Like what
she writes?
... Add *iki20 to your favourite agony aunts
Want to get in touch?
... Send *iki20 a private message | | | *iki20's profile:I CURRENTLY DO NOT HAVE INTERNET SO PLEASE BEAR WITH ME AND IF YOU HAVE QUESTIONS ASK. THANK YOU
Hello my name is Niki i am 21 years old and have a 1 year old son. i am recently seperated from my husband. my son and i live in the country. i like to help people, i like to listen and see what i can do to make people happier or help them out with problems. Please do not be afraid to message me! I will respond asap. (i check the site everyday , multiple times a day, most likely you will have a response the same day). Thanks again. :) |
|
| Latest articles: Early Pregnancy Signs......
This question has 3 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
23 June 2009: I have been on this site for a few months and i have seen so many questions like "Am i pregnant?". I wrote this to help some of you out there feeling lost.(1)fatigue or the lack of energy.(2)light spotting if you have concieved,spotting can be ...
|
Breast implants?
Q. my husband and i have been talking about me getting a breast augmentation , i really want one and i know it will help my self esteem level rise........ does anybody know if silicon or gel implants are better? which ones feel more real?? ...
A. 21 May 2009: thank you guys so much for all of the answers. ... (read in full...)
Should I bow out, until he decides who he wants to be with?
Q. Ok so here it is. I met a guy and I started to like him alot. I am older than he is by 4 years. I am 29, he is 23 going on 24. It took him awhile to figure out that I liked him. I finally had to tell him. We were just friends for about a month until ...
A. 21 May 2009: i think you should lay low for a while but dont dissapear. stay on the radar he might just want to see if he missed anything. give him time, if he wants to see this girl a few times let him and be supportive. dont be a bitch and smack talk about ... (read in full...)
Why do I become so stubborn and difficult to deal with when it comes to my boyfriend!?
Q. Ok, I am engaged to a wonderful man. We did the long distance thing for a year and a half, and I we have been living with eachother for over 3 months. Its wonderful, but in certain instances, I get upset with him and make it so hard for him to talk ...
A. 21 May 2009: the awesome women hormones. i get this way to when my husbands friends come over. i get so made because i never see him b/c he works so much and like you i just want to be w/him, it frustrating, just remember hes with you for a reason. maybe you two ... (read in full...)
It distrubs me very much that he masturbates over pictures of other women, am I wrong to feel this way?
Q. I was wondering what people think of fantasising and masturbating over other people when you're in a relationship? I have no problems with my significant other masturbating when he's not with me (i live in a different city) IF he's not thinkin...
A. 21 May 2009: o hun, its ok. first its ok to look and masturbate to ppl on te internet b/c hes not touching them. its ok.....it sucks but you live so far away. be happy that hes still w/you. you could be all upset and flustered about this situation i would be ... (read in full...)
He cheated on me, dumped me and wants to think about where we go from here, I am heartbroken, what do I do now?
Q. My boyfriend of one year and three months just broke up with me because I tried to discuss my feelings. He has a past of cheating with me and after the incidents it left us with the problem of me not being able to trust him, that was back in Sept...
A. 21 May 2009: ok, move on. hes not worth it, you try and talk about your feelings and he dumps you? thats not a relationship. he doesnt want to be w/ you if hes cheating,but thats my opinion. what makes you not good enough for him? you deserve the respect you ... (read in full...)
He spends the night at his ex's home, and tells me to deal with it. Not sure that I want to?
Q. I started seeing my bf about 2yrs ago, after getting comfortable in the relationship he confides in me that he and his ex-wife were swingers. Not only were they swingers but he had sex with almost every cousin she had (she was involved in the acts ...
A. 21 May 2009: no dont take this crap, leave him. i wouldnt have anything to do w/this. this is boogus, you every righ to be pissed off. leave this crushing relationship and find your prince. he crossed the line and w/out you doing anything about it hes going to ... (read in full...)
Do good relationships come easy?
Q. i've not been in many myself, but my friend and his girl keep having argements and getting back then the smallest thing pops up, i wanna look out for him, cos that what we do, but i dont wanna see him sad cos he likes this one, when he asks for ...
A. 21 May 2009: relationships in no way are easy, it takes a lot of work. and you guys get older it gets tougher. for example when you get married its a lot of work its not i do and its easy street, thats what my husband and i thought and in no way is it easy man. ... (read in full...)
I never thought I'd like girls but I like her!
Q. I recently started talking to this girl online and we have been hitting it off more than well!!! We talk for hours at a time every day and night online and over the phone. we both really like each other but im so confused. I didnt think that I ...
A. 21 May 2009: if you like her go w/it, if you feel for her donr ignore them. who knows it could be great, and if not it could be a wonderful learning expierience,... (read in full...)
Breast implants?
Q. my husband and i have been talking about me getting a breast augmentation , i really want one and i know it will help my self esteem level rise........ does anybody know if silicon or gel implants are better? which ones feel more real?? ...
A. 21 May 2009: its been almost 11 months and now theg seem to still be shrinking i were a c cup but in dec. it fit, as of recently it seems like the bra is big b/c it doesnt feel like ifs fully supporting me. i try and do excersises and what not to lift them etc, ... (read in full...)
Should I go out with a player?
Q. This guy asked me out, but he's a real player. but i have seen him be really sweet and nice, i'm just afraid he might cheat. should i say yes?...
A. 21 May 2009: it depends do you think he worth a giving a chance to? more importantly do you think that your heart is reading to take a chance at getting severly hurt? would you ever be able to trust him, if he says hes at a friends house, are you going to have ... (read in full...)
Career or baby... what do I do?
Q. okay i know im gonna get some abuse from all angry pregnant teens or parents on this site, but i have a baby shaped hole that really needs filling, but im so torn i really want a baby more than anything but i really wanna get my career sorted first, ...
A. 21 May 2009: its up to you really. i thought i was going to have a career first then baby, but god decided to give me baby first career later. im so happy w/my choice of being a mom. its up to you really. its super expensive so make sure that you can afford the ... (read in full...)
Breast implants?
Q. my husband and i have been talking about me getting a breast augmentation , i really want one and i know it will help my self esteem level rise........ does anybody know if silicon or gel implants are better? which ones feel more real?? ...
A. 20 May 2009: thank you guys. as for my self esteem i feel good about my self, but i feel bad when i look in the mirror topless. my husbands wants them but only b/c i convinced him it would be better, i had a size 34d before i had my son, then after i tried to ... (read in full...)
Ever since I got pregnant I've been mean to my husband and dislike everything about him!
Q. hi I have a serious problem since I got pregnant. I have been very mean to my husband. I don't want him to touch me sexually, I dislike everything about him, and I feel like we can be friends other than lovers. this has been going on for a while... ...
A. 20 May 2009: i was the same way when i was pregnant he made me so angry even if it was just a sneeze or something small. its the hormones and maybe you feel unattractive,etc. is he paying enough or to much attention to you?... (read in full...)
I want to talk to her about sex, but don't know how.
Q. I have been in a relationship with this girl for over a year now, I want to talk with her about sex, but I can't ever bring myself to... How should I start the conversation?...
A. 20 May 2009: just ask her how she feels about taking the relationship to the next level and ask her if she would like to make love and explore eachother in a new light. as long as you dont force her or try to manipulate her she should be ok, and talk about ... (read in full...)
I need someone to talk to
Q. Hi... Is there anyone I can talk to about stuff? I'm a teenager, don't have many issues, but I do really need someone to talk to, because my family doesn't really care how I feel as long as I do well.. Thanks :)...
A. 19 May 2009: your more then welcome to msg me anytime.... (read in full...)
What porn do women like to watch?
Q. My wife and I love watching porn together, but I admit porn is geared more toward men. What kind of porn is fun for women to watch?...
A. 18 May 2009: usually a women will watch w/e but they might like a specific kind. ask your wife. she might have something in mind that she might want to watch.... (read in full...)
How long does a women want a man to last in bed?
Q. How long should a man last in bed? How long does a women want a man to last?...
A. 18 May 2009: I agree with all these answers. As long as i climax before or with my husband it doesnt matter if its ten minutes or three hours, as long as i get off im ok.... (read in full...)
What to expect with a yeast infection?
Q. Okay so I'm 23 years old n I have a yeast infection (it’s my 1st one) so I really don’t know what's supposed to happened after u think is going away! I have had one for almost a week I have been putting this antibiotic inside of me( to not get into ...
A. 16 May 2009: usually at the end of the pack. monistate is what im guessing you are using. it should be going away. if the color , itching and irritation are clearing up you should be good, if the discharge is lightening in color from when it started i believe ... (read in full...)
Why did he lie over something so dumb?
Q. Ok two months ago my daughters 3rd birthday to be exact! I was throwing her party and he daddy didn't show up he was 2 hours late!(we are together! He told me when he phoned from his grandmas that his truck broke down after taking a wrong turn and ...
A. 16 May 2009: you and your daughter are the life of the party, he probably knew you were busy. if your concerned that he did something if she has an std you can ask him to get a test, if he is clean, then ur fine. the best way is to ask him straight forward ... (read in full...)
Pregnant and craving coffee!
Q. To all the moms in here.Im 5 months along with my second child and i have been craving coffee really really bad!!! Would decafe be okay everyday?...
A. 12 May 2009: i drank decafe, one to two cups a day and everything is fine. on an occasion i would crave a white chocolate from starbucks and my dr said that a small one, every few months wohldnt hurt.... (read in full...)
I'm a teenage horndog
Q. Hi im a 14 -soon to be 15 year old guy and me and my girl friend are in a very high level of "LIKE". any ways i love her to peices and we do everything together so great.........but ihave two problems....okay me and my gf make out all the ...
A. 12 May 2009: to get her more fired up, foreplay, go down on her you know. you do seem young to be having sex but there are tons of ways to make a girl hot. make sure your concentrating all on her. make eye contact but only for a couple seconds it lets her know ... (read in full...)
When should I take another pregnancy test?
Q. Hello all. I recently asked the same question, however I was wondering when I should test again. I took a pregnancy test a day before my missed period, it was negative. I've since missed my period. I usually have period symptoms a few days before my ...
A. 12 May 2009: you can take it today, buy a two pk so so you can reassure your answer. good luck :)... (read in full...)
When should I take another pregnancy test?
Q. Hello all. I recently asked the same question, however I was wondering when I should test again. I took a pregnancy test a day before my missed period, it was negative. I've since missed my period. I usually have period symptoms a few days before my ...
A. 11 May 2009: you can take another test today. if you missed your period chances that your pregnant is high. if you want a better way to make sure the new test you take is acurate is to get the two pack of the ept tests , they work great, i used them and the ... (read in full...)
I'm not ready to be a middle aged old bag!
Q. I just had my 30th birthday last week, and it's a shock to reach that age where you have to feel ashamed of how old you are. I'm not ready to be a middle aged old bag. I wish and wish I were a young girl again. I've been extremely depressed, and ...
A. 11 May 2009: hun. first of all you can get your navel pierced again. work out. ypur not old your 30. thats not bad. as for married and children?? you dont have to rush it. i know ppl that ate 30 and act like there 20. its ok you have youth inside of you sqrew ... (read in full...)
What do YOU think? I think my teacher is flirting with me...
Q. Okay, my band teach is starting to act in a way that makes me think he kinda likes me, he's not married, no girlfriend, no kids, you get the point. I mean i liked him but i'm kinda over him. But, my name is Taillour [Taylor] and when he sees me me ...
A. 11 May 2009: it does sound like hes flirting w/you. you can always bring it up to him to if your not sure. just be like so....why dont you want me to date anyone??... (read in full...)
B/fgoing on craigs list and looking for men/women to hook up with
Q. My boyfriend of one year has been gpingnon craiglist and talking men and women to hook up with. I just recently searched through his phone and decided to check his emails he has 14 unread messages so I was curious. I föhn out more than what I needed ...
A. 11 May 2009: hun, i would leave. at this point you have hard evidence of him cheating. at this point i think hes just using you for your money. this guy seems like a loser and a jerk. ... (read in full...)
Will I ever be able to swallow?
Q. Hi, I am 19, and my boyfriend is 21. We have been dating for a long time (almost 4 years) and we have recently started experimenting orally. He says that the sexiest thing would be if he could watch me swallow afterwards. I do enjoy perform...
A. 11 May 2009: theres an old wifes tale that says if a man has more fruit in his diet his cum will taste better. cum is really salty and thats why women gag, mention the texture as well. so next time your man reaches for salty fries, offer him a platter of fresh ... (read in full...)
Do I need to be less clingy?
Q. When my boyfriend isnt with me i miss him like crazy! I mean i just think bout him all the time. Even when im with my friends i just want to be with him! I know he loves me and i love him. Hes just more independent person than me. He likes times ...
A. 10 May 2009: yeah. just a little less clingy. take time w/ your friends as a time to unwind. when you are w/ you friends, actually be there w/them notvin lala land. you will feel so much better when you see your man b/c when you dont think about it. it will feel ... (read in full...)
Pains in chest when I breath
Q. Last Wednesdya I began getting pains in my chest when I breath. Its been almost a week of pain and my parents finally might take me to the doctors but they're afraid that I go and theres nothing wrong with me. Should I still go? The pain in my ribs ...
A. 10 May 2009: yes you should go. it could be something serious like phenomonia , even could be a bruised rib or even symptoms of asthma but it could be nothing. but if its effecting your breathing you should def go to a dr asap.... (read in full...)
Why does this guy act this way?
Q. This guy that I've known since last September has been weird. Last monday through wednesday he was ignoring me and not talking to me. Then Thursday he was smiling at me and talking to me on the bus. Friday during shop he was staring at me from ...
A. 9 May 2009: is it possible he likes you more then you think? guys do weird things to get attention. and he did get yours. talk to him about it.... (read in full...)
He won't let me swallow his semen
Q. My partner wont let me swallow his semen? How do I persuade him. I have had it only once and loved it as I accept it as part of him. Any suggestions....
A. 8 May 2009: just ask him why? tell him your fond of it. explain why you like and tell him that you prefer to swallow. if he doesnt budge you might have to deal w/ the fact that he doesnt want you to... (read in full...)
Co-worker friend bi-sexual and making comments
Q. so i recently began a new job at a grocery store. I have became friends with some people that i work with which is natural. I have been working here for about a month and i discovered my friend "michelle" is bi. She recently told me that "you can't ...
A. 8 May 2009: it sounds like she likes you. try taljing w/ her tell her you love your friendship and that your not bi or bicurious, the best way to deal w/ it is to talk w/ her. say it in your own words and be nice about it, you can bring up that shes making ... (read in full...)
Should I try to fix things with him?
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend last week because i found out about another girl. mybest friend told me after all the trouble i've been through with him i should try to move on andtalk to someone new.so thats what i did..moved realllyyy fast and rushed ...
A. 8 May 2009: no you dont need to tell him what you did. you two were broken up. do you know if he slept w/the other girl. was he cheating on you or was he just talking to her? i believe that if you feel like you should patch things up go ahead. just call him and ... (read in full...)
Best position to conceive?
Q. Hi i was just wonering what is the best position to concieve? Now ive heard that missionry is the best but what I really want to know are your chances alot less if the girl is on top?...
A. 8 May 2009: i think all thats a myth b/c i concived girl on top. as long as cum enters the vagina your fine, but if you want to lay on your back w/a pillow under your butt and have sex like that let him finish and stay that way it couldnt hurt. good luck... (read in full...)
My son's girlfriend died in a car accident, and he has not been able to move on, can you provide any advice so I can help him?
Q. My 22 yr old son was in a car accident a year ago and his 19 yr old girlfriend died. I understand that it was hard for him but I am really wooried about him. He hasnt moved on at all. In one full year he has not lef tthe house unless he was forced. ...
A. 8 May 2009: just give it time. it might even yake over a year. do you think he might feel responsible for her death? i think that if you just give him time to cope and grieve, hell get over it on his own time, thats the best healer, time. good luck and best ... (read in full...)
Will anyone else be just like me and be okay with my lifestyle and habbits?
Q. Is there anyone else out there that would adapt and/or be just like me and be okay with my lifestyle and habbits? Im not a party person, I dont drink or smoke. Now that Im out of high school life seems a whole lot more boring. Im home alot and go ...
A. 8 May 2009: yes of course. there are a lpt of beautiful women out there and im sure a lot morebthen you think would also be into video games and stuff your into. try hetting out of the house. it will drive you mad staying inside all day. not all pretty women ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my boyfriend give me oral anymore?
Q. My boyfriend and I are engaged and have been for the last past year and been together for 5 years now and had a baby last july. since i had been pregnant i noticed my boyfriend stopped giving me oral sex. now i admit when i was pregnant i could not ...
A. 8 May 2009: you said you had a baby. did he watch you have the baby? he might feel a little squimish w/ the image. however i agree w/ satin you cant always expect it, you have to ask. ... (read in full...)
Does my teacher like me for more than just a student^
Q. I never really noticed this teacher until I was with my cousin at the liquor store buying drinks for a party. I was in the car since I'm 16. I saw him walk out with his friends and he just blew my mind. He has dark hair with light blue eyes and that ...
A. 8 May 2009: thats a hard question as to i cant see the way he around you. although you told me but maybe he looks at your chest b/c they are there and your low cut shirts and tops are kind of an invitation, its ok all women do it. but maybe the best way to see ... (read in full...)
Is this a threesome?
Q. Hi, yesterday, my best friend (female), her boyfriend, and I (female) engaged in sexual activites. We were thinking about it this morning, and were unsure what to call it. He did not penetrate me, but he did with her. We all got off, and we were ...
A. 8 May 2009: i posted my aswer a while ago but it didnt post i guess, yes armywifes right three people engaging in sexual activity,... (read in full...)
How would you react to this?
Q. Okay, some useful info, I'm 20 finished 3rd year at University, my girlfriend is 17 finishing Grade 12 High School, dating for 2 and a half months. Now apparently and I just found out about this today, she's going with a guy friend to Prom, ...
A. 8 May 2009: at most highschools (i know there was at mine) there is a cut off age at which guests can be. but its usually around 21 i believe, or maybe even 20, you can talk to her tell her you want to go to her prom w/ her and that your hurt. it would be silly ... (read in full...)
He's the love of my life but his kids always come first to him.
Q. Dear cupid I am 20 and I am In a realtionship with a guy whi is also 20 but he has two kids from a previous realationship. I love him and I feel that he is the love of my life. But I can't help but to feel a little selfish because not that I would ...
A. 7 May 2009: hell always choose his kids. although he may love you there a dad/ child bond there that you would never be able to have w/him. if you want to spend time w/ him try inviting all of them, picnic, park, zoo that way you he gets his time w/ them and ... (read in full...)
I'm due on next week and people say my tummy looks a bit big..... could I be pregnant?
Q. After my mensuation time i met up wit a guy we did nt hv intercouse bt our genitals touchd. I am 2 recieve my menstuation 12may. Ppl are telin me my stoamach luks abit big. Cud i be pregnant?...
A. 7 May 2009: if there was any cum released from him and got into you yeah you could. but people gain weight. if you are concerned, take a pregnancy test.... (read in full...)
| *iki20's friends
These are mutual friends, so *iki20 has
added them and they have added *iki20!
|
