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I am married to a lovely man(my soul mate). I am a very caring person and I do not judge people,I love to try and help others and love feedback,so if I do ansew your problems please feel free to let me know if I helped you in any way,or if you think I could do something better.
I love animals and children and frown uppon people who hurt or are cruel to them.
I live in England(Sheffield) and work in a hospital,I am going to be putting all my spare time into this web site so please feel free to contact me.
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SITE NEWS: Had DearCupid changed your life in a positive way? I want to hear your stories...
Q. Has DearCupid changed your life in a positive way? If so, please let me know. Either post here (anon if you prefer) or send me a private mail. Sometimes when I'm coding at midnight or tinkering with an errant database, or wondering wh...
A. 5 March 2007: Well I joined this sight a fiew weeks ago,im off work at the moment wating for a back opp and was feeling board and wanted to do somthing differant and just by chance I found this web site and thought WHY NOT.
I cant believe how lovely people here... (read in full...)
I checked his MSN and know for a fact he's been seeing other women casually although I don't understand why as we get along so well.
Q. I am a 54 year old widow and have been seeing my partner (also widowed) for almost 3 years. We get on brilliantly and I get on well with his family. A few months ago I became suspicious that something was going on when I saw pop-ups on his computer...
A. 5 March 2007: So he doesnt know you have seen all this yet? I would sit down one evening with a drink each and ask him what he is playing at. My mum is a widow,we lost my dad who was only 44, So I do know the pain you have been in and learning to trust someone ... (read in full...)
I am really into my boss who is female and married. I am also female.
Q. i am really into my boss who is female and married and i think she is into me too, i am a female also, how can i tell before i make a fool of myself?...
A. 5 March 2007: Well if she is married,why are you going to say something? Yes fair enough you may like eachother and a bit of flirting doesnt to any harm but I would say thats where it must stop.
You wouldnt want to brake up someones relationship would you swee... (read in full...)
Do you think these are signs from him that he wants a baby?
Q. me and my bf are both 18 we havent had sex but are these signs he wants a baby naming his future kids saving for kids future looking at 2 bedroom flats to move into calling me up when he out and sees a cute baby telling me the words im pregnant ...
A. 4 March 2007: Ohhh yes,he sounds ready to be a daddy. But are you ready to be a mummy??? if not you have to be clear about it now so he doesnt get the wrong idea.
18 is still very young and you have a lot more growing up to do and places to see before you star... (read in full...)
He views it as insecure and jealous, I view it as sneaky and dishonest! What do you think?
Q. my boyfriend and I have been dating for about 6 mos. Early in the relationship I told him some trust issues I had and what effected my trust in a relationship. One was "baggage" brought into the new relationship. Issues with old lovers/gf's that ...
A. 4 March 2007: NO NO NO,he is being sneeky. Trust your own mind and dont take any crap off him. I would be more angry if I found out if my husband was calling an ex behind my back,if what he is saying is true why be sneeky about it???????
I know its easier said... (read in full...)
I haven't heard from him in 2 or 3 days, was it because I didn't tell him I felt the same?
Q. I have been seein a guy behind his girlfriend's back and at first we both didn't mean anything, then he told me he loved me and since then i have started to get feelings for him, however since he said that and i didn't really tel him how i felt, he ...
A. 4 March 2007: I totally agree with kenny,dont ring him because it sounds like he has played you and got away with it. Dont be a door mat sweety and find someone who will be all yours and who will love you. xxxxxxxxxxxx... (read in full...)
We have such a connection but he has had a gf for six years!!
Q. Ok, i play tennis every weekend and recently have become extremely close to the guy I play with. We have been textin each other at every oppurtunity and the flirting on both sides has been outrageous. We agreed to meet up last friday and we had a...
A. 4 March 2007: Well I think you are doing the right thing flower, do as you say and dont break it up because he could end up resenting you for it. He has done a bad thing to leading you on and he knows it.
How would his girlfriend feel if she found out and if he c... (read in full...)
Do his actions mean that he likes me or is he just flirtatious with all women ??
Q. Guys please tell me what you think. I work with three men and eight women and one of the men I seem to have a really good working relationship with. He laughs and banters with all the women in a friendly way but when we are on our own he touches my ...
A. 3 March 2007: Go for it,ask him out,my mum is in her early 50s and she says what are the signs if someone likes you,What I said to her and what im saying to you is trust your judgement and if you feel the conneciton then whats stopping you??
The worst that can ... (read in full...)
We dated for 2 years, he said he loves me but isnt in love with me, is there any hope sticking around ?
Q. Me and my boyfriend were together for almost 2 years. Towards the last few months of our relationship we were always fighting. After a talk he told me that he loves me but his just not in love with me anymore so now where just friends we still go ...
A. 3 March 2007: If I were you I would keep the friendship you have for each other because good friends are hard to come by, but I wouldnt wate around for him to change his mind sweety.
Are you still sleeping together? if so DONT because if you are he will neve... (read in full...)
Its not perfect but Im happy with the relationship, but out of the blue shes texting me telling me shes bad and feeling guilty towards my kindness, whats going on ?
Q. Me and my gf had a relationship for 1+ years..for me,i wouldnt say it was a great relationship but i do feel happy with it..then suddenly out of blue, she told me through text message that she was feeling guilty towards my kindness to her and that ...
A. 3 March 2007: I may be wrong,and hope I am but it sounds as though she has cheated on you and now is too scared to be face to face with you. If you would be prepared to give it another go then you must ring her and say that you want to talk with her and whatever ... (read in full...)
My ex told me he cant get married as he still loves me! Im totally in love with my bf and now im all confused and so lost!!!
Q. Someone please Help me.. I really need replies that arnt the obviouse ones, but the really helpful ones... My ex and I have a child together who is now 4.. He and I split up after she was 1.. I am now with my significant other.. We have been tog...
A. 3 March 2007: This ex of yours may not have the love that you too once had,and seeing you getting on with your life might have got him thinking. He may be the father of your first child but you have to go with the person who will love you like they should and be ... (read in full...)
My mates are trying to cause trouble because they dont like my boyfriend!!!
Q. hiya, i have recently been going out with this lad... and he means the world to me! but he has problems from an old relationship, which makes it hard for him to trust other people incase he gets hurt! one of my friends added him, and told him i h...
A. 2 March 2007: You need to tell your (FRIENDS) to keep out of your relationship,it isnt anything to do with them and tell them if they continue to try and ruin this for you then they are no friends of yours.
Tell your mates that they shouldnt worry just beca... (read in full...)
How can I make him see that shes not good for him!!
Q. i was with a boy for 3 yrs we split up 7 months ago. In that 7 months he had a gf for 5 months we didnt speak becouse she wouldnt let him but then last month they were rowing so he called to catch up, i was not bothered he had a gf so i helped h...
A. 2 March 2007: Talk to him and tell him you dont want to see him getting hurt again,tell him that if he has forgiven this time,then whats to say she wont do it again.
Let him know how you feel for him and you will always be there for him,tell him you wouldnt ever... (read in full...)
Do all men like pert boobs ?
Q. Hay - this is a question mainly for the blokes. What are your thoughts on boobs, i mean is it really that important if there not completely pert? Cause mine aren't and im really scared to take my top off infront of men let alone have sex topless ...
A. 2 March 2007: Well im not a man but I do know that most men like natural boobs, dont be worried because no boobs are perfect.
My boobs are not totally pert and my husband loves them. If you dont feel ready to show them to a man then dont. Get to know him firs... (read in full...)
Any snogging tips?
Q. Can some one give me good and useful tips in how to snog?...
A. 2 March 2007: Well you need to relax first of all,its such a lovely feeling to have a kiss. It doesnt have to be a full on snog untill you feel ready.
Dont let anyone pressure you into doing it, some people like toungesan and some dont.
Kissing is a very ind... (read in full...)
Still sharing a house with my ex-husband and finding it hard to cope with how he treats his new woman compared to how he treated me!
Q. My husband and I have separated but still share the family home for the time being due to financial reasons and the children. We are both seeing new people; he is seeing a very glamorous woman who seems to be the answer to his prayers sexually. We ...
A. 2 March 2007: It sounds if he is trying to get you jealous,and by the sound of things its working?
You must tell him that you saw the pictures of those things you were saying about because if your kids get hold of them im sure you wouldnt be happy. I would tell... (read in full...)
Do I like this new guy for who he is or because he's like my ex?
Q. 6 months ago I came out of a 3 year relationship. He was my childhood sweetheart. We've broken up before for a year but got back together. We broke up because it wasn't the same anymore because we kept arguing. 6 months on I've had several ...
A. 1 March 2007: You have got to forget your ex and think about your bf now. You are comparing him to your ex and even though you may not mean to,you are.
Just enjoy what you have now and think about your future with this bloke. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx... (read in full...)
I love her and she keeps tellin me she does too, but I refuse to belive it. Any advice?.
Q. me and my best friend who's a girl we've been EXTREMELY close for years and ive been in love with her for bout 2-3 years im sure she's the one I spend loads of time with her i see her daily most in college and after the holidays we are together most ...
A. 1 March 2007: Well if I were you I would tell her how you feel but say if she doesnt feel the same then you would love to continue to be her best friend. Tell her you think about he and feel so much love for her.
She wii either say yes or no but I would tell her ... (read in full...)
How can I deal with the popular girls being so jealous of me?
Q. my friends say that i am very pretty and have a good figure my two best friends say all the popular girls are jealous of me because i have somthing they dont How can i deal with this ?...
A. 1 March 2007: Why are you bothered what they think flower? Yes they may well be jealous but why is that your problem?
Just be happy the way you are and dont let your looks change your personality, If they want to have a problem with you then leave them to it,d... (read in full...)
i have been asked on a date only twice but both times were joking..why would they do that?
Q. ok so i am 16 yrs old and i haven't had a bf yet! where i come from it's not bad not to have had a bf..and i have never been asked out on a date before as i have been really fat but now managed to be 180lb is that really fat..i mean my mom says i am ...
A. 1 March 2007: You are still really young sweety,so dont worry about not having a bf yet. The people who asked you out for fun are nasty nasty people and what goes around comes around.
Just be your self,because when you do meet mr right you dont want to be acti... (read in full...)
It's gone from "when we get married" to "I think so..."
Q. my boyfriend had been calling me his fiancee for a while after we started dating and talked about getting married a lot. the other day when I asked him if he still sees us getting married he said "i think so". I know i need to ask him what has ...
A. 1 March 2007: He may just simply still want to get married and just not want to think about it every seccond of the day, or he may have gone off the idea sweety.
You really do need to speak to him and if he has gone off the idea then you need to be asking him ... (read in full...)
He's asked me out and said his girlfriend might come along too!!!!
Q. Ok, so you know the guy I asked to prom? The one with a girlfriend? I’m not sure if he did this on purpose, but he called me on Valentine’s Day to tell me that he could go to prom with me. Then he texted me a week later, wanting to know if I wanted ...
A. 1 March 2007: This guy seems abit odd, I dont think he knows what he wants but I dont think its right that he is trying to bring you into his odd world.
I would leave it if I were you sweety and find a fella that is all yours and isnt going to play mind game... (read in full...)
Are women pickier?
Q. Do women stick more to type than men do? I`ve always found women to be far pickier than men. I think women stick as close to their type as possible, whereas men will go wherever there is something half decent....
A. 1 March 2007: Not everyone is the same,yes fair enough some woman do have types but so do men. Some woman go for anything and so do some men.
I dont have a sertain type,its about personallity and someone makes me laugh,but there are people who are shallow and ... (read in full...)
Am I trying to win a losing battle here?
Q. my bf and i have a few problems i lost my job 2 weeks ago i cant pay the rent and he accusses me off it i tryed to make a plan to pay rent but did not succeed he says he cant trust me no more and that if i dont get to pay the stuff b4 hand then he ...
A. 1 March 2007: He is a waste of space my love,tell him its not your fault you lost your job and that you are looking for something.
But that gives him no right at all do be like this with you. If I were you I would be gone by now,I would not stand for that crap... (read in full...)
How can I stop thinking I'm always right?
Q. I think i am always right and whoever proves that what i have been thinking was wrong hurts my ego badly to the extent that i kind of have a grudge on the person and can't let it go, especially i am emotionally close to them. Please advice. ...
A. 1 March 2007: HA HA, im a bit the same as you,I like to be right and if im wrong I hate the fact that I have to say sorry, but I do. I live up to my star sign (scorpio).
Im not being nasty saying this so please dont think I am but people may start resenting you ... (read in full...)
I'm a lesbian and love my GF but can't stop thinking about an old female friend...
Q. Before i meet my gf of 8 years i was really close to a female friend. Looking back (perhaps through rose tinted glasses) i can remember times when things got a little heated, such as the time she came out the shower with nothing on, knowing full ...
A. 1 March 2007: I think its just lust,its a question unansewed (WHAT IF).
You need to carry on in this lovely relationship you are in now, you are loved and you love her. This friend you talked about knows you are a lesbian and I think she was teasing you and that... (read in full...)
I have a girlfriend but I've met someone else. What's the best way to tell her?
Q. ok i have a girlfriend that goes to school in flordia and i think she's in love with me but i found someone else that i really really like and i dont know wat to do how should i break up with my current gf i want to do it over the phone cause i ...
A. 27 February 2007: Well it is better to do it face to face but seems daft to travel all that way,so if you do it over the phone, dont be nasty about it and tell her that she has done nothing wrong,its just that you are not really into this relationship like you should ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wears the pants! How do I get the pants back?
Q. My girlfriend wears the pants. How do I get my pants back?!? I feel this problem stems from her making alot more money than I do. It isn't really possible for me to make more money because I am at uni full-time and she isn't, so I don't have the t...
A. 27 February 2007: Its quite simple,tell her how she is making you feel, no one needs to be the dominant one here,like you said it would work out fine if it was 50 50 so just tell her how you feel.
She just needs to be brought down a peg or two, just because she is b... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is really sweet buthe lies all the time. What should I do?
Q. I love my bf a whole lot, we have been together for two years. He used to be the sweetest thing ever, but know he lies, all the time, and he's started being really rude and mean to me. What should i do??????????? Please help...
A. 27 February 2007: Tell him you love him but if he doesnt buck his ideas up, you dont think this relationship will last much longer. Just because you love him doesnt give him the right to hurt you like this. You are a person with feelings too my love so dont be a door ... (read in full...)
Hes been divorced for 10 years but still seems to be obssesed with his ex!!
Q. How would you view a man who has been divorced for about 10 years, whose ex-wife calls him about 3 times a day (keep in mind their kids are all mid-late teens so they can call him themselves). He constantly complains and speaks of her even though ...
A. 27 February 2007: Who was it that broke the relationship? Maybe he just simply still loves her,he may not be in love with her but still cares for her well being. He may do it so his kids even though they are older,dont see him as a nasty dad?
There are so many reas... (read in full...)
My girlfriends relationship with her mum really annoys me, its so childish!!!
Q. I really hate my girlfriend and her mums relationship with one another. They are far too close and irritating. Whenever Im round my gfs house I get uncomftable when her mum comes in because they are giggling and jokey and try and embarass me. ...
A. 27 February 2007: You cant stop the way they are with eachother,if you do she may end up resenting you for it. Maybe drop a hint by saying you feel a bit silly just sat there,and that you come to spend time with her and not to sit there watching the 2 of them.
F... (read in full...)
I don't know if he wants to get to know me or if he's actually just after one thing!
Q. I am looking for a relationship. Not a serious one just a relationship involving 2 people who are comitted to each other and have fun. I am currently getting to know this boy, but i am not sure of his intentions. He has just come out of a 2 year ...
A. 27 February 2007: Well the only thing to do is go out and see for your self. If he does try it on,just tell him you would like to get to know him better first. Ask him what he wants out of your relationship and tell him what you want,see how it goes flower.
Dont just... (read in full...)
I'm 15! He's 18! Does he like me or want to have sex with me?
Q. write where to start , iv liked this boy well he is 18 now and im 15 anyway iv liked him for like years but he never really payed attention he new i liked him all this time, and only now i started ringing him and talking to him he was acting like he ...
A. 27 February 2007: It seems like he is after sex sweety,fair enough he asked your mum if he could ring you and that is nice but this may just be a plot so you think he is lovely,then will sleep with him.
Its proof enough that he doesnt want his mates to find out, but ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin but how do I trust a girl and have a proper relationship with her?
Q. I would only trust a girl if she surrenders herself to me physically. I will be one of the nicest guy for her if she does that. Otherwise, i am not interested. Not many girls would be able to get this thing about me and would think of me as wanting ...
A. 27 February 2007: Fair enough life is what you make it,but this idea you have about this perfect "WOMAN" just may not exist flower. You need to get out there and meet someone whom you like and get to know them. I think that once you do this, you will know whan the ... (read in full...)
Since the ring on my finger I feel that that I am constantly judged!
Q. Recently the relationship im in took a turning point were we gave each other engagement rings as the relationship has been a very happy one and i thought we understood each other.Since then i have had all my negative points brought up,The fact that ...
A. 27 February 2007: Well you need to tell your partner that you dont like how they are being towards you and just because you are engaged it doesnt mean they own you.
I here a lot of stories like this and do really feel for you. Just say "how would you like it if I tu... (read in full...)
I found out the beginning of our relationship wasn't what I thought. How do I move on from this?
Q. I'm 20 and I've been going out with my girlfriend for almost 2 years. We've been living together for 9 months. Last week we were both talking about previous relationships and flings when we got on the subject of the last person we'd slept with ...
A. 27 February 2007: I do understand how you are feeling,but you are right it is the past and she is with you.
Maybe if she got intouch they could have slept together but it didnt happen. You cant keep thinking what if? otherwise you will end up hating eachother my love... (read in full...)
For the agony AUNTS - I like this girl but do you think she'll be put off by a little acne?
Q. Question for the girls: Do you care if a guy has a little bit of acne? I mean if a person always has a few pimples and when they go away briefly it looks like the skin is not smooth but a bit rough? Is it really the person's personality that...
A. 27 February 2007: No it doesnt matter,well I wouldnt think it would. there are people out there who are vain,but not everyone is the same love.
If they do judge you then I would think"stuff them" you will find the right person sweety,if not now then someday. xxxx... (read in full...)
Would you kiss a girl or man who does oral sex in her/his past? a question for male and female.
Q. open question would you kiss a girl or man who does oral sex in her/his past? a question for male and female....
A. 26 February 2007: Yes, why not. Thats saying they have brushed there teeth (ha ha)
Loads and loads of people do it all the time and its just a natural way of life,dont worry just go with the flow.
You will be fine flower.xxxxxxxxxxxxxx... (read in full...)
If a woman I like is from work, should I ask her out as a friend first or should I ask her on a date?
Q. If a woman I like is from work, should I ask her out as a friend first or should I ask her on a date? ...
A. 26 February 2007: I would try to get a fiew of you out and ask her to come, then if all goes well then I would ask her if she would like to go for a meal and a drink with you.
The worst that can happen is she says no,and if that happens you havnt really lost anyt... (read in full...)
How can I get rid of my embarrassing problem?
Q. This is so embrassing. When me and my boyfriend sleep together, i always feel im going to fart. so i dont keep it up for long. i dont want to carry on just incase i do....
A. 26 February 2007: Try going to the toilet before you make love,it may be because you are tensing up, dont worry about it flower. Just try not to think about it and enjoy your night. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx... (read in full...)
He told me he was confused about our relationship and wants to hook up with other girls, he apologised later for it but now I can't get it out of my head! Help!
Q. my boyfriend and i have been dating for a year and a half now and for the past 6 months we've been having a long distance relationship, but we've managed to be able to see each other at least once a month. the other day my boyfriend called me and ...
A. 26 February 2007: I can understand that you feel hurt,and if he had done anything I would have told you to run a mile, but at least he spoke to you about it and didnt just go off and do it.
If you do love him you have to try to get over this,if you cant then mayb... (read in full...)
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