I got back together. Things are good, but could be better. Well a month ago, his son's mother came back into the picture. She finally decided that she would allow my boyfriend to be in his son's life ...
A. 3 May 2009: i would ask him to go to coirt and get proper visitation rights. why does he have to be with her? that doesnt seem right. they deserve proper visitation as father and son, his ex really is not allowed to cut his contact like that, not allowed to ... (read in full...)
20 year old boy with a serious problem
Q. Hello everybody, I'm a 20 year-old boy with a HUGE problem. I'm living in Germany now for almost 2 years, and in this time I've got to know different people. 2 months ago I met a girl who is 14, 15 in 3 months(... this is being so hard to write...). ...
A. 3 May 2009: you didnt irritate me at all. but you shouldnt see if you think its wrong, you should try and just yell her you need to find someone that is your age. are you sure that you dont lust her? maybe you only think you are in love w/her?... (read in full...)
I don't want to change for someone
Q. What am i supposed to do everything is so different now!! Lets start from the begining...my boyfriend lets call him Alex. Well Alex is my first real boyfriend. I never really went out with a guy before i was more one of those people that just likes ...
A. 3 May 2009: i agree with satindesire, you sound likr your not ready. you have to choose if you really lile this guy torget your past. if you want to make out w/ a bunch?of dudes youd have to forget about alex. having a boyfriend doesnt mean you can party, just ... (read in full...)
She has cancer and is pushing me away
Q. My best friend of 5 years and girlfriend for 6 months has cancer. I spent 4 weeks in the hospital with her while she had an operation and treatments.I truely love her and care very deeply about her. Tonight we were laying in her bed watching a movie ...
A. 3 May 2009: im sure she knows you love her, she is scared, that maybe she might not make it and she wants to make sure that your happy. do you two think about marriage?? maybe perpose?? thats the greastest act of love, if your ready. staying there at the ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's penis is too small so I never orgasm help!?
Q. Okay here's the deal, me and my boyfriend have recently decided to take our relationship further and sleep together. At first I thought it was normal that it would be uncomfortable and unenjoyable, but after many tries it just gets tiring to have to ...
A. 3 May 2009: try when your on top have your clit rub against his pubic bone, it will /could get an awesome o... (read in full...)
I think he called me fat.am I overreacting?
Q. Sorry that this is kinda long, but I think the back story is relevant... So I've been dating this guy for about seven months and 99.9% of the time he is really sweet and really good to me. But there are these little things. I'm 5'7" 148 lbs. No...
A. 3 May 2009: i would be pissed to. you should be mad at him. you have a right and i dont think hell change, its his way to say that he doesnt feel happy w/your body. thats just my opinion... (read in full...)
Can these things happen during pregnancy?
Q. In week one of pregnancy after emplantation bleeding and all that good stuff does ur stomach cramp up a lil? Also a question im wondering can pregnancy make ur ribs hurt?...
A. 3 May 2009: yes. your body is moving to fit the precsious child inside. everything has to move out especially if you are skinny. ... (read in full...)
Help!!! Could I be pregnant?
Q. I had unprotected sex a week ago (during ovulation) but the guy pulled out. It is now a week before my period, and my breasts are starting to get tender, and i have been extremely tired. I know that tender breasts is also just a PMS symptom, but ...
A. 3 May 2009: ypu could def get pregnant even if he pulled out. take a test, yes you can show signs as early as a week,... (read in full...)
I told my parents that my little sister has been watching porn on the net. Did I do the right thing?
Q. I checked the history and saw that my little sister was checking out porn, but I didn't say anything and didn't tell my parents. I just gave her a blinded/empty warning.. I wanted to see it with my own eyes before I tell..... So yesterday I caught...
A. 2 May 2009: yes you did the right thing, curiousity, peer pressure it can be a number of things. but you did something so hard, that you should be proud of yourself. she mighy be mad at you, but shell get over it. ... (read in full...)
How can I forgive and forget with these images in my head?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 years now. She told me she was a virgin and wanted to stay a virgin till she gets married. I agreed, because I am a virgin too. Everything was going okay. Until last month, she said that she can't lie to me ...
A. 2 May 2009: i agree with acd719, but you also have to look at it as maybe you are the one she wishes to loose it to. she was ashamed, i would find out concrete answer why she lied. but the past is the past. the only way to get the images out of your head is ... (read in full...)
Take your shoes off! Thanks!
Q. Call me PETTY, but i am a woman of PRINCIPLE. I recently put a sign on my front door saying, take your shoes off, thanks!! I was getting so angry with everyone bringing mud and grass in to the house and getting it all over my laminate floors ...
A. 2 May 2009: talk to your boufriend tell him its rude and your sick of him moaning about it to. let me guess do you do all the house work to?? if he does tell him if his mom and dad come by and refuse to take their shoes off that he can clean it up because ... (read in full...)
Is your first friend on facebook your most important one? (ie boyfriend or girlfriend)
Q. Can you date someone from face book by just meeting them on face book? It's a general question. If you make someone your first friend on face book list does that mean they are girlfriend or boyfriend or is that rubbish, I thought it went ...
A. 2 May 2009: on facebook i think it can be changec to who you want first, but usually it goes in random order. if they have the first spot set to you all the time, then most likely they lile talking to you alot and/or likes you, i would ask first though.... (read in full...)
Should I leave him?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been living together for 4 years now for the first year we were just friend renting a 2 bedroom apt together. Recently I was let go from my job do to lack of money in the business. I have continued to work for the company on ...
A. 1 May 2009: if your telling your self to leave him and theres not really a reason to stay leave.... (read in full...)
A question about virginity for all the boys out there
Q. This is mainly aimed at boys but girls can answer too, i would like to know, if a girl said that she wanted to lose her virginity to you but didn't want to be in a relationship with you, would you mind? Or would that be a problem for you? Thanks....
A. 1 May 2009: Virginity is so precious. Dont loose it on a one night stand. You could never get it back and it wouldnt be what you want it to be just quick sex and ot over??? Dont you want romance or anything?... (read in full...)
Parenting advice please!
Q. Ok some parenting advice please!!My daughter is 4 1/2years old and currently going to pre school 3 1/2 hours a day(due to start full time in sept). She is a lovely little girl but she has a very short attention span!Her teacher has told us that she ...
A. 1 May 2009: talk to her pediatrician. i know meds cant always be the answer but she?could have ADD or ADHA. and her dr could perscribe stuff to calm her down and pay attention, but only put her on it if you feel she could benefit. good luck... (read in full...)
I finally dumped my cheating abusive boyfriend...Now I want him back
Q. I finally got the courage and strength to bring up the subject of breaking up/going on a break with my boyfriend of two years. After countless times of cheating, and abuse, I let him go... Thing is I thought I'd feel better, but instead I find m...
A. 30 April 2009: date meeting other guys and the differance between the your ex boyfriend and your new fling would floor you! you would see how much better new nice guy would be treating and forget all about the loser abusive ex! Goodluck... (read in full...)
I'm still in love with my ex 3 months on
Q. Im stil in love with my ex even after 3months of break-up. Iv tried contactin her but she hates me. Iv become this stalkish figure. Im really depressed. What makes matters worse is the fact that we study the same major at university. Shes havin a ...
A. 30 April 2009: hun she is over you that is what it is.....Im sorry. You need to get over her. When she said there wasn't anyone else at that point and time there probably was not anyone else. She might have just became intrested in this guy. Just try and block her ... (read in full...)
How to surprise my girlfriend whens he comes back? Suggestions please?
Q. Hey. My girlfriend is away for a month, and I want to do something special for her when she gets back. Are there any suggestions? Ideally we would stay on campus (we go to a boarding school) to do it. Thanks!...
A. 30 April 2009: A cute romantic picnic with candles all around the blanket, soft music and some of her favorite foods. Sounds cute to me. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Could he be scared to commit?
Q. I met someone online a few years back, he was all fired up about meeting in person. It took a few months for us to meet. We clicked immediately, he called me, we spoke on the phone all the time. I called his house and his children would pick up ...
A. 30 April 2009: Possibly yes. Obviously he has had a fall out with his childrens mother. He sounds like he wants to see you but is it because of you or because you guys have sex? He does sound scared but that is because he had his heart broken in the past after ... (read in full...)
Guys with girlfriends, do you guys ever look/think about other girls besides the one your with?
Q. This isn't a serious serious question but it's something I'm curious about. My boyfriend and I have been together for a while now and he never looks at girls, or anything like that but we watch tv shows, movies, etc. with girls in it but he says ...
A. 29 April 2009: Yeah guys do but it doesn't necasarally mean that they don't think your attractive it is just a nature. Like "comparing merchandise". ... (read in full...)
I'm desparate and I can't take it anymore!!please help me its my first love!!
Q. Hi! I'm 15 and I was hoping you help me because I got a problem. I really love this boy let's call him 'wb' I saw him staring at me many times and even my friends did, he tried to talk 2 me because he knows 1 of my friends but every time he comes...
A. 29 April 2009: just find something you both have in common, movies, books, sports whatever. when your cheecks turn red, most guys think its cute.... (read in full...)
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