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I CURRENTLY DO NOT HAVE INTERNET SO PLEASE BEAR WITH ME AND IF YOU HAVE QUESTIONS ASK. THANK YOU

Hello my name is Niki i am 21 years old and have a 1 year old son. i am recently seperated from my husband. my son and i live in the country. i like to help people, i like to listen and see what i can do to make people happier or help them out with problems. Please do not be afraid to message me! I will respond asap. (i check the site everyday , multiple times a day, most likely you will have a response the same day). Thanks again. :)

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Early Pregnancy Signs......

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23 June 2009: I have been on this site for a few months and i have seen so many questions like "Am i pregnant?". I wrote this to help some of you out there feeling lost.(1)fatigue or the lack of energy.(2)light spotting if you have concieved,spotting can be ...

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Do I pay for his band or does he?

Q.   my bf and i have been discussing the kind of ring that i want for engagement and the kind of bands we want. Do i pay for his band or does he? He hasn't brought this up but i'm sure it would come up eventally. ...

A.   31 May 2009: when my husband and i got married he paid fir his band, which made sense b/c after you get married you guys share the bills. :) we just went and picked it out. we didnt discuss whos pays for what so he just did lol.... (read in full...)

Ugly hair!!!

Q.   I'm 14 years old. I have been thinking of doing the anti curl thing in my hair not myself ofcourse but at a salon. my hair is curliesh wavyesh and very poofy. to school i usually scrunch it with gel and hairspray but i want straight hair badly! i ...

A.   30 May 2009: hey my hair is the same way. i just straighten my hair. the salon i use to go to charged about $50.00 for a chemiclal straighten. it will damage your hair over time. i would suggest leaving your hair down at night, having it in a pony stresses out ... (read in full...)

Please help me understand her...

Q.   This girl and I are fairly close... well, really close. We have never been boyfriend and girlfriend, but we have kissed and we exchange "I love you"s a lot. The things I don't understand: 1. She said she loves me and likes me, but she doesn't...

A.   30 May 2009: honestly dear she sees you as a friend she loves therefore technically you're in the friend zone. She doesn't want to ruin your relationship but she likes you, she also might be waiting to see if any other guy is out there for her...... (read in full...)

How to deal with chest hair?

Q.   i have a pretty hairy chest, but i dont really want one anymore, ive tried to shave it but all that it left me with was multiple ingrown hairs, rough stuble. I want a smooth hairless chest, is there anyway to get that?, maybe waxing?...

A.   29 May 2009: waxing is good, but it hurts. i have only gotten my eyebrows done but that is painful, there's Nair but that smells funky :) ummmm laser hair removal....goodluck but you'd be surprised at how many women find hairy cheasted guys sexy. ... (read in full...)

Could my sister be pregnant even though she's on the pill?

Q.   My sister is on birth control she has been taking her pills faithfully and she had unprotected sex her period should have started already but it didnt she just spotted could she be pregnant even thought she is on birth control...

A.   29 May 2009: yes she could remember in the add it says 99.9% effective, she could be that (lucky/unlucky) 1% that it failed. even if you take it teo hours later then you usually do that even can increase the chances of becoming pregnant, crazy i know, is she was ... (read in full...)

Have had unprotected sex for 7 years, not pregnant yet, could infertility be the problem?

Q.   i'm 19 years old and my boyfriends 28 years old. we've not been trying for a baby but have been having unprotected sex for the past 7 weeks and im not pregnant. of course i am over the moon about it but at the same time im quite worried i could be ...

A.   29 May 2009: i agree w/artistical_bumblebee. your probably just really lucky and there could be infertility as an issue, get both of you checked out. for both infertilty and std/stis... (read in full...)

Why do guys say sappy things like"awww" all the time, just wondering?

Q.   Hey! :D I was just wondering why some guys say 'awww' to almost everything you say? It happens to me quite often, mainly it is on msn. I wouldn't usually imagine some guys to say it, even some who are not necessarily tough, but would never say extr...

A.   29 May 2009: he honestly might not know what else to say or doesnt care to say more. plus its easy.... (read in full...)

Ladies, I have a lot of pubic hair which I want removed, how do I ask my mom to get me something that will take care of it, did you ever have this problem?

Q.   This question is only for girls. I am thirteen and going thu puberty... obviously. any way I have a lot of pubic hair that show on the bekini line and I really want my mom to buy me nair wax strips for bikini lone or something like that but...

A.   29 May 2009: just say hey mom when i wear my suit i have hair that sticks out and i cant shave it b/c........ would you buy me /blank/ b/c it would really help me. your mom will listen more then you know.... (read in full...)

What should I say when I talk to him to get him to stay with me?

Q.   So my bf wants a break because he misses what he had when he was single. He also says i pushed him into saying "i love you" (but he eneded up saying it after i let it go) When i asked, he said he still has romantic feelings for me, but he...

A.   28 May 2009: hun, the reason he wants it to last all summer vaca. is b/c thats when the girls just want to have fun, fwb. and he wants to party w/out actually cheating on you. so id let this guys go. he said that he misses things that he had when he was single, ... (read in full...)

What every day objects can we use to get sexy in the bedroom?

Q.   Me and my boyfriend had really good sex the other day, with the help of a feather. We used it as a way to build up and stuff and in the end it was amazing. We were just wondering, what other objects would we be able to use which are everyday obj...

A.   27 May 2009: beaded necklaces, ice, strawberriss, frozen grapes (they dont make a mess like ice and make a mess), a shower head you two take a shower a let him find your sexy spot. (if u dont have one they are easy to install)... (read in full...)

The worst haircut of my life! How do I tell her?

Q.   my friend who is in beauty school (almost done) , cut my hair the other day. she did such a bad job, what makes it worse she loves it. my husband said it kind of looks like an 80s mullet, :/ my mom just said omg. i called my cousin who has been a ...

A.   27 May 2009: now she wants to color it, i dont know what to do, i told her my cousins comming out to do it but she keeps pushing it. im getting annoyed and told her numerous times that i am having mg cuz do it but she doesnt get it. do i ignore this or just go ... (read in full...)

I don't see a future with him. What should I do?

Q.   im with this guy and ive been with him for 8 months and i have alot of feelings for him but i just dont see the relationship going to far or i dont see a future with him in it...what does it mean? and what am i suppose to do...

A.   27 May 2009: if you dont see you two building on a future theres ho reason to be together. you guys still like eachother be buds. i hope this helped good luck... (read in full...)

Rumors! But am I the father or is he?

Q.   Here's the deal. My wife is pregnant. We've been together for a year, and for the most part, it's been a good year. Like most people, she has her share of history, and I have mine. While this may sound like some of that, it's really not, at least I ...

A.   27 May 2009: its bad b/c you feel pride at having a child w/ your wife and it hurts for her to be saying these things, real or not. its rude. you have every right to be upset. if i were her i would have said shut up and knock it off. its not cool but you have to ... (read in full...)

Is he getting ready to leave me?

Q.   Is there any signs, when your husband is thinking of leaving you? I have a feeling ,that something is going on in my husband head, but he wouldn't tell me what it is. He would be doing it in secret ,just leave a note, as he is not the kind of guy,...

A.   27 May 2009: guys are thick headed (no offense readers) but you have to break that down and try to figure it out. if anything bring up a seperation and see if hes up for that. get a feeling for whats going on its hard. maybe he is cheating? or maybe he just ... (read in full...)

My mother doesn't approve, but he loves me! What should I do?

Q.   im 16. my boyfriend is 18. he knows how i feel about sex and he is able to wait until im ready. im still a virgin. we've been together 3months. just recently him and my mom got into a huge arguement.. about how she is overprotective. she got pissed ...

A.   27 May 2009: personally if daughters boyfriend had the nerve to argue with me he would be out to. i dont blame her for being upset. that argument took place in her home right? your still young your mom reallly knows what to do and what is good for you. listen to ... (read in full...)

Does she really care more about him than me?

Q.   Basically, my girlfriend of nearly eight months has been talking to this guy over the internet for about four years. She says they used to be, sort of together, long distance but then she broke with him (she says). Thing is, she always wants to ...

A.   27 May 2009: dear your young. i think you should say goodbye to her. although shes not pyshically cheating she is emotionally cheating on you. you deserve better what shes doing is absolutely rude and disrespectful. i say go find yourself a nice girl that will ... (read in full...)

Am I that bad at this or is he that difficult to please?

Q.   Okay, so my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 9 months now. We've been doing oral and recently sex. I have a few questions regarding ejaculation? When I first started giving him blowjobs, before, it took like, 15 minutes, but now i can't ...

A.   27 May 2009: hun, hes had a tasteof you (having sex) and now his mind automatically thinks of that. my husband doesnt get off w/blow jobs or anything either but when it comes to sex same situation you have. if you enjoy sex have it more it more often (with ... (read in full...)

Is there a way I can induce lactation (without pregnancy)?

Q.   Okay.. I dont know if this sounds silly or not but is there a way to induce lactation without pregnancy? BACK STORY Im 18 years old with my boyfriend of 1 year 5 months. My boyfriend loves to suck my boobs and fantasizes about me being pregnant....

A.   27 May 2009: i think you can, stimulate enough were not milk but a discharge comes out. your body will not produce milk unless you are pregnant, and if you are breast feeding , trust me huni there is no way you would want your man sucking your boobs.....they ... (read in full...)

Opinions needed please... Would this be considered rape?

Q.   Okay my question is if a 14 or 15 year old has sex with a man willingly between the ages of 16 or 17. would that be considered rape even though they were 100% willing? Thanks much appreciated. Curious,...

A.   27 May 2009: if your willing its cool. as long as one was not over 18 then your ok. otherwise if one was over eighteen then yes, thats considered stagatory rape.... (read in full...)

Why does she mean so much to me?

Q.   im 15 and i have a girlfriend who i care about very much and i think i love her. i know im young but i just know it. okay well we got into a fight yesterday. she blew things way outta proportion. but i still took the blame. i always do. i apologized ...

A.   27 May 2009: its easy you love her, the way you do the things you do for her say it. if she doent want to talk dear give her tim ,its hard but hun give her her space to chill out. itll be ok.... (read in full...)

Help with better self esteem without therapy!?!?

Q.   Please do NOT judge me. Okay, so I know I have an eating disorder- not like anorexia- but I won't eat in front of anyone (including my parents) except my sister. I mainly eat infront of her because she was anorexic and I'll do anything to keep her ...

A.   27 May 2009: start being confident tell yourself you're beautiful. you probably are, you have to stop cutting..... you will look back 5 years later and be so so self conscious about them, i know first hand what that blade feels like and the aftermath down the ... (read in full...)

Possible miscarriage? Brown slimey stuff!

Q.   please help! i finished my period last week. A couple days later i started to discharge dark brown slimy stuff. I dont know what it is. I just keeps coming out and i dont know if it is a possible miscarriage or what?? someone please help MOD NO...

A.   27 May 2009: no i think your ok, i think that its just normal discharge after the period. you know when when dried blood looks dark in color. thats the same thing extra discharge after your period. if its really after about a week or two see a dr asap. but if uy ... (read in full...)

We've grown apart, what should I do?

Q.   I am dating this guy that i like alot we have been on an off for the past five months now an i think that has really put a toll on me it has drove me crazy. When we first started dating we did everything went to the movies played pool hung out at ...

A.   26 May 2009: well it kind of seems that hes not that into you. but his dissaperiances are a little fishy, in my opinion, you should find another man that makes you happy. its not fair to you for him to be a butt head. ... (read in full...)

How do I gag without actually throwing up?

Q.   ok....so my boyfriend and i have been together for nearly 2 years and we sometimes watch porn together to spice things up. he asked me if i was willing to gag like they do on porn films. i'm always up for trying new things and it was fine for a ...

A.   26 May 2009: well, you can try breathing through your nose and dont pay attention that hes in your mouth have your tongue out if your mouth so you have more room. good luck... (read in full...)

She's harming herself after the breakup of her relationship! Help!!

Q.   A friend of mine's boyfriend just broke up with her. She's been very depressed since. I've been trying to help her(talking to her, trying to make her laugh), but nothing seems to be working. She's started to cut herself and I feel it's my fault ...

A.   26 May 2009: Tell someone. It's self mutilation and it could lead to suicide. I used to cut when I was younger, she needs professional help. Tell someone asap. I'm sure there are other people she could have gotten the idea from, its not your fault, you're trying ... (read in full...)

Accidently hit ny girlfriend in the face, what can I do to make up for that?

Q.   Hey. My alarm didn't go off, and i missed my girlfriend. She waited for me for a long time... not something that was fun for her. after that, I accidentally hit her in the face... ouch... oops... I want to make up for it somehow, but I'm kind of ...

A.   25 May 2009: well a picnic is always sweet. in a field watching the sunset. give her a bunch of her favorite flowers. a card, a romantic dinner that you cooked. or a day were she chooses everything you guys do. theres some ideas, i hope they helped.... (read in full...)

Divorce a husband I don't want to see

Q.   How should I divorce my husband ,if I don't want to see him, for a while? My children are grown ups, could they understand , that I do'nt want any contact with their dad? Would they accept, I don't want to see them for a while,for that reason,?I t...

A.   23 May 2009: try taking a break. a temporary seperation. divorce is expensive and you really wouldnt want to get a divorce and then realize you really do love him and want to be with him. just take a couple weeks even a month er so to try and get your thoughts ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend falls for fake dating site profile, how to confront him?

Q.   Hi there I need some advice please. I met this guy on an internet dating site we have been together about 3 and a half months and it was going well until I realised he was still checking the site everyday, I was doing this as well but I deleted...

A.   23 May 2009: i would just show up and introduce yourself as sandra, thatll make hi, fall flat. he wont /or couldnt really back out of it once he meets her and shes you, theres no way he wouldnt be able to lie then cuz you stoped him / caught him in the act.... (read in full...)

The worst haircut of my life! How do I tell her?

Q.   my friend who is in beauty school (almost done) , cut my hair the other day. she did such a bad job, what makes it worse she loves it. my husband said it kind of looks like an 80s mullet, :/ my mom just said omg. i called my cousin who has been a ...

A.   23 May 2009: thank you gugs. ... (read in full...)

My son gets horrible bloody noses!

Q.   I know this is not related to sex or relationship, but i really need some serious input on this. my son is 6 years old and his nose pours blood all the time and his dr says that its nothing to worry about. Does anyone know what could possibly be a ...

A.   23 May 2009: you could go as far for looking for a childrens hospital, and just giving them a call. just explain the situation you have at hand. it could even be in a differant state. jusf as long as you get the right answer. i swear some doctors are the ... (read in full...)

Places for a 20 year old girl to make friends?

Q.   How can I get more friends, as at the moment I have none, I have tried going to night classes in the past and have went to functions etc. on my own but I always seem to end up on my own and it's starting to depress me a ittle. I feel I only live ...

A.   22 May 2009:  do you have a sister? thats were i meet people.i use to go out to dinner or somewere, nightclubs etc and meet people, just walked up and started talking to people. friends are everywere you just have to introduve yourself and start talking. im not ... (read in full...)

How do they do pregnancy tests at a clinic?

Q.   Hi there, My Girlfriend found out she was pregnant around 8 weeks ago now and told me she had an abortion 6 weeks ago (she didn't want me there) She said shes had her period a few weeks after the abortion too. I do believe her however this was ...

A.   22 May 2009: 100% they test usually by blood/urine, the hormone levels in a pregnant womens body are high, by the nurses taking a urine sample is highly acurate, they use differant tests....then what you buy at a store, you know there more "high tech". the blood ... (read in full...)

He depends on me but I want to leave!

Q.   My problem is...... I have been with my sons father for 13 years on and off (we are not married). mostly on of course. We have a child together. About 8 years ago he got sick. He lost all function of his kidneys well he hasnt worked since then. ...

A.   21 May 2009: see if they qualify for goverment assistance, you said it yourself, why would you sarifice your happiness. the whole drinking and being an ass thing is a problem, you know it you wouldnt have mentioned it if you didnt. hun leave this situation and ... (read in full...)

Breast implants?

Q.   my husband and i have been talking about me getting a breast augmentation , i really want one and i know it will help my self esteem level rise........ does anybody know if silicon or gel implants are better? which ones feel more real?? ...

A.   21 May 2009: thank you guys so much for all of the answers. ... (read in full...)

He depends on me but I want to leave!

Q.   My problem is...... I have been with my sons father for 13 years on and off (we are not married). mostly on of course. We have a child together. About 8 years ago he got sick. He lost all function of his kidneys well he hasnt worked since then. ...

A.   21 May 2009: your not happy that can effect your son. when your son is older he will understand. i think you should leave you cant do this to yourself anymore. i can feel how exhausted you are jusrt through your words. make a better life for you and your sone ... (read in full...)

He's mean and I am tired of his behavior, how do I move on?

Q.   so my ex and i have always had an up and down relationship after our break up. cause he was really mean to me. but he like he told me he was very sorry and would chnage and he did change for like 2 weeks and was really sweet being the guy i always ...

A.   21 May 2009: forst step you got to leave. confin le in your girlfriends and family and go out and have fun. do things that make you happy, meet new people and meet new guys, time is the only thing that will for surely get rid of him.... (read in full...)

Co-worker crush won't go away

Q.   Hi I'll try not to waffle on too much -I'd like some advice to help clear my head up. I'm a 31 year-old man and I am very fond of a 29 year female co-worker. She is a single mother with a 6 year-old daughter and it seems the father was out o...

A.   21 May 2009: to be honest she might be scared. for her daughter and for her. not that your scarey or anything but you get what im trying to say? she might not be intrested in you and thays somthing you might just have to come to terms with. there might be ... (read in full...)

Is there anything wrong with being a long distance friend, to a married man?

Q.   More than 2 years ago, I met a guy in a business who was very friendly. He´s military and we became friends, nothing more. After he left we started to keep in touch by email, and sharing regular friends stuff. He have always talked about his...

A.   21 May 2009: personally i think its ok, you guys are just friends and since nothing sexual is involved i dont see why not. i do think him not wanting to talk about his wife is weird but it doesnt seem like he cares about her much. friends is fine but if i were ... (read in full...)

Co-worker has a crush on me but I am married!

Q.   okay so there isa guy at work who i would say hasa thing for me although i am maried with kids and the other day i was wating on a customer ,and he basically accuesd me of flirting with this customer although i said now i wansnt he said yes you were ...

A.   21 May 2009: he probably likes you because hes attracted, your beautiful, smart, funny anything. it sounds like hes a bit jelious. next time he accuses you that your flirting, say yeah what if i am? if his answer seems weird to you , let him know to back off. he ... (read in full...)

Sometimes I want to kiss my friend.

Q.   i dont know why but everytime one of my friends thats a girl has a boyfriend or talks to another guy i get mad and annoyed. i know im sorta bi because i do like girls but would rather gys but does this mean i like my friends? i sometimes want to ...

A.   21 May 2009: it sounds like you are just severly jelious of your girls. do they get more attention then you? do you feel insecure? it also sounds like you are striaght because if you cant kiss a girl,i dont think your bi. do you have feelings for her other then ... (read in full...)

Should I bow out, until he decides who he wants to be with?

Q.   Ok so here it is. I met a guy and I started to like him alot. I am older than he is by 4 years. I am 29, he is 23 going on 24. It took him awhile to figure out that I liked him. I finally had to tell him. We were just friends for about a month until ...

A.   21 May 2009: i think you should lay low for a while but dont dissapear. stay on the radar he might just want to see if he missed anything. give him time, if he wants to see this girl a few times let him and be supportive. dont be a bitch and smack talk about ... (read in full...)

Breast implants?

Q.   my husband and i have been talking about me getting a breast augmentation , i really want one and i know it will help my self esteem level rise........ does anybody know if silicon or gel implants are better? which ones feel more real?? ...

A.   21 May 2009: its been almost 11 months and now theg seem to still be shrinking i were a c cup but in dec. it fit, as of recently it seems like the bra is big b/c it doesnt feel like ifs fully supporting me. i try and do excersises and what not to lift them etc, ... (read in full...)

Breast implants?

Q.   my husband and i have been talking about me getting a breast augmentation , i really want one and i know it will help my self esteem level rise........ does anybody know if silicon or gel implants are better? which ones feel more real?? ...

A.   20 May 2009: thank you guys. as for my self esteem i feel good about my self, but i feel bad when i look in the mirror topless. my husbands wants them but only b/c i convinced him it would be better, i had a size 34d before i had my son, then after i tried to ... (read in full...)

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