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I am married to a lovely man(my soul mate). I am a very caring person and I do not judge people,I love to try and help others and love feedback,so if I do ansew your problems please feel free to let me know if I helped you in any way,or if you think I could do something better.
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He told me he was confused about our relationship and wants to hook up with other girls, he apologised later for it but now I can't get it out of my head! Help!
Q. my boyfriend and i have been dating for a year and a half now and for the past 6 months we've been having a long distance relationship, but we've managed to be able to see each other at least once a month. the other day my boyfriend called me and ...
A. 26 February 2007: I can understand that you feel hurt,and if he had done anything I would have told you to run a mile, but at least he spoke to you about it and didnt just go off and do it.
If you do love him you have to try to get over this,if you cant then mayb... (read in full...)
Is there a strong connection between me and this guy or am I imagining it?
Q. I have a boyfriend whom i've been with for 5 years and he has a pretty high profile job. Recently I met a few of his work colleagues whom are older, but there is one who is around the same age as me and my boyfriend. People at work think he is...
A. 26 February 2007: Well you we help whom you are attracted to can we? but like you said you have a boyfriend and he has a girlfriend. Has he given you any idea that he likes you? I think its best just left as it is.
I understand you like this man but its just a crus... (read in full...)
He wants to go clubbing with his single mate...why would he do this when he has a perfectly nice gf at home?
Q. Hi i was just wondering what purpose is there for two guys wanting to go clubbing what can they do especially if one is single and the other isnt? So really what can the the non single one do while the other is dancing and kissing maybe ev...
A. 26 February 2007: Do you trust him? ask him why he chats women up and ask him how he would feel if it was doing this.
My heart really does go out to you, the only other thing to do is try playing it the other way and that is pretend to be happy and ok with him goin... (read in full...)
She wants the 'wow' in a relationship so she obviously isn't finding that with me! What should I do?
Q. My girlfriend looks at other men and says that she looking for this 'wow' in a relationship. I said 'well you obviously aren't getting that with me then' and she didn't deny it, instead she said that she didn't trust me because my best friend is a ...
A. 26 February 2007: I couldnt agree more, its not fair on you to here her going on like this all the time.
Also yes,whats the point staying in a relationship when she wants you to be something your not.
Find someone who loves you for you and not what she wants yo... (read in full...)
I love my wife but she is ALWAYS telling me how to drive from the passenger seat!!!!
Q. I have 1 of 100s of other problems with my wife, for which i need some urgent help. On this specific problem, I would explain as below- when i am driving, she continuously gives instructions, like where to park, how to park, (as a matter of fact, i ...
A. 26 February 2007: First of all DO NOT hit your wife, I can understand how much she annoys you but that is not the ansew. Just simply tell her if she doesnt like the way you drive she can always get the bus or a cab?
Tell her driving is stressful at times as it is s... (read in full...)
I need someone to depend on, But dont want them taking over my life, any thoughts ?
Q. I am in need of someone who understands me and will stand by me in face of uncertainity. Currently there is no one in my own family. The only person i have some support from is my cousin. Another problem is, whoever has been a support to me in such ...
A. 26 February 2007: Maybe get a penpal or go into a chat room,you will meet people who are like you and understand you,this will also help you when you decide to trust someone.
Many people dont want to run your life they are just concerned about you and want to make... (read in full...)
I'm still very good friends with my ex but am with someone else who I'm terrified hurts me again.
Q. i need some help, and have two questions. 1. about 4 months ago i split up with my boyfriend of 15 months but told him that i still loved him and wanted to go out with him again at some point in the future, which i genuinely did - i even spent a ...
A. 26 February 2007: This ex sounds so so sweet,but you cant make your self love someone, he will do anything for you by the sounds of things,he doesnt want to see you get hurt.
This new boyfriend sounds like he loves his self,but its only you at the end of the day that... (read in full...)
He wants to go clubbing with his single mate...why would he do this when he has a perfectly nice gf at home?
Q. Hi i was just wondering what purpose is there for two guys wanting to go clubbing what can they do especially if one is single and the other isnt? So really what can the the non single one do while the other is dancing and kissing maybe ev...
A. 26 February 2007: I would feel the same if I was in your shoes,I wouldnt be happy if my husband was going out with just one friend who was single.
Be trufull with him and say that you dont mind him going to the pub without you its just you dont want him going to a ni... (read in full...)
When meeting guys in the future, do you think there is anything wrong with 'not' telling them about past sexual experiences?
Q. Hi everyone I've recently lost a partner because he couldnt deal with the number of one night stands I had (4) before meeting him. When meeting guys in the future, do you think there is anything wrong with NOT telling them about that stuff (i...
A. 26 February 2007: It doesnt matter if you have had 1 or 100 one night stands,that is your buissness. But I agree with you most men dont like it if women have had a lot of partners, but why do they have to know? Its up to you if when you have been with someone a ... (read in full...)
She wants the 'wow' in a relationship so she obviously isn't finding that with me! What should I do?
Q. My girlfriend looks at other men and says that she looking for this 'wow' in a relationship. I said 'well you obviously aren't getting that with me then' and she didn't deny it, instead she said that she didn't trust me because my best friend is a ...
A. 26 February 2007: I dont think she knows what she wants,you seem a lovely person and cant change the way you are.
Dont be a pushover with her,itss not your fault how your friend is with people and she needs to realise this.
Yes you are right,what you used to be li... (read in full...)
Am I stupid that I keep taking her back?
Q. Hey. I'm a 16 y/o boy and i need help. I'll start at the beginning, I met this girl wen she was going out with my best m8. She started texting me, telling me she wanted me and not him. I tried to keep away as he is my best mate and it wouldn't ...
A. 26 February 2007: If I was you I would eraze her number from your phone and maybe change your number.
She is well and truely messing you around flower and its not fair,you seem such a lovely lad and deserve better.
Tell her to carry on with her life but without ... (read in full...)
Do you think he told me his true feelings when he was drunk?
Q. I fancied this guy for some months (we lived in different countries). and he stayed at my place for one month and went back to his country recently. During the month he stayed at my place, we spent a lot of time together. We had sex, too. ...
A. 26 February 2007: It sounds like he is shy,a lot of people will only desplay there true feelings when they have had a drink.
Its not ideal I know,and its tricky to know if they meant it or not,send him a letter asking if he does have feelings for you or if he just... (read in full...)
Do guys prefer experienced girls?
Q. do guys prefer experienced or inexperienced girls? im nearly 20 and lost my virginity and did alot of "sexual exploring" with my first boyfriend when i was 16 but thats it. ive kissed guys but havnt felt ready to do anything more untill now, but now ...
A. 26 February 2007: Why do you need to say anything? Well I wouldnt. Remember when you make love next it will be with someone new so neither of you are expecting too much. I think men in an ideal world would like it if they were the only person that has been with ... (read in full...)
The only place I meet my boyfriend is at school but we're not allowed to kiss there, any ideas where we can kiss?
Q. I turned fourteen a few months ago and my boyfriend's a few months short of fifteen. We go to a school with rather strict regulations, namely that there can be no public displays of affection such as hugging between opposite genders if they're ...
A. 26 February 2007: Well cant you meet after school? You are both still very young,but I cant see that just kissing is a bad thing as long as that all it is.
We have all been there,and I know its hard because you still have to do as you are told by your parents and ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend took his sister's side over mine and it really hurt me.
Q. Hi, I hope someone can help. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and over the time had a few probs with his sister. They are very close. Anyway every time she gets drunk she becomes all needy, turns her back to me, and makes comments that make ...
A. 26 February 2007: Oh dear,Sounds like a jelious sister. Even though she is married she still wants to control her brother, he shouldnt have took her side like that,and even if he thought you were wrong he shouldnt have done it infront of her.
You need to ask him ... (read in full...)
We are both seeing other people but can't stay away from one another. Help!
Q. Hi I have been with my partner for 3 years. He is caring and i love him-but dont think im in love with him. About 4 months ago i met some1 else in a club.Nothing happened between us we were just dancing and having a laugh. A couple of weeks later i ...
A. 26 February 2007: You poor things, If you love eachother like you say you do then you have to get it together, I understand that you both have partners whom you love but if you are not in love with them you have to make that break im affraid.
I think the worst thin... (read in full...)
How can I get her to fall back in love with me!?
Q. how can i make the love of my life of 4 years fall back inlove with me after falling out of love. She really is strong minded and hard to break, help me!...
A. 26 February 2007: I dont think you can make someone fall in love with you? she either loves you or doesnt, just tell her that you would do anything to be back with her and no other woman comes close to her,tell her that you want what you had with her back.
Its hard... (read in full...)
I plan to propose to her soon, but Im so worried that we have not intimacy, we are like family members, not lovers!!
Q. hi, my girlfriend and i have been dating for a while now. i plan to propose to her in a short while and she is aware of it. the problem i'm having is on the intamacy side of our relationship. i have been patient over the period of our r...
A. 26 February 2007: Is she younger than you? it sounds to me that she isnt ready for this sory of relationship my love.
You need to sit down and ask her if there is anything bothering her and has anything happened to her in the past?
Has she got to obay a religion... (read in full...)
Am I being nasty by not telling him about the abortion while hes away ?
Q. im pregnant and i want to get an abortion ok... im not in the right place to have a child right now as i am at uni and i still have 2 yrs left! the tricky thing is my boyfriend is in the navy and hes just gone away, i know hed respect my dissi...
A. 26 February 2007: You are not being nasty flower,but if I was in your shoes I would tell him.Its best to be honnest so that if it ever gets out in the future,he cant go mad at you.
If he will stick by what you decide then get on the phone know.
I understand that you... (read in full...)
I've fallen for my boss!!! Should I quit my job!?
Q. during last year school term break,i got a job at this food and beverage place.everything was normal.till three weeks ago,i started to develop feelings for my boss.he is plump and 29.totally not my type.suddenly it hit me that im in love with him.he ...
A. 26 February 2007: I mean this in the nicest way flower, he is not yours and it would be so wrong to split up a family with 2 children. You are young and will feel like this loads of times before you meet mr right.
What I always do when im in two minds about some... (read in full...)
I got told to back off by this guy, from my own girlfriend!!!!
Q. Hi, This is a strange one. At the weekend i went out with my girlfriend (drinking). She's a smoker and ran out of cig's, She ask some guy for a fag and sat down chatting for 30 mins to this guy while i was playing a game of poker with friends. After ...
A. 26 February 2007: Hiya, I do agree with cd206,she must know more than she is telling you. That is horrible what she did to you.
Have it out with her and tell her if she cant handle her drink and making a fool of her self then its a matter of, not going out plac... (read in full...)
She talks about her ex sometimes..is that something to be worried about?
Q. Hi everyone!!! When you in a long distance relationship and your gurl flicks back to her ex once aweek with her memorys with her ex... is it something to be really concerned about...
A. 25 February 2007: I wouldnt be too worried because at the end of the day she is with you,I sometimes talk about my ex to my husband but I love my husband so so much,and have no feelings for my ex. If you are worried ask her,ask her if she has feelings still for this ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend never lets me go clubbing with her!
Q. I have been going out with my gf for 8 months she never lets me go clubbing with her (always with her girls only. we argue alot now over silly things and its beaking my heart what do i do ?...
A. 25 February 2007: Tell her that maybe she should make 1 night a week for the 2 of you to go out, dont try to stop her going out with her mates thought because she will resent you for it.
Trust her and just sit down and tell her how you feel and ask her if she is happ... (read in full...)
Do other girls around my age masturbate?
Q. im 14 do other girls around my age masterbate? thank x...
A. 25 February 2007: Yes and no,dont worry it is normal. People may say it is dirty but you are only curious about your body,
Just make sure you are alone and do not use anything that will hurt you. you will be ok sweety,
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Should I break up with my girlfriend and go out with this other girl instead?
Q. I just got this new girlfriend about a week ago but i like this other girl who has been showing signs of interest in me. I don't know if to break up with my girlfriend and see if it'll work out with the other girl. What should i do?...
A. 25 February 2007: Just tell your girlfriend that you are so sorry but you are attracted to another girl,tell her you dont want to hurt her and that is why you are being trueful with her.
She will take it bad but you are both young and she will meet another lad so d... (read in full...)
He told me he loved me but I broke up with him, now I miss him and want him back but he won't answer my texts, what can I do?
Q. i started seen a lad over a month ago but recently finished it with him because he told me he loved me but i didnt feel the same way but now i miss him and want him back but he doesnt reply to my texts now im scared iv lost him for good....
A. 25 February 2007: Send him a letter,he has to read it. Just tell him you didnt know how you felt and didnt want to string him on, but being apart from him has made you realise just how much he means to you.
Tell him you are not interested in anyone else and if he n... (read in full...)
We have been together 10 years and have children together but he won't marry me and I'm so upset about it!
Q. We have been together nearly 10 years, have had our ups and downs, a few kids but he refuses to get married. He knows it means a lot to me. I don't even want a big do. Just him and me, to commit to each other. The years have just flown by, ...
A. 24 February 2007: If you feel this way you MUST talk with him,ask why he wont marry you and tell him just that because you have been together this long and not got married before now is no excuse,tell him its a 2 way relationship and if he is happy to be living with ... (read in full...)
My male friend just broke up with his girlfriend, I'm confused as to whether he wants to go out with me, what do you think? And if so, what should I do?
Q. I need help. My best Male friend broke up with his girlfriend and on IM he said he wnated to "get back out there." Then he put "you" an put a * next to it. I realy like him and I donno if he asked me out or not. It's been weeks since weve talked ...
A. 24 February 2007: Hello there,I know that you really like this person by your post and its great that you have such a good friend, but I would give it just a little bit longer because it would be terrible if it ended up as just a rebound thing, and then you may end ... (read in full...)
I feel we have some serious issues to work out but he's not letting me in and I'm at a stand still.
Q. My boyfriend and I had the most wonderful relationship for 3 years. We recently just had our four year anniversary and for a while things have been rough. He seems depressed. Barely talks about it. Has no sex drive. And i'm suffering a great deal. I ...
A. 21 February 2007: You poor thing,I know how hard this must be for you but you really do need to make this move for both your sakes.
I do no what its like to be in a relationship that seems all one sided.
You must sit down with him and tell him that you love him so s... (read in full...)
I just want to be left alone by everyone except my husband, I don't feel like this all the time but I do sometimes. Am I abnormal for feeling like this?
Q. Hello everyone - I'm not sure if it's just because of my personality or if it's deeper than that, but sometimes I find that I just want to be left alone by everyone except for my husband. Like sometimes I feel it's a chore to talk to my friends and ...
A. 21 February 2007: Hiya love,
Its nicola here again,you know something? I think after reading what you have wrote after,you seem to know your mind very well and that is good. Your husband sounds so so lovely and caring,and if you are happy to talk with him, well who ... (read in full...)
Should I let him decide or try to persuade him to go against his parent's wishes?
Q. I am feeling very lonely and depressed in a foreign country where I am in unhappy marriage to foreign national. Last year my childhood sweetheart contacted me wanting to know how things are with me. I have been in touch with him and I think I am ...
A. 20 February 2007: Ohhh dear, I really do feel for you. But you cant live a lie,if your unhappy you need to get out of your marriage. I think you need to have a bit of you time now,and stop thinking about needing to be with this old flame. You need to concentrate on ... (read in full...)
I feel we have some serious issues to work out but he's not letting me in and I'm at a stand still.
Q. My boyfriend and I had the most wonderful relationship for 3 years. We recently just had our four year anniversary and for a while things have been rough. He seems depressed. Barely talks about it. Has no sex drive. And i'm suffering a great deal. I ...
A. 20 February 2007: What a loyal and loving person you are, This is a bit tricky???? I would say that there could be 2 things to think about here. 1) He is depressed,if so he really must go and see a doctor because he could end up very ill. 2) Sorry sweety but he ma... (read in full...)
I feel ugly and insecure about myself. How can I stop feeling this way?
Q. Lately, I have been thinking about this guy who I had a fling with a few months ago. I can't seem to get over him. I thought I could get over him by finding someone else...but I can't find anyone else. This makes me feel ugly and insecure about my...
A. 20 February 2007: Well I think you are going round it the wrong way, if you look for a relationship its just not going to happen. You are NOT ugly,its just one of those things most of go through,having a fling,a one night stand and you think they are the one for you?... (read in full...)
I just want to be left alone by everyone except my husband, I don't feel like this all the time but I do sometimes. Am I abnormal for feeling like this?
Q. Hello everyone - I'm not sure if it's just because of my personality or if it's deeper than that, but sometimes I find that I just want to be left alone by everyone except for my husband. Like sometimes I feel it's a chore to talk to my friends and ...
A. 20 February 2007: Yes you are right,everyone is different,I my self are a bit like you,I love to be alone sometimes,but I dont think its good to be alone all the time,even though you are fine with it. Have you been to see your doctor? you are a lovely young woman and ... (read in full...)
I may have kissed my friend's bf, but nobody clearly remembers! How can I make it up to her?
Q. My parents went away at the weekend, so I had a party. I definately had too much to drink and did some stupid things. Most dont bother me, but I only found out today (3 days later) that I may have kissed my friend's boyfriend. I dont remember it nor ...
A. 20 February 2007: First thing first, You are not a bitch,just by reading your letter I can tell you are a lovely person and I would would be happy if I had a friend like you. I think everyone has done something daft one time or another,you are not the first and you ... (read in full...)
My ex doesn't speak to his family, but I'd like our son to meet them. What should I do?
Q. My ex husband has not spoken to his father for over 20 years because of bitterness at his parent's divorce. His Dad has tried to get in touch but my ex still feels too much hatred. His father had a new family in Canada and I would like my son to ...
A. 20 February 2007: I Do understand how fustrating it must be for you,I also can understand how your hubby must be feeling as I my self have been parted from some of my own family due to rows. I think the person who is missing out the most here is your son, you need... (read in full...)
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