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| | Nightingale's profile:I have been married, Divorced. Married again, divorced again.Only to rekindle the second relationship. Somewhere in all the mayhem I managed to have children, get a degree and climb the corporate ladder. Summed up in a nutshell, me. |
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I'm having trust issues over the porn and text messages to a dominatrix!
Q. HELP!! I am Having TRUST ISSUES due to Porn Sites I found my BF visiting!!!!!!!!! Its been almost a month since I have confronted him with what I found...including text mesages to an AD he answered about wanting to b dressed and dominated! I bel...
A. 30 October 2009: If you can not imagine your life without this man then get over it. Men are men, and I have never met one that preferred porn to his signifcant other. But there is nothing wrong with watching and wanking off. That is what they do. They have ... (read in full...)
Do I sound gay to you? I don't want to be...
Q. i am 19 years, and i am a christian, with a problem, i am attracted to men. i don't belive that somebody is born gay, it's what you accept yourself as and i don't accept it, but at the same time this is how my body feels. i am attracted to woman and ...
A. 27 October 2009: To the poster. It is not unusual for men your age to struggle with sexual identity. The attraction to both men and women makes you more bi-sexual in nature.
The answers that imply people are not born (gay, straight) but "choose" it as a sexual p... (read in full...)
Guys: did you give it another go if you thought she was worth it?
Q. Hey Guys, I was involved with someone 3 months ago. We were only seeing each other for about 6 weeks, it was a long distance thing. However, we talked on the phone daily for hours and text'd message in between, etc. We clicked extremely...
A. 22 October 2009: You said you " broke up" because of cultural differences and family( yours). I hate to break it to you unless you found a way to permanently remove family from your life and change your cultural heritage, those problems will still be there no ... (read in full...)
I want to lose my viriginity!
Q. So, I'm 17 and my friends around me are losing their virginity.. This one kid can hook me up with other virgin.. yada yada yada.. so i want to lose my virginity.. but i dont know how to approach this.. I'm really shy and slightly overweight, with no ...
A. 21 October 2009: Losing your virginity is not going to help your self esteem. So you are 17 and still a Virgin. I can understand having sex because you think it is great. But I don't think I grasp having sex just to say I am no longer a virgin?
Why don't you wait... (read in full...)
I'm aroused 75% of the time, and my girlfriend is getting irritated...what can I do?
Q. I have this problem that is beginning to irritate my fiancee. It seems like I am aroused 75% of the time Im around her. I was never aroused that often around women in past relationships. I cant explain it. I just really love her, and she turns me on ...
A. 21 October 2009: I think it is normal to feel that way around someone you love but there is a difference between being turned on by her and always poking s stiff one at her. ... (read in full...)
Was what he did during oral sex wrong?
Q. ok so my boyfriend always wants me to swallow after giving him oral sex. he says its sexy and it feels better for him. so i dont have a problem with doing this, but just last night, right when he was about to cum, he PUSHED my head down and held me ...
A. 21 October 2009: What he did was the tip of the iceberg as to what lies underneath him and his feelings for women. What he is doing is degrading , which probably spills out in other areas you just don't see it yet. ... (read in full...)
I'm upset that he said he tried to love me but couldn't. Am I not loveable?
Q. I am confused about something and lookign for other people's perspective. I'm gay, if that matters, and have just been dumped by my boyfriend of 4 months.I always wondered his true feelings for me, and it was upsetting me a great deal, so I asked...
A. 21 October 2009: No what he is saying is he is not capable of love. Loving a person is not something you make yourself go out and do. Love is an emotion that you first have to possess in order to connect emotionally with someone and share it.
The man did you a fa... (read in full...)
Will a controlling person know when they have lost control?
Q. If you leave someone who controlled you for many years and now they cant even contact you or know where you live, will they know now that they have lost control of you? I feel so much better knowing that person doesnt even know where i am....
A. 21 October 2009: Rest assured they painfully know they have lost control.... (read in full...)
Am I totally out of line here? Uncomfortable about a text my girlfriend received.
Q. well it started bad in the first place because i looked on my gf phone at a message that a male friend of hers sent to her. the message said and it was forwarded to her ....you and i do it in the bedroom.we do it in the livingroom we do it all over ...
A. 21 October 2009: The first problem I see is all the underlying issues.
You already have a level of mistrust you check her phone.
Second problem your GF used this issue which really is benign as a spring board for all that is wrong in yor relatioship.
Regardles... (read in full...)
I want a child of my own but everyone says not yet!
Q. Hey, i feel so strange, im in college at the moment, in my last year. me and my best mate are both in serious relationships, she always says how she would never have a baby at this age and she thinks its stupid, however, i would do anything to be ...
A. 18 October 2009: I think you need to stop and listen to what you are saying. You are in school. You have no real income. You likely can barely support your self let a lone a baby.
You see your nieces and nephews and think oh how fun I could do this all the time... (read in full...)
Medical condition left me unable to have children. Do I deserve to be with anyone?
Q. I'm 25 years old. Because of a medical condition, my doctor told me it'll be hard for me to have children in the future. This news has shattered my dreams of experiencing childbirth and being a mother, and I feel bad for my boyfriend because it ...
A. 16 October 2009: There is little you can do in the area of not being able to have children so there is not a lot of use beating your self up about it.
When you meet someone and as things progress you are not with the right person if they leave you for your inab... (read in full...)
Why would he lie about being single when I'm married?
Q. I am a married women and have been cheating. The man I am cheating with has two children and is seperated from the mother. However, I have reason to believe that he is married to her. He claims they dont have any contact with each other unless it ...
A. 11 October 2009: The guy didn't lie to you. Being separated is not synonymous with being single. Separated means, one side or the other packed a bag and walked. Divorce decrees are public record. Available on-line with a mouse click.
I am not sure I understand the ... (read in full...)
Just some fun!
Q. Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
A. 10 October 2009: HAhaHAha funny stuff. My side hurts. ... (read in full...)
How do I make being with my wife's sister happen?
Q. i had a chance to be intimate with my wife's sister about 2years ago, and i didn't, now i am regretful that i didn't. i am regretful because i am overwhelmly in love with her. i think about her everyday. i pray and ask God to make a way that He wil...
A. 10 October 2009: You are so not in love with your wife. Divorce her. Then you can go on and live your life and sleep with whomever you want. I would think that would be better then living such a lie.... (read in full...)
Does being too nice drive women away?
Q. Along time ago my mother told me I was too nice to women and this is why my relationships never last.I have been married two times.The first about 5 years and the second about 9 years..I have had a couple of girl friends after this but nothing ...
A. 9 October 2009: Hmmm your marriages ended because you were too nice???
You may want to do a reality check there just for a second and look a bit deeper.
I am thinking "nice" is not the word you may be searching for.
... (read in full...)
Is it unhealthy to have sex during my period?
Q. Okay bear with me... it will make sense when you get to the end. My parents raised our family as naturalists and we would go to different nudist resorts for vacation a few times each year. When I was 17 I met my future husband at a nudist resort ...
A. 7 October 2009: No worries no infections will be forth coming should you partake in play during those special days each month.
Sex is too much fun to stop for such a minor thing. I think it enhances the pleasure factor with all those hormones flowing.... (read in full...)
She's just not that into me and should I forget it!!!
Q. Hi :) I've been seeing the lady for 5 months now. She is 41, 2 kids separated for 3 years and her life is upside down - no job, bankrupt and mentally exhausted but an amazing women. She is trying to get out of it and probably will but who knows. I...
A. 6 October 2009: Maybe another time or other circumstances but right now it is not the right time. Maybe for you but not for her.
Her first priority should be her children not seeking out love. ( I am sorry if that sounds harsh). She is not together enough to care... (read in full...)
I cheated, and I'm afraid my b/f is going to find out
Q. i need urgent help, please. i made a very big mistake. i cheated on my boyfriend. it started off just texting and emailing, then lead to meeting up and kissing. the guy i had an affair with has kept all the texts and one photo. he wont delete them. ...
A. 5 October 2009: If he loves you and you love him and both party's make a decision to stay together anything can be worked out if both people want to.
You have enough hurdles to climb over and trust me when I say this don't create any more then there already are,... (read in full...)
Is two years at this age a big deal?
Q. ok so there is this girl i like but she is 2 years younger than me so im not sure if that is ok or not as in im too old or shes too young. Is two years at this age a big deal?...
A. 3 October 2009: FA. Good math lesson. I'd have to say this is more a function of biology. I have to disagree about age being just a number that does not apply to children that emotionally/physically mature at different rates.
I agree as a parent, we teach, inst... (read in full...)
My busty wife is going to pose nude on the internet, any opinions?
Q. My wife very busty buxom 40DDD and she is going to pose nude for a site on the internet. Its not a hardcore site site , but it is a fully nude site. Its not the posing nude on the internet that bothers me, she can blur her face but i do not k...
A. 2 October 2009: Oh alright all the men in the world except Q. I am sure he is upstanding and promises not to look past her 40DDD's to even remeber what she looks like. ... (read in full...)
My busty wife is going to pose nude on the internet, any opinions?
Q. My wife very busty buxom 40DDD and she is going to pose nude for a site on the internet. Its not a hardcore site site , but it is a fully nude site. Its not the posing nude on the internet that bothers me, she can blur her face but i do not k...
A. 2 October 2009: I guess if you don't care that a world of other men will be looking at her body and probably doing what men like to do( a little monkey spanking). Let her do it.
My only thought will what about later when it is done and it can't be retrieve... (read in full...)
Is two years at this age a big deal?
Q. ok so there is this girl i like but she is 2 years younger than me so im not sure if that is ok or not as in im too old or shes too young. Is two years at this age a big deal?...
A. 2 October 2009: I can tell you having a 12 yr old I would not let her "date" someone 14. The line gets pushed far enough with the invention of facebook and texting.
The 14 yr old that is currently in pursuit of her,his only hope is that I have early onset deme... (read in full...)
The man I love wont leave his wife for me and I feel so lonely!
Q. The man I'm in love with never told me that he would leave his wife.He pays all my bills,rent and still gives me extra money but,I'm just so lonely.He doesn't spend time with me like he use to in the beginning.He has keys to my house so he comes ...
A. 1 October 2009: The original poster was looking for what all cheaters come here looking for. They want a celebration of their misdeeds.
When you boil it all down it is nothing more then being a kept woman (it is a lonely place to be).
There is no middle g... (read in full...)
The man I love wont leave his wife for me and I feel so lonely!
Q. The man I'm in love with never told me that he would leave his wife.He pays all my bills,rent and still gives me extra money but,I'm just so lonely.He doesn't spend time with me like he use to in the beginning.He has keys to my house so he comes ...
A. 1 October 2009: Eyes wide. I could not have said it any better I kneel at your greatness!... (read in full...)
What is PMS?
Q. Does anyone know what PMS stands for ? I hear a lot of people saying it but i don't know what it means....
A. 1 October 2009: It is the week out of every month any female you are in contact with will make you wish you were dead, drunki, or somehwere else. IDK Antarctica comes to mind.... (read in full...)
The argument was blown way out of proportion and he asked me to move out! Was I over-reacting or was I right to expect an apology?
Q. Last month when my b/f was away on business, I noticed that someone had tried to egg my car but missed almost completely. I wasn't sure at the time that it was even an attempt, but I found broken egg shells and a slime on my tire. I washed it off ...
A. 1 October 2009: So let me get this straight. Your car got egged by the stalker / co-worker your bf won't deal with. You apprised him of the situation under the pretense of looking for an answer on how to clean it. Became angry and hung up when he did not spew the ... (read in full...)
Will reverse psychology work to get him back?
Q. Still trying to get the ex back. We got into an argument because i think i rushed into things to quickly and this is what he sent me on a tex message. " I'm not lookig for a relationship and you are, so I think it would be better if we just didn'...
A. 24 September 2009: You need to take one day at a time like a 12 step program and one day turns into 2 then a month then several month. You get the picture. Before you know it thins will be better.... (read in full...)
Will reverse psychology work to get him back?
Q. Still trying to get the ex back. We got into an argument because i think i rushed into things to quickly and this is what he sent me on a tex message. " I'm not lookig for a relationship and you are, so I think it would be better if we just didn'...
A. 23 September 2009: He wants to play head games with you. Stand your ground. You deserve to surround yourself with people who care for you , like you ,love you, for being just you.... (read in full...)
Will reverse psychology work to get him back?
Q. Still trying to get the ex back. We got into an argument because i think i rushed into things to quickly and this is what he sent me on a tex message. " I'm not lookig for a relationship and you are, so I think it would be better if we just didn'...
A. 22 September 2009: The upside to this is with time all things do heal including hearts. This guy does not deserve you and you are worth more and deserve more then he can give.
As for the letter I would not waste my time sending it. I think it is very theraputic to w... (read in full...)
Borderline Personality Disorder? It's not a death sentence!
Q. When I was about 13-14 years old, I was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. I was also diagnosed with anxious/avoidant personality disorder, but the borderline one is the one I want to focus on in this article. I was only told my ...
A. 22 September 2009: Living with a child who has a mental illness well several of them, I want to say congrats to you. You are light years in front of most and there are 2 attacks on obtacles and having any mental health problem is an obtacle you can either let it block ... (read in full...)
Husband thinks I'm cheating, I'm not but now he doesn't trust me
Q. Ok so I have not even been married for a year...and we are already separted...When I left the house it wasn't supposed to be forever it was only to try and push him to grow up we are only in our early 20's however I am older than my years..When we ...
A. 22 September 2009: Should women be able to have male friends with out accusation well of course but unfortunately it generally does not work that way.
It does not sound like your husband was ready for marriage and you ignored the signs thinking marriage would make... (read in full...)
Will anyone want me with this virus?
Q. Hi, I am an 18 year old girl who has recently been diagnosed with genital herpes. I have only ever had sex once. This occured when I was very drunk,and even though I didn't want to, I was persueded otherwise. I now feel as though I will never be ...
A. 22 September 2009: I am sorry for you, as having the diagnosis I am sure came as a shock. However they now as OS says have medication you can take and the use of a condom will decrease drastically the risk. When you get to that part of the relationship just be honest ... (read in full...)
How can she say that?
Q. I was just wondering if you think this is normal. My girlfriend said that if I was to die she knows that she would probably love someone else, and that she would love that person as much as me, but how can she say that ir even imagine that if she ...
A. 22 September 2009: Forever lasts only as long as you or she are alive. So barring an untimely death it sounds like death do us part. What concerns me if you love her then why would you want her to be alone until she left the earth, your gone.
My advise would be d... (read in full...)
He said he doesn't feel attached enough to be bothered if another man hits on me?!
Q. I have been dating this guy for about a month now. Last night I was out with my sister and brother-in-law who happen to be roommates with my ex, so he was out with us. He was trying to hit on me and I turned him down because I am only interested in ...
A. 20 September 2009: You have been with the guy for 30 days give him a break. What did you want him to do? Why would you be telling him about guys hitting on you and then be upset because it did not bother him?? Had he made an issue out of it you would be on here ... (read in full...)
What do my doctor's concerns mean?
Q. Hi dearcupids, i have a concern about my unborn baby, im between 28 weeks + 30 weeks, i havent been given a proper due date due 2 my baby being in breech position, they havent been able 2 get a correct measurement, however today at my scan my doctor ...
A. 17 September 2009: The Dr. They are sending you to see specializes in un born children. It is possible they may do a sonogram that they can actually see in 3-D. All they are saying at your current gestational age the head is not as large as it should be. This may ... (read in full...)
Do the aunts feel the love here?
Q. I have been seeing a married man for the past 14 months we have great sex but we get on well together and have similar interests, i am separated from my husband. The man I am seeing has never told me he loves me nor have I told him that I love him. ...
A. 17 September 2009: No I think the word you are looking for is not Love so much as maybe friends with excellent benefits. ... (read in full...)
My newborn has to stay in hospital. How have you coped with this?
Q. Im suppose be the happiest mom on earth. I just delievered a baby boy and he means the world to me. Only to learn that he has a little fluid in his lungs so he wont be coming home with mommy. I dont know what to do. He's in nicu and is under the ...
A. 17 September 2009: It is normal to feel this way my first child was delivered and was immediately rushed to NICU. I was not allowed to see her for 3 days because I was so I'll. She was on a vent a weighed 3 pounds. It was the longest 30 days of my life. I survived, ... (read in full...)
Got my girlfriend pregnant, what can the police do to me?
Q. HELLO... ok here we go... i got sex with my girlfriend and she is pregnant. and i think her parents gonna send me the police... WAT CAN THE POLICE DO TO ME??? answere plz ...
A. 16 September 2009: Worst case they will hunt you down, hand cuff you, drag your ass dow,n finger print you. Someone will have to bail you out, go to court, get a verdict and depending on your age what you will be labeled as. None of it is really very good.
Best case... (read in full...)
I think my wife is looking to replace me with this girl
Q. Okay, this is a very long drawn out story, but I don't know who I can talk to about it. And I think I need some advice from someone with a really open mind. First off, I've been with my wife for 10 years and she is undoubtedly (along with my k...
A. 16 September 2009: I have tried to digest this but from what I can tell you and your wife have been on rocky ground for sometime. You and she for what ever reason have thrown out having a 3-some as a solution to your troubled marriage.
You went full tilt with a woma... (read in full...)
How to make masturbation more fun?
Q. how do u wank?? i just do it the normal way, got any ideas to make it more fun??...
A. 16 September 2009: Try a paint shaker I hear it works wonders.... (read in full...)
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