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I CURRENTLY DO NOT HAVE INTERNET SO PLEASE BEAR WITH ME AND IF YOU HAVE QUESTIONS ASK. THANK YOU

Hello my name is Niki i am 21 years old and have a 1 year old son. i am recently seperated from my husband. my son and i live in the country. i like to help people, i like to listen and see what i can do to make people happier or help them out with problems. Please do not be afraid to message me! I will respond asap. (i check the site everyday , multiple times a day, most likely you will have a response the same day). Thanks again. :)

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Early Pregnancy Signs......

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23 June 2009: I have been on this site for a few months and i have seen so many questions like "Am i pregnant?". I wrote this to help some of you out there feeling lost.(1)fatigue or the lack of energy.(2)light spotting if you have concieved,spotting can be ...

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Father's day gift for husband?

Q.   this up comming fathers day is my husbands very first ever. i have no idea what to get him. every holiday i get him tools, he loves them dont get me wrong. but i dont want to be so obvious, and ruin to much of a good thing. Any fathers know of any ...

A.   12 June 2009: thank u for the rose idea hes to much of a manly man lol to appreciate flowers lol he might just give me a look and say thanx lol :) good idea ill try to give them ill keep you all posted.... (read in full...)

Friends before boyfriends/girlfriends?

Q.   I know people always say 'freinds before boyfriends/ girlfriends' but is this actually true? Does this apply to freinds of the opposite gender, even if they really are just friends and your'e not attracted to them at all? My boyfriend recent...

A.   12 June 2009: its def ok to have b/fs and guy friends. does he have girls that are friends? if he does and your ok w/it he really has no right to say :hey hun i dont want you to have guy friends b c i dont trust you: thats not really fair or nice :/ if you havent ... (read in full...)

Friends before boyfriends/girlfriends?

Q.   I know people always say 'freinds before boyfriends/ girlfriends' but is this actually true? Does this apply to freinds of the opposite gender, even if they really are just friends and your'e not attracted to them at all? My boyfriend recent...

A.   12 June 2009: ah the old saying bros before hoes. yes it is true on most cases unless your married. but i would be worried about the fact that he doesnt trust you especially if you havent done anything to make him not trust you. but he could trust you and hot ... (read in full...)

I'm sore and itchy down below. Could it be a disease?

Q.   i've been using my finger to wiggle around down there is it possible that i could have got a disease because it's sore and it itches very bad but when i itch it it hurts or burns...

A.   12 June 2009: highly unlikely it is a std/sti it sounds more like a yeast infection. i would go to your gyn to make sure that it is a yeast infection before treating it b/c you dont want to treat something that is not there. is your discharge thicker then usual ... (read in full...)

Father's day gift for husband?

Q.   this up comming fathers day is my husbands very first ever. i have no idea what to get him. every holiday i get him tools, he loves them dont get me wrong. but i dont want to be so obvious, and ruin to much of a good thing. Any fathers know of any ...

A.   11 June 2009: thank you guys for the great ideas. ill take them all into consideration... (read in full...)

Father's day gift for husband?

Q.   this up comming fathers day is my husbands very first ever. i have no idea what to get him. every holiday i get him tools, he loves them dont get me wrong. but i dont want to be so obvious, and ruin to much of a good thing. Any fathers know of any ...

A.   11 June 2009: steve thats a very good idea, but our son isnt one yet and eats crayons more then he scribbles lol i wish i could do that tho thank you.... (read in full...)

My man is going to his ex apartment for plumming. I think theres more to it

Q.   Dear Aunts and Uncles here's a good question for you :) My man is planning on going to his ex-wifes apt. because he says the landlord called and asked him to quote some plumbing work. I really have no reason to suspect anything other than wha...

A.   8 June 2009: why would his exs landlord call? is he a plumber? i would tell him to call a plumber for her and have her pay it. sounds weird, the landlord knows well enough im sure that they are divorced, talk to him about it and tell him how you feel. ... (read in full...)

Really like her, she has OCD, is there something I can do to help/

Q.   Hi, again, i'm writing to have a problem,i have a very close friend, whom i love and adore, shes my world, i met her on a online game (mmorpg) yet everytime i see her i get really really warm, everytime shes not on i cry,the problem i have is the ...

A.   8 June 2009: ocd you know is a disorder, the only way to help her is to let her go about her business. what exactly does she do? there are difterant levels. i can help you further if you can tell je she does..... (read in full...)

Is my vagina abnormal?

Q.   I think i have an abnormal vagina. The labia are strangly larger than the rest of my Vagina and sorta hang down a bit. i have always been consious of this but even more so now when a guy described it as overgrown funghi. is it really abnormal ...

A.   7 June 2009: there are surgeries to get them smaller, its normal there is no such thing as a normal vagina, those vaginas seen in pornographic movies are airbrushed surgically fixed so do not worry about it. your perfectly normal.... (read in full...)

Guy next door has 9" penis and I'm sure my wife would be fascinated by it

Q.   My wife mentioned tonight that the girl next door told her that her husbands penis is 9" long, we get on really well with them but now things have changed in my mind. My penis is only 5" and I now imagine my wife to be fascinated by his size. My ...

A.   6 June 2009: these two have the right idea, sex w/ a bigger penis is severly uncomfortable, to be honest w/you i looked online and did some reasearch for school ontime and the average penis size i an inch smaller then a dollar bill when erected. so his wife ... (read in full...)

If you really loved your wife would you let her sleep with another man?

Q.   How do you know when a man truly loves a woman. What do they do, say, act like? For the men if you really loved your wife would you let her sleep with someone else? ...

A.   6 June 2009: well every guy expresses the way he loves a women in a differant way, for example my husband picks me dinner up and remember exactly what i like on it. little things a guy does will let you know that he truely loves you. secondly a guy would not let ... (read in full...)

Problems with my husband - help!

Q.   My husband hates my brother in law, before marriage we are like friends he doesn't have any intention but he speaks very jovial to me, but my husband hates whenever he speaks with me.i told him if u din like him u dont speak i will speak but he got ...

A.   6 June 2009: this is kind of confusing, but your husband has no right to do anything he is doing here, especially him beating you thats not cool at all and totally not fair that he is as possesive and wont let you talk to family, im scared for you! please i ... (read in full...)

Are platonic relationships possible?

Q.   I met a gril at my best friends house on game night, I like her as a friend, we get along well and she knows of my current relationship. Is it a bad idea to try to contact her to hang out only as friends or should I just forget about it? Can a guy ...

A.   6 June 2009: maybe. if ur g/f is the jelious type then it will be harder, why not try and introduce and hang out w/both of them first so she absolutely knows it is platonic, if she asks you not to pursue the relationship dont. women know when there man is being ... (read in full...)

Should I lose my virginity tomorrow? Please answer ASAP!

Q.   I am soooo confused please can you help me asap!! before tomorrow if you can i am 15 and i am a virgin and i like this boy alot and he want to take my virginity really baaaad but i think thats all he wants to do but im not sure. hes 16 and has ha...

A.   6 June 2009: you did do the right thing. especially if you feel you did, and him not talking to you def. proves it. good job!!!!!!!!... (read in full...)

I don't want to tell my g/f about the cheating but the guilt is too much of a burden!

Q.   I love my girlfriend/complicated relationship deeply, I can see a life, kids, and marriage with her, she is my everything. I had an ex-fiance though that came into the relationship after the first 6 months and my feelings came back for her. ...

A.   5 June 2009: Honestly i dont see it as cheating on her as you guys were broken up right? If your guilty about it tell her. You pretty much slept with your ex to see if your gf was really the one and thats how it goes sometimes. It does take that to realise ... (read in full...)

Which medicine works best for cramps?

Q.   Hey, I need some suggestions Whenever I get my period, I tend to get cramps quite often. When it comes, i try so desperately to get rid of them. I've tried Midol, Advil, and Alieve, but the only results i got were that the Advil and Alieve each ...

A.   4 June 2009: if your in that high of pain, ask your dr about naproxen, its prescription and it helps. if your at school and you havw them take a long one of those heat sticky things were you pull off one side and stick it there, you know for like backachs eyc, ... (read in full...)

I'm worried I could be pregnant...

Q.   My boyfriend and I were rubbing against each other and I wasn't wearing pants or underwear, but he was fully clothed. And he ejaculated and it touched my vagina, maybe, not too sure. And this was a week after my period, and now about a month later I ...

A.   4 June 2009: chances of you being pregnant are slim to none. if it made it into your vagina (highly unlikely w/out you two being naked)thay raises the chance,vbut you more then likely not the onlu way to be sure is to take a test. ... (read in full...)

Should I lose my virginity tomorrow? Please answer ASAP!

Q.   I am soooo confused please can you help me asap!! before tomorrow if you can i am 15 and i am a virgin and i like this boy alot and he want to take my virginity really baaaad but i think thats all he wants to do but im not sure. hes 16 and has ha...

A.   4 June 2009: pain varies, you might not even have a hymen anymore, it can tear w/ excersise gymnastics, etc......blood that varies to but changes from girl to girl. i dont think you should loose it he only wants to have sex w/ u to brag that he took it. wait ... (read in full...)

I have no idea why my husband doesn't want sex anymore

Q.   im 20, my husbands 25. we have been married for a year and have a 9 months year old son. he seems like he has lost interest in having sex with me. sex never use to be a problem, and all of a sudden he makes up excuses..its driving me insane. i have...

A.   4 June 2009: since i have wrote this our sex life is productive, b/c he stoped working on te farm. he literally worked over 80 hours a week and 7days so i finally have him to myself, well kinda thank u guys... (read in full...)

What can I use similar to a penis to masturbate?

Q.   i've just begun masturbating.I want to know what can be used as a dildo.something that i can push up my ass, something that feels like a pennis. Please help me....

A.   3 June 2009: why not go with the dildo? you can by them anywere adult toys are sold. here you have to be 18 to buy them, im not sure were your at. ... (read in full...)

I want more financial freedom

Q.   How do I tell my bf of 5 years that I want to continue saving for a home, but I want a life too? Everytime I want to do something (e.g. go away for a long weekend) he says we can't afford it... I am so young and I feel like I have no life. We have ...

A.   3 June 2009: you have to think about if you would like a house or a few days away? which one would you rather have? i personally would go for the house, you can raise a family in it and grow. you two can makw a cute camping trip for cheap, you dont have to go ... (read in full...)

Should I Feel Guilty About Pleasuring Myself?

Q.   I've just got this little problem, and I don't know why I'm even seeing it as a problem. I'm 18 years old (nearly 19), and I'm still a virgin. I've never done anything sexually active with a boy, but I have done some (no polite way to put this)...

A.   3 June 2009: nope, your perfectly fine, your just making yourself happt and that you feel a lot more relaxed. your pefectly fine.... (read in full...)

Should I talk to this girl who is wearing 2 bras to school? Or laugh with everyone else?

Q.   K so there's this girl in my class who for some weird reason wears 2 bras everyday to school, should i talk to her about it maybe she needs someone to talk to ? Do i laugh along with everyone else!? Do i just leave it alone?? I dont what to do cuz ...

A.   3 June 2009: she might be wearing two bras b/c she is flat chested and there is th illusion that there is more there, they might be for support. are you sure there are two bras not just a bra and under shirt? if she is kind of your friend, def. talk to her, if ... (read in full...)

I don't want my best friend living like this anymore. Please help

Q.   I don’t know what to do. My best friend is going through a lot right now. Her dad left her mom bt still comes back every once in awhile and even when my friend does good things her mom ignores it. She called me a few minutes ago crying saying how ...

A.   3 June 2009: you can call child protective services and she can get adopted out to a better family. b/c she is only 14 theres no way legally that you guys can go about this examples being oving in together etc.....so if your scared for her, if you truely think ... (read in full...)

Worried about color, shape of "down there"

Q.   hi, im 17 and this is quite embarrasing but im worried about down there, it seems to be quite big and the lips hang quite low,and im ideal weight, so its not fat or anything but im really embarrassed by it and i have a boyfriend and wont let him go ...

A.   2 June 2009: yes its normal, everyones differant and its fine. i have the same problem w/ self conciousness of down there to, but to tell you the truth guys dont care about the apperance as much as you think, as long as your heathy down there its ok.... (read in full...)

Does this mean my hymen isn't there?

Q.   hey, im not exactly planning on rushing into sex just yet, im 17, and im proud to still be a virgin, ive been with my boyfriend now for almost 6 months, and im not stupid.. i know sex is going to happen soon, and ive heard most people bleed on their ...

A.   2 June 2009: believe it or not you hymen can rip when dping the splits. some women loose theirs and dont even know it is gone until they have sex and it doesnt hurt thay bd and theres no blood. you dont have it anymore but your still considered a virgin (ppl ... (read in full...)

Dating, but not going anywhere, should I split?

Q.   I have been dating this guy for about 6 months. We were good friends before we started hooking up and He doesn't get with anyone else but he still has not tried being serious. He tells people we are together but we arent official and I just don't ...

A.   2 June 2009: if you have any thought that you could do better , you could. you might just need to come out and ask him if he want to take it to the next level. he might not know exactly what you want.... (read in full...)

Labeling my sexual orientation

Q.   so, im confused. Basically, at first i thought i was bi, i am a female. I liked girls, and guys. Then i started to find guys less attractive, to the point where when a guy hit on me it didnt matter. I tried to not care much...i mean bi, gay, ...

A.   2 June 2009: dear, screw people -- they're all wrong. God will accept you for you, nobody matters except for your family and friends anyway. People are ignorant and don't understand anything, maybe if they hold their head a little higher they'll drown in the ... (read in full...)

Why do I have stretch marks if I'm not growing?

Q.   Why do I have strach marks in my chest area if i'm not growing quickly? I also have them on my inner thighs, really embarassing to waer a bathing suit anyway why I don't think i am growing there and is there a way to get rid of them?...

A.   2 June 2009: stretch marks suck, i have em im self concious but to be honest w/you people dont pay attention to them honestly they dont. the might have been from when you had your growth spirts and gravity might be doing its work slowly......:/ it does suck ... (read in full...)

Periods and swimming pools any advice?

Q.   Okay well, I'm supposed to go to a waterpark with my boyfriend next Saturday(June 13th) for his birthday but, I can start my period anywhere between now and then. I'm on birth control so my periods don't last long and are light. What I need to ask ...

A.   1 June 2009: like everyone else said yuck pads?? lol anywho just buy some tampoons usually they sell them in the bathroom dispenser but you might not want to count on them on your way there stop at a gas station they sell the little packs there, when wearing ... (read in full...)

When does the heartache finally end?

Q.   My husband left me a few months ago. We were together eleven years and married nearly five. We have a little boy who was nearly three when he left. He basically left me as he was seeing someone else. It all happened extremely quickly and I didnt see ...

A.   1 June 2009: the heart ach is going to last a while, you just were crushed you have to give yourself time thats all that can truely mend your heart, and spirit. Just be patient it will get easier with time. ... (read in full...)

Is the way I masturbate incorrect?

Q.   I don't masturbate the conventionol way with my hands around my penis, instead I usually rub against something? I'v read articles claiming this may make my sex in the future less enjoyble, I was just wondering should I force myself to try ma...

A.   1 June 2009: I don't think there is a right or wrong way to masturbate, as long as you can make yourself happy then there ya go. You shouldnt believe everything you read :) If that is the way that you get off then continue, but if you want to try and hand ... (read in full...)

Is it ok to start dating before a divorce has been finalized?

Q.   If one spouse is unfaithful to the other in marriage, when is it right for the honest one to date? Is okay when they have decided in thier heart they do not want to continue with the marriage, but are still married or when they finalize the divorce?...

A.   1 June 2009: I don't believe there is one set time to start dating again. My friend divorced and she was dating before the divorce was finalized and she was very happy. I would give it a try if you want to. There is no law that says anything about it. And im ... (read in full...)

Should I say anything to my neighbour about the photos I found of his wife?

Q.   I recently purchased a camera from my neighbours in our street, whilst playing with the camera i came across some photos which had been left on the camera, most were of normal family stuff but to my delight and surprise there were around a dozen ...

A.   1 June 2009: if you feel like it is the right thing to do i would tell. Obviously these men in the pictures werent him? I would tell b/c would really be able to not think that you didn't do the right thing?... (read in full...)

I'm caring for my younger sister, and she can't sleep

Q.   Ok well my other little sister she won't go to sleep I tryed evey thing she is. 3 I asked what's wrong she said stomach ache now I don't like giving meds what else can I do to help her stomach and for her to sleep becuse I'm very tiers and want ...

A.   1 June 2009: i dont know you but im proud of you. it takes a lot to do what you do, i did it as well it was a long time ago. my son had a tummy ach when he was little (he still is) but i asked my mom what i could do and she said a cup of camomeil tea w/ a little ... (read in full...)

Trying to spice things up -- morning nookie?

Q.   Ok so this is something that kinda embarrasses me to ask, but I need help/pointers from those who are a little more bold than I am. My husband is leaving for a couple of days for work and he just got home yesterday from being gone overnigh...

A.   1 June 2009: just go for it. hell be so wooed doing something like that would make hi, happy, guys like that lol. they wake up all happy and then your doing one thing your good at:) just roll over and whip it out and start giving him head, hell wake up, and be ... (read in full...)

I am a guy, little blonde hairs on my belly make me uncomfortable at the pool, what should I do?

Q.   Okay so im 15 and i have little blonde hairs on my belly. Like where guys have there happy trails and i use to not care but they are becoming to where you can see them bad (well to me) So does anyone else have this problem or know what to do. Please ...

A.   1 June 2009: you can shave them off, you can nair them off, you can get them waxed at a salon or even just do it your self, really you can do anything if your uncomfortable w/them. ... (read in full...)

Want a relationship, but I may have intimacy problems, any advice?

Q.   I think I have some sort of commitment or trust issues because i start to like a boy and when he likes me back i start to get uninterested. it's not the fact that he likes me back that pushes me away, it's all the flirting and calling. when a boy ...

A.   1 June 2009: if you like to be alone why dont you maybe have a fwb relationship. ot has no strinhs attatched. or even better just find a friend and gradually begin a best friend relationship then finally go for a bf/gf relationship. you have to gradually ... (read in full...)

Now that I'm over my ex, guy that was interested doesn't want a relationship, what now?

Q.   Okay so back in September 2008 this guy wanted to date me but i was in love with my ex still and could not date him. Now months later i'm over my ex and starting to like the guy that use to like me. I talk to him everyday and a couple nights i told ...

A.   1 June 2009: to me it sounds like he wants to shop around/ fool around if you will. maybe he is in a relationship but doesnt want to say anything, could thay be a posibility? ... (read in full...)

I am female but very attracted to my best girlfriend, am I bi-sexual?

Q.   so this is kinda hard to talk about but i kind of think im bi? im turnin 14 and i guess yu can say im kinda having feelings for my best friend,like i tend to stare at her constinly,and she kinda gets me horny. what should i do?...

A.   1 June 2009: sounds like your more or less bi curious. try talking to her about it and see her reaction the best she could do is freak but you would never know if you have a chance w/ living out your fantasy with her if you dont talk w/her.... (read in full...)

He promised to quit smoking but its been 9 months..how can I not hate it!

Q.   well here's the story.. i met him as a smoker.. i did not want to date him because of that but he insisted and insisted and insisted promising that he will quit if i gave him a chance..but he have been together now for 9 months now and he still ...

A.   31 May 2009: as a smoker i have tried everything under the sun to quit and its hard as hell, its the hardest thing to do. it is an addiction and hard to break. you need to understand that its not easy as everyone thinks. give him time and support thats what he ... (read in full...)

Do I pay for his band or does he?

Q.   my bf and i have been discussing the kind of ring that i want for engagement and the kind of bands we want. Do i pay for his band or does he? He hasn't brought this up but i'm sure it would come up eventally. ...

A.   31 May 2009: when my husband and i got married he paid fir his band, which made sense b/c after you get married you guys share the bills. :) we just went and picked it out. we didnt discuss whos pays for what so he just did lol.... (read in full...)

I have no idea why my husband doesn't want sex anymore

Q.   im 20, my husbands 25. we have been married for a year and have a 9 months year old son. he seems like he has lost interest in having sex with me. sex never use to be a problem, and all of a sudden he makes up excuses..its driving me insane. i have...

A.   7 April 2009: So i figured it out, he finally cracked! I asked himn if he wouldn't have sex with me bc of me. He said no and that it was because when he has a bad day at work it sets off all of the sex drive he has had for that day. He said that he didn't want to ... (read in full...)

I have no idea why my husband doesn't want sex anymore

Q.   im 20, my husbands 25. we have been married for a year and have a 9 months year old son. he seems like he has lost interest in having sex with me. sex never use to be a problem, and all of a sudden he makes up excuses..its driving me insane. i have...

A.   7 April 2009: alright so after i wrote the article i spoke with my husband as seriously as i could and i was upset. I tried a differant approach to asking him if it was me or not. Surprisingly i got him to talk but it didn't lead to much. thank you guys so much ... (read in full...)

I have no idea why my husband doesn't want sex anymore

Q.   im 20, my husbands 25. we have been married for a year and have a 9 months year old son. he seems like he has lost interest in having sex with me. sex never use to be a problem, and all of a sudden he makes up excuses..its driving me insane. i have...

A.   7 April 2009: i also wanted to add that i have tried to talk to him. hes not the talking type i guess you can say.... (read in full...)

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